You always talk about what not to do to kill attraction and keep them interested but you never talk about when the right time to commit. It seems as though all your content is driven towards never dating, never being in a relationship or marrying a woman. I’m a Christian man and love God. Living a life sleeping around with a woman without being married to them is a life living in adultery. God intended for us to be married… So for someone like me who wants this someday, are you saying this is not possible? That we should never commit and just hangout with them for the rest of our lives?
I couldn't agree with this more. As an attractive guy with a nice body, I used to wonder why it would be so easy for me to chatch girls but hard to keep them. It took me a very long time to realise I was killing attraction by over validating and complimenting them. Here is the thing: if a girl is secure about where she stands with you, she will leave you for a guy who keeps her guessing what his intentions with her are. In layman's terms, men love loyal and faithful women, women love adventurous and mysterious men. Once the mystery is nolonger there, she will also be nolonger there. It's that simple.
I've seen very happy couples married for years and have a special bond, but in these relationships both validate each other. So I don't understand after a point, there has to be a point you don't play these games? Right?
So how do you ever get anywhere with these women? How do u take things further if your never going to in some way validate her or compliment her? Does he mean by over doing it or doing it all. I understand women subconsciously like uncertainty but how will I get a woman to commit if she never knows what I’m up to.
56 years old here...I look back at the 100 Plus women I have dated in my life...and HE IS RIGHT...I lost ALL the good ones that I REALLY LIKED and to this day STILL can't totally get rid of the ones that I could barely stand
You don't have to be disrespectful or arrogant towards women, you just don't give them the edge. A woman knows whether or not if you would walk away. Which I've done on many occasions. And most of them, even after several years, are still interested. A lot of what you say makes a lot of sense though. Keep up the good work.
I disagree. It’s ok to be kind and respectful while with them but your actions must project low interest and readiness to switch without hesitation when apart. This may be manifested in low response rate, flaking on her with poor excuses, little to no validation (social media interactions, texts, phone calls, etc.)-all of this while having her noticing the validation you get from other attractive females. In other words, your behavior with her is fine (while u r with her) but your actions (when apart) communicate you don’t need her. She’ll become obsessed guaranteed.
I dated a girl before that didn't understand that I could walk away. She broke up with me, and I didn't make a big deal about it. Then, 2 weeks later, she tried getting back with me. I refused. Then, she spent the next several years just randomly trying to talk to me on Facebook. The problem is that I knew I could walk away from her at any moment, so I thought at the time I didn't have to worry about over validating her. She asked me out, and I perceived my own value to be above hers. So I thought I was safe, like I couldn't do anything wrong because of that. Now I know that it doesn't matter how much higher your value is than hers. If you give too much validation, then she'll lose interest.
Giving a woman a compliment actually increases her attraction for you when she's trying to get your interest level up. Only give this reward when she's putting in the effort. It always worked for me.
Yes, I get the principle that complimenting and validating in general leads to a decrease in female desire, but you do have to account for the occasional cases when doing so does not lower it. When you're first getting to know a woman who shows interest in you, reciprocating her interest by complimenting her - if done without becoming obviously obsessed (and even this might work in the beginning, provided her interest level is extremely high) - will please her desire and heighten it. In established relationships, if sprinkled cautiously, it will soothe the woman's desire for comfort which is also part of women's dualistic sexual principle. Everything else, I think, fails men.
Casey's videos contradict each other. earlier I watched a video where he said it would be weird not to complement a woman, as if you were playing a game of not validating her.
@@wayland7150 He’s talking about your girlfriend is just sitting there and you look at her all stupid and say something like you love her so much and she’s so beautiful blah blah blah. It’s a sign of being whipped. If she walks in the room wearing heels and lingerie, that’s when you tell her how hot she is.
I swear to god Casey after brainwashing myself with your videos day in and day out ive now ended up with 3 nines texting me every day. This after failing with fives and sixes 6 months ago. I cant thank you enough. Guys this shit works trust me.
@@Travellahh What I use to see as 9s are now 6s - like this girl right now at the coffee shop, in front of me - a 6.5 maybe, (7s are a copout) and to be an 8 she has to be very fine. Unusually so, the average woman is a 5 imho.
I’m tired of talking about how strange it is, that women react this way, and how baffling it is that they prefer to be treated poorly. From now on, I’m just going to do it, and damn trying to figure out why.
You don't get it. Its not treating women poorly, just cut back on validating them. "The Red Pill exists so you won't hate women for what they can never be to you." - Rollo Tomassi, author.
it's not that they want to be treated poorly, it's that we made very simple thing extra complicated. all there is to it is this: women want men that are better then them at EVERYTHING that can LEAD them. simple. leaders don't ask their wives if she likes the destination of their relationship is going. he goes. she has the right to jump ship. simple. when men simp, women know they are not leaders and not better than them. simple.
You should never be attached to a woman. Always give her limited attention. She should fight for your attention through out the span of your whole life.
@@manuel.camelo Yes it is hard to be like that that's f up but you must do it , I see a girl once a week and even a small fraction of validation made her act in a different way , she stopped being affectioned , stop texting compliments and hearts and was rude she didn't left me yet but I think that she will if I continue to do it ,IG Casey is right on this one ....
Knowing 99% of men won’t pass these test or even know they exist makes me sleep great at night. Like whoever trying to talk to her or impress her will just be pissing her off.
I do these right things unintentionally when I am seeing an average looking girl. But when I am seeing 8 or 9/10 I start to make these mistakes. I hate it. Never stop watching these videos guys!
I have to say, as a former ultra nice guy turned mean motherf%sucker the past couple years, as much as this content can be challenging to one’s comfort zone, it’s 100% true. It took, and is still taking, facing a lot of discomfort or downright fear to accept that the world, and relationships were the absolute opposite of what I believed since I was a child. But by blindly applying the lessons despite the discomfort, life proved this to be right, time and time again. As much as it can challenge one’s paradigm, try and not think if this aligns with what you know already, and try it in the real world. You’d be mind blown how much this simply works without failing.
This makes perfect sense and taking a break being alone to reflect and learn from past mistakes with your help should dismiss any insecurities and ignite a level of arrogance that I'm really starting to feel
@@JEMANF yeah but it really depends on the quality of the women you desire because in rural America there's an abundance of low self esteem girls that think having sex is the only way for validation and in doing so that's going to keep a guy around
But, this one sounds pretty extreme though. I understand unearned and excessive validation is unwarranted, but to give her nothing even if she did deserve it?
Well yeah , I used to smash a girl who later on became my girlfriend and I never wanted to commit in the first place , she was the one who talked about marriage and having a family etc... I was just interested in bedroom fun and never ever talked about a relationship , at one point I wanted to break up with her , and she wanted me even more. Later on she said that from all the guys she dated , they bored the hell out of her but that she couldn't get enough of me. I didn't even know all of those things , but now that I look back I realize that all of this is true. They absolutely get bored of dudes that say I love you , bringing her flowers and say they want a relationship. That's sad tbh because when you fall in love , it's game over for you. If you want to keep a woman , cut all that romantic bs and stop simping.
It sounds thirsty May as well tell them you love them To get rid of them 🙄👆 You may want to really get rid of one you know I love you my suggle bunny boo
It's society and predictive programming that pushes the notion of romance. Then you have the lies told by mothers to their sons regarding women. All of it is lies to conceal the truth about female nature. It's all a charade. All of which boils down to the fact that women don't even understand themselves. Walking contradictions, hormone factories.
Fellas if you’re new to Casey, know right now 1000% he is The GOAT. If you’ve messed up in the past, you can start using what he teaches right now. And no, he didn’t ask me to post this.
This works if you’re just looking for sex and not an actual relationship, this wouldn’t contribute to a healthy relationship but can help you build a rotation. If she is attractive and you don’t validate her at all either consciously or subconsciously, someone else will either on social media or in the real world
You have to find a sweet spot ….make it feel like drugs almost ….give her a hit of that validation then pull back ….some women are different so this is why u have to find her sweet spot…. For me i found my sweet spot with this one girl ….give her a little validation today and it’ll be weeks or months before she get it again
Just validate her for her good behavior. You are the prize in the relationship. If you validate her for her good behavior what YOU like, she will see it as a reward and continue being a good girl for you to make you happy. When she is in bad behavior what YOU don’t like, don’t validate or compliment her. Put her in her place with confrontation, give her less attention, no sex etc. It only works If she knows you can have better girls than her or walk away anytime you want. Just give her the fantasy by having options by speaking to girls
It is the female nature to give and receiving love. She wants to make her man happy and submit to him. All you need to do is to lead her and give her love for her effort. Example: She gives you a gift, you reward her by kissing her. She made you food, you reward her with great sex. Give and Receive Love. Simple. It isn’t your task to give and receive love to a woman.
This my 2nd video of this guy. And i can say that whatever he says is 100% true. In my late teen years I had a girlfriend who had a 2 older sisters. I ofc knew about all the drama they had with boys bc my girlfriend would tell me. I carefully observed how they dealt with guys and got mindblown when I saw the guys that they chased after vs the guys that chased them. Her middle sister was like 9. My best friend was her boyfriend. He broke up with his long term girlfriend to be with her. She got bored of him and dumped him after a couple of months lol. Then when I saw the guy she chased after and eventually married and had kids. I was blown away. He was asshole, simpleton guy. My friend next to him looked like Brad Pit. But My friend was simping too much. There was similar story with older sister.
The crazy thing is that everything Casey says is true. We want it not to be true, we think we see something different going on when we look at other people, but our own experience proves it’s true. To the man’s logical brain it makes no sense. It’s the complete opposite of what should be. One thing to point out for the younger guys, often this stuff doesn’t happen immediately. It’s a slow progression. At first she may love the attention and the validation and you’ll think that you’re both on the same page. And maybe you are, but it’s only for a moment. Then, secretly, she’ll start to turn on you. Your love, your validation, will turn her off. At least to some degree, but enough that she’ll subconsciously feel that something is “off”. It may take weeks, months, or even years. But with the passing of time, and you not knowing all the little things you do that you think (incorrectly) are solidifying your bond are actually working against you.
What’s this say about women though? They don’t let true love exist where you want to show love for eachother and let that thrive. Or is this just a certain type of women this applies to? Think of your grandparents who have been together forever. Was this going on or do they actually love eachother and there’s no chasing like this too it?
Men and women love differently. Your concept of “true love” is completely different from hers. The same way her attraction buttons are different from what men assume or were led to believe. Older generations had different social orders to live under for the times, which is a part of what kept them together. It wasn’t entirely based on “love”. Grandma’s “love” for Grandpa was likely based on how much of a utility he was for her. What one perceived as their “true love” had many many underlying opportunistic components to it on her part.
In his early videos he's said you should treat the woman well when you're with them but limit the times you're with them. So they miss that sun shining on them and crave it. Now he's gone complete savage, 0 affection or validation. I feel like he knows most men will screw this up and give too much attention so him saying give them 0 attention knowing we'll still give them some attention will hit the sweet spot for attention.
I think he sayin. U shuld go out nd have fun but once the date is over just move on like thats the last time seeing her.. Dont get attached is what he preaches moreso lately
@@giovannipantorno884 Eventually you want to land a decent gal though right, not date all your life ..that's not gonna happen with treating them like garbage. There's gotta be a balance. I do agree with not over doing it though.
I think Casey's approach works really well for attraction--initially, and re-attracting the woman after you're in a relationship. But to sustain a relationship, once committed, I think we must give some validation, positive attention, teamwork. But keep dating the same way we attracted the woman to begin with, so she remembers how attractive, preselected, internally strong, flirtatious, mysterious, and fun you are.
I've watched a lot of your videos, but I haven't seen you talk about learning how to be comfortable alone. This one simple thing has given me so much confidence with women
I agree with you. And the more I listen to him, the less I am even willing to have any LTR with women. It must be exhausting to have to act « tough » permanently, to the point to having to restrain yourself of saying thank you when she did something for you. Personnally, I get my needs taken care by escorts, and move on. No headaches, no time, no energy, no attention wasted, and no acting.
All these videos are great when your first dating a woman. Many of the principles can be carried over two long-term relationships, but not all. You cannot maintain this behavior 100% when you have a family with a woman. You can do 90%. You still need to hold frame and not fall into her drama traps but a healthy family has a loving environment.
And then she cheats with the neighbour and divorce happens. This information is so shocking but it's very true. Women will destroy a family without hesitation if they find someone that is not the p*ssy we become when we get attached. They'll just justify in their heads with any bullsh*t they want. I'm talking from experience my friend. Stay strong!
What does that even mean? How does having a family change anything? I think one problem is that many men get confused and think that love is the Disney version with hugs and kisses, warm feelings, and sappy bullshit like that. They don't understand that true love is equivalent to what we consider "tough love", meaning you do what is best in spite of what the other person thinks. Real love is not a feeling at all. I believe this is why you don't think it possible for a man to maintain this behavior in a family.
@@cynicist8114 I have it so I live it. I'm a guy who actually pulled it off. By that I mean I have a "traditional" setup. I provide the money, the house and everything while she takes care of the house, baby, and cooks the food etc. I'm in my 30s and she's 20. I am the leader aka the man and she's the woman in our gender roles. She is the one who wants to give the hugs and kisses not me. I am not romantic whatsoever. I take care of business which allows her to be the woman. The balance is what makes a working household. I am firm when I need to be and chill when I can be but I'm the one who creates order which then makes peace. Women will always try to disrupt the order and peace. It's knowing when to be chill and when to be firm.
Incredibly precise and accurate ! You are surely the most precise and accurate of all the podcasts on the same subject. You could definitely write female roles in Hollywood. Your understanding of the female psychology behaviour is extraordinarily phenomenal. Congratulations. Long live to your podcast and your formation.
I made EVERY single one of these mistakes with my ex-girlfriend and she dumped me ELEVEN times over two years. But here's my problem: I'm an emotive, romantic man. I CANNOT be cold and detached because it's not who I am. Do I have to live inauthentically for the rest of my life and put on an act just to keep a woman long term or is there a point that I can relax and be myself without fear of her leaving me?
In my experience, once life batters you enough, you stop giving enough of a shit to continue being romantic and super expressive. I was the same way. It’s still there, but I’ve learned to be much more selective with it and who I give it to, if at all. You gotta gauge it to the woman
@@MaestroSpartan That’s what I’m starting to figure out. However, I’m 41, and I don’t have time for these stupid games. I’m just going to start being direct after a few dates and just tell her, “This is who I am: Attentive. Caring. Romantic. Drama-free. If you want games, go somewhere else.” If she doesn’t like it, fuck it. On to the next.
@@herosbreath6715 that’s totally respectable, and any quality woman should be cool with being upfront with you who are. On my end it’s just I’ve gotten tired of it, as opposed to actively trying to play games or anything like that so I hope I’m not giving you the wrong message.
My Dad always said he the a$$hole and the jerk and I'm like huh? He said how did you think me and your mother been together for so long and the minute you treat her nice and all that other b.s you'll see the mistake never treat them nice just worry about yourself and that's it when it comes down to relationships and don't be clingy if turns them off. Once I started doing that I had to hide from these chicks because all the bring is nothing but problems. I looked at my dad like what just happened he said that's what I'm I went through. Rest in power father you taught me well
Sounds like *The Attraction Paradox!* at least the 1st part does...and as you continue it goes into the *metaphysical aspects* of such paradox.... Excellent breakdown! *peace 2the case*
I literally came on Casey channel one month ago to try to cure my one year relationship, indeed my girlfriend was displaying all signs of toxicity (disrespect, non cooperative, withdraw sex, always on her phone). Through the journey I learnt so much about women’s behavior and especially how I was supposed to behave, on my end (yes did screw up up - but new information new reaction) which mean not being insecure, nor weak for her and not wanting sex. We did break up two weeks ago. And the more I look back on this relationship combine with Casey’s advice, I now understand that the sweet spot (if not the only) is being the « side dude ». Being focus on my goals, being selfish to achieve my mission and having two / three girls around that are part of my journey without me being committed and not seeing them more than once a week. Never thought I would change that much (always been in couple), however I do think now this is the only way to go.
You literally explained the situation i am in as well. Had my first girlfriend, was with her for 5 months. It was easy to get her. Keeping her was the hard part. Looking back at the relationship, and after watching Casey’s videos, i realized did everything wrong. Im so happy i found Casey’s channel.
It's true. Two girls let's me do whatever the hell I wanted because I was unavailable, both hot. One was hot af. One ex I thought I was getting away lucky for putting her second to my friends, but I didn't know what was actually working to my advantage. First girlfriend would walk into my room while I was sleeping and wake me up with a blow job, because I was shipping out to the army, choosing something else over her. I was just doing what I had already signed up for before I met her. Didn't realize at the time that was why though, because I wasn't choosing her. It's messed up but this guy is right about everything. Girls only respect you when you don't respect them, it's awful but that's just how it is.
I hear you but this advice seems to only work with 304s and high maintenance woman. How exactly will you have a woman to settle with, with that kind of approach?
@javier.alvarez764 you can find a 250 pound girl or use hypergamy to your advantage, meaning finding an undocumented woman that is willing to use you to get residency. I'm aiming for an Asian girl currently. I'm a Colombian immigrant myself so lean towards other people who don't have any relatives around for like 1000 miles. And I refuse fat chicks. Never been with one. But even then, you need to let them know they're replaceable, as are we. People only properly respect you when you keep them in check. Friends, coworkers, strangers..pets. Im pretty kind and patient by default, and always someone tries to overstep their bounds.
@javier.alvarez764 and also I do get checked out often and have had situations where I girl takes a picture of me at the supermarket but didn't realize her sound was on, yet those very same girls who make it obvious, they fold as soon as I hit on them because my detachment, which is what made me attractive, is suddenly gone. It's messed up.
I’ll be honest, some of this stuff is scary to do. Yesterday I ignored two text messages from an ex-girlfriend. They were just messages of her showing The a picture of a puppy. No commentary with it, just pictures. This was after we had breakfast earlier that day. I felt I had already paid for breakfast, I had already spoken with her for the two hours we hung out, I didn’t need to respond to every last message she sent. I’ll be honest, I was afraid it would make her not send me any more messages, and to be honest, I have not heard from her again, and it’s been almost 24 hours. Still, I don’t care. This is not the first time we’ve tried to rekindle things since our break up, and my overzealous, Nice guy tactics have failed miserably in the past. Even if I never hear from her again, at least I am no longer looking like a thirsty bytch!
@@937youngjay sorry about the delay. Believe it or not, a couple of days after I wrote my first message, she asked me for a loan because she was short on her rent. I told her I don’t just give people money for free, and she tore in on me, calling me a creep and saying that I should just be a nice person and help, instead of expecting something in return. The thing is, I didn’t even say what I wanted in return, I just simply said I don’t give girls money for nothing. I told her to lose my number until she gets some respect and hung up on her. That was two months ago and I did not hear from her again until today! Lol. Out of nowhere I get a “Merry Christmas” text from her. I replied, merry Christmas. She then asked how I was doing, and I told her I was fine, but I had to get back to my family who is in the front room. I didn’t hear back from her today.
@@Dg-vg7zg its not the easiest part but if you follow what this guy says and practice a bit you will get there.Also even with relationship i think its important to stay in the game you dont have to cheat but its nice confidence boost to keep flirting
Learning these skills and applying them into your real interactions with women are completely different things. To be able to internalize the behavioral codes you have to be rejected or abandoned many times so that you align yourself with the delicate balance of correct attitude. So, the esiest route is to interact with as many women as possible and gain the experience until the time comes when you do not care about the results. Then you will have a lot of women chasing you, flipping the scripts and you start to reject even the most beautiful women who are not good enough to meet your standards other than beauty. Warning; this level of seductiveness has a dangerous side as well, which is that you will not want to commit to any women at all because of having lots of options readily available, and most probably you will increase the number of alfa widows who might never bond with anyone for long term.
Hmmm. I agree with every point except the appreciation bit. Depending on how you frame the relationship, showing appreciation in a calm, nonchalant manner actually heightens the behavior that you're highlighting
I think appreciation is a way of showing you appreciate yourself. “Thank you for doing that for me.” That little selfishness keeps it about you and keeps her mind out of realm of thinking its about appreciating her. She’s happy that she gets to participate in you appreciating what you want.
Casey I had a realization lately. I think you are partially right but not completely. here is why. A man should validate and uplift women but not in a way where he emasculates himself and puts himself at her feet waiting for her approval..... it sounds like you are saying that encouraging or uplifting a woman lowers attraction, but the real reason that women lost attraction is because men do it from a point of neediness and validation seeking. The energy behind the words is far more important than what you are saying.
DONT GET ATTACHED The more you care the less she will Worry about only today - don’t future plan - when she walks away and goes home fully accept there’s a chance you never see her again. Don’t invest emotionally into the future Extend the time horizon of the dating experience- a women’s attraction takes time to build - can’t rush these things Play it out for 6,7,8 months Not thirsty to set up next date Can’t rush and force these things - can’t make them go faster than you want them to Don’t send constant validation such as check in messages, telling her I love you constantly, even looking like you love her - you don’t really care and life would be fine without her
Casey, I want thank you very much. I learned so much in this one video then I have in my lifetime about women. In retrospect, I’ve made plenty mistakes. In fact, I was the complete opposite and all I got was rejection and loss. I will definitely employ these principles. Thank you again.
I think it depends on the time spent , if you want a serious relationship and she wants it with you. You can doing these things in balance ofcourse and depending upon how much investment the girl shows in you. In my experience a good girl who wants you to be with her and values you will appreciate this when things are actually serious
So don’t hold her hand, don’t ask her out, don’t text her, dont talk to her, don’t spend time with her, don’t tell her u love her….sounds like an awesome relationship! 👏👏👏
To be fair, the way women view us men is disgusting and dark. Read the: - Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar - The anatomy of female power Report back after reading those. Reality and Nature does not care about morality. This is truly Female Nature. My experience reflects what Casey says from lovers to friends to coworkers to acquaintances.
Or get a doll or use the brothel for your manly needs so you don't need to talk, kiss, cuddle and waste your valuable time with a woman. Narcissist anyway prefer to spend time with the only one they love - themselves 🙌👏👏👏
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Phenomenal video Casey! I was waiting for this awareness to come to your life as i have been studying it for 20+ yrs... keep up the greatness brother god bless god speed
It sounds crazy but i experienced this and this is why nice guys finish last go work out stay busy grind build yourself and when you let them have there space they come back very important how can she respect you when you don’t even respect yourself.
Honestly, I used to not like Casey's videos because I thought he was an arrogant prick, I simply cannot stand arrogant people, man or women. but here i am, listening to everything he has to say. He's probably much younger than me, but a lot of what he says makes sense. Is not arrogance, is assertiveness, and I wish i had that level of confidence in me, but years of women rejection have put a big fkn dent in my self steem, and Red Pill content like this has been a eye opener for me. It's like a boot camp for the soul. Red Pill content reminds me of the premise of Stoicism: one has to be in perfect control of his emotions, and sometimes not even show them.
We need to define validation differently. It's more akin to acknowledgement. We don't validate someone as a person like "you complete me", pedestalization, adoration, or worship. What you do is you validate what their experience is or what they're saying. It's not about approval, people pleasing or agreeableness, it's about understanding someone's experience without having to agree, approve or like it.
Casey is right the more you care, the more her desire will drop. I'm only realizing this now and she's been testing me for the past 3 months, making drama, initiating arguments, pulling back, and accusing me of cheating. I've always been nice and caring to her, never cheated to her and now i've been slap with reality that men will not get the same treatment you give for women. I need advice on what to do from now on.
„Ask“ lmao „Please i know i am just a peasent, but pleeeeaaassee would you please take a few minutes to give me your attention? I will pay for your food🥺🥲“
"Let someone else get there" you lost the game there..... you shouldn't be thinking about what she's doing at all. Concentrate on you and your work she will come in time
@@Heart_Ov_Alion It doesn't necessarily have to be a guy but maybe one of her friends. Ok, concentrate on myself on my days off work by not planning to do somthing with the person I want to?
@@Heart_Ov_Alion But dude, what if she _doesn't_ though? Girls are notorious for being ADD with their emotions, and other guys are likely talking to them. How are we going to seriously rely on her to be the one to take the initiative when that rarely EVER happens-ESPECIALLY with the hottest girls who are getting flooded with attention?
every video with total new insights. respekt. Glenn Gould explained journalists always that he could show them in half an hour everything they need to know about playing the piano. But woman a much more complex than that. Therefore he teaches the same 30 min lesson every day , with micro nuances, not because he is just a rat in a cage trying to push the button and keep the money flowing, instead he is coming with new insides every day. I wonder if women can't see when they interact with caught rats in modern slavery that repeat the same stuff day in day out, just to make a living. But Probably most of them are caught in the same mechanism and blind for it. 'Despite all my rage I am still just a rat in a cage.'(Billi Corgan)
The girl I was last with made this very difficult as she set what I would call ‘validation traps’. She was EXTREMELY insecure and when I wouldn’t validate she would throw a huge fits, accuse me of wanting other women, accuse me of giving up easy, accuse me of using her, threaten to leave, etc. And she did leave several times when I would stand my ground. She was extremely lazy and wouldn’t work for anything. She came back every time, but eventually she didn’t. Sometimes we were very lovey dovey and she was by far the most affectionate women I have ever known. She validated me a million times over. We would chase each other around and laugh like children. The validation would work sometimes and not other times. She had a mental illness and was court ordered to take her psych meds. It was both the best and worst thing ever.
So I get into a relationship, but can't compliment her, can't cuddle, can't hold her hand, can't show genuine love and interest, so then what's the point exactly?
The crazy thing is I secretly wish you don’t blow up and become more popular because the knowledge is so valuable that I wish only I could access this keep preaching
Amazing video, as always. Live each day as if it's your last. Focus on what's right in front of you because that's the only thing that's guaranteed. Relish every moment that happened, learn from your mistakes when you fumble. Be content, be grateful.
I find the only real way i can execute most of what casey says seems to only be possible for me if i constantly talking to other women and keeping my options open, now doing that as a married man can be a challenge. I wonder, did men in the 1920s have to worry about all this sh...t!?
every relationship I've had the woman has left me physically or emotionally, what hit was you said about it was fate , which I did think , it always was great in the begining they told me how they loved me but after 3 to 6 months they all either left me, cheated on me, or made my life a living hell. Now I understand with your teaching I was doing everything you are saying not to do. At least I'm aware and I can change , at 68 yrs old you would think I could have learned this stuff , Thanks !
you can relax and love them but make sure you dont overdo it. Caseys newer videos are kinda savage, his earlier videos he recommends treating girls well when they behave well.
That is the black pill. Casey is giving information for dating exposing female nature. I myself am moving from Redpill to Truth pill. For me now it only makes sense if you find a women who goes against her instinct. Good luck with that.
@@wanderer3443 It does not apply at all. It is just for young goodlooking studs being eager to spread their juices among as many women as possibly like certain animals without the intention of a deep relationship
The information in these videos resonate so deeply because I can vividly recall many instances where my masculine instincts were telling me to go about my interactions with women in the exact same ways that you’re telling us to and I overrode those instincts in favor of taking actions that I falsely assumed made women feel safe and supported in the investment of their love/attraction towards me. My instincts were right all along and now I have the context to support why I needed to have more faith in myself. Thanks brother
A harsh truth to swallow for most men out there but is a priceless tool to navigate through her psychological turmoil If you wish to take a bitter and brutal fact.
Brutal but true 💯 I wish it was not so guys but this is how it is and the sooner you adapt and get your head straight the better for you and your woman
Misleading so so many men. God bless you I hope you find happiness someday outside of this manipulative approach. This is not how relationships are designed.
I get the concept of this and I think it works the majority of the time however, I do feel like there are a small percentages of successful relationships where both people really do respect and honor each other
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You and Michael Jackson explain and exhibits hypergamy perfectly his video who is it shows hypergamy from the top👌🇺🇳
How does this work with marriage? Or separated marriage you are trying to make work? 14yrs married 20 years together.
You always talk about what not to do to kill attraction and keep them interested but you never talk about when the right time to commit. It seems as though all your content is driven towards never dating, never being in a relationship or marrying a woman.
I’m a Christian man and love God. Living a life sleeping around with a woman without being married to them is a life living in adultery. God intended for us to be married…
So for someone like me who wants this someday, are you saying this is not possible? That we should never commit and just hangout with them for the rest of our lives?
Bro I need mentor.
Just remember; a woman's mind is like AI', it's just running a program', ❤"it's not real".
'Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.'
Mark Twain.
Put a women on a pedestal..And they will look down on you.
Put a man on a pedestal and he’ll look down on you… so basically you’re not deep and intellectual
Mark Twain was truly an original thinker.
Really? Mark Twain said that? Did Mark Twain also have a men's dating advice channel on RUclips? 😁
The more you care, the less she will....Nailed it. Spot on.
I couldn't agree with this more. As an attractive guy with a nice body, I used to wonder why it would be so easy for me to chatch girls but hard to keep them. It took me a very long time to realise I was killing attraction by over validating and complimenting them. Here is the thing: if a girl is secure about where she stands with you, she will leave you for a guy who keeps her guessing what his intentions with her are. In layman's terms, men love loyal and faithful women, women love adventurous and mysterious men. Once the mystery is nolonger there, she will also be nolonger there. It's that simple.
I've seen very happy couples married for years and have a special bond, but in these relationships both validate each other.
So I don't understand after a point, there has to be a point you don't play these games? Right?
U not attractive homie
So how do you ever get anywhere with these women? How do u take things further if your never going to in some way validate her or compliment her? Does he mean by over doing it or doing it all. I understand women subconsciously like uncertainty but how will I get a woman to commit if she never knows what I’m up to.
@@Dg-vg7zg yo i need to know this too. I feel like an initial compliment is fine to break the ice but then dont validate anymore. Thoughts?
Well said
56 years old here...I look back at the 100 Plus women I have dated in my life...and HE IS RIGHT...I lost ALL the good ones that I REALLY LIKED and to this day STILL can't totally get rid of the ones that I could barely stand
Facts
Lol
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You don't have to be disrespectful or arrogant towards women, you just don't give them the edge. A woman knows whether or not if you would walk away. Which I've done on many occasions. And most of them, even after several years, are still interested. A lot of what you say makes a lot of sense though. Keep up the good work.
If you’re a stone cold ice box 24/7, eventually she would want to keep the door shut. Never to open again
I disagree. It’s ok to be kind and respectful while with them but your actions must project low interest and readiness to switch without hesitation when apart. This may be manifested in low response rate, flaking on her with poor excuses, little to no validation (social media interactions, texts, phone calls, etc.)-all of this while having her noticing the validation you get from other attractive females. In other words, your behavior with her is fine (while u r with her) but your actions (when apart) communicate you don’t need her. She’ll become obsessed guaranteed.
💯correct
I dated a girl before that didn't understand that I could walk away. She broke up with me, and I didn't make a big deal about it. Then, 2 weeks later, she tried getting back with me. I refused. Then, she spent the next several years just randomly trying to talk to me on Facebook. The problem is that I knew I could walk away from her at any moment, so I thought at the time I didn't have to worry about over validating her. She asked me out, and I perceived my own value to be above hers. So I thought I was safe, like I couldn't do anything wrong because of that. Now I know that it doesn't matter how much higher your value is than hers. If you give too much validation, then she'll lose interest.
@@jaythenihilist4689 Is that her on your pfp?
Giving a woman a compliment actually increases her attraction for you when she's trying to get your interest level up. Only give this reward when she's putting in the effort. It always worked for me.
Yes, I get the principle that complimenting and validating in general leads to a decrease in female desire, but you do have to account for the occasional cases when doing so does not lower it. When you're first getting to know a woman who shows interest in you, reciprocating her interest by complimenting her - if done without becoming obviously obsessed (and even this might work in the beginning, provided her interest level is extremely high) - will please her desire and heighten it. In established relationships, if sprinkled cautiously, it will soothe the woman's desire for comfort which is also part of women's dualistic sexual principle. Everything else, I think, fails men.
Casey's videos contradict each other. earlier I watched a video where he said it would be weird not to complement a woman, as if you were playing a game of not validating her.
@@wayland7150which video is that.
@@wayland7150 He’s talking about your girlfriend is just sitting there and you look at her all stupid and say something like you love her so much and she’s so beautiful blah blah blah. It’s a sign of being whipped.
If she walks in the room wearing heels and lingerie, that’s when you tell her how hot she is.
The power of the relationship goes to the person who cares the least
@TheKONDERSthtas why they are loyal to assholes because they are careless and ruthless
Cares the least? No. It’s more about who needs the other person the least.
Remember Love is suppose to be fun.
very sad@TheKONDERS
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The only men they don’t hate who validate them are the Alpha “Guy friends.” The boyfriend and beta “guy friends” are toast once they validate
I swear to god Casey after brainwashing myself with your videos day in and day out ive now ended up with 3 nines texting me every day. This after failing with fives and sixes 6 months ago. I cant thank you enough. Guys this shit works trust me.
This channel made me gay
bruh thinks 7s are 9s i bet
@@jurassicthunder baseless hater, if a girl is a 7.5 to the world but a 9 to him, who gives a fuck
Probably a 6 tops 😂 @@jurassicthunder
@@Travellahh What I use to see as 9s are now 6s - like this girl right now at the coffee shop, in front of me - a 6.5 maybe, (7s are a copout) and to be an 8 she has to be very fine. Unusually so, the average woman is a 5 imho.
I’m tired of talking about how strange it is, that women react this way, and how baffling it is that they prefer to be treated poorly. From now on, I’m just going to do it, and damn trying to figure out why.
Some people just go after other things, like treat an animal kindly instead - rather than be attracted to things that require you to feed a complex.
You don't get it. Its not treating women poorly, just cut back on validating them. "The Red Pill exists so you won't hate women for what they can never be to you."
- Rollo Tomassi, author.
it's not that they want to be treated poorly, it's that we made very simple thing extra complicated. all there is to it is this: women want men that are better then them at EVERYTHING that can LEAD them. simple. leaders don't ask their wives if she likes the destination of their relationship is going. he goes. she has the right to jump ship. simple. when men simp, women know they are not leaders and not better than them. simple.
@@jurassicthunder That does not apply to traditional women.
You should never be attached to a woman. Always give her limited attention. She should fight for your attention through out the span of your whole life.
I wish I knew this ten years ago
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that's there my problem, i can't seem to shake it off. It's hard ingrained in me.
It's so hard to think that way..
@@manuel.camelo Yes it is hard to be like that that's f up but you must do it , I see a girl once a week and even a small fraction of validation made her act in a different way , she stopped being affectioned , stop texting compliments and hearts and was rude she didn't left me yet but I think that she will if I continue to do it ,IG Casey is right on this one ....
Knowing 99% of men won’t pass these test or even know they exist makes me sleep great at night. Like whoever trying to talk to her or impress her will just be pissing her off.
Same here man
I chuckled while reading this. Being better than the competition always feels good. Even if we're not at the level we want to be at just yet
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But would you pass the test?
@@Thatsong-fr9nq I wouldn’t even waste my time taking the test.
Men remains stranger before their woman no matter how many years you know her
I do these right things unintentionally when I am seeing an average looking girl. But when I am seeing 8 or 9/10 I start to make these mistakes. I hate it. Never stop watching these videos guys!
True. Its easy with the 6s but really hard wirh the 9s
This information is facts! It’s in woman’s nature to punish men who appear weak to them. Even though your “Doing” the right thing.
I have to say, as a former ultra nice guy turned mean motherf%sucker the past couple years, as much as this content can be challenging to one’s comfort zone, it’s 100% true. It took, and is still taking, facing a lot of discomfort or downright fear to accept that the world, and relationships were the absolute opposite of what I believed since I was a child. But by blindly applying the lessons despite the discomfort, life proved this to be right, time and time again. As much as it can challenge one’s paradigm, try and not think if this aligns with what you know already, and try it in the real world. You’d be mind blown how much this simply works without failing.
Perfectly put. Once you accept how things are and let go of any previous mindset, everything goes smoothly.
See, I'm the opposite. I'm a former raging alcoholic who's now sober and a pretty decent guy. I never EVER had problems with women when I was a drunk.
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This is all spot on. Validation is also a great reverse tactic to get rid of her. It’s a valuable tool 😂
This makes perfect sense and taking a break being alone to reflect and learn from past mistakes with your help should dismiss any insecurities and ignite a level of arrogance that I'm really starting to feel
Same here
@@JEMANF yeah but it really depends on the quality of the women you desire because in rural America there's an abundance of low self esteem girls that think having sex is the only way for validation and in doing so that's going to keep a guy around
if i saw these pot holes i wouldnt have failed miserably a few months back. I learned this the hard way. Zanders vids are the shortcuts.
But, this one sounds pretty extreme though. I understand unearned and excessive validation is unwarranted, but to give her nothing even if she did deserve it?
Well yeah , I used to smash a girl who later on became my girlfriend and I never wanted to commit in the first place , she was the one who talked about marriage and having a family etc... I was just interested in bedroom fun and never ever talked about a relationship , at one point I wanted to break up with her , and she wanted me even more. Later on she said that from all the guys she dated , they bored the hell out of her but that she couldn't get enough of me. I didn't even know all of those things , but now that I look back I realize that all of this is true. They absolutely get bored of dudes that say I love you , bringing her flowers and say they want a relationship. That's sad tbh because when you fall in love , it's game over for you. If you want to keep a woman , cut all that romantic bs and stop simping.
It’s so fucked how backwards shit is, it’s like we can’t ever be romantic and show love for a girl lmaooo
Bingo
It sounds thirsty
May as well tell them you love them
To get rid of them
🙄👆 You may want to really get rid of one you know
I love you my suggle bunny boo
It's society and predictive programming that pushes the notion of romance.
Then you have the lies told by mothers to their sons regarding women.
All of it is lies to conceal the truth about female nature.
It's all a charade.
All of which boils down to the fact that women don't even understand themselves.
Walking contradictions, hormone factories.
Fellas if you’re new to Casey, know right now 1000% he is The GOAT. If you’ve messed up in the past, you can start using what he teaches right now. And no, he didn’t ask me to post this.
This works if you’re just looking for sex and not an actual relationship, this wouldn’t contribute to a healthy relationship but can help you build a rotation. If she is attractive and you don’t validate her at all either consciously or subconsciously, someone else will either on social media or in the real world
You have to find a sweet spot ….make it feel like drugs almost ….give her a hit of that validation then pull back ….some women are different so this is why u have to find her sweet spot…. For me i found my sweet spot with this one girl ….give her a little validation today and it’ll be weeks or months before she get it again
Just validate her for her good behavior.
You are the prize in the relationship.
If you validate her for her good behavior what YOU like, she will see it as a reward and continue being a good girl for you to make you happy.
When she is in bad behavior what YOU don’t like, don’t validate or compliment her. Put her in her place with confrontation, give her less attention, no sex etc.
It only works If she knows you can have better girls than her or walk away anytime you want. Just give her the fantasy by having options by speaking to girls
It is the female nature to give and receiving love.
She wants to make her man happy and submit to him.
All you need to do is to lead her and give her love for her effort.
Example:
She gives you a gift, you reward her by kissing her.
She made you food, you reward her with great sex.
Give and Receive Love. Simple.
It isn’t your task to give and receive love to a woman.
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You don't "give" validation, you make her earn it.
This my 2nd video of this guy. And i can say that whatever he says is 100% true. In my late teen years I had a girlfriend who had a 2 older sisters. I ofc knew about all the drama they had with boys bc my girlfriend would tell me. I carefully observed how they dealt with guys and got mindblown when I saw the guys that they chased after vs the guys that chased them. Her middle sister was like 9. My best friend was her boyfriend. He broke up with his long term girlfriend to be with her. She got bored of him and dumped him after a couple of months lol. Then when I saw the guy she chased after and eventually married and had kids. I was blown away. He was asshole, simpleton guy. My friend next to him looked like Brad Pit. But My friend was simping too much. There was similar story with older sister.
The crazy thing is that everything Casey says is true. We want it not to be true, we think we see something different going on when we look at other people, but our own experience proves it’s true. To the man’s logical brain it makes no sense. It’s the complete opposite of what should be. One thing to point out for the younger guys, often this stuff doesn’t happen immediately. It’s a slow progression. At first she may love the attention and the validation and you’ll think that you’re both on the same page. And maybe you are, but it’s only for a moment. Then, secretly, she’ll start to turn on you. Your love, your validation, will turn her off. At least to some degree, but enough that she’ll subconsciously feel that something is “off”. It may take weeks, months, or even years. But with the passing of time, and you not knowing all the little things you do that you think (incorrectly) are solidifying your bond are actually working against you.
What’s this say about women though? They don’t let true love exist where you want to show love for eachother and let that thrive. Or is this just a certain type of women this applies to? Think of your grandparents who have been together forever. Was this going on or do they actually love eachother and there’s no chasing like this too it?
Men and women love differently. Your concept of “true love” is completely different from hers. The same way her attraction buttons are different from what men assume or were led to believe. Older generations had different social orders to live under for the times, which is a part of what kept them together. It wasn’t entirely based on “love”. Grandma’s “love” for Grandpa was likely based on how much of a utility he was for her. What one perceived as their “true love” had many many underlying opportunistic components to it on her part.
I know guys that still think men and women want the same things. All of them suck with the women in their life - go figure.
This is soo true, I meet new women and i intentionally make these mistakes and exactly what he says happens. It’s soo true what he is preaching
In his early videos he's said you should treat the woman well when you're with them but limit the times you're with them. So they miss that sun shining on them and crave it. Now he's gone complete savage, 0 affection or validation. I feel like he knows most men will screw this up and give too much attention so him saying give them 0 attention knowing we'll still give them some attention will hit the sweet spot for attention.
I think he sayin. U shuld go out nd have fun but once the date is over just move on like thats the last time seeing her.. Dont get attached is what he preaches moreso lately
@@giovannipantorno884 Eventually you want to land a decent gal though right, not date all your life ..that's not gonna happen with treating them like garbage. There's gotta be a balance. I do agree with not over doing it though.
@@Pinseeker01youre right but i don't know about marriage tho man. we live in CRAZY times.
Definitely taking your advice, I've lost women some a few because I let my emotions cloud my judgement, this is good information for me
I think Casey's approach works really well for attraction--initially, and re-attracting the woman after you're in a relationship.
But to sustain a relationship, once committed, I think we must give some validation, positive attention, teamwork. But keep dating the same way we attracted the woman to begin with, so she remembers how attractive, preselected, internally strong, flirtatious, mysterious, and fun you are.
I've watched a lot of your videos, but I haven't seen you talk about learning how to be comfortable alone. This one simple thing has given me so much confidence with women
I agree with you.
And the more I listen to him, the less I am even willing to have any LTR with women.
It must be exhausting to have to act « tough » permanently, to the point to having to restrain yourself of saying thank you when she did something for you.
Personnally, I get my needs taken care by escorts, and move on. No headaches, no time, no energy, no attention wasted, and no acting.
All these videos are great when your first dating a woman. Many of the principles can be carried over two long-term relationships, but not all. You cannot maintain this behavior 100% when you have a family with a woman. You can do 90%. You still need to hold frame and not fall into her drama traps but a healthy family has a loving environment.
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And then she cheats with the neighbour and divorce happens. This information is so shocking but it's very true. Women will destroy a family without hesitation if they find someone that is not the p*ssy we become when we get attached. They'll just justify in their heads with any bullsh*t they want. I'm talking from experience my friend. Stay strong!
What does that even mean? How does having a family change anything?
I think one problem is that many men get confused and think that love is the Disney version with hugs and kisses, warm feelings, and sappy bullshit like that.
They don't understand that true love is equivalent to what we consider "tough love", meaning you do what is best in spite of what the other person thinks.
Real love is not a feeling at all. I believe this is why you don't think it possible for a man to maintain this behavior in a family.
@@cynicist8114 I have it so I live it. I'm a guy who actually pulled it off. By that I mean I have a "traditional" setup. I provide the money, the house and everything while she takes care of the house, baby, and cooks the food etc. I'm in my 30s and she's 20. I am the leader aka the man and she's the woman in our gender roles. She is the one who wants to give the hugs and kisses not me. I am not romantic whatsoever. I take care of business which allows her to be the woman. The balance is what makes a working household. I am firm when I need to be and chill when I can be but I'm the one who creates order which then makes peace. Women will always try to disrupt the order and peace. It's knowing when to be chill and when to be firm.
she still play games with you no matter how many kids you have with her. Now her options are limited and hypergamy satisfied already
Incredibly precise and accurate !
You are surely the most precise and accurate of all the podcasts on the same subject. You could definitely write female roles in Hollywood. Your understanding of the female psychology behaviour is extraordinarily phenomenal.
Congratulations.
Long live to your podcast and your formation.
I made EVERY single one of these mistakes with my ex-girlfriend and she dumped me ELEVEN times over two years.
But here's my problem: I'm an emotive, romantic man. I CANNOT be cold and detached because it's not who I am. Do I have to live inauthentically for the rest of my life and put on an act just to keep a woman long term or is there a point that I can relax and be myself without fear of her leaving me?
bro i wish the things were different, i really do.
In my experience, once life batters you enough, you stop giving enough of a shit to continue being romantic and super expressive. I was the same way. It’s still there, but I’ve learned to be much more selective with it and who I give it to, if at all. You gotta gauge it to the woman
@@MaestroSpartan That’s what I’m starting to figure out. However, I’m 41, and I don’t have time for these stupid games. I’m just going to start being direct after a few dates and just tell her, “This is who I am: Attentive. Caring. Romantic. Drama-free. If you want games, go somewhere else.” If she doesn’t like it, fuck it. On to the next.
@@herosbreath6715 that’s totally respectable, and any quality woman should be cool with being upfront with you who are. On my end it’s just I’ve gotten tired of it, as opposed to actively trying to play games or anything like that so I hope I’m not giving you the wrong message.
@@MaestroSpartan It’s all good, Homie. I wish you all the best. 🤜🤛🙏
My Dad always said he the a$$hole and the jerk and I'm like huh? He said how did you think me and your mother been together for so long and the minute you treat her nice and all that other b.s you'll see the mistake never treat them nice just worry about yourself and that's it when it comes down to relationships and don't be clingy if turns them off.
Once I started doing that I had to hide from these chicks because all the bring is nothing but problems. I looked at my dad like what just happened he said that's what I'm I went through. Rest in power father you taught me well
Watching your videos makes me realize exactly how i messed up past relationships its actually insane. Thank you Casey truly
Thank you very much, brother.
Keep saving men’s lives.
I've told her: "I love you, BUT don't read much into that, I love a lot of women. You're just one of them."
That is a good one, mixing validation and showing you have many options.
Dont be thirsty and let time make woman pursue you. Wise word from the expert😊
Sounds like *The Attraction Paradox!* at least the 1st part does...and as you continue it goes into the *metaphysical aspects* of such paradox....
Excellent breakdown!
*peace 2the case*
I literally came on Casey channel one month ago to try to cure my one year relationship, indeed my girlfriend was displaying all signs of toxicity (disrespect, non cooperative, withdraw sex, always on her phone). Through the journey I learnt so much about women’s behavior and especially how I was supposed to behave, on my end (yes did screw up up - but new information new reaction) which mean not being insecure, nor weak for her and not wanting sex. We did break up two weeks ago. And the more I look back on this relationship combine with Casey’s advice, I now understand that the sweet spot (if not the only) is being the « side dude ». Being focus on my goals, being selfish to achieve my mission and having two / three girls around that are part of my journey without me being committed and not seeing them more than once a week. Never thought I would change that much (always been in couple), however I do think now this is the only way to go.
You literally explained the situation i am in as well. Had my first girlfriend, was with her for 5 months. It was easy to get her. Keeping her was the hard part. Looking back at the relationship, and after watching Casey’s videos, i realized did everything wrong. Im so happy i found Casey’s channel.
Thats too much man haha. All I Just did I started semen retention and my ltr skyrockrtd 🎉
@@enjoytodaystudios5849 same here
So your ultimate conclusion is being used for dick and validation. Deep.
@@adrianwiniarski4592it's more about the mindset and the actions through it. not bc you keep them nuts in.
It's true. Two girls let's me do whatever the hell I wanted because I was unavailable, both hot. One was hot af. One ex I thought I was getting away lucky for putting her second to my friends, but I didn't know what was actually working to my advantage. First girlfriend would walk into my room while I was sleeping and wake me up with a blow job, because I was shipping out to the army, choosing something else over her. I was just doing what I had already signed up for before I met her. Didn't realize at the time that was why though, because I wasn't choosing her. It's messed up but this guy is right about everything. Girls only respect you when you don't respect them, it's awful but that's just how it is.
I hear you but this advice seems to only work with 304s and high maintenance woman. How exactly will you have a woman to settle with, with that kind of approach?
@javier.alvarez764 you can find a 250 pound girl or use hypergamy to your advantage, meaning finding an undocumented woman that is willing to use you to get residency. I'm aiming for an Asian girl currently. I'm a Colombian immigrant myself so lean towards other people who don't have any relatives around for like 1000 miles. And I refuse fat chicks. Never been with one. But even then, you need to let them know they're replaceable, as are we. People only properly respect you when you keep them in check. Friends, coworkers, strangers..pets. Im pretty kind and patient by default, and always someone tries to overstep their bounds.
@javier.alvarez764 and also I do get checked out often and have had situations where I girl takes a picture of me at the supermarket but didn't realize her sound was on, yet those very same girls who make it obvious, they fold as soon as I hit on them because my detachment, which is what made me attractive, is suddenly gone. It's messed up.
I’ll be honest, some of this stuff is scary to do. Yesterday I ignored two text messages from an ex-girlfriend. They were just messages of her showing The a picture of a puppy. No commentary with it, just pictures. This was after we had breakfast earlier that day. I felt I had already paid for breakfast, I had already spoken with her for the two hours we hung out, I didn’t need to respond to every last message she sent. I’ll be honest, I was afraid it would make her not send me any more messages, and to be honest, I have not heard from her again, and it’s been almost 24 hours. Still, I don’t care. This is not the first time we’ve tried to rekindle things since our break up, and my overzealous, Nice guy tactics have failed miserably in the past. Even if I never hear from her again, at least I am no longer looking like a thirsty bytch!
It’s been a month did you stick to your gunz? And did she ever message you again?
What happened
@@937youngjay sorry about the delay. Believe it or not, a couple of days after I wrote my first message, she asked me for a loan because she was short on her rent. I told her I don’t just give people money for free, and she tore in on me, calling me a creep and saying that I should just be a nice person and help, instead of expecting something in return. The thing is, I didn’t even say what I wanted in return, I just simply said I don’t give girls money for nothing. I told her to lose my number until she gets some respect and hung up on her. That was two months ago and I did not hear from her again until today! Lol. Out of nowhere I get a “Merry Christmas” text from her. I replied, merry Christmas. She then asked how I was doing, and I told her I was fine, but I had to get back to my family who is in the front room. I didn’t hear back from her today.
@@NoDramaAllowed I just posted an ipdate
@@NoDramaAllowed Looks like he took his own life lol jk
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im in a 9 year relationship and all of this apply it doesnt matter if its first date or 20 years marriage
How do u get in a relationship without any validation though?
@@Dg-vg7zg its not the easiest part but if you follow what this guy says and practice a bit you will get there.Also even with relationship i think its important to stay in the game you dont have to cheat but its nice confidence boost to keep flirting
I'm new to this. So you never give your girl a thanks or compliment at all? How do you do it?
Learning these skills and applying them into your real interactions with women are completely different things. To be able to internalize the behavioral codes you have to be rejected or abandoned many times so that you align yourself with the delicate balance of correct attitude. So, the esiest route is to interact with as many women as possible and gain the experience until the time comes when you do not care about the results. Then you will have a lot of women chasing you, flipping the scripts and you start to reject even the most beautiful women who are not good enough to meet your standards other than beauty.
Warning; this level of seductiveness has a dangerous side as well, which is that you will not want to commit to any women at all because of having lots of options readily available, and most probably you will increase the number of alfa widows who might never bond with anyone for long term.
You are the master of women. You have their blueprint down cold as ice. Thanks Brother!
Everything he’s saying is right, she has to chase and earn your validation not the other way around
Those videos are getting better every single time I see them.
If there was an annual manosphere award I think this series would make Zander a candidate. Well done.
Hmmm. I agree with every point except the appreciation bit.
Depending on how you frame the relationship, showing appreciation in a calm, nonchalant manner actually heightens the behavior that you're highlighting
I think appreciation is a way of showing you appreciate yourself. “Thank you for doing that for me.” That little selfishness keeps it about you and keeps her mind out of realm of thinking its about appreciating her. She’s happy that she gets to participate in you appreciating what you want.
Casey I had a realization lately. I think you are partially right but not completely. here is why.
A man should validate and uplift women but not in a way where he emasculates himself and puts himself at her feet waiting for her approval.....
it sounds like you are saying that encouraging or uplifting a woman lowers attraction, but the real reason that women lost attraction is because men do it from a point of neediness and validation seeking.
The energy behind the words is far more important than what you are saying.
DONT GET ATTACHED
The more you care the less she will
Worry about only today - don’t future plan - when she walks away and goes home fully accept there’s a chance you never see her again.
Don’t invest emotionally into the future
Extend the time horizon of the dating experience- a women’s attraction takes time to build - can’t rush these things
Play it out for 6,7,8 months
Not thirsty to set up next date
Can’t rush and force these things - can’t make them go faster than you want them to
Don’t send constant validation such as check in messages, telling her I love you constantly, even looking like you love her - you don’t really care and life would be fine without her
First one here🙏🏽
Here comes another classic from Uncle C
Casey, I want thank you very much. I learned so much in this one video then I have in my lifetime about women. In retrospect, I’ve made plenty mistakes. In fact, I was the complete opposite and all I got was rejection and loss. I will definitely employ these principles. Thank you again.
I think it depends on the time spent , if you want a serious relationship and she wants it with you. You can doing these things in balance ofcourse and depending upon how much investment the girl shows in you. In my experience a good girl who wants you to be with her and values you will appreciate this when things are actually serious
Casey is right, every time he is spot on. I continue to make these mistakes, and this is spot on
So don’t hold her hand, don’t ask her out, don’t text her, dont talk to her, don’t spend time with her, don’t tell her u love her….sounds like an awesome relationship! 👏👏👏
To be fair, the way women view us men is disgusting and dark.
Read the:
- Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar
- The anatomy of female power
Report back after reading those. Reality and Nature does not care about morality. This is truly Female Nature.
My experience reflects what Casey says from lovers to friends to coworkers to acquaintances.
Small dosis
If you listen closely he says you can do all of that IF she’s taking the initiative. If you start any of that you’ve lost
Or get a doll or use the brothel for your manly needs so you don't need to talk, kiss, cuddle and waste your valuable time with a woman. Narcissist anyway prefer to spend time with the only one they love - themselves 🙌👏👏👏
You don't get what he's saying at all 🤦 he didn't say don't ask her out, or don't text or talk to her. Just not excessively.
Investing emotionally into the future with the woman you’re seeing s pure GOLD ! And spot on
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
It will be okay soon man. Keep bettering yourself, use the pain and direct it towards the gym and learning about female nature.
@josephreglandoh you morons are 🤡
@@hankwood4349bro they’re bots
best words on this video "this is how it is"
Phenomenal video Casey! I was waiting for this awareness to come to your life as i have been studying it for 20+ yrs... keep up the greatness brother god bless god speed
It sounds crazy but i experienced this and this is why nice guys finish last go work out stay busy grind build yourself and when you let them have there space they come back very important how can she respect you when you don’t even respect yourself.
Absolutely spot on
Never care much
Restrict the time
Honestly, I used to not like Casey's videos because I thought he was an arrogant prick, I simply cannot stand arrogant people, man or women. but here i am, listening to everything he has to say. He's probably much younger than me, but a lot of what he says makes sense. Is not arrogance, is assertiveness, and I wish i had that level of confidence in me, but years of women rejection have put a big fkn dent in my self steem, and Red Pill content like this has been a eye opener for me. It's like a boot camp for the soul. Red Pill content reminds me of the premise of Stoicism: one has to be in perfect control of his emotions, and sometimes not even show them.
He might be. He’s also right.
It sucks and it’s no fun but it’s also spot on and I’ve seen it over and over.
We need to define validation differently. It's more akin to acknowledgement.
We don't validate someone as a person like "you complete me", pedestalization, adoration, or worship.
What you do is you validate what their experience is or what they're saying.
It's not about approval, people pleasing or agreeableness, it's about understanding someone's experience without having to agree, approve or like it.
10:08 I never would’ve been able to swallow this pill if I hadn’t literally lived first.
Casey is right the more you care, the more her desire will drop. I'm only realizing this now and she's been testing me for the past 3 months, making drama, initiating arguments, pulling back, and accusing me of cheating. I've always been nice and caring to her, never cheated to her and now i've been slap with reality that men will not get the same treatment you give for women. I need advice on what to do from now on.
This is spot on. I see it constantly in relationships, dudes saying, "How'd i get so lucky?!" Cringe
Shit! I've made every single mistake you're talking about but not again. Your presentation makes perfect sense.
I need that entire whiteboard in a pdf file so I can attach it to my wall so I never forget it.
So true really, she was begging me to say I love her when I started loving her she start to think to exit..
How do I talk to a girl *_whatsoever_* or ask her on a date *_whatsoever_* without giving her some form of validation?
„Ask“ lmao
„Please i know i am just a peasent, but pleeeeaaassee would you please take a few minutes to give me your attention? I will pay for your food🥺🥲“
Exactly. Should I ask her to meet up again this weekend or not and let someone else get there first...
"Let someone else get there" you lost the game there..... you shouldn't be thinking about what she's doing at all. Concentrate on you and your work she will come in time
@@Heart_Ov_Alion It doesn't necessarily have to be a guy but maybe one of her friends. Ok, concentrate on myself on my days off work by not planning to do somthing with the person I want to?
@@Heart_Ov_Alion But dude, what if she _doesn't_ though? Girls are notorious for being ADD with their emotions, and other guys are likely talking to them. How are we going to seriously rely on her to be the one to take the initiative when that rarely EVER happens-ESPECIALLY with the hottest girls who are getting flooded with attention?
This is one of your best videos, so much valuable information. Thanks
every video with total new insights. respekt. Glenn Gould explained journalists always that he could show them in half an hour everything they need to know about playing the piano. But woman a much more complex than that. Therefore he teaches the same 30 min lesson every day , with micro nuances, not because he is just a rat in a cage trying to push the button and keep the money flowing, instead he is coming with new insides every day. I wonder if women can't see when they interact with caught rats in modern slavery that repeat the same stuff day in day out, just to make a living. But Probably most of them are caught in the same mechanism and blind for it. 'Despite all my rage I am still just a rat in a cage.'(Billi Corgan)
The girl I was last with made this very difficult as she set what I would call ‘validation traps’. She was EXTREMELY insecure and when I wouldn’t validate she would throw a huge fits, accuse me of wanting other women, accuse me of giving up easy, accuse me of using her, threaten to leave, etc. And she did leave several times when I would stand my ground. She was extremely lazy and wouldn’t work for anything. She came back every time, but eventually she didn’t. Sometimes we were very lovey dovey and she was by far the most affectionate women I have ever known. She validated me a million times over. We would chase each other around and laugh like children. The validation would work sometimes and not other times. She had a mental illness and was court ordered to take her psych meds. It was both the best and worst thing ever.
So I get into a relationship, but can't compliment her, can't cuddle, can't hold her hand, can't show genuine love and interest, so then what's the point exactly?
Ler her do that. Your job is to protect and provide. Chill and don't ever chase her.
I'm dying!! 😂😂 24:16 Thanks for the advice Casey. 💪🏾
The crazy thing is I secretly wish you don’t blow up and become more popular because the knowledge is so valuable that I wish only I could access this keep preaching
Amazing video, as always. Live each day as if it's your last. Focus on what's right in front of you because that's the only thing that's guaranteed. Relish every moment that happened, learn from your mistakes when you fumble. Be content, be grateful.
I find the only real way i can execute most of what casey says seems to only be possible for me if i constantly talking to other women and keeping my options open, now doing that as a married man can be a challenge.
I wonder, did men in the 1920s have to worry about all this sh...t!?
No cuz encomicially it wouldnt benefit the woman. Until now
women were dependant on men financially on those days and their options were limited. Now women have options.
every relationship I've had the woman has left me physically or emotionally, what hit was you said about it was fate , which I did think , it always was great in the begining they told me how they loved me but after 3 to 6 months they all either left me, cheated on me, or made my life a living hell. Now I understand with your teaching I was doing everything you are saying not to do. At least I'm aware and I can change , at 68 yrs old you would think I could have learned this stuff , Thanks !
GD man, you’re on fire lately 👍
24:19 😂😂😂😂 truth. The general notion is that you need to just live your life and enjoy when they are around you.
I can see why this stuff is swept under the rug to keep the masses confused....if it got out, this could damn near cause another Great Depression😂
this man is saving lives
So we don’t give the woman any attention at all? Seems like we wouldn’t be interacting at all…
Yes. Not interacting with women is what he preaches. No love, just be an ahole and be miserable and you’ll be alpha bro 😎
You can give them attention, without being smitten by her beauty, just have normal interactions with her without looking thirsty for her, bruh
@@oscargonza2748no, apparently any attention is failing an interest test
I like you man, thank you. May God bless you. After I prayed, God sent you to me, you were the answers to my prayer.
So whats the point then? If you can never relax or love somebody, what's the f****** point?
you can relax and love them but make sure you dont overdo it. Caseys newer videos are kinda savage, his earlier videos he recommends treating girls well when they behave well.
That is the black pill. Casey is giving information for dating exposing female nature. I myself am moving from Redpill to Truth pill. For me now it only makes sense if you find a women who goes against her instinct. Good luck with that.
That is the point. You cant "relax"
Thanks!
Can you do a video on how to maintain a healthy LTR? This feels kinda toxic to me to have to “act” this way forever
He probably has no real life experience regarding ltr. He has f boy vibes.
Yeah, how does any of this apply to having a healthy marriage?
@@wanderer3443it 1000000% applies to marriage; you just don’t want to hear it!! Lol!!!
@@wanderer3443 It does not apply at all. It is just for young goodlooking studs being eager to spread their juices among as many women as possibly like certain animals without the intention of a deep relationship
The information in these videos resonate so deeply because I can vividly recall many instances where my masculine instincts were telling me to go about my interactions with women in the exact same ways that you’re telling us to and I overrode those instincts in favor of taking actions that I falsely assumed made women feel safe and supported in the investment of their love/attraction towards me. My instincts were right all along and now I have the context to support why I needed to have more faith in myself. Thanks brother
What happened to yesterday’s video? lol
To hot too handle for RUclips I guess.
@@sole__doubtIt was awesome!
@@CenterCommunity I caught like 5-6 minutes of it.
A harsh truth to swallow for most men out there but is a priceless tool to navigate through her psychological turmoil
If you wish to take a bitter and brutal fact.
Me: women exist
Her: feels validated, pulls away.
I can attest to this. It's pretty pathetic how delusional and entitled they are.
Brutal but true 💯 I wish it was not so guys but this is how it is and the sooner you adapt and get your head straight the better for you and your woman
Hello sir, by that logic, wouldn't asking a woman out be considered a form of approval/validation?
Right some of the stuff he say is overkill
It is a form of validation
Everything you said is the absolute truth. A good way to limit your time with a Gal is always be dating many women not just 1.
The solution is to stop being so smitten by her beauty and just treat her like a human being not some kind of a fairytale princess from Disneyland
Misleading so so many men. God bless you I hope you find happiness someday outside of this manipulative approach.
This is not how relationships are designed.
So we stay single forever. Because even talking to a girl is weakness
😅
Basically. And if you already have done your work-welcome to manhood. It never ends for us and she gets to just sit there with and “be herself”
I get the concept of this and I think it works the majority of the time however, I do feel like there are a small percentages of successful relationships where both people really do respect and honor each other