I Had a One-Night Stand With My Wife’s Stepmom
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If i was her dad, he wouldn’t be here to tell the story. He touched his wife and broke his little girl’s heart all in one.
…because the step mom is completely innocent.🙄
@@MandiArt she’ll get her share, but based on the caller, he pursued her.
@@arclarie true. I just think it’s different when we’re talking about a grown woman, and a young man. Both are wrong, but we know her top didn’t just fall off. She did the perusing as well.
@@MandiArtno body said that.
Lmaooo you blame him over the wife?
The way he said " my wife went downstairs with the kids and all that good stuff or whatever"...that man had absolutely no appreciation for the wife.
He mentioned that his wife had previous trauma as a result of her stepmom's actions. So instead of standing in his wife's corner, he sleeps with the Stepmom. How could you sleep with her stepmother knowing she had such an atrocious character? What is wrong with this man?
Good chance the past trauma with the stepmom had to do with that trash woman sleeping with other boyfriends.
Ugh, and how could her stepmother do that? If I had a stepdaughter.... What a horrible betrayal.
Her stepmother is terrible. She now knows that her husband cares less about her best interests. Therefore, why is she still married to a weak excuse of a man who cheats with her stepmother. I feel bad for her being surrounded by toxic people who put her last. She should expect safety, dignity and respect from her husband at bare minimum. Being betrayed is one thing. However, staying around people of that caliber… that’s for her to decide, not her husband or her stepmother.
@@standground7956Yes let’s blame the only victim in this matter lol you’re hilarious.
Also, I don’t think you know how trauma bonds work.
Because BOOBS. Blood flow to the frontal cortex stops when guys see them.
Bruh, cheating on someone who is financially dependent on you is a particularly vile form of abuse
She can go to a family court.
@@ouwebrood497 ok?
@@ouwebrood497what what money? Attorneys charge a retainer fee before they take your case
@@ouwebrood497 of course she can and likely will and most judges will give her something, but how she will even pay for her lawyer? She might get alimony, but hey - it will not fully support her and her child. She has a small child and probably not much of work experience, because she gave birth at 18 and sacrificed building her own career and getting education in trust that he is going to be the main breadwinner for at least couple of years.
@@ouwebrood497
Oh yes, that'll fix it.
You've just made her life and options, so much better.
🙄
Anybody else curious as to what's happening to the poor wife's dad & stepmom's marriage? These 2 blew EVERYBODY'S life up.
I am!! I wish John had asked about that cause it must be a bomb going off in that household.
@@wordsalad01 Wait, if her dad is just as trash as her husband (the man she chose to marry), why hasn’t she divorced her husband?
Seems likes she enjoys being surrounded by pathetic men.
YES, I am
@@wordsalad01 You make so many crazy assumptions and reaches... For all we know dad might have gotten with the Stepmum when the daughter was already an adult or almost an adult - it kinda seems like that judging from the fact that her kids are children that play with her 5yo child. Also, he says they "hooked up" because her top fell of while she was drunkenly sleeping on the couch. If she was so drunk that she fell asleep nobody should have had touched her - even her own husband. That is not a time when a person is able to give consent. We shouldn't be comfortable judging her character from how he told the story. We don't know her side and how she feels about it. We know that they didn't have sex so we don't know if he was the one who stopped himself or if she was the one that pushed him away. Especially, we should not be comfortable judging Stepmums husbands (dads) character, because of she did whatever she did. And I doubt the way she treated her stepdaughter previous to that event was horrible if their kids were playing together and they were drinking and spending afternoons like that. From the dads perspective if they are acting like friends and hanging out from their own initiative - how he would be able to predict that. I'm not trying to protect anyone, I don't know those people or their stories. I just want to point out that we know of just one terrible day from their life and only from one perspective. The last people we should judge is the wife and her dad.
@@ola1532 "I doubt the way she treated her stepdaughter previous to that event was horrible if their kids were playing together and they were drinking and spending afternoons like that" You shouldn't feel so comfortable making these kind of crazy assumptions/reaches. How hypocritical of you.
Instant divorce. I would just leave and never let him talk to me again. The divorce would be handled by a lawyer.
She literally can’t. That was the point. She has no high school diploma, no job experience, a mom, etc etc. That’s why John said he needs to step back and provide for her until she can get on her feet. This woman is effectively trapped with him because leaving is homelessness and no food etc etc with a child
Yeah this is one of the few cases I would 100% be all for alimony along with child support.
@@KylaAdams14She can’t even go back to her parents house either 😢 I feel so sorry for her.
100%
@@KylaAdams14at least this happened now while she's young. A lot of SAHMs get trapped in their 40s.
Caller: I’m taking accountability ..
Also caller: Her top just fell off 👀
"I just fell in."
Right?! He should have told her to cut the crap and get dressed and leave. Then he should have told his wife and that would have been the right thing to do. Not blame alcohol for his choice to betray his family.
Why can’t step mom use an alarm to wake up for work instead of her 22 year old son in law?
"im working on forgiving myself "
Where is this? Where is his dad? Does his dad know? I mean, I don’t know.
Everybody....if you feel down in your life...just remember, that ATLEAST YOURE NOT THIS GUY.
😂
FOR SURE 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Many people ARE this guy
😂 This gave me a good laugh that I needed today. Thank you😭
If you're an unmarried man and you're reading this, know that there is no shame in being a bachelor for your entire life. If you don't think you can keep your pee pee in your pants, then just don't get married.
This is also why being a trad wife is so risky. This woman has no money to kick him out or to escape.
Exactly
This!!!
@@Mmmmkaaay MGTOW
Thank you.
Meh. No reason a trad wife can't get an education, work for a while, save up a nest egg she gives into a parent's (other family member) safe keeping before she even starts looking to get married.
These types of encounters don’t just happens. These two losers have most likely been flirting with each other. He definitely has been lusting over his step mom. He saw his chance and he took it.
I agree. You don't see breast, especially stepmom, and pursue sex. People literally walk naked in the street all the time. Why did he pursued them. That doesn't make any sense. Poor girl.
Exactly totally agree with you.I'm sure if the wife looks back.She probably would point out times when they were flirty or extra touchy and things like that, this doesn't just happen.They were alone and they took the opportunity
The step-mom has no maternal insticts towards her step child. . She has probably been jealous of her stepdaughter since day one. She manipulated that boy, and he was stupid enough to take the bait. Her top fell off, yeah, sure... I am a 45 year old woman. We should know better than to do this to young adults starting off in life! The world is hard enough and will beat them down. There is no need to contribute!
Exactly this was a tease and chase from day one i bet step mom was competing with her daughter all her life
@NeiveVeve exactly. He's at fault but the step mom definitely shares blame.
If he'd come on line and said,"I just did the worst thing in the world. I destroyed two marriages and I deserve to never be forgiven." But he didn't. His whole tone is too light for the subject.
It’s like he didn’t think it was that bad until John hammered it in
It sounded like he was on the brink of laughing after that first few lines.
@tessaoshea5697 In order for a person to do something like this in the first place, they have to truly have an intense lack of character....the drought of which allows them to survive on the other side of the horrible thing they've done and still expect acceptance and grace. So his laid back attitude is on par with that type of person. They aren't going to change either.
I agree but then feel confused after he mentions going to see his pastor right after it happened and getting therapy. His tone and demeanor doesn’t match up with his words at all.
@@pennylane5432 I think he is concerned that he's ruined his life, not that he's hurt his wife. I wouldn't be surprised if his actions were either performative to get her to stay or designed to make his own life/ self worth better
He blew up his whole life and destroyed relationships with wife, daughter, step mother, step dad and all the family. He traumatized and embarrassed her more than she already is.
The step mother is disgraceful, she deserves nothing.
@@alluringbliss4165 yes, she is the devil!
Yes he messed up his marriage but he didn't do this by himself !
Stepmother has responsibility.
They both knew exactly what they were doing. They were cool with it. It's that simple.
@@joanlovelace7338 usually the main blame goes to the woman she is called all kind of names while the guy gets told boys will be boys so it is kind of rare. Both are at fault but he is at fault in his marriage he had a choice not to sleep with her and destroying his kids and ex wife's lives. That is all on him . I'm not gonna sleep with the father of my partner no matter what he does
This man said “I’m trying to forgive myself for sleeping with my wife’s stepmom” I’m weak 😂
Very weak !!
That’s his version of accountability
That's his way of gas lighting his part and choice betraying his wife.
It's Cowardice.
Sooooo repulsive
i was about to defend the 'forgiving myself' part then at the end he said 'i didnt fully sleep with her'
I'm dying ...🤣
"Her top fell off"...
A cat in heat has more self-control.
If the sight of boobs sends him into such a mindless tailspin, I’m worried about his electronics.
😂😂😂 this guy is 🚮
YOURE SO FUNNY
😅😅
I set a nuke off in my house, hey John this is fixable right?
That’s how retarded men are
Drama Queen.
Yeah, but ya gotta "build something completely new". I'm so sick of hearing him say that in every video.
@@alikacerto2280 John does a list of things I don’t like in his videos. He does give good advice so I listen in to help grow my own perspective on things
@@miketheyunggod2534 wait, so banging your wife's step mom is not big drama? 🤔
This POS caller did set off a nuke in his home, and that was exactly his attitude.
Man, I really appreciate my life and my self-control when I read these sort of titles
I feel this. 😅 Had to read the title twice.
Same Alex
No kidding! Yeah my life is not perfect but come on dude. First, don't get wasted, Second, don't be screwing your wife's mom.
Third, what the heck is wrong with the Mom.
@@ronhall5395clearly the woman is living up to the "step" part of the word step mom in this scenario. But bio moms can do this too....unfortunately. Poor chatacter.
calling the ability to not sleep with your wife's mom self control is wild. my people, my people....
In the first 20 seconds Delony was like ITS OVER. Which is the best advice ever.
This is a blessing in disguise that he did this while his wife was still young and can start over …
She can start over at any age. And no self respecting woman would stay with this fool.
@@ghostiiiekun6636 You have NO idea what you are talking about. This type of betrayal can ruin the other person for many, many years...if not for life.
@@ritapearl-im3wv she’s right…big blessing even if it’s painful now.
it’s your choice if you let darkness keep you stuck in life.
Men don't usually want single moms.
The fact that she isn't already gone lets me know what kind of situation this poor woman has grown up with and still lives in....poverty, toxcity, dysfuntion, and poor familial character and values, behaviors, and dynamics . She is pursuing her GED just now so education wasn't prioritized in her family either. She is used to this way of life unfortunately and there is a level or normalization of these behaviors that she has already been programmed to digest as just a part of her culture and environment....so no, she's probably not going anywhere.
@@CrystalM1917 Amazing analysis.👏👏👏 well done💯
I bet the husband/father didn't divorce his wife for screwing his daughters husband either!
@@LKauf279agree for sure!
You have a point, but I hope you're incorrect. What a horrible mess.
Yes you are right about her case and its very sad
What in the trailer trash, hubby getting intimate with wife's stepmom while wife and kids are a few steps away is going on here? This kid has absolutely no self control and has no business being married; and the stepmom is just gross.
This didn't just happen, there was probably flirting and inappropriate interactions between the caller and the stepmom leading up to this; and the stepmoms top falling off was most likely not an accident.
I imagine that they need to cut off contract with the stepmom if this marriage is going to survive.
The step mother has probably torn that girl down forever, and was waiting for the opportunity to do this, too, as a way to destroy her. Sickening.
There is NO coming back from this
At least not for me
F**K THAT
Husbands who betray and follow their basest desires at the expense of their wives and kids isn’t a new twist.
A stepmom who betrays her stepdaughter by engaging in such despicable behavior is a freaking cliché. I’m sure it’s not like it never happened, but damn…that’s some really personal levels of betrayal.
Sad for the whole family…minus the two guilty jerks.
Look, it doesnt matter. That woman could've been stark naked and spread eagled, he still could've said NO.
He should've stood up and said " put some clothes on mom this is embarrassing" and walked away. He chose not to.
Edited for clarity.
@@incisivecommenter5974 💯 agreed!!!
He will never be worthy of trust. No boundaries. And the step mom uses her like a babysitter then does it with her husband.
The father needs to divorce his wife (stepmom). The stepmother and stepson need to go away and marry each other.
“ I didn’t fully sleep with her mom”. Omg! This guy is a huge NO! NOOOOOOOOO!
Im at 12 minutes so far..where did he say that?!
What does that even mean?
Here's his Sign. You cain't fix it.
@@user-hr1ql2fu3f
I understood him explaining that.
As I said, I wouldn't even stay with my partner if she flirted, but I think it does make a difference that they didn't have intercourse and that he told his wife.
Even though my make up is such, that I can't get past any form of infidelity, those specifics could very well matter as they muster through this tough situation and consider how to proceed.
@@kellygosa7438he didn’t ejaculate
Why was it his responsibility to wake up the stepmom who was sleeping in her bikini? This was a setup, and they both wanted it. Zero boundaries zero morals. The aftermath sucks. I hope they learn how not to be dirtbags in the future.
Yep, but there are implications to what you are saying. You are saying there are things like appropriate and inappropriate dress for women. And if you say something like that, then you will be accused of misogyny and trying to control women's bodies.
They lived out the feminist philosophy and got the very predictable results. Women shouldn't be running around in bikinis. Men shouldn't be drinking around women (especially women in bikinis). But, like I said, we are not allowed to have standards.
@@csouthlandlmfao wtf dude at no point did OP blame her for wearing the bikini. Maybe men should be raised be have self control, especially with their alcohol usage. If you get drunk and have a huge risk of cheating, you probably shouldn’t drink. It’s not about the people you’re around, it’s you having good enough values to never stoop this low, even in a sexy drunk situation.
@@csouthlandand women (aka ALL PEOPLE) should have this self control! Absolutely insane you want to put barriers on your ability to control yourself lol.
Yeah that was sus
Right! I was trying to understand how her top “just fell”
She wants to leave him but she cant. But her getting her ged is a start to a plan to empower herself to a better life. Good on her and prayers for her strength to succeed
I think that's the plan. She's planning her escape. Like dJ said she will faun until she has an out
Children deserve better than this. Three adults crushing a bottle of tequila while their small children are off playing nearby. Such trash behavior.
The mom took them to the pool too. I’m no square, but taking the kids down the pool after drinking a bottle is crazy! Then the husband and step mom sleep together. What a mess. These children are screwed!
Agreed
I think it’s interesting that a lot of commenters like you are assuming the wife drank an equal amount to the other two. He said the 3 of them drank the bottle, but she left. I interpreted that to mean she was participating and stopped to be the responsible one on kid duty for the night and left them to the bottle. One thing is for sure though, you’re right that the kids deserve better.
@@genevievejarek5863 Right, I mean, that's how I interpreted it as well. Also, I would take his word with a grain of salt for very obvious reasons. Who's to say that he is even telling the full story?
I wish there was a go fund me for that guys wife and we could all donate to help her have a fresh start in life far away from her husband and step mother
And a defund me for the stepmom 😂
The fact that he’s even asking how to rebuild his marriage after such an egregious violation of trust shows an immense mental and emotional disconnection, as if his crime was saying a really hurtful comment or something.
Yeah…he bought a sports car that can’t hold a baby seat without telling her…😂
Oh, yeah, and I had a drunken one nighter with your stepmom, the MOTHER of your siblings! (Half is plenty good enough…those little ones are her blood)
Right. He’s cooked. What a childish weak pos. Don’t know if there could be anything worse. Where do these facks even come from. The wife’s step mother?????? Tf?
I have no sympathy, but there's definitely something going on. We're certainly not getting the full story. Is the in law hot I wonder?
@@yellowrhynoWhy on earth would it matter if the stepmom is hot
@@ekaski1 curious minds
He did one of the worst things, and after she asked to separate, he forced his way back in, because "dirt roads are inconvenient." He knows that he baby trapped a 17 year old, and she has no where to go. He is perfectly happy to exploit her situation and her people pleasing nature. He needs to be away from people and in therapy for a long time before he even thinks aboit seeing his (ex)wife and daughter
I believe He is regretful. I believe He stunned himself.
I'm so repulsed by cheating that I truly KNOW I could never, but I've done other things I had never dreamed I could. My guess is most people have. Maybe not illegal, but against ones own personal morals.
He told his wife.
What if he is genuinely repentant?What consequences shall He face?
@@rudymalizia8842 It's just ... I might be able to get past someone who is genuinely repentant about being unfaithful once but NOT if it was with my fkn mom. That's literally so disgusting, step or not.
I disagree. He should just divorce/dump her and pay child support and be the best father he can. If you cheat on someone and they’re unable to dump you should at least have the integrity to dump them since you made it clear that you prefer someone else.
@@rudymalizia8842I get what you're saying, and I believe a lot like Dr. John: sometimes cheating "just happens" and people find themselves in completely unexpected situations. I get that.
But here's my thing: I'm a fiercely loyal person. (Loyalty is about WAYYYY more than just sexual infidelity.) If you are in my circle, you will never question my commitment to you. I will proudly stand by your side, even if I fully condemn your actions.
Ok, so while it is certainly possible that this guy "just fell into" a sexual moment with this moment, the MUCH bigger issue is that the stepmom believed she could. This girl has already had years of problems with her stepmom, and of all people who need to be on her team, it's her husband. That man should have his wife's back so hard that the stepmom never even suspected she could get in there. This was not some coworker who he spent 50 hours a week with, who he bonded with over a hard project, who he has multiple shared interests with, and then in a moment of weakness, "things happened." This is your wife's biggest opp. Now THAT is unforgivable!
100%!! The fact that he was already having sex with his wife again SO SOON shows his absolute lack of respect!!! EEWW!
I’m glad John didn’t beat around the bush to find a path forward for this guy. There is no reconciliation. The honorable thing to do is leave and let the wife find someone with integrity.
I hope she leaves him.
This is something that will always be in her mind.
She also lost her step mom.
How the hell does her dad feel about all of this?
My thoughts exactly.
It will forever be a painful memory. She will always be a little sad with him even if he does change
That's what I want to know!
He has to know, but is he staying with this selfish succubus?? What a mess this situation is. Some men just don't have any self control or respect anymore.
Unfortunately I don't see her leaving. Sounds like she is very dependent on him with no career and lots of trauma from her own childhood. If her step mother can do that I can only imagine what she has gone through growing up at the hands of her father, her step mother and possibly even her own mother. Sadly childhood trauma like that leads young girls to seek the same destructive relationships when they grow up and get trapped to repeat the cycle all over again.
These dumb asses just went and hurt anyone that mattered in their lives
For the woman whose boyfriend isn't interested in marrying her. Leave him. Saying you are a person who doesn't give up on people is code for you are a person who lets people take advantage of you. This isn't an identity issue. It is a behavioral issue. Don't lock yourself into some misplaced ideal. This dude is comfy where he is because he doesn't have to make any effort. He will never go to church with you and the children because he isn't going to marry you and you therefore won't be having any children with him. Do you deserve to be treated that way? No. Love him and let him go, and even more importantly, love yourself and set yourself free. You're 27. Decades of a future before you. Go for it, girl.
You are correct...
Agreed. You don't want to waste your years on someone who doesn't want marriage.
Well said! Agreed 👏
one thing men gon do..is blame it on the alcohol 😭😭
That’s called generalising, not all men are like this, majority of men are not like this
She didnt say all men are like this. You need better reading comprehension. She is saying that the type of men who do these things always do these other things, too. If you arent that type of man it shouldnt be an issue. You know what they say. Hit dogs holler! @@vargr2089
Lmao I thought exactly the same
Yeah women don’t need an excuse they always justify it to themselves and make themselves out to be the victim despite their infidelity.
Or weed in my ex’s case.
Rebuild your marriage? Forgive yourself? This is the most egregious disrespectful disgusting thing you could ever do. He is a monster and so is her stepmother. Where is her father? OMG
“I slept with her step mom I want to fix my marriage” “me me me me me”
AND, "I'm trying to forgive myself." Take responsibility, feel the appropriate shame, and vow to live with integrity going forward.
Dude doesn’t have an ounce of regret or guilt for what he did. The way he’s describing it is like describing how he brushes his teeth in the morning.
That’s Gross! My younger sister slept with and dated my exhusband several years back after we had divorced, knowing I left him because he was abusive. 🤦🏼♀️ And he ended up abusing her. Decades ago one of her old exboyfriends came on to me and I said no way never! People don’t think they are too impulsive.
That's honestly disgusting ....
That’s absolutely disgusting. Has your relationship with your sister ever recovered? I don’t think I could forgive that.
My twin sister dated the guy I lost my virginity to knowing that was the situation. She wonders why to this day I have some icky feelings about it.
@@rebeccazeman9309 I’m sorry to say but your sister doesn’t understand because she has no integrity.
@@rebeccazeman9309what the heck, I’m so sorry that happened to you
"Id do anything to move on from this" !!!!! Not "id do anything to make my wife feel better" or "id do anything to gain her trust back" or "id do anything to take it back" or "id do anything to make it up to her" he just... wants it to be over so he can stop feeling guilty and go back to how things were before even tho thats not possible because he did the ultimate betrayal. Laughable. Ive met so many guys like this. Entitled.
Cheating would be an instant deal breaker for me, but with a parent? Absolutely vile. So many lines crossed
Please do NOT blame alcohol for this disgraceful betrayal. I hope his wife files for divorce
The way this comment is worded is so strange to me. It makes it sound like you’re defending alcohol from a personal attack lol. Do you mean blame like use it as an excuse? Alcohol was only mentioned for a split second, so your focus on it is surprising to me. Explaining context isn’t the same as dodging responsibility. And mind altering substances can and do contribute significantly to extremely poor choices. It’s an important fact of the story.
@rachel4339 your comment makes no sense 🙄 I am not defending alcohol. If you do not understand English why comment. Embarassing
@@rachel4339lol what? I think she’s saying to not use alcohol as an excuse
@@Void0420 exactly thank you. 😊
@@rachel4339no.... it was the caller blaming his actions on drinking....
I don’t even need to hear the entire call. You don’t recover from that level of betrayal. If you’ll do that, you must have so little self control and respect for me that there’s probably nothing you won’t do. I could never look you in the eye again.
He is still sleeping in their bedroom, so she has no self respect
being single doesn't sound too bad after this
Marriage isn't for everyone. But there's good guys out there i promise. This is a rare moron.
My heart hurts for the second caller. Young lady, you will find someone who will see your worth! May the Lord give you the desires of your heart ❤ keep trusting in Him
Please tell him to move out for 12 months!. 30 days is easy to do, but 12 months will test the strength of his character. and give her time to heal. Thank you for suggesting he take care of her. This is so so sad.
Women - don’t be in a situation where you have no options
And yet if you get a career you get called a career woman. Women can't win.
Should be top comment.
Exactly this is why certain people promote trad wives. They want women to be dependent on men
"But..... mu family values!"
men also don't be in a situation when you have no options!
He really went for the "There was a wardrobe malfunction" excuse.
Give her a generous divorce.
Leave her alone.
Don't ever contact her.
“Been trying to forgive myself.” Life Goals. If you’re a POS.
This guy doesn't sound sorry at all.
That was my opinion too. He wants to fix the wife appliance. He doesn’t really care about it
Ya idk if that was the first time. Just the first time with the step mom
This guy is a total POS. I know Dr. John is too good of a person to say that but it was necessary. There is no repairing this. I feel terrible for this woman, she is truly trapped. Broken homes are a problem that are not talked about enough. Many people are exposed to strangers who turn out to be predators. That poor woman’s life has been ruined by the supposed adults in her life.
This is how you break a good woman. But good women don’t stay broken.
I absolutely love this comment!
Amen!
Woman never fully repair. They stay broken. She will be a toxic mess for whoever is next now. Any sweet caring nature is gone! Now the pressure of life will bear down on her and she has no capability to cope with that. Give her a year or two and she will be completely defeated. He will get run off due to all the hate and likely will never come back so the kid will never know her dad. The whole thing will fester and implode. The step mum is more liable if you ask me.
I genuinely wish 1st callers wife would call in. I guarente she has no self worth and is stuck and she’s probably used to being hurt by people she cares about. She deserves so much better.
Second caller: you were so brave for calling in and listening to the scary truth. I can hear the kindness and purity in your voice.
If I may offer you a bit of advice!
From one christian woman to another christian woman, it is not out of the realm of possibilities that if you do decide to go your separate ways with him, that you will meet someone that is more compatible with you spiritually, and within 6 months you’re married and it’s happily ever after. Just because you spent 5 years with him and it didn’t go anywhere, doesn’t mean that will happen again or that it will be another 5 years before you get married. I can tell you really love him, but I can also tell God is pulling on your heartstrings and Dr Delony was the final push for you. Thank you for your bravery in calling!!
Is 6 months too fast I’ve only ever been in long relationships I’m also 27 and in a 5+ year relationship now like the caller but he lives with me irl, also never been proposed to so I have no grasp of how short or long of a time is a red flag
@@pyao5 years isn’t too long… but if you both desire marriage and he hasn’t proposed yet there is probably a reason. My husband and I were together a little less than 5 years when he proposed, married a year later. He knew that I was not going to continue waiting for a proposal and if it didn’t happen soon I was ready to move on. I hardly see reasons to wait any longer for marriage especially when you’ve been together for that long. You should know whether or not that’s who you want to share your life with.
If he’s having a hard time just doing it, y’all should figure out why and if you’re not on the same page about the future then take that time to reevaluate what you want.
@@pyaoYou say you’re in a 5+ year relationship, and living together. It’s time to get married NOW (you should have had a ring & a committed date before moving in together), or at least sit down with him, tell him why you want to get married, and ask him if he has any objection to marriage. If he looks at you with a quizzical look, rolls his eyes, or deeply inhales and exhales before grasping for reasons, then he’s sent you a very large red flag. Your prime child-bearing years are closing down in the next 7 to 10 years, with mid-30s considered to be ‘geriatric’ pregnancies. Now, 6 months into a new relationship and married at your age? Perhaps engaged by that 6-month mark, and married by 12 months.
That first caller didn’t seem like he wanted to do anything that didn’t give him his marriage back instantly. It’s like he was missing the point John was trying to make.
Like yeah your wife is still hugging you and going to the movies. But until you give her the space she needs to think all this through- she could be going through the motions as a survival technique.
She could be doing whatever it takes to numb the pain because living in the truth is too awful. And if you push through your marriage like this then your wife will end up resenting you and not loving you.
The honorable thing to do is to give her space and time. Then ask her if she wants to stay married - knowing that she will be taken care of regardless what her answer it.
But this dude doesn’t seem to want to do that. He just wants his marriage back now. He can keep doing what he’s doing now and then one day find his marriage has exploded. Or he can put in the work now and do what is right. And at least that way he has a chance to salvage it.
But yeah if I was the wife this is a major red flag and dealbreaker. No coming back from the situation. This is why I agree with John about him giving the wife space. Because I’m afraid that she’s trying to move past it because she feels like she’s trapped.
"Polished off a bottle of tequila then took the kids swimming" doesn't sound like any of the adults are very mature or responsible
That's the problem
People missed that part. Getting drunk around the kids and swimming is not only dangerous but immature, then your 45+ year old mother sleeping in what essentially is underwear. Pure trash all around
And she had to go to work which is why he woke her?
You can forgive cheating, you cannot forgive cheating with your family. I feel bad for her 😢😢
No, you cant forgive cheating. period.
Cheating isn’t all that forgivable honestly, but agree.
Yes, you should forgive cheating. Not for the cheater but for your peace of mind. Cheaters should be forgiven, promptly dump and encouraged to be a better person in their next relationship. It’s really that black and white. The grey area only exists for individuals who lack self respect and prefer to make excuses to remain with cheaters. Cheaters are truly thankful for people who make excuses to stay with them. Don’t take my word for it, just ask any cheater.
Yes cuz hes destroyed your entire family. Lose your husband AND your familu
Homeboy needs to man up. file for divorce and he's 100% at fault.
give ex wife earned 50% and more for being a dummy.
get away from her snd stop hurting her.
Thinking with his privates blew up their lives
He’s trying hard to forgive himself? This guy is a creep! His actions are so egregious, and his first comment is, poor me? I’m trying to forgive myself? I’m throwing up right now. His wife needs to get away from him. Far away and take their child with her. You know this is not the first time he’s done this. I don’t know how his wife can stand to look at him.
He wants to find more activities.He has no intention marrying that girl.
I'm so sick of excuses men come up with for cheating on their wives. Do they understand how hard it is to forgive that stuff?
Sounds this was premeditated. Why was this husband meant to “wake up” the step mom? Most people use alarms. And her top “accidentally” came off? Bizarre.
It's ALL bad, for sure
Yes! I have so many questions lol
I don't consider alcohol an excuse for anything.
I don't blame alcohol; I blame the intoxicating effects of alcohol.
Alcohol does not help whatsoever. You are all going to hate my stance on this but I truly believe if your drinking especially when in serious commitment or married that men should drink with other men and women should drink with other women. The only exception is if you are drinking together as a couple. Cheating and affairs are mostly fueled by alcohol no if, ands or buts about it..
Blaming alcohol for bad decisions is no different than blaming the "thing" when a "pew-pew" happens. Illogical way to avoid accountability on people who don't responsibility use both
@@danieljohnson4418 he put himself in that position
Not gunna lie, husband sleeping with his wife's step-mom is the most Jacksonville thing I've ever heard 🤣
I know people there and I was trying to make sure it wasn’t them. Because yes. It’s extremely Jacksonville
Dealing with a very over sexed culture
Nah this is just straight up sexual perversion. Sex is beautiful, Holy, and a wonderful thing. But this is not sex, this is just perversion. He is Evil.
It’s disgusting out here in these streets. I tried to buy something off Craiglist the other day and the guy asked me if I can throw in some companionship for extra compensation. I’m like sir, I’m not looking for that. It’s very scary how horny and out of control some men are
@@sarahalderman3126they are perverts!!!!
Dealing with perverted men with porn addiction and no self control you mean
Dealing with adults that refuse to grow up and check their own behavior.
That's a big oof. All it took was just a pair of boobs and he "pursued it". That's it. No seduction or temptation, just her top fell off and he was immediately sold. I'm guessing someone has watched a whole lot of porn. What also isn't mentioned is his father in law and how this is affecting their relationship with that entire side of the family, not just the stepmother so if she wants to leave him, where does she have to go? No high school diploma, no job... So few options. That's some wild stuff..
Some of us really like boobs. 🤩
Smh you clearly don’t know how men operate lmao. Prolly don’t have one in the home. Prolly feel like all men are trash. But just so you know regardless of if a man watches prom or not boobs will get our attention. Doesn’t excuse his actions in the slightest but to try and shame him for finding boobs attractive is wild lol. Tell me you hate men without saying you hate men
>>> No seduction or temptation, just her top fell off
How about:
No seduction or temptation, just she walked into the shower naked
I loved what John said about grief and its process; I hope that helps a lot of people.
2nd caller, you deserve better and you will find someone one day that will want to go to church with you and share the same values as you❤
“Attached at the hip since 17” that’s a long time to throw away… jeez
He USED her!!!!! Obviously!!!
He doesn't want to be married, he wants to see what he's missing.
Sunken cost fallacy. Not worth wasting the rest of your precious time with someone who does not deserve your love and trust
But didn't you hear? Her stepmom's top fell off. What else was he supposed to do? /s
@@zarahsgarden2097 I’m not saying they should stay, I’m saying his actions cost him that time, it’s already over
This is the most Florida call ever.
What is about Florida? why does everyone mention it? (I am from Europe)
@@MegaMarVerdeFlorida has a reputation of ppl being trashy and doing crap like this….
@MegaMarVerde It is a hot place full of storms and sharks and people who do wild things. Often, when something weird is in the American news, it turns out it happened in Florida.
@@MegaMarVerdeAs an example, someone in Florida tried to rob a Burger King in the drive through with an alligator.
They have a billboard telling fathers not to rape their daughters when drunk. Google it
I love Kelly's appearance going into the show, we get to see a woman who's contributing so much to the show behind the scenes & what a healthy work place relationship looks like between a man & and woman 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
He cheated because he knows she can't leave anytime soon! Women, get smart, independent, heal!
This man subconsciously wanted out so did the most extreme thing he could to ensure his marriage would end
And she can't even leave him right now 😂 he so dumb
Yes exactly
3:50 I'm pretty sure "back that thing up" is for a different type of situation 😂
The look on his face then pretty much tells it all too 😂
This woman is stuck in the relationship. She doesn't even have a high school diploma. She's sticking it out bc she has to.
Sounds like she's getting that GED, I hope it leads to employment and escape.
He keeps saying “trying to be” accountable. That’s a huge flag to me. Accountability is not an elusive goal, like winning a championship or hitting a PR in the gym. You either do it or you don’t. Yoda has some amazing wisdom to say about that. By saying “trying”, he’s automatically telling himself he’s okay with justifying himself occasionally, which is not what you want.
Exactly
100%!
Note to all women. Don't get yourself into the situation that you don't have any money and any back up plan, a man is not a plan.
This is the first time I’ve heard John say he doesn’t think he can fix this.
Pornography has ruined our society
That’s just men true colors being exposed
@@veebliss1266 really? women initiating divorce at a much higher rate than men
Yup. I have a shirt that displays "Porn destroys love."
It seriously has. The way men act in the bedroom nowadays is shameful.
@@Hello_jo It sure has! Porno is a no no
That jerk didn't even really sound upset about doing it to her. It was like it was an inconvenience for his life. No true repentance.
You don’t rebuild after this kind of betrayal
You eff family, it’s over. Leave before you’re over
Horrible guy that's completely treacherous and disrespectful if he had any respect he'd not be trying to fix the marriage, cos no way is a cheater coming back from it, or cheating. Get a divorce ASAP !
I couldn’t stay with a man with so little respect for me, so little love for me and such poor morals. I would forgive him, but I could never ever respect him, trust him, or be able to look him in the eye again. This was beyond cruel, this was evil - deep level sin and my heart hurts for his wife and their little girl, not to mention her father and little siblings.
I hope she hears this. 😔 Poor girl in such an ugly situation. He is not to be trusted ever. Crossing such a line with his wife, daughter and wife's brother and sister downstairs. 🤦♀️ It's despicable.
I’m out of words.
A divorce is not enough of a bad outcome for such a despicable action. This is just… like I said: no words.
You don't deserve to have your wife back. She should divorce you immediately.
Ohhh Anna, don't let your current boyfriend prevent you from meeting your future husband. I'm so glad you're working on yourself and finding who you are. Find someone who really values you.
This CLEARLY shows he can not be trusted if he's drinking! Immidiate divorce! The wife deserves better!! To say the marriage wasn't going good and that's why this happened is BS! No excuse for cheating!! If people are not happy leave!
Her top popped off and he then couldn't control himself? What is he 14 yrs old? Obviously they were both pretty wasted.
@araceli Hec, he cannot be trusted PERIOD. While Drinking or NOT.
💯
EXACTLY.. LEAVE if you're not happy
No excuse, either is alcohol
GMAFB!
@@girlygirl1890 agree!
Caller #1: This requires a follow up. This is beyond insane! What about her father? So many questions! Ugh.
Yeah I need more tea 😂
This is horribly upsetting! Such a great betrayal! If she doesn’t leave now, she will leave him down the way. This is over!
3:26 they stop talking about Creed and the Guy calls. You’re welcome.
You're the best for this lol
Thanks. That was too much
Wish I would've seen this comment first. Did Dr. John sound like he actually would want to go see Creed or was he joking? I skipped ahead when they wouldn't stop. I'm hoping I heard that wrong. 🤦♀️
"Men are lonelier and more depressed today than any other time throughout history"
The men in question:
Your a man hater and women wonder why men are done with dating and marriage
That was a good call/talk with Anna. So many women do this
So they were childhood sweethearts who got pregnant and then married. He wanted to sleep with someone else just for funnies and then go back to his family. Nope.
Should have chose a random girl with no connection to his family then. Hes selfish AND stupid
I don’t believe this happened suddenly. I think that this was slowly build up by stepmom and him. Stepmom will end as the other woman and they will continue. Especially now that he knows that his wife is trapped. It puts him in powerposition.
Husband and stepmom are trash.
I have never seen Delony speechless. His face had me done.
Dr. John's pause was epic😂😂
There are just some things you can't recover from.
Cheating with a family member is definitely one of those things.
Rebuild? He's lucky he's not murdered
Also zero relationship with the stepmother
Hahaha!
Forgive, however, that relationship needs to be done! I would never trust him again. There is no reason or excuse that would ever be acceptable. Hindsight is ALWAYS so much clearer. Should have thought about that before you threw your family out the window. I do not feel sorry for him and her stepmom? Piece of garbage! There were no boundaries and they can build out of the ashes from what they’ve burned down!
Nah…they can overcome it. Others have.
@@BamifunEveryone is different in what they will and won't accept in a relationship. It would be over for me because I strongly believe that for someone to cheat, there's either hatred or resentment there. You can't be with someone who hates or resents you enough to hurt you and potentially risk your life (STD's)
@@BamifunThe only reason in the Bible that justifies divorce. Betrayal on that level….husband AND “mom?” She can heal and be free from the weight of adultery from the one who was supposed to love her and their daughter and protect them.
@@shanchan8247agree! Plus how can you trust someone who does this. It would drive me crazy and having to question where he's at and stressing if he's drinking cuz he'll cheat again. Staying with someone who does this just tells them I can do it again and you won't leave. His wife deserves better!!
Totally agree ...they are BOTH garbage
They would both be out of my life forever
WHERE is her dad in all of this ???
Just absolutely disgusting 🤢 🤮
I hope the first girl finds a good man.
She’s staying with him cuz she’s dependent on him and didn’t get an education. Ladies let’s all do better than this!!
Agreed. Ladies, get smart, heal, be independent!
We don't know her situation.
@@catcat9582 agreed…it’s scary to start over.
It's not @@laurab5849
😮😅GET? Oh dear...
I've been practicing this since I was 16.
Be an independent person.
No man, no kids. Job, own place. (no mortgage) No debts.
It's you, this generation, and the previous one, that needs to learn.. Take your own advice, I'd say
The advice you gave the first guy was so kind, direct and good.
This girl needs to run, if he would do this to her now, he’ll do it again later when he gets drunk, depressed, or bored. She has lost EVERYTHING‼️ This will NEVER go away for her😢. ..