Hello my lovelies, grab yourself a cup of tea... this is a long one! ☕️😊 Today I am sharing my experience with anxiety and depression and sharing the common symptoms and the way it effects me in my daily life. Do you struggle with anxiety or depression? Lets start this conversation going, if you read somebody’s comment and can relate, please send love their way or offer some advice that has helped you. This community is amazing and it would be fantastic to see everyone supporting each other. 🙌🏼 Positive Affirmations for anxiety - ✨ I am doing my best ✨ I accept myself for who I am ✨ I am Enough ✨ I deserve love and happiness ✨ I am not my mistakes Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can. ❤️ Kay x
You are definitely not alone. Same here. It's all maddening. I don't take meds, don't want to. Exercise, dance, drumming (djembe), 5-htp supplement, journaling...are some of the things I do to try to shake it off. Thanks for sharing your story.
i started watching you some months ago because of a video you posted about anxiety and depression. My daughter is about your age and suffers from both so i was interested in what you had to say. My daughter finds it extremely hard to get anywhere on time and I didn't realise it was a symptom of anxiety, the more I can understand about the condition the more I can support her. Thank you for this post and I hope you have a supportive family and friend network around you, much love to you.
Estelle Scordellis I love to hear that you are a parent trying to support their daughter in her struggles with anxiety and depression. My mom is very understanding of my own struggles with depression and tries her best to learn more about chemical imbalance, etc. But it is very hard for my dad to accept there is anything wrong...which I think is natural for a parent.
I'm so happy you found it useful and it's amazing to hear that you're supporting your daughter and trying to understand her perspective, that;s amazing❤️
Maybe to accept something wrong could incorrectly imply something is wrong with their child and as a parent want everything to be well and ok, but with or without depression you are perfect. He will hopefully come around and happy you have a supportive mum.
It is really great of you to research how to support your daughter. I actually have a question cause I suffer from anxiety and depressive episodes, but I don't talk to my parents about it really. Sometimes I tell my mom I'm stressed out about everything and she just says "it's not normal, you have to consult someone" and she sounds really worried and stressed and she sometimes sounds like she thinks it's my fault, cause I decided to move on the other side of the world and it's really hard. Would you have some advice about how to talk to her about it and make her understand without stressing her out so much? Thank you! And good luck to you and your daughter :)
So much of this resonates with me. I was on anti anxiety pills for a while which really made me feel 10 times worse but now I tend to manage my anxiety/depression without them. Some days are better than others but I agree that self care is so so important. Meditation also really helps me. It's great that you made this video to show people that they are not alone. xx
Totally agree, you have to try whatever you think will work for you, I don't take pills either because they don't agree with me. They make me tired and emotionless (worse than on my bad days but they make it every day!) 😅 I'm so happy you use meditation as a technique to calm your mind, it's so powerful. ❤️
OMG, you are describing me EXACTLY! from mental symptoms to physical symptoms. I did not know this is anxiety. I ended up crying, because that explained A LOT. Thank you so much for sharing. I can tell you that this video will make a huge shift in my life, believe me.
Well done on sharing this Kay. I've had episodes of both anxiety and depression, sometimes for long periods. I've now slowed my life down and don't cram each day to the max so I always have time to myself everyday to do something for me. By spreading things out rather than having full days and completely empty days I feel completely different and haven't experienced any symptoms for a long time. I've also started meditating regularly and this has really made a difference too. Looking forward to seeing your next video on this topic. 😃💕
Thank you ❤️ I'm sorry to hear you've struggled too but i'm so happy to hear you've found ways that help you to cope with it. I think you're so right, slowing down really helps a lot, sometimes I try and fit way too much into my days and it totally stresses me out! Happy to hear you meditate too, I notice such a different when I do. Sending big hugs to you xx
Thank you so much for your realness. I’m literally there right now. So similar. I hate that we have it but it helps to know we aren’t alone. I appreciate you so much. And yes, doing it afraid or doing it anyways is helpful. I almost tested up watching this. So touching. I’m so thankful for you. I get anxious for no reason, but it helps to remember hey, you’re just eating lunch, there’s not a shark in the room. Hydroxyzine has really helped me with anxiety. It helps me to have an automatic deadbolt lock abs if I do something I say it out loud like the front door is locked.
Anxiety is such a complex thing it looks so different to each person, i'm glad I was able to share more info about it and shed some light on it for you. 🙂
Thanks for sharing. I think it's so important to talk about mental health because the more we talk about it, the more we remove the stigma. It's also so helpful to see people on RUclips and Instagram talk about it because other people's lives can appear perfect and happy all the time online. I have depression and anxiety but kinda in the opposite way to you because it's mostly depression that sometimes manifests as anxiety. It lead me to quit my job as a nurse in a busy London hospital and move down to live with my parents in the middle of nowhere in Cornwall. It's tough to make decisions like that but you're so right that you need to look after number 1. I realised I was just running on empty and had lost my joy and compassion, I actually went to church and someone had a word from God for me saying your cup is empty right now, take time to let it be filled again and then you can give from the overflow. That was so helpful for me and now that I have taken time to rest I'm doing so much better and am actually joining a charity in NZ that provides medical outreach in the Pacific islands later in the year! Just to encourage you as well, your videos have been super helpful to me because they are always so positive and the content is always about good non-superficial things, it's refreshing! And it's been nice to follow someone online who's so open, especially having moved away from a lot of my friends! So sorry I've written an essay of a comment but the only other people I've spoken to today are my parents and my dog 😂🐶💕
I totally agree with you ❤️ I know exactly what you mean, it seems as though they come hand in hand doesn't it, so sorry you're struggling too. I LOVE what that person said to you, such powerful words. It's so true, you can't help others before you help yourself. Taking time to recharge is so important. Sounds like amazing work that you're going to be doing in NZ it's going to be such a rewarding job and i'm proud that you're going out there and following your dreams. 😊 Thank you for your kind words, honestly it means the world! I'm a pretty open book, I always have been and feel like the world would be so much less complicated if more people were 😂 I loved your essay, thank you for writing it it and sharing your life with me, it's nice to find someone who I can relate to too. Sending you big hug Mary xx
I just had to comment because of your last sentence. I don't have a dog so I just talk to myself sometimes :D Good luck in NZ and good luck to get better as well!
Hi Mary, I am sure you will be a wonderful asset in the Pacific Islands, you have been through so much that you will be able to remember this and relate to others you come across in the same situation. Its a bit like being overweight, having a drug/drink addiction usually the best people to help others in these situations are those who have also had the same problem and know what it feels like. Hey dont knock your dog 🐶 conversation! I have a wonderful husband but every day I have wonderful conversations with my dog he is always in a good mood, is always pleased to see me, seems to know when I want a hug, makes me roar with laughter with his antics if I am sad and will make me go out for a walk whether I want to or not oh the power of those big brown doleful eyes if I refuse I swear he hypnotises me! 😂 Wishing you lots of love, laughter, light and blessings now and for your future , Big Hugs. Gill XXX
Gill Hill thank you so much 😊 yes and I think we can learn so much from the unconditional love of dogs! Mine is always an instant happiness boost! Hope you're having a lovely day xx
I wish RUclips had love and hug buttons, first because I loved the video, you addressed the problems really well and second, to send out virtual love and hugs to people when they need it. It's funny cause I've never heard anyone talk about anxiety and depression the way you did, cause I either don't know anyone else in real life who suffers from that or maybe they're like me and don't talk much about it, and you said exactly what I feel and talked about the exact same reactions I have. It's comforting in a way to know we are not alone and it's perfectly ok to have anxiety and depression, we're not terrible people, but at the same time, I'm sad for you too, like for all of us who go through this. For me, anything that involves going outside or simply having a life (so cooking, cleaning, going to school), I want to avoid massively. The days I don't have to be outside for some reason, I stay home all day. Sometimes 4-5 days in a row. It just feels comfortable you know. Good thing I live with my boyfriend though, cause I wouldn't talk to anyone most days otherwise. And he makes me go out, for coffee or just shopping, it's nice. But by myself, I just don't have the motivation. And something that gives me massive, massive anxiety is all my "stuff" so that's why I love watching decluttering videos. Oh, about the crying, my boyfriend and I went to Tassie in January, cause he's from there, in the airport on the way back, he lost my water bottle and I lost it, and then I cried. And in the end, it was my sadness about leaving and stress about going back home, where we have no family or friends, that was showing and got triggered by the bottle. It's crazy the way the mind works and how intricate it can be sometimes. Had I had the motivation to study more in my life, I would've loved working in neurosciences, to try and find why anxiety and depression affect some people so badly and how we can cure it. And talking about lists of lists, I have I think 10 lists or so to take stock of all the clothes I own. There all arranged differently, depending on what categorisation I would need to focus on. Cause I just can't declutter... I've found that ACT and CBT are really interesting therapies to understand anxiety and how to deal with it, even if I don't agree with everything. Something I'd like to know is how you approach it with your family. I don't talk to my parents about it, because I feel uncomfortable about it, I feel like they're going to think I am "crazy" and need to take pills and things like that, and that they will worry overly, etc. But at the same time, it would be good if they knew, so they could support me. Much love Kay xx
Camille ❤️ I wish I could give you a big hug. xx I agree it's really comforting to know i'm not alone in this too but also sad you go through it. I can totally resonate with everything you said, anxiety can be completely overwhelming and make the most simple thing absolutely impossible. A lot of people don't understand and realise it, but I like to use the example of asking someone terrified of heights to go and do a bungee jump, they would cry and and scream and be absolutely terrified... with anxiety those same feelings can come up with just as much intensity whenever you need to do anything that your brain has decided is scary (meeting people, going outside, going to the post office). I have done similar things when I lose or break something, it all just comes to a boiling point and you explode with emotions. I've found that meditation really helps with dealing with emotions before they become to amplified, I know a lot of people say that but in my experience it has helped a lot. I'm not as quick to anger or temper as I used to be. I think it's good that you watch the decluttering videos because it shows you that somewhere deep inside you have the desire to do it yourself and you never know, one day the day may come where you have the strength and tools to overcome that fear. ❤️ I think CBT and exposure therapy are too of the most impactful ways to treat anxiety, they normalise the thing you're most scared of until your brain realises it's not as scary as you imagined. I have a weird mindset about this because just the thought of having to go through it terrifies me, but maybe that means it's what I need the most. 😅 As for family and friends, I don't talk in detail about it but my family know I struggle, it's one reason I was so worried about going to Vipassana. When people would ask why I was going I would just say "to try and help my anxiety" they would either ask more questions or change the subject, but I would leave it to them and then be completely open with my answers. One thing I want to say is we're all a bit crazy, it's just we all have different ways that we show it. Some people drink, some do drugs, some people are obsessive, others restrict their eating or eat too much and other people like us deal with anxiety. Nobody is perfect, remember that. I'm always here lovely if you want to chat. xxxx
I relate to this so much. I have generalized anxiety disorder with some depression as well. For awhile it was really bad and I sought treatment but it turns out that I cannot take SSRI’s and they made things a lot worse. I ended up with driving anxiety with vertigo that I am still dealing with 5 years later. I do the same thing with my hands where I tuck in my thumb and hold my hands in a fist. I think that it’s because it’s a protective move and in my case I wish that I could tuck my entire self in there along with my thumb! I just try to not let everything. Stop me from doing what I really want to do...which is hard because often times I just want to do nothing!
I found the same thing, they don't work for me at all! Oh gosh, im sorry to hear that, hopefully it will start to get better with time ❤️ Hahahaha, yep I agree so much, it's like giving yourself a big hug isn't it, that made me giggle bless you 😂 I'm so proud of you for going out there and carrying on through it all, it's so not easy. You've got this lovely! ❤️🙌🏼
After hearing your story I have to say that I am so proud of you for really getting out there and doing what you want to do. I know that it isn't easy for you. XOXO
I am a fellow anxiety panic attack OCD sufferer although the OCD is very minor and his gotten better as I've gotten older. And I have learned how to control my anxiety somewhat although there are days where it's still really bad. I used to suffer panic attacks when I worked in the corporate world and now I own my own business which is a different type of stress. I have found that my stress levels are really tied to my hormones! So it's always an adventure!
Another thumb holder and jaw clencher! Sorry you do it but glad I’m not the only one xx The more you spoke the more I thought you were talking about me, you are not alone xx
Linda Tait I do both of them as well. I didn’t realize that the thumb thing was related to my generalized anxiety disorder at all. It’s just something that I have always done.
Wow. You're really intelligent and brave for figuring and facing your fears. I also suffered with social anxiety, low self esteem and even OCD during my school years. It lasted for many years but thankfully I was able to train my mind out of it eventually. Also I was in situations a lot where I had to deal with strangers so that helped. I'm still an introvert but much better at social interactions and a much stronger person. I'm very thankful for being where I'm now emotionally.
Thank you ❤️ I'm so proud of you for coming so far, it's so hard and I know how challenging it must have been but it's nice to look back and feel like you're progressed isn't it 😊 sending big hugs to you
OMG, i felt watching this you were speaking about me, i have suffered from severe anxiety panic attacks ocd and depression for many many years, sadly i also have very severe agoraphobia, it has shaped and ruined my life.I have no friends and cannot go to work, i feel i have missed so much.So many things i want to do but can't , even simple things like opening the front door and going for a nice long walk.My husband doesn't really understand it but is kind as he always goes out and gets the things i need.If i challenge my situation by telling myself i have to face something i am too afraid to do , all hell breaks loose and i end up not being able to do it as i have worried myself half to death and end up spending literal days on the loo.I am so very lonely and feel so alone with my problem, i have taken medication for it many times over the years but this too worries me and some are not vegan.I stopped taking them 4 years ago but have had terrible anxiety panic and depression since , i dream of one day just opening the door and walking along the road , like everyone else, fear free, i cannot imagine that day ever coming.i try to switch off and not think about it but it does overwhelm me as i feel my life is being wasted , i feel cheated as i cannot do any of the things i want to do.i smiled when you said about your jaw and thumbs, i have always tucked my thumbs in since i was a child, my mum does it too, good luck with overcoming your problems, i hope you manage it more successfully then i have.
Oh Beth, I wish I could give you a big hug lovely. Have you ever been to therapy? I think that CBT and exposure therapy can really help a lot. If you're in the UK there is a really great series on channel 5 at the minute called 'my extreme OCD life' www.my5.tv/my-extreme-ocd-life/season-1/episode-1 and although it's about OCD a lot of it is relatable to somebody with anxiety and it shows how people can overcome their biggest fears and battles and how it all comes in waves. ❤️ High five for thumb hugging, it's so comforting isn't it. xx
Thank you so much for this video, I can relate so much. I feel like an anxiety riddled mess too, I obsess, analyse and over think everything. It is so hard. My fiancé is so much more social than me and thinks nothing of going out to meet his friends or going to groups where as I have an inner panic and am anxious for days. More often than not, I can't manage it at all. I have to drag myself to work and try and be the work robot, sometimes I have to take a min and hide in a cupboard!. I have zero actual friends so the fact that you feel like a friend means the world
No worries lovely. I can totally relate to what you said, it's really difficult when people don't understand the internal battle you face every day. I've found that explaining what i'm thinking and feeling has helped Dom to understand a lot, so I might explain exactly what I think and feel in certain situations and he realises how awful it can be. I just say to him a lot "I know it doesn't make sense but I can't help it" and that helps him to realise it's not rational thinking that I can just stop, it's deeper than that. I'm always here lovely, I hope it gets easier for you too and it will in time. xx
I feel you . My husband is the definition of social and outgoing. We don't invite people home as the idea of people in my house makes me really anxious. I also have fear of someone ringing the bell. It is absurd. I try everyday and It gets better after time.
Thank you so much for being so open about this! Hearing personal stories like this makes me feel understood and less alone. I'm so glad that there are people like you out there who are trying to break through the taboo!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this "illness"! In my opinion the bravest thing is to talk about! I have to admit, I can relate to majority of the symptoms you described. Anxiety and depression are like mystical things what people don't really want to talk about like it would be contagious. I personally don't like how they use the word "depression". It's like a marker, that there is something wrong with the person. I live with anxiety every day, and unfortunately had to experience the deepness of depression without even knowing that I'm depressed. Only after a visit to A&E I've been told I had a panic attack, causing me trouble to breathe. There was a point in my life where I didn't see the way out. My friend told me to look up something on the web - as she had the feeling I might be an "Empath". Words can not describe how I felt when I scrolled through the site, but it completely changed my life!!!! I still have anxiety, but to know I'm not crazy gave me the biggest relief ever! I completely changed how I see things, how I react to things, and the massive support group behind gave me endless hope and understanding! Whoever struggles with anxiety, I would like to shout out: You are not alone! There is a lot of people who will absolutely understand how you feel! Don't be afraid to reach out!!!
Very very true, this was fascinating to read, I've looked into being an empath before and it also really resonated with me, and also i've read about being a highly sensitive person which I could relate to a lot as well . I'm so proud of you for reaching out and finding a community that can relate to you, that can be one of the hardest things to do. ❤️
Oh my goodness, Kay, we are the same person! My OCD can be crippling, but since being on anxiety/depression medication, like you said, I’ve started to feel like me again lately. They’re definitely connected. I would love for you to talk more about your OCD because I’ve only ever met one other person in real life who has it, too. It’s so comforting to know other people struggle with it because OCD is so lonely; you can’t fully understand it unless you have it. I knew we had a lot in common, but this is too crazy! I’m proud of you for making this video and for doing all you do. Love this channel and you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
It's so nice to hear someone else who struggles with OCD (although I am sad you deal with it too) of all the mental illnesses this is the one that make me feel like i've actually gone mad because it's a physical thing and I'm worried people will see me and wonder what the hell i'm doing and because I KNOW it doesn't make sense, haha. It really is lonely and I agree with you, it's really difficult for other people to understand, I think people think it's just about washing hands or touching things, which it is but it's the intrusive thoughts that come if you don't do those things which is the thing that cripples you. Thank you for being kind and lovely, you're amazing. Thank you so much for being here with me and supporting me. Sending so much love your way Jessica. ❤️
It's definitely more than what people think it is because the thoughts can be the worst part! You're so welcome! It's a wonderful journey to be on together. :)
Thank you for this!! It’s very helpful to have an honest mental health experience & encouraging to hear the tips and tricks especially the thoughts in the description!!
Thank you for your video, some of the things you said resonnated in me (repetitive thoughts, lack of motivation, over thinking, avoiding stressful situations). I often feel anxious but i don't know why, and my boyfriend makes fun of me because when i try to explain what i feel, i can only say i feel like my brain is broken, i feel like it doesn't work the way it should. I'm not sure i have real mental health issue, sometimes i tell myself i'm just weak and some other people struggle with so much worse, i don't deserve to complain, so sometimes (it's terrible what i'm about to write) i kind of wish i had something, like an illness, because it would explain why i feel so bad, and it could be cured, because right now i feel like i feel bad for no reason, so it can never go away. Sorry for this really depressing message :p i really look forward to your next video when you will talk about things you do to make you feel better.
Hello lovely, your message really touched me. I want to say that you are so not alone in this and your thoughts are thoughts i've had myself. One thing i've learnt is to try and be kind to myself, you're not 'weak' you're struggling with a serious mental problem which is just as bad as having something physically wrong with your body, the only difference being the thing is invisible because it's in your brain, inside your head, under your skin... hidden far away from the rest of the world. Have you ever been to a therapist or your doctors for advice? If not I really recommend it, therapy is so helpful in finding ways for you to deal with your emotions and finding the root cause of the thoughts that come up. Sending you big hugs lovely, I will be uploading the video about ways I help my anxiety in the next few weeks xx
Thank you so so much for your kind answer. I've often been to therapists, but i always quit when i get a little better, i'm ashamed of taking the therapist's time when others are so much more in need than i am. I've taken a new appointment today though. Seeing you so radiant and happy even though you suffer from anxiety has made me realize that i can be better just like you do, i really want to follow your example. Once again, thank you for your videos and for your words, it means a lot to me :)
Lately I have not felt like getting out of bed. Everything feels like work and I don't want to do it. I spend all day when I'm awake playing games on my phone. I scratch my scalp until it bleeds. It's deciding what to do that is the problem so I don't do anything. I also have chronic pain so I retired early. That means I don't go out of the house much. I have been going to the library on Wednesdays. Also I struggle with not wanting to care for myself--taking showers. Kathy B. P. S. I'm on antidepressants but sometimes they make me overplan and still not motivated. Its like I care about getting things done and I don't at the same time.
So sorry to hear that lovely, it's really difficult when you feel like that my heart goes out to you. Are you seeing a therapist or have you seen somebody in the past? If not I highly reccomend speaking to someone and seeking a little help or just someone to chat to. Sometimes I find that writing down your thoughts and thought patterns really helps you to see whether the thoughts are rational or not and then over time you can see patterns of behaviour and you become aware of it all rather than consumed by it. You take control. I promise you that taking tiny little steps forward over time makes it so much easier and over time you will be doing things you never thought possible. You've got this, I know you have. You're such a lovely person, you deserve love, you deserve peace and you deserve happiness. ❤️
Sweet girl. I am struggling too. With all of these things. Tips that help me: when you are worried about doors... look at your watch and mental note or note in your phone the time. When I left work last night it was 5:01. So I can check that and know. Breathe. Oils. Run.
No one wants to hear about it but it's a fact.I am fighting with depression and anxiety for years. The night sleeping was full of nightmares and terror. I did take three years ago some homeopathetic medications but I saw a little difference. I tried to work on myself and I am a lot better now. Do you also have fear and anxiety about losing your loved ones?
Yep, I agree! I feel for you so much, nightmares are so awful. I'm interested in homeopathy, it seems like there are two sides, some people swear by it and other warn agains it... the curious part of me wonders why it's two huge extremes, i've never tried any myself apart from rescue remedy. I'm so happy you're doing better, as time goes by you will find new ways to help yourself too. When I was younger I had irrational fears of losing loved ones but the vipassana course I went on recently gave me a whole new concept of death and now I feel a little more at ease about it. I am thankful for each person who enters my life, some stay for a while and other not so long, but it's the time I spent with them that matters no matter how long or short. ❤️
Hi Kay, Aww my love you explained this so beautifully thank you for sharing. I have S.A.D from November to April and at least I know that come the summer I will be OK again I cannot imagine what it must feel like knowing you just dont know when the depression/anxious feelings will start or end. Do you find that when you are abroad travelling in the sunshine it is better for you or does it make no difference? A friend gave me a good tip once about OCD locking doors, windows etc she said she would shout out loud ITS WEDNESDAY (or whatever day of the week it was) AND I AM NOW LOCKING MY FRONT/BACK DOOR, SHUTTING THE WINDOWS, LOCKING MY CAR etc. I tried it and it works for me sure I have got some funny looks from neighbours but who cares! Yep I am a thumb hugger and jaw clencher as well! Lots of Hugs XXX
Thank you Gill 😊 It is really hard not knowing when it's going to come or go, some days it stays for weeks and then it goes for a day or two and then it's back again, other times it will be gone for months before it comes back. I think the sunshine does help a lot with my mood but I know there are lots of times were i've been depressed in the most beautiful places and it made me feel incredibly guilty and selfish but it's not something I can help. I love what you shared! I find that saying things out loud helps a lot, I also think that pressing down on things hard helps me to remember I did it. Big hugs Gill, hope you're having a nice day xx
No worries lovely ❤️ It's a tricky one, I feel like it would be a good thing in a way because you both know what the other person is going though and can understand why they're acting a certain way. I think as long as both people are trying to get help it is ok otherwise they will be enabling each others depression and anxiety and making it worse. I think support from family and friends is really important in this situation xx
Just a thought... I suffer with a lot of the same issues as you and have recently been diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD. I would never have thought I had this but it isn't what it sounds like. Maybe worth a look into? I did a few online tests after someone suggested that I had it and then went to a psych who diagnosed me.
After reading this I did a quiz online and scored 25... it's possible it could be that but i'm wondering if it could be a bit of bipolar... who knows! Proud of you for going to see somebody. Big hugs lovely xx
I’ve been with my husband for 12 1/2 years and he spent a month in hospital a few years ago and that period of being on my own was absolutely terrifying! I didn’t know the combination to the wheelie bin shed in the block of flats we lived in, or where all the direct debits for bills were coming out from, and a million other day to day things which I had never realised I didn’t know how it worked in our life - I totally related to that part of your story. Great video Kay xx
Yes! I know right, it's terrifying. I had to go shopping by myself and realised that I had no idea how to use the self check out machine because Dom would always scan stuff for me, I had no idea where the carrot button was and had a totally panic attack internally. I felt so abandoned, it sounds ridiculous but I was so lost in that moment and wanted the world to swallow me 😂. It sounds like you had the same realisation that when you're with someone you both have your responsibilities in life but sometimes it's good to swap them from time to time so you don't become too dependant on the other person doing it incase things like that ever happen again. Big hugs to you lovely Lizzie ❤️
Hello my lovelies, grab yourself a cup of tea... this is a long one! ☕️😊
Today I am sharing my experience with anxiety and depression and sharing the common symptoms and the way it effects me in my daily life. Do you struggle with anxiety or depression? Lets start this conversation going, if you read somebody’s comment and can relate, please send love their way or offer some advice that has helped you. This community is amazing and it would be fantastic to see everyone supporting each other. 🙌🏼
Positive Affirmations for anxiety -
✨ I am doing my best
✨ I accept myself for who I am
✨ I am Enough
✨ I deserve love and happiness
✨ I am not my mistakes
Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can. ❤️
Kay x
You are definitely not alone. Same here. It's all maddening. I don't take meds, don't want to. Exercise, dance, drumming (djembe), 5-htp supplement, journaling...are some of the things I do to try to shake it off. Thanks for sharing your story.
❤️ I'm so happy you've found healthy coping mechanisms, that's one of the biggest steps forward
i started watching you some months ago because of a video you posted about anxiety and depression. My daughter is about your age and suffers from both so i was interested in what you had to say. My daughter finds it extremely hard to get anywhere on time and I didn't realise it was a symptom of anxiety, the more I can understand about the condition the more I can support her. Thank you for this post and I hope you have a supportive family and friend network around you, much love to you.
Estelle Scordellis I love to hear that you are a parent trying to support their daughter in her struggles with anxiety and depression. My mom is very understanding of my own struggles with depression and tries her best to learn more about chemical imbalance, etc. But it is very hard for my dad to accept there is anything wrong...which I think is natural for a parent.
I'm so happy you found it useful and it's amazing to hear that you're supporting your daughter and trying to understand her perspective, that;s amazing❤️
Maybe to accept something wrong could incorrectly imply something is wrong with their child and as a parent want everything to be well and ok, but with or without depression you are perfect. He will hopefully come around and happy you have a supportive mum.
Estelle Scordellis ❤️❤️❤️
It is really great of you to research how to support your daughter. I actually have a question cause I suffer from anxiety and depressive episodes, but I don't talk to my parents about it really. Sometimes I tell my mom I'm stressed out about everything and she just says "it's not normal, you have to consult someone" and she sounds really worried and stressed and she sometimes sounds like she thinks it's my fault, cause I decided to move on the other side of the world and it's really hard. Would you have some advice about how to talk to her about it and make her understand without stressing her out so much? Thank you! And good luck to you and your daughter :)
So much of this resonates with me. I was on anti anxiety pills for a while which really made me feel 10 times worse but now I tend to manage my anxiety/depression without them. Some days are better than others but I agree that self care is so so important. Meditation also really helps me. It's great that you made this video to show people that they are not alone. xx
Totally agree, you have to try whatever you think will work for you, I don't take pills either because they don't agree with me. They make me tired and emotionless (worse than on my bad days but they make it every day!) 😅 I'm so happy you use meditation as a technique to calm your mind, it's so powerful. ❤️
OMG, you are describing me EXACTLY! from mental symptoms to physical symptoms. I did not know this is anxiety. I ended up crying, because that explained A LOT. Thank you so much for sharing. I can tell you that this video will make a huge shift in my life, believe me.
Well done on sharing this Kay.
I've had episodes of both anxiety and depression, sometimes for long periods. I've now slowed my life down and don't cram each day to the max so I always have time to myself everyday to do something for me. By spreading things out rather than having full days and completely empty days I feel completely different and haven't experienced any symptoms for a long time. I've also started meditating regularly and this has really made a difference too.
Looking forward to seeing your next video on this topic. 😃💕
Thank you ❤️ I'm sorry to hear you've struggled too but i'm so happy to hear you've found ways that help you to cope with it. I think you're so right, slowing down really helps a lot, sometimes I try and fit way too much into my days and it totally stresses me out! Happy to hear you meditate too, I notice such a different when I do. Sending big hugs to you xx
Thank you so much for your realness. I’m literally there right now. So similar. I hate that we have it but it helps to know we aren’t alone. I appreciate you so much. And yes, doing it afraid or doing it anyways is helpful. I almost tested up watching this. So touching. I’m so thankful for you. I get anxious for no reason, but it helps to remember hey, you’re just eating lunch, there’s not a shark in the room. Hydroxyzine has really helped me with anxiety. It helps me to have an automatic deadbolt lock abs if I do something I say it out loud like the front door is locked.
Wow, this is my life! I thought anxiety was something else. Thank you for sharing.
Anxiety is such a complex thing it looks so different to each person, i'm glad I was able to share more info about it and shed some light on it for you. 🙂
Thanks for sharing. I think it's so important to talk about mental health because the more we talk about it, the more we remove the stigma. It's also so helpful to see people on RUclips and Instagram talk about it because other people's lives can appear perfect and happy all the time online.
I have depression and anxiety but kinda in the opposite way to you because it's mostly depression that sometimes manifests as anxiety. It lead me to quit my job as a nurse in a busy London hospital and move down to live with my parents in the middle of nowhere in Cornwall. It's tough to make decisions like that but you're so right that you need to look after number 1. I realised I was just running on empty and had lost my joy and compassion, I actually went to church and someone had a word from God for me saying your cup is empty right now, take time to let it be filled again and then you can give from the overflow. That was so helpful for me and now that I have taken time to rest I'm doing so much better and am actually joining a charity in NZ that provides medical outreach in the Pacific islands later in the year!
Just to encourage you as well, your videos have been super helpful to me because they are always so positive and the content is always about good non-superficial things, it's refreshing! And it's been nice to follow someone online who's so open, especially having moved away from a lot of my friends! So sorry I've written an essay of a comment but the only other people I've spoken to today are my parents and my dog 😂🐶💕
I totally agree with you ❤️
I know exactly what you mean, it seems as though they come hand in hand doesn't it, so sorry you're struggling too. I LOVE what that person said to you, such powerful words. It's so true, you can't help others before you help yourself. Taking time to recharge is so important. Sounds like amazing work that you're going to be doing in NZ it's going to be such a rewarding job and i'm proud that you're going out there and following your dreams. 😊
Thank you for your kind words, honestly it means the world! I'm a pretty open book, I always have been and feel like the world would be so much less complicated if more people were 😂 I loved your essay, thank you for writing it it and sharing your life with me, it's nice to find someone who I can relate to too. Sending you big hug Mary xx
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I just had to comment because of your last sentence. I don't have a dog so I just talk to myself sometimes :D Good luck in NZ and good luck to get better as well!
Hi Mary, I am sure you will be a wonderful asset in the Pacific Islands, you have been through so much that you will be able to remember this and relate to others you come across in the same situation. Its a bit like being overweight, having a drug/drink addiction usually the best people to help others in these situations are those who have also had the same problem and know what it feels like. Hey dont knock your dog 🐶 conversation! I have a wonderful husband but every day I have wonderful conversations with my dog he is always in a good mood, is always pleased to see me, seems to know when I want a hug, makes me roar with laughter with his antics if I am sad and will make me go out for a walk whether I want to or not oh the power of those big brown doleful eyes if I refuse I swear he hypnotises me! 😂 Wishing you lots of love, laughter, light and blessings now and for your future , Big Hugs. Gill XXX
Gill Hill thank you so much 😊 yes and I think we can learn so much from the unconditional love of dogs! Mine is always an instant happiness boost! Hope you're having a lovely day xx
I wish RUclips had love and hug buttons, first because I loved the video, you addressed the problems really well and second, to send out virtual love and hugs to people when they need it.
It's funny cause I've never heard anyone talk about anxiety and depression the way you did, cause I either don't know anyone else in real life who suffers from that or maybe they're like me and don't talk much about it, and you said exactly what I feel and talked about the exact same reactions I have. It's comforting in a way to know we are not alone and it's perfectly ok to have anxiety and depression, we're not terrible people, but at the same time, I'm sad for you too, like for all of us who go through this.
For me, anything that involves going outside or simply having a life (so cooking, cleaning, going to school), I want to avoid massively. The days I don't have to be outside for some reason, I stay home all day. Sometimes 4-5 days in a row. It just feels comfortable you know. Good thing I live with my boyfriend though, cause I wouldn't talk to anyone most days otherwise. And he makes me go out, for coffee or just shopping, it's nice. But by myself, I just don't have the motivation. And something that gives me massive, massive anxiety is all my "stuff" so that's why I love watching decluttering videos.
Oh, about the crying, my boyfriend and I went to Tassie in January, cause he's from there, in the airport on the way back, he lost my water bottle and I lost it, and then I cried. And in the end, it was my sadness about leaving and stress about going back home, where we have no family or friends, that was showing and got triggered by the bottle. It's crazy the way the mind works and how intricate it can be sometimes. Had I had the motivation to study more in my life, I would've loved working in neurosciences, to try and find why anxiety and depression affect some people so badly and how we can cure it.
And talking about lists of lists, I have I think 10 lists or so to take stock of all the clothes I own. There all arranged differently, depending on what categorisation I would need to focus on. Cause I just can't declutter...
I've found that ACT and CBT are really interesting therapies to understand anxiety and how to deal with it, even if I don't agree with everything.
Something I'd like to know is how you approach it with your family. I don't talk to my parents about it, because I feel uncomfortable about it, I feel like they're going to think I am "crazy" and need to take pills and things like that, and that they will worry overly, etc. But at the same time, it would be good if they knew, so they could support me.
Much love Kay xx
Camille ❤️ I wish I could give you a big hug. xx I agree it's really comforting to know i'm not alone in this too but also sad you go through it. I can totally resonate with everything you said, anxiety can be completely overwhelming and make the most simple thing absolutely impossible. A lot of people don't understand and realise it, but I like to use the example of asking someone terrified of heights to go and do a bungee jump, they would cry and and scream and be absolutely terrified... with anxiety those same feelings can come up with just as much intensity whenever you need to do anything that your brain has decided is scary (meeting people, going outside, going to the post office).
I have done similar things when I lose or break something, it all just comes to a boiling point and you explode with emotions. I've found that meditation really helps with dealing with emotions before they become to amplified, I know a lot of people say that but in my experience it has helped a lot. I'm not as quick to anger or temper as I used to be.
I think it's good that you watch the decluttering videos because it shows you that somewhere deep inside you have the desire to do it yourself and you never know, one day the day may come where you have the strength and tools to overcome that fear. ❤️ I think CBT and exposure therapy are too of the most impactful ways to treat anxiety, they normalise the thing you're most scared of until your brain realises it's not as scary as you imagined. I have a weird mindset about this because just the thought of having to go through it terrifies me, but maybe that means it's what I need the most. 😅 As for family and friends, I don't talk in detail about it but my family know I struggle, it's one reason I was so worried about going to Vipassana. When people would ask why I was going I would just say "to try and help my anxiety" they would either ask more questions or change the subject, but I would leave it to them and then be completely open with my answers. One thing I want to say is we're all a bit crazy, it's just we all have different ways that we show it. Some people drink, some do drugs, some people are obsessive, others restrict their eating or eat too much and other people like us deal with anxiety. Nobody is perfect, remember that. I'm always here lovely if you want to chat. xxxx
Melissa, Imagine if could have a big group hug, i'd love that ❤️
I relate to this so much. I have generalized anxiety disorder with some depression as well. For awhile it was really bad and I sought treatment but it turns out that I cannot take SSRI’s and they made things a lot worse. I ended up with driving anxiety with vertigo that I am still dealing with 5 years later. I do the same thing with my hands where I tuck in my thumb and hold my hands in a fist. I think that it’s because it’s a protective move and in my case I wish that I could tuck my entire self in there along with my thumb! I just try to not let everything. Stop me from doing what I really want to do...which is hard because often times I just want to do nothing!
I found the same thing, they don't work for me at all! Oh gosh, im sorry to hear that, hopefully it will start to get better with time ❤️ Hahahaha, yep I agree so much, it's like giving yourself a big hug isn't it, that made me giggle bless you 😂 I'm so proud of you for going out there and carrying on through it all, it's so not easy. You've got this lovely! ❤️🙌🏼
After hearing your story I have to say that I am so proud of you for really getting out there and doing what you want to do. I know that it isn't easy for you. XOXO
Thank you for sharing this with us, it always helps when we know we're not the only one dealing with it! :)
No worries at all, thank you for listening ❤️
Exactly yes
I am a fellow anxiety panic attack OCD sufferer although the OCD is very minor and his gotten better as I've gotten older. And I have learned how to control my anxiety somewhat although there are days where it's still really bad. I used to suffer panic attacks when I worked in the corporate world and now I own my own business which is a different type of stress. I have found that my stress levels are really tied to my hormones! So it's always an adventure!
Another thumb holder and jaw clencher! Sorry you do it but glad I’m not the only one xx The more you spoke the more I thought you were talking about me, you are not alone xx
Linda Tait I do both of them as well. I didn’t realize that the thumb thing was related to my generalized anxiety disorder at all. It’s just something that I have always done.
Same for both!
Wow. You're really intelligent and brave for figuring and facing your fears. I also suffered with social anxiety, low self esteem and even OCD during my school years. It lasted for many years but thankfully I was able to train my mind out of it eventually. Also I was in situations a lot where I had to deal with strangers so that helped. I'm still an introvert but much better at social interactions and a much stronger person. I'm very thankful for being where I'm now emotionally.
Thank you ❤️ I'm so proud of you for coming so far, it's so hard and I know how challenging it must have been but it's nice to look back and feel like you're progressed isn't it 😊 sending big hugs to you
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Thanks. It's a great feeling to be my better self today, at least, in my eyes.
Hugs back 😊
OMG, i felt watching this you were speaking about me, i have suffered from severe anxiety panic attacks ocd and depression for many many years, sadly i also have very severe agoraphobia, it has shaped and ruined my life.I have no friends and cannot go to work, i feel i have missed so much.So many things i want to do but can't , even simple things like opening the front door and going for a nice long walk.My husband doesn't really understand it but is kind as he always goes out and gets the things i need.If i challenge my situation by telling myself i have to face something i am too afraid to do , all hell breaks loose and i end up not being able to do it as i have worried myself half to death and end up spending literal days on the loo.I am so very lonely and feel so alone with my problem, i have taken medication for it many times over the years but this too worries me and some are not vegan.I stopped taking them 4 years ago but have had terrible anxiety panic and depression since , i dream of one day just opening the door and walking along the road , like everyone else, fear free, i cannot imagine that day ever coming.i try to switch off and not think about it but it does overwhelm me as i feel my life is being wasted , i feel cheated as i cannot do any of the things i want to do.i smiled when you said about your jaw and thumbs, i have always tucked my thumbs in since i was a child, my mum does it too, good luck with overcoming your problems, i hope you manage it more successfully then i have.
Oh Beth, I wish I could give you a big hug lovely. Have you ever been to therapy? I think that CBT and exposure therapy can really help a lot. If you're in the UK there is a really great series on channel 5 at the minute called 'my extreme OCD life' www.my5.tv/my-extreme-ocd-life/season-1/episode-1 and although it's about OCD a lot of it is relatable to somebody with anxiety and it shows how people can overcome their biggest fears and battles and how it all comes in waves. ❤️ High five for thumb hugging, it's so comforting isn't it. xx
Thank you so much for this video, I can relate so much. I feel like an anxiety riddled mess too, I obsess, analyse and over think everything. It is so hard. My fiancé is so much more social than me and thinks nothing of going out to meet his friends or going to groups where as I have an inner panic and am anxious for days. More often than not, I can't manage it at all. I have to drag myself to work and try and be the work robot, sometimes I have to take a min and hide in a cupboard!. I have zero actual friends so the fact that you feel like a friend means the world
No worries lovely. I can totally relate to what you said, it's really difficult when people don't understand the internal battle you face every day. I've found that explaining what i'm thinking and feeling has helped Dom to understand a lot, so I might explain exactly what I think and feel in certain situations and he realises how awful it can be. I just say to him a lot "I know it doesn't make sense but I can't help it" and that helps him to realise it's not rational thinking that I can just stop, it's deeper than that. I'm always here lovely, I hope it gets easier for you too and it will in time. xx
I feel you . My husband is the definition of social and outgoing. We don't invite people home as the idea of people in my house makes me really anxious. I also have fear of someone ringing the bell. It is absurd. I try everyday and It gets better after time.
Thank you so much for being so open about this! Hearing personal stories like this makes me feel understood and less alone. I'm so glad that there are people like you out there who are trying to break through the taboo!
No worries at all, i'm so happy it made you feel less alone. ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this "illness"! In my opinion the bravest thing is to talk about! I have to admit, I can relate to majority of the symptoms you described. Anxiety and depression are like mystical things what people don't really want to talk about like it would be contagious. I personally don't like how they use the word "depression". It's like a marker, that there is something wrong with the person. I live with anxiety every day, and unfortunately had to experience the deepness of depression without even knowing that I'm depressed. Only after a visit to A&E I've been told I had a panic attack, causing me trouble to breathe. There was a point in my life where I didn't see the way out. My friend told me to look up something on the web - as she had the feeling I might be an "Empath". Words can not describe how I felt when I scrolled through the site, but it completely changed my life!!!! I still have anxiety, but to know I'm not crazy gave me the biggest relief ever! I completely changed how I see things, how I react to things, and the massive support group behind gave me endless hope and understanding! Whoever struggles with anxiety, I would like to shout out: You are not alone! There is a lot of people who will absolutely understand how you feel! Don't be afraid to reach out!!!
Very very true, this was fascinating to read, I've looked into being an empath before and it also really resonated with me, and also i've read about being a highly sensitive person which I could relate to a lot as well . I'm so proud of you for reaching out and finding a community that can relate to you, that can be one of the hardest things to do. ❤️
Oh my goodness, Kay, we are the same person! My OCD can be crippling, but since being on anxiety/depression medication, like you said, I’ve started to feel like me again lately. They’re definitely connected. I would love for you to talk more about your OCD because I’ve only ever met one other person in real life who has it, too. It’s so comforting to know other people struggle with it because OCD is so lonely; you can’t fully understand it unless you have it. I knew we had a lot in common, but this is too crazy! I’m proud of you for making this video and for doing all you do. Love this channel and you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
It's so nice to hear someone else who struggles with OCD (although I am sad you deal with it too) of all the mental illnesses this is the one that make me feel like i've actually gone mad because it's a physical thing and I'm worried people will see me and wonder what the hell i'm doing and because I KNOW it doesn't make sense, haha. It really is lonely and I agree with you, it's really difficult for other people to understand, I think people think it's just about washing hands or touching things, which it is but it's the intrusive thoughts that come if you don't do those things which is the thing that cripples you. Thank you for being kind and lovely, you're amazing. Thank you so much for being here with me and supporting me. Sending so much love your way Jessica. ❤️
It's definitely more than what people think it is because the thoughts can be the worst part! You're so welcome! It's a wonderful journey to be on together. :)
Thank you for this!! It’s very helpful to have an honest mental health experience & encouraging to hear the tips and tricks especially the thoughts in the description!!
My pleasure thank you for your kind words i'm glad it resonated with you ❤️
Thank you for your video, some of the things you said resonnated in me (repetitive thoughts, lack of motivation, over thinking, avoiding stressful situations). I often feel anxious but i don't know why, and my boyfriend makes fun of me because when i try to explain what i feel, i can only say i feel like my brain is broken, i feel like it doesn't work the way it should. I'm not sure i have real mental health issue, sometimes i tell myself i'm just weak and some other people struggle with so much worse, i don't deserve to complain, so sometimes (it's terrible what i'm about to write) i kind of wish i had something, like an illness, because it would explain why i feel so bad, and it could be cured, because right now i feel like i feel bad for no reason, so it can never go away. Sorry for this really depressing message :p i really look forward to your next video when you will talk about things you do to make you feel better.
Hello lovely, your message really touched me. I want to say that you are so not alone in this and your thoughts are thoughts i've had myself. One thing i've learnt is to try and be kind to myself, you're not 'weak' you're struggling with a serious mental problem which is just as bad as having something physically wrong with your body, the only difference being the thing is invisible because it's in your brain, inside your head, under your skin... hidden far away from the rest of the world. Have you ever been to a therapist or your doctors for advice? If not I really recommend it, therapy is so helpful in finding ways for you to deal with your emotions and finding the root cause of the thoughts that come up. Sending you big hugs lovely, I will be uploading the video about ways I help my anxiety in the next few weeks xx
Thank you so so much for your kind answer. I've often been to therapists, but i always quit when i get a little better, i'm ashamed of taking the therapist's time when others are so much more in need than i am. I've taken a new appointment today though. Seeing you so radiant and happy even though you suffer from anxiety has made me realize that i can be better just like you do, i really want to follow your example. Once again, thank you for your videos and for your words, it means a lot to me :)
Lately I have not felt like getting out of bed. Everything feels like work and I don't want to do it. I spend all day when I'm awake playing games on my phone. I scratch my scalp until it bleeds. It's deciding what to do that is the problem so I don't do anything.
I also have chronic pain so I retired early. That means I don't go out of the house much. I have been going to the library on Wednesdays.
Also I struggle with not wanting to care for myself--taking showers.
Kathy B.
P. S. I'm on antidepressants but sometimes they make me overplan and still not motivated. Its like I care about getting things done and I don't at the same time.
So sorry to hear that lovely, it's really difficult when you feel like that my heart goes out to you. Are you seeing a therapist or have you seen somebody in the past? If not I highly reccomend speaking to someone and seeking a little help or just someone to chat to. Sometimes I find that writing down your thoughts and thought patterns really helps you to see whether the thoughts are rational or not and then over time you can see patterns of behaviour and you become aware of it all rather than consumed by it. You take control. I promise you that taking tiny little steps forward over time makes it so much easier and over time you will be doing things you never thought possible. You've got this, I know you have. You're such a lovely person, you deserve love, you deserve peace and you deserve happiness. ❤️
I love your hair!
Aww thank you Ashley! 😀
Sweet girl. I am struggling too. With all of these things. Tips that help me: when you are worried about doors... look at your watch and mental note or note in your phone the time. When I left work last night it was 5:01. So I can check that and know. Breathe. Oils. Run.
That's a really wonderful tip, thank you so much for sharing. Sorry to hear you're struggling too, you've got this lovely ❤️
No one wants to hear about it but it's a fact.I am fighting with depression and anxiety for years. The night sleeping was full of nightmares and terror. I did take three years ago some homeopathetic medications but I saw a little difference. I tried to work on myself and I am a lot better now. Do you also have fear and anxiety about losing your loved ones?
Yep, I agree! I feel for you so much, nightmares are so awful. I'm interested in homeopathy, it seems like there are two sides, some people swear by it and other warn agains it... the curious part of me wonders why it's two huge extremes, i've never tried any myself apart from rescue remedy. I'm so happy you're doing better, as time goes by you will find new ways to help yourself too. When I was younger I had irrational fears of losing loved ones but the vipassana course I went on recently gave me a whole new concept of death and now I feel a little more at ease about it. I am thankful for each person who enters my life, some stay for a while and other not so long, but it's the time I spent with them that matters no matter how long or short. ❤️
Same here. Caused by my adrenal fatigue. Can't seem to recover. I don't wanna live like this. It's just awful
Thank you for sharing part of your story.enjoy your video. very informative
Thank you lovely, glad you found it interesting 😊
Hi Kay, Aww my love you explained this so beautifully thank you for sharing. I have S.A.D from November to April and at least I know that come the summer I will be OK again I cannot imagine what it must feel like knowing you just dont know when the depression/anxious feelings will start or end. Do you find that when you are abroad travelling in the sunshine it is better for you or does it make no difference? A friend gave me a good tip once about OCD locking doors, windows etc she said she would shout out loud ITS WEDNESDAY (or whatever day of the week it was) AND I AM NOW LOCKING MY FRONT/BACK DOOR, SHUTTING THE WINDOWS, LOCKING MY CAR etc. I tried it and it works for me sure I have got some funny looks from neighbours but who cares! Yep I am a thumb hugger and jaw clencher as well! Lots of Hugs XXX
Thank you Gill 😊 It is really hard not knowing when it's going to come or go, some days it stays for weeks and then it goes for a day or two and then it's back again, other times it will be gone for months before it comes back. I think the sunshine does help a lot with my mood but I know there are lots of times were i've been depressed in the most beautiful places and it made me feel incredibly guilty and selfish but it's not something I can help. I love what you shared! I find that saying things out loud helps a lot, I also think that pressing down on things hard helps me to remember I did it. Big hugs Gill, hope you're having a nice day xx
This is me- "I would rather be early than late!" 😄
Thank you. You're awesome. ❤️
Big hugs Emelia ❤️😊
Thank you for this video
No worries lovely ❤️ It's a tricky one, I feel like it would be a good thing in a way because you both know what the other person is going though and can understand why they're acting a certain way. I think as long as both people are trying to get help it is ok otherwise they will be enabling each others depression and anxiety and making it worse. I think support from family and friends is really important in this situation xx
Just a thought... I suffer with a lot of the same issues as you and have recently been diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD. I would never have thought I had this but it isn't what it sounds like. Maybe worth a look into? I did a few online tests after someone suggested that I had it and then went to a psych who diagnosed me.
After reading this I did a quiz online and scored 25... it's possible it could be that but i'm wondering if it could be a bit of bipolar... who knows! Proud of you for going to see somebody. Big hugs lovely xx
Living the life you love ah I see! Thank you
I flick each finger off my thumb in turn back and forth across one hand over and over again xx
I’ve been with my husband for 12 1/2 years and he spent a month in hospital a few years ago and that period of being on my own was absolutely terrifying! I didn’t know the combination to the wheelie bin shed in the block of flats we lived in, or where all the direct debits for bills were coming out from, and a million other day to day things which I had never realised I didn’t know how it worked in our life - I totally related to that part of your story. Great video Kay xx
Yes! I know right, it's terrifying. I had to go shopping by myself and realised that I had no idea how to use the self check out machine because Dom would always scan stuff for me, I had no idea where the carrot button was and had a totally panic attack internally. I felt so abandoned, it sounds ridiculous but I was so lost in that moment and wanted the world to swallow me 😂.
It sounds like you had the same realisation that when you're with someone you both have your responsibilities in life but sometimes it's good to swap them from time to time so you don't become too dependant on the other person doing it incase things like that ever happen again. Big hugs to you lovely Lizzie ❤️
Thanks for sharing
My pleasure 🙂
Thank you for sharing!! I always feel like I’m alone in this but heating you talk about the same thing as I feel helps. 🫶🏻