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  • Boy Erased - I'm Not Going to Change: Jared (Lucas Hedges) confronts his father (Russell Crowe).
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    Jared Eamons, the son of a small-town Baptist pastor, must overcome the fallout after being outed as gay to his parents. His father and mother struggle to reconcile their love for their son with their beliefs. Fearing a loss of family, friends and community, Jared is pressured into attending a conversion therapy program. While there, Jared comes into conflict with its leader and begins his journey to finding his own voice and accepting his true self.
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    Cast: Lucas Hedges, Russell Crowe
    Director: Joel Edgerton
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Комментарии • 180

  • @SanDhampir
    @SanDhampir 5 лет назад +1007

    Having a gay son or daughter doesn't mean you failed as a parent. It's disowning them or making change because the parents' are more concerned for their own self-image, that's when they fail.

    • @orlandobabe
      @orlandobabe 4 года назад +19

      Tell that to parents like this.

    • @kerishmamadhavan9497
      @kerishmamadhavan9497 3 года назад +12

      Sooo true! Many parents, especially mine, think they have failed because I am the way I am, but if they’re not going to treat me like their daughter then that’s when they fail as parents. ❤️

    • @em-pr5jv
      @em-pr5jv 2 года назад +2

      Exactly!!!!

    • @luxitos2867
      @luxitos2867 2 года назад +2

      These parents deserve to be told that they are failures and treated as such.

    • @em-pr5jv
      @em-pr5jv 2 года назад

      @@luxitos2867 Agreed!

  • @natstewgirl
    @natstewgirl 5 лет назад +341

    "I'm not changing, there's no changing me. God knows I tried." I see the comments from people who don't have a religion that talk about people who are gay and religious, and here's the thing: you've never lived with a God that you consider your friend and protector. You don't know how hard it is to leave everything you love, your homophobic parents and family, your life falls to pieces around you. You can call religion the problem all you want, but you've never lived under that continual fear that you'll fall into a life of sin. I still have PTSD from the late nights of crying and reading scriptures that tell me I'm a sinner, but I also have good memories and testimonies of my church. It's hard to walk away from, impossibly so.

    • @re_animatedabby6791
      @re_animatedabby6791 4 года назад +25

      Same and I'm bi and still believe in God. Took a long time to accept those things and to deal with homophobic relatives but luckily I've accepted me for me. And that's all that matters.

    • @bvaughn777
      @bvaughn777 4 года назад +4

    • @raptor4798
      @raptor4798 4 года назад +19

      I’m a pansexual atheist and I don’t care if your religious, you can believe in whatever you want if it makes you happy, it’s when you try to discredit and hurt people because of your beliefs is when I have a problem

    • @MarcosIsABaritone
      @MarcosIsABaritone Год назад +1

      Hi, Natalie. Attacking one's beliefs, whether once held or they are in the miasma of reconciliation, often springs from a sense of betrayal. You seem to have a wherewithal and conscience rooted in the best intentions of Christ. His grace and compassion exist within you. Because of these qualities, you have the capacity for love as friendship and companionship. The negative ideas and projections of God were thrust upon you by company who fundamentally misunderstood Christ's gospel. Cherish the memories wherein the Gospel illuminated your soul. As for those dark, lonely, sorrowful nights... Imagine them as stones in a luggage. A luggage you have been carrying all these years. Who is saying you have to continue carrying that luggage? Not Christ. Not me. And, now, not you. Find a natural ditch along the next grass path you cross and drop that bag of stones. Say good-bye, and, when walking away sing your favorite hymn :)

  • @swmrgirl9979
    @swmrgirl9979 3 года назад +93

    “You never asked if I was okay.” This is what SO many survivors say. What happened here isn’t okay and what we are doing to women in Texas isn’t okay. These are often the hardest things to speak about because they are so traumatizing - which is why you need to ask.

  • @mitchellmurray5892
    @mitchellmurray5892 5 лет назад +304

    Lucas Hedges' best performance yet, in his most challenging role thus far, where he gives a moving and authentic portrayal of a young man trying to form his identity against his environment. Russell Crowe, as well, is in particularly fine form, here, delivering nuanced work that never turns his part into a one note caricature. Shame on the academy for overlooking these two very strong turns.

  • @yesman121
    @yesman121 4 года назад +122

    "I may never be a grandparent" It's called adoption. But if you're held up on the whole archaic extending your bloodline thing then there's also surrogacy

    • @miloseviczarko45
      @miloseviczarko45 Год назад

      Unfortunately, surrogacy is forbidden in some countries, like in mine for exaple, where also 85% of population are so homophobic.

  • @cuziwanttoodealwithit7282
    @cuziwanttoodealwithit7282 5 лет назад +521

    U can still be a grandparent it is called adoption!

    • @aquariusmoon6174
      @aquariusmoon6174 5 лет назад +15

      Cuz I want too Deal with it Its also called in vitro fertilization

    • @Isak-H
      @Isak-H 5 лет назад +39

      Adoption, IVF, surrogacy… there are so many possibilities. Just because it’s not the traditional way doesn’t mean it’s not their kid

    • @stevenjones4059
      @stevenjones4059 4 года назад +2

      @@Isak-H But the traditional way is how it all began no other way but that something you can't ignore or deny

    • @JG-pf6wh
      @JG-pf6wh 4 года назад +3

      Can even have a bio kid if he gets with a trans guy/nonbinary person and they'd like to have bio kids

    • @cholanraje1410
      @cholanraje1410 4 года назад +1

      But the grandkid won't have your features.

  • @Jmaniac55
    @Jmaniac55 5 лет назад +233

    This was the a really powerful conversation, including the ending scene of him driving away with the song, I cried, pretty sure my roommate cried

  • @cocobardot
    @cocobardot 5 лет назад +1302

    I will never understand the "I won't be a grandparent" argument. Like, us gays can easily have kids too

    • @erauprcwa
      @erauprcwa 5 лет назад +42

      I had the same conversation with my mother.

    • @dergluckliche4973
      @dergluckliche4973 5 лет назад +60

      My parents have nieces and nephews whose children act as their proxy grandkids. I'm not having kids because I don't want them. I am their only child. My mother probably doesn't care either way but I know my father likes to dote on little kids so he likely feels he's missing out but that's entirely his own issue.

    • @Mhaga81
      @Mhaga81 5 лет назад +80

      Oh i agree. I hate when you mention adoption and the argument is “well not biological grandchildren” as if heterosexual couples can all have natural children. Heterosexual couples adopt all the time or use surrogates.

    • @yanderefangirl8317
      @yanderefangirl8317 5 лет назад +31

      His son can either adopt a child or find a surrogate mother to have his child. Either way, his dad will still be a grandpa.

    • @cocobardot
      @cocobardot 5 лет назад +8

      @@lolaminer5 And we can still have biological children too. Nothing wrong with that

  • @Arttective
    @Arttective 4 года назад +68

    "I'm not changing. God knows I tried" WOW!

  • @TheMnemo95
    @TheMnemo95 4 года назад +55

    My dad had the “no grandchildren fear” with me and I would go through adoption, which was so insane because I was adopted lol.

  • @evilestguy
    @evilestguy 5 лет назад +418

    "There are some things I disagree with."
    you DISAGREE with a SEXUALITY?
    Gay Person: I'm gay
    Dad: I disagree
    WHa t ?

    • @prismcounseling
      @prismcounseling 4 года назад +9

      cosmolar That’s exactly how my grandmother reacted.

    • @j-mshistorycorner6932
      @j-mshistorycorner6932 4 года назад +2

      Yes, because God disagrees with it.

    • @tech4682
      @tech4682 4 года назад +12

      @@j-mshistorycorner6932 it's like
      "Hey dad i'm a male"
      Dad: "i disagree"

    • @j-mshistorycorner6932
      @j-mshistorycorner6932 4 года назад +1

      @@tech4682 Gender is biological and can not change.
      Sexuality is not.

    • @tech4682
      @tech4682 4 года назад +16

      @@j-mshistorycorner6932 you think sexuality is not biological??

  • @josephhernandez1885
    @josephhernandez1885 3 года назад +33

    "I may never be a grandparent."
    YOU may never be a grandparent? There is adoption, vitro fertilization and surrogacy. Blood doesn't need to make a family, but only love can make a family

    • @joewhitehead3
      @joewhitehead3 2 года назад +3

      Try telling that to someone with beliefs like his

    • @TheInfantry98
      @TheInfantry98 2 года назад

      Your very wrong fuckstick

    • @Nonalhomophobie
      @Nonalhomophobie 2 года назад +3

      @@joewhitehead3 Beliefs or not, you don't live for the sole purpose to give your parents grandchildren.

    • @luxitos2867
      @luxitos2867 2 года назад +1

      Your beliefs are not worth wrecking, ruining, or losing people's lives.

  • @chrisitl
    @chrisitl 2 года назад +16

    I'm a parent to a 5 year old. I would never want my child to feel this way about me. It would shatter me to pieces. I don't understand how a parent can't just accept their child for something like this. As long as they aren't hurting themselves or others and they have a happy life, how could a parent not want their child to be happy? Stories like this break my heart. How can we be mad at our child for falling in love?

    • @joewhitehead3
      @joewhitehead3 2 года назад +9

      Some people just cannot let go of their strong, personal beliefs. No matter how wrong they are

  • @robinhood1969phonykingssuck
    @robinhood1969phonykingssuck 5 лет назад +268

    There are camps like this that entrap your children for their sexual preference!! These nimrods will tear apart the heart of your child!! UGH As long as they are not abusing young children you should really back off its none of your business what their sexual preference is or their religion!! We really need to stop the hate !! ugh

  • @kyleereynolds6016
    @kyleereynolds6016 Год назад +7

    Such a powerful scene! I used to be just like his father too but after watching this movie, it's changed me so much! You don't have to agree with someone's choice, but it is our responsibility to love that person no matter what. It's about unconditional love! The abuse that Jared went through at that horrible place is unbelievable!

  • @bellaloves2815
    @bellaloves2815 5 лет назад +80

    Okay but adoption and surrogacy exist...?

  • @willmiester4051
    @willmiester4051 4 года назад +39

    I feel like his father being concerned about having grandchildren shows where his priorities lied.

  • @skylercalender6622
    @skylercalender6622 4 года назад +12

    He says “you make things about you” then proceeds to talk about himself more. This father is the problem not the child

  • @stephenfermoyle4578
    @stephenfermoyle4578 3 года назад +18

    Russell Crowe was the perfect actor to play this part. Great acting by all. great movie great writing

    • @miloseviczarko45
      @miloseviczarko45 Год назад

      Well the actor that played Russrl wrote the screenplay for this.

    • @Unqualifiedmedicalperson
      @Unqualifiedmedicalperson 10 месяцев назад

      @@miloseviczarko45 no, that was Joel Edgerton

    • @miloseviczarko45
      @miloseviczarko45 10 месяцев назад

      @@Unqualifiedmedicalperson My bad, I mixed them.

  • @spiritofhopeloveandkindnes2308
    @spiritofhopeloveandkindnes2308 4 года назад +30

    This scene is so powerful.

  • @xxwhispersxx2856
    @xxwhispersxx2856 2 года назад +9

    Lucas has come such a long way as an actor. His small role in Waves was absolutely lovely, and this I think was one of his best. He (and Nicole and Russell) did so good in this film. I also loved Troy Sivan's music in the soundtrack.

  • @JP-ks7ey
    @JP-ks7ey 5 лет назад +39

    the part about I won't be a grandparent I find funny, because i met a guy in college who was happily married but him in his wife don't want kids and of course theres always cases where a person is unable to produce children so it's sort of a stupid argument to say gays can't have kids when just as straight people either can't or don't want to have kids

    • @erwincagampan5777
      @erwincagampan5777 11 месяцев назад

      I met a married guy too who doesn’t want to have kids. Just enjoy life with hervwife

    • @JP-ks7ey
      @JP-ks7ey 11 месяцев назад

      @@erwincagampan5777 exactly just because your kid is straight doesn't mean he or she is going to give you grandkids

  • @markgorgus7932
    @markgorgus7932 4 года назад +12

    I was just waiting for Jared to turn the tables. After a long wait, he finally did it and I celebrated.

  • @i_7274
    @i_7274 4 года назад +23

    That’s the guy from “Lady Bird” !!, good for him he’s playing such great and In depth characters

  • @felinusfeline5559
    @felinusfeline5559 Год назад +6

    Very good performance from Crowe. He's not a one note "homophobic dad" villain. He DOES love his son and at the end I feel his "I will try" was genuine. I'm not religious in the truest sense but I can imagine going against a lifetime of following one in your head is hard for a person. And that's what he has to do for his son.

  • @thomaslucia3059
    @thomaslucia3059 4 года назад +8

    Incredibly powerful, and unsettlingly moving. What amazing performances.

  • @John_oR.
    @John_oR. 4 года назад +27

    Some people shouldn't be parents at all.

  • @Noa......
    @Noa...... 5 лет назад +75

    How does one "disagree" with something that is not made out of choice? The word is "disapprove." It is disgusting that people place their beliefs of the supernatural above people that are right in front of them in real life, in the natural universe we live in. You only live once. Are you really going to give up your relationship with your family members or friends? Simply because they are gay? In closing, i think the quote, "one page of the Bible isn't worth a life" should be said.

    • @j-mshistorycorner6932
      @j-mshistorycorner6932 4 года назад +1

      Wrong - especially since the Bible is true and God is real.

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... 4 года назад +19

      @@j-mshistorycorner6932 How is the bible true? How does it make god real? Your vague comment (compared to mine) says a lot. Also, not showing direct relevance.

    • @chrisitl
      @chrisitl 2 года назад

      It's quite sad actually

    • @barbaradouglas2283
      @barbaradouglas2283 11 месяцев назад +1

      Re:comment: 1st of all it’s not religious people who you’re talking about in reality; although you’ve said that. It’s really a personal relationship with the Creator; Jesus Christ Himself that maybe you’re having the real problem with. Re: SIN? Every human being has sinned > there’s no way around that fact rt now. The Bible has a lot more interesting things to say than the negative stuff you’ve come across. I can sorta say I get it. But there’s a very powerful reason behind all this. So don’t attack the Bible unless you’ve read the whole thing & 💯% have a crystal clear picture of it all, I’ve been told that it’s similar to a huge puzzle that you have to find the pieces & precisely where they all belong & then eventually you’ll see the much bigger fuller puzzle.

  • @IAmNumber4000
    @IAmNumber4000 Год назад +2

    It's sad that this preacher father is 10x more mature than my own dad.

  • @dfa3366
    @dfa3366 5 лет назад +31

    I will never understand why so many religious people are judge mental about others. Really a profound scene of a son telling his father this is me and I’m not going to change because you want me to. That scene where they are beating a kid with a bible was horrific.

    • @skyejacques
      @skyejacques 2 года назад +1

      True. But also, is there anything that's happened in the last three years that you were judgemental about i.e. vaccines or mask wearing or mandates or anything else?
      We may find we all have judgements, just on different things

    • @BlackCatFilmProductions
      @BlackCatFilmProductions Год назад +2

      Me neither. Personal I won't enrolled him in that group. It seem to cause more problems and would cause more harm then good. I could imagine the trauma those boys would be suffering. The instructors should have realised the harm they were causing them.

  • @principal18
    @principal18 3 года назад +7

    „And I have had to ask my self and god“ meaning „I have asked myself and the ego I created as a justification for the way I live“ - not bashing faith but that is what that is

  • @stitchesandstaples
    @stitchesandstaples Месяц назад

    What I like about this movie is none of the family are “bad” people. Yes terrible things were done and it’s important to know that it’s not always just bad parents/kids when bad circumstances happened. I’m glad the parents despite taking their time learnt and listened and accepted their unintentional harm and he accepted they thought they were doing the best for him but still put up boundaries to protect. For such a sad story the ending was good. This is what I consider that most people are doing the best they can with what they have. What people have/know might not be right but most people aren’t heartless just uneducated or unaware. Yes some bad people out there but I give people initially the benefit of the doubt they were doing that they thought was the best with what they had. It’s how they react after they are given the correct information that is more important in the long run for me.

  • @yosefpenn-leon834
    @yosefpenn-leon834 5 лет назад +34

    Powerful film and story

  • @vishvavichu4674
    @vishvavichu4674 3 года назад +4

    I don't want to pretend anymore we don't need to spend time together we don't need to speak unless we're gonna talk to each other properly like you've done something's that have really hurt me like u never asked if there was more to my story at my college you never asked if i was okay. You were too focused on how it affected you and i don't know if we ever will

  • @kathystammen8774
    @kathystammen8774 Год назад +2

    Just watched this. I wept. It’s a great movie. Let’s you see every perspective. Made my eyes open. Well made. ❤

  • @bvaughn777
    @bvaughn777 4 года назад +8

    Pride goethe before the fall. Love is the test. If you arrive in front of God's judgment having turned away from what you were taught was his "word", for love, then He would smile and say "you got it!" Love IS "the word". Love your Son.

  • @LadyVader33
    @LadyVader33 5 лет назад +8

    Ironically, it seems Sykes was actually right about something the whole time

  • @5Mariner
    @5Mariner 4 года назад +4

    I wonder if Christopher Leonard feels this way about his father, Bruce

  • @austingordon4527
    @austingordon4527 3 года назад +2

    That I thought too I can’t change who I am this movie is amazing

  • @worrywart1311
    @worrywart1311 5 лет назад +16

    What a fine actor Crowe has become.

  • @southernpennsyrailfan8579
    @southernpennsyrailfan8579 3 года назад +6

    "The fact that I may never be a grand parent now!" What a terrible father.

  • @bobbond6365
    @bobbond6365 4 года назад +2

    Every person on this planet should watch this movie. It is better than Titanic!!

    • @Noa......
      @Noa...... 3 года назад

      Different genres. Different messages. Don't bring this movie into this, or try to compare.

    • @luxitos2867
      @luxitos2867 2 года назад

      LMMFGDAO Why not?

  • @thony1379
    @thony1379 4 года назад +1

    No puede terminar asi 😢 hermosa película

  • @TheMrfont
    @TheMrfont 4 года назад +3

    I am watching this movie on MAX CHANNEL

  • @ryaholzman4561
    @ryaholzman4561 3 года назад +7

    The “I won’t be a grandparent” is absurd to me. Adoption, surrogacy, etc. I know I plan on never having biological children because my genetics are not too great. Whether or not the child is your’s by blood does not make you anymore of a parent then if they aren’t genetically related.

  • @fckwful
    @fckwful 5 лет назад +11

    In a historical and inter-cultural perspective the rejection and condemnation of homosexuals is not the exception but the rule. That's the problem. Those religious groups are only extreme examples of a common attitude.

  • @yanderefangirl8317
    @yanderefangirl8317 5 лет назад +8

    Talk before you act.

    • @luxitos2867
      @luxitos2867 2 года назад +1

      The father? Definitely. He's the bad guy.

    • @Unqualifiedmedicalperson
      @Unqualifiedmedicalperson 9 месяцев назад

      @@luxitos2867 he’s not a bad guy, people aren’t that black and white.

    • @luxitos2867
      @luxitos2867 9 месяцев назад +1

      @Unqualifiedmedicalperson Fine. He's a person who committed a horrific act.

  • @sammbabazi2849
    @sammbabazi2849 3 года назад +4

    Afraid of "not being a grandparent"? Must your grandchildren come from your own son/daughter? In an America of 2021? U cannot adopt?

  • @trae2648
    @trae2648 3 года назад +2

    Is this Happy Ending

  • @thony1379
    @thony1379 4 года назад

    Así termina no puede ser

  • @memecountry1013
    @memecountry1013 5 месяцев назад

    I don’t understand something did Jared go on to date his rapist? Who was that man at the ending he was kissing all up on? His boyfriend who looks exactly like his College dorm mate?

  • @miloseviczarko45
    @miloseviczarko45 11 месяцев назад +1

    02:16 I wish it could be so easy to tell this to my homophobic parents...

    • @Nonalhomophobie
      @Nonalhomophobie 5 месяцев назад +1

      Stay strong ! And don't come out until you feel ready, and possibly until you are independent.

  • @jackee1054
    @jackee1054 7 месяцев назад

    I watched this on Netflix last night....couldn't stand Crowe's character and I never once saw his POV. He was a world class creep - more interested in his son's sexuality than he was his character as a young man. These bible thumpers truly turn my stomach.

  • @StellaMagic100
    @StellaMagic100 3 года назад +1

    Did his mother divorce the father?

  • @DrSleep-ep6cw
    @DrSleep-ep6cw Год назад +1

    I can't believe this boy erased himself and tried to blame others. 🤪

    • @DrSleep-ep6cw
      @DrSleep-ep6cw Год назад

      he could have stepped up to the plate, but he erased himself. 😲

    • @Nonalhomophobie
      @Nonalhomophobie 5 месяцев назад

      Hum... what ? He erased himself out of religious pressure. When you're a kid and your whole world is your parents, you can't blame the kid for going along and then blaming them when it didn't work.

  • @Aices-j6p
    @Aices-j6p Год назад

    Well I am asexual so

  • @bargainbin6162
    @bargainbin6162 5 лет назад +9

    As a Christian I would naturally think that other sexualities aren't right.
    But I respect that and wouldn't hate those sexualities through actions nor words.
    I'd do nothing to show my respect.
    I'd just focus on following what god has for me instead of focusing on others.

    • @Nonalhomophobie
      @Nonalhomophobie 2 года назад +2

      But by posting this comment you are already disrespecting other sexualities.

    • @luxitos2867
      @luxitos2867 2 года назад

      And you're not right.

  • @cash_ketchum4958
    @cash_ketchum4958 3 года назад

    Adum was right. Lucas is honestly not a very good actor. I think yall are a bit washed because of what's he acting, not how he acts lol

  • @thedumpsterbehindachilis7763
    @thedumpsterbehindachilis7763 5 лет назад +13

    luke hedges is absolutely terrible. he took a great ending seen like this and completely drove it into the ground with his awful acting

  • @RyanRuark
    @RyanRuark 4 месяца назад

    "My beliefs." What astonishing vanity. What remarkable self-pity.