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Small, yet personable, communication will not "cure" being lonely. It will help you be engaged. It will help you be likeable, or find your voice. This seems more like an exercise in active therapy. Say, for one who is introverted, and wants to practice being less so. Or awkwardness. Or entry-level socializing skills. What I think of, with loneliness, is someone that is lacking in deeper, trusting relationships. Some people need just one person, some need many.
@coach_amy me too, Amy. Just one, who is open-minded enough to listen and consider; even if we don't agree. Although, with my coworkers, friends, and family, I would settle for just completing my sentence. 😉
I'm incredibly lonely because i dont have anyone to love or anyone who loves me. I speak to and have meaningless conversations with literally dozens of people every day because of my work. Definitely doesn't cure loneliness
I think it's easy to communicate with people you do not know rather than people you already know. The subject could be the difficult case to start the conversation.
Loneliness is often more than just the absence of communicating but rather speaks to much deeper underlying mental health factors. It may be unrealistic to ‘just start talking to everyone’ especially when you’re feeling negative to begin with.
OMG ! This was the tradition of my people, strangers would talk to each other and pour their heart out. Alas, we lost it along with those old people who would engage.
To get rid of loneliness, Find the purpose of your life 😊 Pray to God and Worship him follow his commandments live a simple life be contented on what you have avoid gossip focus on your own self growth be with the people who love and support you rather than the people who will destroy you. Stay calm stay happy😊
I ve been going that Most of the people don’t actually care and sometimes I feel kinda sad by doing that Even when I get a good feed back , then I come home and I m alone …
"How many times have you go to grocery shop or coffee shop? How many people you talked to? " Well I haven't going out since corona started and barely talking to anyone except my family bcs I don't have any friend's
I am an extrovert and a talkative person as well but I will be really annoyed if someone starts asking me questions like where am I from or whom am I visiting for just asking some directions. Mind your own business people!
This is awesome advice and has been scientifically proven that engaging conversation and small talk with strangers increases happiness - thanks for this talk
Increases short term happiness...yes. Decreases long term loneliness caused by lack of people who genuinely care in your life.... I highly highly highly doubt it.
It is good to be friendly, however women in particular have to live on the defense regarding their personal safety. Predators will often times use a simple question to see how naive and malleable you are. Do not live in a paranoid state but be aware looks and mannerisms can be deceiving.
This is not the loneliness that is currently afflicting Society. This first step is not likely to help unless everyone becomes a whole lot more receptive to the blunt request of "Would you like to f***?" AS WELL AS a similar willingness themselves to approach someone entirely new & make that same blunt request. In this is instance, then yes, start talking to as many people as you can: "Oh! What City are you from? ...Really?! Well, I'm really sorry to be blunt, but you know how it's become these days! Anyhow, well, ...would you like f***? Oh! Great! ...Yeah, Friday afternoon; that works for me! ...Yeah; that sounds great! ...& It was nice meeting you as well; I look forward to seeing you on Friday! ...Ok! Bye-bye now!" If the conversation isn't as productive as the above, then I can't imagine loneliness subsiding to any significant degree.
Go ahead and do initiate conversation but dont be depended upon people to get rid of it entirely. Cus in the end of the day you have to face your own thoughts by yourself
How to End lonliness.. Find a very tall building .......... Just kidding yall. If you are lonely, Talk to me. Im in the same boat. We can have some good laughs and likely notice the many good things we overlook about each other. I love you all.
My best advice and to start your day fresh everyday with dark pure chocolate and will put you into good mood and dark chocolate it's had to be good nutrition facts for you 😅😅😅
Loneliness is a condition of the heart. It's a state when your relationship with God is at a calibre where it doesn't fill you. One can have a lot of people around, talk to many people but still be lonely.
Please believe in Allah. TedTalks just try to explain color to a blind person, and/or sometimes they are just wrong. In the case of this video it’s very personal methodology which I am happy has worked for the speaker… But believe me believing in Allah and fulfilling your purpose in this life of worshipping one creator will teach you true happiness and contentment. This life is a Test, and it’s the lowest of the worlds given there is Death. The next life is the true eternal life and you want to be amongst the successful not the ones who lost it all.
Ok! Now we are dealing with the pain of both loneliness and being rejected 😅😅
True.. Hi there Crystal, im Lee from soCal
after a hundred rejections you will get used to it
Talking to people is what made me lonely in the first place. 🙄
Same😢
Small, yet personable, communication will not "cure" being lonely. It will help you be engaged. It will help you be likeable, or find your voice.
This seems more like an exercise in active therapy. Say, for one who is introverted, and wants to practice being less so. Or awkwardness. Or entry-level socializing skills.
What I think of, with loneliness, is someone that is lacking in deeper, trusting relationships. Some people need just one person, some need many.
Thank you! I agree with your definition of loneliness. And I need just one.
@coach_amy me too, Amy. Just one, who is open-minded enough to listen and consider; even if we don't agree. Although, with my coworkers, friends, and family, I would settle for just completing my sentence. 😉
I'm incredibly lonely because i dont have anyone to love or anyone who loves me. I speak to and have meaningless conversations with literally dozens of people every day because of my work. Definitely doesn't cure loneliness
Hang in there, things will improve
I can't speak to people because of fear and fear comes from trauma of abuse
You surely gonna find the right person
You can contact me would be good friends
The grocery store / The coffee shop ? People would approach you quickly enough - You're a pretty girl. Life for old men is slightly different !
What got into TED?
Anybody who can put words together and form a sentence is now a speaker.
But that useful isn't ❓
This woman doesnt know what loneliness is
I think it's easy to communicate with people you do not know rather than people you already know. The subject could be the difficult case to start the conversation.
You lost me the second you said “talk to as many people as you can.”
Loneliness is often more than just the absence of communicating but rather speaks to much deeper underlying mental health factors. It may be unrealistic to ‘just start talking to everyone’ especially when you’re feeling negative to begin with.
Moving around a lot, I always get to know my neighbours, grocery clerk, etc. It does fulfill a certain thing, but it does not solve loneliness.
This is one of the worst advices from TedX, really.
Ikr
It's not
Wrong advice indeed.
@@julietnalumansi7617Why..?
Making small talk will only cure loneliness for the moment.
“become happy” there’s really no concrete happiness, and it doesn’t just happen overnight. i think a better phrase would be find happiness
I wish youtube would stop showing me videos of scientists with no problems in their life instead of videos actually explaining loneliness
OMG ! This was the tradition of my people, strangers would talk to each other and pour their heart out. Alas, we lost it along with those old people who would engage.
Thank you
That's such good, practical advice.
To get rid of loneliness, Find the purpose of your life 😊 Pray to God and Worship him follow his commandments live a simple life be contented on what you have avoid gossip focus on your own self growth be with the people who love and support you rather than the people who will destroy you. Stay calm stay happy😊
How to stop being lonely? Stop being lonely.
10/10 advice
I ve been going that
Most of the people don’t actually care and sometimes I feel kinda sad by doing that
Even when I get a good feed back , then I come home and I m alone …
young women giving advice on how to fix loneliness... they literally have no idea lol
"How many times have you go to grocery shop or coffee shop? How many people you talked to? "
Well I haven't going out since corona started and barely talking to anyone except my family bcs I don't have any friend's
The usual ignoring the reason why someone would be lonely in the first place. Loneliness is just one of the symptoms of an actual problem
Go walking by the ocean or river and listen to happy music you will be fine 😅😅😅
I was surrounded by friends until I started watching this. Now they've left.
Lies
This doesnt work in Finland. We dont speak
I am an extrovert and a talkative person as well but I will be really annoyed if someone starts asking me questions like where am I from or whom am I visiting for just asking some directions. Mind your own business people!
then people wonder why i have no friends when i try to make some :/ some people just always assume the worst
This is awesome advice and has been scientifically proven that engaging conversation and small talk with strangers increases happiness - thanks for this talk
It works the best when you pretend to be speaking a foreign language. See Scanti, I'm learning!
Increases short term happiness...yes. Decreases long term loneliness caused by lack of people who genuinely care in your life.... I highly highly highly doubt it.
But talking to people is so hard and draining 😢
Yes someone really wants a conversation when they're asking for directions to where they had to be five minutes ago.
It is good to be friendly, however women in particular have to live on the defense regarding their personal safety. Predators will often times use a simple question to see how naive and malleable you are. Do not live in a paranoid state but be aware looks and mannerisms can be deceiving.
If one hates to communicate, as most of the time they are not very nice.
I don’t think this is a good strategy, if a stranger come and ask me about which city I’m from I would think that this person is a criminal
This is also TRUE but I don't think to get rid of LONELINESS, you need to talk to people,
I really disagree with this
wait it almost felt like....
me: i am quite lonely
her: start by not being lonely (meet people)
They not from New York and it shows
But my mom said dont talk to strangers😅
This is not the loneliness that is currently afflicting Society. This first step is not likely to help unless everyone becomes a whole lot more receptive to the blunt request of "Would you like to f***?" AS WELL AS a similar willingness themselves to approach someone entirely new & make that same blunt request.
In this is instance, then yes, start talking to as many people as you can:
"Oh! What City are you from? ...Really?! Well, I'm really sorry to be blunt, but you know how it's become these days! Anyhow, well, ...would you like f***? Oh! Great! ...Yeah, Friday afternoon; that works for me! ...Yeah; that sounds great! ...& It was nice meeting you as well; I look forward to seeing you on Friday! ...Ok! Bye-bye now!"
If the conversation isn't as productive as the above, then I can't imagine loneliness subsiding to any significant degree.
How to stop being homeless: buy a house.
I’m already doing this but how much that would help?!!!😢
Go ahead and do initiate conversation but dont be depended upon people to get rid of it entirely. Cus in the end of the day you have to face your own thoughts by yourself
Advice is too practical. I’m not interested in anyone’s life
What. 🧐 You See the first problem is listening to these people.
Be motivated 💪🔥
NOT GONNA HAPPEN🗣️🗣️🗣️
Ok, if you do start conversations with people on the street does it count if no one else sees them?
How to End lonliness.. Find a very tall building .......... Just kidding yall.
If you are lonely, Talk to me. Im in the same boat. We can have some good laughs and likely notice the many good things we overlook about each other.
I love you all.
Sup bro, how's your day
I disagree dear
Really surprised this is on tedx. This does not solve loneliness and barely even addresses it. (If it did I would know unfortunately).
My best advice and to start your day fresh everyday with dark pure chocolate and will put you into good mood and dark chocolate it's had to be good nutrition facts for you 😅😅😅
I got some dark chocolate if any women would like some.. Then we both would no longer be lonely
If she starts small convo with me I’m gonna take it as a harassment
U r part of the problem. Ur too paranoid.. Maybe u like bein alone i guess
I wish i cud start a conversation with her.. mm! That would cure alot...
oouwh you're young woman but .. already spoken on the public..
On what planet do people ask for directions? Google maps fixed that glitch years ago.
No thanks. People just look funny at you just when saying hi like in the old days.
I literally never alone I'm telepathic thought to some governmental program to getting paid. It's really lame 🤣🤣🤣
Everyone hears my thoughts and just wants me to advertise or curupt the world. 😅
Oh god is this lady really serious? I wonder if she still feel lonely lol
If she does i would be happy to help. Shes fire
@@koollee yeah fire but in a bad way
Easy, just build lego!🤣🤣
I totally disagree with this 🚫
Good.......❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Men's loneliness cannot be compared to a women's loneliness. Not even the same.
I think I figured out why you're lonley
Thank goodness!!
Go church. You'll never be lonely. The western world wants to see you fail but your Christian Brothers and sisters want you to succeed. FACT.
Loneliness is a condition of the heart. It's a state when your relationship with God is at a calibre where it doesn't fill you. One can have a lot of people around, talk to many people but still be lonely.
I dont agree with this at all. This may have been good advice 20 years ago, not now.
you look lonely.
Normalize this
Blah blah blah
Terrible advice.
😅
You're funny as a conservative living in Oregon which is really liberal Democrat some of the conversations can be nearly dangerous
ليشش مافي ترجمة حترمو عرب شوي وحطو ترجمة تمام😬😒
Please believe in Allah. TedTalks just try to explain color to a blind person, and/or sometimes they are just wrong. In the case of this video it’s very personal methodology which I am happy has worked for the speaker…
But believe me believing in Allah and fulfilling your purpose in this life of worshipping one creator will teach you true happiness and contentment.
This life is a Test, and it’s the lowest of the worlds given there is Death. The next life is the true eternal life and you want to be amongst the successful not the ones who lost it all.