263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson

Many of us grew up with or are in a current relationship with someone who is emotionally immature. And if that’s the case, you may feel anger towards that person, and a lingering sense of loneliness and anxiety in intimate relationships. Lindsay Gibson, the author of the bestselling book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (bookshop.org/b...) , helps us understand why these relationships cause us such pain, how to heal, and even how to navigate relationships with an emotionally immature person in our adult life. Join us to learn how to find a new way to be in relationship with an emotionally immature person.
Listen and Learn:

• Why Lindsay first began writing and treating adult children of emotionally immature parents

• The value of understanding what emotional immaturity is, but also the caution we should use in applying labels

• The hallmark qualities of emotional immaturity (and emotional maturity)

• The research that highlights why being raised by an emotionally immature parent can cause such long-term pain

• The surprising stance Lindsay has on cultivating compassion for an emotionally immature person

• Strategies for growing relationships in that don't resemble those which you were raised with

• Understand how you can help a relationship with an emotionally immature person grow

• Lindsey’s thoughts on estrangement from an emotionally immature parent or partner

Resources

• Ed Tronick’s still face experiment ( • Still Face Experiment ... )

•
Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them (bookshop.org/b...) , by Karl Pillemer

• Atlantic Article: Why Parents and Kids Get Estranged (www.theatlanti...)

About Lindsay Gibson
Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of Who You Were Meant to Be and writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine and she’s here today to talk with me about her books, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and Recovering From Emotionally Immature Parents. Welcome, Linsday!
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[@robynscott3279]

so so so helpful, thank you so much

[@CS-rb4qi]

Great interview.

[@Sarahwithanh444]

The still face experiment hits hard - my mother used a similar technique to blanket training when I was little, and I fully believe this was the basis of my attachment trauma.. and that’s only based on what I’ve been told..

[@ThatsWhat-She.]

Let's not assume that lack of ability to maintain relationships is always connected to emotional immaturity, that's arrogance. It may actually be autism or some other neurological disease. Sometimes blanket statements are dangerous. I am extremely emotionally mature, because I had to become that to survive, but I was also born with a neurological disease, that makes relationships nearly impossible to maintain & I had three emotionally immature & toxic parents who were somehow able to maintain relationships (probably with unhealthy dynamics, that have been maintained because their unhealthy ways feed off of one another).. Perhaps we should be evaluating how healthy the relationships are, rather than assuming, that just because they exist, they must be healthy.. The more you know..

[@thecanopybookclub8752]

She explains how to deal with emotionnaly immature people, no matter where it comes from. Because they do a lot of damage around them. I don't understand what you are trying to prove. Wish you the best.

[@barbarahall5514]

Don’t have kids if you don’t know what you’re doing!!!!!!!!!! Keep your legs closed. Kids pay the price for selfish people’s actions.
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[@debbiemadrid]

Why is it always the woman fault/problem, How about men keep it their pants or their own hands. Stop shaming blaming women, Women need to support other women, Look what’s happening to our rights

[@thebeboshow4421]

@@debbiemadrid
I’m teaching my daughters that women are the gatekeepers