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Why Kamie Crawford Left Her Long-Term Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 12 авг 2024
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Breaking up is fun to do! Or at least that's what I told Kamie who recently went through a public breakup that she is turning into a personal break through. Also in this full episode, Amber's Closet shares how she got out of her darkest place from her last breakup to find the love of her life today. New love, new perspectives, same you but better.
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thank you so so much to everyone for watching and to Kamie for making the time to come on my podcast. Listen to our full conversation and the rest of the episode by clicking the link in the info box or find Lovers and Friends wherever you listen to podcasts
Are the full video interviews available somewhere or is the full version audio only?
Definitely would prefer a visual podcast
She's mentioned before that it's part of her contract to be audio only at the moment
CURED MY HSV2 #DRIDOWU
shes mids tho. shes a solid 6 if she wasnt who she is.
Such a good episode! I’ve just ended an 8 year relationship and if I’m being completely honest, I knew it needed to end after the first year or two. Falling in love with a person’s potential and not the reality of their character is a rough one. So much relatable content here Shan 💕
You've got this ladies! Once we set ourselves free, we will get where we need to be!
Georgia, if you don’t mind sharing, how did you realize that it needed to end by the first year or two. Of course, every relationship is different, but I would to hear your insight and your experience! 🥰
Thank you for sharing.
Love this... we all have been there... hopefully your next one is your last and it's all love.. and openness.. and emotionally and mentally supportive.. much respect
Wooh 6 plus years with someone I didn’t really want 😩 and not married… glad you ended it!
Everything Kami said is what I'm going through right now. I was in a 7 year relationship that I ended 5 months ago and it was the WORST experience of my life ( my first break up at 29 years old ) I genuinely think I experienced depression for the first time, heart break is probably one of the worse feelings a person can experience. You actually don't realize how intertwined your life is with someone till you leave and the attachment is NO JOKE.
It really hit me when she spoke about not being able to be her feminine self, I literally felt like a rehabilitation centre and a mom to a grown man, I was always nurturing, supporting, encouraging, lifting up, providing and helping. I then realized I'm making this guy a better man pouring into someone that isn't pouring into me at all.
Also whenever I would bring up an issue on how I'm feeling I would get shut down instantly and told I'm starting an argument when I was just expressing my basic needs !
The constant arguing was also taking a toll on both of us, I just couldn't take it anymore.
The resentment then started to build unfortunately and I became very cold , distant and snappy, which is the complete opposite to my personality. I truly lost myself.
I then had a light bulb moment the beginning of this year when I realized my life was more peaceful without his presence and that I deserve to be filled the same way I pour ; I knew it was over for me. I stayed way longer than I should and I beat myself up for it constantly.
I later found out the day I ended the relationship he was in another relationship 4 days after and this girl now gets everything I worked HARD on and begged him for. I have to stay in prayer not to let bitterness fill my heart.
Ladies know what you deserve and don't stay longer than you need to cause it causes way more damage than good. X
FACTS!!!!!!!
I can definitely relate. I’m so sorry you went through this. I went through this very recently except my husband cheated on me and shortly after I found out, he passed away. Very painful
@@besidesbeauty6218 Absolutely heart breaking. I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm praying the lord blesses and keeps you and gives you comfort during this difficult time. ❤️
@@Claudia-yc8xk thank you 🙏🏾
I can definitely relate.
This is why I have commitment issues. I love being alone, I actually enjoy being single. But I’m a hopeless romantic. I fall hard for people I actually like. And I get lonely, and I feel like if love comes, I’d embrace it. But it sometimes freaks me out too. The thought of committing to someone with no safety net. And then to know, if it doesn’t work out, your time was wasted. You can suffer a heartbreak. Your life shifts. It’s so scary, all of it. This was very deep.
When she mentioned how the breakup made her feel like she was losing her mind….wow, I felt so seen. The experience of loss and the things you are reflexively inclined to do to prevent or diminish that loss…I mean, words just can’t describe the feeling. I was so unprepared for the gravity of it all
Being with someone for their potential is the wrong place anyone could be. That comes with enormous regret and toxicity.
sheesh
I left a 10 year relationship where we had planned our lives together, had baby names, shared accounts etc. Our lives were merged. And it does feel like everything you know is being taken away. But eventually you recognize the gift of realizing its not right for you and the possibility of what’s to come. It eventually gets exciting but at first it feels like mourning the loss of someone. I’m still single 6 years later and don’t regret my decision. I get giddy when I think about this amazing man that God has for me. And it’s so fun to imagine. It gets brighter when you trust God.
You’re going to feel the same way with the next man you get into a relationship with lol. Relationships take work and have their ups and downs . There’s no hollywood fantasy relationship waiting for you.
@@MT-si3bu thanks for your assumption. No one is seeking a fantasy. But we are seeking whole men who have done the conscious work to heal from their traumas in order to become decent enough humans to spend a life time with.
Lol you’re never going to find what you’re looking for but good luck. Just don’t settle for a thug later
@@MT-si3bu sorry that happened to you love. God bless.
@@LindsayAmelia 💖💖💖💖
I get EXACTLY what Kamie is talking about with the having to take the driver seat ALL THE TIME. I've had relationships that were okay, but it was like I had to be the one steering and moving us along and moving us forward and the guy was just... there. It feels like you're pulling a dead body behind you, pulling someone to a place they may or may not even want to go. And I'm very big on letting people do as they will, but we are in the relationship and respect it. I don't want to ever feel I'm leading someone to something. I want to feel more equality there. I'll lead you a bit, you lead me a bit, sometimes we're walking side by side, but I never want it to be me dragging someone along. I feel like that kills a relationship on either side. One person leading too much will make them resentful. Someone being pulled too much will feel resentful. There really does have to be a balance and a feeling both of you (or all of you for a poly relationship) want to keep moving towards whatever relationship goals you have. And I don't think we talk about that much.
Passive men specifically look for a woman that will do everything
When she said that she thought she would need to be hospitalized I really felt that. I went through the exact same thing…it’s crazy what a heartbreak can do. I had to start taking antidepressants because of it!
Yes this is how I felt when i ended things with my first "love." I never saw anyone else have a hard time with a break up like I did. I wish I was born in the GenZ era they have so much access to things that can help them along in life. Seeing this helps me understand I was not alone but at the time it felt like I was.
Yes! I thought I was the only one that fell into a depression after a breakup. Never knew I was even capable of going into depression. I pray that we all heal from whatever we are going through and find true happiness within ourselves and with others🙏🏻♥️
I needed anti depressants in my last relationship to. Left the relationship lost the weight, lost my addictions etc
It's crazy how my story mirrors Kamie's story - me making the first move then putting in all the work. I became more in love of the idea of who he was in the beginning of the relationship, the work I put in, and what our future could be instead of who he was in the present, the issues in the relationship and where we were truly headed. So after 10 years (married for 4) the relationship ended. It was hard but worth it. Looking forward to the podcast!
This is me! Currently going through the divorce process
@@Thrivewithabi sending you positivity and healing. Still in the process also.. Its tough. You really don't kno someone until you divorce them.. Remember to show yourself the love and compassion you need.
Book recommendation: Radical Awakening by Dr shefali. Been really helpful.
@@cocobelle22 thank you for your kind words. I know better things lie ahead of us and we shall rise up from this better and stronger sending you lots of hugs ♥️♥️♥️
@@cocobelle22 thank you queen ♥️♥️♥️♥️
8 years? Damn
This reminds me so much of my long-term relationship in my 20s. Dated a friend who became a lover after 3+ yrs, he wanted marriage from the beginning and I didn't, not with him. He did all the right things but just didn't know how to lead and that is a trait I crave well actually I seek in my partner. Our worlds intertwined so much so that we lost ourselves in each other. We experienced highs and lows of each others lives. When friends and relatives would comment about marriage dates, I felf so suffocated. The simple thought of being with someone for the rest of my life that couldn't lead made me sick. Ended it after deciding to attend school out of state, it was the most painful yet freeing and peaceful I ever felt in my life. Thank God for that lesson and I genuinely wish him well.
I just got out of a 4 year long relationship and I literally feel everything Kamie is saying! Like girl, just put everything I feel into words then!
Wanting to stay in a relationship that isn't working anymore, because you already invested so much time and effort in someone is a real self-sabotage pattern! Been victim to it before and it's hard to get out of, especially as you don't want to start all over again and you see the potential. I love that she took herself out of the situation. And also that she saw that she couldn't be her feminine self in this relationship. She was changing in a way she didn't like and chose for herself by leaving.
I stayed in a relationship for six and a half years with someone trying to get back to where we were n who he used to be. It destroyed me n has taken years to get back to me after we broke up. I loved him to death n will always love him but he took a lot out of me by not being more of the man taking control in the relationship. I'm a dominant person naturally, but I was sick of him saying he needed me to do things first in order for him to then take the reins, like wtf. No, u plan something, u follow through on shit u said u'd do. I was depressed for about the same length of time I was in that relationship, even though I have had a couple of relationships since him. I realized as well that I need acts of service instead of just being told I love u all the time. Don't just talk about it, be about it!!
They will string us along until we hang our selfs been their it does get better 😵💫
What kind of dominant woman are you? There is a dominant woman who is only so waiting for the partner that will allow her to let go, and there is the one who cannot stop herself at all from being dominant.
Women are hypergamous by nature, a woman can never truly love a man, once a mans status starts to decline, she will be starting to look elsewhere, even if she does not leave straight away.
@@rjflores438 by that logic every man is rich, which we know isn’t true!So many women have stayed and held the man down for years with no change. A lot of men get to the top and leave the girl who was there for them.
@@daniella8400 If a girl gets to the top in terms of status, fame, career, money etc, she is probably way more likely to leave than the guy is.
As someone who spent 14 years in a relationship, the last 3 of which were extremely toxic, Shan's analogy of the Casino slot machine syndrome really spoke to me. I was so apprehensive about walking away because I kept thinking if I left he wouldn't be around to do all the things he did that made me fall in love with him. It took a while to dawn on me that even when I kept him around, he no longer did those things.....I appreciated this segment and hope both Shan and her beautiful guest can talk more about recovering and getting past this phase and getting back out there. I wish I could muster up the courage to be excited about it like Shan was saying, but most times all I see is dred.
You been talking to the black MTV reality girls lately and I love it
Wow so many women go through this in there relationships. This was definitely me during my marriage. I didn’t feel protected physically or financially and felt like I had to take on those responsibilities which made me feel like a had to lead the relationship smh and obviously I wasn’t able to be the “soft feminine women”
This was such a good episode for me. It really resonated and I feel like I got some clarity that I needed for myself. Thank you for this! Keep killing it boo!
Adulthood is scary. Like things could do a 180 at any moment 😭
Thank you for this video! I can relate to a lot of what you ladies talked about. Breakups are tough!!! We have to make sure we give ourselves grace and time for healing. Much appreciation to you, Shan!
As someone that brought a book from Megan Good and Devon Franklin, I wish they both would speak on what happened. When you open your relationship to the public for money 💰 you should be able to explain why it didn't work to the public
the fact that they wrote the book and commodified the relationship from jump probably has a lot to do with it...
You actually don't have to do anything..
Yea. It's fucked up bc I'm sure the majority of the world feels like they need answers but people "humans" are going to move how humans move and choices are made daily. Who are we as outsiders in that relationship to expect an explanation?
Well he recently went on a talk show and explicitly talked about a list of things he compromised on when it came to her. It honestly seems like he wanted her to do all of this changing when it came to being his wife. He wanted her to cook daily but most working famous women don’t cook that much. They have the money and resources not to so it makes zero sense to me. During the lockdown she was trying to cook and her face looked miserable. Anyways, I think they could’ve saved the marriage if they threw out all expectations and embraced each other for who and what they are.
@@TheRealElise These outdated gender-roles and those still trying to "make them happen" will be the death of us all
To be honest, I feel like people want answers, because they’re nosey lol. They have gotten so much backlash already from being Christians getting a divorce, why would they open their divorce to the world when culture hasn’t provided a safe space? The divorce JUST happened. They are human, give them time to grieve. There are many books & podcast on relationships and breakups, they are not obligated to do anything.
I love Kamie.
perfect timingg, I just got dumped but now I am starting to acknowledge my flaws and figuring out ways to do better. Hopefully the changes I make will benefit my future relationships.
Amen to that
Very powerful!
Hey, just saw your comment and the word: 'flawed' caught my attention. Your flaws are 'green flags' to another person. Don't change too much.
@@someonespecial581 thank you i appreciate it, the main thing i’m changing is the way i talk to my significant other. I would get mad and say mean things. It happened in past relationships but i never put in effort to think before i spoke or used my words without yelling
@@saysayaa Awesome. I wish you the very best
This is def my story. I just had to separate myself from a person who I was with for almost 8 years and I was drained because I felt like I did so much. Now I feel so relieved
8 years is too long a time to date if you are an adult
@@someonespecial581 That’s true. I just ended a 7 year (almost 8) relationship as well. One of the worst situations I ever had to experience
@@v.g7279 Love and light
So much of what she was saying resonated with me, down to the top two love languages (those are mine too which is probably why I relate to those needs she described). I just had a breakup (or "breakup"?) from a lonnnngggterm situationship and *sigh*... Even when you know things are right for you, they can still suck. Hearing convos like this really helps.
Breakups are hard but the fresh starts they're paired with are worth it. I at least gotta believe that 😭
This came at a perfect time. Nice to know this pain is that I'm not the only one going through it.
Kamie is so down to earth, it seems, and she also seems confident in who she is and what she wants.
I love Kamie’s work, it meant a lot for her to open up & be vulnerable about her breakup!
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Love these conversations.
Great conversation! Experiences that really need to be heard.
The visual edit of this video was distracting though, a little confusing.
I'm naturally a dominant person, I get things done and on time.
But I told myself in a relationship there is where I get my rest, that is where I allow myself to be led and to be feminine. Iv learnt to follow a mans pace because if I over take him, that will kill his love for me. He will start expecting me to do more as well.
Sometimes its challenging but I don't do it. I allow him to lead, if he dont lead we would rather be stuck in one place than have me move the relationship
THIS!!
It a man has you stuck in one place, his not a good leader.
Mine was 5 years. 02/14/15. Our lives merged. Highschool sweetheart, became a army wife when we graduated, both of our in laws passed (my daddy, her mom) yet alone an reminder on Valentines every year. You have to unlearn everything you knew and relearn yourself and whats best for you….
I’m definitely going through the slot machine syndrome. I’ve been in my relationship for 17 years now and I’m not married. It’s hard because he’s experienced other thing and other relationships during this time and I’ve been stuck here trying to make this work since I was 14! And I feel stuck it’s sad to go through but it’s great seeing others move and be happy!
You’re 31? Girl RUN ‼️
Shan!!!! I would be really interested to hear a conversation on closure in previous relationships with someone that you know that you don't want to be with/that its misaligned but still feel a need to communicate about all the things that you still have unanswered questions or feelings about just to finally close the chapter with someone you had a serious connection with!
I might need to get some of Jared's music😊 On another note, this was amazing Shan...Kamie is amazing for stepping forward in the knowledge. The relationship wasn't failure, it was a success. She learned, we are all learning. Thx Shan😊
Just listened to the entire pod episode, and I swear I feel like all of my emotions and present experience has been hacked from everyone featured; so much so I’ve been fighting tears from start to finish. It’s so hard to see the other side of the rainbow when all you want is that person to be right there waiting for you. This came right on time; I feel like I need to take notes but I’d be writing a literal transcript 🙃. - update: I’m def taking notes 😂
The "casino slot machine" analogy is on point.
If this particular segment did not touch my soul! So well said definitely evaluating
Kamie thanks for opening up and sharing your story your fans love ❤️ you keep your head up Kam
Thank you for sharing your/her story without any Shame or reservation. I can say I too stayed for a vision I thought we could be and it's just not working 🤷🏾♀️
Oh, we have a daughter...I won't start with my childhood trauma I've had to work through to accept that relationship is not working
@6:00 TRUTH.
I was dating this guy recently who triggered me so much because he’s very aloof, had a LOT of boundaries (which I really think some were just to have power over me), would be in moods but never explain them or tell me how he was feeling.
Then he got mad at me for saying he triggered me and I didn’t think we were compatible. In his mind it’s like “work on your triggers” but it’s like no that’s not how this works. I have dated plenty of people who didn’t trigger me and make me super anxious like him, and I was still aware of my flaws and wounds to work through. I don’t want to be with someone who makes me feel constantly anxious, even if there’s some good times.
Just went through this myself
@@indiadelon8771 same
@@v.g7279 🥺 I hope you're okay. It is torture
@@indiadelon8771 it is torture! 🥹 I really hope you’re okay too seriously girl we can get through this ❤️ I feel so alone but I know I’m better off ..
@@v.g7279 yes we've got this! We are strong!
Whew chile! When she said she tends to see the potential in who the person used to be...hand raised, guilty as charged! This is totally me. Great interview
this is so real I needed this!!
Shannon, I just want to say that I am incredibly grateful for your existence. I say this with tears in my eyes, because so many of your videos; with their transparency, openness, and honesty, really got me through some tough romantic situations.
And I say this as honest as possible, I really do not know where my mental space would be if I hadn’t put time aside to watch your informative conversations.
I am so grateful for you and every video that you’ve published.
THANK YOU!
Kamie is so easy to listen to 🥰
That Driving analogy!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
My whole spirit felt that!
I really love this podcast 😍
It's not always that we believe something is not right, it's that we're learning to accept the other person's differences and learning to live with it by keeping it going.
Are we truly accepting that persons differences? When we see “potential” in our partner, and we try to work or wait for that “potential” to happen. Is that truly accepting that difference or just holding on until we see that change?
I just moved away. Haven’t looked back. Cried for a few months, but I had my sister ❤️ I t was for the best. I’m for better in every aspect of my life.
Damn I'm going through a breakup and this resonates so much with me.
Ugh I understand this all too well. Im in a very similar place. Sending good vibes to Kamie.
Just went through a breakup, I feel horrible right now. Glad I came across this..
Love this discussion. So much more productive than the relationship advice floating around the internet rn lol
This is an example of why you shouldn’t be with a man for years and years without a ring 💍👰🏽🤵🏽♂️. Ladies do not waste your youth and beauty on a man who won’t commit to you…Especially if you’re over 30 and do want marriage. 💎Youth and beauty is currency and you are single until married💎
So, you can take half his stuff, 🤔. Marriage doesn’t benefit men, and we collectively are shunning that unfair institution.
@@Rahsaun77 actually statics it say just the opposite men actually benefit the most and live longer more happy fulfilling lives when married women actually statically die sooner and are more likely to be unhappy when married than single and it’s men dying alone in nursing homes not women😌 I’m a married woman but guys like u are the pits.
If you're single until married so is he. So sleeping with other women would technically be okay since he's single.
Definitely would have loved to see the interview all the way through
Chileee I needed this so much
I stayed 3 decades seeing such Potential. Mostly because my dad was so Awesome. Big Mistake…I didn’t know what a …..L I A R …looked liked bc Dad kept it Honest and Genuine.
just left a 6 year relationship with an amazing person but I also felt like I was always making the decisions and he’d always ask for my opinions on things. I felt like I just wanted him to take charge sometimes and let me take a break. I miss him so much and he’s an amazing man but it was exhausting.
I saw Jamie’s name on Shan’s channel and instantly clicked. I love her on Catfish!! 💛🙌🏾
This was a good podcast Im going through this now a separation feel like I’m going crazy depressed with a 1 year old sad mad at the fact that after 5 years of marriage my life isn’t how I imagined and the thought of someone else coming in picking up the pieces ect he we both grew apart I feel I grew after the baby I feel he wasn’t leading me as my husband
From the thumbnail I thought she was Arnell. Great video as always👍🏾
i think its easier to talk openly about letting go when you are younger but when you get into your 50 plus its harder. The fear of being alone at 50 plus is scary so you tend to hold on tighter. I am fighting right now to keep the magical moment when we started out. I am holding on longer because i though this was my forever and i didn't have to go hunting again. He broker down so many barriers that i had up and now the idea of starting over again gives me anxieties and sleepless night.. At 53 i just cant .. Pandemic has had an affect on him mentally so i am empathetic on that level. because i love him too much and i dont think its the right time to walk away even though he is not doing anything to keep the relationship active, i dont want to pressure him right now so i am keeping my feelings bottled up until the right time.. in his case medically, only God knows when the right time is, i just wish he was making some effort.. I really dont want to start over.. I am tired of always the one burning the candle at both ends
Shan, do you have a forum where I can watch the entire podcast? It’s hard for me to pay attention without visual stimuli. I’m dying to see full episodes!!
I am She. And she is ME! I felt every word that came out of her mouth, wow!
I'm going through the same. ❤️🩹
Wow. This is so refreshing 🤍
Absolutely amazing
I needed this, going through a break-up.
Great sound quality! What mics / sound equip are you using ? I’d appreciate the link ! Thx!:)
This is so common. I have always felt I had to be masculine in my marriage . . . its been 27 years and I'm tired.
(This is going to be long but good) I can't deny at all that this is the best episode in my opinion by far... transparency.. honesty.. vulnerability.. raw.. her accountability but also understanding his flaws.. i mean damn lol.. and she is attractive as well on top of emotionally intelligent 😍😍😍 (ignore that part lol I'm attracted to some women as well) but anyways back on topic 😆😇.. i adore the conversation and you can tell it was painful.. because she not only invested but you can tell she genuinely loved this man from her soul but she was tired of giving so much of herself.. and needed support.. emotional and mental support and not just from a money aspect.. she was exhausted even spiritually you can tell.. because we as women can give so much sometimes it can change us and build resentment not meaning to.. i have definitely been here before... my partner and i talked about kids.. we were going to get married.. i did everything.. like tried my hardest ever in this relationship.. i definitely wanted to keep it but it was so many red flags.. and i don't know why I ignored them.. possibly great sex maybe? I don't know.. but me and my partner definitely had great you know lol.. which can overshadow somethings but eventually it was becoming too much on my soul.. and i needed to end it.. definitely like she said this almost took me out.. it was beyond painful.. the worst pain i ever felt in my life.. but i had to find me again because somewhere i lost me.. it got wrapped up into a relationship and that's not bad necessarily but damn lol.. i have my moments because it wasn't that long ago but i had to remind myself why i needed to do it.. also i love the way she tries to explain without bashing him.. very commendable..
Wow I feel this , some guys def seek out women who will ‘take the reigns’ so they get a lifelong break.
yup this was too short lol going to sign up to your podcast now
So good!
Can you post the full video/podcast on YT? I like to watch/listen at the same time
Im so happy !! I love Kamie 😭♥️♥️♥️
Ridiculously relatable
Love Kamie and Amber!
Kamie is such a beautiful, beautiful person inside and out 💕
100% relate to this.
Ladies you have said it all, no matter the AGE
Damn I need to go back to therapy and probably need a new therapist also 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ it's so hard living in Kansas and wanting a black woman as a therapist. They are true unicorns.
Maybe find one online? Do zoom calls?
Hi. BetterHelp may be able to offer you a Therapist, if you are open to virtual session. Best of luck.
Was she married to him?
I think as women we often stay in long term relationships because we want to see the future with them as its on our life path but they have shown that they don't align. We hope they will 'catch up' and then change our goals to suit THEIR needs.
I have seen so many women wait 8 years for marriage...girl its not going to happen. If you want that, then you need to leave.
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Whew 😭
I can relate to Kamie’s story so much!!!!
Hey Shan. What does "We love each other and we will always love each other" mean exactly when people say that about their exes???
For instance....When we finally meet that someone new that we have a real vibe with and we are discussing our past relationships to get an idea of what happened and to see if they are truly over that person or not and the woman (or) man says "well yeah, i've healed from my past relationship and we still love each other and will always love each other."
What do you think that person will think or feel after hearing that?
🙋🏾♀️…I’m not Shan but wanted to answer….
I think there’s different levels to love. You can love someone but that doesn’t have to translate into a romantic love. It’s not the same type of love that you have for your current partner. You wouldn’t drop everything to help that ex. There’s a history and a mutual respect and understanding that’s it. The two of you shared a past in which you at one point was In Love but that love has changed where you’ll always have love for that person but you are no longer In Love with that person.
That’s just my perspective, I hope Shan responds.
@@lululove887 Yes I understand what you are saying in regard to the levels. The word Love is just a powerful word and is ridiculously misinterpreted throughout society because everyone has their own special and unique meaning of it due to their own joyful and traumatic experiences. How would you feel if your new man tells you that he still loves his ex and will always love her? Would you be good with him telling you that or would it raise an eyebrow? Just curious
I believe she means that a part of her will always love him . A part of me will always love my ex but that doesn’t mean that we will get back together or I’m in love with him . It just means that he was a part of my life and we shared something special and that old part of me like my younger self will always have love for him. It’s just acknowledging that you shared yourself with this person and just because you’re not together , that doesn’t that the move will diminish completely because it doesn’t
@@carofantastic Is it appropriate to tell your new partner or lover in your life that you still love your ex and will always love your ex, if a conversation like that comes up?? or is it best to keep things like that to yourself, based on how it may be perceived by your new partner? For instance ...... let's say the new person you are dating asks you if you still have feelings of any sort for your ex? would you say "Well, I still love him/her and will always love him/her" or would you answer differently just so its not misinterpreted or taken out of context?? Because I don't know any woman that ever wants to hear that their man or someone they are dating or interested in, still loves their ex and will always love her at any capacity.
@@jaydubb2005 I wanted to jump in and answer here. I think it depends on the maturity of the people involved. I love you doesn't mean I want to be around you. And when we understand that love is a choice not necessarily a feeling I think it puts things into perspectives for us. For me I understood love based on the biblical meaning and what God meant it to be for us. So I will let people that I have a had a toxic relationship with I love you, it doesn't mean I want to be with you or I have feelings for you, I am just choosing to see you for who you are and allow you be who you are meant to be without feeling the need to be a part of that. I hope this makes sense.
I love Kamie so much she is everything 🥰🥰🥰
The honesty ❤️🥰
Where is the conversation with Amber ?
Relatable “I stayed way too long.”
I love the podcast so much
Good one!
Is it just me that is having the thought that you will hardly ever find two individuals on the same level. So, if that thought is true, where does compromise come in, because in relationships you have to give and take. Can someone shed some clarity. Thanks!
I am late to the party, but I think Kamie will realize that this is role we women have to play. You were driving what you wanted doesnt mean he had to jump on that bandwagon. He was working to build wealth for what you BOTH wanted for your futures. I get having someone there to take the reigns if push came to shove is reassuring but as you grown in that relationship, you learn to compliment what the other lacks. For instance, I thought my husband wasnt ambitious enough for me. I thought he was lazy and being a mother of 6 AND in the military, I wanted him to take the reigns so I could breath sometimes. Had I not allowed God to soften my heart, I wouldve never understood what my hubbs was trying to teach ME: I dont have to do the most to BE the most!! Once I learned that, our relationship deepened and my priorities changed. After 22 years of marriage, I am so GLAD I didnt let others or myself influence me to let go of him in search of something stronger, better. No, I didn't settle. I just reprioritized what was truly important in my life.
What is the lovers and friends theme song called I love that song
I always use that driving analogy.
This was also the exact issue i had with my ex. I badly wanted for things to get back to how they were and i ended up wasting a whole year of my life stuck on him. Never again
Happy this came up on my timeline. Yall pray for me pls I'm having a hard time letting go. Thanks an Advance.
I remember seeing him on a couple episodes of catfish when it was lockdown
Is there anyway to watch the episode or only listen to it?
Can you please post the full video for these? I’m tired of the small snippets lol.
Agreed!! Please 😩
The link is in the description for the podcast
Right she hella greedy making off RUclips clicks then also whatever she gets from podcast hits
Kamie is speaking facts!