Sorry, but you are horribly generalizing. You have TOO LITTLE POSITIVE EXPERIENCE with HEALTHY WOMEN. There can be a strong unity with your woman. And a healthy, intelligent woman won't lose respect, if she sees you working for the common goals and making her feel secure. Women also can be happy for a period, until their biology makes them feel week and question everything, this is natural and a man must give her feeling, that everything is right. Women need security. An insecure woman will always produce drama and make you responsible for everything bad in her life and turn yours into hell, too, will not have enough capacities to raise healthy children, will infect them with their insecurity.
"Ever loved someone so much, you would do anything for them? Yeah, well make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want". ~ Harvey Specter, Suits.
I was with this woman for 12 years. I was distant, secretive and not vulnerable for 11 years. Guess what happened when I opened up and told her I want to grow old with her. She dropped me
More details please... Was she pressing you for marriage, kids or cohabitation...? Was she pressing you to be more open or spend more time with her...? I've operated the way you described for years and have had multiple simultaneous "relationships" that have lasted more than a decade... However, there's this new one I've been involved with for almost 3 years that has managed to get me to "catch feelings", but I haven't shown my cards yet and have been fighting the urge to do so, because I instinctively know it will just "F" things up with her... But I feel that we're reaching the point where she might start either pressing for more or giving ultimatums, and I can just tell that it will be harder to resist moving things forward with this one if she presses for it... Just trying to get some perspective on this, which is why I asked for more details on your particular situation...
@@TheSmurf1973 I didn’t know it, that’s the issue. I felt her pulling away so I fucked up and started to get emotional, chased her, became way too mushy cause I thought it would bring her back. I know I was wrong NOW but back then I thought I was doing the right thing
@@JC-gv9hj I met her in college. She was always more into me than I was into her. I acted like it too and she loved me so hard, so much. After dating for 2 years, we moved in together. We were happy but the relationship never progressed. She was my 4th girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend. I didn’t propose to her because I didn’t think I was ready mentally. She wanted to get married and have kids. We became distant more and more even though we spent a lot of time together, especially during Covid. I had a stay at home job and she was working out in the real world, coming back home and me sitting on the laptop. Me always being there, me always being home. I got fatter, lazier, I played video games. We didn’t have sex often. We became roommates. I love her more than anything but I fucked up but I only knew I fucked up when it was too late. For 8-9 years, I was above her in the dating game, I was superior to her: then she outgrew and surpassed me. That’s when she dumped me
Nope. It's because you are beta male, who doesnt understand women. When women bring stuff from the past they are basically saying thats how you make them feel atm. Meanwhile your little brain tries to solve the problem logically. Women go by their feelings. Uneducated beta red pilled guys like you try to win a game that you have no idea about. Secondly, since you couldn't court your women, someone else will. When you marry etc. you think you dont have to do anything anymore? Women knows if you care about them, you would do something with them. Since you never find true love, you will live this life with absurd excuses crying in youtube comments. Most male pornstars have dead look in their eyes because of all that pointless sex. Casey is headed that way too. You would know the difference having sex with a woman who is passionate about you and just one night stand if you had one. It's basically masturbation. As again, you keep crying and making excuses. "Extreme ownership", thats what real men do.
If a guy is too easily available, most women will treat him like crap, take him for granted, and friendzone him. That's why a man can't afford to pedestalize a woman in this age and time.
I been married to this woman for 9 years, known her for 26. She recently told me (during an argument she was having by herself), that she FELT "like she never knew me, and that she felt like I could never love anyone". This was well before I even heard of Casey Zander. Well, I didn't quite know what to DO with her statement. So, I didn't DO anything. After my "Casey" discovery, well, I realized I was playing it right all along. Her mother said to me once, "You just wanna do what you wanna do, don't you? I said, kind of matter of fact, "Yep, I'm gonna keep doing exactly what I wanna do. I ain't holding nobody to nothing." I can't even get rid of these women! They must love the torture! That insight on actual leadership is on point. The ONLY person I've always wanted to lead is myself. And I've found that, if anyone, including women, likes where I'm going, they tend to follow. Hmmm.... You da Man Casey!
It’s a fine line to walk in a LTR. If you’re too cold, a player with the right rizz, who knows how to make your girl feel special….just might take her. Casey talks a lot about this. Happens all the time.
Seeing as you married her, you gave up any leverage you had. If she decides to wreck you, you are fked, unless you collect ways to protect yourself before that happens. The coldness and aloofness isn't suitable for marriage because you already submitted to her. It might work for you but it's a risky game.
Indifference is the ultimate power. When I learned that, my life changed and my happiness went sky high. Everything you do 24/7 should be to make YOU happy and only you. Sometimes making others happy will also make you happy. But it has to start with you.
I beg to differ. You get three love in life. The first two you get to pick and the last you don’t. The first is your hobby. The second is the woman. The Third is your kid or kids. So choose very wisely because one day your going to be old.
This is true. I’ve seen this at play. If a man is around the woman too much, she will resent him. The more scarce you are the more valued you will be. Especially if you spend time with her at home, she will think you were lazy and should be out, working more and making more money. Women are insecure. They don’t like themselves. So, if she thinks you like her, she’ll think less of you. It’s pretty messed up. If you want a template of the perfect way to behave with a woman, watch the 80s classic “Crocodile Dundee”. Yes, I’m serious.
Depends on the woman. No woman is the same. I know people and my own sibling is with her man 24/7. All it does it make her more and more attached. Women I’ve dated I kept at a distance were uncertain about me and my intentions and withheld things from me. It’s not black and white.
@@yourfoodforthought Man I'm so confused as to how to go about my dating life. Can you elaborate on the point you made about women getting attached if you spend time with them.
@@muditsingh5686 I’ll die on the hill that it depends on the woman. I’ve dated virgin Catholics, to hoes, to the in between and they all were different as they all were brought up in different environments. If you wanna be able to be more like yourself, i highly advise staying away from toxic women. Those women want the type of behavior Casey talks about. The only women who’ve shit tested me are the toxic women I’ve been with and their shit tests made me break up with them. It’s like dealing with a child. Not all women are like that despite what these guys say.
@@muditsingh5686 Bro, don't overcomplicate it, it's easy: Insecure women want to be treated badly and are insecurely attached, they respond to drama & toxicity. But emotionally mature women would dump you if you treat them toxically or violate their boundaries, but if you treat them well they will appreciate it and reciprocate. Bottom line: Identify the level of self-esteem a woman has and treat her on that level, not higher. Most women have low self-esteem but it leads to drama and constant power games. It's less headache to pursue emotionally mature women and you both be securely attached. Watch videos e.g. by Heidi Priebe about insecure/secure attachment or read the book "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love". Of course you could choose to perpetuate the toxicity cycle and spread more toxicity, but it's draining and distracts you from your mission! It's better to have an emotionally mature intelligent woman who submits to you without requiring heavy manipulation, so that you can be yourself around her. Of course you should become a man of high value first. Ask yourself if you are a catch. Ask yourself if you would date/marry yourself (from a woman's perspective). Ask yourself if you would let your daughter marry a man like you. If the answer is no, you have work to do, before even trying to find such a high quality woman. Because a woman will never respect/fall for a man who is emotionally less mature than her.
We do live forever even when physical life on earth expires, we all have a soul that will live forever somewhere, it could with God in heaven or in a dreadful place, but it's up to us to get right with God to be with him
This is exactly whats happening to me. Lone wolf is the best way. The sex stopped and i disgust her. Now my other girlfriend is where my other girlfriend used to be
"Familiarity breeds contempt." This goes for family and platonic friends, too. Everyone has a different threshold, and it's easy to see the women that don't need as much time. The key is to not try and close the distance with those women, and you're fine. On the other end of that, the women that try to get all of your time; don't drop your life for them.
Love the part about leading for yourself and not for her. I realise from that comment I was leading, as that’s what I thought she wanted. It was like I was putting extra effort into that behaviour for her instead of doing it as something I wanted to do.
There is no way i can’t disagree with this because the times i did either thing, they responded exactly how Casey describes it, so at least in my experience this man is speaking the truth.
Highly impressed by your awareness Casey. Everything you talk about are camouflaged facts in our society. Women by nature are cunning and manipulative for their own survival, consciously or unconsciously, they are all like this. Now look back on all of your past relationships with Casey's break down in mind....NOW IT WILL ALL MAKE SENSE.
I know what you mean brother Went thru a terrible split of 9 yrs not too long ago Casey put me on the map with this golden knowledge ! Remain strong bro
@@sbonfye8058 , we're a community, buddy. I understand how difficult it must be, but stay strong. No relationship can be one-sided, right? If things end, so be it. Things weren't meant to be for a reason at the end of the day.
I thought I was gonna love this woman forever and she was gonna love me. After 12 years, she dumped me. Why? I got complacent. I was there all the time, available, always doing things for hee
@@mmr0221 I had a hidden character heavily masked- sever deep trauma from early childhood from a predatory situation and then also bad parenting styles, but soft elongated hidden privileged type parental neglect, golden child, and heavy toxicity she dealt with a horrible narcissistic upbringing with parents having opposing views. One grandiose, one malignant. One dramatic left and one heavy right but choosing left for her.. not just political but personal beliefs and actions. When I first met her father it terrified me. 1000 yard stare, grumpy, sad eyes, maybe suicidal ugh! Feel so bad for him looking back. Found out through 4 years of couple’s therapy how this affected every single decision we made. I had to date the whole family. I also went through serious childhood trauma, the real kind, which led me to being in cognitive therapy for a decade and then when I met her I immediately started going back, did for about a year, just to be vulnerable and open for her.. When I suggested all of us go to family therapy, because (after finding a good Dr.) it really helped us.. that’s when truths started to fly out. I hadn’t even realized I had put up with so much drama and disrespect. That’s how incredibly gorgeous she was. Plus she pretended to be literally everything I wanted even with things she disagreed with. She’d say I love you so much like every 5 minutes. And I ate it up! That’s the reason I stuck it out so long. I thought this girl will do anything for me. So I’m going to do the same and even more. BIG MISTAKE. I found out through her sister her true beliefs and unadulterated rants about me so I hit the brakes so hard everything went through the windshield lol. I felt so embarrassed and emasculated. Like oh that’s why we don’t have sex anymore. She’s not who she says she is. Then suddenly she got incredibly mean. Mad af about me calling out straight up lies. Not acknowledging the nasty sh*t she had been doing, and not in a good way. I let her ‘win’ told her to get her things and leave and then I ghosted, giving her space and freedom. She took the kids took MY stuff too. Even though she never gave 2 sh*ts about the boys, since birth, I was the primary parent she was hands off. She also thought I was broke because I got rid of everything and was selling all my possessions. I just wanted a fresh start, she started the real heat like a wild baby momma gold digger. I had to take her to street level degenerate to get her to see I will go so far over your head about my kids she instantly folded. Idgaf.. Very heartbreaking but at least I have some time left and a crazy erection again 🎉
All your videos are great Casey, and this one is in the top 5. Part of growing up is abandoning the lies one was taught as a young person. “Love” as we’re taught to believe is all about romance and devotion, but that’s all bs. It’s a biological mechanism, a trick of nature. But it’s not magic. He’s also right in that she’s only loyal to her feelings which are constantly changing to meet her ever evolving perceived needs, so it’s essential that men not get wrapped up in a woman’s life or she will in fact become a liability for him. Your commitment should be to yourself as well. As I always say, enjoy them, have them in your life. But only as an accessory. Recreational purposes only.
When women dream of a Disney prince and you're young, nice, and building your life, they reject you. Then when you're older, become an a-hole, and have built your life, women accept you but wonder why you're kind of mean and emotionally unavailable.
That’s not ideal for the guy though. To become a king he needs to go through hardships and live life. Not a time to settle down with girls. If he settles early he will be of no value as he stunts his growth. He will become comfortable and does not grow at all. Girls MUST come after significant growth, not through it, not before it.
As a real deal badboy you just don’t miss, every time I see one of your videos I’m like I know all this stuff what is this guy yapping about then boom something I thought only I’ve experienced with women, you’re entering AMS levels of legacy my friend
Jeez thanks. Now i know everything i did wrong in my last relationship lol. I heard you say it gets harder when you find a girl you actually like and that couldn't be farther from the truth.
Yeah, as if we like golf we golf. We like pizza, we eat pizza. But when you like a women, you have to try to not like them. It's fucking hard. As I just want a bite of pizza.
Man you boys just suffer from this self torture don't ya lmao. Like her all you want just don't be a weak bitch that's it. You can show intent and affection towards your girl without being all squish little pudding about it
Casey, I just wanna say thanks mate....ive been following you for quite a while now😢 and I've applied your teachings..I now live in Spain and don't speak very good Spanish...but using everything you teach ive had girls travel to me from my home country to hang out with me then beg me to let them stay...im going home next Thursday until Monday, i have my owns things to do while there but in between I have dates with 5 different girls 3 coffee and 2 I am definitely staying the night with, never met them in person but my only interest is to qualify them to come stay with me over in spain, im saying all this because it doesn't matter where you are or age you can do it...have your confidence and purpose no need for anything else...im going to be 60 this year, I'm having the best time of my life and smashing it...Casey you are the only one out there that gets it, I daren't do your course I already have more than enough women in my life and its all thanks to you. All the Best Stevie Xx
Factual i remember when my ex got her own place and i was by her a lot then she started getting disrespectful for petty things she was never disrespectful always worshiped me ..i pulled back my time instantly
Omg soo true . Once he started spending less time with me I began to value him a lot more and our time together. He use to always want to be together and I had no interest in him until he stopped caring .
Good video man, I was in love with a girl and I thought she was the one, the sweet girl who loves you alot and it'd never fade, but turns out she started ghosting me taking hours or days to reply to my texts.. well I guess you were right all along, I will never allow me self to fall in love ever again, I loved this one girl like you couldn't believe.
Hi Casey Zander, I just watched this video because it came up on my suggested videos. I've been running searches for psychology and dating. I agree with everything, just about, that you have said in this video. However that is just me, I'm a 180 of most women. I don't like clingy men and I definitely don't want them around me 24/7. What I do like is PRECISELY what you said someone focused on THEMSELVES. Live your own life, I live mine. I NEED my alone time. More than I need someone else. Now if we mutually have similar plans great but even then it better be a once in a great while event. Maybe this is why I never had kids. I always say I'm my own kid. Runs at the lake, travel and my online gaming as well as other hobbies and interests fill my life. For the guys, this is truly excellent advise. I told my Uncle once who said what are you gonna do when you get old? I said the day I become fat and have no motivations to do anything like the majority of others is the day I will SETTLE. That's what it is. Settling. Id rather answer to myself, keep working on myself and working out spending time in nature and traveling. I'm good. I see people at work with 5 or 6 kids guess what? They are never happy. Rarely. They are mainly annoyed or angry. Hey pal, you chose that life, have a nice day ❗❗✌
Bro indeed I agree. You are describing trains of a fun-loving no-fucks given man that just knows intuitively how to hunt is acually a hunter by nature.
Keep yourself busy with work and your hobbies. Call or text them ONLY when YOU feel like it and invite them to join you on what you already have planned
Hey Casey, I rarely comment, but I appreciate all the teaching you do on this channel. It has helped me in my practice with relationships and even pointed me to the right mindset of focusing on my God-given calling. I pray that you reach where you want to go and allow God to help you unlock your expectations of who you want to be as a man.
Basically, woman are mostly about their own self satisfaction. Be mysterious. Be original. Knowing is half the battle. It takes time to know her. No need for that until you know the baseline information. Yes, a woman's rational thinking isn't 100%. Don't play the game to win one woman. Play it to win them all.
It's difficult to admit, but it's true. I wish true love really existed, and maybe as a relationship progresses, with the man providing more value to the woman, she starts to feel more in love. Right now though, everything does seem quite transactional. I now must ONLY lead myself in a strong, powerful, and masculine way.
New channel logo with Casey swinging his fist as in 2:25 BAHAHAHA What men believe will be completely shattered when their first "love" shatters his heart
There is a crisis of masculinity in this country today, and your videos are very valuable with respect to putting some balance in the whole equation. I disagree with a lot of it, but I cannot disagree with many of your main points.
This right here is probably one of your best videos. Totally nailed it regarding how women operate in a relationship. its 100% true, men need to be doing things that advances their goals and purpose, not sitting with your gf for 5 hours looking at each other
Depends on the woman. I’ve seen many couples that are with each other nonstop and the woman is totally obsessed. One of my own family members is with her bf 24/7 and she only gets more infatuated with her boyfriends as time goes on. She’s been in little relationships for long periods of time. If this logic was universal she should be having the opposite track record.
@@yourfoodforthought i have a friend that also has a gf (going for a few years now) she has some mental issues but shes fun to be around, it is 100% clear to me that she will NEVER get tired/bored of her man because she KNOWS she could never get a better guy, especially when hes providing everything for her too. In that case, yes.
I think we should not call the dynamics between a man and a woman that are attracted to each other love. There is way deeper meaning to love than these dynamics. I know you call it love for the sake of simplicity but those are far from love and love is truly unconditional and not transactional, but it is not meant to be directed to a woman or anybody else other than oneself. Love is the essence of existence, but to realize that, tremendous awareness is needed. Thanks for your insight on attraction and female nature.
for real, i did that to a girl i dated. one week later we were done. It was still me who decided it, but because i was annoyed by her bitchieness after a "perfect valentinsdate'... you really cant listen to what they ask for 😅
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Sorry, but you are horribly generalizing. You have TOO LITTLE POSITIVE EXPERIENCE with HEALTHY WOMEN. There can be a strong unity with your woman. And a healthy, intelligent woman won't lose respect, if she sees you working for the common goals and making her feel secure. Women also can be happy for a period, until their biology makes them feel week and question everything, this is natural and a man must give her feeling, that everything is right. Women need security. An insecure woman will always produce drama and make you responsible for everything bad in her life and turn yours into hell, too, will not have enough capacities to raise healthy children, will infect them with their insecurity.
God Man the Word made Flesh.
The Teachings of Don Juan Matoos.
"Ever loved someone so much, you would do anything for them? Yeah, well make that someone yourself and do whatever the hell you want". ~ Harvey Specter, Suits.
Love it
Cold one 🥶💯
I was with this woman for 12 years. I was distant, secretive and not vulnerable for 11 years. Guess what happened when I opened up and told her I want to grow old with her. She dropped me
🤣🤣 we all been there brof . Good luck
More details please...
Was she pressing you for marriage, kids or cohabitation...? Was she pressing you to be more open or spend more time with her...?
I've operated the way you described for years and have had multiple simultaneous "relationships" that have lasted more than a decade...
However, there's this new one I've been involved with for almost 3 years that has managed to get me to "catch feelings", but I haven't shown my cards yet and have been fighting the urge to do so, because I instinctively know it will just "F" things up with her... But I feel that we're reaching the point where she might start either pressing for more or giving ultimatums, and I can just tell that it will be harder to resist moving things forward with this one if she presses for it...
Just trying to get some perspective on this, which is why I asked for more details on your particular situation...
@JC-gv9hj Surely if you instinctively know it will f things up, as you put it, then you have your answer on what to do and what not to do.
@@TheSmurf1973 I didn’t know it, that’s the issue. I felt her pulling away so I fucked up and started to get emotional, chased her, became way too mushy cause I thought it would bring her back. I know I was wrong NOW but back then I thought I was doing the right thing
@@JC-gv9hj I met her in college. She was always more into me than I was into her. I acted like it too and she loved me so hard, so much.
After dating for 2 years, we moved in together. We were happy but the relationship never progressed. She was my 4th girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend. I didn’t propose to her because I didn’t think I was ready mentally. She wanted to get married and have kids. We became distant more and more even though we spent a lot of time together, especially during Covid.
I had a stay at home job and she was working out in the real world, coming back home and me sitting on the laptop. Me always being there, me always being home.
I got fatter, lazier, I played video games. We didn’t have sex often. We became roommates.
I love her more than anything but I fucked up but I only knew I fucked up when it was too late.
For 8-9 years, I was above her in the dating game, I was superior to her: then she outgrew and surpassed me. That’s when she dumped me
"Women are always going to find something to complain about". "They are the ones that are never happy" ....Truer words have never been spoken.
That is why he is telling you to improve yourselve, all the time,...
They are in a relationship so they have someone to blame for all their problems.
That’s the chaos they love he’s talking about.
Nope. It's because you are beta male, who doesnt understand women. When women bring stuff from the past they are basically saying thats how you make them feel atm. Meanwhile your little brain tries to solve the problem logically. Women go by their feelings. Uneducated beta red pilled guys like you try to win a game that you have no idea about.
Secondly, since you couldn't court your women, someone else will. When you marry etc. you think you dont have to do anything anymore?
Women knows if you care about them, you would do something with them.
Since you never find true love, you will live this life with absurd excuses crying in youtube comments.
Most male pornstars have dead look in their eyes because of all that pointless sex. Casey is headed that way too. You would know the difference having sex with a woman who is passionate about you and just one night stand if you had one. It's basically masturbation.
As again, you keep crying and making excuses.
"Extreme ownership", thats what real men do.
"It's best to not believe in love and do whatever you want with zero expectations."
If a guy is too easily available, most women will treat him like crap, take him for granted, and friendzone him. That's why a man can't afford to pedestalize a woman in this age and time.
bang on.
Fr all these dudes ready to show up when the girl send that text lol
@@toptiercripyup! Always reply late and make her earn your attention
Preach
@@Kakekutter, learn
I been married to this woman for 9 years, known her for 26. She recently told me (during an argument she was having by herself), that she FELT "like she never knew me, and that she felt like I could never love anyone". This was well before I even heard of Casey Zander. Well, I didn't quite know what to DO with her statement. So, I didn't DO anything. After my "Casey" discovery, well, I realized I was playing it right all along. Her mother said to me once, "You just wanna do what you wanna do, don't you? I said, kind of matter of fact, "Yep, I'm gonna keep doing exactly what I wanna do. I ain't holding nobody to nothing." I can't even get rid of these women! They must love the torture!
That insight on actual leadership is on point. The ONLY person I've always wanted to lead is myself. And I've found that, if anyone, including women, likes where I'm going, they tend to follow. Hmmm....
You da Man Casey!
It’s a fine line to walk in a LTR. If you’re too cold, a player with the right rizz, who knows how to make your girl feel special….just might take her. Casey talks a lot about this. Happens all the time.
My man, you're a damn savage!!😎
You’re avoidant and she isn’t
There
Seeing as you married her, you gave up any leverage you had. If she decides to wreck you, you are fked, unless you collect ways to protect yourself before that happens.
The coldness and aloofness isn't suitable for marriage because you already submitted to her.
It might work for you but it's a risky game.
"argument she was having by herself" hahajjajajjahhahha
Indifference is the ultimate power. When I learned that, my life changed and my happiness went sky high. Everything you do 24/7 should be to make YOU happy and only you. Sometimes making others happy will also make you happy. But it has to start with you.
Spending less time with my girlfriends definitely strengthens eveything.
True story. I told this woman I’m dating several women at the moment and will hardly have time for her and now she’s all up in my business
High sexual market value🎉
Women don't care if you have other sidechicks if they like you and you take care of her
I tell you... these MOFOs are crazy!😂😂😂
Preselection is powerful
Because she’s triggered
As a man you are never supposed to fall in love. Thats the ultimate black pill.
That is 500 per cent wrong
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Fix your love for yourself if you’re someone who struggled with that and move forward
I beg to differ. You get three love in life. The first two you get to pick and the last you don’t. The first is your hobby. The second is the woman. The Third is your kid or kids. So choose very wisely because one day your going to be old.
You can still be in love, but you can’t put her on a pedestal. I think people confuse neediness with love. You still have to be #1.
This is true. I’ve seen this at play. If a man is around the woman too much, she will resent him. The more scarce you are the more valued you will be. Especially if you spend time with her at home, she will think you were lazy and should be out, working more and making more money.
Women are insecure. They don’t like themselves. So, if she thinks you like her, she’ll think less of you. It’s pretty messed up.
If you want a template of the perfect way to behave with a woman, watch the 80s classic “Crocodile Dundee”. Yes, I’m serious.
Depends on the woman. No woman is the same. I know people and my own sibling is with her man 24/7. All it does it make her more and more attached. Women I’ve dated I kept at a distance were uncertain about me and my intentions and withheld things from me. It’s not black and white.
@@yourfoodforthought Man I'm so confused as to how to go about my dating life. Can you elaborate on the point you made about women getting attached if you spend time with them.
@@muditsingh5686 I’ll die on the hill that it depends on the woman. I’ve dated virgin Catholics, to hoes, to the in between and they all were different as they all were brought up in different environments. If you wanna be able to be more like yourself, i highly advise staying away from toxic women. Those women want the type of behavior Casey talks about. The only women who’ve shit tested me are the toxic women I’ve been with and their shit tests made me break up with them. It’s like dealing with a child. Not all women are like that despite what these guys say.
@@muditsingh5686 Balance is always best. Spending too much time in the beginning is a disaster tho
@@muditsingh5686 Bro, don't overcomplicate it, it's easy: Insecure women want to be treated badly and are insecurely attached, they respond to drama & toxicity. But emotionally mature women would dump you if you treat them toxically or violate their boundaries, but if you treat them well they will appreciate it and reciprocate.
Bottom line: Identify the level of self-esteem a woman has and treat her on that level, not higher. Most women have low self-esteem but it leads to drama and constant power games. It's less headache to pursue emotionally mature women and you both be securely attached.
Watch videos e.g. by Heidi Priebe about insecure/secure attachment or read the book "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love".
Of course you could choose to perpetuate the toxicity cycle and spread more toxicity, but it's draining and distracts you from your mission! It's better to have an emotionally mature intelligent woman who submits to you without requiring heavy manipulation, so that you can be yourself around her. Of course you should become a man of high value first. Ask yourself if you are a catch. Ask yourself if you would date/marry yourself (from a woman's perspective). Ask yourself if you would let your daughter marry a man like you. If the answer is no, you have work to do, before even trying to find such a high quality woman. Because a woman will never respect/fall for a man who is emotionally less mature than her.
I'm 56 and Casey is 100% correct...the more time I spent with the girls I dated the worse their behaviour
What does declaring you're 56 have to do with anything?!
@@thefriendlypsychopath3894 just the fact that Ive lived long enough to verify his teachings as accurate.
@@zrunner240Z You don't have to eat a whole calf to know when you've been eating beef, or do you have to be 56 to verify this is accurate?🤔
Your name says it all GTFOH @@thefriendlypsychopath3894
Your user name says it all we're done here boy@@thefriendlypsychopath3894
It’s not about relationships it’s about power dynamics. Good shit Casey
"Women will always have something to complain about."
You ain't lying!
Attraction grows in space, plain and simple
Familiarity breeds contempt
Remember we don’t live forever so we have to cherish each other.
We do live forever even when physical life on earth expires, we all have a soul that will live forever somewhere, it could with God in heaven or in a dreadful place, but it's up to us to get right with God to be with him
@@oscargonza2748The only God is the Almighty Creator who alone çreated the Heavens and Earth, not a human who eats food and needs to defecate.
Totally agree, there is only one God and that is the God of the bible creater of the universe and of all of mankind Isaiah 45:5
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and familiarity breeds contempt.
No pain no gain, to much pleasure will make a man weak and withered
Transactional- exactly- men are in love, women are in business
the origins of prostitution
Word
"Distance breeds Love, familiarity breeds resentment" ... a saying I heard years ago ... rings true.
Your value in her eyes is all a matter of perception..... She will value you because of her perception of your projection of your own perceived value.
Sometimes when they are growing up they don't like your style and when they go a little more mature it can even shift 180 degrees lol
I believe this is the best explanation.
Casey you changed my life with these videos. Thank you. I will not forget this.
These videos brought out my game forsure. It's pretty easy. Women are fickle
That’s when they go cheat on you behind your back .
Women should be chained at home
Fr i started pulling hoes
This is exactly whats happening to me. Lone wolf is the best way. The sex stopped and i disgust her. Now my other girlfriend is where my other girlfriend used to be
Don’t put your eggs in any basket “Casey 2024”💪🏾
"Familiarity breeds contempt." This goes for family and platonic friends, too. Everyone has a different threshold, and it's easy to see the women that don't need as much time. The key is to not try and close the distance with those women, and you're fine. On the other end of that, the women that try to get all of your time; don't drop your life for them.
Love the part about leading for yourself and not for her. I realise from that comment I was leading, as that’s what I thought she wanted. It was like I was putting extra effort into that behaviour for her instead of doing it as something I wanted to do.
Casey is the #1 dating and masculine coach that has ever existed. Very smart Human
CASEY HAS THE WISDOM OF A 90 YEAR OLD PLAYA
Always make her reach out to you.. That's way better..
No matter how long it takes?
There is no way i can’t disagree with this because the times i did either thing, they responded exactly how Casey describes it, so at least in my experience this man is speaking the truth.
I like how Casey is very specific about what to do unlike these other channels that speak in generalities
Highly impressed by your awareness Casey. Everything you talk about are camouflaged facts in our society. Women by nature are cunning and manipulative for their own survival, consciously or unconsciously, they are all like this. Now look back on all of your past relationships with Casey's break down in mind....NOW IT WILL ALL MAKE SENSE.
For sure!!!
Going through a breakup rn….these videos are life saving.
Please do one on women with daddy issues and the friendzone (if it even exist)
Dude, just stop giving a damn about girls. You gotta focus on better things in life and be indifferent to them not liking you.
I second the daddy issues suggestion
I know what you mean brother
Went thru a terrible split of 9 yrs not too long ago
Casey put me on the map with this golden knowledge !
Remain strong bro
@@sbonfye8058 , we're a community, buddy. I understand how difficult it must be, but stay strong. No relationship can be one-sided, right? If things end, so be it. Things weren't meant to be for a reason at the end of the day.
@@sbonfye8058 tnx bro…life is hell right now due to the breakup, did a lot of mistakes that casey talks about.
I thought I was gonna love this woman forever and she was gonna love me. After 12 years, she dumped me. Why? I got complacent. I was there all the time, available, always doing things for hee
Better than 20 years like me
theres no better or worse, there is just now, now you know
@@soundincome what happened?
@@mmr0221 I had a hidden character heavily masked- sever deep trauma from early childhood from a predatory situation and then also bad parenting styles, but soft elongated hidden privileged type parental neglect, golden child, and heavy toxicity she dealt with a horrible narcissistic upbringing with parents having opposing views. One grandiose, one malignant. One dramatic left and one heavy right but choosing left for her.. not just political but personal beliefs and actions. When I first met her father it terrified me. 1000 yard stare, grumpy, sad eyes, maybe suicidal ugh! Feel so bad for him looking back. Found out through 4 years of couple’s therapy how this affected every single decision we made.
I had to date the whole family. I also went through serious childhood trauma, the real kind, which led me to being in cognitive therapy for a decade and then when I met her I immediately started going back, did for about a year, just to be vulnerable and open for her.. When I suggested all of us go to family therapy, because (after finding a good Dr.) it really helped us.. that’s when truths started to fly out. I hadn’t even realized I had put up with so much drama and disrespect. That’s how incredibly gorgeous she was. Plus she pretended to be literally everything I wanted even with things she disagreed with. She’d say I love you so much like every 5 minutes. And I ate it up! That’s the reason I stuck it out so long. I thought this girl will do anything for me. So I’m going to do the same and even more.
BIG MISTAKE. I found out through her sister her true beliefs and unadulterated rants about me so I hit the brakes so hard everything went through the windshield lol. I felt so embarrassed and emasculated. Like oh that’s why we don’t have sex anymore. She’s not who she says she is. Then suddenly she got incredibly mean. Mad af about me calling out straight up lies. Not acknowledging the nasty sh*t she had been doing, and not in a good way. I let her ‘win’ told her to get her things and leave and then I ghosted, giving her space and freedom. She took the kids took MY stuff too. Even though she never gave 2 sh*ts about the boys, since birth, I was the primary parent she was hands off. She also thought I was broke because I got rid of everything and was selling all my possessions. I just wanted a fresh start, she started the real heat like a wild baby momma gold digger. I had to take her to street level degenerate to get her to see I will go so far over your head about my kids she instantly folded. Idgaf.. Very heartbreaking but at least I have some time left and a crazy erection again 🎉
@@mmr0221 ugh just responded with a long story and it got deleted I’ll come back
This is a good one. Thanks for taking 10 years of real world experience and putting it into bite size chunks
This guy explains it the best I’ve heard from any other RUclipsr
Just discovered this guy and he's yet to drop the ball, pure gems throughout.
All your videos are great Casey, and this one is in the top 5. Part of growing up is abandoning the lies one was taught as a young person. “Love” as we’re taught to believe is all about romance and devotion, but that’s all bs. It’s a biological mechanism, a trick of nature. But it’s not magic. He’s also right in that she’s only loyal to her feelings which are constantly changing to meet her ever evolving perceived needs, so it’s essential that men not get wrapped up in a woman’s life or she will in fact become a liability for him. Your commitment should be to yourself as well. As I always say, enjoy them, have them in your life. But only as an accessory. Recreational purposes only.
Bro you’re saving man life and health with this ❤
When women dream of a Disney prince and you're young, nice, and building your life, they reject you. Then when you're older, become an a-hole, and have built your life, women accept you but wonder why you're kind of mean and emotionally unavailable.
That’s not ideal for the guy though. To become a king he needs to go through hardships and live life. Not a time to settle down with girls. If he settles early he will be of no value as he stunts his growth. He will become comfortable and does not grow at all. Girls MUST come after significant growth, not through it, not before it.
All you need to do is relax and have fun.
Going thru this scenario right now, my current woman has mistaken my kindness for weakness and now I'm ready to return her back to where I found her.
Haha 😂😂😂 plz go easy on her
The truth may hurt but this truth will set one free. Well-spoken Casey!
As a real deal badboy you just don’t miss, every time I see one of your videos I’m like I know all this stuff what is this guy yapping about then boom something I thought only I’ve experienced with women, you’re entering AMS levels of legacy my friend
If your calling yourself a real deal bad boy in a comment section you ain't one homie lol
Jeez thanks. Now i know everything i did wrong in my last relationship lol. I heard you say it gets harder when you find a girl you actually like and that couldn't be farther from the truth.
Yeah, as if we like golf we golf. We like pizza, we eat pizza. But when you like a women, you have to try to not like them. It's fucking hard. As I just want a bite of pizza.
Man you boys just suffer from this self torture don't ya lmao. Like her all you want just don't be a weak bitch that's it. You can show intent and affection towards your girl without being all squish little pudding about it
Casey, I just wanna say thanks mate....ive been following you for quite a while now😢 and I've applied your teachings..I now live in Spain and don't speak very good Spanish...but using everything you teach ive had girls travel to me from my home country to hang out with me then beg me to let them stay...im going home next Thursday until Monday, i have my owns things to do while there but in between I have dates with 5 different girls 3 coffee and 2 I am definitely staying the night with, never met them in person but my only interest is to qualify them to come stay with me over in spain, im saying all this because it doesn't matter where you are or age you can do it...have your confidence and purpose no need for anything else...im going to be 60 this year, I'm having the best time of my life and smashing it...Casey you are the only one out there that gets it, I daren't do your course I already have more than enough women in my life and its all thanks to you. All the Best Stevie Xx
Factual i remember when my ex got her own place and i was by her a lot then she started getting disrespectful for petty things she was never disrespectful always worshiped me ..i pulled back my time instantly
This is best video Casey Zander has ever made.
Omg soo true . Once he started spending less time with me I began to value him a lot more and our time together. He use to always want to be together and I had no interest in him until he stopped caring .
Good video man, I was in love with a girl and I thought she was the one, the sweet girl who loves you alot and it'd never fade, but turns out she started ghosting me taking hours or days to reply to my texts.. well I guess you were right all along, I will never allow me self to fall in love ever again, I loved this one girl like you couldn't believe.
Texting is the #1 relationship killer. Don’t do it unless it’s to set up dates.
You just became a soft little bitch about it. You can truly love a woman without being a little sweet pudding boy about it. That's where you messed up
That last 2 minutes hit hard
You are teaching exactly what I learned the hard way. More power to you brother
It like you have a different perspective than you had a couple of years ago. I like it. Keep up the good work.
I love this guy for his intelligence and honesty.
Bro you are a prophet
This is why I follow Casey, he is the only one that speaks the truth!
The truth is easy to recognize because it is transparent. You hit this one out of The Park!
Hi Casey Zander, I just watched this video because it came up on my suggested videos. I've been running searches for psychology and dating. I agree with everything, just about, that you have said in this video. However that is just me, I'm a 180 of most women. I don't like clingy men and I definitely don't want them around me 24/7. What I do like is PRECISELY what you said someone focused on THEMSELVES. Live your own life, I live mine. I NEED my alone time. More than I need someone else. Now if we mutually have similar plans great but even then it better be a once in a great while event. Maybe this is why I never had kids. I always say I'm my own kid. Runs at the lake, travel and my online gaming as well as other hobbies and interests fill my life. For the guys, this is truly excellent advise. I told my Uncle once who said what are you gonna do when you get old? I said the day I become fat and have no motivations to do anything like the majority of others is the day I will SETTLE. That's what it is. Settling. Id rather answer to myself, keep working on myself and working out spending time in nature and traveling. I'm good. I see people at work with 5 or 6 kids guess what? They are never happy. Rarely. They are mainly annoyed or angry. Hey pal, you chose that life, have a nice day ❗❗✌
Thanks!
the cheat code revealed once again.
Bro indeed I agree. You are describing trains of a fun-loving no-fucks given man that just knows intuitively how to hunt is acually a hunter by nature.
It’s true. I’m married and since I have began to work out, and prioritize my professional life, my wife have become more sweet and kindy.
love doesn't exist ? but my parents love each other and raised me to be a happy adult...
Keep yourself busy with work and your hobbies. Call or text them ONLY when YOU feel like it and invite them to join you on what you already have planned
Casey the goat of dating
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Man I watched a loooooot of videos on wahmen's psyche and I must say that your videos are the most on point, and very well explained.
man Casey you're always telling people what they need to hear at the right time thank you
Great insight on the male lead direction, she needs to follow your path.
More on this topic Casey.
Hey Casey, I rarely comment, but I appreciate all the teaching you do on this channel. It has helped me in my practice with relationships and even pointed me to the right mindset of focusing on my God-given calling. I pray that you reach where you want to go and allow God to help you unlock your expectations of who you want to be as a man.
the most profound consult you have presented....... Hands Down ... They cant cant all be epic, but some of them are.
Following him gladly! And Casey bro, you are, in a way selling your own experiences from your own mistakes. That's smart business 👍
You are wise beyond your years Cas!Thank God for you.
Basically, woman are mostly about their own self satisfaction. Be mysterious. Be original. Knowing is half the battle. It takes time to know her. No need for that until you know the baseline information. Yes, a woman's rational thinking isn't 100%. Don't play the game to win one woman. Play it to win them all.
Another spot on , accurate tutorial . !!! Pay attention guys !!!!
Love is desire. It is not fulfillment, completion, satisfaction, contentment, or enjoyment.
It's difficult to admit, but it's true. I wish true love really existed, and maybe as a relationship progresses, with the man providing more value to the woman, she starts to feel more in love. Right now though, everything does seem quite transactional. I now must ONLY lead myself in a strong, powerful, and masculine way.
This is crazyyyyy that’s exactly what they want it’s a FEELING it’s not anything but a certain feeling
New channel logo with Casey swinging his fist as in 2:25
BAHAHAHA
What men believe will be completely shattered when their first "love" shatters his heart
Anytime you say "Had i know" means you have grown a step higher than your previous self and has now realised the mistakes you did.
There is a crisis of masculinity in this country today, and your videos are very valuable with respect to putting some balance in the whole equation.
I disagree with a lot of it, but I cannot disagree with many of your main points.
Thank you brother. You’re doing the lord’s work
This right here is probably one of your best videos. Totally nailed it regarding how women operate in a relationship. its 100% true, men need to be doing things that advances their goals and purpose, not sitting with your gf for 5 hours looking at each other
Depends on the woman. I’ve seen many couples that are with each other nonstop and the woman is totally obsessed. One of my own family members is with her bf 24/7 and she only gets more infatuated with her boyfriends as time goes on. She’s been in little relationships for long periods of time. If this logic was universal she should be having the opposite track record.
@@yourfoodforthought i have a friend that also has a gf (going for a few years now) she has some mental issues but shes fun to be around, it is 100% clear to me that she will NEVER get tired/bored of her man because she KNOWS she could never get a better guy, especially when hes providing everything for her too. In that case, yes.
I think we should not call the dynamics between a man and a woman that are attracted to each other love. There is way deeper meaning to love than these dynamics. I know you call it love for the sake of simplicity but those are far from love and love is truly unconditional and not transactional, but it is not meant to be directed to a woman or anybody else other than oneself. Love is the essence of existence, but to realize that, tremendous awareness is needed. Thanks for your insight on attraction and female nature.
You can find love and your soulmate with a kind caring home loving girl who loves her dad 👍
This was brilliant.
My mother was a single mother, and I had two older sisters and a niece, I caught on quick to the subconscious, unverbal communication, it's crazy.
The flowes and ballons and chocolates for Valentines day were a complete waste
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for real, i did that to a girl i dated. one week later we were done. It was still me who decided it, but because i was annoyed by her bitchieness after a "perfect valentinsdate'... you really cant listen to what they ask for 😅
Looking great, Casey. Thanks for the video. Blessings, brother.
Thanks for the videos. Was in a relationship for 11 years, I have the power and almost fell right back into the pattern of failure.
This is some high level Psychology right here. Good job Casey.
You are so good a trainer, and put so much effort in your work that it feels so much authentic and touchy to self development.
You're a gift! Casey! Thank you!
I just went through a strange experience with a woman
The cold, hard truth. Accurately put brother!
Beautifully said Casey Stay on your on lane never settle for a woman and never give her a say be the man 24 7
9:40 believing in love is NOT the issue, FALLING IN LOVE is the issue. The saying STAND IN LOVE not fall is VERY important.
Casey has this down to a science, good stuff.
Thanks for all these videos! We all appreciate it brother!
lead the men the women will follow
Another classic ...nice job Slick
As always, Casey. You are right on the point.
U speak the truth 💯 bro.
Much respect to you 🎉
9:34 is probably the best advice ever. Just don’t believe in love; it’s probably been my biggest problem this whole time.
Great video man. I feel like an idiot for needing to be taught all this.