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I am probably older than most of you (67) but enjoy very much Alyssa's sartorial advice and wisdom. I'm retired, so now have time to really think about how I want to dress, how to listen to myself and give greater consideration to how I move through the world. It has been a wonderful process. If I could speak to my harried 35-year-old self I would encourage her to take steps, even baby steps, to become more self aware, to love herself more unconditionally, and to simply ignore the barrage of do-this-to-be-that information that surrounds us. Don't set yourself aside.
“What kind of woman do you want to be?” I asked myself this question at 35 (4years ago) and had to take a hard look at my wardrobe and what it was saying about who I was and where I was headed. Suffice to say it did not represent me or my hopes for the future. I think now it does. thanks to your help over the last few years, I’ve been able to curate a wardrobe that feels harmonious to who I really am and can grow with me through the next phase of life. Also, I’ll always be editing.
I learnt, and it was a long way, to love myself. fat and tired. and that I can be fashionable too. you don’t need to be slim. but I’m still struggling. but thanks to you and other people on instagram I now can say to my friend (who said that I was dressed “properly”): I dress beautifully. and this is a life lesson for me.
Hi Sofia, I don't mean to upset you in any way and I am glad you are OK. I used to be very fat and a yo-yo dieter. What really helped me lose weight easily eating big portions and staying slim (3 years now) was becoming vegan and I know this sounds a bit extreme but if you take a look at the John McDougall's website there is a lot of good advice and it's free. I am a volume eater and I eat a lot! Losing weight is not just a vanity thing you do to look good in clothes, it is really important to prevent serious health problems. When I was fat I could not run for the bus or walk without my thighs chafing and this is nothing to do with fashion, I felt like a prisoner of my own body. I wish I had known years ago about Dr McDougall, it's an easy way of eating and it does work.
Such a great video Alyssa! I am a man, so I watch your channel purely for inspiration. One thing I realized is that I used to shop with the mindset of scarcity (you talked about it before), but now I only buy things that are truly unique and special to me. Not just clothes, but everything. Another lesson I learned is that online shopping for clothes does not work for me, and it is OK. I am not standard size, too tall and thin, so unless I can return an online purchase to a local store, it is really not worth time and effort.
From curating my closet, I have truly come to understand how very few material things I really need to be happy, and how important it is to choose quality (in all of life's aspects) over quantity.
I’ve shopped vintage since I was a teenager, but as I advanced in my career and had a family, I didn’t have the time to really enjoy that. In the past two years i have segued to buying only preloved and vintage items as my work and lifestyle changed. This has unleashed a level of creativity I didn’t know I had! I experiment more, I restyle things, and am generally having way more fun with my closet than I ever have. The life lesson? It’s a lot like Alyssa says, my style feels more like it comes from me knowing myself better rather than wanting to emulate what I see. 😊
I used to look at other peoples outfits and instead of being inspired by them, I fell into the trap too of, if I buy that exact entire look, I will feel more confident. Your channel made me rethink that, for which I am so grateful, Alyssa. Thank you for all that you do 💖
Hearing you talk about "perfection" made me realize it's been a loong time since I thought about clothing and "perfection" with any connection. I focus, mostly because of your channel, on how I FEEL, internally, in my clothes, and if I connect to my 3 words, then I'm super happy with what I'm wearing. Aand, I also do NOT think clothing is frivolous. For me, clothing is absolutely an extension of who and what I am. It's really a form of self-love for me to put on my favorite button down, jeans, blazer and brogues, and BE me the rest of the day. It's actually hard to put into words the level of comfort the way I dress brings to me, energetically, emotionally, physically. If I'm presenting authentically, there's not much better than that ❤️.
Totally agree that clothing is not frivolous, it's essential for your wellbeing and Oscar Wilde said that only superficial people do NOT judge by appearance
I miss your big mug of tea/coffee today lol! Knowing our style and our body are really important, recognise what suits us and what trend is not for us. Really looking at ourselves and appreciate the good things about our body, for example I've only just noticed (at 56 years young!) that my legs and torso are well balanced even though I am petite. Losing weight after becoming plant-based has made me like my body for the first time in years. Like you Alyssa, I love jeans and look good in them, I'll keep wearing them forever, I've just invested in a thicker denim skirt for winter, not as long as a midi because I know it would not suit me, I love wearing it with my taupe suede boots. Appreciating all the good moments is essential, I love my cat and he loves me! I love my home and garden and my city (London). I am grateful for this online community and your channel.
I think I was more confident in my teens and early twenties. I knew my style but after a bad relationship where I was criticised and emotional abuse it changed. And then since having children it diminished further. Changing body and not fitting in with the mum bod you are then constantly not happy with what you buy, doesn’t fit right, not confident in it. It’s only recently when I found you and Signe and Christina (awesome trio) that I have started to look at my wardrobe and feel better. Confidence is coming back - even down to wearing a baseball cap in public!!! (Prob sounds silly to you but to me it was a big occasion). Thank you. You’re my life lesson on feeling like me again. ❤
What I've learned from you (from taking your Shop Your Closet course and from your videos) is to use your Elements of Style. This has shown me really how to look at inspirational photos and not think I have to mimic them with the exact same items, but instead by focusing on the elements of those pieces. I have been shopping far less because I'm actually happy with my wardrobe and my pieces are beautiful and functional! Thank you!
Yes! Comparing yourself to others is a losing game for sure... as is the pursuit of perfectionism. I really appreciate your point about spending time figuring out who we are rather than copying other people. Definitely takes time and growth and confidence. Thanks for these excellent and affirming reminders!
I agree 💯! We need to dress in a way that aligns with our personality rather than copy others then try to fit in, dress in a way that makes us happy, celebrate ourselves and our unique authentic self because if of us are worthy and powerful exactly as we are!!
Yes to hanging out with the weird cat... Mine just watched this video with me. She has taught me to view my wardrobe as a playground. Each time she manages to get in there, she enjoys exploring.
I think it's so important that we dress in a way that aligns our personality rather than copying others' outfits so we can fit in. We need to celebrate ourselves, feel.worthy and powerful as we are unique so let our authenticity shine through our clothing,a reflection of who we are!!
Awesome life lessons! I like them all, but especially comparison is the thief of joy. Because I couldn’t agree more that it’s about our own journey, not someone else’s, and we all need more joy! Thank you!
New cat thinks am her tree to climb. Closet was all knits 🧶 (forgiving). Your tips helped me start a new cat attire capsule. 5 diff jeans 👖 5 tunic flare crisp cotton shirts with interesting sleeves. Black. White. Navy. Mix n match. 🙏
I've learned that structured coats and blazers work best for my shape (hourglass and 5"2") and always make me feel good. Also as I've aged (55) black drains me. You've taught me that preloved can add quality and style to my closet but it takes time and careful looking.
Here's something I learned from my closet that I apply in life -- age is just a number. My Levi's, that were probably already 10 years old when I inherited them, have served me well for almost 15 years. When the worn knee blew out completely, rather than discarding them, I sent them to Denim Revival to have the hole repaired. I'll get another 15 years out of them. The teapot my gran gave me is nearing 50 and even though it has a chip in the spout and the painted design has faded, I am not going to discard and get a new one. My furniture took on new life with slipcovers. Shiny and new isn't always the way to go.
Up to my mid thirties, I had very little expendable income. So I got hand me downs from my mam and sister (neither my size), bought second hand and saved for items I loved (often they sold before I could buy as I was usually waiting for sales, and it wasn't the end of the world! Although I was very thoughtful in anything I purchased, so still remember a number of items 😂.) When you mention perfection it so interesting, as I think I was better then at accepting what I had, being way more creative coming up with interesting combinations and finding ways to style items that didn't necessarily fit *perfectly"! I'd say I still do this to some extent as I learnt the habit but not as much, now that I have higher spending power i can be a bit less thoughtful which isn't great. I have enough (more than) so this reminds me to get back to my creativity and my sometimes unusual fashion choices. Thank you alyssa, ❤️ your message
Comparison is the thief of joy. Finding one’s own look and style, is more satisfying than copying others. Consistency is essential. Both in keeping the wardrobe edited and in daily health habits. Seeking perfection in my closet (and life) is a fail; being creative with and appreciating what exists is far more rewarding. Notice and enjoy the little things in an outfit and in life; it makes a big difference.😊 Thank you - grateful for this video! So wise and on point.
Thanks Alyssa! Still working on my 3 style words but have made a deep dive into my closet to remove worn, too big clothing and things I have not regularly worn.. by that I mean 15 yrs! Also moved a storage bar upstairs and made it my curating bar!! Very fun. All this works even as I am this summer reaching 70!!! Whaaaat? Very fun to look at my wardrobe with these fresh eyes you have shared!!
Thank you for another great video! The small tweak thing was so impactful for me when I saw you with a jean jacket under a winter coat and it was life-changing for me. I love my Jean jacket but felt I could only wear it certain times of the year and I never would have thought of wearing it in the winter and that small tweak bringing something that is so hard-core my style made me feel really cool, thank you!
What a thoughtful, and practical visit!!! You never fail to inspire me, and just stop and consider my thinking, purchasing and so much more!!! Thanks Alyssa!!!
I have discovered I'm not really a print person anymore. I like different textures of fabric instead. Simple clothing and colors work best for me. Black, navy, tan, white, gray, brown. If I want something that's oversized it has to be the right cut and purposely oversized in just the right places, not big all over. I have been working on discovering my style for about 2 yrs now and when I look at what is left in my cIoset I can see what I actually enjoy wearing and not just a closet full of options of all sorts. I also think when I see an outfit I like, now I try to modify it with things I own already. Another big takeaway is stop buying multiples of a style, for instance- when oversized is in and I really like the style pick one high impact piece, not multiple pieces, maybe a jacket or slouchy jean -if boxy shorter jackets are in and I like the look make one selection in a basic color and that will do. Finally stop buying fancy type clothes that I love the idea of but won't get the wear because it's not my lifestyle anymore. I want my closet to have things in it I can happily wear every day. I only need one or two dressy type items and they shouldn't be so dressy that they couldn't be dressed down to be worn more often. Those are my lessons. ♥️ Enjoyed your video.
I loved this video, I find what I am learning from these videos and my closet, the creativity that has definitely spilled into my work and personal life. I live for the little things in life, as everything else often feels a little overwhelming
Thanks to your tips, this winter I have really found joy in my closet! I have made formulas that just make getting dressed and feeling good so much easier! I didn't need to purchase anything over the winter!! Speaking of tweaks, years ago when I purchased an expensive woolen suit, it looked OK and ticked off all the boxes, but there was just something off. The young saleswoman said, 'how about we shorten the sleeves of the jacket?' and she did and man, it was just what was needed. They tailored it for me and I still have that suit some 25 years later!
Those little alterations can make such a huge difference. I have a half-circle skirt that is okay. The other day I tried it on again and pinched the waist about an inch smaller with a safety pin. WOW! Then it looked so much better, no longer dowdy. It also needs to be about 3" shorter. I can do both alterations, and once done, I'll actually wear the skirt instead of just trying it on over and over, thinking it's not quite right.
One thing learned from an office fashion blog is that young think they have to wear stiff button up shirts, but over time, they realize there are other options available if they suit them better - sweaters, silky shells, blouses, etc.
Thank you so much for another fantastic video that makes me look at my clothes in unexpected combinations! And couldn’t agree more with your “slow moments” - Since I retired, my treat every morning is to have my cup of tea in bed (something that would never have happened when I was working full time and every minute counted) and it’s heaven! I remain so grateful every day for that 15minutes of peace before the busy day begins.
It's funny because I know and apply the observations you have documented here on a regular basis to many parts of my life but bizarrely find it difficult to do so to my closet! I am getting better at shopping my closet but resisting the pull of retail seems to require additional willpower. Perhaps it is like other forms of training and just requires regular practice.
You are the sweet soft voice in my ear when I open my closet & ALWAYS when I THINK that I need to purchase ANYTHING!!Thank you!! Alyssa, I continue to learn so much from you!! XXOO
I've come to view trends as a collective shift in focus, which can either lead one off a cliff with the herd, OR serve as a reflection on the options being highlighted. As in, "Now consider THIS. Does this direction suit ME?' For example, given the Hi-Waisted jeans trend I came to discover that I have a particularly long rise, I NEED 12" to fit my body! Now I understand why so many things haven't worked for me, and what the solution is. The pendulum will swing, and others may discover the key to their best fit, but I've found mine.
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I think your advice is so helpful, both for my fashion intelligence, and life lessons as well. I am 58 and 25 lbs overweight, and I have to remember not to chase the “perfect item” that will finally finish me up (or denigrate myself, saying that nothing will look as good until I’m thin). You have encouraged me to get to know myself, and in doing so, Ive received the gift of feeling better about myself - I thank you! (Now to work on the shopping… LOL)
Lesson from my wardrobe; without regular maintenance and evolution, it and I both fall apart. I would get so frustrated shopping (6' and statuesque, on a tight budget), that I would wear things to pieces and have them disintegrate at the worst time. Choosing mindfully didn't mean they'd magically last forever. Now I watch for wear and begin searching earlier, and have found a good consignment shop that fits my budget. I also watch myself for burnout and stop pushing myself, while taking steps and making changes to improve the situation before I crash. Thank you for showing me that second hand could be done well. I have family that literally buy thrift by the pound, regardless of quality or style, and it really turned me off. I just filled several holes in my wardrobe today for an incredibly affordable price, with items I love, some still with tags on. And I took a grew risks, because I noticed that you did too, and it wasn't the end of the world if it doesn't work for me. I am grateful.
Love this video. Honestly minimalism made such a good difference for my anxiety. Less mental clutter. My room is so much easier to take care of now. I'm better off financially. Thank you Alyssa ❤️🙏 I would also love to hear what you have to say about the Kibbe body system cause recently it helped me refine my personal style and become more confident 🌹
Yes, the little things make a difference in life! The last year I developed a basic capsule wardrobe in addition to all of my colorful clothes ( I live in California). I have everything l need to get dressed. Too much actually. Little things daily can add a lot to daily living. Appreciate what you have & focus on gratitude & simple living can be helpful. Love 💕 your channel.
I so agree with you about how comparison is the thief of joy. I realized that I should be happy and content with what I already own . One thing I really learned from you is that I should try to use all my clothes year-round. I always thought that just because something was short sleeve that I could only wear it in the spring or summer. Now I am trying to incorporate those items under jackets or sweaters, so I can get the most use out of them. I really appreciate your simple but profound content! Keep up the good work.
Your approach to the philosophical aspect of creating wardrobes is enlightening. I now understand what you mean by "slow fashion." I agree that we should always be evolving when it comes to our style. I continue to look at my wardrobe pieces and really ask myself if that particular item sparks joy. I am still trying to scale down and I have committed myself to be on a low buy year. Thanks for your continued inspiration.
I’ve learned that certain articles of clothing feel/fit so right that if I need to replace another item like it in another color I should seek it out now while it’s available. I’m thinking specifically of the way a specific pair of flannel wool trousers felt and fit, and the way a blouse fit and draped so perfectly (I am petite so this can be an issue perhaps not so much for others.)
Love all your lessons today especially the perfection. When I was younger and less confident, I always thought I will finally be pretty if …and I thought my clothes would help. Fast forward to now, I want to be happy and friendly 😊and hopefully my outfits reflect that concept ❤
You make so many good points, in all your videos, and they have changed how I think about clothing and choosing things for my wardrobe. Oh, and that black jacket with the leather (?) border is fabulous!
Your videos are the only ones where I can actually watch the promotion. I usually fast forward through it on other videos because the person seems so fake and soul draining 😕. But you seem so genuine that I actually watch your promos. Great video! You're a Goddess! 🌼❤️
super conseils encore...J'adore t'écouter même si je ne pourrais jamais suivre tes conseils. J'ai tellement de vêtements et je t'envie un peu car les tiens sont tellement beaux comme ce superbe chandail et tes jeans qui te font à merveille. J'ai 42 paries de jeans et aucune ne me fait bien...Bref, je ne porte jamais 2x les même vêtements et c'est ben correct comme ça!! MErci encore pour ce beau vidéo!! Bonne semaine,
Alyssa, I love your videos and the concept of shopping your closet. On RUclips I find many videos on concious or intentional shopping, but I miss some about mindful or intelligent decluttering. It feels very difficult to shop your wardrobe if you say goodbye to every item you have not worn in the last year or so. I will look for this kind of video in your channel, as I am a recent subscriber. Love your energy, your voice and your sense of humor, too. Greetings from Spain 😊
It's important to do detox from time to time, it feels so good and it will give you more clarity on what you really love to wear and what not and I dress up in the morning and become way easier and joyful!!
@ShellTay32 I'm late to your comment and had a giggle. Has no-one close to you pointed out the possibility that you might be a borderline Hoarder? 😄 I've had it repeated to me on multiple occasions over the years - I feel so defensive - and they don't understand my rationales!!
@@comealongcomealong4480 I keep my excessive stuff very well organized. So when I mention it everyone is like, "No you're fine!" But, organized hoarding is still hoarding. Did you watch Friends? If so, remember the episode where Monica had that secret super messy closet? That's me. 🤣
Thank you Alyssa for your commitment and consistency. I enjoy your delivery of your videos and appreciate your links with discounts today. One question I have is where do you buy your sweaters, particularly your basic favourites? Their simplicity attracts me.
I enjoyed watching this Vlog. It's so true that small changes make a big difference. I think I've realised that jackets and belts are not for me....I've tried them and I just don't feel like myself. More importantly I like to be comfortable and relaxed. I've ditched skirts altogether. Forget what expectations others have, please yourself😘
Always love your videos…you inspire me to go shopping in my closet before purchasing yet another top or….would love to see some ideas on styling scarves….I have inherited some beauties and I would guess I am not alone in this💕.
Great advice!! I tend to do the same thing by looking at other peoples outfits and trying to mimic their style!! This was a great video for me! I need to just appreciate what I have and maybe come up with different ideas on how to style them! ❤
I just found you and was watching a video from you from 2019 and I thought you looked great, but now 4 years later, you seem even more health? Anyways, just wanted to give you a compliment, way to go!
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Comparison is the thieft of joy is universal because it even goes waaaay back that it even meantion in the bible in 1 Corinthians 13, so this is a very important train of thought. Thanks for sharing and blessings to you and all in the days to come.
By coincidence, re your consistency habit, I am just reading, Michael Mosley's 'Just One Thing', great read about adopting single good habits to transform your health and wellbeing. All of your 4 were extremely valuable tips to add joy to living... Another coincidence, less happy one, I have just broken my kneecap! Oh well....more to appreciate the little joys of the day, like your videos 🤓
Love your content! Can you please share your denim details you’re wearing in this video? I know it’s mother denim but I would like to know the cut and name please. Thanks!
Since I began watching your channel and a few others, I've seen dozens of "trend" posts. What's the incoming trend? What's off trend? What should you never wear again? What is classy? What is frumpy? What makes you feel like a goddess? All of them had something worth thinking about! But it made me less inclined than ever (and I never was) to chase trends. Instead I've been able to define better for myself what I like and why I like it, and at the same time, add those little tweaks to feel like me, but a bit better. Where your channel differs is in the slow fashion aspect. You reinforce (did you know you say this?) that we are all good enough as we are! That we've already made good choices, and that if we look at those pieces again, and think a little differently about them, we don't need much more. And when we are looking for "more," it can be reaffirming for ourselves and also not hurt the planet. Thank you.
Good points. I’ve never been inclined towards trends either. I’d adopt something if I like it enough to wear after the trend is over, but unless I like it that much, I wouldn’t buy it. Look at the cold shoulder trend; so many people bought into it and then quickly abandoned it, and the clothing was discarded or donated but it’s tough for thrift shops to sell it since most people don’t like that aesthetic outside the trend.
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I love your videos and one of the things I am doing now is to prepare my outfits in the evenings. It makes the morning routine so much less stressful. I also take a lot of inspiration from shopping my closet, it‘s actually fun. I also had a major jewelry haul (in this case, a haul was necessary), and actually started wearing jewelry again, after 20-odd years. Careful with the supplements though. There are lots of studies confirming you don‘t actually need them. Have your hair analysed to see if you have any actual nutritional deficiencies. I used to buy products with extra calcium in them, until I found out I have too much calcium in my system already.
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I am probably older than most of you (67) but enjoy very much Alyssa's sartorial advice and wisdom. I'm retired, so now have time to really think about how I want to dress, how to listen to myself and give greater consideration to how I move through the world. It has been a wonderful process. If I could speak to my harried 35-year-old self I would encourage her to take steps, even baby steps, to become more self aware, to love herself more unconditionally, and to simply ignore the barrage of do-this-to-be-that information that surrounds us. Don't set yourself aside.
Applause from a fellow 60something!
I'm 69 and agree with you.
63 and still styling!
I'm 66 and look forward to her videos. I love her style. Most of it is the way I dress. Noone has told me how a 66 year old should dress. #BeYourself
Agree, from another 67-year-old.
She who travels light, travels fastest and best!
“What kind of woman do you want to be?”
I asked myself this question at 35 (4years ago) and had to take a hard look at my wardrobe and what it was saying about who I was and where I was headed.
Suffice to say it did not represent me or my hopes for the future. I think now it does. thanks to your help over the last few years, I’ve been able to curate a wardrobe that feels harmonious to who I really am and can grow with me through the next phase of life.
Also, I’ll always be editing.
I learnt, and it was a long way, to love myself. fat and tired. and that I can be fashionable too. you don’t need to be slim. but I’m still struggling. but thanks to you and other people on instagram I now can say to my friend (who said that I was dressed “properly”): I dress beautifully. and this is a life lesson for me.
Hi Sofia, I don't mean to upset you in any way and I am glad you are OK. I used to be very fat and a yo-yo dieter. What really helped me lose weight easily eating big portions and staying slim (3 years now) was becoming vegan and I know this sounds a bit extreme but if you take a look at the John McDougall's website there is a lot of good advice and it's free. I am a volume eater and I eat a lot! Losing weight is not just a vanity thing you do to look good in clothes, it is really important to prevent serious health problems. When I was fat I could not run for the bus or walk without my thighs chafing and this is nothing to do with fashion, I felt like a prisoner of my own body. I wish I had known years ago about Dr McDougall, it's an easy way of eating and it does work.
Such a great video Alyssa! I am a man, so I watch your channel purely for inspiration. One thing I realized is that I used to shop with the mindset of scarcity (you talked about it before), but now I only buy things that are truly unique and special to me. Not just clothes, but everything. Another lesson I learned is that online shopping for clothes does not work for me, and it is OK. I am not standard size, too tall and thin, so unless I can return an online purchase to a local store, it is really not worth time and effort.
From curating my closet, I have truly come to understand how very few material things I really need to be happy, and how important it is to choose quality (in all of life's aspects) over quantity.
Great takeaways as always Alyssa! "Comparison is the thief of joy." Wow....this is so very true and always good to remember. Thank you!
I’ve shopped vintage since I was a teenager, but as I advanced in my career and had a family, I didn’t have the time to really enjoy that. In the past two years i have segued to buying only preloved and vintage items as my work and lifestyle changed. This has unleashed a level of creativity I didn’t know I had! I experiment more, I restyle things, and am generally having way more fun with my closet than I ever have. The life lesson? It’s a lot like Alyssa says, my style feels more like it comes from me knowing myself better rather than wanting to emulate what I see. 😊
I used to look at other peoples outfits and instead of being inspired by them, I fell into the trap too of, if I buy that exact entire look, I will feel more confident. Your channel made me rethink that, for which I am so grateful, Alyssa. Thank you for all that you do 💖
Hearing you talk about "perfection" made me realize it's been a loong time since I thought about clothing and "perfection" with any connection. I focus, mostly because of your channel, on how I FEEL, internally, in my clothes, and if I connect to my 3 words, then I'm super happy with what I'm wearing.
Aand, I also do NOT think clothing is frivolous. For me, clothing is absolutely an extension of who and what I am. It's really a form of self-love for me to put on my favorite button down, jeans, blazer and brogues, and BE me the rest of the day. It's actually hard to put into words the level of comfort the way I dress brings to me, energetically, emotionally, physically. If I'm presenting authentically, there's not much better than that ❤️.
Agree 💯!!
Totally agree that clothing is not frivolous, it's essential for your wellbeing and Oscar Wilde said that only superficial people do NOT judge by appearance
“and BE me the rest of the day”
Exactly!
I miss your big mug of tea/coffee today lol! Knowing our style and our body are really important, recognise what suits us and what trend is not for us. Really looking at ourselves and appreciate the good things about our body, for example I've only just noticed (at 56 years young!) that my legs and torso are well balanced even though I am petite. Losing weight after becoming plant-based has made me like my body for the first time in years. Like you Alyssa, I love jeans and look good in them, I'll keep wearing them forever, I've just invested in a thicker denim skirt for winter, not as long as a midi because I know it would not suit me, I love wearing it with my taupe suede boots. Appreciating all the good moments is essential, I love my cat and he loves me! I love my home and garden and my city (London). I am grateful for this online community and your channel.
I think I was more confident in my teens and early twenties. I knew my style but after a bad relationship where I was criticised and emotional abuse it changed. And then since having children it diminished further. Changing body and not fitting in with the mum bod you are then constantly not happy with what you buy, doesn’t fit right, not confident in it. It’s only recently when I found you and Signe and Christina (awesome trio) that I have started to look at my wardrobe and feel better. Confidence is coming back - even down to wearing a baseball cap in public!!! (Prob sounds silly to you but to me it was a big occasion).
Thank you. You’re my life lesson on feeling like me again. ❤
What I've learned from you (from taking your Shop Your Closet course and from your videos) is to use your Elements of Style. This has shown me really how to look at inspirational photos and not think I have to mimic them with the exact same items, but instead by focusing on the elements of those pieces. I have been shopping far less because I'm actually happy with my wardrobe and my pieces are beautiful and functional!
Thank you!
Yes! Comparing yourself to others is a losing game for sure... as is the pursuit of perfectionism. I really appreciate your point about spending time figuring out who we are rather than copying other people. Definitely takes time and growth and confidence. Thanks for these excellent and affirming reminders!
I agree 💯! We need to dress in a way that aligns with our personality rather than copy others then try to fit in, dress in a way that makes us happy, celebrate ourselves and our unique authentic self because if of us are worthy and powerful exactly as we are!!
Yes to hanging out with the weird cat... Mine just watched this video with me. She has taught me to view my wardrobe as a playground. Each time she manages to get in there, she enjoys exploring.
I think it's so important that we dress in a way that aligns our personality rather than copying others' outfits so we can fit in. We need to celebrate ourselves, feel.worthy and powerful as we are unique so let our authenticity shine through our clothing,a reflection of who we are!!
Awesome life lessons! I like them all, but especially comparison is the thief of joy. Because I couldn’t agree more that it’s about our own journey, not someone else’s, and we all need more joy! Thank you!
New cat thinks am her tree to climb. Closet was all knits 🧶 (forgiving). Your tips helped me start a new cat attire capsule. 5 diff jeans 👖 5 tunic flare crisp cotton shirts with interesting sleeves. Black. White. Navy. Mix n match. 🙏
I've learned that structured coats and blazers work best for my shape (hourglass and 5"2") and always make me feel good. Also as I've aged (55) black drains me. You've taught me that preloved can add quality and style to my closet but it takes time and careful looking.
Here's something I learned from my closet that I apply in life -- age is just a number. My Levi's, that were probably already 10 years old when I inherited them, have served me well for almost 15 years. When the worn knee blew out completely, rather than discarding them, I sent them to Denim Revival to have the hole repaired. I'll get another 15 years out of them. The teapot my gran gave me is nearing 50 and even though it has a chip in the spout and the painted design has faded, I am not going to discard and get a new one. My furniture took on new life with slipcovers. Shiny and new isn't always the way to go.
And much better for the planet.
Up to my mid thirties, I had very little expendable income. So I got hand me downs from my mam and sister (neither my size), bought second hand and saved for items I loved (often they sold before I could buy as I was usually waiting for sales, and it wasn't the end of the world! Although I was very thoughtful in anything I purchased, so still remember a number of items 😂.) When you mention perfection it so interesting, as I think I was better then at accepting what I had, being way more creative coming up with interesting combinations and finding ways to style items that didn't necessarily fit *perfectly"! I'd say I still do this to some extent as I learnt the habit but not as much, now that I have higher spending power i can be a bit less thoughtful which isn't great. I have enough (more than) so this reminds me to get back to my creativity and my sometimes unusual fashion choices. Thank you alyssa, ❤️ your message
Comparison is the thief of joy. Finding one’s own look and style, is more satisfying than copying others.
Consistency is essential. Both in keeping the wardrobe edited and in daily health habits.
Seeking perfection in my closet (and life) is a fail; being creative with and appreciating what exists is far more rewarding.
Notice and enjoy the little things in an outfit and in life; it makes a big difference.😊
Thank you - grateful for this video! So wise and on point.
Yes!!
Your style is do much more, I agree. I think that being aware of who I am and abandoning perfection are very pertinent to me.
Knowing your personal style and color pallets is diffently a game changer. Thank you for bringing it home, Alyssa!
Thanks Alyssa! Still working on my 3 style words but have made a deep dive into my closet to remove worn, too big clothing and things I have not regularly worn.. by that I mean 15 yrs! Also moved a storage bar upstairs and made it my curating bar!! Very fun. All this works even as I am this summer reaching 70!!! Whaaaat? Very fun to look at my wardrobe with these fresh eyes you have shared!!
Thank you for another great video! The small tweak thing was so impactful for me when I saw you with a jean jacket under a winter coat and it was life-changing for me. I love my Jean jacket but felt I could only wear it certain times of the year and I never would have thought of wearing it in the winter and that small tweak bringing something that is so hard-core my style made me feel really cool, thank you!
Me too, and I've also worn a denim skirt and dress and jeans for the first time this winter under my coat (normally I just wore them mid-season)
What a thoughtful, and practical visit!!! You never fail to inspire me, and just stop and consider my thinking, purchasing and so much more!!! Thanks Alyssa!!!
This has become a lifestyle for me, and it's so much more than clothing. Your insight and advice are so refreshing. Thanks so much.
I’m doing no buy 2023 and you don’t even know how much I appreciate your channel! I will shop my own closet all year long!!! 🎉😊
I have discovered I'm not really a print person anymore. I like different textures of fabric instead. Simple clothing and colors work best for me. Black, navy, tan, white, gray, brown. If I want something that's oversized it has to be the right cut and purposely oversized in just the right places, not big all over. I have been working on discovering my style for about 2 yrs now and when I look at what is left in my cIoset I can see what I actually enjoy wearing and not just a closet full of options of all sorts. I also think when I see an outfit I like, now I try to modify it with things I own already. Another big takeaway is stop buying multiples of a style, for instance- when oversized is in and I really like the style pick one high impact piece, not multiple pieces, maybe a jacket or slouchy jean -if boxy shorter jackets are in and I like the look make one selection in a basic color and that will do. Finally stop buying fancy type clothes that I love the idea of but won't get the wear because it's not my lifestyle anymore. I want my closet to have things in it I can happily wear every day. I only need one or two dressy type items and they shouldn't be so dressy that they couldn't be dressed down to be worn more often. Those are my lessons. ♥️ Enjoyed your video.
I loved this video, I find what I am learning from these videos and my closet, the creativity that has definitely spilled into my work and personal life. I live for the little things in life, as everything else often feels a little overwhelming
I’ve learned that I still love and purchase the same colours/classic styles at 61 that I did at 21! Yet I’m always on the hunt for something new🤦🏼♀️
Yes. Little tweaks. A watch. Cuffed jeans..... Pretty gloves.
Thanks to your tips, this winter I have really found joy in my closet! I have made formulas that just make getting dressed and feeling good so much easier! I didn't need to purchase anything over the winter!! Speaking of tweaks, years ago when I purchased an expensive woolen suit, it looked OK and ticked off all the boxes, but there was just something off. The young saleswoman said, 'how about we shorten the sleeves of the jacket?' and she did and man, it was just what was needed. They tailored it for me and I still have that suit some 25 years later!
Those little alterations can make such a huge difference. I have a half-circle skirt that is okay. The other day I tried it on again and pinched the waist about an inch smaller with a safety pin. WOW! Then it looked so much better, no longer dowdy. It also needs to be about 3" shorter. I can do both alterations, and once done, I'll actually wear the skirt instead of just trying it on over and over, thinking it's not quite right.
@@melaniemcneil407 that's great! cause if it isn't quite right, you won't wear it, will you?
@@SoNick25 exactly!
One thing learned from an office fashion blog is that young think they have to wear stiff button up shirts, but over time, they realize there are other options available if they suit them better - sweaters, silky shells, blouses, etc.
Thank you so much for another fantastic video that makes me look at my clothes in unexpected combinations!
And couldn’t agree more with your “slow moments” - Since I retired, my treat every morning is to have my cup of tea in bed (something that would never have happened when I was working full time and every minute counted) and it’s heaven! I remain so grateful every day for that 15minutes of peace before the busy day begins.
It's funny because I know and apply the observations you have documented here on a regular basis to many parts of my life but bizarrely find it difficult to do so to my closet! I am getting better at shopping my closet but resisting the pull of retail seems to require additional willpower. Perhaps it is like other forms of training and just requires regular practice.
You are the sweet soft voice in my ear when I open my closet & ALWAYS when I THINK that I need to purchase ANYTHING!!Thank you!! Alyssa, I continue to learn so much from you!! XXOO
I've come to view trends as a collective shift in focus, which can either lead one off a cliff with the herd, OR serve as a reflection on the options being highlighted. As in, "Now consider THIS. Does this direction suit ME?' For example, given the Hi-Waisted jeans trend I came to discover that I have a particularly long rise, I NEED 12" to fit my body! Now I understand why so many things haven't worked for me, and what the solution is. The pendulum will swing, and others may discover the key to their best fit, but I've found mine.
I love ritual supplements! I cannot tell you enough how much you have taught me, inspired and influenced me in a positive way! Thank you lady Beltempo!!
I think your advice is so helpful, both for my fashion intelligence, and life lessons as well. I am 58 and 25 lbs overweight, and I have to remember not to chase the “perfect item” that will finally finish me up (or denigrate myself, saying that nothing will look as good until I’m thin). You have encouraged me to get to know myself, and in doing so, Ive received the gift of feeling better about myself - I thank you! (Now to work on the shopping… LOL)
Lesson from my wardrobe; without regular maintenance and evolution, it and I both fall apart. I would get so frustrated shopping (6' and statuesque, on a tight budget), that I would wear things to pieces and have them disintegrate at the worst time. Choosing mindfully didn't mean they'd magically last forever. Now I watch for wear and begin searching earlier, and have found a good consignment shop that fits my budget. I also watch myself for burnout and stop pushing myself, while taking steps and making changes to improve the situation before I crash.
Thank you for showing me that second hand could be done well. I have family that literally buy thrift by the pound, regardless of quality or style, and it really turned me off. I just filled several holes in my wardrobe today for an incredibly affordable price, with items I love, some still with tags on. And I took a grew risks, because I noticed that you did too, and it wasn't the end of the world if it doesn't work for me. I am grateful.
Love this video. Honestly minimalism made such a good difference for my anxiety. Less mental clutter. My room is so much easier to take care of now. I'm better off financially. Thank you Alyssa ❤️🙏 I would also love to hear what you have to say about the Kibbe body system cause recently it helped me refine my personal style and become more confident 🌹
I love shopping my closet and as a vegan it benefits the planet too
I learned to use outfit I see as inspiration. Shop you closet is a wonderful concept 😊😊😊
Yes, the little things make a difference in life! The last year I developed a basic capsule wardrobe in addition to all of my colorful clothes ( I live in California). I have everything l need to get dressed. Too much actually. Little things daily can add a lot to daily living. Appreciate what you have & focus on gratitude & simple living can be helpful. Love 💕 your channel.
I love colorful clothes! All my clothes is full.of colours, this is one of the ways I'm expressing my personality every single day!
I so agree with you about how comparison is the thief of joy. I realized that I should be happy and content with what I already own .
One thing I really learned from you is that I should try to use all my clothes year-round. I always thought that just because something was short sleeve that I could only wear it in the spring or summer. Now I am trying to incorporate those items under jackets or sweaters, so I can get the most use out of them. I really appreciate your simple but profound content! Keep up the good work.
As always, wonderful, informational and inspiring video. Plus a beautiful mustard rocking chair.
I'm a very lively, happy person so I find comfort in dressing in neutral colors where I don't need the pop of color to add "color" to my personality.
Your approach to the philosophical aspect of creating wardrobes is enlightening. I now understand what you mean by "slow fashion." I agree that we should always be evolving when it comes to our style. I continue to look at my wardrobe pieces and really ask myself if that particular item sparks joy. I am still trying to scale down and I have committed myself to be on a low buy year. Thanks for your continued inspiration.
I’ve learned that certain articles of clothing feel/fit so right that if I need to replace another item like it in another color I should seek it out now while it’s available. I’m thinking specifically of the way a specific pair of flannel wool trousers felt and fit, and the way a blouse fit and draped so perfectly (I am petite so this can be an issue perhaps not so much for others.)
Love all your lessons today especially the perfection. When I was younger and less confident, I always thought I will finally be pretty if …and I thought my clothes would help. Fast forward to now, I want to be happy and friendly 😊and hopefully my outfits reflect that concept ❤
Great yoga/workout pants! I like the simple, realistic and very global approach to fashion. Like Game Excellence! You got that! Xo J
I always feel better after one of your videos. You’ve got such great advice, a calming voice, and a positive attitude. Thank you!!
Oh I loved this so much! I struggle so much with the comparisons with what others have. This is so helpful and inspiring. Love your channel.
Girl don't we all. The irony is the person that you are comparing yourself to is probably comparing themselves to you too!😏
Such good reminders! Thank you!
You make so many good points, in all your videos, and they have changed how I think about clothing and choosing things for my wardrobe. Oh, and that black jacket with the leather (?) border is fabulous!
Hi Alyssa. .your last lesson is so apt, thank you for another amazing video.
Your videos are the only ones where I can actually watch the promotion. I usually fast forward through it on other videos because the person seems so fake and soul draining 😕. But you seem so genuine that I actually watch your promos. Great video! You're a Goddess! 🌼❤️
super conseils encore...J'adore t'écouter même si je ne pourrais jamais suivre tes conseils. J'ai tellement de vêtements et je t'envie un peu car les tiens sont tellement beaux comme ce superbe chandail et tes jeans qui te font à merveille. J'ai 42 paries de jeans et aucune ne me fait bien...Bref, je ne porte jamais 2x les même vêtements et c'est ben correct comme ça!! MErci encore pour ce beau vidéo!! Bonne semaine,
Alyssa, I love your videos and the concept of shopping your closet. On RUclips I find many videos on concious or intentional shopping, but I miss some about mindful or intelligent decluttering. It feels very difficult to shop your wardrobe if you say goodbye to every item you have not worn in the last year or so. I will look for this kind of video in your channel, as I am a recent subscriber. Love your energy, your voice and your sense of humor, too. Greetings from Spain 😊
Hi Olga … Alyssa definitely has videos about items she won’t declutter, so it’s worth going back through them. I love her energy too. Enjoy watching.
Thank you, Alyssa. Always great content... ❤️
It’s the little things in life for me ❤
Great tips Alyssa…as always!
Great video. Sadly, what I have gleaned from my closet is that I have hoarding issues. Only half joking.😂☹
It's important to do detox from time to time, it feels so good and it will give you more clarity on what you really love to wear and what not and I dress up in the morning and become way easier and joyful!!
@ShellTay32 I'm late to your comment and had a giggle. Has no-one close to you pointed out the possibility that you might be a borderline Hoarder? 😄 I've had it repeated to me on multiple occasions over the years - I feel so defensive - and they don't understand my rationales!!
@@comealongcomealong4480 I keep my excessive stuff very well organized. So when I mention it everyone is like, "No you're fine!" But, organized hoarding is still hoarding. Did you watch Friends? If so, remember the episode where Monica had that secret super messy closet? That's me. 🤣
@@ShellTay32 Yes, that was a memorable Friends episode. Monica's shame and extreme embarrassment 🙈
Thank you Alyssa for your commitment and consistency. I enjoy your delivery of your videos and appreciate your links with discounts today. One question I have is where do you buy your sweaters, particularly your basic favourites? Their simplicity attracts me.
LOVE your videos. Just found you, and even your content from two years ago has a timeless message. Thank you!
I batch iron for the week. I believe in starch!!!
I enjoyed watching this Vlog. It's so true that small changes make a big difference. I think I've realised that jackets and belts are not for me....I've tried them and I just don't feel like myself. More importantly I like to be comfortable and relaxed. I've ditched skirts altogether. Forget what expectations others have, please yourself😘
Fantastic video love it 😊
Always love your videos…you inspire me to go shopping in my closet before purchasing yet another top or….would love to see some ideas on styling scarves….I have inherited some beauties and I would guess I am not alone in this💕.
Great advice!! I tend to do the same thing by looking at other peoples outfits and trying to mimic their style!! This was a great video for me! I need to just appreciate what I have and maybe come up with different ideas on how to style them! ❤
I love your sweater and that yellow chair can you tell me more? Please
I just found you and was watching a video from you from 2019 and I thought you looked great, but now 4 years later, you seem even more health? Anyways, just wanted to give you a compliment, way to go!
Yeah , already a new vlog from you after 3 days 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Fantastic takeaways!
Comparison is the thieft of joy is universal because it even goes waaaay back that it even meantion in the bible in 1 Corinthians 13, so this is a very important train of thought. Thanks for sharing and blessings to you and all in the days to come.
By coincidence, re your consistency habit, I am just reading, Michael Mosley's 'Just One Thing', great read about adopting single good habits to transform your health and wellbeing. All of your 4 were extremely valuable tips to add joy to living...
Another coincidence, less happy one, I have just broken my kneecap! Oh well....more to appreciate the little joys of the day, like your videos 🤓
You broke your kneecap?? I'm so sorry to hear! Thank you again for another wonderful slow fashion video. These are so soothing and inspirational!
hey, my cats aren't weird hahahaha. love your channel!
Love your content! Can you please share your denim details you’re wearing in this video? I know it’s mother denim but I would like to know the cut and name please. Thanks!
Would love to know what jeans you are wearing! I know I shouldn’t ask but couldn’t help it!
Since I began watching your channel and a few others, I've seen dozens of "trend" posts. What's the incoming trend? What's off trend? What should you never wear again? What is classy? What is frumpy? What makes you feel like a goddess? All of them had something worth thinking about! But it made me less inclined than ever (and I never was) to chase trends. Instead I've been able to define better for myself what I like and why I like it, and at the same time, add those little tweaks to feel like me, but a bit better. Where your channel differs is in the slow fashion aspect. You reinforce (did you know you say this?) that we are all good enough as we are! That we've already made good choices, and that if we look at those pieces again, and think a little differently about them, we don't need much more. And when we are looking for "more," it can be reaffirming for ourselves and also not hurt the planet. Thank you.
Good points. I’ve never been inclined towards trends either. I’d adopt something if I like it enough to wear after the trend is over, but unless I like it that much, I wouldn’t buy it. Look at the cold shoulder trend; so many people bought into it and then quickly abandoned it, and the clothing was discarded or donated but it’s tough for thrift shops to sell it since most people don’t like that aesthetic outside the trend.
I love the information you share and all your videos. Ok I have to ask. I hope I’m not getting too personal but I noticed in the last few videos that you haven’t been wearing your wedding band. I hope everything is good. Just caring
I love your videos and one of the things I am doing now is to prepare my outfits in the evenings. It makes the morning routine so much less stressful. I also take a lot of inspiration from shopping my closet, it‘s actually fun. I also had a major jewelry haul (in this case, a haul was necessary), and actually started wearing jewelry again, after 20-odd years. Careful with the supplements though. There are lots of studies confirming you don‘t actually need them. Have your hair analysed to see if you have any actual nutritional deficiencies. I used to buy products with extra calcium in them, until I found out I have too much calcium in my system already.
Great insight.
i have been searching and searching for an ecru wide funnel neck sweater. Where is yours from?
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Largo video hablar sin decir nada. Eso es fantastico🤷🏼♀️
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Less is more~
Sorry to criticise but the unusual lenghty emphasis on your sponsor is bothering me. Not everybody needs supplement or if they do it should be on prescription from your doctor....