What if a woman is married to a husband who is irresponsible and leaves her to do everything. He refuses to provide or help her with their child, leaves and travels around the world , and as a response to his comparing her with tough women from his family/ origin she is forced to do all of that by herself to the point that they separate as there is no point to uphold a one sided marriage? How can she let go of this masculinity when she has to take on the role of mother + father? Thank you so much for your great eye opening content!!!
If it was a Sharia country he would be taken to the court. And marriage is about rights and rules. Is he upholding them? Is he lacking in his capacity? If the answer is yes. Then divorce is an option. And know that the maximum amount of time and spouse can be away from another is either one or 3 months. Anymore marriage becomes null
The "masculinity" part I answered in my thread. It's the 'duties'. These are bound upon women and men. As long as you don't cross the area of imiation and appropriations. It's okay. But taking the duties of a man is wrong I say.
Asalamoalikum, let me just get this out of the way that you are such a blessing 🙌 I benefitted so much by watching your videos. If you haven't already, can you please talk about compatability, cultural, spiritual. Jazak Allah khair ❤
Jazakallahu khayr sister Hana for this!!❤ My eye opener was, when you told, that the hyper masculinity can come from the place of "I have to protect my self" and "I can't trust someone to do it". And I'm realising that those mindset are rooted in the childhood. I even found out and understood which situations they were or why I had to think and act that way. Thank you for that! And I want to say, that you are gifted allahuma barik for sharing that information in a well structured and "easy to understand" way while speaking freely!
Jazakallahu Khair habibti! ❤ MashAllah you are so beautiful inside and out! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and helping others through their struggles. Subhanallah, this is such valuable information, many girls struggle with this and have no idea why! May Allah continue to enlighten you 😊
Thank you for this balanced realistic view ! I have a question that hopefully you can make a video about.. What about woman that actually have it harder than others ?and have to be hyper independent due to certain circumstance not necessarily cuz of operating on defense mechanisms? Basically what about those that don't have other options? What's a more healthy way to go about it that may not apply to most people
@@nayerakhaled9082 I’d argue that they “have to”. Remember there’s a difference between independence/self-sufficiency and hyperindependence. HyperI is refusing support, refusing to trust, wanting to be your own savior. I had a client who struggled with this so much that even after the broke her arm, she tried to reorganize her living room by herself. We literally had to work on her asking two friends to come help her. And figuring out how to budget for a cleaner to come for a few hours. There are always. Opportunity to practice healthy interdependence. We have to get creative but challenge some of the limiting mindsets around “I have to do it by myself.” I used to feel this way. And I realize it wasn’t true. I had friends who cared, family members who loved me, and professionals who I could even pay to help me.
What if a woman is married to a husband who is irresponsible and leaves her to do everything. He refuses to provide or help her with their child, leaves and travels around the world , and as a response to his comparing her with tough women from his family/ origin she is forced to do all of that by herself to the point that they separate as there is no point to uphold a one sided marriage? How can she let go of this masculinity when she has to take on the role of mother + father? Thank you so much for your great eye opening content!!!
If it was a Sharia country he would be taken to the court. And marriage is about rights and rules. Is he upholding them? Is he lacking in his capacity? If the answer is yes. Then divorce is an option. And know that the maximum amount of time and spouse can be away from another is either one or 3 months. Anymore marriage becomes null
The "masculinity" part I answered in my thread. It's the 'duties'. These are bound upon women and men. As long as you don't cross the area of imiation and appropriations. It's okay. But taking the duties of a man is wrong I say.
Divorce
Hypermasculinity is tiring honestly.
Thank you for explaining the science behind it all, Hana ❤
@@halimatolatunji5672 may Allah give you so much space to feel safe and release some of it ❤️
Ameeeen @@alasryh
Asalamoalikum, let me just get this out of the way that you are such a blessing 🙌 I benefitted so much by watching your videos.
If you haven't already, can you please talk about compatability, cultural, spiritual. Jazak Allah khair ❤
@@sidanish9911 wa alaikum asalam, awesome to hear.
Will consider it for a future video or a premarital course isA
This was a wonderful session Hana. I learn so much from you that I can share with my family and friends. Hanya🙏
@@edwardarias1312 JAK!
Jazakallahu khayr sister Hana for this!!❤ My eye opener was, when you told, that the hyper masculinity can come from the place of "I have to protect my self" and "I can't trust someone to do it". And I'm realising that those mindset are rooted in the childhood. I even found out and understood which situations they were or why I had to think and act that way. Thank you for that!
And I want to say, that you are gifted allahuma barik for sharing that information in a well structured and "easy to understand" way while speaking freely!
Great info ❤
Jazakallahu Khair habibti! ❤ MashAllah you are so beautiful inside and out! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and helping others through their struggles. Subhanallah, this is such valuable information, many girls struggle with this and have no idea why! May Allah continue to enlighten you 😊
@@SubhanAllahWabiHamdi1 Ameen ya rab, thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you for this balanced realistic view !
I have a question that hopefully you can make a video about..
What about woman that actually have it harder than others ?and have to be hyper independent due to certain circumstance not necessarily cuz of operating on defense mechanisms?
Basically what about those that don't have other options?
What's a more healthy way to go about it that may not apply to most people
@@nayerakhaled9082 I’d argue that they “have to”. Remember there’s a difference between independence/self-sufficiency and hyperindependence. HyperI is refusing support, refusing to trust, wanting to be your own savior. I had a client who struggled with this so much that even after the broke her arm, she tried to reorganize her living room by herself. We literally had to work on her asking two friends to come help her. And figuring out how to budget for a cleaner to come for a few hours. There are always. Opportunity to practice healthy interdependence. We have to get creative but challenge some of the limiting mindsets around “I have to do it by myself.” I used to feel this way. And I realize it wasn’t true. I had friends who cared, family members who loved me, and professionals who I could even pay to help me.