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My first born never would have let us lay her down awake! My second baby is 4 months old now and a much better sleeper I think this could possibly work with her. I really think temperament has a lot to do with if this is successful
Pregnant with baby #4 here and I'm preparing to remind myself to pause! To all moms of one child: these things get easier as you have more children because you stop doubting yourself. I can't say that every child is going to be as good of a sleeper as another, but don't let sleep stop you from growing your family. You're learning, too!
@@alexandrastr8878 you'll be amazed how much you learned the first time around and you won't doubt yourself nearly as much! It's great and just gets better! I hope the transition to two treats you well!
Emma, you’re a godsend to first-time parents. We have been putting all your tips into practice. Setting a bedtime routine, leaving her be when she sleeps noisily, teaching her to put herself to sleep, improving her sleep environment. It took time but my little one has been sleeping through the night at 3.5 months, waking up at 6 am now. Thank you so much!!
Was thrilled to find your vlog. My granddaughter is expecting our first great granddaughter . I wanted to find out what are the parenting trends today. To my greatest joy you were passing on the same messages I did! I was a Plunket Nurse, this is a wonderful organisation we have in NZ . We are Registered Nurses with another years training in woman and child wellness and development and parenting practice. I worked in the district then on Plunketline, for over 30 years , so learnt a lot about other parenting practice but over time, what you are saying and what I was say are the same thing.! I have shared your videos with my granddaughter as she lives in England without her family support, but a wonderful husband by her side and I know your recommendations and the excellent reason given for them is going to help her through this exciting but at times exhausting and stressful times. Thank you so much, keep up the great work
Thank you so much for your lovely message! I’m thrilled that you’ve shared my videos with your granddaughter. It can be challenging to navigate parenting without close family nearby, but it sounds like she’s got a wonderful support system in you and her husband. Wishing you all the best with your soon-to-arrive great-granddaughter!
I started to implement independent sleep at 3.5 months with my son. We went from still waking every 2 hrs to him sleeping till 4am, feeding him at that time, then up for the day at 7am. We actually have gotten a couple days where he has slept fully through the night. I always rocked him to sleep so we put him to sleep by rocking his bassinet, then we moved to putting him down without rocking but still there in rhe room shushing him, now we put him down give him a kiss and leave the room. A good nap schedule and capping sleep really helped us. Also having a set nap/bedtime routine plus set bedtime has helped soooo much.
My daughter skipped the 4 month sleep regression and started sleeping through the night at 4.5 months and has slept through ever since. Before that she woke up to feed had a bottle and would go back to sleep right away in her bassinet. I was very lucky that way. Napping on the other hand was a nightmare until i figured it out when she was a year old that she needed a modified night time routine to go to sleep
My 4 month old is in this understood knowledge that as soon as he starts to stir, you can either go in and calm him and he might go back to sleep immediately. Or, i can ignore it and get an angry screaming baby for the next 2 hours. I feel there's no win.
The first six months can be incredibly challenging, especially when it comes to sleep. I do have a newborn to 6 month sleep course, called Peaceful Dreams, which might help you and your little one get more sleep. If you're interested this is the link to the course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you, I'll check it out! In this video you mentioned not to rush whenever the baby starts to kick around or make crying sounds. But how long should we let them cry or get unhappy? I can understand that if he's not making any sounds that he's fine and I don't need to go in there, but once he starts crying, how long should I stay away from him?
@@RicardoReyes I don't know what her answer will be, but I figured out eventually to let myself go to the bathroom, wash my hands, pray for a moment, and then go in if the baby is still very upset. About 5 mins.
It all depends on the sounds he’s making. If his noises start getting louder and more intense, that’s usually a sign he needs you. However, if the sounds stay at the same volume, stop and start, or gradually get quieter, it’s best to just wait and watch.
Trying everything can also be a problem though. Because that means no consistency, you didn't push through either method. Consistency is KEY. Everytime baby gets different and new reactions. Of course that can possibly effect them badly.
@@Nana_niko that’s an assumption because yes we pushed through with stretches of one thing at a time. I’m a scientist I understand controls and hypotheses. Like I said, some babies are just not good sleepers but kudos if any of these work for you. Just encouragement for others who may be in the same boat as me.
Same here. There was time I wish my baby was waking every 2h at night. He was waking up 8 times every night and slept for maximum 30 min at a time during the day. There was no chance he would fall back to sleep on his own or would fall asleep in his crib. So yeah I think some babies are just bad sleepers and none of the common tips work.
Same here. I'm currently in a "please sleep more than 20 minutes" phase right now. I tried everything (trialed for 2 weeks each time). So far, the only things that are working are acceptance, time, and lots of coffee
Please make a video about teaching to fall asleep in the crib! I'm going to attempt to teach my little one but lots of informations on the internet seem vague to me and I'm scared i will fail because of lack of the right information (how to start, how to do it, how long each night, do I do it until he falls asleep or is there some sort of time limit on how much time you spend on trying to get your little one to sleep)
Yes, this! It all seems to be behind a paywall, the only free stuff is "Do a routine and put them in the crib awake" but nothing for after that when they immediately start crying for you. I made a mistake with my son which was I read "drowsy but awake" and thought that meant eyes still open but starting to drift like adults do. Apparently that's too far, "drowsy" means tired but very much awake, so I just taught him to rock to sleep by accident.
You just described everything I'm doing wrong exactly (and the two things I'm doing right). Anika is doing well and I envy her ability to nap during the day!
Thank you - this came at the perfect time. My daughter will be three months tomorrow and just started waking in the night when she used to sleep all the way through. I appreciate all the knowledge and advice you’ve shared!
This is really insightful. My two month old daughter is only starting to sleep 2-3 hours at a stretch during the night. Mostly she wakes up to nurse and is right back to sleep for another two hours. I will try some of the tricks you mentioned. Thanks you very much for insights. ❤
what you lived is EXACTLY what I am currently living with my baby ❤😂, is all things my midwife told me but I feel more confident now that YOU said it 😂❤ Thank you for being here for us
At 6.5 mths, my daughter (who slept so well all night) started waking up in the middle of the night..I eventually realized that she was waking up from hunger!! So, we started baby cereal before bed with formula also and that solved that issue!
I'm an overnight nanny. The family set up the bassinet at the foot of the bed. If I need to attend to her, either when I first put her down or if she stirs. I just lay on the bed with my head at the foot of the bed and dangle an arm into the bassinet so I can put my hand on her stomach. We keep the room dark with white noise not too loud, though. Anytime I wake up, I check the app to see how long she's been asleep. Once I wake up and she's been asleep at least 7 hours*, I take the video monitor and go to the kitchen or bathroom and turn that light on to help wake me up and get me ready to be awake to feed her. When the baby is up for a feed at night, I add a small night light strategically behind something to keep it dim but give me a bit of extra light to work compared to the pitch black room. I either change her diaper when she wakes up or take a break in the feed and do it. I make sure not to do it after the feed because it would wake her back up. *At 2 months we aimed for 6 to 8 hours for the first stretch of sleep. She's 3 months now and we're aiming for 7 to 9 hours. I'll probably bump that to 7 and a half to 9 and a half soon trying to reach 8 to 10 at 4 months.
@@analyticalchick3064 Wow...this routine sounds wonderful. I wish I could get my baby to sleep half that long at a stretch. An overnight nanny sound like a really good idea. You sound like you really love your job. 😘
My baby is almost 4 months old and I co sleep with him because every time I put him down to crib, he wakes up and cries . I am so tired of doing this for many times and he still awakes. And when I put him by my side on my bed, he sleeps well. Any suggestions how to switch him successfully to bed? He wakes up every 2-3 hours for feeding at night. And he is fussy at night and he is fighting to sleep even though he feels so sleepy . I am a first time Mom and gets exhausted
4:30 This is what I had to learn in the first month with my baby. My husband was the one who taught me even... As a mom we tend to be overprotective and want to soothe our babies right away but we should give them the space to grow so they can rely on themselves also. I've developed a night time routine for my baby so he's familiar with sleep time and begins to make a difference between night and day. It goes like so: At around 11pm (sometimes 10pm) • Breastfeed • Change diaper • Body massage (simple) • Change into pj's and prepare sleep sack on his bed already • Breastfeed again • Burp • Put in bed in sleep sack Sometimes it goes smoothly and he falls asleep but sometimes he needs extra help (lately he's been getting some gas). Give him the pacifier and make sure it stays bc when he drops it he wakes up. It definitely depends on your baby's temperament. But you can work around that and see what works for you and what doesn't. Keep trying until eventually something sticks. Trial and error. Just don't do too much. Babies like stability. Routine. As adults do too. At least I do. You got this!!
I think I ruined my almost 6 month old by holding her for every nap and co-sleeping at night. It was never my intention to do this but she was just so difficult and now I’m not sure I can undo it. I’m afraid I’m going to ruin my marriage though because baby and I sleep in the guest room so as to not wake up my husband.
I don't think you can ruin your baby by giving too much love... Every baby is different. Some are good sleepers and others difficult. There are cases of twins and one is a very easy sleeper and the other needs to be with a parent all the time. It shows that how your baby sleeps is not your shortcoming or merit. It's how the baby is wired, temperament and genetics. Our daughter of 6 months is also a difficult sleeper, but we see it as an opportunity to create such a strong bond. At night she sleeps with me and my husband. During the day, she's often in the carrier or sling. I feel this is how it's supposed to be (this is what my instinct tells me). We expect babies to sleep like adults... Every baby will learn to sleep independently at a point. Our daughter is starting to sleep independent naps during the day at the moment(6 months 3 weeks). I always rocked or fed her to sleep. But I felt her change and suddenly it was there, the independent nap! Not all the time and sometimes she still cries or wants to sleep on me (don't have to rock anymore though). It takes time, patience and watching your baby closely. And it's not my place to say something about your marriage, but you should talk to your husband if you feel this way. Probably he does not feel like the marriage is ruined at all and if he does... why should it be that he's entitled to his night sleep and you are not? You have a baby together, right? Sorry for the long response... I felt the insecurity in your reply that I feel too at times. But started to read alternative approaches and research. Learned there are different ways and that you will not ruin your baby by tending to their needs!
My daughter is about to turn 2. She was a terrible sleeper as a new born. Super colicky and nothing seemed to help. Around 10 months, did some sleep training and she has slept through the night ever since. Here I am with our second (he’s 2 days old) in the middle of the night, watching videos, trying to get ahead of it this time lol.
Hi Emma! When should you start allowing a baby to fall asleep in their crib/bassinet without rocking or holding them to sleep? My daughter is 5 weeks now and we haven't been doing this yet. Thanks!!! :)
You can start this process now, but it’s important to be there and respond to your baby’s cues in the moment so that you’re supporting her as she learns to fall asleep on her own. This will help her feel secure while gradually getting used to falling asleep without being held or rocked. This is something I teach and demonstrate with our daughter in my course Peaceful Dreams. If you’re interested, here’s the link to the course: course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
Emma, your timing is impeccable, mother is showing fatigue pumping milk & feeding baby. I tend to baby feeding but she still has to pump. Keep up the good work.
I'm a little confused. Do we not feed them in the middle of the night at 5 months if they're hungry? He wakes every 3 hours just to feed and goes right back to bed after.
Many babies at this age still need nighttime feeds, so it’s important to respond to their hunger cues. If your baby is waking up hungry, definitely go ahead and feed them. As your baby gets older, you should start to notice longer stretches of sleep at the beginning of the night before he wakes for that first feed. This is a natural progression as they grow and their sleep patterns develop. However, if this doesn’t happen and your baby continues to wake every 3 hours, it’s possible that he may be waking this often because he needs your help to link his sleep cycles.
Our baby would sleep through the night as well from 6 weeks onward and then at 3,5 months she changed to waking up some times a night. We didn't change anything. She falls asleep by herself many nights, I never rock her to sleep. Sometimes she wakes up and the pacifyer makes her sleep again immediately and sometimes she doesn't stop crying and I give he some milk (breast) and she drink 2 to 3 minutes and goes back to sleep immediately. She is a great sleeper, just crying out 3 to 4 times in her night sleep, but she doesn't really wake up. She sleeps from 8pm to 6 or 7 am.
My baby went from sleeping through the night at 6 weeks to waking up every 30 minutes to 2 hours by 4 months. I recently got her back to sleeping on average 3.5 hours at a time. We’re still working on it.
This might be a dumb question, but how do you know if/when a baby is going to wake up but go back to sleep in the night? I have a good sense of active sleep vs awake, but when he wakes up in the night I go feed him to try to get ahead of him crying. Do I wait till he’s actively crying?
I breastfeed my 7 months old Baby and I do co-sleeping. He used to wake up by 3 times from 7pm yo 5 pm but since one week it is a lot more. But I think it ist just a fase. I read aboout they are getting more clingy at night when they are about 8 months because they are more aware of all that surrounds them and so they tend to be overstimulated and so they need more comfort. I think it is important to listen to helpful advices like that as well as listen to your instincts. Even if I admit that this is so hard as a first time mom with a lot of insecurities and worries.
My baby was amazing at falling asleep by himself in his crib a few weeks ago, however, as we approach 3 moths age, he started going crazy when we put him down in his bed and starts to kick and squirm.. We can only sooth him by holding him 😕
I tried this just now for a nap with my 3 month old… his wakings have been getting a bit worse the last few weeks. It took 20 minutes, but shushing over him and the automatic bounce of our Cradlewise got him to sleep. (We plan to put him in a regular crib once he’s 4 months old). I suppose I shouldn’t necessarily expect this to work to extend naps due to his age? Will try this at bedtime too. The picking up and putting down trial and error of rocking and nursing to sleep is so much! Thanks!
That's great it worked for your little one. Unfortunately, at this age it is normal to to have short naps (AKA catnaps) during the day. Generally, they can start to link sleep cycles and extend their naps around 5 - 6 months of age. But it helps if they know how to fall asleep in their crib or sleep space.
@EmmaHubbard Congratulations that it went better with your second and third child! But how did you continue with your first child? You already had a "bad" rhythm, how did you change it? My daughter is 2 years now and still wakes up like every 3 hours. If she doesn't feel or see me rightaway she starts shaking and crying. Has been like that for a long time. Sometimes she falls back asleep by herself, but she still needs me a lot of times. So I would agree, that some babies/toddlers simply need more help in the night than others!
Thank you for providing the most accurate content to a baby owner's manual… mother has been pumping steadily for 3 months now, brand new garage freezer is full of milk pouches, my point is she’s experiencing fatigue from constantly pumping and tending to baby. She didn’t let me help me much before but now she asks I take baby ( 2 month early preemie) from 4 am to noon. She has fallen asleep with while pumping, Pumping is draining her, literally. Shes on vitamins now to supplement her. Shes not bionic woman but trying to be!
Hi Emma, thank you for sharing .. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to help baby sleep through the night or what you did with your first. My LO is almost one and still wakes multiple times. Im guilty of always rocking and singing or nursing her to sleep and I am at a loss with how to teach her that she can fall asleep without all of that. She wont even fall asleep in the car seat when we are out for too long no matter how tired she is she will just cry and cry and cry
What do I do if I have a baby with reflux and have to hold her upright for 30 min after each feed? She falls asleep at bedtime/in the night in my arms because we have to sit up for so long. She only has one nighttime waking right now. But I feel like she's used to be held to go to sleep because we can't put her down immediately.
I wish I knew this earlier, my 22 month old (almost 2 years) cant fall asleep on his own, only went feeding or rocking or when extremely tired. Please, how do I fix this? How do I teach a toddler to fall asleep when he needs to and stop resisting sleep.
Having a consistent bedtime routine helps. Basically doing the same thing with them every night to prepare them to shift into bedtime mode. So our kid has a bath, then we get him dressed in his pjs, he gets his teeth brushed, then we read a few stories to him, sing him a lullaby and then say good night. You will have to do some sleep-training, which means letting him cry a bit, but you can approach that in a way that you feel comfortable with as a parent. So we let our son cry for five minutes, go in to reassure, then 10 minutes and then sometimes fifteen. But I also trusted my gut and if his cry sounds really distressed I would go in sooner. There’s different methods for sleep training, not just the one I talked about, so do some reading and also trust your gut and do what feels right.
To add to the responded comment,I noticed that sometimes they are clingy before bed because they really need some parental connection. I went through a long faze during that age of playing hide and seek before bed with my son. My husband or I would be a sort of monster that sought him and mom or dad out in the dark lol. He loved it. We would turn all the lights off, I would hide, and him and his dad would seek me out with a flash light. I always made time for that or a tickle fight. They really want connection before bed, and they are more willing to go to sleep when they have it.
@@Emily_Ursuliak we try to maintain a routine, but he resists because he knows its time for sleep and he wants to stay awake, we press through every time but i just wish it was easier 🤦♀️
@@essypach6409 it gets easier with that first baby once that nap goes away. I hope you find a way to make it easier before then!! One random thing I did with my daughter when she was a toddler was that she and I worked together to make a pillow that was special for her in her bed. Then I could say, "first we brush teeth, then you can lay on the pillow you made."
Dang, how I wish this video was made a year ago, when I had a newborn 😢 I made all of these mistakes and eventually resorted to cosleeping , now at 14 months my daughter still wakes up several times a night and needs my boob to fall back asleep 😭 I’m dreaming of a full night sleep but afraid we won’t get there until we drop the boob 😢
Usually I stay quiet and hope he’ll go back to sleep when my baby wakes up at night. But if after making some noises and little whines he starts bawling and screaming I know I have to drag myself out of bed. 😂
My little is 9.5m and I've tried and tried again. He also climbs up and I can be in there for hours laying his back down trying to pat him to sleep :( Even after a 10-20m feed
Emma please can you also make some videos about older babies? Like 12 months and above... It would be very helpful... I'm kind of desperate with my daughter. Round 7 months she stopped breastfeeding to sleep and was almost sleeping through the night. Then at 12 months she started needing the breast again... Now she's 14 months and still wakes up continuously... I wonder what I'm doing wrong... She still has a long nap in the morning and in the afternoon, could that be the reason?
By 14 months, my oldest went down to one nap a day. He slept like the dead when I made the change. You could try going to one nap. It could be that she just doesn't need two anymore.
How many hours wake windows did u leave for baby ? As my 14months baby gets 2naps n still wakes up in the night for breast milk . The most I leave my son to be awake after nap is 3hrs mostly if not 4or 5hrs when we r outside
@@kanxiale1526 it's usually max 4 hours, but now she's started stay more awake during the afternoon and it's difficult to make her sleep on the afternoon. I'm wondering if she's about to skip this nap...
@kanxiale1526 14 month olds do not need to eat at night anymore. In fact my they don't need to eat at night anymore by 6 months. I commend anyone for voluntarily feeding a one year old in the middle of the night because by 6 months, I'm over that. My son was sleeping 7pm-7am straight through at 14 months with a 2-3 hour nap at noon
This just happened to us last night. Our 21 month old got up at 4 and went back to sleep at 6. And when he woke up, we went to his room to soothe him and hoping we would get back to sleep. But that wasn't the case. Should we have waited 5-10 mins and see if he went back to sleep? Is that time good enough?
My baby has never slept through and is now 4 months. When he wakes up he always wants a short feed. I cannot really let him complain on his own otherwise he rolls on his tummy in a dramatic desperate fashion eating his hands or scratches all of his face. Can it be because he’s hungry for real or just comfort? If I tend to him immediately he doesn’t fully wake and falls asleep straight after the short feed Can it be I have supply issues? (i need to supplement with formula in the evening, but I always give him as much as he wants)
Try getting him back asleep in the crib would be my advice. Using least intervention first. Like increase sound machine. Then touch. Then soother, then rock or vibrate them and pick them up and cuddle in need be. And feeding them last. This is from an expensive sleep program I got from someone. “Taking Cara babies”. The idea is to stretch there feed window 5-10 minutes every night. So that every week you are gaining around an hour more of sleep in there feed window. I also suffer from supply issues and supplemented in the evening. I gave a large bottle and breast feed before bed and I had a baby that slept the night. I am struggling with the one cycle naps and putting baby down awake
Hi Emma, my baby is 9 months old and has been waking twice (ish) a night which has been just fine for my family. Now however we are traveling and staying at my parents for a couple weeks and she has been waking up so often, even standing at the crib and crying. Any advice for me?
9 month olds don't need to eat at night at all and can get all of their calories during the day. I recommend weaning night feeds and making sure they are getting enough nourishment during the day. I would sleep train too, but that's just me. My 5 month old only eats once at night, and by 6 months, I will wean him of his night feed.
Hi all, my little boy 2y6m still go to bed only with an adult laying with him.. it takes almost 1h everyday.. he was Always a Bad sleeper and UP to 2y old learned to sleep only by moms breast..but right now we have a little girl and it becomes really too hard too keep up even if we love hugs 😂 Any Idea or just wait he gets older ? Thanks for your vidéos !
Instead of a dedicated white noise machine, I reccomend a yoto player, lots of volume controls, free white noise and amazing for language development when they are a bit older, my 5yo falls asleep listening to a nonfiction book every night and lives it!!
My 6 month old cries herself to sleep EVERY NIGHT because Ive just started putting her in her bed to sleep at night. I know I waited too long to begin. She wakes up at 4am for a diaper change & the process starts over. Any suggestions?
sorry but from all vids I see around it seems like babies would sleep in a separate room even at 3 months age... not only from this one, there's plenty on utube... isn't that dangerous?
Hi! Just to clarify, I'm not recommending babies sleep in a separate room at 3 months of age in this video. I don't recommend that at all. My baby slept in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps. The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months).
Hi! The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months). Room sharing until they are 1.5 years old isn’t something I have heard of. Are you able to share the source of where you read or heard this from? Also just to clarify she did sleep in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps.
Although it's uncommon for 6-week-old babies to sleep through the night, some do. As long as they’re gaining weight well (as my daughter was) and your milk supply isn’t affected if you're breastfeeding (which it wasn’t for me), it’s perfectly fine to let them sleep and feed them when they naturally wake up.
It’s never too late to make changes to improve your little one’s sleep. It could be as simple as establishing a consistent bedtime routine and wake-up time, or you might choose to take a more structured approach. Either way, there’s plenty of time to make positive changes! 😊
@@jesshall2624 1. You could have politely share your evidence base findings. I am sure many of us are open to hear recent Peer Reviewed research as we mothers are independently researching for methods that can assist on us our journey. 2. Your approach was not nice and youre really coming of as a rude person. So if you thought you are trying to be helpful, please do not comment on my conversation and take it elsewhere. Thanks.
I sleep trained my oldest, and he always comes to me for help, even at night. Children really don't sleep that great in bed with us. We snore, get up to pee, creek the floor, roll over. My son slept terrible in bed with me and slept amazingly in his own room. We would go on play dates, and all of his friends had bags under their eyes, but he was always energized and rested. Not everything is so black and white.
But in Asian countries especially in India it's completely different, we co-sleep with our kids well into 5 + years. No wonder mental illness/ gun violence is more in USA than Asian countries. The child needs touch and cuddles from their mother. This is completely denied at the infant stage itself. Even my pediatrician advised the same cr@! to me but I didn't follow it. This creates insecurity, fear at an early stage and in the US children are not as close to their parents as you can see in Asian countries. Think for a few seconds how will you feel locked up in a room with lights turned off, strapped in a bed and doors closed not knowing if someone will to their resuce when in need. Overall I feel just because women need to go to work (to encourage the work culture) the next morning they devise such techniques and proudly say the child is sleep trained but in the end the baby is tortured.
I want to be very clear here. There is absolutely no evidence to support a link between co-sleeping and mental health and/or gun violence. Or violence of any kind. To suggest that mental illness and gun violence are higher in any given country due to a smaller percentage of the population choosing to co-sleep with their baby is absolutely unfounded, and based on no evidence at all. Likewise - not co-sleeping "creating insecurity and fear at an early stage". There is no evidence to support this statement. I believe we should all respect cultural differences. That respect should be universal. Making broad, unfounded claims like these is not helpful to anyone. Being judgemental of how a particular country/culture does something that is different to yours isn't welcome on this channel.
@@EmmaHubbard just for your fyi , Indian population is 4 times the US and not a small %,. The US has a very small % of the population compared to India. China is the most populated country in the world. It's very easy to say in one line there's no evidence but there's evidence right in front of us when we see things happen everyday when a large % of the population are doing it in a different way. I feel if you do more research on this there's definitely connection on our childhood and how we grow up into an adult. That's what every research says. I definitely respect other cultures and ethnicity. There's always good and bad in every culture, maybe this is an opportunity to expand and learn the science behind how people in different cultures and countries make their babies sleep.
I stand by exactly what I said. Your comment was disrespectful, and the claims you've made are completely false. Linking mental illness and gun violence to co-sleeping rates has absolutely no scientific basis. If you believe it does, please share the research and studies to prove otherwise.
@@EmmaHubbard ok, I have nothing more to say, I have seen both sides of the world and have wider exposure than you of different countries. It's not my responsibility to provide the research papers to someone who is first and foremost not open minded to other cultural ways. If you would like to grow professionally please search for it yourself. I was only trying to say there are other ways followed in other countries. That was my point. There is nothing to be disrespectful about. Best of luck in your career. Thank you.
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Helping with great grandbaby. I am learning so much from you !!!! He is 2 months old now
My first born never would have let us lay her down awake! My second baby is 4 months old now and a much better sleeper I think this could possibly work with her. I really think temperament has a lot to do with if this is successful
Pregnant with baby #4 here and I'm preparing to remind myself to pause! To all moms of one child: these things get easier as you have more children because you stop doubting yourself. I can't say that every child is going to be as good of a sleeper as another, but don't let sleep stop you from growing your family. You're learning, too!
Love this - parenting does get a lot easier with each kid that you have because you know what you're doing.
@@EmmaHubbard Amen! It's a relief!
@@elizabetho7654 thank you ❤️
Needed to hear that - pregnant with No. 2 and sometimes anxious.
@@alexandrastr8878 you'll be amazed how much you learned the first time around and you won't doubt yourself nearly as much! It's great and just gets better! I hope the transition to two treats you well!
Emma, you’re a godsend to first-time parents. We have been putting all your tips into practice. Setting a bedtime routine, leaving her be when she sleeps noisily, teaching her to put herself to sleep, improving her sleep environment. It took time but my little one has been sleeping through the night at 3.5 months, waking up at 6 am now. Thank you so much!!
Not only for 1st time parents also 2nd time parents like me.
Thank you so much! It’s so nice to hear that the tips are making your life as parents a little easier and everyone is getting lots of sleep!
Was thrilled to find your vlog. My granddaughter is expecting our first great granddaughter . I wanted to find out what are the parenting trends today. To my greatest joy you were passing on the same messages I did! I was a Plunket Nurse, this is a wonderful organisation we have in NZ . We are Registered Nurses with another years training in woman and child wellness and development and parenting practice. I worked in the district then on Plunketline, for over 30 years , so learnt a lot about other parenting practice but over time, what you are saying and what I was say are the same thing.! I have shared your videos with my granddaughter as she lives in England without her family support, but a wonderful husband by her side and I know your recommendations and the excellent reason given for them is going to help her through this exciting but at times exhausting and stressful times. Thank you so much, keep up the great work
Thank you so much for your lovely message!
I’m thrilled that you’ve shared my videos with your granddaughter. It can be challenging to navigate parenting without close family nearby, but it sounds like she’s got a wonderful support system in you and her husband.
Wishing you all the best with your soon-to-arrive great-granddaughter!
I started to implement independent sleep at 3.5 months with my son. We went from still waking every 2 hrs to him sleeping till 4am, feeding him at that time, then up for the day at 7am. We actually have gotten a couple days where he has slept fully through the night. I always rocked him to sleep so we put him to sleep by rocking his bassinet, then we moved to putting him down without rocking but still there in rhe room shushing him, now we put him down give him a kiss and leave the room. A good nap schedule and capping sleep really helped us. Also having a set nap/bedtime routine plus set bedtime has helped soooo much.
Sounds similar to the Mom on Call schedule. Loving this for you and baby!
My daughter skipped the 4 month sleep regression and started sleeping through the night at 4.5 months and has slept through ever since. Before that she woke up to feed had a bottle and would go back to sleep right away in her bassinet. I was very lucky that way. Napping on the other hand was a nightmare until i figured it out when she was a year old that she needed a modified night time routine to go to sleep
It's incredibly important for a baby to know someone is there for them, also in the night.
Totally agree (as I mentioned in the video- not sure if you watched it)
My 4 month old is in this understood knowledge that as soon as he starts to stir, you can either go in and calm him and he might go back to sleep immediately. Or, i can ignore it and get an angry screaming baby for the next 2 hours.
I feel there's no win.
The first six months can be incredibly challenging, especially when it comes to sleep.
I do have a newborn to 6 month sleep course, called Peaceful Dreams, which might help you and your little one get more sleep. If you're interested this is the link to the course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
@@EmmaHubbard Thank you, I'll check it out!
In this video you mentioned not to rush whenever the baby starts to kick around or make crying sounds. But how long should we let them cry or get unhappy? I can understand that if he's not making any sounds that he's fine and I don't need to go in there, but once he starts crying, how long should I stay away from him?
@@RicardoReyes I don't know what her answer will be, but I figured out eventually to let myself go to the bathroom, wash my hands, pray for a moment, and then go in if the baby is still very upset. About 5 mins.
It all depends on the sounds he’s making. If his noises start getting louder and more intense, that’s usually a sign he needs you. However, if the sounds stay at the same volume, stop and start, or gradually get quieter, it’s best to just wait and watch.
Yeah that’s all well and good but some babies are just not good sleepers. We tried everything. And I mean everything.
Trying everything can also be a problem though. Because that means no consistency, you didn't push through either method. Consistency is KEY. Everytime baby gets different and new reactions. Of course that can possibly effect them badly.
@@Nana_niko that’s an assumption because yes we pushed through with stretches of one thing at a time. I’m a scientist I understand controls and hypotheses. Like I said, some babies are just not good sleepers but kudos if any of these work for you. Just encouragement for others who may be in the same boat as me.
Same here. There was time I wish my baby was waking every 2h at night. He was waking up 8 times every night and slept for maximum 30 min at a time during the day. There was no chance he would fall back to sleep on his own or would fall asleep in his crib. So yeah I think some babies are just bad sleepers and none of the common tips work.
Same here. I'm currently in a "please sleep more than 20 minutes" phase right now. I tried everything (trialed for 2 weeks each time). So far, the only things that are working are acceptance, time, and lots of coffee
@@rachelrak4502 hang in there mama ❤️
Please make a video about teaching to fall asleep in the crib! I'm going to attempt to teach my little one but lots of informations on the internet seem vague to me and I'm scared i will fail because of lack of the right information (how to start, how to do it, how long each night, do I do it until he falls asleep or is there some sort of time limit on how much time you spend on trying to get your little one to sleep)
Yes, this! It all seems to be behind a paywall, the only free stuff is "Do a routine and put them in the crib awake" but nothing for after that when they immediately start crying for you.
I made a mistake with my son which was I read "drowsy but awake" and thought that meant eyes still open but starting to drift like adults do. Apparently that's too far, "drowsy" means tired but very much awake, so I just taught him to rock to sleep by accident.
You just described everything I'm doing wrong exactly (and the two things I'm doing right). Anika is doing well and I envy her ability to nap during the day!
It's so good she is catching up on her sleep in the day. Hopefully, you get some time to rest too!
Thank you - this came at the perfect time. My daughter will be three months tomorrow and just started waking in the night when she used to sleep all the way through. I appreciate all the knowledge and advice you’ve shared!
No worries at all! I hope it helps!
This is what my 5 month old just started doing
Thanks for making the nap guide free! 🙏🏽
You're so welcome!
This is really insightful. My two month old daughter is only starting to sleep 2-3 hours at a stretch during the night. Mostly she wakes up to nurse and is right back to sleep for another two hours. I will try some of the tricks you mentioned. Thanks you very much for insights. ❤
No worries. I hope they help!
what you lived is EXACTLY what I am currently living with my baby ❤😂, is all things my midwife told me but I feel more confident now that YOU said it 😂❤ Thank you for being here for us
At 6.5 mths, my daughter (who slept so well all night) started waking up in the middle of the night..I eventually realized that she was waking up from hunger!! So, we started baby cereal before bed with formula also and that solved that issue!
I'm an overnight nanny. The family set up the bassinet at the foot of the bed. If I need to attend to her, either when I first put her down or if she stirs. I just lay on the bed with my head at the foot of the bed and dangle an arm into the bassinet so I can put my hand on her stomach. We keep the room dark with white noise not too loud, though.
Anytime I wake up, I check the app to see how long she's been asleep. Once I wake up and she's been asleep at least 7 hours*, I take the video monitor and go to the kitchen or bathroom and turn that light on to help wake me up and get me ready to be awake to feed her. When the baby is up for a feed at night, I add a small night light strategically behind something to keep it dim but give me a bit of extra light to work compared to the pitch black room. I either change her diaper when she wakes up or take a break in the feed and do it. I make sure not to do it after the feed because it would wake her back up.
*At 2 months we aimed for 6 to 8 hours for the first stretch of sleep. She's 3 months now and we're aiming for 7 to 9 hours. I'll probably bump that to 7 and a half to 9 and a half soon trying to reach 8 to 10 at 4 months.
@@analyticalchick3064 Wow...this routine sounds wonderful. I wish I could get my baby to sleep half that long at a stretch. An overnight nanny sound like a really good idea. You sound like you really love your job. 😘
@@naomiselekere1870 Thank you I do love it.
My baby is almost 4 months old and I co sleep with him because every time I put him down to crib, he wakes up and cries .
I am so tired of doing this for many times and he still awakes. And when I put him by my side on my bed, he sleeps well.
Any suggestions how to switch him successfully to bed?
He wakes up every 2-3 hours for feeding at night.
And he is fussy at night and he is fighting to sleep even though he feels so sleepy .
I am a first time Mom and gets exhausted
How long should you pause, watch and listen? And how do you know when is the right time to wake them up?
4:30 This is what I had to learn in the first month with my baby. My husband was the one who taught me even... As a mom we tend to be overprotective and want to soothe our babies right away but we should give them the space to grow so they can rely on themselves also.
I've developed a night time routine for my baby so he's familiar with sleep time and begins to make a difference between night and day.
It goes like so:
At around 11pm (sometimes 10pm)
• Breastfeed
• Change diaper
• Body massage (simple)
• Change into pj's and prepare sleep sack on his bed already
• Breastfeed again
• Burp
• Put in bed in sleep sack
Sometimes it goes smoothly and he falls asleep but sometimes he needs extra help (lately he's been getting some gas). Give him the pacifier and make sure it stays bc when he drops it he wakes up.
It definitely depends on your baby's temperament. But you can work around that and see what works for you and what doesn't. Keep trying until eventually something sticks. Trial and error. Just don't do too much. Babies like stability. Routine. As adults do too. At least I do.
You got this!!
I think I ruined my almost 6 month old by holding her for every nap and co-sleeping at night. It was never my intention to do this but she was just so difficult and now I’m not sure I can undo it. I’m afraid I’m going to ruin my marriage though because baby and I sleep in the guest room so as to not wake up my husband.
I don't think you can ruin your baby by giving too much love... Every baby is different. Some are good sleepers and others difficult. There are cases of twins and one is a very easy sleeper and the other needs to be with a parent all the time. It shows that how your baby sleeps is not your shortcoming or merit. It's how the baby is wired, temperament and genetics. Our daughter of 6 months is also a difficult sleeper, but we see it as an opportunity to create such a strong bond. At night she sleeps with me and my husband. During the day, she's often in the carrier or sling. I feel this is how it's supposed to be (this is what my instinct tells me). We expect babies to sleep like adults... Every baby will learn to sleep independently at a point. Our daughter is starting to sleep independent naps during the day at the moment(6 months 3 weeks). I always rocked or fed her to sleep. But I felt her change and suddenly it was there, the independent nap! Not all the time and sometimes she still cries or wants to sleep on me (don't have to rock anymore though). It takes time, patience and watching your baby closely.
And it's not my place to say something about your marriage, but you should talk to your husband if you feel this way. Probably he does not feel like the marriage is ruined at all and if he does... why should it be that he's entitled to his night sleep and you are not? You have a baby together, right?
Sorry for the long response... I felt the insecurity in your reply that I feel too at times. But started to read alternative approaches and research. Learned there are different ways and that you will not ruin your baby by tending to their needs!
My daughter is about to turn 2. She was a terrible sleeper as a new born. Super colicky and nothing seemed to help. Around 10 months, did some sleep training and she has slept through the night ever since. Here I am with our second (he’s 2 days old) in the middle of the night, watching videos, trying to get ahead of it this time lol.
Hi Emma! When should you start allowing a baby to fall asleep in their crib/bassinet without rocking or holding them to sleep? My daughter is 5 weeks now and we haven't been doing this yet. Thanks!!! :)
You can start this process now, but it’s important to be there and respond to your baby’s cues in the moment so that you’re supporting her as she learns to fall asleep on her own. This will help her feel secure while gradually getting used to falling asleep without being held or rocked.
This is something I teach and demonstrate with our daughter in my course Peaceful Dreams. If you’re interested, here’s the link to the course: course:brightestbeginning.com/courses/peacefuldreams/
My son at 3m went from waking up every hour to sleeping every 2.5-3 hours at 4m so I’m thankful where I’m at now
You would be feeling a lot better now that you're getting more blocks of consistent sleep.
Emma, your timing is impeccable, mother is showing fatigue pumping milk & feeding baby. I tend to baby feeding but she still has to pump. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much for sharing!
I'm a little confused. Do we not feed them in the middle of the night at 5 months if they're hungry? He wakes every 3 hours just to feed and goes right back to bed after.
Many babies at this age still need nighttime feeds, so it’s important to respond to their hunger cues. If your baby is waking up hungry, definitely go ahead and feed them.
As your baby gets older, you should start to notice longer stretches of sleep at the beginning of the night before he wakes for that first feed. This is a natural progression as they grow and their sleep patterns develop. However, if this doesn’t happen and your baby continues to wake every 3 hours, it’s possible that he may be waking this often because he needs your help to link his sleep cycles.
Our baby would sleep through the night as well from 6 weeks onward and then at 3,5 months she changed to waking up some times a night. We didn't change anything. She falls asleep by herself many nights, I never rock her to sleep. Sometimes she wakes up and the pacifyer makes her sleep again immediately and sometimes she doesn't stop crying and I give he some milk (breast) and she drink 2 to 3 minutes and goes back to sleep immediately. She is a great sleeper, just crying out 3 to 4 times in her night sleep, but she doesn't really wake up. She sleeps from 8pm to 6 or 7 am.
Being a first time mom is hard. I really love the book Precious Little Sleep.
My baby went from sleeping through the night at 6 weeks to waking up every 30 minutes to 2 hours by 4 months. I recently got her back to sleeping on average 3.5 hours at a time. We’re still working on it.
This might be a dumb question, but how do you know if/when a baby is going to wake up but go back to sleep in the night? I have a good sense of active sleep vs awake, but when he wakes up in the night I go feed him to try to get ahead of him crying. Do I wait till he’s actively crying?
I breastfeed my 7 months old Baby and I do co-sleeping. He used to wake up by 3 times from 7pm yo 5 pm but since one week it is a lot more. But I think it ist just a fase. I read aboout they are getting more clingy at night when they are about 8 months because they are more aware of all that surrounds them and so they tend to be overstimulated and so they need more comfort. I think it is important to listen to helpful advices like that as well as listen to your instincts. Even if I admit that this is so hard as a first time mom with a lot of insecurities and worries.
Genius Emma!! Earphones and my phone. Thank you!!!
My baby was amazing at falling asleep by himself in his crib a few weeks ago, however, as we approach 3 moths age, he started going crazy when we put him down in his bed and starts to kick and squirm.. We can only sooth him by holding him 😕
I tried this just now for a nap with my 3 month old… his wakings have been getting a bit worse the last few weeks. It took 20 minutes, but shushing over him and the automatic bounce of our Cradlewise got him to sleep. (We plan to put him in a regular crib once he’s 4 months old).
I suppose I shouldn’t necessarily expect this to work to extend naps due to his age? Will try this at bedtime too. The picking up and putting down trial and error of rocking and nursing to sleep is so much! Thanks!
That's great it worked for your little one.
Unfortunately, at this age it is normal to to have short naps (AKA catnaps) during the day. Generally, they can start to link sleep cycles and extend their naps around 5 - 6 months of age. But it helps if they know how to fall asleep in their crib or sleep space.
Aaw, that baby looks like a mini you! :D
Thanks!
I wish I knew how to apply this with twins…😅
@EmmaHubbard
Congratulations that it went better with your second and third child!
But how did you continue with your first child? You already had a "bad" rhythm, how did you change it?
My daughter is 2 years now and still wakes up like every 3 hours. If she doesn't feel or see me rightaway she starts shaking and crying. Has been like that for a long time. Sometimes she falls back asleep by herself, but she still needs me a lot of times.
So I would agree, that some babies/toddlers simply need more help in the night than others!
Thank you for providing the most accurate content to a baby owner's manual… mother has been pumping steadily for 3 months now, brand new garage freezer is full of milk pouches, my point is she’s experiencing fatigue from constantly pumping and tending to baby. She didn’t let me help me much before but now she asks I take baby ( 2 month early preemie) from 4 am to noon. She has fallen asleep with while pumping, Pumping is draining her, literally. Shes on vitamins now to supplement her. Shes not bionic woman but trying to be!
Hi Emma, thank you for sharing .. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to help baby sleep through the night or what you did with your first. My LO is almost one and still wakes multiple times. Im guilty of always rocking and singing or nursing her to sleep and I am at a loss with how to teach her that she can fall asleep without all of that. She wont even fall asleep in the car seat when we are out for too long no matter how tired she is she will just cry and cry and cry
So my baby is 7 months, he does fine napping in the day for the most part but wakes several times a night and this momma is tired
What do I do if I have a baby with reflux and have to hold her upright for 30 min after each feed? She falls asleep at bedtime/in the night in my arms because we have to sit up for so long. She only has one nighttime waking right now. But I feel like she's used to be held to go to sleep because we can't put her down immediately.
This was a very informative video. Unique and helpful info. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Hi is it okay for my 3months old baby to sleep on the side . He feels comfortable sleeping on the side.
I wish I knew this earlier, my 22 month old (almost 2 years) cant fall asleep on his own, only went feeding or rocking or when extremely tired. Please, how do I fix this? How do I teach a toddler to fall asleep when he needs to and stop resisting sleep.
Having a consistent bedtime routine helps. Basically doing the same thing with them every night to prepare them to shift into bedtime mode. So our kid has a bath, then we get him dressed in his pjs, he gets his teeth brushed, then we read a few stories to him, sing him a lullaby and then say good night. You will have to do some sleep-training, which means letting him cry a bit, but you can approach that in a way that you feel comfortable with as a parent. So we let our son cry for five minutes, go in to reassure, then 10 minutes and then sometimes fifteen. But I also trusted my gut and if his cry sounds really distressed I would go in sooner. There’s different methods for sleep training, not just the one I talked about, so do some reading and also trust your gut and do what feels right.
To add to the responded comment,I noticed that sometimes they are clingy before bed because they really need some parental connection. I went through a long faze during that age of playing hide and seek before bed with my son. My husband or I would be a sort of monster that sought him and mom or dad out in the dark lol. He loved it. We would turn all the lights off, I would hide, and him and his dad would seek me out with a flash light. I always made time for that or a tickle fight. They really want connection before bed, and they are more willing to go to sleep when they have it.
@@Emily_Ursuliak we try to maintain a routine, but he resists because he knows its time for sleep and he wants to stay awake, we press through every time but i just wish it was easier 🤦♀️
@@essypach6409 it gets easier with that first baby once that nap goes away. I hope you find a way to make it easier before then!! One random thing I did with my daughter when she was a toddler was that she and I worked together to make a pillow that was special for her in her bed. Then I could say, "first we brush teeth, then you can lay on the pillow you made."
Hi Emma can you please make a video on TOG - what to where in what temperature..
Thank you!!!
Thank you
You're welcome
Dang, how I wish this video was made a year ago, when I had a newborn 😢 I made all of these mistakes and eventually resorted to cosleeping , now at 14 months my daughter still wakes up several times a night and needs my boob to fall back asleep 😭 I’m dreaming of a full night sleep but afraid we won’t get there until we drop the boob 😢
Usually I stay quiet and hope he’ll go back to sleep when my baby wakes up at night. But if after making some noises and little whines he starts bawling and screaming I know I have to drag myself out of bed. 😂
My little is 9.5m and I've tried and tried again. He also climbs up and I can be in there for hours laying his back down trying to pat him to sleep :( Even after a 10-20m feed
How long to pause and watch for?
How do you see if you need to feed your baby or doing a diaper change when you keep the room dark?
White noise machine with a light
hello Emma, my LO 8 months now, started circling with her feets around 7 months. is this normal behavior? Also she keeps closing and opening her palms
Emma please can you also make some videos about older babies? Like 12 months and above... It would be very helpful... I'm kind of desperate with my daughter. Round 7 months she stopped breastfeeding to sleep and was almost sleeping through the night. Then at 12 months she started needing the breast again... Now she's 14 months and still wakes up continuously... I wonder what I'm doing wrong... She still has a long nap in the morning and in the afternoon, could that be the reason?
By 14 months, my oldest went down to one nap a day. He slept like the dead when I made the change. You could try going to one nap. It could be that she just doesn't need two anymore.
@@abigailloar956 yeah I was thinking the same... I'll try... Thank you!!
How many hours wake windows did u leave for baby ? As my 14months baby gets 2naps n still wakes up in the night for breast milk . The most I leave my son to be awake after nap is 3hrs mostly if not 4or 5hrs when we r outside
@@kanxiale1526 it's usually max 4 hours, but now she's started stay more awake during the afternoon and it's difficult to make her sleep on the afternoon. I'm wondering if she's about to skip this nap...
@kanxiale1526 14 month olds do not need to eat at night anymore. In fact my they don't need to eat at night anymore by 6 months. I commend anyone for voluntarily feeding a one year old in the middle of the night because by 6 months, I'm over that. My son was sleeping 7pm-7am straight through at 14 months with a 2-3 hour nap at noon
This just happened to us last night. Our 21 month old got up at 4 and went back to sleep at 6. And when he woke up, we went to his room to soothe him and hoping we would get back to sleep. But that wasn't the case. Should we have waited 5-10 mins and see if he went back to sleep? Is that time good enough?
2-year-olds are waaaay different than a 3 month old.
My baby has never slept through and is now 4 months. When he wakes up he always wants a short feed. I cannot really let him complain on his own otherwise he rolls on his tummy in a dramatic desperate fashion eating his hands or scratches all of his face. Can it be because he’s hungry for real or just comfort?
If I tend to him immediately he doesn’t fully wake and falls asleep straight after the short feed
Can it be I have supply issues? (i need to supplement with formula in the evening, but I always give him as much as he wants)
Try getting him back asleep in the crib would be my advice. Using least intervention first. Like increase sound machine. Then touch. Then soother, then rock or vibrate them and pick them up and cuddle in need be. And feeding them last. This is from an expensive sleep program I got from someone. “Taking Cara babies”. The idea is to stretch there feed window 5-10 minutes every night. So that every week you are gaining around an hour more of sleep in there feed window.
I also suffer from supply issues and supplemented in the evening. I gave a large bottle and breast feed before bed and I had a baby that slept the night.
I am struggling with the one cycle naps and putting baby down awake
I have a personal consultation how can I reach you I need personal help about my baby
at what baby age does melatonin come into play?
My issue is that I can't get his burps out and he wakes up because of a burp 😢
Hi Emma, my baby is 9 months old and has been waking twice (ish) a night which has been just fine for my family. Now however we are traveling and staying at my parents for a couple weeks and she has been waking up so often, even standing at the crib and crying. Any advice for me?
I wonder if the change in environment is throwing her off. Maybe try a routine while you are away and that could help get her to sleep longer.
9 month olds don't need to eat at night at all and can get all of their calories during the day. I recommend weaning night feeds and making sure they are getting enough nourishment during the day. I would sleep train too, but that's just me. My 5 month old only eats once at night, and by 6 months, I will wean him of his night feed.
I made the mistake of waking my daughter when it was bath time. Bad decision, cranky baby.
Hi all, my little boy 2y6m still go to bed only with an adult laying with him.. it takes almost 1h everyday.. he was Always a Bad sleeper and UP to 2y old learned to sleep only by moms breast..but right now we have a little girl and it becomes really too hard too keep up even if we love hugs 😂
Any Idea or just wait he gets older ?
Thanks for your vidéos !
Does it work for breastfeeding? There's association between sleep and feeding
Instead of a dedicated white noise machine, I reccomend a yoto player, lots of volume controls, free white noise and amazing for language development when they are a bit older, my 5yo falls asleep listening to a nonfiction book every night and lives it!!
My 6 month old cries herself to sleep EVERY NIGHT because Ive just started putting her in her bed to sleep at night. I know I waited too long to begin. She wakes up at 4am for a diaper change & the process starts over. Any suggestions?
sorry but from all vids I see around it seems like babies would sleep in a separate room even at 3 months age... not only from this one, there's plenty on utube... isn't that dangerous?
Hi! Just to clarify, I'm not recommending babies sleep in a separate room at 3 months of age in this video. I don't recommend that at all. My baby slept in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps.
The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months).
@EmmaHubbard thank you for clarifying that!
Her room..? But babies are not supposed to sleep alone in the room before they are at least 1.5 years old 😮
Hi!
The recommendation from the American Academy of Pediatrics and Red Nose Australia is to room share for at least the first 6 months (up to 12 months). Room sharing until they are 1.5 years old isn’t something I have heard of. Are you able to share the source of where you read or heard this from?
Also just to clarify she did sleep in the same room as us until she was 11 months old. She slept in that room for naps and overnight. She went to bed earlier than us though so I would use to monitor to check on her at night and during daytime naps.
I don’t think your 6 week old baby should be sleeping through the night😮 they need to feed every 3hours?????
Although it's uncommon for 6-week-old babies to sleep through the night, some do. As long as they’re gaining weight well (as my daughter was) and your milk supply isn’t affected if you're breastfeeding (which it wasn’t for me), it’s perfectly fine to let them sleep and feed them when they naturally wake up.
Is 10 months too late to sleep train 😢? Lol.
It’s never too late to make changes to improve your little one’s sleep. It could be as simple as establishing a consistent bedtime routine and wake-up time, or you might choose to take a more structured approach. Either way, there’s plenty of time to make positive changes! 😊
@@EmmaHubbard thank you!
@@jesshall2624 uhm 😳 why so aggressive? We are adults here. I am open to hear your reasoning. Just dont yell at people. No one likes being scolded.
@@jesshall2624 1. You could have politely share your evidence base findings. I am sure many of us are open to hear recent Peer Reviewed research as we mothers are independently researching for methods that can assist on us our journey. 2. Your approach was not nice and youre really coming of as a rude person. So if you thought you are trying to be helpful, please do not comment on my conversation and take it elsewhere. Thanks.
Sleep training is just another way of saying training your baby to not expect you to help them. Babies are meant to sleep with mom, end of story.
I specifically talk about supporting your baby’s needs and being there for them in the video, so I’m not sure where this comment comes from?
I sleep trained my oldest, and he always comes to me for help, even at night. Children really don't sleep that great in bed with us. We snore, get up to pee, creek the floor, roll over. My son slept terrible in bed with me and slept amazingly in his own room. We would go on play dates, and all of his friends had bags under their eyes, but he was always energized and rested. Not everything is so black and white.
I don’t think is a good idea to let my baby crying . It’s just heartbroken .
Not sure if you watched the video? In it I don’t recommend leaving a baby to cry.
But in Asian countries especially in India it's completely different, we co-sleep with our kids well into 5 + years. No wonder mental illness/ gun violence is more in USA than Asian countries. The child needs touch and cuddles from their mother. This is completely denied at the infant stage itself. Even my pediatrician advised the same cr@! to me but I didn't follow it. This creates insecurity, fear at an early stage and in the US children are not as close to their parents as you can see in Asian countries. Think for a few seconds how will you feel locked up in a room with lights turned off, strapped in a bed and doors closed not knowing if someone will to their resuce when in need. Overall I feel just because women need to go to work (to encourage the work culture) the next morning they devise such techniques and proudly say the child is sleep trained but in the end the baby is tortured.
I want to be very clear here. There is absolutely no evidence to support a link between co-sleeping and mental health and/or gun violence. Or violence of any kind. To suggest that mental illness and gun violence are higher in any given country due to a smaller percentage of the population choosing to co-sleep with their baby is absolutely unfounded, and based on no evidence at all.
Likewise - not co-sleeping "creating insecurity and fear at an early stage". There is no evidence to support this statement.
I believe we should all respect cultural differences. That respect should be universal. Making broad, unfounded claims like these is not helpful to anyone. Being judgemental of how a particular country/culture does something that is different to yours isn't welcome on this channel.
@@EmmaHubbard just for your fyi , Indian population is 4 times the US and not a small %,. The US has a very small % of the population compared to India. China is the most populated country in the world. It's very easy to say in one line there's no evidence but there's evidence right in front of us when we see things happen everyday when a large % of the population are doing it in a different way. I feel if you do more research on this there's definitely connection on our childhood and how we grow up into an adult. That's what every research says. I definitely respect other cultures and ethnicity. There's always good and bad in every culture, maybe this is an opportunity to expand and learn the science behind how people in different cultures and countries make their babies sleep.
I stand by exactly what I said. Your comment was disrespectful, and the claims you've made are completely false. Linking mental illness and gun violence to co-sleeping rates has absolutely no scientific basis. If you believe it does, please share the research and studies to prove otherwise.
@@EmmaHubbard ok, I have nothing more to say, I have seen both sides of the world and have wider exposure than you of different countries. It's not my responsibility to provide the research papers to someone who is first and foremost not open minded to other cultural ways. If you would like to grow professionally please search for it yourself. I was only trying to say there are other ways followed in other countries. That was my point. There is nothing to be disrespectful about. Best of luck in your career. Thank you.