Parent and adult child argue over who should be supporting whom financially

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  • Опубликовано: 30 мар 2024
  • A mother and son disagree over whose responsibility it is to pay the bills and provide financial support. Will any diner patrons share advice?
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  • @theoriginalbreakage
    @theoriginalbreakage Месяц назад +1925

    supporting your parents doesnt mean letting them spend your money on shopping trips and expensive things

    • @Elvirabg
      @Elvirabg Месяц назад +125

      For real, it doesn't seem like anyone understood that that's what was happening

    • @mstam6226
      @mstam6226 Месяц назад +9

      You're wright, she can find a job or something!! Do something ...

    • @victorianacastro7757
      @victorianacastro7757 Месяц назад +6

      Right

    • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
      @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад +5

      Your right she can find a job

    • @lindaveswuh7777
      @lindaveswuh7777 Месяц назад +3

      Agreed

  • @signalfire15
    @signalfire15 Месяц назад +1006

    The “I raised you” argument from parents is nonsensical. Your children don’t owe you anything. You chose to have children. It is your commission in life to raise your children. If you raise your children well, they will WANT to help you and take care of you in your old age, because of love, not because of obligation.

    • @eduardozuniga6675
      @eduardozuniga6675 Месяц назад +9

      Some one doesn't have kids

    • @razausman107
      @razausman107 Месяц назад +30

      I feel like they took care of us when we were Vulnerable and it’s only fair for us to pay the favor back

    • @signalfire15
      @signalfire15 Месяц назад +51

      @@eduardozuniga6675 and some one shouldn’t.

    • @signalfire15
      @signalfire15 Месяц назад +87

      @@razausman107 Repaying the favor would be fine if parents raising their own children was a favor. Raising your children is not and will never be a FAVOR. You bring children into this world, it is 100% your responsibility to take care of your children. It’s not the other way around. Children don’t get A CHOICE.

    • @francesca5571
      @francesca5571 Месяц назад +33

      Exactly like we didn't ask you to be born.

  • @Tony_940
    @Tony_940 Месяц назад +888

    The production on this show since it’s back is terrible. What’s up with them cutting it so soon and not even allowing people to speak or digest the situation anymore?

    • @KaiLucasZachary
      @KaiLucasZachary Месяц назад +78

      My thoughts exactly.

    • @Elvirabg
      @Elvirabg Месяц назад +49

      I just watched the coffee scammer one before this and was irked they cut the last guys words so quick

    • @Fondofela
      @Fondofela Месяц назад +92

      is it just me, or is the acting worse too

    • @jazzycat8917
      @jazzycat8917 Месяц назад +50

      omg ive been thinking the same. The editing is terrible, they never used to break it so early, they'd let people speak.

    • @christinam370
      @christinam370 Месяц назад +39

      Maybe they’re worried about people being more hostile nowadays?
      That’s the only thing i could think of… you know how sensitive people are now

  • @abbydabbs2694
    @abbydabbs2694 Месяц назад +177

    “ some kids are ungrateful” as he pays for everything and her shopping trips…. Supporting your parents isn’t paying for their shopping trips and all of their friends meals when they go out to eat.

    • @Akins560
      @Akins560 Месяц назад +2

      Sounds so toxic for sure. That would make me hop out my seat in a hot second.

  • @Dreamprism
    @Dreamprism Месяц назад +515

    1:37 I wish they'd have the son's actor be a little less rude. I'd like to see people's reactions if he were being less intense about it.

    • @Dreamprism
      @Dreamprism Месяц назад +61

      5:24 Again, the son actor is being rude. Just have him say "yes, I took out the trash" or at least "oh sorry I forgot but I'll do it when I get home."
      Don't make him so obviously an ungrateful manchild.

    • @mdtrtwlt
      @mdtrtwlt Месяц назад +20

      I was just going to comment this same thing. I feel like it detracts from the point they're trying to make with this episode.

    • @OnBakePlatinum
      @OnBakePlatinum Месяц назад +8

      @@DreamprismThey spend all day trying to get reactions and only post the good ones. They have to be unsubtle

    • @Jordan-vc4cn
      @Jordan-vc4cn Месяц назад +9

      I agree, I was confused about the picture they were trying to create. First it sounds like she was taking advantage ("Are you going out and paying for everybody?), but the tone and word choices of the son makes it all unclear if she actually was doing that, or if he's just angry and exaggerating. I feel like some people might not have wanted to get involved because they were unsure who to side with.

    • @guyfierimtwi
      @guyfierimtwi Месяц назад +4

      Because thats how men are always portrayed in this world

  • @sweater0115
    @sweater0115 Месяц назад +178

    Any parent that uses the excuse that they fed and clothed their kid to guilt their kid into caring for them...
    1) That's your minimum obligation for choosing to bring them into the world. It was not their choice to be here, so do your job without holding it over their head. A parent's love and care should be priceless, because children need it. It's not like we pop out ready to take care of ourselves.
    2) You shouldn't be guilting your kid into taking care of you until you NEED it. She was perfectly capable of working, but just didn't want to. There is a big difference between a lazy, freeloading parent and a parent who worked as long and as hard as they could and reached a point they couldn't do it anymore.

    • @razausman107
      @razausman107 Месяц назад +2

      I feel like they took care of us when we were Vulnerable and it’s only fair for us to pay the favor back

    • @sweater0115
      @sweater0115 Месяц назад +23

      @@razausman107 they have to take care of you when you're vulnerable because that is the bare minimum a parent should do since they chose to have a kid. You don't do your job as a parent then hold it over your kid's head. That makes a bad parent. You do your best and hope your kid WANTS to do that for you when you're older and the vulnerable one. You're not obligated to anything.

    • @razausman107
      @razausman107 Месяц назад +3

      @@sweater0115 they don’t have to do shit they can just abandon you and give you a really bad childhood or send us away to a boarding school they choose to be with us buy us things and give us all the love in the world and in return we should honour them for spending their whole lives looking after us and protecting us

    • @sweater0115
      @sweater0115 Месяц назад +10

      @@razausman107 I never said they don't, but they're not entitled to it just because they didn't abandon their kid. That's selfish. Having a child in the first place is selfish. They chose, not the kid. So yeah, they are OBLIGATED to be a parent. Just because they didn't abandon the kid instead doesn't mean they deserve the world. I never said a good parent doesn't deserve good care back; I am saying that all parents should get over themselves and realize they made their decisions and should live with the consequences. If you're a bare minimum parent, you deserve NOTHING from your child. If you're a wonderful parent, you're still not ENTITLED to ANYTHING. At that point, if your kid doesn't want to give you anything, accept it because you chose to have the kid to begin with. Don't act entitled just because you were selfish and gave them a life they never asked for.

    • @katherinetomasello3661
      @katherinetomasello3661 Месяц назад +5

      Food shelter and clothing are the same things provided by orphanages

  • @UCONN_HUSKIES
    @UCONN_HUSKIES Месяц назад +275

    Ungrateful, like it the kids' responsibility to take care of their parents.
    Not every parent is worthy.

    • @Elvirabg
      @Elvirabg Месяц назад +51

      THIS what about abusive, manipulative parents??

    • @UCONN_HUSKIES
      @UCONN_HUSKIES Месяц назад +17

      Why I said not every parent is worth it.

    • @user-riahmesphere
      @user-riahmesphere Месяц назад +9

      I do feel like, if your parent doesn’t have any money, which they probably spent on saving for your college funds, I feel like you should help, if you have a great parent. I probably think this is way culturally, but I feel like you still have a responsibility to take care of your parents as they did for you as a child. ( that’s if they were good to you). I guess…..

    • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
      @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад

      Exactly

    • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
      @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад +7

      ​@@user-riahmesphereI wouldn't because there's a certain limit it's not her money to spend on expensive shopping trips and be a diva she can get a job as well

  • @ChocolateM1lk
    @ChocolateM1lk Месяц назад +100

    honestly im completely with the son here. if the mom were only buying necessities, i'd be completely with her (depending on how she treated her son). the shopping addiction of the mom could be what's getting her into that struggling financial situation in the first place. of course, this is under the assumption that by shopping, her son means that she's buying clothes and non-essential stuff. correct me if im wrong.

    • @itsbrode9000
      @itsbrode9000 Месяц назад +12

      I agree. I really don't feel like they portrayed this situation correctly. It was meant to portray the parent splurging and stuff, but they made it seem like she was just buying necessities. There is a huge difference between supporting someone financially and letting them take advantage of you.

    • @ChocolateM1lk
      @ChocolateM1lk Месяц назад +4

      @@itsbrode9000 ABSOLUTELY !!

  • @TareRaknell
    @TareRaknell Месяц назад +258

    This is a touchy subject nowadays because cost of living has gotten so high everywhere that many people are moving back in with their parents. My cousin who had his own place, own car had to move in with his mom recently and hes 28. My other friend also moved in with her parents. So as long as you’re working/making money i dont see anything wrong with living with your parents or getting a little help from them. You just need to be also doing your own thing.

    • @ChimaEnwere
      @ChimaEnwere Месяц назад +31

      29 here. Had to move in with my parents after grad school. Currently an adjunct college professor and a freelancer. I CANNOT afford an apartment. I remember when apartments were just stepping stones. I live in a midsize town, and apartments are $1200 and up!!!!! And some are in the ghetto and/or not even luxury!!
      What makes it worse is that I’m single and can’t find a roommate to split bills with…. So living with parents is the moves for now…. (I pay them rent-yes, it’s less that what I’d pay on my own, but that’s the US economy for ya. ❤️)

    • @WalrusesAreTheOne
      @WalrusesAreTheOne Месяц назад +31

      I’m autistic and unable to hold down a job. I have no choice but to live with my parents and be mocked as a loser stereotype. I hate how people make me feel like garbage

    • @thetaerdin
      @thetaerdin Месяц назад +26

      @@WalrusesAreTheOne They don't understand you or your situation, so their opinion is ignorant and doesn't matter. Hang in there ♥

    • @ITheorey
      @ITheorey Месяц назад +9

      @@ChimaEnwere The roommate thing is the worst, looking for roommates on Craigslist and places like that just feels weird, like I don't wanna live with a stranger 😭 And as you get older your friends start getting married and moving to different places and it just gets harder to find a cool roommate you're comfortable living with, shits rough out here

    • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
      @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад +3

      Yes but the parent can also get a job also instead of living and mooching off of their child's money it's like supporting an adult child

  • @Akumerity
    @Akumerity Месяц назад +162

    Though, I wish the videos were more about social topics. Because it's harder for people to give their opinion on something as personal as this. Just my opinion

    • @Swansong321
      @Swansong321 Месяц назад +20

      IKR!...I'd NEVER get involved in THIS one!..even if I actually knew them

    • @andrewvelonis5940
      @andrewvelonis5940 Месяц назад +2

      No, it's my opinion too.

  • @lacyfrill
    @lacyfrill Месяц назад +105

    i love my mom and i will always get her whatever she wants or needs but i don’t think adult children owe their parents anything for simply being a parent (especially if their parent wasn’t good to them) but i think people (who have parents that have treated them nice) should treat their parents if they have the $$

    • @microscopic.caterpill
      @microscopic.caterpill Месяц назад +5

      I agree

    • @ChimaEnwere
      @ChimaEnwere Месяц назад +15

      Yeah! It is the parent’s role/obligation/job to provide for that child since the child did not ask to come into this world. Obviously you should teach the child to be responsible because the parent likely will die before the child. However, this “kicking your child out at 18 tough love” is BS … ESPECIALLY in this economy. There’s a happy medium. An 18-year-old is still a child.

    • @NiaLove97
      @NiaLove97 Месяц назад +5

      Agreed completely!

    • @andrewvelonis5940
      @andrewvelonis5940 Месяц назад +5

      My offspring are adults and I would never permit myself to be a burden to them.

    • @jayroc5807
      @jayroc5807 Месяц назад

      @@ChimaEnwereadult kids should join military then if civilian life gets tough. Quit depending on parents so much and do what you have to do

  • @LashayneHampton
    @LashayneHampton Месяц назад +42

    Triggering 😢 when the child has always been the adult. ❤

  • @Akumerity
    @Akumerity Месяц назад +135

    I remember rewatching the same shit on this channel for like 2 years waiting for a new video, lmao. Glad it's back

  • @dillon17
    @dillon17 Месяц назад +35

    Ill ''take care'' of my mom.. But I will not.. fund her vacation and shopping sprees.. No. That old man telling him to take care of his mom, is not right. Taking care of and being taken advantage of, are 2 difference things

  • @zach3431
    @zach3431 Месяц назад +16

    If I had the money, I would totally financially support my parents and I would probably support my sister too. It would make me feel good to do that.

    • @shonuf5152
      @shonuf5152 Месяц назад

      If one's parents are able to provide their own material needs, have adequate retirement, get social security, can still drive and don't have debilitating health problems, allow them to be independent. If they have low or reduced income, and need assistance with living expenses, medication and transportation, of course provide but in accord with your circumstances. If you have siblings, they should help too and share responsibility.

  • @bubblegumfacebabe
    @bubblegumfacebabe Месяц назад +299

    supporting your parents is providing the essentials for them (food, shelter, clothing etc), luxury isn't essential and that's what i always tell my parents

  • @emrickaby
    @emrickaby Месяц назад +9

    Taking care of your parents and letting them live with you is one thing. Paying for them to have lavish shopping sprees is completely different.

  • @shiks800
    @shiks800 Месяц назад +10

    There is a close line between helping your parents and being their parent

  • @jan2lim2011
    @jan2lim2011 Месяц назад +35

    here in the Philippines its common to find a house where you live with your grandparents, parents, siblings, uncle and aunts, niece and nephews, we support each other.

    • @loveforeignaccents
      @loveforeignaccents Месяц назад +12

      Oh, wow, I would go INSANE!!!

    • @chaoscolby
      @chaoscolby Месяц назад +7

      Same in Malaysia! I think it's common for us in Asia.

    • @jamesrocket5616
      @jamesrocket5616 Месяц назад +3

      I'm also from the Philippines and I'm perfectly fine if it's just our parents, since us Asians have high respect for them since they raised us. However, I don't have the same sympathy when it comes to other adult relatives since I can guarantee that they are capable of finding employment or other means to feed themselves, one way or another.

    • @jan2lim2011
      @jan2lim2011 Месяц назад

      @@loveforeignaccents hahaha that's how it is in the Philippines, sometimes 15 people lives in a tiny house.

    • @princess_ama
      @princess_ama Месяц назад +4

      We do this in African countries too. Most of us don’t even leave home until we get married, or sometimes our parents will come with us when we move in with a new spouse or have our first child. Multigenerational households are common in most non-Western cultures, since we tend to value family more.

  • @chefmami6056
    @chefmami6056 Месяц назад +8

    My mom will never know what a retirement home or nursing home looks like! I would take care of her to my last breath! RIP Papi💔 and I would give a dominant limb to have him back ❤😢

    • @BamMilg
      @BamMilg Месяц назад

      Your cute.

  • @jennyhammond9261
    @jennyhammond9261 Месяц назад +13

    I think there are two different scenarios: 1.) A parent has had some sort of emergency, like can no longer work for medically reasons. Of course, help your parent out. 2.) The parent is taking advantage of the kid, which is what the video said, that she was freeloading, not that she was sick or went through a messy divorce.

  • @dallasyap3064
    @dallasyap3064 Месяц назад +6

    4:28 "Being a mon doesn't entitle u to expect that from your children" that's the most honest statement. I'm all for supporting parents when they can't support themselves, but letting parents take advantage like that, buying a bunch of things, amassing the bills for unnecessary things, and throwing in the "but I raise u up" card is not right. Parents, u chose to bring them into this world, they didn't ask to be here. They have no obligation to provide for u.

  • @angelgarcia-oc5zz
    @angelgarcia-oc5zz Месяц назад +9

    there is a difference from supporting/taking care of a parent and just spoiling and having your parent free load off you

  • @Officialperrymkwii
    @Officialperrymkwii Месяц назад +28

    I'm sorry but I disagree with the people in the video and I would've had an argument about it. Having children is your decision, and it's a legal and moral obligation to look after your children to a decent standard. They do not owe you their money, or are obligated for you to spend it all on trivial or unnecessary things.

    • @shonuf5152
      @shonuf5152 Месяц назад

      True! On the flip side, when adult children are of age and have their own family, they shouldn't take advantage of their parent(s). Some adult children today mismanage money, make bad choices, have irresponsible partners who don't help with the kids, get divorced and are down to a single income so they look to the parents and grandparents. That's not fair to them.

  • @GreyGamesYT
    @GreyGamesYT Месяц назад +20

    If you EXPECT your kids to provide and care for you, best establish that early; instill them with values that would naturally lead to such an outcome.
    The argument that a parent is, by default, "owed" by their kids is a little strange to me. Especially considering how many there are who truly do not deserve it.
    I wouldn't want my kids to feel forced to care for me. I intend on raising them to be their own people, if that person chooses to not care for me, I will be proud of the fact they made their own choice on the matter. But I would also genuinely appreciate it if they chose to help me out, but I'd actually be grateful, I wouldn't be like "Yeah, you better! You owe me".
    Just ironically sounds a little heartless coming from someone expecting their kids to be so selfless. Maybe they picked that up from someone... 🤔

    • @ncz7
      @ncz7 Месяц назад +2

      True

  • @mokaLARE
    @mokaLARE Месяц назад +86

    *“If you don’t, you’re not much of a person.”* 😂😂😂 I agree but the parents should not spend their children’s in an uncontrollable way.

    • @Bianca-yt7pd
      @Bianca-yt7pd Месяц назад +6

      I doubt a parent even want to be a financial burden to their children. I believe in helping the parents in the same way we were helped.

    • @mokaLARE
      @mokaLARE Месяц назад +7

      @@Bianca-yt7pd definitely! That said, some parents are like that. They rely on their children to completely take care of them. I know a few of them. 😆

    • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
      @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад +4

      How is she struggling 😂if she's spending her son's money on expensive shopping trips that's why you are struggling she should get a job instead of the son supporting his mom

    • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
      @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад

      ​@@mokaLAREnot me I wouldn't like get a job not all parents deserve it

    • @Bianca-yt7pd
      @Bianca-yt7pd Месяц назад +1

      @@mokaLARE I believe you. It's sad.

  • @kentGrey
    @kentGrey Месяц назад +12

    "Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you." --- Kahlil Gibran

  • @HEYBONJUGO
    @HEYBONJUGO Месяц назад +3

    WWYD is getting better and better with each passing years. New issues, new situations, and many more topics to cover. Keep up the good work.

  • @r.r911
    @r.r911 Месяц назад +5

    I will always be there for my mother no matter what - she raised me and did the best she could - financially and emotionally. But there is a difference between assisting your parents and getting taken advantage of.

  • @PTP89
    @PTP89 Месяц назад +4

    I always pray that one day I can be financially set to take care of both of my parents. They've always been good to me. I wouldn't mind at all if they lived with me.

  • @elleningalls5434
    @elleningalls5434 Месяц назад +10

    There’s a fine line between helping your parents or kids and being taken
    advantage of someone. No one should be taking advantage of anyone, family or not. If you’re not working and staying with family, help out when you can. If I stay with family or if I eat over at someone’s house I help wash dishes or dry and help clear the table. And I think whether it goes whether it’s child or parents or anybody, I feel there should be a discussion and a written out instructions of what is asked when you live with someone, expectations, expectations of length of stay, whether your expected to work or move out or whatever. It’s needs to be in writing. And maybe put in writing if these are not followed to here is what will happen, whether it’s move out or being evicted etc. I think if you establish ground rules before someone moving in, I feel like if they don’t like the rules least they know up front and they’ll make adjustments as far as what they need to do if they’d rather live on their own etc.

    • @shonuf5152
      @shonuf5152 Месяц назад +1

      Preach Ellen! It goes both ways. So many adult children take advantage of their mothers or grandmother's it's ridiculous. They blow money on frivolous things rather than practical things. They get involved with deadbeat men who take no responsibility for the children. So they look to the parents and grandparents. As you said, noone should take advantage of anyone.

  • @paiget6200
    @paiget6200 Месяц назад +22

    Scenario 1:Looking after your parents is one thing, but them stealing your credit card and spending your money is another
    Scenario 2: I didn't get my first job until I was 23 because I was being lazy, but getting a job was the best thing I ever did. I now work a part time job that I love, with amazing people. I live on my own and I've got 2 ponies. Jobs aren't all bad

  • @Lloydproductions4171
    @Lloydproductions4171 Месяц назад +23

    3:53 it’s the law 💀

  • @o13sweetboy
    @o13sweetboy Месяц назад +10

    WWYD please go back to the drawing board each clip becomes worse and worse😒....The old shows before 2020 made sense and were much more better.

  • @hungwaicheung1691
    @hungwaicheung1691 Месяц назад +29

    As Asian family, we also support each other even when we grow up.

    • @GypsyChlo
      @GypsyChlo Месяц назад +3

      Irish too ❤

    • @jv3600
      @jv3600 Месяц назад +3

      Yeah, as soon as I finish grad school I can't imagine not living with my family and starting to support my parents. Even when I get married and potentially move away, I would always make sure to have a place in my home for my parents. It's just in the Asian culture to honor parents by supporting them when we get older.

    • @jazzycat8917
      @jazzycat8917 Месяц назад +4

      @@jv3600 Even if they're terrible to you? Parents should earn that support by being good parents, no kid asks to be born and saddled with the expectation of carer to abuseful, neglectful or just nasty parents.

    • @LMLification
      @LMLification Месяц назад +1

      Just because someone doesn’t take on their parents’ or adult children’s problems doesn’t mean that they don’t love or respect them. There are other ways people can support loved ones who are struggling. I wish certain demographics would stop acting self-righteous and let people do what works for themselves.

  • @cherieakckerman3424
    @cherieakckerman3424 Месяц назад +17

    I'm in my 60s and I have two sons in their early thirties. And my husband and I still helped them out every now and then financially. My husband and I have always had a philosophy that we would never want to be a burden to our children. They are not responsible to take care of us. We chose to have them, that means it's our responsibility to raise them. They don't know us anything. And they certainly don't need to be financially supporting us. I don't think it's fair to burden your children, especially because you add poor financial planning I grew up with parents and a sibling who are parasite, leeches, and refused to take care of themselves. And spend most of their time how they can get other people to support them. So no I don't think adult children should Bay Financial responsible for their parents. I think it's extremely wrong and selfish.

  • @stevenperkins2276
    @stevenperkins2276 Месяц назад +30

    My husband and I have both our moms living with us . We both are only kids and we both lost our dads in 2015 and in 2018 his mom got cancer and in 2019 mine got cancer. As a gay interracial couple we have a 6 bedroom house we was able to afford because of our parents helping so therefore we take care of them .

  • @ChimaEnwere
    @ChimaEnwere Месяц назад +8

    Longer episodes please!!! 😫😫😫
    Anyway​​⁠, unpopular opinion, NOONE asks to come in this world. Because of that, a parent’s responsibility/job/obligation is to raise that child. That’s the definition of a parent. I’m not saying a child shouldn’t help their parent. I’m saying, the child isn’t obligated.
    The second lady said it best…. She’d never expect her children to take care of her. I agree. I’d hope that I was a good enough parent that my child would. And, I think I would be…. It goes full circle. If/when I bring a child into the world, I KNOW that it was my own decision to give up 18+ years of my life to give it everything I can to provide for that child. And, as a result, I’d hope that my child saw that I wanted to be the best parent possible to make it happen, and they’d come around when I’m old.
    You don’t spot being a parent after your child turns a certain age. They’re your child forever.

    • @sammy-er7on
      @sammy-er7on Месяц назад

      i disagree, i think this is more of an unpopular opinion. maybe a cultural thing, but i think children are obligated to their parents regardless. yeah my mum and dad chose to have me, but i don't think my inability to choose to be on this earth means that i'm not responsible for them. i'm an adult now and i am as responsible for them as they are for me. Now, say my parents are financially reckless, i would have a sit down and talk about the problem with excess spending, not to turn on them like they are strangers stealing from my purse. I don't plan on having children, if i did maybe my answer would change in the future, who knows.

  • @b7Hn4eX8yv4m
    @b7Hn4eX8yv4m Месяц назад +5

    It sounds like the setup situation is not about basic necessities, it's about luxury overspending. The idea of not "being much of a person" or "deserving of the support" isn't aligning with the setup situation of luxury overspending on credit cards.

  • @LantonSL
    @LantonSL Месяц назад +6

    Parents wanted to have children, thats why they were born. Taking care and looking after them it’s their responsibility because they made the decision to have children, don’t play the victim cards. Perhaps because my parents left me very early, therefore, I have no feeling for the concept of family.

    • @KS-xj7ux
      @KS-xj7ux Месяц назад +2

      I agree with you on that

    • @James_Doyle83
      @James_Doyle83 Месяц назад +1

      Once children become adults then it's the person responsibility to look after themselves not the parents

    • @user-bk9fk2tq2z
      @user-bk9fk2tq2z Месяц назад +1

      You are right, Lanton.

  • @freddieking441
    @freddieking441 Месяц назад +11

    It would've been interesting if they switched up the genders as well (dad/daughter supporting the other).

  • @bearlh40
    @bearlh40 Месяц назад +17

    They're running out of ideas. C'mon guys, you can do better.

    • @sponge25
      @sponge25 Месяц назад +1

      agreed

    • @Xundoshi
      @Xundoshi Месяц назад +2

      When you have been running for so long and have multiple segments per epi., that could happen.

    • @user-bk9fk2tq2z
      @user-bk9fk2tq2z Месяц назад

      They have been running out of ideas for many years. And no, they can't do better. They play on the old racism, sexism, ageism stuff that has been played out too many times...their ideas usually become stale. Granted, they do sometimes have unique ideas, but that happens once in a blue moon. Pathetic WWYD.

    • @LuShanna
      @LuShanna Месяц назад +5

      I think they should start to take viewer suggestions about what topics we would be interested in seeing covered. It would honestly be a win-win for them as they'd get both new video ideas and be showing topics the viewer is interested in.

  • @mehgamer9178
    @mehgamer9178 Месяц назад +5

    I love this show good thing it came back!!!

  • @LMLification
    @LMLification Месяц назад +4

    Helping a family member in need should not be conflated with completely taking care of their needs. Yes, you raised your children.-Those are children you CHOSE to have!-They didn’t ask to be here! Once they are grown ups, you should equipped them with enough help that they reach their goals and don’t become dependent on you and a burden. After a certain age, your parents need to cut you off financially. Tough love.❤. Anything else causes people to feel taken advantage of by their loved ones.

  • @rose.g.
    @rose.g. Месяц назад +2

    I would never think of asking my children for anything, especially money for non-essentials/non-emergency. Having said that, THEY have told me, "You have two children who have great careers/business and make great $, you don't need to pay for anything." I still don't ask, but it was really nice to hear.

  • @gabyyy3114
    @gabyyy3114 Месяц назад +1

    john lookin good !! so glad this show is still going on❤️

  • @passerby9255
    @passerby9255 Месяц назад +2

    I am a 29 year old asian, who supports his parents as much as i can! Thats the least i can do for them. They both have free health insurance so im good from that perspective, but clothes and food and entrainment i dont mind spending on them ❤❤.

  • @mahdikh1822
    @mahdikh1822 Месяц назад +3

    " I feel unloved"!! what was that Jhon told him to say? like a kid😂

  • @OhtheSuffering
    @OhtheSuffering Месяц назад +5

    This was kind of a bungled segment. The son was such a jerk. And it would’ve been more compelling if the mother was older and NOT going on shopping sprees.

  • @xasy4836
    @xasy4836 Месяц назад +1

    “Behave yourself”😂😂😂

  • @monkey02132006
    @monkey02132006 Месяц назад +2

    I just had to move back in with my dad.
    I can barely help financially but I go out of my way to try and do things he would need to get done or that’s helpful around the house, so that he doesn’t have to.
    We both work but he’s obviously older and much less capable than he used to be.

  • @sawad3285
    @sawad3285 Месяц назад +14

    As an Indian this concept really boggles my mind because we usually stay with our parents and support them till the end

    • @haruto_yuma_arts
      @haruto_yuma_arts Месяц назад +2

      Not everyone is like you or your culture

    • @casebased8391
      @casebased8391 Месяц назад +16

      @@haruto_yuma_arts That’s why they specified “As an Indian” and that it boggles *their* mind because it’s so different from *their* culture. Not that it should boggle everyone.

    • @jv3600
      @jv3600 Месяц назад

      I agree. I don't know that I'd WANT to live in a home without my parents when I get out of grad school/get married -- It's just an ideal that has been instilled in our culture since the beginning.

    • @haruto_yuma_arts
      @haruto_yuma_arts Месяц назад

      @@casebased8391 sorry my bad my English isn't good

    • @casebased8391
      @casebased8391 Месяц назад

      @@haruto_yuma_arts no worries!

  • @AylaPerez-hh4yw
    @AylaPerez-hh4yw Месяц назад +15

    2:24 no sir he doesn't have to take care of his mom she has to get a job instead of living off of her sons credit card and free loading like hes an ATM

  • @TheNxtBigStar
    @TheNxtBigStar Месяц назад +1

    Honestly. I stay w my mom @26 and pay rent, buy me and my moms food from time to time, cook, etc. I’m glad I can still stay at home. I got a job paying way more but I’m still struggling

  • @digitalpaintingwolf4482
    @digitalpaintingwolf4482 Месяц назад +3

    As a 22 year old living with her mom, you need to contribute rather than just being a freeloader. I’m not able to contribute much financially, but I do try and help around the house and do things when she asks. Parents aren’t your slaves. If you live under their roof, you live under their rules. Simple as that.

  • @Rhyslee14
    @Rhyslee14 Месяц назад +1

    Can you start posting full episodes! I love watching this but I’m in UK

  • @mariahhall8481
    @mariahhall8481 Месяц назад +1

    Everybody deserves a good family relationship.

  • @Rev8691
    @Rev8691 Месяц назад +2

    They need to start redoing old scenarios for 2024, because they are clearly running out of ideas. This is a topic to be discussed within a family, no normal person would interject unless the argument got concerning and out of hand. Revisiting old ideas to see how people react now vs then would be more interesting. Society evolves over time.

  • @lisasmith6243
    @lisasmith6243 Месяц назад

    I’m thankful for my daughter I became disabled in 2020 she has been my biggest supporter

  • @soulassassin0g
    @soulassassin0g Месяц назад +1

    I've worked all my life since I was 18 and my parents never asked me for a dime. I don't need to pay rent but I give them money anyway because I'll feel bad if I didn't. It's called respect.

  • @fredflintstone5356
    @fredflintstone5356 Месяц назад +9

    There’s a difference between supporting and taking care of. I would take care of my mom and I do but not financially. My dad recently passed away just before his retirement. If my mom needs anything I will do what I can. If she needed help financially then I would take her in in a heartbeat. Her needs will be taken care of, but I wouldn’t be able to afford the wants and no parents should take advantage of their kids that way.
    I also have a daughter and when she gets older she will always have a place with us as long as she works. She can live with us, we will support her needs, but she needs a job even if it’s just minimum wage to support her wants. Who knows maybe one day my wife and I will need to be taken care of. No one knows their future and plans can change in an instant. Like losing my dad unexpectedly 2 months ago.

  • @Nuri722
    @Nuri722 Месяц назад +4

    I've always liked WWYD, but some scenarios lean toward bias and are overtly one-sided. This is a really ambiguous situation in general - I know of parents who were never in the kid's life then showed up 20+ years later and expected their "kid" to provide for them, even though they were never even in their kid's life.
    The reality of the situation is, you just don't know what's going on in the background/context of domestic situations like this.

  • @JxsonKing
    @JxsonKing Месяц назад +1

    One thing I love about these new WWYD episodes is that they're in different places around the country. They no longer always film at a random diner in New Jersey!

  • @juliesprutte4653
    @juliesprutte4653 Месяц назад +4

    What a bunch of crap. Yes, support mom or dad but if they are spending freely with your money? No.

  • @megamushroom
    @megamushroom Месяц назад +32

    Parents owe there children for bringing them in too such a horrible violent world... Just like when you adopt a dog or a cat, dont have a child if you dont have enuff money too have them taken care of for the rest of there life...

  • @princessofhell4639
    @princessofhell4639 Месяц назад +3

    Couldn't make it through this one because it was so awfully done. You choose to have kids. They don't owe you anything for doing the bare minimum of keeping them alive. Also, that definitely doesn't mean that you can't go overboard and spend so much. Kids can set boundaries. I think they messed up by having the kid act so intensely and not really clarifying the issue is the parent buying a lot (like how one example was she paid for everyone's breakfast). Sure if they were a good parent support them TO A DEGREE. Don't let them take advantage of your kindness.

  • @jaytee8426
    @jaytee8426 Месяц назад +1

    “now you’re paying the price” sent me 💀😂 cause I’ve heard it from parents of adults say they feel responsible and I think that’s important to realize it’s a two way street.

  • @thetaerdin
    @thetaerdin Месяц назад +5

    Its so interesting how the value we generate as workers has steadily increased over the years, but the larger and larger percentage of the value workers generate goes straight into the pockets of executives.
    We aren't receiving a fair share of the revenue we generate. Companies expect us to survive with less and less of a share of the money we create for the company, and the solution is we 'have to take care of each other'.
    How about give us a fair share of the money we make, so we can take care of ourselves. Do you really need that third yacht, at the expense of millions of people becoming working poor?

  • @goodlife385
    @goodlife385 Месяц назад +2

    Ah, finally smth in Dallas. Miss that city!

  • @dc56789
    @dc56789 Месяц назад +3

    Depends on how your parents treated you when you were growing up

  • @cadebecker2486
    @cadebecker2486 Месяц назад +2

    WWYD needs to come to the state of Minnesota already.

  • @xxcandyxandyxx
    @xxcandyxandyxx Месяц назад +2

    My close friend told me her fiance's parents are constantly asking them for money. It's crazy to me.

  • @DaZsCentral
    @DaZsCentral Месяц назад +4

    awesome

  • @libbylou6004
    @libbylou6004 Месяц назад +2

    It’s hard for people these days especially young people trying to get on their feet. Or trying to start a family. Don’t get me wrong I would help my mom out in a blink of eye and would never let her go hungry but I wouldn’t let her blow away my money on shopping sprees either (not that my mom would).

  • @KingKhanAbz
    @KingKhanAbz Месяц назад +1

    I wonder if that old man would feel the same if it was a young daughter providing for her mum? 🤔

  • @whyjordie
    @whyjordie Месяц назад +1

    My mom financially abused me and ran up $15k of credit card debt under my name and ruined my life. I’m with the son. Just because you raised him doesn’t mean his stuff or his money belongs to you

  • @scoutvetter3328
    @scoutvetter3328 Месяц назад +2

    Can we do daughter who supports father lol

  • @WriterRecluse
    @WriterRecluse Месяц назад

    I took care of my dad, who had dementia, for several years. I only moved him to a rest home when he could no longer potty by himself. He passed away in a rest home a few months later. "Take care of your parents" gets my vote. I don't regret all that I did for him. My proudest moments.

  • @paranoidpiigs
    @paranoidpiigs Месяц назад +3

    You CHOOSE to have that child they do not owe you anything other than the respect you give them back to you. Support your family yes but to expect it is insane. You have to care for yourself too. Helping with food now and then is one thing but you didnt have a child so they could pay your bills. It works both ways aswell, if your child needs help, help, just remember to set boundaries so you are also cared for.

  • @xDagger
    @xDagger Месяц назад +1

    I wish these were longer! Six minute doesn't do these topics justice

  • @soobinsfairyofshampoo
    @soobinsfairyofshampoo Месяц назад +1

    My opinion is I’m always taking care of my mother because she deserves it. Although she takes care of herself, I’m still there for whatever

  • @sohanarahaman8070
    @sohanarahaman8070 Месяц назад

    This just reminds me of how my sister and me we still support our parents even my father still working job still at the jewelry shop we still pay bills rent, bills, utilities, medical bills. And my parents from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 and also my sister has a job too, and works till 9 to 5

  • @karenrich9092
    @karenrich9092 Месяц назад

    I have needed my daughter's help due to disasters (wildfires or blizzards or power outages) and a couple of health issues. However, I always try to bring food and help out in other ways. Then, as soon as possible, I go back home.

  • @Adriana-wx2ux
    @Adriana-wx2ux Месяц назад

    Finally a wwyd I can relate too😂

  • @virgilgeorge6375
    @virgilgeorge6375 Месяц назад +1

    This is the first time I've seen What Would You Do in Dallas.

  • @johngrenier7599
    @johngrenier7599 29 дней назад

    Lol, the fact that him being a "successful professional" to being a "deadbeat" was just taking the manbun out!😂

  • @adama4791
    @adama4791 Месяц назад +2

    I don't think this situation lent itself to the format because there are a lot of variables

  • @zed3063
    @zed3063 Месяц назад

    6:19 this is just me going through life with no idea what’s happening 😂

  • @Adriana-wx2ux
    @Adriana-wx2ux Месяц назад +1

    'you have to take care of your mom' damn right Sir

  • @user-iw7lj7ro9b
    @user-iw7lj7ro9b Месяц назад +1

    every situation is different. My parents are immigrants who worked odd jobs, who put every spare dime into college funds for their 3 kids. and have been financially supporting me to this day (Im 28). there is no retirement fund there are just university degrees. When the time comes i will be taking care of my parents financially with other things. Hopefully my siblings help. Its just what i have to do

  • @OnBakePlatinum
    @OnBakePlatinum Месяц назад +1

    I like these actors

  • @markb8312
    @markb8312 Месяц назад +1

    Kids should take care of their parents in the circumstance that their parents are no longer able to care for themselves, but if they area are able to work and do things for themselves obviously they should

  • @jimchiro3459
    @jimchiro3459 Месяц назад +1

    The children turn to take care of their parents,if they need help, you don't turn your back away from your mother and father.

  • @oycyxixti.hl.grzyzyt
    @oycyxixti.hl.grzyzyt Месяц назад +1

    "Hi I'm John... Quinones" he almost forgot to say his lastname lol ❤️

  • @KA-md6je
    @KA-md6je Месяц назад +1

    I don't like scenarios like this where it actually doesn't make any sense for strangers to get involved. Two family members arguing about finances? Most people are going to wisely stay out of it. It's none of their business and an outsider has no idea what is truly go on. These people sticking up for the mom can't make an accurate judgement about the situation based on this conversation. Mom could be a master manipulator, particularly if she's using "I raised you" to get what she wants. (You decided to have a child, the least you can do is raise the child. That doesn't make your child indebted to you for life.) Even if she isn't a manipulator, taking care of her doesn't mean she gets to max out his credit cards every month on luxuries.

  • @PhilDaBank
    @PhilDaBank Месяц назад

    I love the ladies face at 6:19 😂

  • @katelynbendinsky5080
    @katelynbendinsky5080 Месяц назад

    I personally do not think children owe their parents support. However, my parents are the type of parents I’m more than happy to support.

  • @SaigeSlack
    @SaigeSlack Месяц назад +1

    This really shows the different beliefs and dynamics of generations. Boomers are very entitled to “what’s there’s” regardless of how they treat you. “Respect your elders” but then they have 0 respect for younger people.
    (Obviously not 100%)

    • @SaigeSlack
      @SaigeSlack Месяц назад

      Also this is so different than juts letting her live with him and supporting her to an extent, overspending on shopping is ridiculous

  • @mariovision9412
    @mariovision9412 Месяц назад +2

    Its one thing to support your parents when they are in need and whole ANOTHER when they take advantage of you.
    Undoubtly you should help them out if they truly need your help but not really when they milk you financially with an expensive lifestyle and an out of control of endless spendings that are not even essentials/necessary.
    Especially if they aren't providing themselfs any extra money income or they aren't retired with pension.

  • @im.margery
    @im.margery Месяц назад

    2:46 Aw, I'm so lucky to have my family by my side now.