I absolutely do not compliment my children for being “obedient”, but I do thank them for being kind , understanding, compassionate and listening to others. It is only natural that kids grow and want to rebel. What parents need to understand is the importance of communication and trust. A child who respects their parents will always want to make them proud. People need to make mistakes, learn and grow and also build their own independence. Being “obedient”, does none of those things. What it does is make adolescents very depressed, never learn to set healthy boundaries and as well as low self esteem, good liars and manipulative.
I was an obedient child once in a heavily catholic home and people say when I was I seemed happier, but the thing is when you’re forced to appear a certain way in front of everyone all the time that typically entails not expressing much emotion. Me not speaking out about the abuse and depression I felt didn’t mean it wasn’t there. I might seem less happy now to people with an outside perspective, but I’m happier now expressing my feelings and being honest with myself rather than locking everything away. I actually have the will to do better and create a future for myself, whereas before I felt like my life was over before it started and I didn’t have any hope at all.
Exactly! Part of being obedient in that situation is pretending everything is fine because calling things out or admitting how you feel are considered rude or unchristian!
Omg this is exactly me. My family tells me that all the time. I tell them no but sadly they dont seem to believe me. Im glad that youre slowly finding your true happiness. And this shouldnt happen to anyone me, you or anyone else.
I was an angry and openly unhappy child as a result of my nice-seeming parent abusing me behind closed doors, and everyone just called me “rebellious” and an “ungrateful brat”. So really, you’re screwed if you pretend, and screwed if you’re honest. You can’t win.
“Obedient children are the best happy!” No, they know that if they don’t look happy they’ll be bullied into faking it anyways. Genuinely, they’re upset all the time but they’re not allowed to show it because you’ll use what they have against them and basically belittle them.
the idea that obedience is a good thing all the time is really toxic. yes, when you are very young you have no concept of safety, but with a lot of other instances, it seems like people just have power complexes
100%. This kind of dynamic only creates children who behave out of fear and become much more susceptible to abuse and self-sacrificial people pleasing later in life
@@uncannedspaghetti one of the things that really aided me on my recovery after an abusive relationship that framed my parents' actions in a new light to me was the jenny holzer "truism" "IF YOU WERE A GOOD CHILD WITH FAIR PARENTS, YOU WOULD FREEZE IN YOUR TRACKS, GO LIMP, AND TAKE A DESERVED BEATING. A HOLDOVER FROM THIS MIGHT HAVE YOU SUBMIT TO REAL DANGER, BELIEVING THAT SOMEONE IS APPORTIONING JUST PUNISHMENT AND THINKING THEY WILL STOP SHORT OF KILLING YOU." something about holzer's truism series is that a lot of the phrases have intentionally ambiguous meanings. the idea of "fair parents" & "deserved beating" i think is appropriate to say here bc it's the framing of the pov of the abused child and/or abusive parents & it's directly called into question in the second part of the truism EDIT: anyway to get back to my point, it helped me reframe my parents' use of corporal punishment as not just inappropriate but damaging to my sense of self long-term and has allowed me to address it more directly
Parenting is NOT about turning your child into a robot so that you don't have to put any emotional effort into them. It's not about control - you're trying to nurture a whole person. Yikes
Exactly, obedience is all fun and games until the kid is an adult and doesn’t know how to function without someone telling them what to do and how to do it.
@Jasper Hernandez hey! just a question! why do people like you click on videos with different opinions than you just to disagree with people in the comments? like, is it fun? do you expect to change minds? i really just don’t get it
@@realpaperbag7986 EXACTLY- I am an 'obedient' child, I do things my parents tell me because I'm scared to get in trouble if I don't. I have trouble doing things without someone telling what and how to do it bc I'm so used to being told what to do :/
I read this book in elementary school that was a retelling of Cinderella. The child, Ella, was 'blessed' by a fairy to be kind and obedient. The story followed Ella as she was forced to obey every single command (on purpose or accidental) anyone ever gave her as she searched for the fairy to break her curse. It was horrifying.
i loved that book and the movie as a kid. I don’t remember if it was in the movie adaptation or the book, but at some point a bully told her “bite me” and got offended after getting bit lol
My dad thought my crying was annoying as a child so he hit me so I "had a real reason to cry" and got angrier if I cried loudly. Now as an adult I am extremely conflict avoidant and anti confrontational. If someone raises their voice at me then my eyes get teary by reflex and I flinch at sudden movements. I will never be comfortable around "bear" type men who are too much bigger than me and that includes my dad. I would never trust him with my doubts and feelings ever and I am incapable of speaking once I start crying. I mean that literally. I just physically can't. It's like I become temporarily mute and how long it takes me to be able to speak after depends on how emotional I was. It could take hours. If I try to talk I just wheeze and if it's particularly bad I hyperventilate. If I make crying sounds I instinctively put pressure on my throat or else I'll just panic and potentially spiral. Thanks Dad.
Very similar story to yours. I have to practice talking while crying with my girlfriend. I sound like a whiny banshee when I try to talk while crying. Also if someone asks me how I’m doing while I’m going thru it, I instantly start crying. It takes tome to heal but you’ll be okay! I was even able to talk at my moms funeral, the ultimate test😂
I guess that kinda explains why I'm into femboys. My dad is masculine and he abused me. I feel extremely uncomfortable around masculine men My mother wasn't the best parent either and I guess that's why I was a misogynist (not anymore though after I befriended a lot of nice girls).
Whenever I expressed my feelings about something my mom would dismiss them and threatened to hit me then when I got older and she wanted to talk to me about anything I’d also hyperventilate like that
I’ve noticed a lot of transphobic people talking about transgender women more than transgender men, it’s weird. like with all the “how boys are turned into girls” I’ve rarely seen any “how girls are turned into boys”
Yeah I’ve noticed that too. I think a lot of it is rooted in misogyny, as unsurprisingly there’s a significant overlap between people who are sexist and people who are transphobic
I think it has some part to do with toxic masculinity. Thinking people who transition from men to women are lesser because of. I don't know it's just so weird.
as someone who was an incredibly obedient child to the point of my parents being complimented on it that obedience is because of various trauma disorders, not a good time
yeah, fight/flight is the typical trauma response, but for complex trauma (aka extended or repeated trauma) freeze/please (alternatively appease) is much more likely of a response, bc both of these responses tend to have a higher rate of minimizing direct harm in each individual circumstance in these kinds of long-term abuse situations.
I was obedient. Extremely so. Now I'm suicidal. I was the golden child, because I didn't cause problems like my big sister. I was quiet, I was good. That was what my parents needed me to be. In other words, I was neglected. I never learned how to regulate my emotions, and when they became more complex, they developed into panic attacks, and suicidal idiations. My parents did their best, yes, but that doesn't mean they did enough. That doesn't make me any less traumatized, any less neglected. It wasn't their fault, but it still happened. My children won't be obedient, nor quiet. They will know how to make themselves heard, how to set boundaries, and how to say no, and mean it.
@@nemikoi See me. I wanted to be seen. I wanted an advocate, someone who would defend me. Someone to go to my mom and make her understand I wasn't okay. I dont blame anyone for anything that happened, and you shouldn't blame yourself either. My parents were both very mentally ill, and they had no way to know it until after they had their kids. Just, be there. Be a safe place to complain, to argue. See her, if she's alone, be a friend. If anyone picks on her, be a guard dog. At least, let her know you will be. And if your friends pick on her, make sure she knows its not okay with you. More than anything, I wanted a friend. I just didn't want to be alone anymore. I still feel alone.
damn, im in the same situation, "you never gave me any problems, you always behaved so well even strangers complimented ME" - my mom, specially bc my older sister was a rebel, I was their way to success, the hope and proud of the family and I obviously failed at it, I dissapointed them and myself, I hate to aknowledge that i have family issues, i really think i'm not even worthy of things they gave me, if they didn't love me they could've abandon me but they didn't yet I still can't feel loved, it's unfair that I complain after they took so much care of me but I can't fake anymore, I feel empty.
@@seonghwasgirl Whether they loved you or not is inconsequential. My mother and father loved me dearly, as they loved all their kids. I was very loved, but that doesn't mean I wasn't also neglected. A child needs more than just love. They didn't see me because they couldn't take the grief of my hurting, or of it being because of them. They're efforts, their struggles, their love does not invalidate my pain. It has taken me a decade to reconcile my love for my mother, and genuine belief that she did her absolute best, with the knowledge that I was very neglected. Sometimes our absolute best isn't good enough, and thats okay. They did the best they could with what they knew. But I'm still hurt. You can love them, and feel loved by them without invalidating what you've gone through, and are going through. Both can be true.
@@elisabethnoir4780 yeah I guess, it's hard cause I told some things to my mom and she said "yeah, maybe I exaggerated and was wrong" it hurts to hear that she's not sorry or that she can't say it or not want to do it, it's my job to take care of myself now that I'm older, I appreciate what they did for me but it's hard to heal, thanks and I also hope you keep doing better
"why girls become boys" makes me so angry, and the fact that theyre allowed to advertise on youtube despite distributing hate speech abt trans CHILDREN
there's so much science out there about trans people and gender dysphoria (not all trans ppl have dysphoria but still) and yet conservatives choose to make up the most absurd theories about why we exist.
My parents are republican but they never forced me into their views and encouraged me to question everything and now I’m in college and they’re upset that I’m very liberal 😌 I think that’s the difference between being conservative politically versus religiously
@@roxassora2706 it's actually pretty common. my parents are both libs but theyre disappointed that i'm far further left than that (actually maybe not so much in the post-trump yrs but definitely before then). of course parents are hoping to share their worldview w their children lol
I'm always amazed at some people's ability to be right, but wrong all at the same time It's true children respond better to short and concise instructions, but not because they can smell fear or whatever that guy was getting at. Their brains are still developing, so they have trouble processing complex instructions
Yeah I've noticed this with a lot of conservative talking points. Sometimes they have the right idea but their logic is fucked up. E.g. hate that poor people exist but will discriminate them instead of helping them get out of poverty
As a kid I was “the obedient kid” but I was never punished in any way. How did they get me to listen? They just explained to me their reasoning. All they had to do was explain to me why the rules and instructions exist, and how they’re here to ultimately help me. (Eating veggies, doing homework, following rules) The great thing about kids is that you can TALK to them… and yet I hardly see parents and teachers do that.
PragerU has become such a forefront in my life that even my parents have asked me to detransition after watching their videos. it’s so triggering to have to be part of a constant uphill battle to be myself when these people get to spread misinformation.
it goes both ways people are forcing gender theory on children when it should be a personal choice when youre old enough to understand the world more. mis information is a fact of life because not everyone has your best interest in mind the climate right now is real messed up
Religious Republicans obsession with obedience makes me feel like it's something more than an ideal. Obedience is one of the things mentioned in the original marriage ceremony speech, iirc. Why do they want everyone in their family to be so subservient? I'd never want my husband to feel like a servant 🤢 what's more, it starts to feel like to comes from a sexual place after a while??? Why so obsessed with obedience ??? The only other place I hear that word so much from is BDSM community, but I respect them because it's outright. None of the obfuscation
I think Christianity and catholicism are infused with pedophilia. Christians changed the translation of man shall not lie with boy to man shall not lie with man. Spanking is also encouraged by the bible and I've always seen spanking your child as 100% perverted.
As someone who has their AA in Education and is almost done with their BS in Elementary Education, people like PragerU Kids makes it so frustrating because conservative parents will eat that shit up without actually researching about these concepts
I honestly applaud you for going into what I consider one of the most important jobs on the planet, especially during a time in which teachers are severely underpaid and overworked. I wish you nothing but the best, and I can tell that you’re going to have a good impact on a lot of children’s lives :)
@@egetty6852 omg I appreciate you so much!!! I just think that kids have so much more potential than what “traditional” thinkers believe, kids can be so smart and innovative if you give them the right tools!
that would honestly be hilarious. he would make the type of content that is funny to a wide range of people, and stuck-ups would think is too inappropriate for children because itll turn their kids trans or something
I was an obedient kid growing up, but I was so depressed because I had no freedom to discover and express myself. I also never had the ability to properly communicate myself since I was expected to sit there and be quiet. Being raised in a conservative environment by religious fundamental type parents really messes with your sense of self
I want my child to trust me. I will never slap a child. I will also not be a “hands off, do whatever you want, use the Tablet” type of parent. A good balance of communication, structure, shared respect, and actual LOVE involved. I want my child to feel listened to but understand that the rules are there for their safety, not because I’m being a dick for no reason. I would never want my child to be AFRAID of me, I view that as failing.
@@pansexualdickhaver6878 so true. as that one quote from idk remember who goes "strict parenting doesn't teach kids to behave, they just teach them how to lie well and be sneaky"
As a kid growing up in the bible belt in a city with six, count em, SIX churches on the same block, this type of content really hits home. Especially since I took care of my three younger siblings along with my parents and our parenting styles differed
When my christian republican dad didn't like my behavior, he would just beat me to a pulp. Open hand, closed fist, blunt object, he didn't care. Whatever got the job done. All it did was make me violent with other kids.
same. i'm just starting to pick up on the fact that how aggressive my parents acted towards my brother and I and each other is the reason why i was such an angry kid and why i bullied anyone i perceived to be even remotely "different"; violent behavior was just so.. normalized to me that rather than curiosity, like other kids, violence and anger was the first thing i turned to. it was just like second nature to me. i've always been saying: a young child is a reflection of their parents' actions.
Don't worry, they're just telling everyone that they don't view kids as people. So you know to keep your kids away from them and keep a close eye out for signs of abuse.
My young son saw a Prager U ad full of hateful shit about trans people this morning. It amazes me that they're allowed to advertise bigotry. Thankfully his mother was watching with him (don't let your kids do the RUclipss unsupervised!) and explained Prager's bullshit.
My parents are old-school themselves, and I am still afraid to mess up because of them. They were raised with that "child being bad is because of the child being bad, let's instill fear in them" mentality.
BRO YEs. my mother the other day was like "i was never a bad child like YoU when i was younger, anytime my parents would tell me to do something, i would listen because i was SCARED of them😡😡😡🤬🤬💢" like uhh yeah no i'm pretty sure you're not supposed to be scared of getting fucking BEat because u forgot to put the legos back into the right bin, i don't think that's how parenting is supposed to work💀💀💀
omg this doctor recommended my stepmom a book to help my little brother with like better behavior i guess, and i read some of the book before her. the guy who wrote the book was such an asshole man. he was shaming emo kids and kids with piercings and then said it’s “not your job to raise a happy child.” LIKE WHAT😭
Just from reading the title, I already knew the kind of stuff they would be talking about. I grew up in a VERY conservative suburbia. My parents and whole family have always been very liberal, open minded, and progressive, but a lot of my friends grew up in strict, conservative, Christian families. It was insane listening to them parrot all their parent's constricted thoughts. I constantly questioned their ways of thinking. ("What do you MEAN you dont think gay people should be allowed to get married? You are 10, why do you even care??") Interestingly enough, the kids that went to college and moved out of our hometown are now all liberal. Meanwhile, the kids that stayed all stayed exactly the same.
My middle school forced us to watch these videos and form “opinions” on it but they would not let us write our opinion if it fell out of the videos’ ideals
@@CactusBrook damn, I knew without knowing. There is so much abuse of power that occur in privatization institutions and push into the indoctrination cycle
Bruhhhh teaching a child to be ‘obedient’ is teaching them for one to never question authoritative figures and to always assume they’re in the right, which obviously is most often not true and will lead to them being easily manipulated and probably abused by those with power over them. Horrendous.
I think its really interesting that there are things like PragerU Kids, right-wing platforms to spread their beliefs to kids, but the same thing doesn't exist for left-wing ideas. Hasan makes a similar point about content for adults online, and how the number of popular leftists online is so much less than the number of popular right-wing people. I don't have much to add, I just found the parallel interesting
more progressive and liberal beliefs don't require the constant bigoted propoganda that conservativism does. leftist beliefs are often reinforced just by living your values and seeing the world around you, but right wing conservatives know that their arguments are empty bigotry so this is what they have to do to prevent their supporters actually realizing what they're standing for
I've heard that you have a lot of cops in USA. I was watching one guy who went to live in South Korea and when he came back in USA noticed how many cops are just standing everywhere and actually that's not making him feel more safe, it's actually the opposite. And as far as I know the way they're communicating with people is horrible and you can get punished for like nothing, just because you said something like a human to human and he says that's disrespect against the law. Most of the people, almost everywhere in the world hate cops and I believe there is reason for that, it's not because we're all criminals
"I was watching one guy who went to live in South Korea and when he came back in USA noticed how many cops are just standing everywhere and actually that's not making him feel more safe, it's actually the opposite." prolly cuz of ptsd "And as far as I know the way they're communicating with people is horrible and you can get punished for like nothing" example? "Most of the people, almost everywhere in the world hate cops and I believe there is reason for that, it's not because we're all criminals" who do you think most of the world is?
@@osiris3x085 As for the example you asked for, look up the video of a little 8 YEAR OLD boy getting forcefully escorted into a cruiser by 3 or 4 armed cops because he supposedly “shoplifted” a SINGLE bag of potato chips. Or look up the video of a gang of hogs surrounding a homeless woman like she’s a wild animal for doing nothing. Or look up the video of hogs arresting a guy for doing nothing, then arresting his friend for simply standing nearby and saying that he did nothing (I guess freedom of speech doesn’t matter to the American pig force). And who’s most of the world? That depends on your worldview. You obviously have a pessimistic mindset on life, so you believe more people are bad than good in the world.
I’m SO happy you looked into this because I saw the ad that had the kid say “Dad is America racist?” And flipped my shit. That whole ad was such scary blatant propaganda and what’s worse is that RUclips algorithm for kids videos is pretty shitty. I really hope no parents fall for them
yup, every time a teacher teaches us with less words, i learn so much more and i am much more obedient. when they tell us to "sit" and "roll over" mhmm. that really gets the wheels turning in my brain....
My parents were born in the late 1950s. My Dad doesn't really talk about it but my grandfather used to hit him as a child and also didn't let my Aunts' go to college, they had to get married after highschool.
My dad was the type to hit us for even giggling in church (we were like 5 and up), he controlled us and we obeyed him because we were afraid of him. I still have so much to deal with because of my childhood trauma, I don’t plan on speaking to him ever again.
There's a difference between a kid who is cooperative because they want to do the right thing and a kid who obeys because they're scared. And both will still disobey sometimes because they're human beings with complex minds and emotions and may not always want to do whatever someone tells them to do, just like adults. That guy clearly didn't listen when someone told him he needs to stop wasting money on fillers and try a facelift if he's trying to look younger, he hasn't learned how to listen to what is best for him so idk if beatings from the good ol' days did anything for him
I think it’s important to teach kids nuance and the power of personal decision making/choices all have consequences, to serve the best version of themself. obedience imo doesn’t help w critical thinking. i hate people that don’t want to raise their kids or even have patience with them, like what was this all for....how sad.
I was described as the "perfect" child. Obedient, well behaved, quiet, polite. And I liked to be those things, but I definitely had to hide the fact that I was really suffering and needed help because I wanted to be perfect for my parents. I didn't know how to say no, respect myself, or stand up for myself. I just did what I was told. IT was incredibly lonely and damaging. It wasn't until my therapist told me that it's always the perfect kids thay she worries about because they're not acting out in a way that's a cry for help. Perfect kids need help but won't ask for it. If I ever have children I hope their imperfect and outspoken. It's good for kids to get things wrong. There's a balance.
One time I was working at the Texas state fair and a super drunk guy came behind my snow cone stand and was being really aggressive. I ran out to the main area and waved down a police officer who was about 30 feet away. He smiled and waved back at me and then just walked away. I was waving my arms wide and clearly asking for help🙃🙃. I had to get the guy to leave by myself.
I was extremely obedient and quiet around the house as a little kid, now I don't remember a large portion of my childhood and have so f"cking many problems! I was raised by my grandparents and they would often say things about how I was lucky to being raised by them the way they are now because they were just completely physically abusive (my grandfather fought my dad physically over sweet tea once.) So uh, maybe just be kind and nurture your kids so they don't hate you and end up f*cked later?
I work with kids and you can tell the difference between kids who are parented by ppl who look for obedience vs kids who are parented with patience. The kids who are made to be obedient are either clearly more anxious than a child should be or incredibly rude and authoritarian towards other kids. The children who have parents who are patient and kind with them are usually more confident and better at listening. My point being, obedience based parenting show horrible results (like super bad)
I hate Prager U but I can’t stand Gravel Institute’s misinformation and terrible takes on Ukraine. Nick’s free to have an opinion, but is a little disappointing to hear him suggest it.
I think that it has been known before the invasion that theres neo nazis there ( the "national militia" comes to mind which has been discussed years before this). Im not quite sure that it was condemning all of Ukraines people of being nazis hence why the group condemned the invasion. Putin just took known info and warped it into a justification for his awful actions, especially cause those groups from the Azov movement have been openly against russian separatists. If it wasnt Nazis, Putin would have found any justification to enact his plans that Im quite sure he has been brewing over since his time in the Kremlin.
@UCxSt5DggTOHV8XhTphsByjg they made a video justifying Russia’s aggression by arguing that US and NATO was funding neonazis in Ukraine. They changed the title when the invasion happened days later and ultimately deleted it. Adam Something (a leftist youtuber who mostly makes videos on the flaws in infrastructure and transportation systems, as well as the Ukraine crisis in Donbas before it became an invasion) did a video breaking their’s down. It’s called “How the Gravel Institute lies to you”. I wanna preface it by saying he’s a leftist so it doesn’t come off as some centrist or far right clickbait.
Lol I HATE the idea of any kid I know being unquestioning and obedient to the adults in their life. There’s a difference between “do what I say right now” (like if there’s danger or very acute awful behavior) and “do what I say all the time without wondering why.”
Was forced to learn a song in church school “o-b-e-d-ience obedience is the very best way to show that you believe!” After listening to a sermon on how a child was left behind in the rapture for not listening 🧚🏼♀️
My dad showed me the why girls become boys when he found out i'm nb. He's slightly better now and doesnt try force me to watch that type of video anymore.
Im actually so glad that you talked about this, ive gotten the PragerU family dinner ad bullshit so many times and it made me super uncomfortable, so im glad that people we aware of this.
@@osiris3x085 I think that it's actually a good thing to be sensitive because then you're much more receptive and perceptive how you feel and how others might feel
@@mikuenjoyerXD until even the slightest joke can make someone so mad they try everything they can to attack you or with the sensitive lgbtq people who have a mental breakdown every time someone doesn't address them by the prounouns they chose by mashing their face on a keyboard
Bingo. I was a teen during the 90s, even then mental health was still pretty taboo. What was even more taboo, though, was PARENTS making their kids suffer with mental illness. Everyone acted as if parents were these perfect beings, the only bad parents were those that ruthlessly beat their children to a pulp. And I’m talking a hardcore beating, like end up in the hospital kind of beating. It was still very normalized for parents to hit their children if they were “out of line.”
@@elliefuller3667 absolutely i feel like for the first time talking about mental health isn’t taboo therefore it seems like a lot more people are depressed
So parents should just be like "HEY, DO THING. DO THING I WANT YOU TO DO. OBEY." this is why older generations are emotionally repressed, they're not allowed to express their emotions otherwise they're not obeying. Not that i would know...
I was an obedient kid in a Christian home cause if I showed any emotion or disapproval my parents would threaten to send me away or yell at me. I became a push over to avoid conflict and anytime I tried to push back it would end in a fight no matter how small the situation. I got diagnosed with depression when I was in grade 9 and when I told my parents I was sat on the couch and yelled at for an hour about how ungrateful I was and how I AM happy but I’m just possessed (wish I was joking) so I feel like kids aren’t more obedient it’s just that emotional abuse is now more common than physical abuse. Not saying either is better but they really fuck up a kids life.
I hate how they say to use less words especially when they are talking about rules because as an autistic person, i struggle to understand things unless they are described very clearly.
I loved being called an obedient child, esp growing up in a Christian household. looking back, that was a debilitating fear of conflict that still affects me :/ also the quandale dingle guy is a major quack with no qualifications
I live near a very popular beach that's separate from the city but is the same county. The county cops get extra shifts and paid time & a half to voluntarily work on the beach. I've worked a few jobs over the years on the beach and the cops get comfortable with you. They told me they take the gig for the money and because they don't have to do anything. At night they'll hang in their cars and link their laptops and watch movies or porn together. I knew one cop that was cheating on his wife with a coworker of mine, on duty, in his cop car at night. This was in my early 20's and was the beginning of my awakening and disdain for the piggies.
My “obedience” is just me being a really good liar lol. There’s no way people walk out of this kind of conservative upbringing unharmed. They either lie to themselves or their parents, or become disappointments. There is no such thing as a perfect obedient child. It’s only natural to want to take control of your own life and make decisions for yourself. Plus you can still teach children good manners, eating habits, work ethics, etc. with this wonderful thing called open communication.
Last night someone got pulled over I front of my house in a small town and they had 4 cops cars lined up behind this guy just to pull him over. In what situation would you need 4 cop cars for a traffic stop. Ridiculous
Can confirm having grown up in a republican family, I suppress when im around em. It's my only option. Got called stupid for having an opinion this morning. I am 24 and I'm still not allowed to express how I feel.
I remember watching a RUclipsr react to the why girls become boys pragerU video a while back, the second it came on I had horrible flashbacks to how awful it was
So if you see cops grouped like that, just hanging out, that means there is no threat. If you do see them spread out that means they either got a call or threats were made. So no toes sucked but they also aren't bullying anyone.
I think that really just reaffirms his point. Cops, generally, are a clean up crew. If bad shit isn't actively going on or if it hasn't already happened, they'll sit around waiting for it rather than actively preventing those bad things from happening. Obviously this situation was pretty lax so it isn't that big of a deal, but it is indicative of a bigger problem imo
I once had 8 cops show up to see an injured baby dear I found during a graveyard shift. And not like trickled in overtime either, but all of them there at once
People have actually had blue skin before. The Fugate family of Kentucky used to have blue skin as a result of inbreeding and a blood disorder called methemoglobinemia although I’m pretty sure the last people in the family with blue skin have passed away now.
my teacher played a similar prager u video about saying no to your kids and it was so bad ✋😭 this little girl asked her dad for a unicorn and he told her no bc they're not real and you have to face the realities of life to make it
as someone who used to be an "obedient" child, i was NOT happy, i was NOT obedient. i was bottling the few emotions i could feel, and lying my fucking arse off 24/7
I absolutely do not compliment my children for being “obedient”, but I do thank them for being kind , understanding, compassionate and listening to others.
It is only natural that kids grow and want to rebel. What parents need to understand is the importance of communication and trust. A child who respects their parents will always want to make them proud. People need to make mistakes, learn and grow and also build their own independence. Being “obedient”, does none of those things. What it does is make adolescents very depressed, never learn to set healthy boundaries and as well as low self esteem, good liars and manipulative.
wow, you seem like such an in tune mother, kudos!
my mom: ima pretend i didnt see that
your children will grow into beautiful caring independent people
based parent take
I have literally seen your comments everywhere
I was an obedient child once in a heavily catholic home and people say when I was I seemed happier, but the thing is when you’re forced to appear a certain way in front of everyone all the time that typically entails not expressing much emotion. Me not speaking out about the abuse and depression I felt didn’t mean it wasn’t there. I might seem less happy now to people with an outside perspective, but I’m happier now expressing my feelings and being honest with myself rather than locking everything away. I actually have the will to do better and create a future for myself, whereas before I felt like my life was over before it started and I didn’t have any hope at all.
I’m so sorry you had to hide your feelings for so long
Exactly! Part of being obedient in that situation is pretending everything is fine because calling things out or admitting how you feel are considered rude or unchristian!
Omg this is exactly me. My family tells me that all the time. I tell them no but sadly they dont seem to believe me. Im glad that youre slowly finding your true happiness. And this shouldnt happen to anyone me, you or anyone else.
So well said I completely feel the same way
I was an angry and openly unhappy child as a result of my nice-seeming parent abusing me behind closed doors, and everyone just called me “rebellious” and an “ungrateful brat”.
So really, you’re screwed if you pretend, and screwed if you’re honest. You can’t win.
“Obedient children are the best happy!”
No, they know that if they don’t look happy they’ll be bullied into faking it anyways. Genuinely, they’re upset all the time but they’re not allowed to show it because you’ll use what they have against them and basically belittle them.
This is so true it’s disturbing
@@user-vy2hz6fl6x “our kids are so happy!”
*”Why aren’t you happy! People in Africa are starving, and you’re complaining?”*
yea
@@Chillipowww I’ve legit heard this from my mother before
@@Chillipowww and then they say youll be burned with fire and brimstone if you dont act a certain way
the idea that obedience is a good thing all the time is really toxic. yes, when you are very young you have no concept of safety, but with a lot of other instances, it seems like people just have power complexes
Yes, very true.
100%. This kind of dynamic only creates children who behave out of fear and become much more susceptible to abuse and self-sacrificial people pleasing later in life
@@uncannedspaghetti exactly! also just general unhappiness for years of their lives!
@@uncannedspaghetti legitimately
@@uncannedspaghetti one of the things that really aided me on my recovery after an abusive relationship that framed my parents' actions in a new light to me was the jenny holzer "truism" "IF YOU WERE A GOOD CHILD WITH FAIR PARENTS, YOU WOULD FREEZE IN YOUR TRACKS, GO LIMP, AND TAKE A DESERVED BEATING.
A HOLDOVER FROM THIS MIGHT HAVE YOU SUBMIT TO REAL DANGER,
BELIEVING THAT SOMEONE IS
APPORTIONING JUST PUNISHMENT AND THINKING THEY WILL STOP SHORT OF KILLING YOU."
something about holzer's truism series is that a lot of the phrases have intentionally ambiguous meanings. the idea of "fair parents" & "deserved beating" i think is appropriate to say here bc it's the framing of the pov of the abused child and/or abusive parents & it's directly called into question in the second part of the truism
EDIT: anyway to get back to my point, it helped me reframe my parents' use of corporal punishment as not just inappropriate but damaging to my sense of self long-term and has allowed me to address it more directly
Parenting is NOT about turning your child into a robot so that you don't have to put any emotional effort into them. It's not about control - you're trying to nurture a whole person.
Yikes
Exactly, obedience is all fun and games until the kid is an adult and doesn’t know how to function without someone telling them what to do and how to do it.
Who said that lmao .
@@realpaperbag7986 I don't think you know how obedience work.
@Jasper Hernandez hey! just a question! why do people like you click on videos with different opinions than you just to disagree with people in the comments? like, is it fun? do you expect to change minds? i really just don’t get it
@@realpaperbag7986 EXACTLY- I am an 'obedient' child, I do things my parents tell me because I'm scared to get in trouble if I don't. I have trouble doing things without someone telling what and how to do it bc I'm so used to being told what to do :/
I read this book in elementary school that was a retelling of Cinderella. The child, Ella, was 'blessed' by a fairy to be kind and obedient. The story followed Ella as she was forced to obey every single command (on purpose or accidental) anyone ever gave her as she searched for the fairy to break her curse. It was horrifying.
That’s Ella Enchanted! Anne Hathaway is in the movie.
i loved that book and the movie as a kid. I don’t remember if it was in the movie adaptation or the book, but at some point a bully told her “bite me” and got offended after getting bit lol
Omg I loved Ella Enchanted and Gail Carson Levine’s other books as a kid!
I love that book so much. It’s so good, and yeah, it is horrifying 😂💀
Ella Enchanted, correct?
My dad thought my crying was annoying as a child so he hit me so I "had a real reason to cry" and got angrier if I cried loudly. Now as an adult I am extremely conflict avoidant and anti confrontational. If someone raises their voice at me then my eyes get teary by reflex and I flinch at sudden movements. I will never be comfortable around "bear" type men who are too much bigger than me and that includes my dad. I would never trust him with my doubts and feelings ever and I am incapable of speaking once I start crying. I mean that literally. I just physically can't. It's like I become temporarily mute and how long it takes me to be able to speak after depends on how emotional I was. It could take hours. If I try to talk I just wheeze and if it's particularly bad I hyperventilate. If I make crying sounds I instinctively put pressure on my throat or else I'll just panic and potentially spiral.
Thanks Dad.
Very similar story to yours. I have to practice talking while crying with my girlfriend. I sound like a whiny banshee when I try to talk while crying. Also if someone asks me how I’m doing while I’m going thru it, I instantly start crying. It takes tome to heal but you’ll be okay! I was even able to talk at my moms funeral, the ultimate test😂
Snowflake .
I guess that kinda explains why I'm into femboys. My dad is masculine and he abused me. I feel extremely uncomfortable around masculine men
My mother wasn't the best parent either and I guess that's why I was a misogynist (not anymore though after I befriended a lot of nice girls).
Whenever I expressed my feelings about something my mom would dismiss them and threatened to hit me then when I got older and she wanted to talk to me about anything I’d also hyperventilate like that
@@Relicode i think the term you're looking for is 'feminine men.' 'femboy' is a fetish term.
I love how they made the animated characters' skin blue so they don't have to deal with hate bc they would all be white otherwise 😂😂
That's exactly what I was thinking too lol
Racist
My parents told me "Children should be seen, not heard." which pretty much directly translates to "Nobody cares what you have to say."
More recent generations don't tolerate abuse as much. This will blow up in their face when the parents are old
I agree, mine aren't necessarily abusive but I'm sure as hell not gonna take care of them when they're old and fragile so hope they have fun with that
I’ve noticed a lot of transphobic people talking about transgender women more than transgender men, it’s weird. like with all the “how boys are turned into girls” I’ve rarely seen any “how girls are turned into boys”
Yeah I’ve noticed that too. I think a lot of it is rooted in misogyny, as unsurprisingly there’s a significant overlap between people who are sexist and people who are transphobic
yea ikr. and don't you find it so damn frustrating they always attack their physical appearance and not actually make any points based in logic,
my theory is that it’s because they can’t comprehend they’re attracted to them even if they originated from the opposite gender
it’s bc they don’t care about girls or afab people in general
I think it has some part to do with toxic masculinity. Thinking people who transition from men to women are lesser because of. I don't know it's just so weird.
as someone who was an incredibly obedient child to the point of my parents being complimented on it
that obedience is because of various trauma disorders, not a good time
I’m so sorry
yeah, fight/flight is the typical trauma response, but for complex trauma (aka extended or repeated trauma) freeze/please (alternatively appease) is much more likely of a response, bc both of these responses tend to have a higher rate of minimizing direct harm in each individual circumstance in these kinds of long-term abuse situations.
c-ptsd dissociation shawtys unite !!
We get snowflake you have daddy issues that doesn't mean obideance is bad lmao.
@@sage7529 FUCK YEAHHh🦅🦅🦅
I was obedient. Extremely so. Now I'm suicidal. I was the golden child, because I didn't cause problems like my big sister. I was quiet, I was good. That was what my parents needed me to be. In other words, I was neglected. I never learned how to regulate my emotions, and when they became more complex, they developed into panic attacks, and suicidal idiations. My parents did their best, yes, but that doesn't mean they did enough. That doesn't make me any less traumatized, any less neglected. It wasn't their fault, but it still happened. My children won't be obedient, nor quiet. They will know how to make themselves heard, how to set boundaries, and how to say no, and mean it.
I’m so sorry you had to go through that
@@nemikoi See me. I wanted to be seen. I wanted an advocate, someone who would defend me. Someone to go to my mom and make her understand I wasn't okay. I dont blame anyone for anything that happened, and you shouldn't blame yourself either. My parents were both very mentally ill, and they had no way to know it until after they had their kids. Just, be there. Be a safe place to complain, to argue. See her, if she's alone, be a friend. If anyone picks on her, be a guard dog. At least, let her know you will be. And if your friends pick on her, make sure she knows its not okay with you. More than anything, I wanted a friend. I just didn't want to be alone anymore. I still feel alone.
damn, im in the same situation, "you never gave me any problems, you always behaved so well even strangers complimented ME" - my mom, specially bc my older sister was a rebel, I was their way to success, the hope and proud of the family and I obviously failed at it, I dissapointed them and myself, I hate to aknowledge that i have family issues, i really think i'm not even worthy of things they gave me, if they didn't love me they could've abandon me but they didn't yet I still can't feel loved, it's unfair that I complain after they took so much care of me but I can't fake anymore, I feel empty.
@@seonghwasgirl Whether they loved you or not is inconsequential. My mother and father loved me dearly, as they loved all their kids. I was very loved, but that doesn't mean I wasn't also neglected. A child needs more than just love. They didn't see me because they couldn't take the grief of my hurting, or of it being because of them. They're efforts, their struggles, their love does not invalidate my pain. It has taken me a decade to reconcile my love for my mother, and genuine belief that she did her absolute best, with the knowledge that I was very neglected. Sometimes our absolute best isn't good enough, and thats okay. They did the best they could with what they knew. But I'm still hurt. You can love them, and feel loved by them without invalidating what you've gone through, and are going through. Both can be true.
@@elisabethnoir4780 yeah I guess, it's hard cause I told some things to my mom and she said "yeah, maybe I exaggerated and was wrong" it hurts to hear that she's not sorry or that she can't say it or not want to do it, it's my job to take care of myself now that I'm older, I appreciate what they did for me but it's hard to heal, thanks and I also hope you keep doing better
"why girls become boys" makes me so angry, and the fact that theyre allowed to advertise on youtube despite distributing hate speech abt trans CHILDREN
because they shouldn't be *THEY'RE CHILDREN*
cry more
@@osiris3x085 you're right, no one should be distributing hate speech about CHILDREN regardless of their biology
there's so much science out there about trans people and gender dysphoria (not all trans ppl have dysphoria but still) and yet conservatives choose to make up the most absurd theories about why we exist.
Because children shouldn’t be trans. they’re living in a delusion fed to them by the left wing. A trans woman is not a woman 😂
goofy little men whose children no longer talk to them give parenting advice?? yooo it’s gotta be good
yea
Why’d I read this comment in nick’s voice lmfao
dang my dad should join.
Waiting for my dad to pop up
ring ring. whose calling? my homophobic dad on the line?
My parents are republican but they never forced me into their views and encouraged me to question everything and now I’m in college and they’re upset that I’m very liberal 😌 I think that’s the difference between being conservative politically versus religiously
you cant have your own opinions, things are totally black and white thinking for yourself is racist.
That's a really good take on it.
At least your parents are cool enough to let you make your own decisions even if they don't agree. Props to them I guess
"Make your own decisions, but don't be a liberal!" How dumb is that?
@@roxassora2706 it's actually pretty common. my parents are both libs but theyre disappointed that i'm far further left than that (actually maybe not so much in the post-trump yrs but definitely before then). of course parents are hoping to share their worldview w their children lol
As someone with republican parents, I’m not surprised
I’m not religious, but I pray you survive
@@Chillipowww neither am I but thank you
same my mom went down the conservative pipeline and I’ve been distant from her ever since
@@angelvu lmao I don't blame her I would abandon your ass two lol based mom you have .
@@angelvu understandable that she would want to disown you 😂
I'm always amazed at some people's ability to be right, but wrong all at the same time
It's true children respond better to short and concise instructions, but not because they can smell fear or whatever that guy was getting at. Their brains are still developing, so they have trouble processing complex instructions
Yeah I've noticed this with a lot of conservative talking points. Sometimes they have the right idea but their logic is fucked up. E.g. hate that poor people exist but will discriminate them instead of helping them get out of poverty
As a kid I was “the obedient kid” but I was never punished in any way. How did they get me to listen? They just explained to me their reasoning.
All they had to do was explain to me why the rules and instructions exist, and how they’re here to ultimately help me. (Eating veggies, doing homework, following rules)
The great thing about kids is that you can TALK to them… and yet I hardly see parents and teachers do that.
PragerU has become such a forefront in my life that even my parents have asked me to detransition after watching their videos. it’s so triggering to have to be part of a constant uphill battle to be myself when these people get to spread misinformation.
Was it the "Irreversible Damage" one? Fuck that shit, Cass Eris did a great video series breaking down every single argument in that book apart.
it goes both ways people are forcing gender theory on children when it should be a personal choice when youre old enough to understand the world more. mis information is a fact of life because not everyone has your best interest in mind the climate right now is real messed up
@@startinatavern1541 yeah it was that, i watched noah finnce break the book down but that “why girls become boys” ad was rly bad too
@@barbaraescobar1329 i don’t think anyone is “forcing gender theory” on kids like you think they are lol
That’s terrible and I know talking doesn’t do anything but I am so sorry
This guy would unironically say "give your kids alcohol if they won't go to sleep"
Your kid is teething? Rub some whiskey on those gums and it’ll shut up 👍
Religious Republicans obsession with obedience makes me feel like it's something more than an ideal. Obedience is one of the things mentioned in the original marriage ceremony speech, iirc. Why do they want everyone in their family to be so subservient? I'd never want my husband to feel like a servant 🤢 what's more, it starts to feel like to comes from a sexual place after a while??? Why so obsessed with obedience ??? The only other place I hear that word so much from is BDSM community, but I respect them because it's outright. None of the obfuscation
I think Christianity and catholicism are infused with pedophilia. Christians changed the translation of man shall not lie with boy to man shall not lie with man. Spanking is also encouraged by the bible and I've always seen spanking your child as 100% perverted.
I love how the show is called "the left can't meme" but it's just ten minutes of the guy laughing at shitty right wing memes from five years ago
"obedient children are the happiest!" Clearly he hasn't read Ella Enchanted
As someone who has their AA in Education and is almost done with their BS in Elementary Education, people like PragerU Kids makes it so frustrating because conservative parents will eat that shit up without actually researching about these concepts
"conservative parents will eat that shit up without actually researching about these concepts" example?
@@osiris3x085 nah. The fact you’re commenting everywhere and messing with people, you’re not worth my time : )
I honestly applaud you for going into what I consider one of the most important jobs on the planet, especially during a time in which teachers are severely underpaid and overworked. I wish you nothing but the best, and I can tell that you’re going to have a good impact on a lot of children’s lives :)
@@egetty6852 omg I appreciate you so much!!! I just think that kids have so much more potential than what “traditional” thinkers believe, kids can be so smart and innovative if you give them the right tools!
@@egetty6852 🤓
Every time I see stuff like that I think “fine, make your kids hate you.”
It’s so sad tho bc not only will kids resent their parents but also themselves and the world around them 🙁
Petition for Nick to start a nickisnotgreen KIDS, Kids need to be more cultured
that would honestly be hilarious. he would make the type of content that is funny to a wide range of people, and stuck-ups would think is too inappropriate for children because itll turn their kids trans or something
The goal of conservatives is not to solve problems, but rather to punish those experiencing the results of those problems.
yu said this so perfectly omg
republicans be normal challenge: impossible
lowkey seems like nick is going through a politics arc and I'm all here for it
I was an obedient kid growing up, but I was so depressed because I had no freedom to discover and express myself. I also never had the ability to properly communicate myself since I was expected to sit there and be quiet. Being raised in a conservative environment by religious fundamental type parents really messes with your sense of self
I want my child to trust me. I will never slap a child. I will also not be a “hands off, do whatever you want, use the Tablet” type of parent. A good balance of communication, structure, shared respect, and actual LOVE involved. I want my child to feel listened to but understand that the rules are there for their safety, not because I’m being a dick for no reason. I would never want my child to be AFRAID of me, I view that as failing.
Not only that but when a child fears you, it only makes them sneaky and gives them anxiety. Both of which lead to much bigger problems in the future.
@@pansexualdickhaver6878 so true. as that one quote from idk remember who goes "strict parenting doesn't teach kids to behave, they just teach them how to lie well and be sneaky"
As a kid growing up in the bible belt in a city with six, count em, SIX churches on the same block, this type of content really hits home. Especially since I took care of my three younger siblings along with my parents and our parenting styles differed
When my christian republican dad didn't like my behavior, he would just beat me to a pulp. Open hand, closed fist, blunt object, he didn't care. Whatever got the job done. All it did was make me violent with other kids.
same. i'm just starting to pick up on the fact that how aggressive my parents acted towards my brother and I and each other is the reason why i was such an angry kid and why i bullied anyone i perceived to be even remotely "different"; violent behavior was just so.. normalized to me that rather than curiosity, like other kids, violence and anger was the first thing i turned to. it was just like second nature to me. i've always been saying: a young child is a reflection of their parents' actions.
People who use the same terms we use for animals for kids scare me
Don't worry, they're just telling everyone that they don't view kids as people. So you know to keep your kids away from them and keep a close eye out for signs of abuse.
My young son saw a Prager U ad full of hateful shit about trans people this morning. It amazes me that they're allowed to advertise bigotry.
Thankfully his mother was watching with him (don't let your kids do the RUclipss unsupervised!) and explained Prager's bullshit.
My parents are old-school themselves, and I am still afraid to mess up because of them. They were raised with that "child being bad is because of the child being bad, let's instill fear in them" mentality.
BRO YEs. my mother the other day was like "i was never a bad child like YoU when i was younger, anytime my parents would tell me to do something, i would listen because i was SCARED of them😡😡😡🤬🤬💢" like uhh yeah no i'm pretty sure you're not supposed to be scared of getting fucking BEat because u forgot to put the legos back into the right bin, i don't think that's how parenting is supposed to work💀💀💀
omg this doctor recommended my stepmom a book to help my little brother with like better behavior i guess, and i read some of the book before her. the guy who wrote the book was such an asshole man. he was shaming emo kids and kids with piercings and then said it’s “not your job to raise a happy child.” LIKE WHAT😭
Just from reading the title, I already knew the kind of stuff they would be talking about. I grew up in a VERY conservative suburbia. My parents and whole family have always been very liberal, open minded, and progressive, but a lot of my friends grew up in strict, conservative, Christian families. It was insane listening to them parrot all their parent's constricted thoughts. I constantly questioned their ways of thinking. ("What do you MEAN you dont think gay people should be allowed to get married? You are 10, why do you even care??") Interestingly enough, the kids that went to college and moved out of our hometown are now all liberal. Meanwhile, the kids that stayed all stayed exactly the same.
My middle school forced us to watch these videos and form “opinions” on it but they would not let us write our opinion if it fell out of the videos’ ideals
Yo, that's super weird.
@@basicbrittani It was a private school, Christian academy🥲
@@CactusBrook damn, I knew without knowing. There is so much abuse of power that occur in privatization institutions and push into the indoctrination cycle
God how pathetic were those adults?! You can’t handle the honest opinions of literal children? I’m sorry you’re too weak to be a teacher
“I want mommy. I want milk. I want to be held” - best quote outta Dennis Prager.
a lot of parents refer to their children as being obedient or not. my dad used to tell me i was disobedient all the time. super weird.
Bruhhhh teaching a child to be ‘obedient’ is teaching them for one to never question authoritative figures and to always assume they’re in the right, which obviously is most often not true and will lead to them being easily manipulated and probably abused by those with power over them. Horrendous.
"obedient children"
Yeah, because in that generation children would be beaten up for breathing incorrectly.
PragerU’s ELA classes have to be a joke. The way they argue is so terrible, using almost every fallacy in the book
I think its really interesting that there are things like PragerU Kids, right-wing platforms to spread their beliefs to kids, but the same thing doesn't exist for left-wing ideas. Hasan makes a similar point about content for adults online, and how the number of popular leftists online is so much less than the number of popular right-wing people. I don't have much to add, I just found the parallel interesting
more progressive and liberal beliefs don't require the constant bigoted propoganda that conservativism does. leftist beliefs are often reinforced just by living your values and seeing the world around you, but right wing conservatives know that their arguments are empty bigotry so this is what they have to do to prevent their supporters actually realizing what they're standing for
I've heard that you have a lot of cops in USA. I was watching one guy who went to live in South Korea and when he came back in USA noticed how many cops are just standing everywhere and actually that's not making him feel more safe, it's actually the opposite. And as far as I know the way they're communicating with people is horrible and you can get punished for like nothing, just because you said something like a human to human and he says that's disrespect against the law. Most of the people, almost everywhere in the world hate cops and I believe there is reason for that, it's not because we're all criminals
"I was watching one guy who went to live in South Korea and when he came back in USA noticed how many cops are just standing everywhere and actually that's not making him feel more safe, it's actually the opposite."
prolly cuz of ptsd
"And as far as I know the way they're communicating with people is horrible and you can get punished for like nothing"
example?
"Most of the people, almost everywhere in the world hate cops and I believe there is reason for that, it's not because we're all criminals"
who do you think most of the world is?
@@osiris3x085 As for the example you asked for, look up the video of a little 8 YEAR OLD boy getting forcefully escorted into a cruiser by 3 or 4 armed cops because he supposedly “shoplifted” a SINGLE bag of potato chips. Or look up the video of a gang of hogs surrounding a homeless woman like she’s a wild animal for doing nothing. Or look up the video of hogs arresting a guy for doing nothing, then arresting his friend for simply standing nearby and saying that he did nothing (I guess freedom of speech doesn’t matter to the American pig force). And who’s most of the world? That depends on your worldview. You obviously have a pessimistic mindset on life, so you believe more people are bad than good in the world.
I’m SO happy you looked into this because I saw the ad that had the kid say “Dad is America racist?” And flipped my shit. That whole ad was such scary blatant propaganda and what’s worse is that RUclips algorithm for kids videos is pretty shitty. I really hope no parents fall for them
yup, every time a teacher teaches us with less words, i learn so much more and i am much more obedient.
when they tell us to "sit" and "roll over" mhmm. that really gets the wheels turning in my brain....
It's Tuesday, silly! Happy Monday to you, too ❤
Prager U always has ads on Athiest channels. I don't know why they waste their money like that.
The left can't meme episode doesn't even show leftist memes he's showing right wing ones making fun of leftists
And theyre really bad memes too, it just supports the argument that the right cant meme
My parents were born in the late 1950s. My Dad doesn't really talk about it but my grandfather used to hit him as a child and also didn't let my Aunts' go to college, they had to get married after highschool.
I remember at a high school graduation, there were 7 cop cars outside. I was so confused(this high school was primarily black, by the way).
having both "be obedient" and "how to think objectively" videos on their channel is so ridiculous
"why girls become boys"
Me, a trans man: Aw, shit. Here we go again.
Brooooooo same 😭
My dad was the type to hit us for even giggling in church (we were like 5 and up), he controlled us and we obeyed him because we were afraid of him. I still have so much to deal with because of my childhood trauma, I don’t plan on speaking to him ever again.
Im sorry the only reason you want your kids to have unquestioning obedience is completely unsavory
“Parents have been using these behavioral modification tactics for decades”
You mean like beating them into submission?
There's a difference between a kid who is cooperative because they want to do the right thing and a kid who obeys because they're scared. And both will still disobey sometimes because they're human beings with complex minds and emotions and may not always want to do whatever someone tells them to do, just like adults. That guy clearly didn't listen when someone told him he needs to stop wasting money on fillers and try a facelift if he's trying to look younger, he hasn't learned how to listen to what is best for him so idk if beatings from the good ol' days did anything for him
I think it’s important to teach kids nuance and the power of personal decision making/choices all have consequences, to serve the best version of themself. obedience imo doesn’t help w critical thinking.
i hate people that don’t want to raise their kids or even have patience with them, like what was this all for....how sad.
PragerU Kids animation is the only thing worse than the NFT cartoons. They saw that low bar and instinctively limbo'd under it.
i haven't watched it yet, but my first thought was "oh nice! you're doing a video about why I'm traumatized."
Hasan purposely says names wrong. He does it to Ben Shabibo too.
The Gravel Institute actually has problems with misrepresenting facts as well, I'd recommend Adam Something's video dissecting their video on Ukraine.
I was described as the "perfect" child. Obedient, well behaved, quiet, polite. And I liked to be those things, but I definitely had to hide the fact that I was really suffering and needed help because I wanted to be perfect for my parents. I didn't know how to say no, respect myself, or stand up for myself. I just did what I was told. IT was incredibly lonely and damaging. It wasn't until my therapist told me that it's always the perfect kids thay she worries about because they're not acting out in a way that's a cry for help. Perfect kids need help but won't ask for it. If I ever have children I hope their imperfect and outspoken. It's good for kids to get things wrong. There's a balance.
The brainwashing😍
One time I was working at the Texas state fair and a super drunk guy came behind my snow cone stand and was being really aggressive. I ran out to the main area and waved down a police officer who was about 30 feet away. He smiled and waved back at me and then just walked away. I was waving my arms wide and clearly asking for help🙃🙃. I had to get the guy to leave by myself.
omg yes, ive been hoping you'd do a vid on PragerU! thanks Mr. NotGreen
I was extremely obedient and quiet around the house as a little kid, now I don't remember a large portion of my childhood and have so f"cking many problems! I was raised by my grandparents and they would often say things about how I was lucky to being raised by them the way they are now because they were just completely physically abusive (my grandfather fought my dad physically over sweet tea once.) So uh, maybe just be kind and nurture your kids so they don't hate you and end up f*cked later?
I work with kids and you can tell the difference between kids who are parented by ppl who look for obedience vs kids who are parented with patience. The kids who are made to be obedient are either clearly more anxious than a child should be or incredibly rude and authoritarian towards other kids. The children who have parents who are patient and kind with them are usually more confident and better at listening. My point being, obedience based parenting show horrible results (like super bad)
honestly kids who are parented by people with patience and understanding are more likely to do what you want anyway
I hate Prager U but I can’t stand Gravel Institute’s misinformation and terrible takes on Ukraine. Nick’s free to have an opinion, but is a little disappointing to hear him suggest it.
I think that it has been known before the invasion that theres neo nazis there ( the "national militia" comes to mind which has been discussed years before this). Im not quite sure that it was condemning all of Ukraines people of being nazis hence why the group condemned the invasion. Putin just took known info and warped it into a justification for his awful actions, especially cause those groups from the Azov movement have been openly against russian separatists. If it wasnt Nazis, Putin would have found any justification to enact his plans that Im quite sure he has been brewing over since his time in the Kremlin.
@UCxSt5DggTOHV8XhTphsByjg they made a video justifying Russia’s aggression by arguing that US and NATO was funding neonazis in Ukraine. They changed the title when the invasion happened days later and ultimately deleted it. Adam Something (a leftist youtuber who mostly makes videos on the flaws in infrastructure and transportation systems, as well as the Ukraine crisis in Donbas before it became an invasion) did a video breaking their’s down. It’s called “How the Gravel Institute lies to you”. I wanna preface it by saying he’s a leftist so it doesn’t come off as some centrist or far right clickbait.
@@cyanblue9775 Oh they changed the title, how convenient of them. Thanks for the info!
Lol I HATE the idea of any kid I know being unquestioning and obedient to the adults in their life. There’s a difference between “do what I say right now” (like if there’s danger or very acute awful behavior) and “do what I say all the time without wondering why.”
Teaching your children to be obedient to adult definitely increases the chance or grooming.
Eh, my respect towards Gravel institute took a pretty big hit after their horrible coverage over Ukraine. They devoured Putin's boot.
The cops hanging out like it’s a cafeteria are channeling mean girls guy at the front right is Regina George
Was forced to learn a song in church school “o-b-e-d-ience obedience is the very best way to show that you believe!” After listening to a sermon on how a child was left behind in the rapture for not listening 🧚🏼♀️
I'm so happy my country's police are decent. They have to go to a police academy for 3 years and they don't even carry guns around.
My dad showed me the why girls become boys when he found out i'm nb. He's slightly better now and doesnt try force me to watch that type of video anymore.
Im actually so glad that you talked about this, ive gotten the PragerU family dinner ad bullshit so many times and it made me super uncomfortable, so im glad that people we aware of this.
"iT mAdE mE unComForTablE" "I hAd to Go tO my SaFe spACe"
cry more
@@osiris3x085 did that trigger u buddy
@@xXxRebeccaRawrxXx no, I'm just laughing at how sensitive some people are
@@osiris3x085 I think that it's actually a good thing to be sensitive because then you're much more receptive and perceptive how you feel and how others might feel
@@mikuenjoyerXD until even the slightest joke can make someone so mad they try everything they can to attack you
or with the sensitive lgbtq people who have a mental breakdown every time someone doesn't address them by the prounouns they chose by mashing their face on a keyboard
the fact that PragerU exists gives me some confidence to make my own RUclips channel. Like, theres no way mine could be the worst one
correct, as long as james charles, this guy, and those roblox channels exist
@@osiris3x085 are you implying what I think you're implying? Or am I going fucking insane
i don’t think this generation is more depressed i think in any other time it was taboo to talk about
Bingo. I was a teen during the 90s, even then mental health was still pretty taboo. What was even more taboo, though, was PARENTS making their kids suffer with mental illness. Everyone acted as if parents were these perfect beings, the only bad parents were those that ruthlessly beat their children to a pulp. And I’m talking a hardcore beating, like end up in the hospital kind of beating. It was still very normalized for parents to hit their children if they were “out of line.”
@@elliefuller3667 absolutely i feel like for the first time talking about mental health isn’t taboo therefore it seems like a lot more people are depressed
some kid in my english last week used a prageru video in his powerpoint and it felt like i was taking psychic damage
Oh lord
So parents should just be like "HEY, DO THING. DO THING I WANT YOU TO DO. OBEY." this is why older generations are emotionally repressed, they're not allowed to express their emotions otherwise they're not obeying. Not that i would know...
I was an obedient kid in a Christian home cause if I showed any emotion or disapproval my parents would threaten to send me away or yell at me. I became a push over to avoid conflict and anytime I tried to push back it would end in a fight no matter how small the situation. I got diagnosed with depression when I was in grade 9 and when I told my parents I was sat on the couch and yelled at for an hour about how ungrateful I was and how I AM happy but I’m just possessed (wish I was joking) so I feel like kids aren’t more obedient it’s just that emotional abuse is now more common than physical abuse. Not saying either is better but they really fuck up a kids life.
I hate how they say to use less words especially when they are talking about rules because as an autistic person, i struggle to understand things unless they are described very clearly.
I loved being called an obedient child, esp growing up in a Christian household. looking back, that was a debilitating fear of conflict that still affects me :/
also the quandale dingle guy is a major quack with no qualifications
"Mfer looks like a... a Quan- quandale dingle"
*Quandale Dingle intensifies*
I live near a very popular beach that's separate from the city but is the same county. The county cops get extra shifts and paid time & a half to voluntarily work on the beach. I've worked a few jobs over the years on the beach and the cops get comfortable with you. They told me they take the gig for the money and because they don't have to do anything. At night they'll hang in their cars and link their laptops and watch movies or porn together. I knew one cop that was cheating on his wife with a coworker of mine, on duty, in his cop car at night. This was in my early 20's and was the beginning of my awakening and disdain for the piggies.
My “obedience” is just me being a really good liar lol. There’s no way people walk out of this kind of conservative upbringing unharmed. They either lie to themselves or their parents, or become disappointments. There is no such thing as a perfect obedient child. It’s only natural to want to take control of your own life and make decisions for yourself. Plus you can still teach children good manners, eating habits, work ethics, etc. with this wonderful thing called open communication.
I think your agenda should be longer recess and ice cream every day during lunch break.
This video is so funny i almost forgot how seriously terrifying the subject is
I love how Nick watches the transphobic video for 5 seconds, fries his brain then leaves immedietally lmao
what is he frying?
there's nothing there
can't change what gender you was born as
there are 2⃣
genders
goofy ahh leftists
@@osiris3x085 I was born a baby :)
@@red_weed seethe harder
Last night someone got pulled over I front of my house in a small town and they had 4 cops cars lined up behind this guy just to pull him over. In what situation would you need 4 cop cars for a traffic stop. Ridiculous
Can confirm having grown up in a republican family, I suppress when im around em. It's my only option. Got called stupid for having an opinion this morning. I am 24 and I'm still not allowed to express how I feel.
I remember watching a RUclipsr react to the why girls become boys pragerU video a while back, the second it came on I had horrible flashbacks to how awful it was
So if you see cops grouped like that, just hanging out, that means there is no threat. If you do see them spread out that means they either got a call or threats were made. So no toes sucked but they also aren't bullying anyone.
I know, that threw me off.
I think that really just reaffirms his point. Cops, generally, are a clean up crew. If bad shit isn't actively going on or if it hasn't already happened, they'll sit around waiting for it rather than actively preventing those bad things from happening.
Obviously this situation was pretty lax so it isn't that big of a deal, but it is indicative of a bigger problem imo
@@trashgoblin1182 Similar to security guards
@@trashgoblin1182 agreed, so a reorganization of police into an acknowledged cleanup and we have another organization for prevention or what have you.
I once had 8 cops show up to see an injured baby dear I found during a graveyard shift.
And not like trickled in overtime either, but all of them there at once
I love how the cat rug in the background blends in really well with Nick's hair so it looks like he has cat ears 😺
People have actually had blue skin before. The Fugate family of Kentucky used to have blue skin as a result of inbreeding and a blood disorder called methemoglobinemia although I’m pretty sure the last people in the family with blue skin have passed away now.
my teacher played a similar prager u video about saying no to your kids and it was so bad ✋😭 this little girl asked her dad for a unicorn and he told her no bc they're not real and you have to face the realities of life to make it
link?
as someone who used to be an "obedient" child, i was NOT happy, i was NOT obedient. i was bottling the few emotions i could feel, and lying my fucking arse off 24/7