One thing you didn't mention; rejection. If she says no, you should offer a smile and a "No problem" or a "Perhaps later then". Polite acceptance of her refusal can help build your social confidence if not your dance confidence.
and if we go with tradtional roles, then it can suck like hell you get a rejection. Especially if you asked a woman at a dance that you really like. Its a really true test of mandom.
Just the fact that you are watching this makes you a well mannered gentlemen. Thank you for these videos. I'm always so bad at dancing and your videos helps really much!
Ive been watching your vids because my gf wants to teach me to dance, but i want it to seem like i know a little stuff before hand, and your videos have been helpful alot
I'm dancing with a girl for the first time this Saturday. If the appropriate music comes on, I am asking her to slow dance with me! I'm so excited, and you guys have given me the basic moves and confidence I need for this first date! Thank you! Wish me luck!
She IS a professional dancer though, so she's not just any girl in a ballroom haha! But she knows I'm a "regular" guy, and a "regular" guy wouldn't know much on how to dance, so I think I may surprise her, even with my basic sways and possibly turns!
@@ChristopherSackett So we never slow danced, but that was more of a just in case idea. But I had a little more confidence, I still was frozen at first, but every now and then I'd break out dancing. I think though this video is focused on slow dancing, it helps educate you on some etiquette for the dance floor :) it went really well and I really like her!
I’ve been learning a bit about dancing in preparation for my school dance tomorrow and your videos have been a great help. Thanks continue the good work! :)
Thank you, everything you just said about dancing feels like good relationship & dating advice, ask her to dance, dinner, movies, or to go for a walk. You're style of delivery is so top notch classy !
All very good tips. I also like to check to make sure my clothes and hair are in place. Appearance can be important and adds to confidence. You want her to want to be seen with you on the dance floor.
When I was in college and still going out to clubs as a single young man, I would get swarmed by these women who would start dancing against me in a provocative manner. Never once did they ask if I ok with this. Very disrespectful!
Thank you so much! All the videos i have been trying to search up are related on how to ask someone to a dance, not asking someone to dance.This was really helpful!!
I just noticed your channel aint so big but I like the content so far. Btw this summer I met a girl at a club and we got along well and danced. She is a salsa dancer and it was fun but when she turned and I grabbed her waist she wasnt rlly comfy and pulled back and I thought it was gonna get awkward but I rolled with it and threw a smile and then a few moments later I offered her a hand again and we danced a whole night. It was rlly cool vibing so fast with a stranger like tht and we stayed in touch too. Keep up the good work guys✌😉
OK, now you're dancing. She's wearing a backless dress with a string across her back. If she's new to the scene she may not be aware of the delicate issue this presents to a leader. As a well mannered gentleman what do you do?
im watching this because this year were supposed to have prom but bc of covid it was postponed maybe in 10th grade well have prom ill update when i take her to dance
I would offer your hand and smile.. and if she declines graciously nonverbally accept and depart. I have found women do not like it when you verbalize in a dance environment.
I might be going to an upcoming fall dance to my school and if I do go and I do work up enough courage, wish me luck with the girl I like! Fingers crossed she doesn’t think I’m weird
So wish I knew all this decades ago! Her beautiful long blonde hair is like my daughter's, and I just wish her wedding dance was a little more mature! But, after decades, I'm starting to get it, thank you so much!
i often approach lovely women dressed for social dancing with the Beevis and Butthead laugh.... after our social interlude i know they telephone their mothers and receive " Oh honey ! i am so happy for you, your father will be so proud, when can we meet him" ?
Just a few comments. If you go to dance events where dancers from all over the world show up such as Salsa, Zouk, Lindy Hop, Argentina Tango congresses verbal invites in English won't necessarily work. I understand that some follows prefer verbal invitations but this just tells me she hasn't travelled to dance events much. People in dance congresses can be native Korean, Swedish, German, Ukrainian, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Italian, Japanese, Romanian speakers. If you invite verbally in English you're limiting yourself. Many times Argentina Tango dancers from North America, Europe and Asia will visit Buenos Aires Argentina and will have a preference to dance with the local Tango dancers from the area (who are often very advanced). If you invite the follower by speaking English to a Tango tourist, you identify yourself as not being local from Buenos Aires and will be more than likely turned down. Usually, over there invitations are non-verbal by eye contact only. Sometimes a follower on her way to her table will glance at a leader and smile before walking to her table. This can be an indication that an invitation would be welcomed. It's usually bad form over there to walk over to a table where a lady is accompanied to invite her to dance and it's best to invite her if her caballero is off dancing with someone else. If a lady is not looking for Cabaceo (eye contact) invitations and you see her accepting invitations from people going to her table, then try it out, and keep it to "Bailamos ?". Sometimes the small clubs are poorly lit so eye contact invitations won't work so well. The advantages of eye contact invitations are: No need to speak the same language, it works even if the music/ambient sound is loud. If a lead is turned down it will not diminish a leader's perceived social value as much you don't need to cross the whole room only to be turned down, you know your invitation as been accepted and you just meet each other on the floor, It's also a way to head off someone not inviting with the eyes as you get there first without moving from your position. One sign I use sometimes across the floor is two fingers together that I rotate a single spin. If you want to actually the American sign language pattern to invite to a dance, make a floor with one hand and with the index and middle fingers forming an upside down V of the other hand glide on the floor. If she doesn't appear to see you she might be pretending not to hoping you will go away, it's can be harder to judge if it's the case, don't hover or stare trying to catch her eyes, move on. If you're turned down by a glance it's easier and quicker to invite someone else with the eyes as the first invitation of someone else was more subtle. On approaching from the back and tapping the shoulder that's a big nono. Some followers will get creeped out by such an approach as some may have had traumatic experiences in their past. Make sure she sees you coming, as it gives her the chance to look away or indicate a no to her head. If there's no way for her to see you coming then from the side and with two fingers making contact with her arm with outside side of the fingers, not the palm. Initiate a small rotation towards you via a slight contact. The outside part of the fingers will not feel like a grab. If asking vocally or by extending an invite visibly by extending the hand, and get turned down don't immediately invite the other follow next to her. It will make this person feel like a second choice and no one wants to feel that. Invite someone less likely to have seen the first invitation. Experience gathered in: Czech Republic, France, Germany, Spain, Argentina, Dominican Republic, USA, Canada, Argentina, Brazil, Chile, Sweden : Partner Dances: Lindy Hop, Blues, Salsa, Bachata, Merengue, Brazilian Zouk, West Coast Swing, Carolina Shag, Balboa, Argentina Tango, Milonga and American style Ballroom Dancing
Unique insight, thanks for sharing! This channel is geared towards the absolute beginner. Obviously since we are English speaking Americans that is the audience we tend to speak to and connect with. For more advanced, international viewers there are definitely different ways of approaching and different cultures vary with as well :)
@@BallroomFeed other things to mention. In some dance communities it can be perceived as an insult to only have the one dance instead of a minimum of two. It's best to find out if it's the case. In the Herräng swing dance camp, in the early 2000's It was the case. In Argentina Tango, the DJ will usually play a set by the one orchestra until a small Cortina (piece of music to separate sets is played, it can be Jazz, Rock n' Roll something different from what was just played). Usually a full set by the one orchestra is danced with the partner you invited (unless he/she thanks you after a song and walks off). For a guy especially if he's a lot bigger than the person being invited, asking while squaring off with the invitee can be intimidating, it's best to be at an angle so that he is not fully facing the invitee. This will feel less imposing and confrontational. This works also if meeting a friend's dog for the first time.
One thing you didn't mention; rejection. If she says no, you should offer a smile and a "No problem" or a "Perhaps later then". Polite acceptance of her refusal can help build your social confidence if not your dance confidence.
Great advice! :)
Youre a genious, lol
and if we go with tradtional roles, then it can suck like hell you get a rejection. Especially if you asked a woman at a dance that you really like. Its a really true test of mandom.
Hmmmm.. I never learnt to make my wife dance with me...🥺😢😭..
What if she calls security because you're not 6feet tall supermodel Chad?
Just the fact that you are watching this makes you a well mannered gentlemen. Thank you for these videos. I'm always so bad at dancing and your videos helps really much!
Of course!! Our pleasure :)
Ive been watching your vids because my gf wants to teach me to dance, but i want it to seem like i know a little stuff before hand, and your videos have been helpful alot
That's awesome! Glad you found us, thanks for watching!!
Good luck, bro!
This is the cutest thing. How did it go?
@@FindingTheFaith it didnt end up happening, so that happened I guess
y’all are amazing dropped the ball with one girl don’t wanna let that happen again
Thank you!! You got it :)
Went to a jrotc military ball wanting to make a move. Had to start somewhere. You guys saved my life 😂
Happy to help!! Thanks for watching ☺
I'm dancing with a girl for the first time this Saturday. If the appropriate music comes on, I am asking her to slow dance with me!
I'm so excited, and you guys have given me the basic moves and confidence I need for this first date! Thank you!
Wish me luck!
She IS a professional dancer though, so she's not just any girl in a ballroom haha! But she knows I'm a "regular" guy, and a "regular" guy wouldn't know much on how to dance, so I think I may surprise her, even with my basic sways and possibly turns!
She will be so happy you even ask her to dance!! You go this, wishing you all the best!!
How'd it go?
@@ChristopherSackett So we never slow danced, but that was more of a just in case idea. But I had a little more confidence, I still was frozen at first, but every now and then I'd break out dancing. I think though this video is focused on slow dancing, it helps educate you on some etiquette for the dance floor :) it went really well and I really like her!
@@ChristopherSackett THANKS FOR ASKING BTW 😊 you have a great day!
That is more useful than people realize. You won't show off your sick dancing skills if she doesn't agree to dance!
Great point! Thanks for watching!!
😅
I’ve been learning a bit about dancing in preparation for my school dance tomorrow and your videos have been a great help. Thanks continue the good work! :)
I'm so glad!! Thanks for watching :)
Same bro tomorrow is prom😅
can all men please watch this
Feel free to share it with everyone!! :)
agreed!
Thank you, everything you just said about dancing feels like good relationship & dating advice, ask her to dance, dinner, movies, or to go for a walk. You're style of delivery is so top notch classy !
Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed :)
I'm making my move tonight, your advice helps a lot!
Hope it went well!!
How did it go
@@President_jack we were able to dance and just stated dating about 2 months ago😁
@@TheRealExilyn nice
Thank you so much for this I'm watching your videos to practice a formal dance with my friend.
Thank you for watching!
Yo same
This advice is helping SOOOO much. Thank you so much for the helpful advice
Glad to hear it! Thanks for watching :)
Thank you for the advice and education
You are so welcome! :)
3 weeks then I'm dancing with her :)
Good luck! You'll be great :)
@@BallroomFeed thanks bud
how did it go
@@alex_ag7022 wait till tomorrow
@@alex_ag7022 It was amazing. I requested the song she loves. Then I inveted her to scene. She called me after the party. Thanks for asking bro.
Thank you very much!
Thanks for watching!! :)
My school prom is coming up soon I have learnt so much from you guys glad I found you guys💖
That's so great to hear! Wishing you all the best :)
All very good tips. I also like to check to make sure my clothes and hair are in place. Appearance can be important and adds to confidence. You want her to want to be seen with you on the dance floor.
Great tip!
also, make sure to wear pants when asking (underwear not necessarily).
When I was in college and still going out to clubs as a single young man, I would get swarmed by these women who would start dancing against me in a provocative manner. Never once did they ask if I ok with this. Very disrespectful!
I freeze everytime lol. Even with a game plan. 🤦
Now I can ask my crush for a dance at hoco tomorrow. According to her friends we're lovebirds and she is in love with me
Thank you so much! All the videos i have been trying to search up are related on how to ask someone to a dance, not asking someone to dance.This was really helpful!!
You're so welcome! Thank you for watching!! :)
I just noticed your channel aint so big but I like the content so far. Btw this summer I met a girl at a club and we got along well and danced. She is a salsa dancer and it was fun but when she turned and I grabbed her waist she wasnt rlly comfy and pulled back and I thought it was gonna get awkward but I rolled with it and threw a smile and then a few moments later I offered her a hand again and we danced a whole night. It was rlly cool vibing so fast with a stranger like tht and we stayed in touch too. Keep up the good work guys✌😉
Thanks for sharing! I'm glad it turned out well for you guys :) Thanks for watching!!
OK, now you're dancing. She's wearing a backless dress with a string across her back. If she's new to the scene she may not be aware of the delicate issue this presents to a leader. As a well mannered gentleman what do you do?
Great video but could you make one about how to get a girl in a dance like situation first?
im watching this because this year were supposed to have prom but bc of covid it was postponed maybe in 10th grade well have prom ill update when i take her to dance
Best of luck to you!!
I would offer your hand and smile.. and if she declines graciously nonverbally accept and depart. I have found women do not like it when you verbalize in a dance environment.
Great perspecitive!
these video's are insanely useful
Glad to hear it! Thanks for watching!!
This is perfect thank you! Me and my friend need your tutorials for our talent show! Thank you!!
So happy to help!!
Thanks SO much!! This definitely helps with prom coming up
I'm so glad! Best of luck!!
UPDATE! I took these tips and used it for Prom on Thursday. The girl I danced with and I both had a great time🕺💃
4:51 interesting grip
December and January is coming....I really need to learn men 😁
Hey you, would you like to add some tipps how to ask someone that is part of a group? :D
How did you too meet?
We decided to be competitive dance partners and that's how we met! :)
My brother just went to our schools 8th grade dance and he described how cringy it was and I know the feeling and it made me cringe really hard too.
I might be going to an upcoming fall dance to my school and if I do go and I do work up enough courage, wish me luck with the girl I like! Fingers crossed she doesn’t think I’m weird
Best of luck to you!!
I hav 3 days
I hope I do well
You’re better off than the people who haven’t prepared at all!! Good luck :)
So wish I knew all this decades ago! Her beautiful long blonde hair is like my daughter's, and I just wish her wedding dance was a little more mature! But, after decades, I'm starting to get it, thank you so much!
You got this!! Thanks for watching :)
I thought this was a channel with more than a million subscribers.
We are working on it!
Wish I had these videos back when I was in high school.
i often approach lovely women dressed for social dancing with the Beevis and Butthead laugh.... after our social interlude i know they telephone their mothers and receive " Oh honey ! i am so happy for you, your father will be so proud, when can we meet him" ?
That’s crazy
Guys! You're the Next Best Stuff after sunny weather that brings a smile to my face! Thanks A LOT!
Wow, thanks! :)
Thank You
You're welcome :)
Is "May I have this Dance?" a good way to ask someone?
Always asking for consent is a good idea :)
Don't forget "please"! "Would you like to dance with me please!"
Of course! Great tip :)
Great video and good advice, thank you for posting.
Thanks for watching!!
The thing that stood out to me in this video wake to the music stops to ask her
Nice
Thank you!!
You did not cover how to handle a rejection...
That is cool 😊
Thanks, we think so too :)
Thanks for the directions. I enjoy watching and have to find a partner. It would be nice not to hear the popping and other loud sounds.
Thank you! Noted :)
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Well I have no idea how to dance but I guess this is step one
Got to start somewhere! Good luck :)
Lmao I would say “ do you trust me” and then give her my hand
Sounds like a movie!
Great tips on being a proper gentleman and not go along as Ronald Mc Donald 😜
No, do not touch her hand when asking her to dance.
yea thats pervy
This couple is just so easy to relate to . . . . very well done . . Thanks guys.
Thank you!!😄
Just a few comments. If you go to dance events where dancers from all over the world show up such as Salsa, Zouk, Lindy Hop, Argentina Tango congresses verbal invites in English won't necessarily work. I understand that some follows prefer verbal invitations but this just tells me she hasn't travelled to dance events much. People in dance congresses can be native Korean, Swedish, German, Ukrainian, Spanish, Portuguese, French, Italian, Japanese, Romanian speakers. If you invite verbally in English you're limiting yourself.
Many times Argentina Tango dancers from North America, Europe and Asia will visit Buenos Aires Argentina and will have a preference to dance with the local Tango dancers from the area (who are often very advanced). If you invite the follower by speaking English to a Tango tourist, you identify yourself as not being local from Buenos Aires and will be more than likely turned down. Usually, over there invitations are non-verbal by eye contact only. Sometimes a follower on her way to her table will glance at a leader and smile before walking to her table. This can be an indication that an invitation would be welcomed. It's usually bad form over there to walk over to a table where a lady is accompanied to invite her to dance and it's best to invite her if her caballero is off dancing with someone else. If a lady is not looking for Cabaceo (eye contact) invitations and you see her accepting invitations from people going to her table, then try it out, and keep it to "Bailamos ?". Sometimes the small clubs are poorly lit so eye contact invitations won't work so well.
The advantages of eye contact invitations are: No need to speak the same language, it works even if the music/ambient sound is loud. If a lead is turned down it will not diminish a leader's perceived social value as much you don't need to cross the whole room only to be turned down, you know your invitation as been accepted and you just meet each other on the floor, It's also a way to head off someone not inviting with the eyes as you get there first without moving from your position. One sign I use sometimes across the floor is two fingers together that I rotate a single spin. If you want to actually the American sign language pattern to invite to a dance, make a floor with one hand and with the index and middle fingers forming an upside down V of the other hand glide on the floor.
If she doesn't appear to see you she might be pretending not to hoping you will go away, it's can be harder to judge if it's the case, don't hover or stare trying to catch her eyes, move on. If you're turned down by a glance it's easier and quicker to invite someone else with the eyes as the first invitation of someone else was more subtle.
On approaching from the back and tapping the shoulder that's a big nono. Some followers will get creeped out by such an approach as some may have had traumatic experiences in their past. Make sure she sees you coming, as it gives her the chance to look away or indicate a no to her head. If there's no way for her to see you coming then from the side and with two fingers making contact with her arm with outside side of the fingers, not the palm. Initiate a small rotation towards you via a slight contact. The outside part of the fingers will not feel like a grab.
If asking vocally or by extending an invite visibly by extending the hand, and get turned down don't immediately invite the other follow next to her. It will make this person feel like a second choice and no one wants to feel that. Invite someone less likely to have seen the first invitation.
Experience gathered in: Czech Republic, France, Germany, Spain, Argentina, Dominican Republic, USA, Canada, Argentina, Brazil, Chile, Sweden :
Partner Dances: Lindy Hop, Blues, Salsa, Bachata, Merengue, Brazilian Zouk, West Coast Swing, Carolina Shag, Balboa, Argentina Tango, Milonga and American style Ballroom Dancing
Unique insight, thanks for sharing! This channel is geared towards the absolute beginner. Obviously since we are English speaking Americans that is the audience we tend to speak to and connect with. For more advanced, international viewers there are definitely different ways of approaching and different cultures vary with as well :)
@@BallroomFeed other things to mention. In some dance communities it can be perceived as an insult to only have the one dance instead of a minimum of two. It's best to find out if it's the case. In the Herräng swing dance camp, in the early 2000's It was the case. In Argentina Tango, the DJ will usually play a set by the one orchestra until a small Cortina (piece of music to separate sets is played, it can be Jazz, Rock n' Roll something different from what was just played). Usually a full set by the one orchestra is danced with the partner you invited (unless he/she thanks you after a song and walks off).
For a guy especially if he's a lot bigger than the person being invited, asking while squaring off with the invitee can be intimidating, it's best to be at an angle so that he is not fully facing the invitee. This will feel less imposing and confrontational. This works also if meeting a friend's dog for the first time.
I think most of us are actually afraid of rejection than to actually ask a girl to dance.