It's our culture to take care of our parents when they get older or help them when we can. But I don't know for the new generation. Thank you, Steve 👍👌
We in Europe we also take care of or elderly parent, I'm not at all worried about the well-being of my parents they are in the best hands. We place them in a elderly home to protect them against themselves. They worked all their life,saved all their life, payed all their life for mandatory Medicare and medical insurance and majority have one or more houses to have financial stability when they are old and in need. I think in majority of counties in the world it's the law not a suggestion. They are under supervision of nurses, doctors.( that's why the medical schools deliver worldwide nurses and doctors) And if their retirement income is not enough, then all children contribute together. It's maybe a difrend system but it's working also I think. Nothing wrong with that.
I'm more concerned about expats who came to the Philippines with low retirement income and hoping to be able to get back to their countries in case of medical emergency. Question stay's , will they be able to travel ? , some become homeless for years that way.
Not only is it your culture, it is also your law. Adult children are by law in the Philippines expected not only to provide for the needs of their parents (even if their parents are not 'old' yet), but also the needs of their siblings. If reported for failure to provided needed assistance, a working son or daughter can have their wages garnished by order of the court. If parents don't earn enough to cover life's basic needs, or if siblings cannot afford the education they've proven themselves capable of succeeding at, it is a lovely thing that the law itself places a reasonable amount of burden on the adult children. And if that adult child marries, be it to a foreigner or not, only by a carefully crafted "prenup" can the spouse be relieved from sharing in this burden or having the court order them to do so. It's one thing for a foreign male to not want to get strapped with buying all kinds of 'extras' for members of his wife's family, but it would be a crying shame if he's not willing to help take care of those to whom her very heart is attached. What a full-blown jerk it would take to do that.
Steve very important point. If you are retired you are thought of as rich by filippino standards. Now your girlfriend may still have or feel she has a family obligation to help her family. Even if you give an allowance to her does it make it enough. Say you give her 5500 pesos per month for her family and you do it willingly. Then it becomes well why not 10000 pesos or motor cyle accident happens and its always on you. Now you are in over your head. What is worse they call you cheap charlie for not giving them access to your funds. They think you are obligated to always save the family and that is just their culture speaking. They do not know better. I will stay home and pick my battles in a culture I understand. Thanks for your prospective.
The legal system in the US changes the playing field and the game. Women should not be criticized for initiating nearly 70% of divorces in the US. If upon divorce men were generally awarded primary child custody, the primary residence, and child support, it would be men initiating 70% of divorces.
That’s why there is ZERO benefit for a single man to marry. If you’re that lonely, just get a dog or cat. Sadly in our 20s we chase tail, and wanna put a ring on it. EVERY man that’s I know that’s married all say the same thing…if my spouse died, I wouldn’t remarry. That’s telling all by itself. Stay single, enjoy life.😊
I've noticed that it's very difficult to find a good American woman in her 50's and 60's. My theory is that the good ones were already taken in their younger years and they are kept. But the not so good ones are thrown back in the pond. Thank goodness for the Philippines!
You're absolutely correct Steve, social media has brought the West to the philippines. The younger Filipinos are glued to their phones, and many Filipinas are as well. They know what is going on overseas with the women, and many are shocked. The philippines doesn't have the big daddy government to fall back on for women, and the family is the only safety net . You also don't have the level of education or financial opportunities for women in the philippines like in the West, and that is why the OFW movement is still going strong. I think everyone puts on a different face when they are around their piers and when they are around their girlfriend or wife. I've watched guys out with their buddies, and they act totally different than when they are around their girlfriend, and that is normal behavior. My girlfriend gets around her sisters, and it's on with the chisma and other woman's stuff that they talk about that she doesn't talk about around me . She has a different relationship with them than she does with me, and she knows that she can share certain things with me, and that is as far as it goes. That is the difference between us and them.
You are right, as long as you are taking care of your Filipina and keeping her happy, respected and trusted no doubt you'll have a lifetime partner here.😍
As far as hiding character from the locals . . . I do a bit of that myself. I cultivate my reputation with the villagers. When I am out & about in the village during holidays I am definitely an oddity and I often get ask to join someone in a drink, usually beer or whiskey. I don’t drink with the locals. I politely decline. I figure once I start with them there will be no stopping them. I very definitely drink. I’m drinking a 🍺 right now in the comfort of my air conditioned room on this insanely hot day. I drink with my expat friends.
When I am in the Philippines, I am often asked to drink, always with the men, usually with my wife's brothers. I have tried different strategies in how to respond. Usually I go and sit with them and visit for the first 45 minutes. I have a one beer a day rule that I observe. I take one small San Mig and sip it slowly and refuse to drink more. After they have had a quite a bit to drink, they are not fun for me to visit with and I quietly leave and walk home or just go and listen to the live music. There is a point where they say they "shift gears" in their drinking. After several beers they shift gears and start to drink hard liquor. There is a very definite point when I know it is time to leave. Often they hire a band and I can coninue to listen to them or go home. I never "morning the night" as they say when they drink all night. As near as I can discern, they drink with the goal in mind of getting drunk, almost until they go to sleep. But they do it very seldom and it doesn't seem to affect their lives much, except for one guy who is what they call "the drinkmaster." But even he is a very friendly drunk when he drinks. My house is very close to the homes where they meet for parties and I just leave and walk home. After I am full of good Filipino food. But I stay long enough to be sociable. I have less toleration for drinking with those outside of the family. The women in my wife's family are a mixed bag. Most of them drink a some. Some get drunk. Fifteen years ago when I fist came, some of them would dance on the counter or table but now they are all older. From age 57 to 77, and they are generally well behaved according to my subjective criteria. Watching how a family reacts to drink is always interesting. My deceased step-mother had a business of buying beer and delivering it to families that were partying. She had a low markup and good service and she did it a lot. But, yet, she was the first to walk around to her adult daughters and tell them when it was time for each of them to stop drinking. And they listened! But she has been gone for ten years now and they don't have that restrain anymore. But they now don't drink as much because they have more personal restraint as they have matured. My wife has a large family with 10 siblings and approx 75 cousins and God only knows how many nieces and nephews so my sample size for observation is large. If someone gets sick or goes to sleep, several people will help them and the womenfolk seem to tolerate it. The dynamics are very different than how people drank back in the States. But they are good people and I love them and they include me and watch out for me. If they think I am in a dangerous situation, they quietly advise me. Either if a woman they notice that is trying to hit on me or dangerous people are on the street. It is not 100% safe out there and I heed their advice. Staying sober is a good place to start with being safe.
@@prairiemark4084 I do exactly the same. Sometimes it is easier to accept the drink and just put it aside. If the drink is in a glass then never take a sip because they are eternally topping up.
@@martypoll They do like to top up. My family has a guy in the middle of the drinking circle. The has lots of bottles and he fills everyone up. They call that guy "the gunner."
Hi Steve. Interesting topic. Informative video. The subtle and not-so-subtle differences between American women vs. Filipinas are very helpful to know as someone who hasn’t visited the Philippines yet.
This is what is known as social pressure. Filipinas don’t want to bring shame on their families and other women hold them somewhat accountable. Poor behavior has repercussions. In the West, all laws and social pressures have been removed from women that would have tempered how they act. They can be as wild and promiscuous as they want. They can get pregnant as teens and society no longer shames them. There is zero accountability for women in the West. They are going full blast with their hair on fire, screwing up everything and everyone they come into contact with.
It's really not that they hide their true self from the man. It's that friends brings out your inner self. When I had friends (decades ago), I was different more outgoing fun-loving etcetera. My mom commented to me once when I was a teenager that that was a completely different person when he was around his friends then when he was at home with us.
I have been married for over 30 years to a filipina. When she gets together with other Filipinos, she acts and talks, totally different than when she’s with me even in front of me. She goes back to having a strong Philippine accent. I tease her about it later ask her to talk like that with me because I think it’s so cute but she can’t. I’ve noticed The being around other people bring out different sides of my Filipina not so much that she’s hiding something. It just brings a different side of her.
The Filipina Pea just did an interview with a lwyer on the family support issue. If your wife is a PH citizen then she is liable to support her parents, children, grandchildren and her siblings. And even though you are a foreigner (thus you are not liable) she is considered to own 50% of your stuff and income as your spouse. So she is legsally on the hook to use your money to help her parents, siblings, children and grandchildren. That being said…… support is food, medical aid, and transportation to from work, to from school, and theirt schooling too. My wife gave up her PH citizenship so now she is no longer liable for that law as a non-citizen……. But the family pressure is still there.
In foreign countries, USA, France, England, Emirates... locals don't want service jobs... stressful and low-paid... they leave them to immigrants as filipinos
Why struggle to understand any woman or man for that matter? That's on them. Perhaps that's my special secret. I don't care until shown a reason why. Loyalty is everything, and there's a price to pay.
I believe that since social media came into play western women have lost traditional values it is very bad here in 2 years im done here sad to say they are broken enjoy your day
You are right. There are still plenty of people in denial and try to convince themselves the US is still the same, it's not..things have changed here in a big way. I'm happily married to a Filipina so I don't have to deal with American women's attitude but I see it all the time.
It's just how generations go. Younger people don't care about so called traditional stuff, same goes for young Filipinas too. Social media is everywhere, Ai is coming in too. It's something you just have to accept. Nothing much in US has changed other than people getting older, grumpy, and slightly jaded.
I think it was Pea I told, look, when the woman hanging on your arm, looking into your obviously smitten eyes, still manages to go on and on with all this jealousy/can-I-really-trust-your-fidelity stuff, they may as well be typing a message onto your forehead that says, yes, when you're not looking you can pretty well expect I'm going to be vying for the attention of someone who's more appealing than you are ...but my hope is that you'll take all my 'worry' to indicate a degree of devotion to you that's just the opposite of what it is. Oh, and the other thing I said, which really surprised her coming from someone who's as religious as I am, is that I believe the Filipina has absolutely every right to do that. What in the world would make almost any man, much less an older one with a young doll on his arm, think that he has the right to strip her life of all 'actual' prospects for bona fide romance? That's just silly. Be glad she wants to be with you, but don't try to superimpose onto that the idea that she deserves to be with no one else.
I guess I am an exception, since even my mom said that my personality didn't fit in with the Filipino lifestyle. That's also why I easily assimilated to the USA lifestyle. I never showed a different face to others, be it in the Philippines or the USA. But with this invasion that is happening (and which I consider a slap to my face because I did things legally), countries foreigners move to will turn white and progress while the USA will turn colored and regress. NYC is beginning to look like Divisoria. Heck, Divisoria is probably cleaner than NYC currently. You leave and they make you wish you never left? No different from American women.
When I was dating, it was ok at first, then the jealousy/other issues kicked. This went on for to long, so I called it a day. I understand that if you upset a Philippine (for breathing) then she will go John Wick on your ass, with her tone/behaviour (Not physical) Pretty sure it is a unknown well hidden martial art ..... 2 years visiting the Philippines, & im still trying to understand Philippine women. I understand the universe more than than the Philippine women. Still They are nice, caring & loving. Take care & best wishes.
Well said my friend! They are absolutely crazy jealous over nothing even though my girl is bouncing her sexy ass on Tik Tok and telling me these people want to meet her. She has no brain or concept at how things work. She is moving out this week and I will never live with one of them anytime soon. They are actually sick in the mind.
I wouldn't say fillipina women are better than any other woman on this earth the girls that date or marry foreigner's are financially more dependent on us than women from the west. I think the law regarding helping the families is crazy the Philippines government should do more to help their people. I would rather be with a woman that can be herself in front of me that way i know what im getting into some filipinas will be themselves when they get to know you well. Most of the time foreigner's don't date or marry girls that are financially independent with good jobs i can imagine dating or marrying a girl in the Philippines that is financially secure would be different from dating someone who is dependent on us. Thanks for sharing 👍
If you care for the Filipina you have to help her with her family. You give her an allowance. She can then choose to help her family and it’s on her. I feel it’s a mistake for her family to get money from you. If you want to keep your Filipina happy why have her stressed about her parents being taken care of. It will in time generally affect your relationship with her even if she say it is ok not to help her parents. A happy Filipina is much easier to get along with. I feel the expat has to keep a walk up when it comes to her parents and money support. I would not want her family to think they can come to me for money. Better to keep that locked down and they deal with her on support. Just my opinion. If they think they can get money from you, they’re going to continue to come to you for money. Just better that they go to her when it comes to money. Save you a lot of grief in the long run I feel.
I give her a decent allowance and told her she can send as much back to the family. She prefers to buy sexy clothes and then bitches at me for not supporting her family. She will be single next week!
Why you all feel the need to give her this allowance? She's no kid anymore with a piggy bank. Make her find a job with a good income. That will make her happy in the long run. Don't just give people money
the family support law is not exclusive to Ph. other countries follow the same route. but, she has to be generating an income and, the family need to prove that they are struggling. so, just because she is married to a foreigner, while not working or have a stream of income, doesn't entitle her family to anything. unless Ph is extreme about it.
In the Philippines is no divorce , so if relationship turns wrong , you don't have much options left. Right. Many foreigners where married 1,2,3 times before in their country , three times they vowed "UNTIL DEATH DO US PART" . I think you know what I mean yes?
I prefer the more honest American style than finding out the hard way that a woman was scamming for a green-card, babies as their 401K, money to send home, etc. We know that love is as real as a $3 bill unless the man is a handsome young "Chad". There's no such thing as "happy spouse, happy house" only "happy wife, happy life" as a male utility (while she has hidden flings with a Chad - which I've seen with mail order brides). IMHO, none truly love their husband, only the green card. This is easy to prove. How much action does the foreigner get without the green card or being a $imp?
I'm middle-aged originally from Africa (British descent). In my day, as a woman you only had status when you were married and extra status when you had children. Being a spinster was taboo. You were encouraged to go to university, but not encouraged to pursue a career (climbing the career ladder). You were kind of excluded from gatherings if there were couples going. I was even excluded from a hen-do for a family member because I was not married. So women really strived to get married so they could have social status, and the divorce rate was high. But although divorce status wasn't great, it was a better social status than been a spinster. Women (a lot of the time) would grovel to make men happy in order to get married. Perhaps it is the same or similiar for the Filipina ladies. p.s. I left Africa decades ago so not sure if it is still the same or if things have improved for spinsters.
Do you really think western people don't support or don't care about their family? Yes Sir, even we live in the Philippines we also have mandatory responsibility to support mandatory our parents. And if possible also sister's and brothers if they have a financial problem. In all cases when we put our parents in a home, they are 24/7 surrounded by proffesional nurses and have every day visit from a doctor. And if their retirement income is not enough then all children contribute together. I think system is almost the same all over the world.
Hi Steve, it’s me, Pete, 😉😎👍🏼, Great topic. What you’re describing/kind of sharing, is a great blog that THE FILIPINA PEA covered, in detail: WHY DO FILIPINAS LIE? What you’re describing is, lies of omission/deception. And in a Filipina’s eyes, these types of lies are acceptable. Long story short, we have to have that long sit down talk with them. A lie is a lie is a lie and a sin!!! And is not acceptable Also, there is a new law in that by the Filipino government, that states, Filipinos are mandatory obligated to financially take care of their parents and siblings. This has become an actual law in the Philippines. The worst part about this new law is, it includes foreigners, that means that when Filipino marries a foreigner, he is income now is counted as him mandatory, required to also help support the Filipino parents, and siblings. It’s a new law, and it’s done. And sadly, it’s a done deal.
C’mon Steve your generalizing to the point of of total absurdity. Most men American, European, Asian stay with one partner, they’re entire life, including having a loving nurturing relationship with their biological children. The rest tend to not have just 2 relationships, but many, and switch from partner frequently, when things get difficult In my opinion the downfall of family values in the present is, lacking terribly. Surprisingly, if you talk to many expats also, it is their greatest regret. Somewhat sad really
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The trade in okay to me! I haven't argued and no yelling since I got off the plane! I love the quietness of the relationship here!
Which is one of the advantages of learning the local languages. So one knows if you are being talked about.
It's our culture to take care of our parents when they get older or help them when we can. But I don't know for the new generation. Thank you, Steve 👍👌
Yes, you are right
We in Europe we also take care of or elderly parent, I'm not at all worried about the well-being of my parents they are in the best hands.
We place them in a elderly home to protect them against themselves.
They worked all their life,saved all their life, payed all their life for mandatory Medicare and medical insurance and majority have one or more houses to have financial stability when they are old and in need.
I think in majority of counties in the world it's the law not a suggestion.
They are under supervision of nurses, doctors.( that's why the medical schools deliver worldwide nurses and doctors)
And if their retirement income is not enough, then all children contribute together.
It's maybe a difrend system but it's working also I think.
Nothing wrong with that.
I'm more concerned about expats who came to the Philippines with low retirement income and hoping to be able to get back to their countries in case of medical emergency.
Question stay's , will they be able to travel ? , some become homeless for years that way.
Not only is it your culture, it is also your law. Adult children are by law in the Philippines expected not only to provide for the needs of their parents (even if their parents are not 'old' yet), but also the needs of their siblings. If reported for failure to provided needed assistance, a working son or daughter can have their wages garnished by order of the court. If parents don't earn enough to cover life's basic needs, or if siblings cannot afford the education they've proven themselves capable of succeeding at, it is a lovely thing that the law itself places a reasonable amount of burden on the adult children. And if that adult child marries, be it to a foreigner or not, only by a carefully crafted "prenup" can the spouse be relieved from sharing in this burden or having the court order them to do so. It's one thing for a foreign male to not want to get strapped with buying all kinds of 'extras' for members of his wife's family, but it would be a crying shame if he's not willing to help take care of those to whom her very heart is attached. What a full-blown jerk it would take to do that.
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What if the foreigner has to support his family,sisters, brothers, parents ?
Coz nobody wants to be a jerk right?
Steve very important point. If you are retired you are thought of as rich by filippino standards. Now your girlfriend may still have or feel she has a family obligation to help her family. Even if you give an allowance to her does it make it enough. Say you give her 5500 pesos per month for her family and you do it willingly. Then it becomes well why not 10000 pesos or motor cyle accident happens and its always on you. Now you are in over your head. What is worse they call you cheap charlie for not giving them access to your funds. They think you are obligated to always save the family and that is just their culture speaking. They do not know better. I will stay home and pick my battles in a culture I understand. Thanks for your prospective.
The legal system in the US changes the playing field and the game. Women should not be criticized for initiating nearly 70% of divorces in the US. If upon divorce men were generally awarded primary child custody, the primary residence, and child support, it would be men initiating 70% of divorces.
That’s why there is ZERO benefit for a single man to marry. If you’re that lonely, just get a dog or cat. Sadly in our 20s we chase tail, and wanna put a ring on it. EVERY man that’s I know that’s married all say the same thing…if my spouse died, I wouldn’t remarry. That’s telling all by itself. Stay single, enjoy life.😊
I've noticed that it's very difficult to find a good American woman in her 50's and 60's. My theory is that the good ones were already taken in their younger years and they are kept. But the not so good ones are thrown back in the pond. Thank goodness for the Philippines!
You're absolutely correct Steve, social media has brought the West to the philippines. The younger Filipinos are glued to their phones, and many Filipinas are as well. They know what is going on overseas with the women, and many are shocked. The philippines doesn't have the big daddy government to fall back on for women, and the family is the only safety net . You also don't have the level of education or financial opportunities for women in the philippines like in the West, and that is why the OFW movement is still going strong. I think everyone puts on a different face when they are around their piers and when they are around their girlfriend or wife. I've watched guys out with their buddies, and they act totally different than when they are around their girlfriend, and that is normal behavior. My girlfriend gets around her sisters, and it's on with the chisma and other woman's stuff that they talk about that she doesn't talk about around me . She has a different relationship with them than she does with me, and she knows that she can share certain things with me, and that is as far as it goes. That is the difference between us and them.
I would argue Filipinas and most of Asia area even more glued to their phones than back out west. Everyone is absolutely obsessed with it here
You are right, as long as you are taking care of your Filipina and keeping her happy, respected and trusted no doubt you'll have a lifetime partner here.😍
As far as hiding character from the locals . . . I do a bit of that myself. I cultivate my reputation with the villagers. When I am out & about in the village during holidays I am definitely an oddity and I often get ask to join someone in a drink, usually beer or whiskey. I don’t drink with the locals. I politely decline. I figure once I start with them there will be no stopping them. I very definitely drink. I’m drinking a 🍺 right now in the comfort of my air conditioned room on this insanely hot day. I drink with my expat friends.
When I am in the Philippines, I am often asked to drink, always with the men, usually with my wife's brothers. I have tried different strategies in how to respond. Usually I go and sit with them and visit for the first 45 minutes. I have a one beer a day rule that I observe. I take one small San Mig and sip it slowly and refuse to drink more. After they have had a quite a bit to drink, they are not fun for me to visit with and I quietly leave and walk home or just go and listen to the live music. There is a point where they say they "shift gears" in their drinking. After several beers they shift gears and start to drink hard liquor. There is a very definite point when I know it is time to leave. Often they hire a band and I can coninue to listen to them or go home. I never "morning the night" as they say when they drink all night. As near as I can discern, they drink with the goal in mind of getting drunk, almost until they go to sleep. But they do it very seldom and it doesn't seem to affect their lives much, except for one guy who is what they call "the drinkmaster." But even he is a very friendly drunk when he drinks. My house is very close to the homes where they meet for parties and I just leave and walk home. After I am full of good Filipino food. But I stay long enough to be sociable. I have less toleration for drinking with those outside of the family. The women in my wife's family are a mixed bag. Most of them drink a some. Some get drunk. Fifteen years ago when I fist came, some of them would dance on the counter or table but now they are all older. From age 57 to 77, and they are generally well behaved according to my subjective criteria. Watching how a family reacts to drink is always interesting. My deceased step-mother had a business of buying beer and delivering it to families that were partying. She had a low markup and good service and she did it a lot. But, yet, she was the first to walk around to her adult daughters and tell them when it was time for each of them to stop drinking. And they listened! But she has been gone for ten years now and they don't have that restrain anymore. But they now don't drink as much because they have more personal restraint as they have matured. My wife has a large family with 10 siblings and approx 75 cousins and God only knows how many nieces and nephews so my sample size for observation is large. If someone gets sick or goes to sleep, several people will help them and the womenfolk seem to tolerate it. The dynamics are very different than how people drank back in the States. But they are good people and I love them and they include me and watch out for me. If they think I am in a dangerous situation, they quietly advise me. Either if a woman they notice that is trying to hit on me or dangerous people are on the street. It is not 100% safe out there and I heed their advice. Staying sober is a good place to start with being safe.
@@prairiemark4084 I do exactly the same. Sometimes it is easier to accept the drink and just put it aside. If the drink is in a glass then never take a sip because they are eternally topping up.
@@TheSocioPat7786 For many years, when I was just visiting the village, I could say no because I was driving. They accepted that.
@@martypoll Yes they are! They have a man in the middle on a chair with a large bottles. They call him "the gunner." His job is to keep you full.
@@martypoll They do like to top up. My family has a guy in the middle of the drinking circle. The has lots of bottles and he fills everyone up. They call that guy "the gunner."
Hi Steve. Interesting topic. Informative video. The subtle and not-so-subtle differences between American women vs. Filipinas are very helpful to know as someone who hasn’t visited the Philippines yet.
Really enjoyed the information. Thank you and look forward to hearing more on what you want to share.
Most women in the USA have no guilt or shame, most Filipinas seem to care more about their reputation in the community and how men view them.
This is what is known as social pressure. Filipinas don’t want to bring shame on their families and other women hold them somewhat accountable. Poor behavior has repercussions.
In the West, all laws and social pressures have been removed from women that would have tempered how they act. They can be as wild and promiscuous as they want. They can get pregnant as teens and society no longer shames them. There is zero accountability for women in the West. They are going full blast with their hair on fire, screwing up everything and everyone they come into contact with.
I would say that Filipinas are caring less and less now unlike before
How dare those uppidy foreign women don’t show you the respect you try to purchase.
It's really not that they hide their true self from the man. It's that friends brings out your inner self. When I had friends (decades ago), I was different more outgoing fun-loving etcetera. My mom commented to me once when I was a teenager that that was a completely different person when he was around his friends then when he was at home with us.
I have been married for over 30 years to a filipina. When she gets together with other Filipinos, she acts and talks, totally different than when she’s with me even in front of me. She goes back to having a strong Philippine accent. I tease her about it later ask her to talk like that with me because I think it’s so cute but she can’t. I’ve noticed The being around other people bring out different sides of my Filipina not so much that she’s hiding something. It just brings a different side of her.
@@ajphototrekker everyone has more than one side not to say that any of those sites are good or bad
The Filipina Pea just did an interview with a lwyer on the family support issue. If your wife is a PH citizen then she is liable to support her parents, children, grandchildren and her siblings. And even though you are a foreigner (thus you are not liable) she is considered to own 50% of your stuff and income as your spouse. So she is legsally on the hook to use your money to help her parents, siblings, children and grandchildren.
That being said…… support is food, medical aid, and transportation to from work, to from school, and theirt schooling too.
My wife gave up her PH citizenship so now she is no longer liable for that law as a non-citizen……. But the family pressure is still there.
the biggest difference ive noticed about the women here and those in oz and what i see on you tube of american women is at least 45kg.!!
In foreign countries, USA, France, England, Emirates... locals don't want service jobs... stressful and low-paid... they leave them to immigrants as filipinos
It's called Feminism , that's the main issue in the US
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Every culture and country has them. US has many amazing women too
Why struggle to understand any woman or man for that matter? That's on them. Perhaps that's my special secret. I don't care until shown a reason why. Loyalty is everything, and there's a price to pay.
I believe that since social media came into play western women have lost traditional values it is very bad here in 2 years im done here sad to say they are broken enjoy your day
You are right. There are still plenty of people in denial and try to convince themselves the US is still the same, it's not..things have changed here in a big way. I'm happily married to a Filipina so I don't have to deal with American women's attitude but I see it all the time.
It's just how generations go. Younger people don't care about so called traditional stuff, same goes for young Filipinas too. Social media is everywhere, Ai is coming in too. It's something you just have to accept. Nothing much in US has changed other than people getting older, grumpy, and slightly jaded.
Dude! You like living on the edge don't you? Hot Topic.
Hi Steve, long time no see, hope all is well.
Great vid man
Good, honest descussion 👍🏽
I think it was Pea I told, look, when the woman hanging on your arm, looking into your obviously smitten eyes, still manages to go on and on with all this jealousy/can-I-really-trust-your-fidelity stuff, they may as well be typing a message onto your forehead that says, yes, when you're not looking you can pretty well expect I'm going to be vying for the attention of someone who's more appealing than you are ...but my hope is that you'll take all my 'worry' to indicate a degree of devotion to you that's just the opposite of what it is. Oh, and the other thing I said, which really surprised her coming from someone who's as religious as I am, is that I believe the Filipina has absolutely every right to do that. What in the world would make almost any man, much less an older one with a young doll on his arm, think that he has the right to strip her life of all 'actual' prospects for bona fide romance? That's just silly. Be glad she wants to be with you, but don't try to superimpose onto that the idea that she deserves to be with no one else.
Well done video, what you mentioned is true. Different problems for different locations. I'd still take the Filipina over others.
I guess I am an exception, since even my mom said that my personality didn't fit in with the Filipino lifestyle. That's also why I easily assimilated to the USA lifestyle. I never showed a different face to others, be it in the Philippines or the USA.
But with this invasion that is happening (and which I consider a slap to my face because I did things legally), countries foreigners move to will turn white and progress while the USA will turn colored and regress. NYC is beginning to look like Divisoria. Heck, Divisoria is probably cleaner than NYC currently.
You leave and they make you wish you never left? No different from American women.
When I was dating, it was ok at first, then the jealousy/other issues kicked. This went on for to long, so I called it a day. I understand that if you upset a Philippine (for breathing) then she will go John Wick on your ass, with her tone/behaviour (Not physical) Pretty sure it is a unknown well hidden martial art ..... 2 years visiting the Philippines, & im still trying to understand Philippine women. I understand the universe more than than the Philippine women. Still They are nice, caring & loving. Take care & best wishes.
Well said my friend! They are absolutely crazy jealous over nothing even though my girl is bouncing her sexy ass on Tik Tok and telling me these people want to meet her. She has no brain or concept at how things work. She is moving out this week and I will never live with one of them anytime soon. They are actually sick in the mind.
Agreed! Men are from mars, women from pluto, but filipinas are from neptune.
I wouldn't say fillipina women are better than any other woman on this earth the girls that date or marry foreigner's are financially more dependent on us than women from the west.
I think the law regarding helping the families is crazy the Philippines government should do more to help their people.
I would rather be with a woman that can be herself in front of me that way i know what im getting into some filipinas will be themselves when they get to know you well.
Most of the time foreigner's don't date or marry girls that are financially independent with good jobs i can imagine dating or marrying a girl in the Philippines that is financially secure would be different from dating someone who is dependent on us.
Thanks for sharing 👍
If you care for the Filipina you have to help her with her family. You give her an allowance. She can then choose to help her family and it’s on her. I feel it’s a mistake for her family to get money from you. If you want to keep your Filipina happy why have her stressed about her parents being taken care of. It will in time generally affect your relationship with her even if she say it is ok not to help her parents. A happy Filipina is much easier to get along with. I feel the expat has to keep a walk up when it comes to her parents and money support. I would not want her family to think they can come to me for money. Better to keep that locked down and they deal with her on support. Just my opinion. If they think they can get money from you, they’re going to continue to come to you for money. Just better that they go to her when it comes to money. Save you a lot of grief in the long run I feel.
I give her a decent allowance and told her she can send as much back to the family. She prefers to buy sexy clothes and then bitches at me for not supporting her family. She will be single next week!
I thought about this a lot, and I 100% agree. Let all the money pass through her. She handles the money, even if it comes from you
Why you all feel the need to give her this allowance? She's no kid anymore with a piggy bank. Make her find a job with a good income. That will make her happy in the long run. Don't just give people money
the family support law is not exclusive to Ph. other countries follow the same route. but, she has to be generating an income and, the family need to prove that they are struggling. so, just because she is married to a foreigner, while not working or have a stream of income, doesn't entitle her family to anything. unless Ph is extreme about it.
I'd rather deal with the problems here in the Philippines than the ones in the States. JMHO.
In the Philippines is no divorce , so if relationship turns wrong , you don't have much options left.
Right.
Many foreigners where married 1,2,3 times before in their country , three times they vowed "UNTIL DEATH DO US PART" .
I think you know what I mean yes?
I prefer the more honest American style than finding out the hard way that a woman was scamming for a green-card, babies as their 401K, money to send home, etc. We know that love is as real as a $3 bill unless the man is a handsome young "Chad". There's no such thing as "happy spouse, happy house" only "happy wife, happy life" as a male utility (while she has hidden flings with a Chad - which I've seen with mail order brides). IMHO, none truly love their husband, only the green card. This is easy to prove. How much action does the foreigner get without the green card or being a $imp?
I'm middle-aged originally from Africa (British descent). In my day, as a woman you only had status when you were married and extra status when you had children. Being a spinster was taboo. You were encouraged to go to university, but not encouraged to pursue a career (climbing the career ladder). You were kind of excluded from gatherings if there were couples going. I was even excluded from a hen-do for a family member because I was not married. So women really strived to get married so they could have social status, and the divorce rate was high. But although divorce status wasn't great, it was a better social status than been a spinster. Women (a lot of the time) would grovel to make men happy in order to get married. Perhaps it is the same or similiar for the Filipina ladies. p.s. I left Africa decades ago so not sure if it is still the same or if things have improved for spinsters.
4:02 - 4:26. That's really all I want.
Do you really think western people don't support or don't care about their family?
Yes Sir, even we live in the Philippines we also have mandatory responsibility to support mandatory our parents.
And if possible also sister's and brothers if they have a financial problem.
In all cases when we put our parents in a home, they are 24/7 surrounded by proffesional nurses and have every day visit from a doctor.
And if their retirement income is not enough then all children contribute together.
I think system is almost the same all over the world.
Hi Steve, it’s me, Pete, 😉😎👍🏼,
Great topic. What you’re describing/kind of sharing, is a great blog that THE FILIPINA PEA covered, in detail:
WHY DO FILIPINAS LIE?
What you’re describing is, lies of omission/deception. And in a Filipina’s eyes, these types of lies are acceptable.
Long story short, we have to have that long sit down talk with them. A lie is a lie is a lie and a sin!!! And is not acceptable
Also, there is a new law in that by the Filipino government, that states, Filipinos are mandatory obligated to financially take care of their parents and siblings. This has become an actual law in the Philippines. The worst part about this new law is, it includes foreigners, that means that when Filipino marries a foreigner, he is income now is counted as him mandatory, required to also help support the Filipino parents, and siblings. It’s a new law, and it’s done.
And sadly, it’s a done deal.
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The best advise any father could give to a daughter is learn a skill so you never have to depend on a man for your livelihood.
Thank God I left the USA for a country where wemon want to be a homemaker . Life is good here. The people are happy.
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C’mon Steve your generalizing to the point of of total absurdity.
Most men American, European, Asian stay with one partner, they’re entire life, including having a loving nurturing relationship with their biological children.
The rest tend to not have just 2 relationships, but many, and switch from partner frequently, when things get difficult
In my opinion the downfall of family values in the present is, lacking terribly.
Surprisingly, if you talk to many expats also, it is their greatest regret.
Somewhat sad really
They play into the fantasy of the men coming to look for imitation love
You must be going for the poor Filipinos as the educated women show u from the start who they are
Middle Class
@@MrSteven5975 there is no middle class in Asian countries, you should know that
Hahaha American women shows who they are at get go … 😄
Where and what kind of women have you dated in USA …?
It’s time to go to other hunting grounds when a lot of American women say that Hillary Clinton and Michelle Obama are the two women they most admire.