"Is this what my loved one needs? 😟💭" How To Support A Recovering Addict

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  • Опубликовано: 24 дек 2024

Комментарии • 26

  • @MelissaChernovsky-mh6xv
    @MelissaChernovsky-mh6xv 28 дней назад +2

    That was a great and helpful video. Totally makes sense. My problem at this point is treating him normal because he's pushed me away so much, then doesn't remember things but I certainly do... the hurt and resentment make it hard when I'm still feeling upset and just trying to avoid him to avoid the arguing (ya know where you can't say anything right and the state they're in so they don't care what you have to say about anything). Even a simple conversation explodes because he's drinking. And I've got that voice in my head, I don't want to deal with this and I don't want this in my life. So I'm definitely feeling stuck, frustrated, tired and always walking on eggshells. It makes you question everything. Like is this who he's always been and I didn't see it before or is this who he is because the drinking. Will he ever get better. I don't know what to do.😮‍💨

  • @lilybloodnut3260
    @lilybloodnut3260 27 дней назад +1

    Brilliant advice re the not investigating relapse, you’re so right, “it shows itself because it’s unmanageable”
    I’ve wasted so much time tryna find out stuff, it’s mind numbing; six months sober and I’m still checking calls, receipts, tracking his phone 😊
    Faith. Always better than worry

  • @amethystwyvern
    @amethystwyvern 29 дней назад +1

    Thank you for these perspectives, I'm going through this with a family member and it's been a very rough 6 weeks. "It will all come out in the wash" so I don't need to stress myself to hell and back investigating anything. It's so sad

    • @cjgia4898
      @cjgia4898 29 дней назад

      16 years….my 32 year old daughter has been addicted for 16 years. Half her life and All of her son’s life! It’s about 16 years too long! 😢✌🏻❤🙏🏼

  • @loriallen2772
    @loriallen2772 15 дней назад +1

    Amber, you’ve been helping me for years with my addicted loved ones! Thank you so much! But…I just want to hear your voice, not background music
    ❤️❤️❤️

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  15 дней назад

      Hi Lori! Thanks for the kind words and for the feedback!

  • @elizabostwick2187
    @elizabostwick2187 28 дней назад

    Thank you Amber! Just what I needed to hear because by way of a true miracle, we are in Day 40 of loved one's recovery! I've been fighting for her for 17 years! Sorry I missed the live, was thinking Thursday:) God is good!

  • @davidcasson5602
    @davidcasson5602 29 дней назад +5

    My male , married work colleagues complain that they are expected to be Mr Entertainment,, which I thought was funny because my Alcohol infused loved one was always Miss Entertainment and would have the whole evening/ weekend planned( yes there was a bar ,, it would be there ,, she had planned it in ) . When it came to giving up suddenly I had to be Mr Entertainment,, as all her ,, places of interest and hobbies were out of bounds,, even sitting in the sunshine in the garden had to be reinvented,, read a book 📖 , instead of drinking Chardonnay etc . Going for a walk together was a start ,, I told her , we don’t need a dog you can take your man for a walk 🚶 .

  • @catm5549
    @catm5549 28 дней назад

    That was helpful, and I needed to hear it. I want to keep my relationship with my daughter a good one as it's been very tough this past year. Your video gave me more hope again. Thank you Amber!,😊

  • @TeaRose9
    @TeaRose9 28 дней назад

    Love this and I completely understand and agree. Thank you!!

  • @endramitchellgordon9829
    @endramitchellgordon9829 29 дней назад +2

    Excited to join live 👍👍👍

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  29 дней назад +2

      Excited to see you there. Just a heads up. I won't be live this week because of Thanksgiving. But we're back on schedule next week!

  • @Iammercy2
    @Iammercy2 8 дней назад

    My daughter was in a lock down duo condition facility for 7 mon. She recently went to a step down mental health facility. She slipped and was given a 30 day eviction notice. She's looking for work and a place to live. I told her there is a difference between a slip and relapse. Then I said it's just a slip and did she learn anything about a sneaky trigger. She said she can't be around houseless homeless people. She is feeling strong and serious about staying away from meth. I am very worried about her and how little time she has to get a job and place to live. Any suggestions? She was a danger to herself and others so I took guardianship of her about a year ago. If she lives with me she is sure to be treated rudely by my other daughter that has a 13 yr old son that also lives with me.

  • @Quartzone6145
    @Quartzone6145 23 дня назад

    I would love my loved one to go to recovery but we are in the uk and I know he will never do it

  • @melodystone1756
    @melodystone1756 29 дней назад +16

    Please don’t have background music on your broadcasts!! It’s so distracting.

    • @iridescent.fluorescence
      @iridescent.fluorescence 29 дней назад +3

      agreed 😬🙏🤍

    • @Sunsetglitch
      @Sunsetglitch 29 дней назад +1

      I don't really notice it honestly. I'm watching on my phone though 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @wawabbit
      @wawabbit 29 дней назад +2

      My brain cannot handle it!

    • @annagooch2061
      @annagooch2061 29 дней назад +3

      I agree!! Your content is great without it 🥰

    • @TeaRose9
      @TeaRose9 28 дней назад +2

      Agree, too distracting. Love to just hear her speak.

  • @judyknapp6176
    @judyknapp6176 29 дней назад

    My addicted son was asked by his wife, to leave their house because she is tired of his alcohol addiction ( 3 relapses over 12 yrs) so my ex-husband drove 6hrs & is allowing him to live at his house. Problem is my son wanted to detox himself this time . Problem my ex drinks & has alcohol around & drinks excessively with his friend , according to my son . When I confronted my ex he admitted that this was true . My son I think was sober for awhile ( I don’t know for sure ,I say this because he had a job , but as of yesterday he quit because he has painful back issues & the job increased from 8 hrs to 12 hrs a day ( standing no sitting ) .I don’t know what to think now

    • @peterlyons8793
      @peterlyons8793 29 дней назад +2

      I think they will be drinking together.

  • @valeriebryant5665
    @valeriebryant5665 28 дней назад

    At what point can we bring up things that need worked through in the marriage? Mine is falling apart since my husband got sober a year ago.

  • @MeghanDudek
    @MeghanDudek 14 дней назад

    Why do they suddenly go silent? We're going on 3 weeks of nothing.

  • @JenHouze-z7i
    @JenHouze-z7i 27 дней назад

    Hubby says he needs my help to get sober so I’ve been watching your videos and they’re great but leaving me wondering if I’m being played. 2 weeks ago he said to me again that he wants to be sober over those last 2 weeks he’s spent 1 night sober. He won’t get professional help and hasn’t even taken the step of taking his booze out of the fridge nevermind getting rid of it or not buying more.

  • @sandycrocker2707
    @sandycrocker2707 22 дня назад +1

    That background music is annoying & distracting. Also editing is too fast