8 Tips on Reading People
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- Опубликовано: 19 сен 2024
- Learning to read people can give us a upper advantage. Reading people protects us from being lied to, or prey on. In the animal world, it's a survival of the fittest. Always trust your gut.
Just like our previous video on how to tell if someone is lying, this video goes into how to use our senses to make better judgement.
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"...because first impressions are often accurate."
A few seconds later
"Some people, the first time you meet them, put up a false persona or try to manipulate your perception of them."
Or at 0:40 "recognises falses 43 percent of the time and truths 48 percent of the time" 43+48=91
@@chasewestmoreland7642 i think you're using the wrong baseline. It's 43% of the time they're told a lie and vice versa. So the numbers make sense.
Just cuz they havr a false persona doesn't change your Impression/feeling you get from the interaction
Essentially all people (IMO) have a "public face" and it typically isn't deliberately deceptive, it is just cautious. How many here use their actual legal name for conversations?
When people mimic me..its not they synchoronise..its just immitation because of jealousy..they want to look same..many times after choosing a cake or meal..theyll just choose exactly.
I need this because I can't read.
TMR Teckk but you can write?
TMR Teckk Floyd mayweather is that you ?
Wait isn't what he/she meant is that he/she can't read people
Kainos Teleos
is this an ironic joke im not getting? lmao
Kainos Teleos whoooosh
I'm good at reading people but empathy always sets me back lmao
u want to have psychopathic traits, right?
I've never understand empathy. For you to have it would you need to know what is like to be in the other person's situation so you can empathize?
People talk about like is something you just can do but need to realize.
Cindy Moon I guess that's why they always say "be nice to everyone because you don't know their situation" because it's true. The reason why someone might be acting rude, for example could be because life is just really getting on their nerves, but u probably wouldn't know that, so you be nice anyway then if you ever find out their situation you empathize.
Cindy Moon I am odd when it comes to empathy. I empathize at random times.
But you said you have to be in their situation previously. Not necessarily true. If you saw someone was shot or hit by a car and seriously injured, I would think you would sympathize. What if they are in a wheelchair the rest of their lives? You would feel a twinge of sympathy pain.
Also, people can be self centered. Feeling you have more stress and responsibility then they do. So they can handle it easier. So you don't feel sympathy. We forget about self sympathy and how that affects perception.
Indeed. Sympathy is when you feel bad for someone while empathy is when you understand what they are going through to the extent that you feel like you're in the situation too. Having a balance is key.
“Tired eyes, books... He is a student”
*_I have never felt so offended by something I 100% agree with_*
1.Gut feelings, believe in yourself
2. speach & behavior mimicry
3. Should be Empathy
4. Notice there Appearance
5. Body language like there positions & actions
6. Facial expressions
7. Objectivity
8. Patience just wait & let them speak
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Point 2: I mimic others on purpose cause it's known way to make people trust you. So it's not always good thing to think that the other person is sincere with you because she acts like you.
I do that if I need something from them, I'm very aware that I can be manipulative but I usually dont use it unless I feel like its necessary (safety, work-related goal management etc)
I am suspicious of other persons acting like me.
I remember I was talking to my friends about stuff, then the topic switched into a girl (another friend). I didn't know her very well, we never talked about private things. But since we were talking about her, I used my memories of her and analyzed her face, the way she talked, then my gut instinct told me what it thought. So I told my friends: "I think she has a problem. She's sad, she fakes, she's not completely herself". Then they were like: "but she's always happy". Then I said: "I can read ppl pretty well and I am telling u she has a problem". Then they said: "yeah right, can u tell what I am thinking right now?". I got quite mad, cuz they didn't believe me and they didn't understand what reading someone is, then telling me to read them -_-. I tried explaining them what reading really is, it's about discovering how someone is and feels, not reading ur thoughts. Didn't work. So a few months later, something happened and I really bonded with this girl. We talked about ourselves. Turns out, I was right about her. She is sad, because she is an empathetic person, so she feels everyone's emotion and it makes her tired and sad ppl feel depressed/angry so she fakes sometimes and isn't herself. She's complex. Though when I found out I was right I was like "HOLLY SHIT, I WAS RIGHT!!!! MY SKILLS R SUGOI!!! THATS RIGHT FRIENDS, I CAN READ PPL SO STOP LAUGHING AT ME". I really wanted to share this story, I don't want to be like a special snowflake, I just wanted to share
Mariachi "my skills are sugoi". Not bad yo
Mariachi wow u can read someone shit man go roast your friends on RUclips
I like you.
I’m good at every point in this video,but I can relate to how that girl feels.
When you can read people you could be the best friend to ever have. I don’t really like being super understanding and comforting because I’m an introvert, individuality is super important to me, also I would lose a something of me when I only try to be the best friend and that’s my breaking point I don’t want everyone to like me ,because it is not needed I accepted that I’m different and I didn’t want to be generally liked I want to be good enough for everything that matters, me, my best friend and my family and if some of these people don’t accept me fully for who I am ,there not on my list anymore then I am the most important thing on my list.
SUGOI 😂😂
Here is another tip.
If a person tells some thing good about you.
Pay attention.
They are telling what they feel about themselves without even them knowing.
This works if they are being honest about what they feel about you.
For example,
I love my Friend's faith for me.
And I think I am faithful too.
I don't know if that example explained anything. Sorry about that but this works.
Another tip.
If a person is angry, pay attention.
Anger is an outburst of emotions and can reveal you some hidden feelings they have in them.
Maybe about you, or someone else.
Idk if I was any help.
This helps thx
Gr8 suggest tnx👍
That so smart
I have to put up a fake persona, to hide the depression and fatigue of chronic illness. so am liar? Because if I show it all, people around me think I'm depressing and negative.
Miss Jigglypuff
Same.
Vivilota V. It sucks :( (gentle hugs)
Dystopian Overture same, I am kinda getting better now but i’m only open with friends
about that fake persona, i don't think you need to worry about being a liar. If showing your real self to unnecessary people tires or make your condition worse, then it's better to avoid being in that worse condition. Your health comes first.
Dystopian Overture why tf you lying why you always lying 🎶
How about this as a topic, How to read body language to know if someone's interested in you?
That would be popular! We're on to it :)
Psych2Go yay
Psych2Go It would be hard tho... Everyone is different. People can easily have ideas that are wrong.
I would like that
Can you make a video about why friendship can't last longer
You mean how to sustain friendships?
Yeah something like that please
ItsFeAnne V In my opinion you dont need to have a lot of friends, for me 1 friend who i can trust is enough.
Psych2Go I need that video
I'd love to see a video about this
I used to empathise with people a lot and was genuinely well liked by others because of my caring nature but after my 12th birthday, I just changed. I stopped talking to many people and couldn't care less when people talk about their problems to me. I grew more lonely despite hanging out with people. I still act like the old me just to convince others that I'm fine but after watching this, I'm starting to wonder if anyone saw through my facade.
chneai._. 99 Puberty changed u
chneai._. 99 Same (kinda) People can usually see that I don't care, but I don't care about that either.
chneai._. 99 - i was opposite growing up, pretty much kept to myself like at school. as i got older, i opened up more n started talking to more people. if i get the feeling that peeps dont wanna talk to me, i just go on my way, sometimes im annoying ( i shouldnt but ehhh) - i do and say goofy things at work, sometimes it slips and say a few er bad words because im stressed / busy with tons of stuff ( production enviroment does that). i listen to people if they wanna talk, try n give best reply i can .
for example, a coworker was recently involved in an accident, asked if she was allright n got checked by doctors , then bieng a gear head asked about her car. well didnt look all that bad,( showed me pictures of it) but i said " they might total it, depends how damaged it is underneath structurally" . stuff like that.
dangerous toys56 same here!! I was an introvert. But as I grew up I changed a bit and what motivated me to work was interacting with the good and positive people.
sean ng I guess you change for the better. Good for you. I wonder how sympathy feels like since I never really felt it a lot nowadays so you're lucky I guess. I'm being completely honest since you're just a stranger and we'll never meet and my comment would just get lost in the sea of all the comments so I feel comfortable spilling my woes online.
Most introverts are hawks at spotting fakers, I can track your body language perfectly and guess your emotions. I get those from my parents since they always know when somebody is lying. The best part is that I can completely obliterate that mask and create my own at the same time.
I'm great at reading people!! I have an excellent gaydar
Just that fangirl lol
Just that fangirl same, My gaydar is nearly always right
The thing abuout reading people is you have to be aware of micro expressions. An expression that lasts only for a second but says a lot about their real feelings towards you or any other situation.
The most attractive thing I can think of is a countdown video that has a much lower time in minutes than the actual number of things in the video.
I've been a hairstylist for 27 years and I can judge someone before they even sit down in my chair, ...if they're gonna give me a hard time....if they're gonna tip me....what kind of cut they want ....if they're gonna like they're hair....if they're gonna come back to me.....I've never been wrong. I know that sounds so mean but I've never been wrong.
salem feathers i doubt it
Rising Stars it's because you doubt yourself 😂
Amber Holmes no not really
I’m learning to be hairstylist in school (belgium) and my teacher can do that to its just like that we know people
That does sound mean
I really like the art style and narrator for this video ^^
Glad you appreciate it! We will forward the note to our team! :)
I have different personalitys for different people
@Lisa RENAULT piceses
I feel like for their intro they picked the 4 weirdest sounds on the editing software, played them next to each-other, and then just rolled with it.
@Kîng shot i cant unhear it now *_fUCK-_*
It sounds like it ends with someone getting stabbed by a sword lol
Why did I slingshot my pet gecko out my window because of how hard I laughed at this
I’ve known some very paranoid people who tell me they’re good at reading others despite the fact much of their relationships end in conflict they caused
I've been trying to talk to my crush using these channels tips, but as soon as I make the decision to go sit next to her and talk to her...my heart starts beating fast as shit and my mind gets scrambled and then I forget literally everything I wanted to do and so I just sit down next to her without saying anything
MirrorGod Source yeah I know right, the girl I like has a boyfriend anyway so I’m trying to let go of her
MirrorGod Source yeah that’s so understandable
That Nigga Right There at least you get to sit next to her 😞
Try to associate her with the feeling of peace.
That sounds funny, but humans sometimes we associate people with how we have felt around them before
So try to make some peaceful moments with her( think about how she might be feeling)
I do. I read them all the time. But takes longer with Narcissists.
I'm fake to everyone apart from people I'm close with
+NamelessSalt lol
How do you do it? I’m always genuine with everybody I meet.
hi JUNGKOOK and literally same
Jenny Snaps keep being genuine with everyone you meet.
I'm fake to myself as well😂
Is it just me or most empathetic people are ambiverts?
What's a ambivert?
@@ASH1928 Someone who is both an introvert and an extrovert.
Because they know both sides
Strongly empathic people become who they are with. In a way it is a curse since they will never succeed to "find themselves" since there is no self to find, their identity is always a jigsaw puzzle and the missing piece is someone else. That kind is not a true extravert, nor a true introvert. It is a third kind; "empath".
Tru
im good at observing people, like my family. only problem is i observe their "bad" sides and use it against them when im arguing with them.
I'm good at reading people, I was just checking to see if I'm missing anything. I'm all good 👍
Wow! Very instructive and interesting video! Thank you very much! 😀
Glad you enjoyed! Feel free to let us know if you have a follow up topic you'd like us to cover!
I've been waiting for this. Growing up in a competitive environment where all the students(yup girls)try to read each other means I'm in a lower hand since I can't do what they do. FINALLY.
I love your channel.. So helpful.. U know am a sociology student,this helps me in lots of things.. Please do not stop..keep going..its lovely
First impressions I think are more often false, and if they are indeed true, at most we can only see the surface, general and present time of who they truly are. We are too complex to be judged by a first sight and just a few interactions. Some people who have seemed really cold or on the other hand open at first, tent to be the other way, and not only that but it completely changes when you see who the most interact with. I had experience this after sometime around the people I've encountered
Great video! Understand body language is the most important thing that can help us read people.
Btw I really like the animation style and I am curious how long it took to do it and in which program.
This is exactly what I'm so bad at. People are very confusing...
Communication is always a first step :)
It's quite easy to read another persons personality in a short period of time in most cases. The people who hide themselves wont hide for long coz people r generally smart to know who you are after knowing you for a while.
This is the channel I go to when I’m depressed about my inability to socialize
I feel like a lot of what my gut tells me is right but I cant always comunicate what Im feeling
I normally ask a lot of questions and make a personality to fit that person
Can you do one on the research by Dr Gordon Neufeld on bullying? I've found his theories to be the most complete and sensible explanation of how someone becomes a bully, and how they can be helped. His lecture "what makes a bully" on youtube is interesting but very long, and a condensed version, as well as input on his theory from other psychologists, would be useful.
please post a video on gaining motivation after facing depression
Cool, I always have been able to read ppl. Even though I didn't know how. I'm just curious about some ppl so I read them without knowing? The gut instinct yeeeh. But then I search up how to read ppl and find out I have always been, it's cool and I love it. U learn about ppl without asking 👍🏻
I really love this channel, Thank you Psyche2Go
Can you put a video about toxic friend that has been cut off and how do deal with after math after cutting them off?
The explanation of number 1 is accurate cause i could somehow relate to it through a test, you know when you have a test that has choices and when you first pick an answer you then think its wrong then replace it cause your brain is telling you to, and then find out later your first answer was actually right 😂
Love the drawing and animations..also the messages😊😊
When come to reading ppl i find its more than that although some of it is true like your gut feeling, when it comes down to trust, relationships, friends, and ppl with personal issues all of it is intuitions
My friends call these abilities in me "mind reading powers" or "super powers." And we play "true or false" but with emotions.
We ask each other something/scenarios that gives us emotions, like lust, annoyance, or embarrassment, or happyness (Because those are funny emotions) and try to guess what they are feeling in response.
The better to win truth / lying games with, my dear.
I really like the animation in this video :D it's very nice and "finished" in a way
You made a contentious statement in the video. You said that people who are honest will mimic the words and behaviors of others, but that is actually a tactic of expert manipulators like practitioners of NLP. It is used to quickly establish false rapport and mind control.
1:34 accepting that you will never feel what other people feel will get you closer to understanding people then pretending to understand them
Thanks for this i have aspergers so i find it hard to read people and react without offending the person or saying something i shouldn’t could you make some videos on that it would be a massive help and how to make friends and just interact with others
wow, this is amazing, now I can read people's emotion much more easily
Yeah, it's not as simple as that unfortunately, but hope this helps!
Thanks a lot because I really need this .
Along with all of these, I also read people by their tone of voice, especially when there's a sudden change in their tone during a conversation.
I have severe anxiety, so I just appear crazy if I'm having a bad day. It sucks
#3 is kind of a self reference. Not ideal to get better in reading people, so it's more like 7 tips?
1:21 To increase your empathy you need good reading skills. [...] Empathy will allow you to read emotions.
what softwares do you use to make this video? Thank you for your interesting videos!
please make a video: how to listen better to other people,become a more active part inthe conversation. PLEASE
Solar Aqier
If they don't make one I can tell you that when I'm in a boring conversation it helps me to look at them and/or try to make it look like you care
The ultimate way to read people is just getting experience being with people, as you spend time with people, you will inevitably get better at reading people.
I knew and used all of this all the time. My friends always ask me how do I do that I'm like you may lie about yourself but your habits don't duh.😂
I use this information so I can be a better at discussing my narcissistic tendencies
You are amazing!
Thank you so much!😊❤❤
Really love the videos! Keep it up!!
Thanks for watching once again!
What happened? 3 years ago you had millions of views and now it’s only a couples thousands... sad because your content are still good
Sometimes ur mind reads these sings but deliberately ignores them, possiblly an inner wish to believe that person though ur brain telling u not to do so.
Empathy i for one don’t care for most until i have learnt the person and have feeling for that person.
About empathy i have it without reading, or learning. Dunno just born with it.
I go off vibes if I feel a bad vibe about you I stay away haven’t failed me yet
I just want to be THAT clever character in a movie, I don't think watching how to oberve people videos in the middle of the night is the right time to cry about it though.
i have a natural abilty to read peoples mind by there facial expression and i can even guess the correct reason for it.especially when there is there are in deep states of there emotions
Cluster A personality disorders?
Sure thing!
I got read by someone ive never talked to before and it was all correct and was so interesting and stuff they absolutley would not know so NOW IM HERE BECAUSE I WANT TO KNOW HOW THEY DID THAT
My gut literally is wrong about everything I trust only my brain for a reason..
i learned how to read ppl ever since i was 10 & i swear each time i got it right. three ppl felt like i knew them so well & asked me how do i always tell how they feel or are hidding-
anywho, this is off topic, but can someone tell me if this "ability if reading ppl" can help me in a career pursuit? im stuck w microbiology & i rly wanna switch majors.
eh
early mornings psychology?
Im a prodigy at this too.
Demonstrate!
(This has nothing to do with the video I just need help lol) In January I got out of a friendship that I'm beginning to believe was toxic for multiple reasons and i was wondering if you could make a video about toxic relationships and if both people in the relationship can be toxic to one another. Because she was very insecure and i felt like i always had to be there for her it caused me to be insecure about myself and feel unimportant. When we fought, she wrote me a note (after ignoring me multiple times and not letting me talk to her) and said how she felt trapped and I was the only one allowed to have feelings when I felt like she thought only she could have feelings. So we're we both toxic to each other or was she just being toxic and trying to make me feel guilty? Thanks because it's been bugging me lately :/
Official GraceFace The guilt-trick always ends all relationships..
Official GraceFace That must be really hard on you. If someone is making you unhappy, it's definitely a good idea to get some distance from them- you don't have to end the friendship; think of it as a little time-out or as becoming less dependent on each other. You can talk about this with your friend, but you can also try to gradually drift away. Concentrate on a hobby or on other friends whilst taking a break from your toxic friendship. In the meantime, you don't have to ignore your friend-say hi in the hallways, have a chat every now and then, but don't think of them as being one of your closer friends. You may rediscover your friendship some time later, or you might go your separate ways. Taking a break might be hard, but I think it's the best thing you can do- you deserve friends who make you feel good about yourself! Stay strong. Also, a friendship can be toxic, and this can come from both sides or one of you, but the people themselves are never toxic, they're just stuck in a bad pattern.
I can believe trusting your gut, but in my personal experience, first impressions aren't an super accurate way to know a person well. But like I said, that's just personal experience and I know that anecdotes by themselves aren't sufficient evidence
Thanks. Useful advises for possible manipulation
I came to this side of RUclips because I know I can read people, I see a person and know theyr whole life story.
If you want to read somebody learn from the best. BIANCA DEL RIO :D
😂😂 yaas
Lol
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I learned this on my own
Do you have a link to the study referenced in #1 (or something in a standard bibliographic format)? Thanks!
I am anxious sweat and pace of only because I have social anxiety. It's not because I hate someone or am not into the conversation
Hi, What do you exactly mean by this:
People who are usually being honest and genuine will mimic your words and actions.
Do you have an example for me? Thanks!
Bro i feel like i suddenly can read people these few days and it's freaking me out how accurate I'm being 😂😂.
About the study quoted on number 1: how did they determine whether the subjects used their brain or their "gut"?
I'm not sure, but they could have them make a decision within a second/instantly/choose whatever they think first, versus giving it thought for 5 or 10 seconds to determine what they think.
I looked it up, and they use the Implicit - association test (IAT).
Here's a link to where you can download the research article: journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797614524421
Thanks for the reference! This will be an interesting read for sure :)
I have two brothers that are deaf and autistic. They can’t say why they are mad or sad when they need to, and they can’t tell you if they are hurting. Over the years you have to learn to recognize the difference between their cry’s, body languages, and attitudes toward different environments, like if they are uncomfortable, gonna have a meltdown, all that jazz. I want to learn more so maybe I could learn more about them. But they can’t speak...😂 now I can read normal people like a champ lmao
I cant even look at people when im talking to them from my autism and social anxiety I just judge them by their tone of voice
So our positive feelings about someone can also create a false impression? So we may assume they like us when they really couldn't care less
Number 9 you burn their souls in the lake of fire and make them confess?
Where is the cc ._. im not good at listening to english lang 😭😭
I am watching
2:54 I'M MR MESEEKS LOOK AT ME
Well I do read their emotions. I easly Identify when they don't like me by there voice but I have lack problem by reading their emotions in there eyes. When you saw of too much emotions in there eyes it makes you feel awkward or too sadness and that's the reason why i don't ever looked someone eyes again.
I have aspbergers so it's very hard for me to read people. I am getting better though. And I don't have a gut instinct. I have to learn through experience.
That jordan phrase got me u got new sumbsciber
Good info👍👍👍👍👍
Idk but I met this guy, never talked to but just made eye contact. His eyes were smiling like it was really wide- idk
This dude just said "sneaker culture" bruuuhh
Thanks 😁👍