How Covert Narcissists Control You & The Mistake You Make
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How Covert Narcissists Control You & The Mistake You Make
The whole essence of narcissistic relationships is about control, narcissists want to control everything about you from what you do to who you are as a person. People that grew up with a narcissistic mother or narcissistic father may find the role that victims of narcissists find themselves in, to be all too familiar. If you are unable to see the covert manipulation tactics, then you run the risk of repeating them over and over OR the way you go about breaking free from their control.... may actually keep you stuck instead of helping you feel empowered. If this doesn't make sense... make sure to watch this video!!
narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic family system, covert narcissists seek to control you, healing from narcissistic family, healing from narcissistic mother, healing from narcissistic father, surviving narcissism, how to take your power back from the narcissist
This was one of the hardest things to explain to people with more normal parents. Loving parents don't move the goalposts like narcissists. They don't work to ensure you fail so they can play up their own act in the foreground.
Fortunate people imagine that love is biologically intrinsic, that the monstrous lack of it is an abstract fiction. Few of them ever see it happening right next door to them, nor has society taught us much about seeing it when we live under the same roof with it, until neuroscience and survivors started speaking.
People who don't think they're good enough are easier to control. It all makes sense now.
Yes
Yep. That's why they do and say negative things as an attempt to tear you down. Because they intentionally try to make you codependent or narcissistic like them. It's a terrible and horrible way to be. And that's why I know it's demonic/satanic. It have been going on far too long. And that's why the spirit of the LORD have been encouraging people to spread this info. So, these horrible/horrific generational curses are broken, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen.
I was in narcissistic relationships my entire life. My covert narcissistic younger sister and best friend controlled me my entire life.
Once I started healing, they discarded me very quickly. But all along, they said that they cared about me.
It took me 9 years to realize this. I never lost my self esteem due to my martial arts. But I tried to prove to her for so long. This video is so true. If I gave her 98 of 100 things she wanted, it was never good enough. If I changed 10 things about me that she demanded, the bar raised to 15. It is always out of reach. You can never get there.
I wish I learned this sooner.
They'll find the 1% out of the 99 and throw it in your face. Nice post
“They’re never going to give it to you.”
Justice. Decency. Closure.
Thank you for the constant reminders. Much needed!
No contact forever. Once she left that was the end of the “ relationship.”
You start off describing the doctors and therapists at the Atlanta VA perfectly. They even called my family members and tried to get them to say I'm "dangerous" simply because I am a combat veteran and I lack sufficient melanin for their tastes. It doesn't matter they have less melanin than me and pointing that out is "circular reasoning". Then they lie to the police and say I'm "violent". My narc dad was the only one who went along with it. And thank God for police with brains and a heart. The police asked what did he do and they said he disagreed with us and "disagreement is violence" and they were "concerned for his safety". The police were smarter and far more compassionate than the doctors. And the police officers were black too so that really pissed off those doctors.
YESSS!!!! My mother is a pro at slight digs and then if called out feigns complete innocence... I am struggling with completely and permanently cutting her out. I know she won't change, she can't. This whole thing with her has been an emotional battle😥 ...
In other words, they want your soul.
Demons….. not humans……
Your videos have been on absolute FIRE recently, I feel so powerful after listening to your explanations. Thank you 🙏♥️✨🥲
Me too!!! Thank you Michele!!!
-that was a very powerful video !!! ✨ take-away : never chase affirmation, from another person, again.
Michele, such a great video! So true.. It is so hard to see what we are actually doing! I am so thankful to be out of the toxic relationship with my covert narc EX. I am finally able to see my responsibility in the toxic relationship. Thanks for sharing! PS Love the Nerd glasses :)
I’m still listening but just wanted to say, is it just me or do narcissists also try to convince you that there’s something wrong with you because of all that’s right with you too? That’s been my experience.
Some of them will say very little to you at all. Once they know what hurts you they will create multiple angles. They are the professional work hard type, the great parent, the honoring family person, the lover, the friend, the spouse…etc. if you are in a commitment with one of them, they will lead multiple lives with other lovers. They make plans to “stay at their siblings house,” “working a night shift,” “girls/guys night or weekend,” “Vegas trip,” etc. if they aren’t communicating with you and there’s unresolved issues, you can bet your last dollar if they do any of these things, they are spending time engaging in sexual relations outside the home. They don’t have to argue or say rude things, they just use you while using others.
exactly this is the worst invalidation by no words just actions and a body language full of disdain and dismissal
@@user-zy8gk2nn7d you can almost see it in the room…it weighs on your body like a heavy blanket in an already hot environment. Their looks and body language speak volumes. I Remember the last time mine looked at me from across the kitchen and in an almost purposely fake voice said; “I love you.” I looked at her with tears in my eyes and realized that she was only saying it to me to make sure I would say it and to listen and observe the way I responded back. It made me sick instantly as I broke eye contact before walking away and crackling out an “I love you.” She knew I was leaving and she knew she had been sleeping around and cheating on me with other guys that I had already questioned her about. Two weeks prior she went to a near by town for the weekend to “have a sisters weekend.” The days leading up to it she was clearly attempting to have a reason to argue with me. Her sister and one of her friends were at the house the weekend before and when I pulled into the driveway, the looks on their faces and the their body language had assured me my gf had obviously been telling them details of what she was doing to me and smearing my name while I was working 100+ hour weeks.
This type of person has zero respect and even less appreciation for those who do the most for them. They will give your enemies everything you wanted and begged for just to spite you for asking them to just be honest and forthcoming. The patterns are out of the same playbook.
@@lil--mo2025 narcs are not humans and should not be treated as such. Any good deed, good will, love appreciation wil cause only disdain- bc you validated a piece of trash. Bc they are trash they do not diserve to be validated. I value now myself and pp like me only.
@@user-zy8gk2nn7d they certainly are trash in pile of trash.
Beautiful! Great video as always. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
witchcraft- control of your mind, will and emotion
That's EXACTLY what it is. It's good that you see that for yourself and have learned it.
My wife can’t control me anymore. I took back control of the money and finances and she can’t beat me up so I have nothing to worry about. I called her out today for snapping at me over a simple question about a check. I’ll probably leave once I get mental health back in check which I am doing really well compared to a few months ago 😊
I am so thankful you keep sharing these points. I feel like you get me. And I find myself needing less external validation than I used to.
Your nerd glasses are cool by the way. 😌 But you already knew that. 😄
Control/criticism/covert = subjugation 😈
Great video 👍
Wow!
I'm dealt with many of them they only do what they can get away with some guys will allow themselves to be treated like garbage and spoke to like trash I'm not one of them early in life I knew what I was dealing with I always always discard them first it's the only way you can come out with any dignity and self-respect have no mercy on them they weren't planning on having any on you
Changed the rules lies and chests
Bless you!
Thank you so much!
It's not my fault.
Please tell me of a good lawyer to help me get reparations from my demonic relatives especially my mother who've stolen a home and family from me, several homes actually and much more.
Aside from that all these countless NARCISSIST videos that I watch have done little to help me other than helping me identify who and what my family are, always were and what they've been doing to me.
God bless anyone effected by these kind of people/creatures.
I not care for her smear campaigns I know what my friends tell me and what she says is a whole different ball game
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You look cute in glasses 🤓👓
How am I responsible for the actions of people who lived 100's of years before me yet others are not responsible for the actions they commit today? And they call it sCiEnCe 🙃🤪