He confirmed for me that he is the kind who goes to therapy to be a better manipulator. When learning psychology and coaching, they literally tell you not to diagnose people, especially coaches, as they aren't qualified. And to add, when you get past a certain level, you don't even want to "psychologize" people, as you have a rich understanding of the complexity of human behavior and all the variables that impact it.
Guys don't fall for it, women constantly and consistently practice manipulation tactics, and they will constantly text you, ensuring that there is no moment of peace
@@intellectualsavage431 psychoanalyze- _examine or treat (a person or their behavior) using psychoanalysis._ Reading this comment, did we witness any psychological theories/psychiatric therapy being used... or did we read a judgment? Semantics matter.
I love how Arlette has the ability to appear to remain NEUTRAL when interacting with all her guests. I know it must be hard lol. She treats everyone equally-very professional, yet still personable.
As a Dr I think he's genuinely a good one but in a relationship this is the man you should never wish on your worst enemy. He's most likely a narcissist with low self esteem his achievements still do not feel the void thats why he tries to bring other people down. A person who is secure in themselve never tries to tear others down like he does.
Criticism hits different coming from a higher ground that one cannot fathom coming from a lower level of thinking. He’s being him even though it’s a bit of entertainment coming with it.
I wouldn't want this dude as my dentist. Hell no. Announcing every time you introduce yourself. The 20 year old wasn't even interested in you until she saw $$$. How can you be so dense to not notice that?
@@N.A.M.P. Yeah that's the point most people are making, most of his criticism is not needed. That's why it rubbed a lot of people wrong. He gives off "I'm the potter your the clay" vibes and no one is going for it especially when there are many people today who hop online with "advice" and "Podcasts". A higher level of thinking to me is not being a criminal, being a good citizen, good communication and honesty. Not diagnosing people within minutes and thinking just because they respond differently that they need healing and guidance or they have trauma. I'm not easily impressed by his performance AT ALL, plus his satisfaction with life can mean nothing to the next person or it can look entirely different.
Physician here. I am proud of Dr. Elom’s accomplishments, but I would take his therapy advice and psychoanalysis with a grain of salt. The man is a dentist, not a licensed therapist/psychologist or psychiatrist. A bachelors degree in Psychology also isn’t equivalent, but it’s great that he studied it.
Omg, as an LPC, LMFT, BCBA, thank you !!! People crack me up with the I have a Bachelors in psychology. Ummm, babe, no. There's 2.5 to 3 years of schooling in a specific CLINICAL MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELING program; after that, you must complete 600 hrs of practicum, the NCE(which 3.45 hours) and then 3000 hours of supervision b4 being deemed "FULLY" licensed.
This I agree with..I do raise an eye brow when he brings up that he has a bachelor in psychology... that kind of position takes wayy more to be legibly certified.
Psychology doesn’t mean anything….It’s not a real thing. Having a license from white people doesn’t make you any more educated in this than someone who doesn’t. lol If you’re a real doctor or dentist yeah it matters, but not for this. Any intelligent, thoughtful person can counsel someone.
The most attractive qualities in any person are humility and kindness. You can have everything else, but if you're missing these things, it means nothing.
So true. Because when you feel kindness, openness, warmth - it's natural to want to reciprocate that back. It's contagious. It's a shock to the system when you offer this and don't get it back from a person. I imagine Dr. Elom leaves that shock to a lot of women he encounters who are charmed by his initial appearance.
he preaches “authenticity” but when the slim girl was authentic and confident in her appearance (and didn’t want to alter her body for anyone else), he shut her down and said so many negative many things about her
Yes!!! And it wasn’t about her being insecure, it was about his (along with some of the other men in line) ego being hurt to see a woman not ready to alter the superficial for their validation or pleasure. Gave narcissistic vibes if you ask me…lol
Right, like the first episode he's in when you first see him, it's like DAAAAMMMMMN! (raising tone), then he starts belitting others and telling them that they're insecure and it's like.......daaaaaaahhmn (low tone).
@TJJewett yes!!! He was so damn sexy. Like fantasy sexy lol but you can tell he's a narc. I need God to make my man sexy like Dr. Elom but with a different spirit.
He's the type that wants you to apologize for his rudeness. And calls you difficult and angry when you're trying to express yourself. He gives off "calm down" when you're already calm but uses that to manipulate you into thinking you're the problem, the "angry argumentative type" 😒🙄🙄 ugggh I've dated his type before.
YES!!! Narcissists love to say “ calm down “ or “ im sorry you feel that way “ zero empathy at all, it’s always about them, this is just bringing back flashbacks!
@@Venusmoon33 Nobody should be made to feel that way. It burns me up. But I'm glad it's in your past to be considered a flashback. I pray you continue to heal. ❤️
Dr. Elom ended up being friends with the young lady he matched with because he realized she was the actual liability. He said in this interview they were both in different places in life so they decided to be friends. Sir. You couldn’t decipher that from the initial conversation you two had when she told you she was still getting her education and would want a man to show up for her financially? What could she teach you at 21? How could she add to you when she’s still in college and has so much more of life to experience? Keep going to therapy Dr. Elom…you need some more breakthroughs 🚩🚩🚩🚩
He exactly only picked her because the show was ending and he wanted to compete with his cousin who was chosen first. At that point, who was going to match with someone, because how dare the none doctor get picked...😅
l@@Summer_li53 women hate men they cant manipulate lol he worked for his doctorate he should brag...when yall have yall lash tech business that makes five dollars a year we hear about it everyday. let that man be great lol
I would too! It's a lot of work and dedication to actually get through dental school in this world, and he's black in America! And to come outside to be played with?! No, I'm a Dr! That's it, that's all 😂
@@supernovagirl777lmao it’s not applicable to a dating show scenario, plus this man speciality is teeth, he gotta stick w that. I took general psychology, total wellness, and anatomy. That doesn’t mean imma analyze my server at a restaurant life story and be like “wanna date” after 💀
He is sickeningly insecure. He is a DENTIST . In addition, NO ONE who can call herself a doctor need to use the title in a dating scenario like this. He is the same type of guy who complains about women who are golddiggers only wanting them for their money. They wear their title on their face like this when they know they have nothing decent to offer.😂
Yeah, I said the same thing, including that I don't believe that he is a doctor/dentist; more like a patient of a doctor. Something is wrong with him. Remember that some people are simply dishonest or fabricate stories about their occupation in order to command respect. But for him he is WICKED, 100%.
Therapy is not for making you a good person lol. Y’all be so loud and so wrong. Therapy is for helping you figure out what type of person you are and being more intentional with your decision in life to find peace and happiness. Whatever that looks like for you? Therapy don’t change people. People them self change their ways. If you are going to therapy and your therapist is trying to change you. I think you need a new therapist.
you notice he stalls when he gets asked about himself; he did that with the previous episode. i learned in psychology that narcissists will usually stall/ dislike when people ask about their lives because narcissists are not actually confident; they’re only painting themselves to seem confident. so when you ask them those kinds on questions that puts them in the spot, they stall because they’re thinking of ways to answer that without giving away the “flaws” they see with themselves. they want to have a perfect impression on people, and the way to do that is to hide their insecurities and things they dislike about themselves- that way, they think they have a higher ground against you because “they’re perfect” and you’re not. that makes them feel like they have control over you.
You forgot to add that NPD is actually hard to diagnose as many of the symptoms are very similar to other disorders. Also, only a psychiatrist can make the determination of NPD. However, I do like your listed observation’s.
Him wearing the liability shirt shows his character. But I really want to hear the conversation between him and the lady in the green in the different episode.
Dr. Iyala Vanzant once said, "If people from different backgrounds, places, religions and ages all tell you the same thing about you......people ain't the problem." I don't think he is there for love. I believe he wants to launch his life coach stuff, because there is no way a person can ask you what you look for in a woman and your reply be: "Okay, ladies there are 3 things you can do and a man would never be able to let you go." Woo chile, drained all the life out of the room......every episode. Migraine! I kept thinking....why does she keep taking young ladies through the agony? I just want to know why????😆😆😆😆
Oh yeah, from germany here. ✌️I could smell the n vibes from here. 😅He could be a very good case study at uni for personality disorder, such as n, but it would be the shortest essay ever,cause sooo obvious😂
There’s no surprise he is 38, tall, handsome, but still single. Run, girls, run! He’s not worth it. He will manipulate you and crush your ego to feed his.
@@teelove4443how do you know it’s vomit worthy if you’ve never heard of it? Your parents should be sorry to have done the world the disservice of making you exist.
What I've gathered from the last video and this one, I feel like I would not be able to be myself in his presence. From the last video he labeled people within minutes and did not allow people to own their own emotions or self image. And then when they wouldn't budge or didn't react in the way he wanted he said they needed healing ect ect. Basically breaks you down, gaslights you, and then tries to rebuild you the way he wants it. That's what I got from it. He also seems very sneaky and would use sensitive information about you to use against you in the future.
Imagine watching this and seeing your dentist refer to you as “ignorant” - you’ve literally just said some people struggle due to self esteem issues and fears surrounding the dentist and then you’re just like “yeh they’re all stupid”. This man thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread. Loves the sound of his own voice and the type of person I’d disassociate from during a conversation
Patient are very ignorant and being ignorant is not an insult. This is why we go to an expert when we get sick. You can’t treat yourself. We are all ignorant to something. I like software and I programmed. I am very ignorant to hardware.
@@Mya_water Men constantly look to other men to mimic in hopes of getting access to cheeks to win arguments or to look smart. That's why they can't understand why it's so easy for us to say no, not be impressed or to walk away easily because they are literally carbon copies of each other.
The way he speaks confirms that he truly knows how to make successful decisions. Liabilities must be confronted because they will ruin your journey. It is your to you to be selective and sure as to what you want!
I agree! The thing that is super annoying about folks like him is that they're not attracted to people like themselves because they also want to drain someone in a relationship too, so they dislike each other. Those type also don't like each other because no one is able to stroke that unstable ego, in an unhealthy way, for a long period of time. Too exhausting for them. They want someone who is normal about caring for other people's feelings, which is something he is unable to do. It is so bizarre!!!!
okay since you interviewed him to say his peace, interview his match, I really want to see what she has to say about him. Because he definitely speaking down about her, she has the right to defend her character.
I was thinking the same, this whole “we decided to be friends” is probably BS. The girl probably finally saw through him and ran for the hills. And she’s probably so traumatized that she refused to do the ‘catching up with the matches” thing ; so they decided to do a “getting to know” episode about him.
@@carmensandiego4270 he got the nyash already that's all he wanted from the young girl, she was a money digger and he don't want that kind a liability so they do the friends stuff , the other guy was so interested they couldve worked it out
That girl he called a liability was in her early 20’s. Him talking about her inability to listen as a 38 yr old man, is wicked work. She should’ve never peaked your interest in the first place. He’s so cheesy.
To own multiples homes and have passive streams of income as an Airbnb host is a huge accomplishment for a person her age. And I love that she said her father taught her to be self sufficient. Plus unlike him, she was so humble and sweet you wouldn’t even know she had such accomplishments behind her name. He low key seemed intimidated by that young girl
@@brittany-trfhere’s the thing everyone with success does not have to be humble. I watched the other episodes with women and there no where near as accomplished as him or as attractive as they think they where and they where way more disrespectful.
This man is a dentist, yet acts like he is a highly successful top surgeon/cardiologist or a Psychiatrist/Psychology…. Having a degree does not mean he should speak to strangers like he is giving them sessions and gaslighting them. He clearly learned nothing in therapy and definitely does not take accountability for his actions and words. He still has red flags. 🚩 🚩 Matter of fact, he is the 🚩.
I mean I can see where his arrogance comes from as he is 1 of only 2-3% of black doctors. He's at the top of the food chain. I'm a 3rd year dental student, myself, but I don't interact with people in the manner he does. It is kind of weird.
@@Beardown2 you made a fair point. I’m glad you are different. I have many medical doctors, nurses and lawyers in my family… for some reasons majority do not behave this arrogantly. Thank God for that. However, I have met many medical doctors who are very arrogant.
@@MariamsadventureI hate arrogance/condescending in people it drives me crazy. He is also very annoying. It is all about him and his unsolicited advices like he knows people no wonder he still single at his age. Pride comes before the fall. He is a know it all but knows nothing actually. He is whack who needs real self healing and therapy for himself first and foremost. I can ever be near that energy. He projects his own insecurities on people smh. Who does he think he is smh. He is very gaslighting, disrespectful, doesn’t listen to others, invalidates people’s experiences/feelings, and very passive aggressive. I hope no woman comes across him. He would be the one to emotionally and psychologically abuse his partner I can’t unsee it.
It is hard to maintain a persona like he has. I would think that his therapy that he goes too is to find ways to deceive more people but at the same time, he needs advice on how to not let it drain him. This will never work bc you can’t put negative energy out in the world and get positive back. Also, I never met an arrogant person who is happy
It’s amazing to me how someone can be so into mental health and yoga, even talking calmly. But still be so unhinged and problematic. He’s not a good person but he does everything good people should do. I know he’s a narcissist but there has to be another word for these kinda people. I studied psychology…there’s a lot going on with him. I think at the core it’s one thing…that I’ve seen in the comments a lot. 😅
yea def comes off as having actual NPD and maybe that's why it comes across as odd... he isn't being evil probably, but he truly just operates like this naturally. actual ppl with NPD don't behave like how see "narcissists". They also live usually a normal and decent life or even are very successful (because they are self-serving in a charming way).
@@tesegan6420 I really can’t comprehend what you’re trying to say. But if you’re in defense of him being a narcissist that’s fine, however he is showing narcissistic signs in his public person. Thats something I know for sure.
It’s a red flag to me that he’s this handsome, a doctor, tall, and single? There’s definitely something wrong with him if he has all that and he’s still single.
I don’t blame him, but being humble isn’t a bad thing either, because if someone acts like they know everything which is a definition of arrogance, that to me makes a person hard to deal with. But for Dr. Elom? Bro just became a passport bro😂😂 I’m 21 by the way, so don’t give me smoke please 🙏 still learning here😅😂.
What exactly did he say that was insulting? I watched that vid 3 times and he just kept it real...brutal honesty isn't sum everyone can manage but he was in no way shape or form rude or disrespectful.
He say he would fly her out for first date the girl was so excited because she wants a doctor and to finance her career he just want some time with her he got it now, man like his age without kids and wife is a SELFISH person and all about him, when he is older he prolly settle
@@angelisrivera4704you misread it. They’re aren’t saying he’s only a dentist as in the practice/career itself is nothing, they’re saying he’s SOLELY a dentist and there’s nothing else to him, just the fact that he’s a dentist.
@@angelisrivera4704that’s why they said he literally has nothing else to talk about, he leads with his career, and it gives him the validation he needs lol
I can see why he's single. He doesn't really know people skills when it comes to the opposite sex. Although he's very smart and educated and I get where he's coming from most of the time, a lot of stuff he said to the girls is not what you want to say during a first impression or a first date. Things he was saying should be gradually eased in throughout dating someone. Therefore, he came off really arrogant
@@TikiLemonhe’s still over 40 and single. Just goes to show that personality wins at the end of the day. You can have a first date and still be stuck single as he has proven with the teenage girl he matched with 😂
He definitely did that to out boast the other guy that wanted her. Which is why “for a first date” he went way beyond what the other guy said, even though the other guy was more realistic😂
@@Hamza_Qureshi0027 yeah I was confused that no one cared except for Anthony that a 38 yr old was trying to show off to someone that could be his daughter
@@meneedmoneyby definition, the girl he chose would be a liability. The girl he was condescending was a owner of multiple property’s and an Airbnb host. She could potentially be making the same amount of money as him AND it’s passive income and she’s almost half his age. On top of that unlike him, she’s humble to the extent you wouldn’t even guess she was so accomplished. He was rude to her because he was jealous, it couldn’t have possible been that she’d be a liability.
He’s very attractive. And he’s only 38 the fact he is not married with no kids doesn’t mean he is gay. It means he has prioritised his career. I wish more black people would understand the importance of academic sacrifice comes at a cost.
Bull! Most women can't deal with a narcissist. Nobody likes a know it all. His ass is higher than his nose. He shows 0 humility. Screw his looks, age, money, and career. There are plenty of young black wealthy professionals that have found love before 38.
@@Fallon922 Thats true. ignorance is the absence of knowledge. He is there to educate his patients. Thats just a really shit thing to say. Im a lawyer and most people dont know the law like I do. I dont call my clients names and denigrate them.
when he was in the dating element of the show - you can tell he bases his whole identity on his being a dentist. not very humble. i have a family member who works in the field, and this guy would be a nightmare to work with. he has superiority complex. he needs a very alpha female to knock him down a few notches. and also - you don't need to call yourself DR when you're being introduced to people. i have friends in the medical profession and they sure as hell don't pull that business when first meeting people. it's so cringey when people do that!
So when women called themselves doctors it is not a problem but men do it they should be humble? Secondly why does he need an Alpha woman to knock him down a few notches? It is because he knows how to check modern women? Get it through your head. No one wants an unruly wannabe alpha woman.
He is mentally crazy honestly he so disrespectful brings women down. Who raised him? He is such a narcissist, cocky, and controlling person. Never would wish him on my worst enemy.
Dr. Elom is Ghanaian-American with Ghanaian upbringing. Which means he is extremely picky. Most men from Ghana are just like Dr. Elom except Dr. Elom is a little bit to raw and ruthless.
Tbh every single thing he said is right on. Authenticity and being true to oneself initially is always the best move. I would love to have a conversation with this man just to see how his brain works.
He is going to have a very hard time finding someone. Mentally he isn't all there and he is difficult. He tries to appear normal and stable but I sense that hidden perfect persona is really deep depression.
Interesting, could explain why he felt the need to introduce himself as Dr. That's his entire identity, I wonder if he is truly like this or if he's using this platform for other purposes.
@@luzluna6808I’m having a hard time believing he is an actual Dr. he doesn’t seem one. He is very unprofessional and very condescending. I hope every women he comes across runs the other way around. No women wants a person like him. He honestly scares him I can’t imagine seeing him in a relationship. He would be the one to psychologically and emotionally abuse his partner. I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy.
A DENTIST?! Would've SWORN he was a therapist. Also, note after he told us what he does professionally, he fell silent. He really identifies himself as "doctor". People, you are not your career. If you lose your career TOMORROW, would you know who you TRULY ARE??
Thank you for offering your wisdom and support for those who need it and don’t know it. Communication and understanding on an adult level is not always delivered nor received. Active listening has become a dying art. Now conversations are simply about turning each other’s words into an argument filled with insults and disrespect. Kindness has “left the building”. Thank you for inviting intelligence and integrity into the picture and our awareness so we can stop accepting anything less.
The chic that was in the military was about to eat him up. She said” you’re 38, never married and a doctor, what’s wrong with you” he knew she was about to dig deeper so he switched the conversation. He thought that he was gonna get in her head but he couldn’t.
I don’t believe he’s peaceful at all. I think he’s filled with rage. The way he read that woman in the initial clip was intense. He was breathy, slowed speech, and intense eye contact. He exposed himself saying he doesn’t accept what doesn’t fit him, but used yeah against the woman in the initial video. His critique of her didn’t land as constructive. He’s using therapy as if there’s a final destination that equals healed.
It’s a dating show. A show to find love. If someone is not for you then let that be known and keep it moving. You don’t have to psychoanalyze, belittle, or demean anyone. Those young women he tried to offer therapy to didn’t come there for that and they were young. All young people need therapy if we take Dr.Elom’s stance. He’s a good looking, intelligent, successful black man and kudos to him for that but all those things (to me) were overshadowed by his antagonistic and condescending tone. I agree some of those women were liabilities to him but again leave it at that. He should’ve known from her age alone that she was a liability. There is no life experience with a 21 year old dating a 38 year old unless you are willing to deal with what comes with dating a 21 year old. She didn’t have to listen to him. He was there entertaining her and him in the end choosing a 21 year old said a lot about him for me. He contradicted himself with his choice so what was the point of then”liability” talk. He still chose a liability. Just one willing to spend his money to continue to better herself.
He's not there for love. I think he is there to start building a life coaching platform for himself.Because when he was asked what he was looking for in a woman....who in the world answers: "Ok, ladies there are 3 things that you can do for a man and he will never be able to let you go." LOL!!
I'm really glad Arletta interviewed him. I still believe he has some "toxic tendencies" but I also believe we are seeing/meeting a better version of Dr. Elom compared to how he might have been before going through tons of therapy. Credit where credit is due, he has probably put a lot of effort and time into his own personal growth.
If one thing he has been is consistent with his personality ( like him or not). I'm sure there is a lady out there who would get him and be able to deal with his personality. By the way, ladies, we must do better with the disrespectful comments. Refrain from throwing rocks when your ceiling might made of glass. We are quick to feel some way when criticized or commented on certain aspects. Idk why you all feel comfortable doing someone else like that, especially not knowing the person personally or their whole story. I do not know this man, but you never know how your words might affect someone for life. Lead by example !!!
Dr Elom trying to do damage control in the interview 🤣 One look at his tiktok comments shows me that he deletes the bad comments anyways 😂 it's full of admirers, while on youtube the comments are critical. Just imagine him deleting comments all day 😂
Okay to be honest I get it we all don’t like this guy episodes but I this particular one, everything he did say makes sense and very true. I do agree with it.
I gave him so much credit for being a doctor... The dentist thing and him actually making a T shirt... I feel bamboozled. (Adding this after watching the whole segment.) He is not used to getting attention, was probably bullied and or rejected in his youth and uses the Dr. title to back up his passive aggressive bullying of people who may not be as smart as him... Cornball.
“I’m Dr Elom”, should bury his cocky, narcissist deluded head in shame for picking on a 22yo. It’s no wonder he is single & on a dating show at 38 Kaila if you see this, not only are you beautiful with an amazing body & a great voice, your energy is contagious. Keep learning girl and keep growing. Your soul mate is out there
Wouldn’t I want a shirt that calls me an Asset? This lady is petty and I ain’t talking about Arlette. Ladies and gentlemen date him to your own detriment. Discernment is important.
Dentistry and psychology are not the same. And a Bachelor in psychology doesn't make you a psychologist. He has no credibility. I don't think the people loved him. Can he get therapy himself? Coaching and therapy are not the same.
New subscriber here 👋🏾 I’ve only seen a few clips of this show, mostly featuring the good Dr. Elom. I think he’s great. He’s definitely self assured and self aware. Very smart, articulate, professionally successful. I love his intensity and confidence or as commenters like to call it, arrogance 🥲 From the little that I’ve seen, I think the girls are afraid to be rejected by him so they pop their balloon 1st before he has the opportunity to reject them. He’s probably not into astrology but I suspect it’s going to take a fire sign to be able to tango with him. And I know he probably wants a 25 year old, but someone like him is going to need to go older. At least 35. Wishing him the best of luck 🖤
In ep 2 he kept his balloon un-popped for the 20yr old in the army. An 18 yr age gap is insane... lowkey a predator. He loves women who are easy to manipulate. He IS arrogant and a narcissist as well. It's no wonder why at 38, a seemingly respectable, handsome, financially stable, and learned man is single🫠 I really do believe that you've only see a little of him, else you'd know he's one to beware of. But all the same, best of luck to him.
He did not need his own episode. He already took over the last one.
😂😂😂😂😂
Girl 😂 I literally didn't reach half way
@@mwilamwizathe last part was hilarious. Him and the other guy were battling for oh girl that came in last. It was funny!
that's exactly what I thought when I saw the thumbnail 😂
Right
He confirmed for me that he is the kind who goes to therapy to be a better manipulator. When learning psychology and coaching, they literally tell you not to diagnose people, especially coaches, as they aren't qualified. And to add, when you get past a certain level, you don't even want to "psychologize" people, as you have a rich understanding of the complexity of human behavior and all the variables that impact it.
THISSSS!!!!
"He goes to therapy to be a better manipulator." Sounds like you're trying to psychoanalyze someone you don't even know.
Guys don't fall for it, women constantly and consistently practice manipulation tactics, and they will constantly text you, ensuring that there is no moment of peace
Uep as a psychotherapist I don't even like making dx. And I don't like when people in my personal life try to rope me into their stuff
@@intellectualsavage431 psychoanalyze- _examine or treat (a person or their behavior) using psychoanalysis._
Reading this comment, did we witness any psychological theories/psychiatric therapy being used... or did we read a judgment? Semantics matter.
His laugh is the one you hear in your dreams coming behind a closed door and you wake up immediately sweating and panicking 😂
I had the video paused and pressed play again after reading this comment as he was laughing and bust out dying 😭😭😭
U bust out laughin😂😂??r@@cortneyanderson4497
Hahahahahaaaa....
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I laughed so hard 😂😂😂😂😂
I love how Arlette has the ability to appear to remain NEUTRAL when interacting with all her guests. I know it must be hard lol. She treats everyone equally-very professional, yet still personable.
I will admit she does treat both parties equal.
Is she not meant to ask difficult and controversial questions and just be blunt/direct and yet respectful?
she’s GREAT at her job 😭😭
I agree
Yes the host is very professional yet very personable as well.
As a Dr I think he's genuinely a good one but in a relationship this is the man you should never wish on your worst enemy. He's most likely a narcissist with low self esteem his achievements still do not feel the void thats why he tries to bring other people down. A person who is secure in themselve never tries to tear others down like he does.
Criticism hits different coming from a higher ground that one cannot fathom coming from a lower level of thinking.
He’s being him even though it’s a bit of entertainment coming with it.
I wouldn't want this dude as my dentist. Hell no. Announcing every time you introduce yourself. The 20 year old wasn't even interested in you until she saw $$$. How can you be so dense to not notice that?
@@N.A.M.P. Yeah that's the point most people are making, most of his criticism is not needed. That's why it rubbed a lot of people wrong. He gives off "I'm the potter your the clay" vibes and no one is going for it especially when there are many people today who hop online with "advice" and "Podcasts". A higher level of thinking to me is not being a criminal, being a good citizen, good communication and honesty. Not diagnosing people within minutes and thinking just because they respond differently that they need healing and guidance or they have trauma. I'm not easily impressed by his performance AT ALL, plus his satisfaction with life can mean nothing to the next person or it can look entirely different.
@@BloodLeopard-rm8wg
Public meets Private
@@N.A.M.P. Who is a higher ground? The person giving unsolicited advice and psychoanalyzing people on a fun show?
He seems like the kind of guy that would control his woman in every aspect of life .
What to eat and where. What OBYN or doctor. What clothes to put on.
literally 🤦🏻♀️ bro probably listens to andrew tate
Hell, I’m wondering if he even wants to control women. It might be the opposite gender he wants to control….
Physician here. I am proud of Dr. Elom’s accomplishments, but I would take his therapy advice and psychoanalysis with a grain of salt. The man is a dentist, not a licensed therapist/psychologist or psychiatrist. A bachelors degree in Psychology also isn’t equivalent, but it’s great that he studied it.
Omg, as an LPC, LMFT, BCBA, thank you !!! People crack me up with the I have a Bachelors in psychology. Ummm, babe, no. There's 2.5 to 3 years of schooling in a specific CLINICAL MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELING program; after that, you must complete 600 hrs of practicum, the NCE(which 3.45 hours) and then 3000 hours of supervision b4 being deemed "FULLY" licensed.
Thank you!
This I agree with..I do raise an eye brow when he brings up that he has a bachelor in psychology... that kind of position takes wayy more to be legibly certified.
Psychology doesn’t mean anything….It’s not a real thing. Having a license from white people doesn’t make you any more educated in this than someone who doesn’t. lol If you’re a real doctor or dentist yeah it matters, but not for this. Any intelligent, thoughtful person can counsel someone.
this.. in his original lineups I’m like.. why is he being put on a pedestal? he works on teeth?
The therapist who’s not married & no kids but know what everybody else problems are
And was on the same show as the women he was judging as if he’s better, and the oldest in the lineup 😂. Crazy work this man is doing.
@@coco_ryann5955 literally!
So basically he's an auntie LMAO
Why would a married man w kids be on a dating show? 🤔🤔🤔
He's not even a therapist. He's a dentist lol
The most attractive qualities in any person are humility and kindness. You can have everything else, but if you're missing these things, it means nothing.
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So true. Because when you feel kindness, openness, warmth - it's natural to want to reciprocate that back. It's contagious. It's a shock to the system when you offer this and don't get it back from a person. I imagine Dr. Elom leaves that shock to a lot of women he encounters who are charmed by his initial appearance.
I agree
he preaches “authenticity” but when the slim girl was authentic and confident in her appearance (and didn’t want to alter her body for anyone else), he shut her down and said so many negative many things about her
This is what they should’ve addressed
Yes!!! And it wasn’t about her being insecure, it was about his (along with some of the other men in line) ego being hurt to see a woman not ready to alter the superficial for their validation or pleasure. Gave narcissistic vibes if you ask me…lol
@@jadalashawn4839 EXACTLY
@@GroceryIsleVixen literally bro
of all the disturbing things in that video, this was one of the most bothersome n fucked up. dude is red pilled, and the other guys LOVED it
Well, well...If it isn't the unsolicited therapist 😂
The one that u would still date
@@Rikolugga12 YOU think he is a catch he is clearly YOUR type
😂😂😂😂
😂😂 @mwilamwiza your comment made me laugh out loud!
@@Morgan-mq7zbBadd 🤦🏾♂️
He loves to hear himself talk, and he exhausted all of us!!
😂😂😂
not all of is i actually like him
Doesnt even let Arlette finish her sentence at times annoying
Even the way this man sits irritates me lol... my spirit nuh tek to him at alllll
🇯🇲🇯🇲🤣
A that mi a seh tuh😂
😂😂 woiiii mi belly
Annoying bad 🙄
A mi fi tell yuh. Him just irrigate mi soul suh, cho
His attractiveness fades with each word that comes out of his mouth
Right, like the first episode he's in when you first see him, it's like DAAAAMMMMMN! (raising tone), then he starts belitting others and telling them that they're insecure and it's like.......daaaaaaahhmn (low tone).
@TJJewett yes!!! He was so damn sexy. Like fantasy sexy lol but you can tell he's a narc. I need God to make my man sexy like Dr. Elom but with a different spirit.
@@sixteen.candles.4644 💯 heavy on with a different spirit.
@@TJJewett 😂😂😂😂right.
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He's the type that wants you to apologize for his rudeness. And calls you difficult and angry when you're trying to express yourself. He gives off "calm down" when you're already calm but uses that to manipulate you into thinking you're the problem, the "angry argumentative type" 😒🙄🙄 ugggh I've dated his type before.
Girl me too, still healing❤️🩹
@MsJellybean1111, I'm sorry you experienced that love 😔. I wish for nothing but happiness, clarity, and complete healing on your journey.
YES!!! Narcissists love to say “ calm down “ or “ im sorry you feel that way “ zero empathy at all, it’s always about them, this is just bringing back flashbacks!
@@Venusmoon33 Nobody should be made to feel that way. It burns me up. But I'm glad it's in your past to be considered a flashback. I pray you continue to heal. ❤️
A classic Narcissist.
Him being a traveling dentist makes sense. Given his off-putting personality, I can't imagine him staying employed anywhere long.
😂😂these comments are cheering me up when I had not such a great day lmao
sassy all day at work 😂
A traveling dentist? That makes sense.
@@ricorich7043😂😂not sassy 💁🏾♂️🤣🤣🤣 yooooo
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Dr. Elom ended up being friends with the young lady he matched with because he realized she was the actual liability. He said in this interview they were both in different places in life so they decided to be friends. Sir. You couldn’t decipher that from the initial conversation you two had when she told you she was still getting her education and would want a man to show up for her financially? What could she teach you at 21? How could she add to you when she’s still in college and has so much more of life to experience? Keep going to therapy Dr. Elom…you need some more breakthroughs 🚩🚩🚩🚩
I said the same thing lmaoo… that was already deciphered on the show. He was trying to get some buns but she prolly changed her mind 😂
I was thinking the same. I honestly think his ego would be bruised if he didn't leave the show with someone.
He exactly only picked her because the show was ending and he wanted to compete with his cousin who was chosen first. At that point, who was going to match with someone, because how dare the none doctor get picked...😅
lol, you mean a 20 yo is in a different place in life as a 38 yo dentist? Wtf did he expect?? That’s crazy.
@@MiraDianeTV right. Exactly
As a therapist the only people that attend therapy 3xweek usually have a personality disorder ( BPD, narcissism, etc.)
Damn 😂
Exactly. He ABSOLUTELY has a personality disorder.
EXACTLY‼️😑
😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
Yup
The liability shirt is insane 😭😭😭
Really giving sociopath
He said that to 20 or 21 year old young lady after he’d popped his called her that .
Didn’t he call another woman a liability and that’s why he couldn’t be with her? Lol
@@selfcare7200yeah and it was the real estate woman lol the irony
like huh
He uses "I'm a doctor" to win all arguments LMAO!!!
did you watch the full interview before you typed this?
l@@Summer_li53 women hate men they cant manipulate lol he worked for his doctorate he should brag...when yall have yall lash tech business that makes five dollars a year we hear about it everyday. let that man be great lol
And girls
I would too! It's a lot of work and dedication to actually get through dental school in this world, and he's black in America! And to come outside to be played with?! No, I'm a Dr! That's it, that's all 😂
@@supernovagirl777lmao it’s not applicable to a dating show scenario, plus this man speciality is teeth, he gotta stick w that. I took general psychology, total wellness, and anatomy. That doesn’t mean imma analyze my server at a restaurant life story and be like “wanna date” after 💀
The guy that never forgot to remind us that he's a doctor. 😂
And how many degrees he has. Real doctors don't act this way.
He is sickeningly insecure. He is a DENTIST .
In addition, NO ONE who can call herself a doctor need to use the title in a dating scenario like this. He is the same type of guy who complains about women who are golddiggers only wanting them for their money. They wear their title on their face like this when they know they have nothing decent to offer.😂
Great career but he's all downhill from there.😐
@@pkp6791🎯
what i find wild is that hes a dentist, at that! The term doctor is used to flippantly on social media it's irritating and dangerous
In my opinion the girl he chose was way more of a liability than the girl he actually called a liability
Exactly she literally asked if he could be a provider lok
bc thats what he wanted. he didnt actually want a strong independent woman, he wanted one that would cling to him
He was scared of going home empty handed. So he settled for the last shot😂
I haven’t heard everything but his top says Liability 🙈
lol agreed. I think he just wanted to get off the show.
Spent years in therapy and STILL WICKED 😂😂 I am cracking up 😭😭😭
loool
he’s a very wicked human being. nonsense
To rahtid 😒
Yeah, I said the same thing, including that I don't believe that he is a doctor/dentist; more like a patient of a doctor. Something is wrong with him. Remember that some people are simply dishonest or fabricate stories about their occupation in order to command respect. But for him he is WICKED, 100%.
Therapy is not for making you a good person lol. Y’all be so loud and so wrong. Therapy is for helping you figure out what type of person you are and being more intentional with your decision in life to find peace and happiness. Whatever that looks like for you? Therapy don’t change people. People them self change their ways. If you are going to therapy and your therapist is trying to change you. I think you need a new therapist.
Who introduces themselves as Dr. in a social setting???
you notice he stalls when he gets asked about himself; he did that with the previous episode. i learned in psychology that narcissists will usually stall/ dislike when people ask about their lives because narcissists are not actually confident; they’re only painting themselves to seem confident. so when you ask them those kinds on questions that puts them in the spot, they stall because they’re thinking of ways to answer that without giving away the “flaws” they see with themselves. they want to have a perfect impression on people, and the way to do that is to hide their insecurities and things they dislike about themselves- that way, they think they have a higher ground against you because “they’re perfect” and you’re not. that makes them feel like they have control over you.
YOU SAID NOTHING INACCURATE.
You forgot to add that NPD is actually hard to diagnose as many of the symptoms are very similar to other disorders. Also, only a psychiatrist can make the determination of NPD. However, I do like your listed observation’s.
Alot of people will pause to talk about themselves lol nothing new they're, leave the diagnostics to HIS therapist..
Thanks.
Common sense 😉
Nailed it !!
I actually experienced the opposite,: they can't stop rambling about themselves!
Him wearing the liability shirt shows his character.
But I really want to hear the conversation between him and the lady in the green in the different episode.
Both him and that lady were made for each other… I’d love to see a dialogue between them myself… 2 most stuck up individuals 😂😂😂
@@coolestafrican1444 Honestly, that needs to happen!!
Either it’ll be a good match or they’ll destroy each other 🥴
Seeing him and Adanna have a convo and possibly pair up would be perfect! Their snooty ass’s belong together.
That would be legendary!
Dr. Iyala Vanzant once said, "If people from different backgrounds, places, religions and ages all tell you the same thing about you......people ain't the problem." I don't think he is there for love. I believe he wants to launch his life coach stuff, because there is no way a person can ask you what you look for in a woman and your reply be: "Okay, ladies there are 3 things you can do and a man would never be able to let you go." Woo chile, drained all the life out of the room......every episode. Migraine! I kept thinking....why does she keep taking young ladies through the agony? I just want to know why????😆😆😆😆
Well sait😂
Oh yeah, from germany here. ✌️I could smell the n vibes from here. 😅He could be a very good case study at uni for personality disorder, such as n, but it would be the shortest essay ever,cause sooo obvious😂
i saw a few clips from him from the show and was literally terrified. this is the type of man you run from!
Yes!!!
Isn't this Station about establishing relationship between two(2) not that of one (1)....
Where is Elom's partner...???
LOSERS...😢😮😅
Gotta admit though, his prize statement was on point 🎯
🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️
There’s no surprise he is 38, tall, handsome, but still single. Run, girls, run! He’s not worth it. He will manipulate you and crush your ego to feed his.
Dated a guy like him. Not worth the headache trust me.
Are you a dude🤔
@@teelove4443yes and?
^ ever heard of a gay man ???? Lord 🤦🏽♀️
@@xKouture Nope! Never in my life 🤮
@@teelove4443how do you know it’s vomit worthy if you’ve never heard of it? Your parents should be sorry to have done the world the disservice of making you exist.
If "trust me, im a doctor" was a person
😫🤣💀
What I've gathered from the last video and this one, I feel like I would not be able to be myself in his presence. From the last video he labeled people within minutes and did not allow people to own their own emotions or self image. And then when they wouldn't budge or didn't react in the way he wanted he said they needed healing ect ect. Basically breaks you down, gaslights you, and then tries to rebuild you the way he wants it. That's what I got from it. He also seems very sneaky and would use sensitive information about you to use against you in the future.
That’s the manipulation he plays.
This!!!
Right if he reading ppl down in minutes imagine being open and vulnerable with him
I agree with you
A walking and talking red flag. I mean, Dr. Red flag.
im not even going to watch the video just here for the comments
Same
Same here! He's annoying.
Same
Same lol this man worked my nerves the entire show.
Right he honestly disgusts me
Knowing him more makes me see why he is stays single.
Bro needs to be more accepting of other people.
Let him stay Single fire er, my god. That's the best for every womon outside.
Imagine watching this and seeing your dentist refer to you as “ignorant” - you’ve literally just said some people struggle due to self esteem issues and fears surrounding the dentist and then you’re just like “yeh they’re all stupid”. This man thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread. Loves the sound of his own voice and the type of person I’d disassociate from during a conversation
I disassociated halfway through the interview 😅
I don't believe that he is dentist/doctor. But I do believe he is a patient of a doctor. Mentally something is wrong.
@@epp.5593dude is a dentist
Patient are very ignorant and being ignorant is not an insult. This is why we go to an expert when we get sick. You can’t treat yourself. We are all ignorant to something. I like software and I programmed. I am very ignorant to hardware.
Thats why he is a travelling dentist.
Noone would want him for a 2nd appointment.
He’s such a corn ball. He wants you to “ listen” while he insults you. He is a mess!!
Right! Very rude sassy sarcastic he brags a lot I just can’t
nah he's dope lmaooo i like how he spars...he destroys his opponent
So your speaking and not listening
No hes not😂, you just hate the truth, n being held accountable for your silly ass
😂😂😂😂 omg that comment killed me
Bro acts like he is so confident and wise yet he constantly feels the need to prove every one of his qualities. He is an insecure man
Still sassy as hell.
All the men in the comments crushing on him
@@Mya_water not all. Some people see through the bs.
This man is still a liability. He would lil boy any man or woman who tries to date him.
Yeah homie a little soft. Im guessing he likes men
@@Mya_water Men constantly look to other men to mimic in hopes of getting access to cheeks to win arguments or to look smart. That's why they can't understand why it's so easy for us to say no, not be impressed or to walk away easily because they are literally carbon copies of each other.
IS THAT what it is? Sassy? Idk but it's quite annoying im tryna get through the video.....
We don’t want to get to know this guy. Respectfully
l!!!! why are we platforming him?
You watched 😊
@@Ausnapify Nah the video probably popped up after that 6 second count down thing and she couldn't hit the cancel button fast enough.
@@BloodLeopard-rm8wg Nah she watched the whole thing and then wrote a response. That's how she spent her time.
@@Ausnapify Well based on her response, I think my analogy makes more sense. But hey we're both making assumptions here lol.
The way he speaks confirms that he truly knows how to make successful decisions. Liabilities must be confronted because they will ruin your journey. It is your to you to be selective and sure as to what you want!
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Listen this man is TOXIC !! HE IS A ENERGY DRAINER!! HE NEEDS SOMEONE EXACTLY LIKE HIM!
I agree! The thing that is super annoying about folks like him is that they're not attracted to people like themselves because they also want to drain someone in a relationship too, so they dislike each other. Those type also don't like each other because no one is able to stroke that unstable ego, in an unhealthy way, for a long period of time. Too exhausting for them. They want someone who is normal about caring for other people's feelings, which is something he is unable to do. It is so bizarre!!!!
He deserves that toxic girl in the green outfit who was recently arrested 😂 Can't remember her name
Energy vampire!
What people love him Arlette? Who are the people that you speak of ?
😂😂😂😂
Apparently he has a whole fan club on tiktok 🤣🤣🤣 they probably act just like him
Not u
@@LeciaB_TV Trust me, he already has minions crawling around😭
okay since you interviewed him to say his peace, interview his match, I really want to see what she has to say about him. Because he definitely speaking down about her, she has the right to defend her character.
LOL WAIT HE GOT A MATCH?
I was thinking the same, this whole “we decided to be friends” is probably BS. The girl probably finally saw through him and ran for the hills.
And she’s probably so traumatized that she refused to do the ‘catching up with the matches” thing ; so they decided to do a “getting to know” episode about him.
@@carmensandiego4270 he got the nyash already that's all he wanted from the young girl, she was a money digger and he don't want that kind a liability so they do the friends stuff , the other guy was so interested they couldve worked it out
That girl he called a liability was in her early 20’s. Him talking about her inability to listen as a 38 yr old man, is wicked work. She should’ve never peaked your interest in the first place. He’s so cheesy.
Right but then another super young girl piqued his interest. He is a hypocrite... and a liability. 💅🏾
To own multiples homes and have passive streams of income as an Airbnb host is a huge accomplishment for a person her age. And I love that she said her father taught her to be self sufficient. Plus unlike him, she was so humble and sweet you wouldn’t even know she had such accomplishments behind her name. He low key seemed intimidated by that young girl
@@brittany-trfhere’s the thing everyone with success does not have to be humble. I watched the other episodes with women and there no where near as accomplished as him or as attractive as they think they where and they where way more disrespectful.
We live in a society where people are telling grown men what should peak there interest is insane.
@@brittany-trfthose are her fathers property she said her dad got them for her
This man is a dentist, yet acts like he is a highly successful top surgeon/cardiologist or a Psychiatrist/Psychology…. Having a degree does not mean he should speak to strangers like he is giving them sessions and gaslighting them.
He clearly learned nothing in therapy and definitely does not take accountability for his actions and words.
He still has red flags. 🚩 🚩
Matter of fact, he is the 🚩.
I mean I can see where his arrogance comes from as he is 1 of only 2-3% of black doctors. He's at the top of the food chain. I'm a 3rd year dental student, myself, but I don't interact with people in the manner he does. It is kind of weird.
@@Beardown2 you made a fair point. I’m glad you are different. I have many medical doctors, nurses and lawyers in my family… for some reasons majority do not behave this arrogantly. Thank God for that.
However, I have met many medical doctors who are very arrogant.
He is not a dentist or anything close...he is a scammer quack!!!
@@MariamsadventureI hate arrogance/condescending in people it drives me crazy. He is also very annoying. It is all about him and his unsolicited advices like he knows people no wonder he still single at his age. Pride comes before the fall. He is a know it all but knows nothing actually. He is whack who needs real self healing and therapy for himself first and foremost. I can ever be near that energy. He projects his own insecurities on people smh. Who does he think he is smh. He is very gaslighting, disrespectful, doesn’t listen to others, invalidates people’s experiences/feelings, and very passive aggressive. I hope no woman comes across him. He would be the one to emotionally and psychologically abuse his partner I can’t unsee it.
It is hard to maintain a persona like he has. I would think that his therapy that he goes too is to find ways to deceive more people but at the same time, he needs advice on how to not let it drain him. This will never work bc you can’t put negative energy out in the world and get positive back. Also, I never met an arrogant person who is happy
It’s amazing to me how someone can be so into mental health and yoga, even talking calmly. But still be so unhinged and problematic. He’s not a good person but he does everything good people should do. I know he’s a narcissist but there has to be another word for these kinda people. I studied psychology…there’s a lot going on with him. I think at the core it’s one thing…that I’ve seen in the comments a lot. 😅
yea def comes off as having actual NPD and maybe that's why it comes across as odd... he isn't being evil probably, but he truly just operates like this naturally. actual ppl with NPD don't behave like how see "narcissists". They also live usually a normal and decent life or even are very successful (because they are self-serving in a charming way).
The think is it’s all I think I think your opinion truly doesn’t matter and it is non factual “ I know he’s a narcissist “ 😭😭 like wtf
@@tesegan6420 I really can’t comprehend what you’re trying to say. But if you’re in defense of him being a narcissist that’s fine, however he is showing narcissistic signs in his public person. Thats something I know for sure.
Therapy turns narcissists into better/covert narcissists 🚩🚩🚩
I agree.
Agreed
Lol
Unrealized trauma turns adults into children
Exactly
It’s a red flag to me that he’s this handsome, a doctor, tall, and single? There’s definitely something wrong with him if he has all that and he’s still single.
Maybe he's still playing the field?
@@fa9183 playing the field at 37? He almost grandp to a teen
or maybe women just arent worth committing too in this day and age . Hes smart and Stress free
@Jah_53st You wouldn't say that about a 38 year old unmarried woman.
He likes men.
If this is what he’s like after going to therapy 3 times a week for years, I know he was really something else in his 20s.
He is so insecure. He basically told that girl how immature she was for not taking his insults in stride.
I don’t blame him, but being humble isn’t a bad thing either, because if someone acts like they know everything which is a definition of arrogance, that to me makes a person hard to deal with. But for Dr. Elom? Bro just became a passport bro😂😂
I’m 21 by the way, so don’t give me smoke please 🙏 still learning here😅😂.
To be honest, that female was very immature but this dude has issues of his own.
What exactly did he say that was insulting? I watched that vid 3 times and he just kept it real...brutal honesty isn't sum everyone can manage but he was in no way shape or form rude or disrespectful.
Facts, you didn’t take my criticism well, you need therapt
@meneedmoney how is that an insult? That was when he was talking to the slim model right?
He said he would fly the 20 year old and now he is saying he doesnt know her that much to fly her over, he basically lied to her.
right !!!!
He doesn't need to fly her out now that he got what he wanted out of her.
He say he would fly her out for first date the girl was so excited because she wants a doctor and to finance her career he just want some time with her he got it now, man like his age without kids and wife is a SELFISH person and all about him, when he is older he prolly settle
It’s giving 🌈
😂😂😂 I thought it was just me!
And is.....Yooh!I thought I was tripping...😂😂
homophobic
Been waiting to see someone mention this. So true 🤣
YES
He’s only a dentist and he still leads with his career. He literally has nothing else to talk about. It gives him whatever validation he needs.
ONLY a dentist????
dentistry is not an easy field lol any doctorate program at that
@@angelisrivera4704you misread it. They’re aren’t saying he’s only a dentist as in the practice/career itself is nothing, they’re saying he’s SOLELY a dentist and there’s nothing else to him, just the fact that he’s a dentist.
@@angelisrivera4704that’s why they said he literally has nothing else to talk about, he leads with his career, and it gives him the validation he needs lol
he thinks he's superior. thats crazy my uncle was a dentist and had a whole family. guess its a him thing.
"Her inability to listen" sounds like he found her not easy to control
No he found her unable to listen 😂
@@cdahm5425why does she need to listen to him in particular? they just met and barely know each other
@@iam.7509 If we're not listening to each other why are we even together?
@@cdahm5425 theyre not together, thats the whole point of the show💀💀
@@iam.7509the point of the show is to talk and listen to see if you’re a match..
Dr. Elom just wanted to be recognized. He needed the spotlight.
In truth, he’s the one who needs therapy. Continuous therapy!
Arlette: Welcome Dr. Elom
Dr. Elom: You need therapy. You have unresolved childhood trauma.
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂 facts
Dr. Elom: I've done the inner work and everyone needs to do the exact same work I've done. I'm not projecting, I'm a dentist. I save lives.
I like this guy, but that’s funny 😂
@@GoJojo-lv6zi😂😂😂😂😂
his ego got bruised so bad by the negative reaction that he made a custom tshirt to defend himself lol
Exactly 😂
😂😂😂
😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@punkybrewster7599Are you him?
Arlette is pure gold 💛👸🏾❤ she’s so great at what she does ✨
His ego is INSANE. There’s a difference between confidence and cockiness. He’s a damn narcissist. And to think he went to my alma mater 🙄
Well all dentists are
I can see why he's single. He doesn't really know people skills when it comes to the opposite sex. Although he's very smart and educated and I get where he's coming from most of the time, a lot of stuff he said to the girls is not what you want to say during a first impression or a first date. Things he was saying should be gradually eased in throughout dating someone. Therefore, he came off really arrogant
You just mad a doctor put your girl in her place. Women like you can't handle professional like us.
Tact
he doesn't have 1st date problems. he's tall, well-groomed and a dentist; he's going to coast through the first few dates.
@@TikiLemonhe’s still over 40 and single. Just goes to show that personality wins at the end of the day. You can have a first date and still be stuck single as he has proven with the teenage girl he matched with 😂
@@TikiLemon You know us women always win in the end anyway, I don't know why you're fooling yourself 😂
You couldn’t pay me to walk in his office he’s so weird
Sidenote: this setup is so professional!! Like the video quality >>>
We’ve got similar background in living room and now I am excited to start my journey 😊
@@Mariamsadventureidk if you were being sarcastic but this made me laugh 😂
What's up with the "Liability" shirt?🤣🤣however, he end up picking a Liability young student after voicing not wanting young age Liability smh😂😂
He definitely did that to out boast the other guy that wanted her. Which is why “for a first date” he went way beyond what the other guy said, even though the other guy was more realistic😂
and he never flew her out like he promised. the guy is a lame liar @@Hamza_Qureshi0027
@@Hamza_Qureshi0027 yeah I was confused that no one cared except for Anthony that a 38 yr old was trying to show off to someone that could be his daughter
Nah disagree the other young lady was more grounded, mature than the other regardless of age
@@meneedmoneyby definition, the girl he chose would be a liability. The girl he was condescending was a owner of multiple property’s and an Airbnb host. She could potentially be making the same amount of money as him AND it’s passive income and she’s almost half his age. On top of that unlike him, she’s humble to the extent you wouldn’t even guess she was so accomplished. He was rude to her because he was jealous, it couldn’t have possible been that she’d be a liability.
He’s very attractive. And he’s only 38 the fact he is not married with no kids doesn’t mean he is gay. It means he has prioritised his career. I wish more black people would understand the importance of academic sacrifice comes at a cost.
Bull! Most women can't deal with a narcissist. Nobody likes a know it all. His ass is higher than his nose. He shows 0 humility. Screw his looks, age, money, and career. There are plenty of young black wealthy professionals that have found love before 38.
He's gay
he’s literally demeaning as hell. that’s why he’s single
Exactly. He is African from Ghana and there’s pressure on him to succeed. 😂
The fact that he called his patients ignorant. 😮😮😮😮 …. That’s crazy!
Many patients are by definition.
@@Fallon922 Thats true. ignorance is the absence of knowledge. He is there to educate his patients. Thats just a really shit thing to say. Im a lawyer and most people dont know the law like I do. I dont call my clients names and denigrate them.
@@Fallon922 By definition and your logic everyone is ignorant because there are certainly things in this world we are not KNOWLEDGABLE about.
Could've said belligerent
@@Fallon922 it would be better to say uninformed.
Life coaching IS NOT therapy.
But regardless, all that therapy to be so manipulative of others and unaware, is v scary.
Not going lie.
His episode is my favorite.
I watched it 2 times already. 😊
I need him and Adanna in one room.
pleaseeeeee!!! lol🤣🤣
Yessss lol
Yesss!!!!!!
I agree 😂😂😂
Agreed. She would eat him alive 😂
when he was in the dating element of the show - you can tell he bases his whole identity on his being a dentist. not very humble. i have a family member who works in the field, and this guy would be a nightmare to work with. he has superiority complex. he needs a very alpha female to knock him down a few notches. and also - you don't need to call yourself DR when you're being introduced to people. i have friends in the medical profession and they sure as hell don't pull that business when first meeting people. it's so cringey when people do that!
So when women called themselves doctors it is not a problem but men do it they should be humble? Secondly why does he need an Alpha woman to knock him down a few notches? It is because he knows how to check modern women? Get it through your head. No one wants an unruly wannabe alpha woman.
The fact that he went to Morehouse makes so much senseeeeee omg
Came back to say I’m loving these comments! The women on his episode were blinded by his height & couldn’t see all the red flags.
he unneccessarily introduces himself as a dr too. the girls saw stability, achievement and money.
@@TikiLemongold digging so hard they missed the red flags
@@lastnamefirstname2390 Yeah the money is not worth the headache.
idk what y'all saw...it didn't seem to me like the women enjoyed him.
What red flags? That they were OUT of his league. Maybe if they wouldve went to school instead of having children without a ring, they could relate
He needs to live his truth and leave women alone
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Right
right!!!!!
He is mentally crazy honestly he so disrespectful brings women down. Who raised him? He is such a narcissist, cocky, and controlling person. Never would wish him on my worst enemy.
Hellloooooo
Dr. Elom is Ghanaian-American with Ghanaian upbringing. Which means he is extremely picky. Most men from Ghana are just like Dr. Elom except Dr. Elom is a little bit to raw and ruthless.
yesss come on and give us nothing Doc! 😭😹
Speaks so much of nothing 😂😂😂😂
Lmaoooo! You can tell he has been praised for his looks for most of his adult life and hasn't developed any personable skills beyond that.
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Bros laugh is killing me 💀 Argh argh argh argh argh
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 yo
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This comment took me out 🤣🤣🤣 He’s got hella issues but this man is handsome and I love his laugh!
Tbh every single thing he said is right on. Authenticity and being true to oneself initially is always the best move. I would love to have a conversation with this man just to see how his brain works.
Arlette, you need to show a recap from the episode of when your guests matched just to bring us up to speed
This would be golllddeenn!!
Yeah it's hilarious, it was some 20 something year old who obviously showed interest in his money and wasn't very mature herself.
It would make it more interesting. And maybe they can go over other points
Sorta getting 🏳️🌈 vibes from him…..
edit: That was purely an observation, not meant as an insult. Argue wit yo Mama..🤷🏾♂️
THISSS!!!! I was waiting for someone to say😂
for sure i know gaydar
Me too
That insult is getting old. 😴
FACTS!!!!!!
He is going to have a very hard time finding someone. Mentally he isn't all there and he is difficult. He tries to appear normal and stable but I sense that hidden perfect persona is really deep depression.
The way he stalled when she asked him about hisself... nothing there 😂
Exactly. He has nooo idea who he is outside of his identity.
Narc red flag
Interesting, could explain why he felt the need to introduce himself as Dr. That's his entire identity, I wonder if he is truly like this or if he's using this platform for other purposes.
“Hisself” is not a word. It’s “himself”.
@@luzluna6808I’m having a hard time believing he is an actual Dr. he doesn’t seem one. He is very unprofessional and very condescending. I hope every women he comes across runs the other way around. No women wants a person like him. He honestly scares him I can’t imagine seeing him in a relationship. He would be the one to psychologically and emotionally abuse his partner. I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy.
A DENTIST?! Would've SWORN he was a therapist. Also, note after he told us what he does professionally, he fell silent. He really identifies himself as "doctor". People, you are not your career. If you lose your career TOMORROW, would you know who you TRULY ARE??
PERIOD
Thank you for offering your wisdom and support for those who need it and don’t know it. Communication and understanding on an adult level is not always delivered nor received. Active listening has become a dying art. Now conversations are simply about turning each other’s words into an argument filled with insults and disrespect. Kindness has “left the building”. Thank you for inviting intelligence and integrity into the picture and our awareness so we can stop accepting anything less.
Him and Uche from Love Is Blind Season 5 are the same person. 🙃
Omgosh they do talk exactly the same!
@@faithlexa very unnerving 😐🙃
Narcissist
my same thought
Omg so true omg. 😮
Arlette, if you’re reading this, we NEED Dr. Elom and Adanna on the same set, in the same room. Pleaseeeee make it happen!🙏🏾
Wheres that episode?
Yes Ghana and Nigeria 🇳🇬 fights
The chic that was in the military was about to eat him up. She said” you’re 38, never married and a doctor, what’s wrong with you” he knew she was about to dig deeper so he switched the conversation. He thought that he was gonna get in her head but he couldn’t.
Yes, I noticed that one too.
I don’t believe he’s peaceful at all. I think he’s filled with rage. The way he read that woman in the initial clip was intense. He was breathy, slowed speech, and intense eye contact. He exposed himself saying he doesn’t accept what doesn’t fit him, but used yeah against the woman in the initial video. His critique of her didn’t land as constructive. He’s using therapy as if there’s a final destination that equals healed.
'his critique didn't land as constructive' 👌🏽
Slow speech? Sounds like someone medicated.
It’s a dating show. A show to find love. If someone is not for you then let that be known and keep it moving. You don’t have to psychoanalyze, belittle, or demean anyone. Those young women he tried to offer therapy to didn’t come there for that and they were young. All young people need therapy if we take Dr.Elom’s stance.
He’s a good looking, intelligent, successful black man and kudos to him for that but all those things (to me) were overshadowed by his antagonistic and condescending tone.
I agree some of those women were liabilities to him but again leave it at that. He should’ve known from her age alone that she was a liability. There is no life experience with a 21 year old dating a 38 year old unless you are willing to deal with what comes with dating a 21 year old. She didn’t have to listen to him. He was there entertaining her and him in the end choosing a 21 year old said a lot about him for me. He contradicted himself with his choice so what was the point of then”liability” talk. He still chose a liability. Just one willing to spend his money to continue to better herself.
He's not there for love. I think he is there to start building a life coaching platform for himself.Because when he was asked what he was looking for in a woman....who in the world answers: "Ok, ladies there are 3 things that you can do for a man and he will never be able to let you go." LOL!!
@@yolanda-kayrobinson6254 ok!!! I feel so sorry for his future “anything”. Stick to educating people about their teeth.
I'm really glad Arletta interviewed him. I still believe he has some "toxic tendencies" but I also believe we are seeing/meeting a better version of Dr. Elom compared to how he might have been before going through tons of therapy. Credit where credit is due, he has probably put a lot of effort and time into his own personal growth.
Clinician here: Seeing a therapist 3x a week= red flag!!!
Same! I said the EXACT same thing. Homeboy needs to be hospitalized if he needs to see a therapist three times a week.😂
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No he didn’t say, "Slide in my DM" with all the sass and spices. Ok, Sis... I knew you were really one of us 🙄🤦🏾♀️😑
Sass and spices 😂😂😂
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He’s definitely a SIS 💅💅💅
😂😂😂😂😂 that part...😂😂😂😂😂.. we know our own😂😂😂😂
If one thing he has been is consistent with his personality ( like him or not). I'm sure there is a lady out there who would get him and be able to deal with his personality.
By the way, ladies, we must do better with the disrespectful comments. Refrain from throwing rocks when your ceiling might made of glass. We are quick to feel some way when criticized or commented on certain aspects. Idk why you all feel comfortable doing someone else like that, especially not knowing the person personally or their whole story. I do not know this man, but you never know how your words might affect someone for life. Lead by example !!!
Dr Elom trying to do damage control in the interview 🤣 One look at his tiktok comments shows me that he deletes the bad comments anyways 😂 it's full of admirers, while on youtube the comments are critical. Just imagine him deleting comments all day 😂
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He comes across as a booty bandit.
Right. A little zesty
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Shame and insult .when will you'll grow up and mature?
@@nekostratton5202 Did I ruffle some feathers?
@@Thrown2010 was that your intent to upset people? Is that what brings you satisfaction?
Okay to be honest I get it we all don’t like this guy episodes but I this particular one, everything he did say makes sense and very true. I do agree with it.
I gave him so much credit for being a doctor... The dentist thing and him actually making a T shirt... I feel bamboozled.
(Adding this after watching the whole segment.)
He is not used to getting attention, was probably bullied and or rejected in his youth and uses the Dr. title to back up his passive aggressive bullying of people who may not be as smart as him... Cornball.
Precisely!
SMH Shame on you
Dr. Elom's shirt is a warning label
lmaoooooo he didnt think that shit thru.
His breath is a carcinogen, surgeons general.
Like Samore said Men should wear a side effects label. Dr Elon is wearing his well.😂
“I’m Dr Elom”, should bury his cocky, narcissist deluded head in shame for picking on a 22yo. It’s no wonder he is single & on a dating show at 38
Kaila if you see this, not only are you beautiful with an amazing body & a great voice, your energy is contagious. Keep learning girl and keep growing. Your soul mate is out there
Wouldn’t I want a shirt that calls me an Asset?
This lady is petty and I ain’t talking about Arlette.
Ladies and gentlemen date him to your own detriment.
Discernment is important.
This🎯. People who are truly above, aren’t trying to bring others down.
Dentistry and psychology are not the same. And a Bachelor in psychology doesn't make you a psychologist. He has no credibility. I don't think the people loved him. Can he get therapy himself? Coaching and therapy are not the same.
See where u are coming from but your personal insecurities are through the roof. U know u are insecure, right? Don’t answer here. Answer yourself.
Its why he is not a dentist and i doubt he has the psychology degree to begin with!!!
He has more credibility than you maam LOL
New subscriber here 👋🏾
I’ve only seen a few clips of this show, mostly featuring the good Dr. Elom. I think he’s great. He’s definitely self assured and self aware. Very smart, articulate, professionally successful. I love his intensity and confidence or as commenters like to call it, arrogance 🥲 From the little that I’ve seen, I think the girls are afraid to be rejected by him so they pop their balloon 1st before he has the opportunity to reject them.
He’s probably not into astrology but I suspect it’s going to take a fire sign to be able to tango with him. And I know he probably wants a 25 year old, but someone like him is going to need to go older. At least 35. Wishing him the best of luck 🖤
In ep 2 he kept his balloon un-popped for the 20yr old in the army. An 18 yr age gap is insane... lowkey a predator. He loves women who are easy to manipulate. He IS arrogant and a narcissist as well. It's no wonder why at 38, a seemingly respectable, handsome, financially stable, and learned man is single🫠 I really do believe that you've only see a little of him, else you'd know he's one to beware of. But all the same, best of luck to him.
Can you interview the female version of him who had on the suit dress? lol
Yessss lol!!
Ms . Your time piece does not work
She did 😂
She’s facing prison time now!
@@Joy_M507 wait stop fucking lying lmao please spill