Owning our most intimate and raw feelings is so important. Allowing them to be ok and normal breaks down the standards society has created and embraced for so long. Love it! You are truly practicing what you preach! You as a pairing are lovely. I followed you years ago and as I moved in a different direction I lost your page. So glad to have found y’all again.
The way you both communicate and look at each other when the other person speaks is so powerful, your energy is incredible and very strong. 😍 I have never seen so much good energy between two souls before. 😱😍😁
I’ve been learning NVC and love this demonstration of giving and receiving authentic expression and how that flows naturally for you in your conversations. I really find my needs for clarity and love being looked after in your content. Thank you for being here.
You two are so amazing. I watch your videos often and you both have helped me tremendously. Navigating how to become more authentic, true to myself, and the drive for truth. I’ve always wanted it but find it scares so many people away. The truth can be scary when you aren’t accustomed to it. All the things about myself that I want explore you all are helping me get there. You both are inspiring, uplifting, genuine and loving. You bring such joy to my life. Thank you so much! Such beautiful people!
Related to what you say is something I've come in the last 4 years to adopt for myself and that is not just not advising others but really working to not fix others. For me, this started with my feeling upset but others were treating me that way and then becoming more self-aware in general where I would start to see myself doing the same thing. I work in the mental health field and I have been sensitive for a few decades about not coming across as being a psychotherapist to associates and friends and family. but it goes deeper than that it goes to not trying to help other people be a better version of themselves or behave better. Letting people be as they are and have my boundaries about how I allow people to treat me. And that's an interesting balance to convey how I don't want to be treated is different that trying to teach somebody to behave differently. It's something I become more aware of how I treat myself as well. I have a perspective that within my system are many parts and they all want desperately to help me. And some of those parts are aspects of myself that I would like to reject or to change.as I learn to have more compassion for those parts and listen to them rather than push them away my sister becomes less chaotic. as I apply that to others instead of push away what I mean is try to fix them or change them and I instead simply listen to others and hold my own space and boundary my older life becomes less chaotic and difficult at least as it relates to relating to others. a frustration I have is finding similar thinking people in the world and I'm so grateful to have found the two of you who inspire me without trying to change me.
Damn! The way you guys navigate an analysis feels very satisfying for me! Also when you both reflected on past ‘limitations’ this constructs had created for you and how they no longer are a part of your experiences is so exciting and motivating for different avenues of my personal growth!
Conor and Brit this was an absolutely moving and amazing video - as a human who is always trying my best to embody what feels like my truth and communicate that effectively, i really appreciate you both breaking that down more and all the points you made about gender/traditional expectations/limitations. I have experienced in my relationships with people identifying as male who also embody such beautiful feminine energy, a feeling of confusion about how to act/be perceived because of societal norms (on their part and in interacting with people they are attracted to) - so i just loved how the conversation evolved and expanded ...and how you, Brit, also added in about having felt similarly in bonds with other women - I can definitely resonate with that ... oh my and just your discussion on how authentically meeting those that you’re interacting with has evolved your polyamory.... See how excited you got me!! Such a good video my loves - I’m sending so much love
Amanda!! Love you so much. Thanks for sharing all these reflections here. Everything you said makes so much sense, so glad this video resonated with you. You're amazing!
Even though others expectations of us because of our genders is hard to change I too believe that it is a lot more about how we show up and the energy that we send out that determine how mush people want to date us or even approach us. I've all my life been very timid and even shy in periods and I've been convinced that I was unattractive, that nobody was the slightest interested in me and that I was invisible. Turns out I made myself that way. Not only did I make it hard for people to approach me but I also wasn't able to see when others WAS interested in me. In my relationship the situation is the opposite of that of the "assumed". My (male) partner has never had a shortage of girls who want's to be around him. It seems. And that's probably due to him being a very genuin person. The fact that he's poly is of course a turn off for some girls but mostly he really attracts people in general and people want's to be around him because he makes people feel seen and safe (apart from being a very nice, funny and good looking person ;))
Love that you shared this! It makes so much sense. I love how much control we have over how we show up in the world. It's a powerful thing. So much love to you!
Adina Almén how doesn’t he meet these women ? I just state I am or even when I am not saying I am and talk to womenjust in general they seem scared or turned off by me. Like I’m a loser or predator even when I don’t have an interest in them. I want to change that but don’t know how
Thank you so much for this video. I am exploring my gender still and feel things clicked with me for some views that were a little hard to see clear. Along with more being honest with myself and others with the connections we make. Good refresher. Much love guys! Excited about jaja ❤
Question. Do you enter relationships where the person isn't confident if they are poly or a particular sexual identity? That is plausibly just experimenting. Or do you prefer someone that is more sure in their identity?
Thanks for your question! We do find confidence attractive so it tends to play out that way, but it's not necessarily a rule of thumb for us. With good communication of expectations and sharing what's real for all of us in any given moment, we find that we can navigate anything that may come up with grace and compassion.
Love this topic! My wife and I discuss the same insecurities and inequities of being in a gender conscious society. I feel it is difficult "explaining" to women that I am not a sleeze when discussing this dynamic.
Thank you guys for your videos! You guys make a lot of things make me feel NOT alone. IDK how my partner feels about poly, we do have FWB and stuff. I've dated a poly couple once quite a while ago and I enjoyed it. And you guys are both not only are sooo into each other mentally through your actions and not words and it's touching, and if you guys are like this with others then that's even more beautiful. Hell, I'd definitely ask y'all out for sure or buy both y'all a drink if we were at a bar (even though I don't drink) Thanks guys
Thanks again. I get really tired of the assumption that as a woman I get inundated with interest on dating apps (I don't). I get tired of the assumption that as a poly woman all I want is sex (I don't). Feel a lot more savvy in spotting profiles than are genuine and aligned to me. If you were in my area I'd be swiping right :-)
You guys are so beautiful! I wish that everyone was comfortable enough to be their own authentic selves, I think the uniqueness of everybody would come out, and it would just be such an amazing place to live. I can feel the love radiating between you two, I hope you feel the love from me to both of you!
I was the one the asked the question. I feel like question...was more how does the 1st step happen. How does Conor meet other women that are ok with poly. I currently have 2 relationships and we share a couple. But my husband only gets to experience another lover when we are sharing the same partners. He doesnt have women in his life that he can explore feelings with. It would be all new. Then most..i mean all the time...the new single women gets freaked out. Or doesnt want to share him with me.
You may have asked a similar question :) We get this question in a lot of forms so it wasn't directed at your particular version necessarily. That being said, I think we answered that here as well. We tend to meet people who are either experienced in poly or open to it and we communicate about it every step of the way. Part of this ease is our location and part of this is, we believe, our energetic output. Sorry it can't be more specific with practical advice. Hope this is helpful anyway :D
I love you guys so much and would date both of you equally and Connor I see you! You're beautiful and phenomenal & Brittney your gorgeous and amazing! You both show your strength, your sensual flowing loving roots it's just puts me in such awe!
Don't get me wrong, I loved this discussion you two had in the video. But it sort of doesn't address the issue I feel many men have when dating while poly. My partner can feel that gender roles are not important all he wants, but he can't control how women see him and it's been nearly impossible for him to meet anyone. It's so hard because I've had great luck finding partners and I want him to experience the same thing. I feel at a loss. I want to help but I can't do anything.
I love you guys! Thank you so much for sharing, its just beatiful to know that there are so open minded souls with open hearts out there! It feels liberating to listening to you. Much love ❤❤❤
I have recently felt like I would really like to hold my friends hand, but I feel scared to ask. Could you talk about how yous express your desires and needs ti another person? Like when Conor says he might want to cuddle someone, how do you develop that skill? especially if you have a lot of fear around intimacy
Interesting video. Love the language used because it captures and encapsulates the overall mindset and truth and energy of what you are sharing to yourself and others. I really like Conor's earring! Does your membership site help with non-poly people ?
Yes! This is a great question. We believe the content applies to all styles of relationships, not specific to polyamory. Especially in regards to communication and compassion. xoxo
I love you guys sooo much and have you been watching & loving your vids for years!!! But I am so baffled by all of this. How do navigate STD's? And all the other intricacies of this lifestyle? Has it ever blown up your lives in some crazy way? Can you share about that?
I love this conversation.. When I met my first poly partner I was angry at men because of past experiences and I believed men only wanted my body and didnt see me as lovable (this was unconscious) so of course I could only perceive things men around me did as a thing to be angry at or see that they only wanted me for sex. However it turnt out I didnt love myself and see myself worth more than sex; I saw myself as bad and unlovable and so did this guy so we both mirrored one another and at different times became distant because of our very similar beliefes and triggers. I see now he is angry at women and feels undeserving of love but he doesnt see this yet and thats not my place to tell him, we are friends but we were just to reactive together and I believe if I hadnt met him I wouldnt now be learning the importance of my self love and acceptance and thats why im taking a year of celebacy and autonomy to grow and also change my patterns and programmings and labels etc etc that no longer serve me xx
@@terri-reborninchrist4168 Thanks for sharing all this Terri! This all makes so much sense. You rock for having all this awareness and love for yourself around this.
Hey there, Connor & Brittany! :) Im currently in a poly relationship with a live in girlfriend, and ive got a question on jealousy for you. I have a hard time with jealousy/FOMO when i see the wild success she has with dating and relationships. She currently has 4 partners, and i just have her. I would however love to have an additional partner. I have a have alot of jealousy when she is out on a date, or otherwise getting the attention that wish i was able to have in my own life. The more i know about what she is doing, and the more involved i am, the less negative i feel. I feel compersion much of the time, and am very happy and supportive of her on a logical level, but can’t get my emotions to get on board. Ive heard most people tend to be jealous in terms of their partner finding someone they love more, and leaving them. I don’t have any fear as far as i can tell in that way, but still struggle badly with this. Got any insight on how to deal with this? Thanks!
Cody Harris the cold truth is you will always have it harder. It’s just basic math more guys in the world are willing to enter this then women. It can be based on a number of issues. But it’s just easier to convince a guy to try this out then a girl
Thank you so much, I love your videos, they are so enriching my life and your way of being is such a great inspiration for me to think out of the box. Around 17:00 min you talk about the situation where sb expresses they miss you (Brittany) and wanna see you more often and you don't feel the same. I'd be so interested in how you would actually communicate your truth in that scenario. Also in general I'd love to hear more real life examples of your actual communication and situations where it's hard to express authenticity. I feel it would be so helpful to just listen to some inspiring ways of formulating lovingly. do you have that kind of content somewhere? Much love to you
Hi Anna! Thanks so much for this feedback. We think you will LOVE our membership videos at conorandbrittany.com. We dive deep into the real raw conversations that we have from real life scenarios. If you want to know what we're working through and how we actually work through it, you will love these more intimate videos. xoxo
Are either of you ever intimidated by your partner’s date ? As in, you just don’t care for the person? Do you discuss your partners with each other? So interested in your experience with this.
45k! I assume that l won't find what I'm looking for being a polyamorous Male. I am not aiming for sex as my goal, connecting with someone is the most amazing thing I've experienced.
I truly love you both, so much gratitude to the both of you, you have helped me and my husband/ life partner thru our journey of finding our inner truth and desires.. I am truly considering you tubing on poly and marriage, there is such a misunderstanding especially when children are involved, being with my partner now for 27 yrs. Can be a let down to many who a expectation to what should be, and a inspiration to others in similar shoes who are wanting to expand and not sure how. So thank you from the bottom of my heart.
@@DaisyBell88 I will be sure to send you the link, I would like to say in the next week. I have been putting allot of passion and thought into this subject, it will be my first you tube. I feel after talking with many people that there is a need.
I fucking love you kids. You have both inspired me on my journey so much. I'm a quality time/touch kid as well. And you both have opened my world to the ideas of authentic relating, NVC, ecstatic dance, IFS and ways of connecting in general that are so life transforming and yes...totally badass!!! Thank you both so much for all you've shared, it has truly helped reconnect in ways that before only seems like a dream. You model and embody what you sing about so well, I knew it was possible...you kids rock! Much love
Glad I found this video. I've been trying to find an answer online for this very question for months since my marriage opened up. I do think that this is probably a lot in my head as a male, but I also live in Texas, where cheating songs were invented... I can't help but feel like this douchebag cheater around here.. If that's all in my head.. God what have I been doing?
I don’t feel that way but I live in California and the sec I tell women I am poly they run away and even end friendships with me( these were friendship I had no intention of wanting more). It’s not just Texas it’s every where only certain men are able to pull this off( most men can if they put in effort )
Wow, this is really interesting. X I wonder who the real me is, you've got me thinking. Isn't it wonderful to be human and have a complex language to communicate inner worlds and subtle details of needs. Without that, how would we convey these things? I expect we still could.
I’m guessing one or both have some Aquarian energy in their chart because they are open minded and Aquarians are one of the most open minded and avant-garde zodiac signs.
Harold Q. Hardparty like why would you even reply to her statement. Why are you so mean?? Like take that negative attitude somewhere else.. or get laid and get happy!!
@@Cinder1987 I remember connor had his birthday in Thailand right before they came back because they rented that big house so maybe he is a capricorn...and ignore that douche to have to use such offensive words as "retarded" to get his point across
How do you prevent STDs especially now that brit is pregnant, have you had less sexual partners since brit has became pregnant , do you plan to raise your baby together or with help of your more longer term partners as well and do you plan to have children with your other partners?
Thanks for your questions Haley. We practice healthy sex practices but also recommend you check out our video on STI's here where we elaborate on the topic fully: ruclips.net/video/t8_BN_Zq-IU/видео.html We also answer your next questions here: ruclips.net/video/JCUxXeohFmE/видео.html We appreciate your curiosity. xoxo
How would you navigate when your feelings or intentions change? Like at first you want an emotional connection, but then later on, you just want sex. I can imagine that would feel tough on both sides potentially!
I feel like I wouldn't be so confused about my feelings towards my f**k buddy if wede communicated the way Conor demonstrated here. Life would be so much simpler
Love these guys but they miss mark on this one and spend a lot of time BSing around the subject. Single females in general do not want to play second fiddle or share and single guys just want to romp.
You two are so amazing. I watch your videos often and you both have helped me tremendously. Navigating how to become more authentic, true to myself, and the drive for truth. I’ve always wanted it but find it scares so many people away. The truth can be scary when you aren’t accustomed to it. All the things about myself that I want explore you all are helping me get there. You both are inspiring, uplifting, genuine and loving. You bring such joy to my life. Thank you so much! Such beautiful people!
I love the way you guys look at each other while you talk
:)
Owning our most intimate and raw feelings is so important. Allowing them to be ok and normal breaks down the standards society has created and embraced for so long. Love it! You are truly practicing what you preach! You as a pairing are lovely. I followed you years ago and as I moved in a different direction I lost your page. So glad to have found y’all again.
The way you both communicate and look at each other when the other person speaks is so powerful, your energy is incredible and very strong. 😍
I have never seen so much good energy between two souls before. 😱😍😁
I’ve been learning NVC and love this demonstration of giving and receiving authentic expression and how that flows naturally for you in your conversations. I really find my needs for clarity and love being looked after in your content. Thank you for being here.
Authenticity is the most attractive quality
So agree!
You two are so amazing. I watch your videos often and you both have helped me tremendously. Navigating how to become more authentic, true to myself, and the drive for truth. I’ve always wanted it but find it scares so many people away. The truth can be scary when you aren’t accustomed to it. All the things about myself that I want explore you all are helping me get there. You both are inspiring, uplifting, genuine and loving. You bring such joy to my life. Thank you so much! Such beautiful people!
I love how you all listen and answer to your subscribers. Very rare. You two are such lovely humans.
We just love you all.
I have never seen a couple so perfect for eachother, so in synch, so beautiful.
That feels so nice to hear xoxo
@Harold Q. Hardparty Your comment is crass and uncalled for.
this comment didn’t age well sis
Related to what you say is something I've come in the last 4 years to adopt for myself and that is not just not advising others but really working to not fix others. For me, this started with my feeling upset but others were treating me that way and then becoming more self-aware in general where I would start to see myself doing the same thing. I work in the mental health field and I have been sensitive for a few decades about not coming across as being a psychotherapist to associates and friends and family. but it goes deeper than that it goes to not trying to help other people be a better version of themselves or behave better. Letting people be as they are and have my boundaries about how I allow people to treat me. And that's an interesting balance to convey how I don't want to be treated is different that trying to teach somebody to behave differently.
It's something I become more aware of how I treat myself as well. I have a perspective that within my system are many parts and they all want desperately to help me. And some of those parts are aspects of myself that I would like to reject or to change.as I learn to have more compassion for those parts and listen to them rather than push them away my sister becomes less chaotic.
as I apply that to others instead of push away what I mean is try to fix them or change them and I instead simply listen to others and hold my own space and boundary my older life becomes less chaotic and difficult at least as it relates to relating to others.
a frustration I have is finding similar thinking people in the world and I'm so grateful to have found the two of you who inspire me without trying to change me.
Never felt so much empathy through a video. Thanks for the support on this journey. You two are dope human beings!
being the male on a poly marriage I sympathize so much with this video, it took me a while to find a good commentary on how I feel
Damn! The way you guys navigate an analysis feels very satisfying for me! Also when you both reflected on past ‘limitations’ this constructs had created for you and how they no longer are a part of your experiences is so exciting and motivating for different avenues of my personal growth!
Awesome! So cool to hear
Conor and Brit this was an absolutely moving and amazing video - as a human who is always trying my best to embody what feels like my truth and communicate that effectively, i really appreciate you both breaking that down more and all the points you made about gender/traditional expectations/limitations.
I have experienced in my relationships with people identifying as male who also embody such beautiful feminine energy, a feeling of confusion about how to act/be perceived because of societal norms (on their part and in interacting with people they are attracted to) - so i just loved how the conversation evolved and expanded
...and how you, Brit, also added in about having felt similarly in bonds with other women - I can definitely resonate with that
... oh my and just your discussion on how authentically meeting those that you’re interacting with has evolved your polyamory....
See how excited you got me!! Such a good video my loves - I’m sending so much love
Amanda!! Love you so much. Thanks for sharing all these reflections here. Everything you said makes so much sense, so glad this video resonated with you. You're amazing!
This video was more than I was expecting. I loved it! Your energy feels so good to receive. I’m so glad I watched this!
Even though others expectations of us because of our genders is hard to change I too believe that it is a lot more about how we show up and the energy that we send out that determine how mush people want to date us or even approach us. I've all my life been very timid and even shy in periods and I've been convinced that I was unattractive, that nobody was the slightest interested in me and that I was invisible. Turns out I made myself that way. Not only did I make it hard for people to approach me but I also wasn't able to see when others WAS interested in me.
In my relationship the situation is the opposite of that of the "assumed". My (male) partner has never had a shortage of girls who want's to be around him. It seems. And that's probably due to him being a very genuin person. The fact that he's poly is of course a turn off for some girls but mostly he really attracts people in general and people want's to be around him because he makes people feel seen and safe (apart from being a very nice, funny and good looking person ;))
Love that you shared this! It makes so much sense. I love how much control we have over how we show up in the world. It's a powerful thing. So much love to you!
Adina Almén how doesn’t he meet these women ? I just state I am or even when I am not saying I am and talk to womenjust in general they seem scared or turned off by me. Like I’m a loser or predator even when I don’t have an interest in them. I want to change that but don’t know how
Thank you so much for this video. I am exploring my gender still and feel things clicked with me for some views that were a little hard to see clear. Along with more being honest with myself and others with the connections we make. Good refresher.
Much love guys! Excited about jaja ❤
You're so welcome! We're honored that any of our words could have brought you more clarity. So much love to you!
do you have an instagram Mason?
@@HannahBirzes i do! It is woodlandcoyote. I do not post much though.
This was SO helpful and affirming! Much love and thanks from
a hetero man trying to be sexually authentic in a #MeToo-obsessed world.
Question. Do you enter relationships where the person isn't confident if they are poly or a particular sexual identity? That is plausibly just experimenting. Or do you prefer someone that is more sure in their identity?
Thanks for your question! We do find confidence attractive so it tends to play out that way, but it's not necessarily a rule of thumb for us. With good communication of expectations and sharing what's real for all of us in any given moment, we find that we can navigate anything that may come up with grace and compassion.
@@conorandbrittany thanks for explaining! That makes sense.
Love this topic! My wife and I discuss the same insecurities and inequities of being in a gender conscious society. I feel it is difficult "explaining" to women that I am not a sleeze when discussing this dynamic.
Thank you guys for your videos! You guys make a lot of things make me feel NOT alone. IDK how my partner feels about poly, we do have FWB and stuff. I've dated a poly couple once quite a while ago and I enjoyed it. And you guys are both not only are sooo into each other mentally through your actions and not words and it's touching, and if you guys are like this with others then that's even more beautiful.
Hell, I'd definitely ask y'all out for sure or buy both y'all a drink if we were at a bar (even though I don't drink)
Thanks guys
Looooooove, love, love this video! Thank-you for sharing.
Sending good vibes from Tassie, AUS. xx
Thanks Lauren! Love from Austin xoxo
Love Tassie :)
Eija J it’s a pretty magical place 💛
Thanks again.
I get really tired of the assumption that as a woman I get inundated with interest on dating apps (I don't). I get tired of the assumption that as a poly woman all I want is sex (I don't).
Feel a lot more savvy in spotting profiles than are genuine and aligned to me. If you were in my area I'd be swiping right :-)
Haha love that! Thank you ;)
And yes, we totally agree that these assumptions can feel frustrating. Much love to you!
Roslyn Maree based on my experiences with my gf they seem true.
I’m not saying this is every one but there are some
You guys are so beautiful! I wish that everyone was comfortable enough to be their own authentic selves, I think the uniqueness of everybody would come out, and it would just be such an amazing place to live. I can feel the love radiating between you two, I hope you feel the love from me to both of you!
I was the one the asked the question. I feel like question...was more how does the 1st step happen. How does Conor meet other women that are ok with poly. I currently have 2 relationships and we share a couple. But my husband only gets to experience another lover when we are sharing the same partners. He doesnt have women in his life that he can explore feelings with. It would be all new. Then most..i mean all the time...the new single women gets freaked out. Or doesnt want to share him with me.
I am more open to all genders and lovers. He is only into women and not exploring other lovers
You may have asked a similar question :) We get this question in a lot of forms so it wasn't directed at your particular version necessarily. That being said, I think we answered that here as well. We tend to meet people who are either experienced in poly or open to it and we communicate about it every step of the way. Part of this ease is our location and part of this is, we believe, our energetic output. Sorry it can't be more specific with practical advice. Hope this is helpful anyway :D
I love you guys so much and would date both of you equally and Connor I see you! You're beautiful and phenomenal & Brittney your gorgeous and amazing! You both show your strength, your sensual flowing loving roots it's just puts me in such awe!
Muah!! Thanks so much for these compliments. 😘😘
You're quite welcome you beautiful people! Stay cool daddio's!
I get so much value and validation from what you both share. Thank you xoxo
Don't get me wrong, I loved this discussion you two had in the video. But it sort of doesn't address the issue I feel many men have when dating while poly. My partner can feel that gender roles are not important all he wants, but he can't control how women see him and it's been nearly impossible for him to meet anyone. It's so hard because I've had great luck finding partners and I want him to experience the same thing. I feel at a loss. I want to help but I can't do anything.
I love you guys! Thank you so much for sharing, its just beatiful to know that there are so open minded souls with open hearts out there! It feels liberating to listening to you. Much love ❤❤❤
I have recently felt like I would really like to hold my friends hand, but I feel scared to ask. Could you talk about how yous express your desires and needs ti another person? Like when Conor says he might want to cuddle someone, how do you develop that skill? especially if you have a lot of fear around intimacy
Just ask and expect to get rejected
If not rejected you just happen to be lucky
Interesting video. Love the language used because it captures and encapsulates the overall mindset and truth and energy of what you are sharing to yourself and others. I really like Conor's earring! Does your membership site help with non-poly people ?
Yes! This is a great question. We believe the content applies to all styles of relationships, not specific to polyamory. Especially in regards to communication and compassion. xoxo
Genuinely loving your videos.
I love how you guys communicate, thanks for sharing!
I loved this video! It was so insightful and has inspired me to become more connected with my authentic self. Thank you guys for sharing 💞
Sending you so much love. Comments like this make our day :)
I love you guys sooo much and have you been watching & loving your vids for years!!! But I am so baffled by all of this. How do navigate STD's? And all the other intricacies of this lifestyle? Has it ever blown up your lives in some crazy way? Can you share about that?
I wanna be a sexologist some day and this channel is such an amazing learning tool. :)
You rock! So happy this channel is helpful.
@@conorandbrittany yall are awesome, glad you found your true self together and with others :)
I love this conversation..
When I met my first poly partner I was angry at men because of past experiences and I believed men only wanted my body and didnt see me as lovable (this was unconscious) so of course I could only perceive things men around me did as a thing to be angry at or see that they only wanted me for sex.
However it turnt out I didnt love myself and see myself worth more than sex; I saw myself as bad and unlovable and so did this guy so we both mirrored one another and at different times became distant because of our very similar beliefes and triggers.
I see now he is angry at women and feels undeserving of love but he doesnt see this yet and thats not my place to tell him, we are friends but we were just to reactive together and I believe if I hadnt met him I wouldnt now be learning the importance of my self love and acceptance and thats why im taking a year of celebacy and autonomy to grow and also change my patterns and programmings and labels etc etc that no longer serve me xx
Also I can relate to Brittany around the way of feeling like I was doing something wrong for wanting to connect with women x
@@terri-reborninchrist4168 Thanks for sharing all this Terri! This all makes so much sense. You rock for having all this awareness and love for yourself around this.
Hey there, Connor & Brittany! :)
Im currently in a poly relationship with a live in girlfriend, and ive got a question on jealousy for you.
I have a hard time with jealousy/FOMO when i see the wild success she has with dating and relationships. She currently has 4 partners, and i just have her. I would however love to have an additional partner.
I have a have alot of jealousy when she is out on a date, or otherwise getting the attention that wish i was able to have in my own life. The more i know about what she is doing, and the more involved i am, the less negative i feel. I feel compersion much of the time, and am very happy and supportive of her on a logical level, but can’t get my emotions to get on board.
Ive heard most people tend to be jealous in terms of their partner finding someone they love more, and leaving them. I don’t have any fear as far as i can tell in that way, but still struggle badly with this. Got any insight on how to deal with this?
Thanks!
Cody Harris the cold truth is you will always have it harder. It’s just basic math more guys in the world are willing to enter this then women. It can be based on a number of issues. But it’s just easier to convince a guy to try this out then a girl
Thank you so much, I love your videos, they are so enriching my life and your way of being is such a great inspiration for me to think out of the box. Around 17:00 min you talk about the situation where sb expresses they miss you (Brittany) and wanna see you more often and you don't feel the same. I'd be so interested in how you would actually communicate your truth in that scenario. Also in general I'd love to hear more real life examples of your actual communication and situations where it's hard to express authenticity. I feel it would be so helpful to just listen to some inspiring ways of formulating lovingly.
do you have that kind of content somewhere? Much love to you
Hi Anna! Thanks so much for this feedback. We think you will LOVE our membership videos at conorandbrittany.com. We dive deep into the real raw conversations that we have from real life scenarios. If you want to know what we're working through and how we actually work through it, you will love these more intimate videos. xoxo
This was absolutely lovely to listen to. Thank you so much you guys. ❤
Thanks LeeAnn! Much love to you
👍 realtalk. felt like one of the most authentic vids i saw of you (and i saw a lot in the last 4y)
of course it’s because of me😉
We so loved making this video as well. We could continue on forever!
Are either of you ever intimidated by your partner’s date ? As in, you just don’t care for the person? Do you discuss your partners with each other? So interested in your experience with this.
45k! I assume that l won't find what I'm looking for being a polyamorous Male. I am not aiming for sex as my goal, connecting with someone is the most amazing thing I've experienced.
Yes! We create our realities and we are free to choose our beliefs! I'm so happy to hear you sharing this understanding
Thank you for sharing this . Y'all are amazing
Thanks so much for watching!
Connor is man goals
I truly love you both, so much gratitude to the both of you, you have helped me and my husband/ life partner thru our journey of finding our inner truth and desires.. I am truly considering you tubing on poly and marriage, there is such a misunderstanding especially when children are involved, being with my partner now for 27 yrs. Can be a let down to many who a expectation to what should be, and a inspiration to others in similar shoes who are wanting to expand and not sure how. So thank you from the bottom of my heart.
victoria fowlie I would be interested in watching videos on this subject!
@@DaisyBell88 I will be sure to send you the link, I would like to say in the next week. I have been putting allot of passion and thought into this subject, it will be my first you tube. I feel after talking with many people that there is a need.
Oh how exciting for this new endeavor! We are so honored to be part of your journey.
I fucking love you kids. You have both inspired me on my journey so much. I'm a quality time/touch kid as well. And you both have opened my world to the ideas of authentic relating, NVC, ecstatic dance, IFS and ways of connecting in general that are so life transforming and yes...totally badass!!! Thank you both so much for all you've shared, it has truly helped reconnect in ways that before only seems like a dream. You model and embody what you sing about so well, I knew it was possible...you kids rock! Much love
You are so badass! Thanks for this feedback. Much love you
just found your channel, very interesting to watch, and cant wait to see more.
💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 thank u for your time to do this videos 💪💯
aw thanks so much, we love making these videos!
Glad I found this video. I've been trying to find an answer online for this very question for months since my marriage opened up. I do think that this is probably a lot in my head as a male, but I also live in Texas, where cheating songs were invented... I can't help but feel like this douchebag cheater around here.. If that's all in my head.. God what have I been doing?
I don’t feel that way but I live in California and the sec I tell women I am poly they run away and even end friendships with me( these were friendship I had no intention of wanting more). It’s not just Texas it’s every where only certain men are able to pull this off( most men can if they put in effort )
Soooo insightful
Wow, this is really interesting. X I wonder who the real me is, you've got me thinking.
Isn't it wonderful to be human and have a complex language to communicate inner worlds and subtle details of needs. Without that, how would we convey these things? I expect we still could.
yay! get liberated, dont let gender define your reality! 😚
Love you guys this was super helpful 💖
So happy to hear this!
You two are so beautiful, inside and out. Thank you!
You guys are so awesome 💕
What are both of your astrological signs? ☺️ Not that it’s important, but I’m just curious! 💚
I’m guessing one or both have some Aquarian energy in their chart because they are open minded and Aquarians are one of the most open minded and avant-garde zodiac signs.
Harold Q. Hardparty like why would you even reply to her statement. Why are you so mean?? Like take that negative attitude somewhere else.. or get laid and get happy!!
Amy Harless Lol exactly😜
@@Cinder1987 I remember connor had his birthday in Thailand right before they came back because they rented that big house so maybe he is a capricorn...and ignore that douche to have to use such offensive words as "retarded" to get his point across
Brittany is Capricorn and Conor is Aquarius
How do you prevent STDs especially now that brit is pregnant, have you had less sexual partners since brit has became pregnant , do you plan to raise your baby together or with help of your more longer term partners as well and do you plan to have children with your other partners?
Thanks for your questions Haley. We practice healthy sex practices but also recommend you check out our video on STI's here where we elaborate on the topic fully: ruclips.net/video/t8_BN_Zq-IU/видео.html
We also answer your next questions here: ruclips.net/video/JCUxXeohFmE/видео.html We appreciate your curiosity. xoxo
I keep saying...in my next life.....
How would you navigate when your feelings or intentions change? Like at first you want an emotional connection, but then later on, you just want sex. I can imagine that would feel tough on both sides potentially!
Yes, we imagine this could be tough to navigate but we would continue to communicate authentically every step of the way.
Loved the part at 20:25. More of that please.
What happened??
@@cami805 just click on the time in my comment.
GOLDEN
I feel like I wouldn't be so confused about my feelings towards my f**k buddy if wede communicated the way Conor demonstrated here. Life would be so much simpler
I love you guys. :)
So “feeling” lol
Love
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I love you guys.❤️
I sense a weird vibe from them esp the woman. Underling unhealed trauma?
Love these guys but they miss mark on this one and spend a lot of time BSing around the subject. Single females in general do not want to play second fiddle or share and single guys just want to romp.
You two are so amazing. I watch your videos often and you both have helped me tremendously. Navigating how to become more authentic, true to myself, and the drive for truth. I’ve always wanted it but find it scares so many people away. The truth can be scary when you aren’t accustomed to it. All the things about myself that I want explore you all are helping me get there. You both are inspiring, uplifting, genuine and loving. You bring such joy to my life. Thank you so much! Such beautiful people!