This is how I’ve been operating. Thinking I should sacrifice myself and think about others to be a good person. Then I feel resentful when others don’t do it for me but still demand it of me. I was raised by two emotionally immature parents and two abusive siblings who treated me like their servant. I’m so glad ti find this video.
I just read "What My Bones Know" by Stephanie Foo. Content warning, there is a lot of violence in the first half and it can be triggering. But if you can stomach it, she beautifully describes this feeling and how her therapy process helped her learn that this is an effect of her trauma, rather than a truth about herself. Good luck!
34:34 is so real… it’s what I’m learning and I had to separate cuz my mom is plain jealous that everyone else likes me in the family and NOT her, I had NO IDEA!
i’d like to hear discussion of parents with such weak sense of self they use their children’s emotions and take them as theirs rather than relating to them and helping them understand the parent pushes their feelings on the child or feels their feelings through like having their kid have to process all the grief they won’t feel
I would really appreciate less hyperfocus on 'the humanity of the person being described' and much more focus on "the humanity of the person who has been and likely is still being affected and damaged"
Yes, me too. But we have that in other videos. I say my mother keeps being a narcisist apart of being an immature person. She will not change. I know that and I only say hello pa, hello ma, do you need anything else? (I just went for some shopping as they can't drive)... No? ok, see you next week, bye! 😊
This is how I’ve been operating. Thinking I should sacrifice myself and think about others to be a good person. Then I feel resentful when others don’t do it for me but still demand it of me. I was raised by two emotionally immature parents and two abusive siblings who treated me like their servant. I’m so glad ti find this video.
I just read "What My Bones Know" by Stephanie Foo. Content warning, there is a lot of violence in the first half and it can be triggering. But if you can stomach it, she beautifully describes this feeling and how her therapy process helped her learn that this is an effect of her trauma, rather than a truth about herself. Good luck!
she is just so on point never heard anyone talk about these things so well
34:34 is so real… it’s what I’m learning and I had to separate cuz my mom is plain jealous that everyone else likes me in the family and NOT her, I had NO IDEA!
i’d like to hear discussion of parents with such weak sense of self they use their children’s emotions and take them as theirs rather than relating to them and helping them understand the parent pushes their feelings on the child or feels their feelings through like having their kid have to process all the grief they won’t feel
I would really appreciate less hyperfocus on 'the humanity of the person being described' and much more focus on "the humanity of the person who has been and likely is still being affected and damaged"
Yes, me too. But we have that in other videos. I say my mother keeps being a narcisist apart of being an immature person. She will not change. I know that and I only say hello pa, hello ma, do you need anything else? (I just went for some shopping as they can't drive)... No? ok, see you next week, bye! 😊
A 12min intro is a very long intro. If I didn't already know that Lindsay would be sharing such helpful information, I would have moved on.
Thanks for telling us I will skip the horribly long intro ..!!!
Dr. Gibson sounds a bit different on this podcast.
You mean her voice or what she is saying ?