As usual it's all about how the cheater is feeling. Me me me. Only a few brief moments does she even address _his_ pain and the betrayal _he_ is going through. Everything else is about *her* pain, *her* regret, and how *she* can get someone she doesn't deserve back without even considering what's best for _him_ in this situation.
Hoevelatins 17:4 and when thine Hoes falter, thou shall sayest unto them BE GONE THOT! 17:5 But they shall not be gone, their pleas and cries, manipulations and excuses shall fall in deaf ears and thou shalst sayith again BE GONE THOT!
I will always say this cheating is never a mistake or accident, it’s choice, period. A mistake is driving the wrong way or buying the wrong donut. Sleeping with someone else is a choice you make there is no excuse when you are in a committed relationship.
Cheating is not a mistake it’s a choice and once a cheater always a cheater take it from me I have a,ways been attentive in a,l my relationships and still it didn’t save me from being cheated on they offered me the same bs a hall pass well it never helps cause im not a cheater if I want someone or this or that I will be single by once in a relationship I’m committed to that person that’s it trust and communication make and break a relationship once one is broken 5e relationships fall apart.
What was more insane to be was "drank too much kissed but stopped before it got intimate" like kissing isn't intimate? The whole way she talked about him in the first bit just read as her love bombing us with her guilt.
@@battlesister1559 I think you didn't understand me, he said she had said the quote. Kissing is an intimate thing but she'd said she'd stopped before it got intimate. Meaning she thinks kissing isn't.
@@migo70 no no, I understood what you meant. Other videos like this often censors the words "sex" or "die", so they use synonyms to not let the video be taken down or lose their monetization.
Let’s all say this together “ Cheating is not a mistake. It’s a choice.” Turning left when you supposed to turn right is a mistake. Buying “No sugar added” coffee creamer is a mistake. Selecting “Reply All” on an email is a mistake. What OP did was a choice and she tried to justify that choice with the suggestion of an open relationship.
OP said she is not a naive girl but she sounds really immature especially here 0:25 where she put down her friends and their boyfriends to feel better about her relationship..
@@jhsemoxitha3821 if you wanna call that "putting someone down", then everyone is a piece of shit because everyone puts everyone else down. You're basically saying all criticism is putting someone down at that point
@@VeryGoodDeals of course everyone is a POS. The difference is some of them understand that preference is subjective and so no need to put it side by side with others'.
The guy was putting in massive hours to help the most vulnerable - and OP didn't like it because her "needs weren't being met". Well its good that the he resolved that issue immediately. I hope OP's old friend was worth it.
The fact that she didn’t see anything wrong with making out with another man and didn’t see that as cheating says it all! She had a good man who loved her and would have built a future with her and because she was lonely and want attention/sex she wanted to open their relationship! The reason why her bf ended is because he found out that he couldn’t be with a woman that couldn’t see that what she did and wanted to do was cheat! Much respect to him how he handle it! It had nothing to do with age because many 24 years old woman get married and have kids her judgment is based of her own standards’ she’s a cheater and if her bf over look this and took her back he wasn’t sure if she would get lonely again and cheat!
Bruh, accountability eludes this one 💀 I mean, she feels bad but the real „click“ hasn’t happened. She’s not emotionally mature. Her mindset right now (being able to cheat and rationalise it in that moment) makes her unavailable for long term relationships. And I bet that if they had broken up over something else, she wouldn’t have matured in any way. At least now she has learned through her pain.
I don't believe in polyamory. I do belive that people who lack character and commitment go for other people to stroke their sorry ego at the expense of their partners. Disgusting. She is a pathetic cheater and her reasoning is ridiculous. Can't empathize with her one bit. She had it coming.
Spoiler Alert: It was in fact the age difference that was the problem. He is a full grown adult, and she has the emotion and mental maturity of a child. So yes it was an age difference problem.
Let’s not forget that she started to screw with work. That can work out…but nowadays it’s too much trouble because if something goes south, you also have to find a new job on top of the break up per se.
@@Dustin81 given how she acted (cheating, rationalising cheating, breaking down because the consequences of her actions were more severe than anticipated) she’s not emotionally mature. Or fully arrived in the adult mindspace. You can turn it however you want, she wasn’t ready for an adult relationship. Whether you want to pin it on her chronological age, developmental issues or just lacking adult relationship experience…the result is the same in the end.
@@Haxkarl Its not jsut the cheating ones. The top story on this channel about the older sister "accidentally" getting the younger sister graped is straight up horrific
OP is still only worried about herself. She needs to realize that the problem is that she is a selfish, self centered, emotionally immature person who sees people as objects. If she has any actual affection for her bf she would let him go and get herself into therapy. It probably wouldn’t fix anything though, she would just end up learning to hide her true nature.
Reality 101: you hit the jackpot! You said the magic words that killed your Partner's soul: "open relationship." Look at yourself and fix your problems so you won't be stupid again in the future.
Sounds like a fair bit. I mean she completely fell to pieces because her boyfriend broke up with her after she cheated, she doesn't sound terribly mature or put together. Given how her parents treated her, likely a bit spoiled and sheltered.
The thing is. I kinda believe that she is sorry and that she understands that she's wrong. But... actions have consequences and it does not matter if she "stopped it" before it got intimate. It was waaay too far gone already. So no, there is no fixing it.
Ask any polyamorous person: opening up your marriage will not help you fix it. If you aren’t communicating before, adding new people to distract yourselves only makes things worse. The fact that you went out with this person, made out, we’re going to go all the way, but then stopped… your relationship is already over, you just didn’t realize. You were trying to open the relationship so he wouldn’t notice you’d already cheated. People like you give polyamory a bad reputation.
Stuff like this really pisses me off. How can so many take love for granted? I cant even get people to look my way, nevermind love me the way he did for OP. So you had a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person, and you trash it all because you had to live in silence with your own thought for a few months? Wow, how sad for you.
There is no way a 41 year old administrator is dating some new 24 year old that he trained at the same company. That's career suicide but I'm sure the 16 year old girl that wrote this story did her best.
" So I stopped myself before we became intimate 🤡 " bruh, you already ware intimate the moment you went out of your house because your Bf wasn't home, let's not talk about the kissing part...
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I don't know a single self-respecting man who would stay after hearing the words "open relationship" except for exactly 1 friend who is openly poly.
This is the cheaters mentality all they do is care about themselves and no one else. He was out there saving lives and all she cared about was HER loneliness
If he 40 and ur 24 and he can pull Women in their 40s, guess what you arent special, he can replace you in a heart beat.... on the plus side, there is a happy ending.
So he cut back on work when she asked and then made great efforts to make dates fun during a pandemic. He gave her the attention and it wasn't enough. There would never be enough attention.
"thanks for the best 2 years of my life since my wife died" Offff, i felt that one and it stings. He killed her with kindness, thats an obliterating punch to the soul.
So she wants to downplay making out with that guy as "just hanging out with friends" but still asks for an open relationship LOL, tf do you need a poly relationship just for hanging out with friends, cheating women can't lie 🤣
Exactly, downplaying the facts with words while fully knowing their true implications and act accordingly. She's so much of a gaslighter she gaslights herself.
you learn that you never ask for things that make you repulsive to your future partner. thats how you fix this, by fixing yourself because you were wrong.
POS cheaters…‘I cheated so now I want an open relationship. Now il upset because actions have consequences’. Fastest thing in the universe is a woman running away from accountability.
The fact she said she didn't feel bad doing it, just doing it behind his back is the problem. Any decent human being who isn't scum should never even have the desire to be intimate with anyone who isn't their spouse or SO. OP should just go into a convent or something because no one should have to be in a relationship with someone like her.
He did the right thing, but i feel bad for her. He handeled it very well tho, better than she deserved maybe, but fuck I hope this makes her a better woman
Listenint to other people's stories ovwr the years made me aromantic I think, I dont care anymore I have no hope for romance because if I like someone Im gonna spend my whole life bracing for bs like this to happen
Women need to get the memo that 98% of the time asking about an open relationship is the end of the relationship. Even casually bring it up in conversation is enough for a lot of dudes to dump you on the spot with absolutely no way to fix it.
"[...] I was lonely [...] An old friend contacted me [...]" And for a second I held out hope that it was just a misunderstanding and she just wanted to know his opinion and he took it the wrong way, because he's been burned in the past, but no. Edit: Yeah and she kissed the guy asap. Worthless 304.
don't ask how to fix things with him. ask why you feel the need to sleep with other men if he is as incredible as you say he is. chances are you don't love him as much as you think
what's crazy about this is that he was actually fine with an open relationship, but once he asked why she brought it up and heard that she'd been cheating is when he had a problem with it. like, O.P. shouldn't have titled the post "bf broke up with me after I brought up an open relationship" it's "bf broke up with me after I admitted I'd been cheating on him"
You aren't mature enough for an adult relationship. You need to leave this man alone and you need to grow up before you enter a new relationship. You were acting like a needy child who needs constant attention and when you can't get it you want to cheat on him. Not only do you want to cheat on him but you unironically asked him to give you permission to do it. Personally I would be about done with you at this point as well and just have told you to do what you think is right. Since you are selfish and childish you wouldn't take my words to heart and just assume it was me giving you permission to cheat on me. Then when you go on your first date I would move all your stuff out of my place, changed the locks, set up security cameras and then go on vacation.
If we are feeling lonely you should just break up and move on. Cheating is never an option. Also... They man should have understand that, he needs to give tym to his relationship.
Yes, he should’ve tried to give time , but you need to understand the Covid lockdown time was some of the darkest periods for health care workers , my dad is a health care worker and honestly, lockdown sucked half the life out of him , they were so overworked both physically and mentally , my mom was very understanding , even though they fought about it 2/3 times , they never let it escalate and had a proper conversation always , so yes, op was in the wrong to go around blame the bf when he was trying his best , it was stated that he even cut back for her , that girl wanted to a cheater and got her consequences, no sympathy for her from my side
2:40 kissing is already going intimid. Yes she betrayed him. However, he uneccesarily worked 14-16 hours per day... There was no time for a relationship and she already told him about that problem. He thought the age gap is the problem. I say even if he finds a settled woman, if he doesnt have time to work on the relationship, this will end up in the same way.
"i'm a nurse" oh... well, game over, didn't really need to say anything else gotta say though, at least she seems to have realized and accepted she's a terrible person, maybe she'll improve before her next relationship
Lets be honest here its not that she didn't realize what she was doing it's that she didn't care. She didn't suddenly go dumb and not realizer what she was doing was cheating she just trying to rationalize it to herself to make a excuse for her actions.
Unpopular view: I believe Cheating can be a mistake, a mistake is defined as an action or judgement that is misguided. Cheating can fall under that definition... that being said, you still have to deal with the consequences. Lost relationship, lost respect, etc. If I get cheated on, it's over, I'm not going to yell at you, I'm not going to beat the shit out of your AP, I'm just out. Mistake does not always equal accident, but Cheating is Cheating
@evinhylow7864 just look up the definition of "mistake". It doesn't always mean you did something unintentional... and of course cheating is wrong. Society has a bad habit of misidentifing the definition of words.
It was by your hand, you turned your relationship in to a nigthmere. Why? Why did you cheate? Why do your words and apologis amount to nothing? Leaving him feeling betrayed. Breaking the bonds that you made. No more "im so sorrys". Look at what you've done, you've brougth upon disaster. Look at what you've done, this is the price of what you asked.
You did miss something. at 2:38 it clearly says "Before I knew it, we were kissing. I'm not going to lie, it felt good." And the fact that she classifies kissing as "not intimate" might suggest she had done it before to begin with. I'm kinda sad for her parents that had to shelter her while fully knowing that she belongs to streets.
Young women have that power of youth because men are dancing their way around her, asking her out etc etc. that much attention fills up the head of any woman. Only at a mature age can you consider your girlfriend or your wife to be truly your gf and wife. Otherwise, she has nothijg to lose because the next man is always there. Men and women operate differently in their dating phases. Men hardly ever have this many options. This inequality leads to men being insecure of their women going to parties dressed half naked to nightclubs and womem to think men are insecure fo thinking like that. Because she doesnt know what its like her having zero attention while her partner being hit on all the time or the possibility being ther.
People think its a good idea to ask their monogamous partner if they want an open relationship. Imagine talking to your child and asking them if they mind not having presents under the Christmas Tree this year. Cheating is one thing but callous neglect of someone's feelings is tortuous. Hey, I stole some candy from you so do you mind if I steal money directly from your wallet too? Its why its better just to end the relationship when stuff like that comes up.
i am not against age gap relationships, but there is always tricky part about equal level of maturity, your ex-boyfriend seems to be high value guy and he recognized that you are emotionally not mature enough to meet his standards and that's why he let you go ... in a monogamous relationship it's pretty much a one way street, you can't switch to an open relationship just because you feel like it. i feel sorry for your emotional suffering even if you brought it to yourself. I hope you learned your lesson for your sake.
Yeah, this is why women being looked at the "prize" is on the down fall. Really, you spent all that time saying how great he is, but him being great make you lonely.
Fictional story shared by a lot of other channels, but at least all the "updates" to the tall tale are here. She never admitted to cheating to her now ex either...but fellas, when a woman asks for an open relationship she already opened it before asking...aka she's been cheating(lining up a potential partner to be open with is still cheating in a monogamous relationship).
Yeah, I'm noticing that pattern in the threads about open. From the man's pov, when the woman finally convinces him, she's very soon with a regular contact guy like a co-worker or gym buddy. Secondary trend is that wife and f buddy soon fizzle out while husband finally finds someone and they click really well. 😉
Again feelings and friends ruined another relationship. instead of using logic like he's working his butt off to help people and provide for us it was I'm feeling lonely grow up feeling lonely is a part of life it doesn't give you the right to cheat you could have called your mom or your girl friends but no you decided to talk to a fling that obviously had alterer motivation ruined everything guy knew you where in a relationship and you knew but still did it. He knew the trust was gone and left
As usual it's all about how the cheater is feeling. Me me me. Only a few brief moments does she even address _his_ pain and the betrayal _he_ is going through. Everything else is about *her* pain, *her* regret, and how *she* can get someone she doesn't deserve back without even considering what's best for _him_ in this situation.
These types of comments are so stupid
@@VeryGoodDealsshe literally cheated tf you mean?
Well yeah, it's her pov, obviously it's going to be about her.
@@happynightmares4688 what Frosty said
@@VeryGoodDealsyou mean yours right? Because it's the dumbest thing in the thread by a mile
From the streets she came, and unto the streets she will return
amen
Hoevelatins 17:4 and when thine Hoes falter, thou shall sayest unto them BE GONE THOT! 17:5 But they shall not be gone, their pleas and cries, manipulations and excuses shall fall in deaf ears and thou shalst sayith again BE GONE THOT!
amen
Thoticus 69:4-20. Amen Brother
I will always say this cheating is never a mistake or accident, it’s choice, period. A mistake is driving the wrong way or buying the wrong donut. Sleeping with someone else is a choice you make there is no excuse when you are in a committed relationship.
Mistakes by deffination are erros in jugdement so a choice can be a mistake
@@sanicinapanic4264yes but when you know what you’re doing was a definite wrong thing and you still do it then it’s a choice.
@@sanicinapanic4264 Mistakes are also by definition accidental. Cheating is intentional. Every time.
@@richardtorruellas2370 Whoops oh I slipped tripped and flipped into bed with someone
Cheating is not a mistake it’s a choice and once a cheater always a cheater take it from me I have a,ways been attentive in a,l my relationships and still it didn’t save me from being cheated on they offered me the same bs a hall pass well it never helps cause im not a cheater if I want someone or this or that I will be single by once in a relationship I’m committed to that person that’s it trust and communication make and break a relationship once one is broken 5e relationships fall apart.
"So yeah my bf is a nurse and he was saving lives and putting himself in a major risk due to his age during lock down...but i feel lonely~"
What was more insane to be was "drank too much kissed but stopped before it got intimate" like kissing isn't intimate? The whole way she talked about him in the first bit just read as her love bombing us with her guilt.
@@migo70 I feel like that part was just censoring or else yt might take it down
@@battlesister1559 I think you didn't understand me, he said she had said the quote. Kissing is an intimate thing but she'd said she'd stopped before it got intimate. Meaning she thinks kissing isn't.
@@migo70 no no, I understood what you meant. Other videos like this often censors the words "sex" or "die", so they use synonyms to not let the video be taken down or lose their monetization.
@@battlesister1559 oh I didn't know that TIL
after awhile he wanted to meet up for drinks.
I said "Yes"
Let’s all say this together “ Cheating is not a mistake. It’s a choice.”
Turning left when you supposed to turn right is a mistake.
Buying “No sugar added” coffee creamer is a mistake.
Selecting “Reply All” on an email is a mistake.
What OP did was a choice and she tried to justify that choice with the suggestion of an open relationship.
What is op?
Ik it means the one talking about the story but idk wt ut mean
@@ghost0169original poster
@@ghost0169 original poster.
@@Lord_Phoenix95 thk u
Yukk she didn't even felt terrible doing that 💀
OP said she is not a naive girl but she sounds really immature especially here 0:25 where she put down her friends and their boyfriends to feel better about her relationship..
You're assuming shes "putting them down". Mental comparisons are not the same thing as putting someone down
Exactly
@@VeryGoodDeals she literally said her friend's bfs look less attractive, that indeed is putting down
@@jhsemoxitha3821 if you wanna call that "putting someone down", then everyone is a piece of shit because everyone puts everyone else down. You're basically saying all criticism is putting someone down at that point
@@VeryGoodDeals of course everyone is a POS. The difference is some of them understand that preference is subjective and so no need to put it side by side with others'.
The guy was putting in massive hours to help the most vulnerable - and OP didn't like it because her "needs weren't being met". Well its good that the he resolved that issue immediately. I hope OP's old friend was worth it.
Kissing is intimate ! Petting is intimate , oral sex is intimate ...... , it's all straying from your relationship and Destroys trust .....
Even prostitutes don't kiss... I've heard.
Cheats pretending they are innocent. The mere fact it`s in your head is betrayal and an insult
They always have a sob story to justify their treason. Somehow, they're victims of their own cheating.
The fact that she didn’t see anything wrong with making out with another man and didn’t see that as cheating says it all! She had a good man who loved her and would have built a future with her and because she was lonely and want attention/sex she wanted to open their relationship! The reason why her bf ended is because he found out that he couldn’t be with a woman that couldn’t see that what she did and wanted to do was cheat! Much respect to him how he handle it! It had nothing to do with age because many 24 years old woman get married and have kids her judgment is based of her own standards’ she’s a cheater and if her bf over look this and took her back he wasn’t sure if she would get lonely again and cheat!
The very definition of “fuck around and find out”.
Bruh, accountability eludes this one 💀 I mean, she feels bad but the real „click“ hasn’t happened.
She’s not emotionally mature. Her mindset right now (being able to cheat and rationalise it in that moment) makes her unavailable for long term relationships.
And I bet that if they had broken up over something else, she wouldn’t have matured in any way. At least now she has learned through her pain.
I don't believe in polyamory. I do belive that people who lack character and commitment go for other people to stroke their sorry ego at the expense of their partners. Disgusting. She is a pathetic cheater and her reasoning is ridiculous. Can't empathize with her one bit. She had it coming.
Spoiler Alert: It was in fact the age difference that was the problem. He is a full grown adult, and she has the emotion and mental maturity of a child. So yes it was an age difference problem.
I figured as much when she said "I moved in with him after 6 months" lmao
Let’s not forget that she started to screw with work.
That can work out…but nowadays it’s too much trouble because if something goes south, you also have to find a new job on top of the break up per se.
Her age isn't a reason for her being to stupid to know what she did was cheating. She isn't a child.
@@Dustin81 given how she acted (cheating, rationalising cheating, breaking down because the consequences of her actions were more severe than anticipated) she’s not emotionally mature. Or fully arrived in the adult mindspace. You can turn it however you want, she wasn’t ready for an adult relationship.
Whether you want to pin it on her chronological age, developmental issues or just lacking adult relationship experience…the result is the same in the end.
She's a fully grown adult too, just dumb af
All these stories.... I'm never getting married.
These are fake
@@peterharrell7305 Real life is way worse, most modern western woman cheat.
@@peterharrell7305 I hope for my sanity most of these reddit stories are fake. Some of these make my stomach churn
@@-lord1754 I actually doubt they are fake. Cheating has always been a part of our history
@@Haxkarl Its not jsut the cheating ones. The top story on this channel about the older sister "accidentally" getting the younger sister graped is straight up horrific
OP is still only worried about herself. She needs to realize that the problem is that she is a selfish, self centered, emotionally immature person who sees people as objects. If she has any actual affection for her bf she would let him go and get herself into therapy. It probably wouldn’t fix anything though, she would just end up learning to hide her true nature.
Exactly, she cheated on him because she wanted attention and now she wants him to keep giving her attention AFTER cheating.
' I'm disgusted with myself ' What a coincidence! We're all disgusted with you too! :D
Reality 101: you hit the jackpot! You said the magic words that killed your Partner's soul: "open relationship." Look at yourself and fix your problems so you won't be stupid again in the future.
So weird how she did not know what cheating was. What other basic values is she not aware of?
Accountability, Self-reflection, Self-judgement, Unawareness I can go on
That's nothing new. When women cheat they often don't consider it cheating.
Sounds like a fair bit. I mean she completely fell to pieces because her boyfriend broke up with her after she cheated, she doesn't sound terribly mature or put together. Given how her parents treated her, likely a bit spoiled and sheltered.
The thing is. I kinda believe that she is sorry and that she understands that she's wrong. But... actions have consequences and it does not matter if she "stopped it" before it got intimate. It was waaay too far gone already. So no, there is no fixing it.
Ask any polyamorous person: opening up your marriage will not help you fix it. If you aren’t communicating before, adding new people to distract yourselves only makes things worse. The fact that you went out with this person, made out, we’re going to go all the way, but then stopped… your relationship is already over, you just didn’t realize. You were trying to open the relationship so he wouldn’t notice you’d already cheated. People like you give polyamory a bad reputation.
well said
"I need attention"
That is not a valid reason to cheat on a loving partner. Grow up.
He should have dropped her the moment she said that.
Stuff like this really pisses me off. How can so many take love for granted? I cant even get people to look my way, nevermind love me the way he did for OP. So you had a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person, and you trash it all because you had to live in silence with your own thought for a few months? Wow, how sad for you.
"Me. Me me me me. Me me? Me? Me me, me me. ME! Me, me me. Me?...me."
Right now my feelings aren’t being met …. Times like these happen in long term relationships that why you work through it
There is no way a 41 year old administrator is dating some new 24 year old that he trained at the same company. That's career suicide but I'm sure the 16 year old girl that wrote this story did her best.
" So I stopped myself before we became intimate 🤡 " bruh, you already ware intimate the moment you went out of your house because your Bf wasn't home, let's not talk about the kissing part...
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I don't know a single self-respecting man who would stay after hearing the words "open relationship" except for exactly 1 friend who is openly poly.
During the pandemic, it is nasty. Juat nasty. My guy was saving lives. Get a hobby buy a toy adopt a cat dont cheat
Once you damage the trust, it's never gonna be the way it was. Leave, and find someone else with who you'll not repeat the same mistake.
Woman: ruins her relationship
Same woman: burst into tears and tries to paint herself as a victim trying to patch things up
This is the cheaters mentality all they do is care about themselves and no one else.
He was out there saving lives and all she cared about was HER loneliness
That is pretty much how women treat good men, yeah.
If he 40 and ur 24 and he can pull Women in their 40s, guess what you arent special, he can replace you in a heart beat....
on the plus side, there is a happy ending.
Top G is 40 and pull 24 year olds? Yeah he ain’t gonna be single for long….
And look and behold, the guy already had someone else when he last talked to her.
@@LumemDH what else should he do? be sad because he has a spine and the trash took itself out?
"I'm feeling neglected, let me whore myself out rather than communicating with the person I claim to care about" seems accurate
Ain't no way! OP cheats on her BF, tells him about it and asks if she can keep cheating. Surprise Pikachu face when he says GTFO
He shouldn't have ignored his relationship, but damn she doesn't consider fooling around to be cheating if she didn't screw???? Yikes.
He showed you his thoughts
So he cut back on work when she asked and then made great efforts to make dates fun during a pandemic. He gave her the attention and it wasn't enough. There would never be enough attention.
"thanks for the best 2 years of my life since my wife died"
Offff, i felt that one and it stings. He killed her with kindness, thats an obliterating punch to the soul.
So she wants to downplay making out with that guy as "just hanging out with friends" but still asks for an open relationship LOL, tf do you need a poly relationship just for hanging out with friends, cheating women can't lie 🤣
Exactly, downplaying the facts with words while fully knowing their true implications and act accordingly.
She's so much of a gaslighter she gaslights herself.
“I feel like my needs aren’t being met.”
Translation: I’m sexually frustrated and I can’t keep my hormones in check.
As soon as I read the title in the thumbnail, I knew OP was entirely in the wrong here
Bf did the only right thing. Shes for the street. 304 all the way
you learn that you never ask for things that make you repulsive to your future partner. thats how you fix this, by fixing yourself because you were wrong.
She just wants a quick fix
I would keep her around, but never anything more than girlfriend. No finances mixed, just friends with benefits.
POS cheaters…‘I cheated so now I want an open relationship. Now il upset because actions have consequences’. Fastest thing in the universe is a woman running away from accountability.
He's a saint 😭😭😭😭😭😭
The fact she said she didn't feel bad doing it, just doing it behind his back is the problem. Any decent human being who isn't scum should never even have the desire to be intimate with anyone who isn't their spouse or SO. OP should just go into a convent or something because no one should have to be in a relationship with someone like her.
He did the right thing, but i feel bad for her. He handeled it very well tho, better than she deserved maybe, but fuck I hope this makes her a better woman
Listenint to other people's stories ovwr the years made me aromantic I think, I dont care anymore I have no hope for romance because if I like someone Im gonna spend my whole life bracing for bs like this to happen
Women need to get the memo that 98% of the time asking about an open relationship is the end of the relationship. Even casually bring it up in conversation is enough for a lot of dudes to dump you on the spot with absolutely no way to fix it.
"[...] I was lonely [...] An old friend contacted me [...]" And for a second I held out hope that it was just a misunderstanding and she just wanted to know his opinion and he took it the wrong way, because he's been burned in the past, but no.
Edit: Yeah and she kissed the guy asap. Worthless 304.
This guy is my hero!
Lmaooo he had to
"How can I fix this?". Have you tried not being a free use hole?
don't ask how to fix things with him. ask why you feel the need to sleep with other men if he is as incredible as you say he is. chances are you don't love him as much as you think
Hey, at least she admit she was in the wrong.
No, my first reaction is "What kind of moron asks for an open relationship?"
Gotta love how the woman's age is an excuse, but if its flipped then its still the guys fault.
what's crazy about this is that he was actually fine with an open relationship, but once he asked why she brought it up and heard that she'd been cheating is when he had a problem with it. like, O.P. shouldn't have titled the post "bf broke up with me after I brought up an open relationship" it's "bf broke up with me after I admitted I'd been cheating on him"
You aren't mature enough for an adult relationship. You need to leave this man alone and you need to grow up before you enter a new relationship. You were acting like a needy child who needs constant attention and when you can't get it you want to cheat on him. Not only do you want to cheat on him but you unironically asked him to give you permission to do it. Personally I would be about done with you at this point as well and just have told you to do what you think is right. Since you are selfish and childish you wouldn't take my words to heart and just assume it was me giving you permission to cheat on me. Then when you go on your first date I would move all your stuff out of my place, changed the locks, set up security cameras and then go on vacation.
If we are feeling lonely you should just break up and move on. Cheating is never an option.
Also... They man should have understand that, he needs to give tym to his relationship.
It was only for two months. Life happens. You don't get to act like spoiled child just because things don't go your way.
Yes, he should’ve tried to give time , but you need to understand the Covid lockdown time was some of the darkest periods for health care workers , my dad is a health care worker and honestly, lockdown sucked half the life out of him , they were so overworked both physically and mentally , my mom was very understanding , even though they fought about it 2/3 times , they never let it escalate and had a proper conversation always , so yes, op was in the wrong to go around blame the bf when he was trying his best , it was stated that he even cut back for her , that girl wanted to a cheater and got her consequences, no sympathy for her from my side
2:40 kissing is already going intimid.
Yes she betrayed him. However, he uneccesarily worked 14-16 hours per day...
There was no time for a relationship and she already told him about that problem.
He thought the age gap is the problem. I say even if he finds a settled woman, if he doesnt have time to work on the relationship, this will end up in the same way.
Poor guy has to deal with the death of his wife, then after he thinks he finds a good woman, she cheats on him because she’s too emotionally immature.
"i'm a nurse" oh... well, game over, didn't really need to say anything else
gotta say though, at least she seems to have realized and accepted she's a terrible person, maybe she'll improve before her next relationship
Lets be honest here its not that she didn't realize what she was doing it's that she didn't care. She didn't suddenly go dumb and not realizer what she was doing was cheating she just trying to rationalize it to herself to make a excuse for her actions.
She told him she wanted other men, and is shocked he broke up with her??? Really???
Unpopular view: I believe Cheating can be a mistake, a mistake is defined as an action or judgement that is misguided. Cheating can fall under that definition... that being said, you still have to deal with the consequences. Lost relationship, lost respect, etc. If I get cheated on, it's over, I'm not going to yell at you, I'm not going to beat the shit out of your AP, I'm just out. Mistake does not always equal accident, but Cheating is Cheating
Cheating is not a mistake it is a series of bad actions in which you had to think at one point what I'm doing is wrong
And if it wasn't wrong they wouldn't hide it or would tell their partners immediately
@evinhylow7864 just look up the definition of "mistake". It doesn't always mean you did something unintentional... and of course cheating is wrong. Society has a bad habit of misidentifing the definition of words.
Biggest mistake I kept seeing here was "have". Me and my boyfriend have a great relationship. No, "had"
It was by your hand, you turned your relationship in to a nigthmere.
Why? Why did you cheate? Why do your words and apologis amount to nothing?
Leaving him feeling betrayed. Breaking the bonds that you made.
No more "im so sorrys".
Look at what you've done, you've brougth upon disaster. Look at what you've done, this is the price of what you asked.
the age gap IS the issue for her, because hes grown enough to see this for what it is
Typical modern woman.
Did I miss something.. She only said she "went out". Did she say they kissed at any point?
You did miss something. at 2:38 it clearly says "Before I knew it, we were kissing. I'm not going to lie, it felt good." And the fact that she classifies kissing as "not intimate" might suggest she had done it before to begin with. I'm kinda sad for her parents that had to shelter her while fully knowing that she belongs to streets.
Young women have that power of youth because men are dancing their way around her, asking her out etc etc. that much attention fills up the head of any woman. Only at a mature age can you consider your girlfriend or your wife to be truly your gf and wife. Otherwise, she has nothijg to lose because the next man is always there. Men and women operate differently in their dating phases. Men hardly ever have this many options. This inequality leads to men being insecure of their women going to parties dressed half naked to nightclubs and womem to think men are insecure fo thinking like that. Because she doesnt know what its like her having zero attention while her partner being hit on all the time or the possibility being ther.
She’s cooked.
The more i read these stories, the more i appreciate MGTOW and the red pill culture...
I don't consider 41 to be old but 24 is really young and likely still too immature to be in a serious relationship.
People think its a good idea to ask their monogamous partner if they want an open relationship. Imagine talking to your child and asking them if they mind not having presents under the Christmas Tree this year. Cheating is one thing but callous neglect of someone's feelings is tortuous. Hey, I stole some candy from you so do you mind if I steal money directly from your wallet too? Its why its better just to end the relationship when stuff like that comes up.
I'm a widowed man myself at 50 and I don't think you realize how selfish you really are so move on
they only care about themselves.
i am not against age gap relationships, but there is always tricky part about equal level of maturity, your ex-boyfriend seems to be high value guy and he recognized that you are emotionally not mature enough to meet his standards and that's why he let you go ... in a monogamous relationship it's pretty much a one way street, you can't switch to an open relationship just because you feel like it. i feel sorry for your emotional suffering even if you brought it to yourself. I hope you learned your lesson for your sake.
When does these stories start how amazing their men are and it's never enough. Dude is to old to be playing these dating games of the youth.
It wasn't my reaction. My reaction is, you are a gold digger. That was my first thought. I do love a happy ending.
Yeah, this is why women being looked at the "prize" is on the down fall. Really, you spent all that time saying how great he is, but him being great make you lonely.
OP: Wah!
Everyone else: *_GOOD_*
"we made out but stopped before we got intimate" thats so dumb. That is intimate and it is cheating and wrong.
Why would your mother cry at you cheating lmao? Same with your dad, wouldn't they support and be there for you?
So she needed a father figure all along lol
Fictional story shared by a lot of other channels, but at least all the "updates" to the tall tale are here. She never admitted to cheating to her now ex either...but fellas, when a woman asks for an open relationship she already opened it before asking...aka she's been cheating(lining up a potential partner to be open with is still cheating in a monogamous relationship).
Yeah, I'm noticing that pattern in the threads about open. From the man's pov, when the woman finally convinces him, she's very soon with a regular contact guy like a co-worker or gym buddy. Secondary trend is that wife and f buddy soon fizzle out while husband finally finds someone and they click really well. 😉
W bf
If this is a recent post (within a year) I have a friend I speak to every now and then, she’s in an age gapped relationship.
You cannot fix it.
Again feelings and friends ruined another relationship. instead of using logic like he's working his butt off to help people and provide for us it was I'm feeling lonely grow up feeling lonely is a part of life it doesn't give you the right to cheat you could have called your mom or your girl friends but no you decided to talk to a fling that obviously had alterer motivation ruined everything guy knew you where in a relationship and you knew but still did it. He knew the trust was gone and left
Grow up and find you another boyfriend and treat him right.
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