She is beyond strong and absolutely beautiful. She doesn’t play a victim, rather than a survivor. She should be a voice for all that’s struggling with abuse.
There's no such thing as "playing the victim" when you experienced horrible abuse, people cope in different ways, some are stronger than others and we are not to judge
I understand what you’re saying. In here, playing the victim is when people complain that their problems have always been about what was done to them yet have never tried anything to help themselves and probably never will. They’ll choose to live in their misery. @@agnieszkakos5268
Her mother is definitely is a criminal. There’s been cases where the mother have been charged with child endangerment for failing to act after knowledge of the abuse & rightfully so. Children deserve to be loved & protected. It’s horrible that so many have their innocence robbed from them at such a young age. 😢
I was raised by a very violent mother and it's a surreal experience to look at your mother and see a criminal sitting there eating her dinner, holding a conversation with someone, or gardening. My mother also would say that God has forgiven and forgotten "if" she has done anything wrong.
I find that people who have very “black and white” thinking typically haven’t been through the circumstances in which they are passing judgements on others. The more you go through in life, typically, the more empathy you are able to grow for others.
Of all of the LEO trainings about sex trafficking, domestic violence, drug use and abuse, homelessness, diversity, etc. that I have attended over the past 30 + years, this channel should be mandatory for every police officer and administrator in the country. Your way of talking and listening to those you interview is beyond educational. Thank you for your channel and what you do.
This is very troubling knowing these people get to continue life as normal after they derail a child's path for life. Wish they would be brought to justice.
@@simonlinser8286 the justice may be that she perseveres while they stay in the darkness. Wishing for others to feel pain because they caused pain is often not enough to help one find forgiveness and healing from the pain endured. It is right to want other to pay for their wrongs but it may not come and we can still find peace if it does not.
Gisele, I'm sorry that your mom didn't honor her role in your life. You're incredibly astute, well-spoken, and valid. You are miles ahead of many people with similar backgrounds because you've called out the wrongs and are determined to do better. You will stop the pattern of abuse and be fiercely protective of any future kids you might have. You're determined and resilient (in all things, there are better days and rougher days). You didn't ask for the abuse. Let those doubts go. Be well. ❤️
Personally I believe her mother should be charged with child abuse and child neglect for allowing and enabling what happened to her. Her mother is a criminal in my eyes.
Giselle, none of your childhood abuse was your fault. Your parents failed you. You were/are worthy of being treated with respect, love and protection by those who you had to depend on. Be kind and patient with yourself as you heal. Sending you love and strength for you to trust in yourself. 🙏🏻
nice, sweet, soft words of compassion... don't you think we know we were failed? sometimes this kind of talk comes across as so patronizing (even though I know it was not meant as such). where is your anger? your rage at injustice? sometimes that helps us more than what can feel like a pat on the head.
This was a fantastic interview. She should think about going into a field where she can work with children that went through similar situations. She is strong, smart and wise-beyond-her-years! You can Tell She's put in the work on her healing journey. I wish her all the luck and happiness.
@@nhlibra 🤣 She's 22. She's just a kid yet. She's just finding her path. She might end up having five different careers in her lifetime! Considering she's already working with children currently it's very possible that she'll work with them down the road. I'm assuming you're a young person too by your weird useless comment that didn't make much sense.
agree with these replies. the thing about being a survivor is your whole life doesn’t have to be defined by trauma. you get to do the thing you were put on this earth to do before damaged people intervened in your path.
As a mother and childhood trauma survivor, this knowledge is absolutely crippling. Every decision I make, I am so worried about how it will affect my children.
Dear Giselle, I honestly feel like I’m hearing a splitting image of my life. I’m a male from Chicago that joined the navy as a hospital corpsman and felt like the whole time of my childhood I lived with a mother that was mentally and emotionally abusive to me. Idk if you read the comments but stories like this reminds me of reasons to take care of myself. I cope with my stress by going to the gym and spending time with my people but this story was so inspiring and made me sad but happy it’s people out here that are experiencing things I’m experiencing but also let’s me know to stay positive and keep going. I’m done rambling but this video was so inspiring
Yes, it was very interesting to me to hear her reasoning for going into the navy. I have never heard that sentiment before, I have never served in the military myself, but it made so much sense and answered a lot of questions for why others may share her experience. That part, with her childhood, definitely was interesting part of this interview. I wish you well moving forward and thank you for all you have done. Words sometimes don't seem to be enough.
A friend of mine was sexually abused by her stepfather. She told me as a child he stimulated her sexual feelings and all her life she felt guilty because of it. 😢
What a fantastic human being. I grew up in a really loving 2 parent family with a wonderful sister also and all have been supportive my whole life and even with all that nuturing and stability as a foundation I've STILL found adulthood a real challenge and battled depression a lot of the time. How she could go through all she's been through as a child with all this abuse from the people that are supposed to love and keep you safe and come out of that to be such a positive, productive and highly empathetic adult is truly incredible to me. This was an inspirational video in many ways not just a heart breaking one.
@@adyo92 Sorry I don't know what you mean. You think it's impossible for people who grew up with a stable family background to suffer from depression in adulthood? I assume you're just trolling.
@@willsmith39 it’s a genuine question.. I have family in Guatemala living in horrible conditions, horrible weather, poverty, slums, born poor die poor type of life and not one of them is depressed. They can’t afford it, if they can physically work, no one gives a crap about their mental health. Depression seems to be a problem here in America as in other countries they don’t even know about depression or “mental health “.
@@adyo92 I don't live in America, I've never even been. I still don't really understand your angle with me. I said I had a stable family life growing up, I didn't say anything about our financial situation but now you seem to have assumed I come from a wealthy family. I don't. But even if I did I don't agree with your point at all, the too poor for navel gazing and therefore no depression doesn't square at all with reality. Because there are rampant drug abuse issues in 3rd world and developing countries and also people taking their own lives. Teenagers on yabba in Thailand or street kids sniffing glue in Venezuela doesn't speak to me of places magically devoid of depressed people. Coco Lee just commited suicide here in Hong Kong a few weeks back. On paper she had it all - certainly financially she did - but she'd been battling depression for a long time before taking her own life. Depression seems to have a strong genetic component (certainly in our family it does, my grandfather was a manual worker who worked all his life in a very physically demanding job but he ended up getting electro shock therapy in what was then called the loony bin) Anyway I'm not going to argue with you about this as I think there's no point. Believe what you like.
Having endured similar abuse as a child, I learned to forgive at the ripe old age of 30. I learned to protect myself. I became prone to violence. I was always engaging in relief drinking and drugging. I went to prison twice. I finally sobered up and applied spiritual concepts to my life. Here I now sit as a dying man whose wasted years haunt me. The stress of my past has taken its toll. But I stand firm in the truth of the matter is now I'm responsible to myself and the world around me to stay sober and react to life in a way that is socially acceptable. Good job girl!
Hey 👋 MARK. Glad to hear you get right to the point childhood trauma which is always the root of all our issues. I wish the very best for Giselle. I can tell she has a lot of sadness underneath her speech. God bless her.
I’m so happy that she is dealing with this at a relatively young age. I had a similar experience and it’s taken me a lifetime to finally come to terms with it. Child abuse is one of the most damaging behaviors humans can partake in. I am so in awe of her courage to come on here and tell the truth.
I’m so sorry your mother passed on the opportunity to be by your side. You deserve the best in the world. May you continue onwards to a better, healthier future. You are brave and strong. I see you, hear you and believe in you. ❤ Thank you for sharing your story.
Man i had to check the time. I thought i was almost off of work. My checklist is not done yet lol. Thanks for all you do. Getting this out there helps so many people.
What an incredible young lady. She is so intelligent, self aware, and beautiful. She reminds me alot of my oldest granddaughter who is also 22. She is so much more mature, and insightful than all the adults in her life who failed her. The hardest thing in the world is to cut off family, but I believe she made the right decision, I had to, so I know how hard it is. I wish her every good thing in this life from this day forward. So strong!
This woman is very strong and smart. I'm also a 22 year old that also had an very abusive father so this is very informative for me, everything she said I could fully relate to and I think these kinds of childhood traumas of course mess you up but in ways make you mentally quite strong.
A very sweet girl. Aware of her entire situation. Inner peace is being restored. She will be okay, given professional counseling. A lovely lady in progress! God, please continue to strengthen her. ❤
Sending love & hugs to @danelokes5948. I pray you have success, happiness & love in your future. She has an excellent therapist. I wish the same for you.💖☺️🌞
@@SarahLynn7777keep on telling yourself you are OK. I would Feed self with things that encompass what I like. Spiritually, mentally, physical exercise has so many pluses. Reading. People are too busy looking after themselves and theirs. I look after me and mine. Born perfect. Inner strength, I look back on events and in wonderment ask how did i get through that. Maybe it is self belief, belief in self. Self nurturing. You cannot get what others were unable to give. Love of self keep on feeding her. How about that? Keep on telling yourself you are Ok. Self love. It gets into inner psyche. If you have done nothing wrong, the problem is with the other person's attachment. In fact we all make mistakes, no one is perfect, we have to move on, past is not retrievable.
I am so sorry i went through a similar situation, I’m 38 now and my mother has still always chosen my step dad I know it hurts but I find freedom & peace knowing that god loves us so much and wants to set us free sending you a big hug!!
I could have listened to her for another hour. She is wise beyond her years and so insightful. I relate to her always doubting her feelings and opinions on things and wondering if she is valid in her thoughts. There’s a constant internal struggle when you’re a people pleaser and have had certain things engrained in you as a child. Best of luck to you Gisele. I commend you on seeking therapy.
12:28 wow I just got goosebumps when you said, being in the military was still a form of suppression. I felt the same way in the police department, and I also come from childhood trauma, and I can absolutely see the correlation now for myself as well. Thank you for opening my eyes to that.
I can relate. My mom never stopped my dad or brother; she either turned a blind eye or rooted them on. As a mom today, I don’t understand that mindset. I’d do anything to protect my child from anyone.
My father was verbally abusive And now I grew up with low self-esteem thinking no woman would love me and I'm scared to take life-risks that would render in high life-accomplishments.... 😔😔
wow. this story is the first one I’ve commented on and I watch these videos religiously. From her discussing why she babysits to how transparent she is, Gisele is wise beyond her years and she is the product of what therapy and self work looks like. I am so proud of you, Gisele. Wishing you all the best in life sweetheart. 💕
I wish they would share social media so we could follow their journey & share support in any way possible. She’s truly incredible! The nannying comment touched my heart
She's doing great. I didn't go to therapy until recently for my childhood trauma and now that I'm 48, it's really affected me so I've been going once a week. Hugs to her.
This woman exudes such a tremendous strength. My heart aches for her, still. Wow. I wonder if she's ever thought about social work as a career. I think compassion like hers is sorely missing in that part of our society. Whatever she does, she's admirable, most certainly.
What an incredible young woman. She's an excellent communicator. I could see her as a wonderful counselor one day. All the pain in her life has created an amazing caring nurturing person who will go on to break the cycle in her family and change the world. Like the pearl in the oyster. Thank you for sharing. I learned volumes.
Her confidence, inner strength and light is amazing. To speak so clearly and frankly about her ordeal is beyond impressive. She deserves all the happiness in the world.
Thanks, Giselle. I truly empathize. My experience is similar except my Dad (thankfully) was not around at all and I actually filed charges 20 years later. The abuse was 30 years ago for me and my mom is still married to him (despite being convicted) and the hardest part today is dealing with the loss of the image of the mother I so badly wanted and needed her to be. Is crazy as it sounds I'm grateful that I somehow found comfort in my own misery vs trying to run, hide, numb the feelings with drugs/alcohol. As dysfunctional and distressing as my childhood was, I learned to be self aware and play everything safe. That's probably why I've stayed out of trouble. Sounds like we have that in common as well. Although, it does have some pitfalls, that survival instinct has probably kept me alive and on track for this long. Best of luck to you, sweet girl. ❤
I don't know why knowing her age made me want to cry. I'm also 22. I also have cptsd but to no extent she had hers. It's so sole crushing. My dad was also a pedophile and abused my sister but I'm thankful my sister kept my dad away from seeing me and my little brother. She saved me. My poor sister is so destroyed. SA is scary. I didn't realize a lot of abuse we were going through until I started dating at 19, seeing how my ex had been living his life and how caring his family was. I moved out finally but it hurts knowing my sibling still lives with my mom and dealing with emotional abuse. This interview is hitting me, im happy she's here and telling her story !
Umm…I’m ashamed to admit this, but Gisele has done everything she needed to do to deal with her trauma and the parents who caused it AND created a new life for herself all before the age of 22…WITH A SMILE ON HER FACE…and I’m 40+ still afraid to confront. This young woman is my hero!
I heavily relate and I appreciate the perspective she has on her experiences. I’m 31 now and at her age I was still feeding into the darkness and hopelessness of things, while also still in denial about the abuse I experienced. She is so insightful and brave.
Insomnia paying off tonight! She’s a bright light in this world. I agree with comments that she should go into social work or some sort of work to help kids who go through what she went through. Could be incredibly healing for her. Wish her the best in her journey to healing 🌹
Gisele's story really resonated with me and I'm thankful she's shared it with us. I had similar experiences but it was my father. Gisele has incredible self-awareness for someone of her age. I'm glad she's made the strong choice to be NC with her mom. One thing that stood out to me is that she seems to acknowledge that her mother basically abandoned her, but she hasn't fully acknowledged her mother's role as participant in her abuse. The mother wound hits different. I hope she continues to stay in therapy and that she and her sister can support each other. I am over 10 years NC and it's one of the best things I've done for my life, but I've had so many moments of self-doubt.. I wish Gisele much strength and clarity as she continues to peel the onion. 💪♥
Wow. I always felt so alone with my feelings and just hearing her talk, knowing I’m not the only one with such terrible horrible thoughts, makes me feel so much less alone. Thank you for sharing, sweet strong young lady. Your words mean, everything.
When she asked her mom “ how do you lay in a bed with a man who touched me” and her mom’s response was exactly my mothers. I asked my mother the same question.
Giselle, thank you for your interview and for being so open. I think your speaking out about your childhood will help many others who have experienced similar situations. Your strength and self awareness is truly remarkable. Others have mentioned this in the comments as well and I fully agree that you are a bright light in the darkness. Your spirit is very strong and you are a survivor. I pray that you fully heal from the scars you carry and that you have nothing but love, happiness and good health from this point forward. Keep shining that light! 💖 🙏
It’s amazing to me how level headed people are when they are abused. I pray you continue therapy and realize how important you are to this world. Look how far you have come and your still standing. God Bless❤
As a therapist I know how strong these self doubts are and sometimes it is really heartbreaking when there are these beautiful smart and wonderful people sitting in your therapy still having to face all this shit that their parents or other people they trusted did to them. But change is always possible. It is hard and a lot of work but it is worth it.
Gisele, Thank You for sharing your story. I was glad to hear you chose to let your Mom go. You're wise beyond your years. I wish you the best. Godspeed !!
This was a great interview. I hope she doesn't waste her hate on her mom. It is very empowering to walk away from ANYONE who invalidates or tries to disempower you. Family, friend or foe.
Wow to have that much SELF AWARENESS at 22 yrs old is amazing….she should look into being a counsellor cause the wisdom this young lady has is inspiring.,,how many people are able to do a 360 to self reflect like her
This is the only interview on this channel that has ever brought me to tears. Oh sweet girl. I am so sorry for all you’ve been through. You are so beautiful. God loves you and is your Heavenly Father. I pray one day you’ll know Him. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. I’m glad you have your sister. Y’all had a horrible childhood but your adulthood is much longer than childhood and I believe you are destined for great things. Sending you a smile.
I see you, I hear you. You are beautiful !! I've lived hard things too, had serious suicidal thoughts for years... I try to stay strong and I don't even know how, or if God will let me have some peace one day... But I'm not alone, and people like you inspire me to stay strong ! I wish you the best and I wish you find love and care, you deserve it !! Thanks for your vulnerability, thanks for your light ! The world needs people like you !
Gisele, Your Truth IS enough!! Thx for coming and telling us your story. You matter! Blessings to you and I know you are going to have a great rest of your life!❤️💕
An amazing young lady! I'm very glad she's getting help dealing with all this. It's terribly sad that children are still being exposed to these monsters and that anyone is doubting her and her sister's truth. I wish her all the very best in this life!
Beautiful, well-spoken, honest. I could go on. Gisele you did not deserve any of the trauma you experienced and the people who should have helped you the most let you down. You are making the most of your young life and seem to be on a wonderful path. You deserve everything good that comes your way! ❤
Remarkably honest and self-aware for her age; probably a skilled therapist is helping, thank goodness. It's nice to see one of these videos where I have some optimism for the future of the person.
What an amazing girl! This is somewhat similar to my childhood in that my mother was unable to concern herself much with me. I am almost 70 years old and finally in therapy but I'm not handling it all as well as Gisele. Even at my age, her telling her story has helped me. I hope she continues to overcome and has a beautiful life!
Giselle, you remind me so much of myself. Different struggles, different abuse, but really hit home when you said how now you think about not having parents, not having a support system. I’m sure you’ve always been told you’re “so mature for your age”, etc, etc. it’s because you had to make adult decisions as a child. I am so happy to see you nurturing and raising yourself this way, and loving yourself going to therapy and just reflecting on everything and rising above it. I think cutting your mom off was the best decision you could have made, and that takes strength. Though I know it hurts at times, when you have friends or people and you see how great their parents are, it just hurts a little. Like why didn’t my mom love me enough to support me in that way, to show up for me, to PROTECT me. I hope you find mother figures in your life who you can go to for important events, milestones, advice. I think you’re going to do great things and make an impact in peoples lives. Your strength is admirable.
I have childhood trauma for my dad and my uncle my uncle tried to get me drunk and he hit on me he was a pig I hated going over to my aunt's house I've cut off all ties with them feels like yesterday my dad would beat the f*** out of me all the time everything was my fault I would get punished for everybody else's problems nobody else was abused but me I carry that around as well feel for this young lady I acted out quite a bit I got in fights in school so it was either the Marine Corps or jail so I picked the Marine Corps that saved my life I have boundaries of four me entire family I'm going through a medical procedure that is genetic and my mom has passed away I tried to text and talk to my dad about it and all I could do is argue with me and I just said well I'll see you later bye I have big walls up and I am very very abrupt with my family when I talk to them they do not want to talk to me my stepmom cannot stand me at all cuz I don't play the game of I'm not answering your questions about everything cuz I know you're a narcissist. My stepmom when I'm over there she puts her phone on record she can hear everything I talk about to my dad cautiously these stories almost matches mine
I relate to her so much . She’s literally helping me understand myself and why I do certain or think and feel certain things. Thank you for your story.
Mark, I’ve been looking for a worthwhile contribution to give to. Thanks to you, I have found it. ‘SWU’ I have also subscribed. My prayers are with you.
It's really OK to hate your parents. No guilt. No shame. It's hard for the uninitiated to comprehend the layers of insanity and cruelty. It can take a long time to untwist it all.
Gisele's story is very similar to mine, except it was my biological father. I have those vivid dreams as well. I wish I could reach through this tablet and give her a hug. I would be proud to have her as a daughter. I wish her the very best in life! 💜🙏🙏💜
Don't know where you found Gisele, but she is an amazing voice! She is making it through the after effects of betrayal and abuse. Glad she is doing well and through the travels in life when things ebb and flow, that she is able to get up and start again and look to God for her strength.
This is one of the many videos that kind of triggers a memory similar and makes me question my past..but like she says if you dont bring it to light it doesn't get to be felt..though im thankful to know im not alone in some of these weird memories
I am so sorry your mother (and father) failed you and your sister in soooo many ways… your strength and your story are such an inspiration of resilience. You are so young with so much life ahead of you still. May your next chapter be more liberating and full of real love. Thank you for sharing your truth ✨🦋♥️
"... so I cold be there for myself." That gutted me. It's remarkable to have that single statement define the core truth of her childhood. It's enraging that she HAD to, because no one else was there for her. I'm sorry, Gisele, that you were emotionally abandoned, particularly after TELLING & asking for help. My God. That was crushing & just unconscionable; shame on them! If I could tell her one thing, it would be to urge her to challenge her expectations regarding trust. The coping skills we gather in order to survive childhood are no longer needed, nor effective. Indeed, they're harmful to her. She can let them go now. In so doing, the powerlessness that defines childhood can be finally over. Love that little girl enough for her to see what an AMAZING adult she so obviously is. She is safe now. ❤
Thank you for this interview Mark. Very hard hitting. Gisele, you are an incredible woman and I send you every good wish. It sounds like you have a bright, amazing future, may you find the happiness you so deserve.
She was such a good interview because she had the courage to be extremely specific about what had happened when she was a girl. I can't help but think that someone younger in a similar situation would relate to her stories and perhaps get help, as she did. It sounds as if she is still recovering, but she might have saved someone's life by talking about her own. Bravo!
What a fantastic young woman. She’s not crying victim, she’s a survivor. She should go into a mental health field to help others that are struggling to overcome childhood abuse. Thank you for giving Giselle the platform to share her story!!!
At her age by the time I was away from my violent upbringing, My soul was crushed. I had third degree psychological burns. It didn't take much for me to sob. I was a puddle for years. I admire her resolve or resilient personality. Knowing I was alone in the world and had not even a sibling to turn to was more than I could bare.
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I hope her mother sees this and has a lifetime of pain.
She is beyond strong and absolutely beautiful. She doesn’t play a victim, rather than a survivor. She should be a voice for all that’s struggling with abuse.
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There's no such thing as "playing the victim" when you experienced horrible abuse, people cope in different ways, some are stronger than others and we are not to judge
I understand what you’re saying. In here, playing the victim is when people complain that their problems have always been about what was done to them yet have never tried anything to help themselves and probably never will. They’ll choose to live in their misery. @@agnieszkakos5268
Nicely stated
I think parents who ignore their kids being abused should be charged with abuse and child neglect themselves. Her mother is a criminal in my eyes.
EXACTLY.
Her mother is definitely is a criminal. There’s been cases where the mother have been charged with child endangerment for failing to act after knowledge of the abuse & rightfully so. Children deserve to be loved & protected. It’s horrible that so many have their innocence robbed from them at such a young age. 😢
I was raised by a very violent mother and it's a surreal experience to look at your mother and see a criminal sitting there eating her dinner, holding a conversation with someone, or gardening. My mother also would say that God has forgiven and forgotten "if" she has done anything wrong.
I find that people who have very “black and white” thinking typically haven’t been through the circumstances in which they are passing judgements on others. The more you go through in life, typically, the more empathy you are able to grow for others.
@@crazeekids9744 Empathy for people who do nothing when their children are abused. How grown up.
Of all of the LEO trainings about sex trafficking, domestic violence, drug use and abuse, homelessness, diversity, etc. that I have attended over the past 30 + years, this channel should be mandatory for every police officer and administrator in the country. Your way of talking and listening to those you interview is beyond educational. Thank you for your channel and what you do.
I 💯 AGREE!
Omg she looks likes she 12 when she said not knowing until we were adults it shocked me. What a story. You are strong
Yesss seriously
She is a bright spot from the darkness. She will likely have continued struggles but her spirit seems maginficent.
I’m so proud of her for sharing this… ❤❤❤
This is very troubling knowing these people get to continue life as normal after they derail a child's path for life. Wish they would be brought to justice.
@@simonlinser8286 the justice may be that she perseveres while they stay in the darkness. Wishing for others to feel pain because they caused pain is often not enough to help one find forgiveness and healing from the pain endured. It is right to want other to pay for their wrongs but it may not come and we can still find peace if it does not.
@@arybolanos752 I love your comment, very true and wise.
Gisele, I'm sorry that your mom didn't honor her role in your life. You're incredibly astute, well-spoken, and valid. You are miles ahead of many people with similar backgrounds because you've called out the wrongs and are determined to do better. You will stop the pattern of abuse and be fiercely protective of any future kids you might have. You're determined and resilient (in all things, there are better days and rougher days). You didn't ask for the abuse. Let those doubts go. Be well. ❤️
Personally I believe her mother should be charged with child abuse and child neglect for allowing and enabling what happened to her. Her mother is a criminal in my eyes.
@@GhastlyCretinYour right so horrible, for those poor young girls. A nightmare for them. 😢
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Well said ❤ she's such an inspiration the way she has dealt with everything
Giselle, none of your childhood abuse was your fault. Your parents failed you. You were/are worthy of being treated with respect, love and protection by those who you had to depend on. Be kind and patient with yourself as you heal. Sending you love and strength for you to trust in yourself. 🙏🏻
nice, sweet, soft words of compassion... don't you think we know we were failed? sometimes this kind of talk comes across as so patronizing (even though I know it was not meant as such). where is your anger? your rage at injustice? sometimes that helps us more than what can feel like a pat on the head.
This was a fantastic interview. She should think about going into a field where she can work with children that went through similar situations. She is strong, smart and wise-beyond-her-years! You can Tell She's put in the work on her healing journey. I wish her all the luck and happiness.
Giselle chooses otherwise. Did you not listen to her interview?
@@nhlibrapeople dont listen!!
@@nhlibra 🤣 She's 22. She's just a kid yet. She's just finding her path. She might end up having five different careers in her lifetime! Considering she's already working with children currently it's very possible that she'll work with them down the road.
I'm assuming you're a young person too by your weird useless comment that didn't make much sense.
agree with these replies. the thing about being a survivor is your whole life doesn’t have to be defined by trauma. you get to do the thing you were put on this earth to do before damaged people intervened in your path.
Parents take note, everything we do affects our children 😢 she's an absolute sweetheart
These were not parents, they were here abusers that should have been her protectors. Very very sad.
As a mother and childhood trauma survivor, this knowledge is absolutely crippling. Every decision I make, I am so worried about how it will affect my children.
Dear Giselle, I honestly feel like I’m hearing a splitting image of my life. I’m a male from Chicago that joined the navy as a hospital corpsman and felt like the whole time of my childhood I lived with a mother that was mentally and emotionally abusive to me. Idk if you read the comments but stories like this reminds me of reasons to take care of myself. I cope with my stress by going to the gym and spending time with my people but this story was so inspiring and made me sad but happy it’s people out here that are experiencing things I’m experiencing but also let’s me know to stay positive and keep going. I’m done rambling but this video was so inspiring
Yes, it was very interesting to me to hear her reasoning for going into the navy. I have never heard that sentiment before, I have never served in the military myself, but it made so much sense and answered a lot of questions for why others may share her experience. That part, with her childhood, definitely was interesting part of this interview. I wish you well moving forward and thank you for all you have done. Words sometimes don't seem to be enough.
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Thank you Mark for giving Gisele a safe space to share her heart. She will do great things in the future.
I'm sad this interview wasn't longer. What an exceptional human being.
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Oh sweetie, your mom made the bad choice. You are precious and deserve to be loved.
A friend of mine was sexually abused by her stepfather. She told me as a child he stimulated her sexual feelings and all her life she felt guilty because of it. 😢
What a fantastic human being.
I grew up in a really loving 2 parent family with a wonderful sister also and all have been supportive my whole life and even with all that nuturing and stability as a foundation I've STILL found adulthood a real challenge and battled depression a lot of the time.
How she could go through all she's been through as a child with all this abuse from the people that are supposed to love and keep you safe and come out of that to be such a positive, productive and highly empathetic adult is truly incredible to me.
This was an inspirational video in many ways not just a heart breaking one.
Hi Will I completely get what you are saying ❤
So where does the depression come from???
@@adyo92 Sorry I don't know what you mean. You think it's impossible for people who grew up with a stable family background to suffer from depression in adulthood?
I assume you're just trolling.
@@willsmith39 it’s a genuine question.. I have family in Guatemala living in horrible conditions, horrible weather, poverty, slums, born poor die poor type of life and not one of them is depressed. They can’t afford it, if they can physically work, no one gives a crap about their mental health. Depression seems to be a problem here in America as in other countries they don’t even know about depression or “mental health “.
@@adyo92 I don't live in America, I've never even been.
I still don't really understand your angle with me. I said I had a stable family life growing up, I didn't say anything about our financial situation but now you seem to have assumed I come from a wealthy family. I don't.
But even if I did I don't agree with your point at all, the too poor for navel gazing and therefore no depression doesn't square at all with reality. Because there are rampant drug abuse issues in 3rd world and developing countries and also people taking their own lives. Teenagers on yabba in Thailand or street kids sniffing glue in Venezuela doesn't speak to me of places magically devoid of depressed people.
Coco Lee just commited suicide here in Hong Kong a few weeks back. On paper she had it all - certainly financially she did - but she'd been battling depression for a long time before taking her own life.
Depression seems to have a strong genetic component (certainly in our family it does, my grandfather was a manual worker who worked all his life in a very physically demanding job but he ended up getting electro shock therapy in what was then called the loony bin)
Anyway I'm not going to argue with you about this as I think there's no point. Believe what you like.
Having endured similar abuse as a child, I learned to forgive at the ripe old age of 30. I learned to protect myself. I became prone to violence. I was always engaging in relief drinking and drugging. I went to prison twice. I finally sobered up and applied spiritual concepts to my life. Here I now sit as a dying man whose wasted years haunt me. The stress of my past has taken its toll. But I stand firm in the truth of the matter is now I'm responsible to myself and the world around me to stay sober and react to life in a way that is socially acceptable. Good job girl!
It's amazing how resilient the human spirit actually is...
An SVU detective needs to watch this. How is this predator not in jail?! She is so incredibly strong and smart.
Yes , she mentioned there are children in his company. :((
Hey 👋 MARK. Glad to hear you get right to the point childhood trauma which is always the root of all our issues. I wish the very best for Giselle. I can tell she has a lot of sadness underneath her speech. God bless her.
What a wonderful bright and articulate young lady. I wish her all the best!
I’m so happy that she is dealing with this at a relatively young age. I had a similar experience and it’s taken me a lifetime to finally come to terms with it. Child abuse is one of the most damaging behaviors humans can partake in. I am so in awe of her courage to come on here and tell the truth.
I’m so sorry your mother passed on the opportunity to be by your side. You deserve the best in the world. May you continue onwards to a better, healthier future. You are brave and strong. I see you, hear you and believe in you. ❤ Thank you for sharing your story.
Man i had to check the time. I thought i was almost off of work. My checklist is not done yet lol. Thanks for all you do. Getting this out there helps so many people.
Your truth is more than enough Gisele! We see you. We hear you. Thank you for being so brave to share your story ♥️
After listening to so many hapless people on this program, it was great to hear Gisele's story. I hope her future has much hope and potential.
What an incredible young lady. She is so intelligent, self aware, and beautiful. She reminds me alot of my oldest granddaughter who is also 22. She is so much more mature, and insightful than all the adults in her life who failed her. The hardest thing in the world is to cut off family, but I believe she made the right decision, I had to, so I know how hard it is. I wish her every good thing in this life from this day forward. So strong!
I bet she's the absolute best at her job and pours so much love into those kids lives! Thank you, Gisele.
Wow. It is actually striking how much strength she holds, her honesty and her character.
This woman is very strong and smart. I'm also a 22 year old that also had an very abusive father so this is very informative for me, everything she said I could fully relate to and I think these kinds of childhood traumas of course mess you up but in ways make you mentally quite strong.
A very sweet girl. Aware of her entire situation. Inner peace is being restored. She will be okay, given professional counseling.
A lovely lady in progress! God, please continue to strengthen her. ❤
Sending love & hugs to @danelokes5948. I pray you have success, happiness & love in your future. She has an excellent therapist. I wish the same for you.💖☺️🌞
@@SarahLynn7777keep on telling yourself you are OK. I would Feed self with things that encompass what I like. Spiritually, mentally, physical exercise has so many pluses. Reading. People are too busy looking after themselves and theirs. I look after me and mine. Born perfect. Inner strength, I look back on events and in wonderment ask how did i get through that. Maybe it is self belief, belief in self. Self nurturing. You cannot get what others were unable to give. Love of self keep on feeding her. How about that? Keep on telling yourself you are Ok. Self love. It gets into inner psyche. If you have done nothing wrong, the problem is with the other person's attachment. In fact we all make mistakes, no one is perfect, we have to move on, past is not retrievable.
I’m so proud of her for being able to share this ❤🙏
You're one of the most mature, proactive, kind and smart young person I have ever seen. I'm proud of you. Many blessings ❤
HER MOTHER SHOULD BE PUT IN JAIL ASAP...DID THE STEP DAD GO TO JAIL FOR THIS???
Well, go and report them yourself. Don't put this responsibilty on her or any one who was abused
@@thematriarchy2075 YOU SOUND LIKE A CHILD MOLESTER
@@rubenlaracuente8991No, i am actually a survivor of child sexual abuse. And you need to calm down and watch your mouth.
I am so sorry i went through a similar situation, I’m 38 now and my mother has still always chosen my step dad I know it hurts but I find freedom & peace knowing that god loves us so much and wants to set us free sending you a big hug!!
I could have listened to her for another hour. She is wise beyond her years and so insightful. I relate to her always doubting her feelings and opinions on things and wondering if she is valid in her thoughts. There’s a constant internal struggle when you’re a people pleaser and have had certain things engrained in you as a child. Best of luck to you Gisele. I commend you on seeking therapy.
12:28 wow I just got goosebumps when you said, being in the military was still a form of suppression. I felt the same way in the police department, and I also come from childhood trauma, and I can absolutely see the correlation now for myself as well. Thank you for opening my eyes to that.
I can relate. My mom never stopped my dad or brother; she either turned a blind eye or rooted them on. As a mom today, I don’t understand that mindset. I’d do anything to protect my child from anyone.
My father was verbally abusive And now I grew up with low self-esteem thinking no woman would love me and I'm scared to take life-risks that would render in high life-accomplishments.... 😔😔
Thank you for this interview. People cope with childhood trauma in so many different ways. I can Identify with a lot of her struggles.
wow. this story is the first one I’ve commented on and I watch these videos religiously. From her discussing why she babysits to how transparent she is, Gisele is wise beyond her years and she is the product of what therapy and self work looks like. I am so proud of you, Gisele. Wishing you all the best in life sweetheart. 💕
I wish they would share social media so we could follow their journey & share support in any way possible. She’s truly incredible! The nannying comment touched my heart
She's doing great. I didn't go to therapy until recently for my childhood trauma and now that I'm 48, it's really affected me so I've been going once a week. Hugs to her.
This woman exudes such a tremendous strength. My heart aches for her, still. Wow. I wonder if she's ever thought about social work as a career. I think compassion like hers is sorely missing in that part of our society.
Whatever she does, she's admirable, most certainly.
What an incredible young woman. She's an excellent communicator. I could see her as a wonderful counselor one day. All the pain in her life has created an amazing caring nurturing person who will go on to break the cycle in her family and change the world. Like the pearl in the oyster. Thank you for sharing. I learned volumes.
Her confidence, inner strength and light is amazing. To speak so clearly and frankly about her ordeal is beyond impressive. She deserves all the happiness in the world.
Thanks, Giselle. I truly empathize. My experience is similar except my Dad (thankfully) was not around at all and I actually filed charges 20 years later. The abuse was 30 years ago for me and my mom is still married to him (despite being convicted) and the hardest part today is dealing with the loss of the image of the mother I so badly wanted and needed her to be. Is crazy as it sounds I'm grateful that I somehow found comfort in my own misery vs trying to run, hide, numb the feelings with drugs/alcohol. As dysfunctional and distressing as my childhood was, I learned to be self aware and play everything safe. That's probably why I've stayed out of trouble. Sounds like we have that in common as well. Although, it does have some pitfalls, that survival instinct has probably kept me alive and on track for this long. Best of luck to you, sweet girl. ❤
I don't know why knowing her age made me want to cry. I'm also 22. I also have cptsd but to no extent she had hers. It's so sole crushing. My dad was also a pedophile and abused my sister but I'm thankful my sister kept my dad away from seeing me and my little brother. She saved me. My poor sister is so destroyed. SA is scary. I didn't realize a lot of abuse we were going through until I started dating at 19, seeing how my ex had been living his life and how caring his family was. I moved out finally but it hurts knowing my sibling still lives with my mom and dealing with emotional abuse. This interview is hitting me, im happy she's here and telling her story !
I'm so Proud of you Gissele.....I'm 63 was assaulted by my Father and still don't have the nerve to confront them...my mom was ok with it
Umm…I’m ashamed to admit this, but Gisele has done everything she needed to do to deal with her trauma and the parents who caused it AND created a new life for herself all before the age of 22…WITH A SMILE ON HER FACE…and I’m 40+ still afraid to confront. This young woman is my hero!
So much trauma in America's youth... Mark Thank you for this video... You and David Hoffman are my absolute favorite RUclipsr creators...
Here’s a recent interview Chris Hedges did on the epidemic of American trauma.
ruclips.net/video/bkHEYa-NJvg/видео.html
I love David Hoffman as well! So cool!
@katarina761ditto. It gets so overwhelming sometimes. Not to mention frustrating.
David Hoffman is a great man too.
@katarina761The World has become sick with perverts. I blame the xxx industry.
I heavily relate and I appreciate the perspective she has on her experiences. I’m 31 now and at her age I was still feeding into the darkness and hopelessness of things, while also still in denial about the abuse I experienced. She is so insightful and brave.
Insomnia paying off tonight! She’s a bright light in this world. I agree with comments that she should go into social work or some sort of work to help kids who go through what she went through. Could be incredibly healing for her.
Wish her the best in her journey to healing 🌹
Gisele's story really resonated with me and I'm thankful she's shared it with us. I had similar experiences but it was my father. Gisele has incredible self-awareness for someone of her age. I'm glad she's made the strong choice to be NC with her mom. One thing that stood out to me is that she seems to acknowledge that her mother basically abandoned her, but she hasn't fully acknowledged her mother's role as participant in her abuse. The mother wound hits different. I hope she continues to stay in therapy and that she and her sister can support each other. I am over 10 years NC and it's one of the best things I've done for my life, but I've had so many moments of self-doubt.. I wish Gisele much strength and clarity as she continues to peel the onion. 💪♥
Gisele, from your difficult childhood you’ve risen up to be such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your story to help other people ❤
Wow. I always felt so alone with my feelings and just hearing her talk, knowing I’m not the only one with such terrible horrible thoughts, makes me feel so much less alone. Thank you for sharing, sweet strong young lady. Your words mean, everything.
When she asked her mom “ how do you lay in a bed with a man who touched me” and her mom’s response was exactly my mothers. I asked my mother the same question.
I'm so sorry you had to experience that
Giselle, thank you for your interview and for being so open. I think your speaking out about your childhood will help many others who have experienced similar situations. Your strength and self awareness is truly remarkable.
Others have mentioned this in the comments as well and I fully agree that you are a bright light in the darkness. Your spirit is very strong and you are a survivor.
I pray that you fully heal from the scars you carry and that you have nothing but love, happiness and good health from this point forward.
Keep shining that light!
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Mark, some of your interviews really piss me off but hands down this is THE BEST INTERVIEW YOU'VE EVER HAD
What a bright, wonderful, articulate young woman. I think Gisele would be a wonderful therapist to help others who have dealt with similar abuse! ❤
She really beat the odds . So glad she is able to be in therapy.
It’s amazing to me how level headed people are when they are abused. I pray you continue therapy and realize how important you are to this world. Look how far you have come and your still standing. God Bless❤
As a therapist I know how strong these self doubts are and sometimes it is really heartbreaking when there are these beautiful smart and wonderful people sitting in your therapy still having to face all this shit that their parents or other people they trusted did to them. But change is always possible. It is hard and a lot of work but it is worth it.
what a beautiful person, inside and out. wishing you all of the best, Gisele. 🧡
Thank you for sharing your interview. So nice to see that you never once felt sorry for yourself. You are an amazing person.
Gisele you are a star. Truly. It appears you’ve found healthy ways to deal with your trauma, I hope you continue to do that. ❤
Gisele, Thank You for sharing your story. I was glad to hear you chose to let your Mom go. You're wise beyond your years. I wish you the best. Godspeed !!
This was a great interview. I hope she doesn't waste her hate on her mom. It is very empowering to walk away from ANYONE who invalidates or tries to disempower you. Family, friend or foe.
Wow to have that much SELF AWARENESS at 22 yrs old is amazing….she should look into being a counsellor cause the wisdom this young lady has is inspiring.,,how many people are able to do a 360 to self reflect like her
This one hit home, wow 😢 What a wonderfully strong, brave & smart young woman.
This is the only interview on this channel that has ever brought me to tears. Oh sweet girl. I am so sorry for all you’ve been through. You are so beautiful. God loves you and is your Heavenly Father. I pray one day you’ll know Him. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. I’m glad you have your sister. Y’all had a horrible childhood but your adulthood is much longer than childhood and I believe you are destined for great things. Sending you a smile.
I see you, I hear you. You are beautiful !! I've lived hard things too, had serious suicidal thoughts for years... I try to stay strong and I don't even know how, or if God will let me have some peace one day... But I'm not alone, and people like you inspire me to stay strong ! I wish you the best and I wish you find love and care, you deserve it !! Thanks for your vulnerability, thanks for your light ! The world needs people like you !
What a strong, courageous, smart, well spoken girl.....she shouldnt hold back her tears.....i admire this woman....❤
I am a survivor too and everything she says resonates with me. We both have overcome!! Stay positive and keep living your life for you.
Gisele, Your Truth IS enough!! Thx for coming and telling us your story. You matter! Blessings to you and I know you are going to have a great rest of your life!❤️💕
An amazing young lady! I'm very glad she's getting help dealing with all this. It's terribly sad that children are still being exposed to these monsters and that anyone is doubting her and her sister's truth.
I wish her all the very best in this life!
Beautiful, well-spoken, honest. I could go on. Gisele you did not deserve any of the trauma you experienced and the people who should have helped you the most let you down. You are making the most of your young life and seem to be on a wonderful path. You deserve everything good that comes your way! ❤
She seems like a great person and I admire her courage and wish her all the best in life.
What a strong young woman, hope and pray your future is bright and filled with people that love and cherish you.
Remarkably honest and self-aware for her age; probably a skilled therapist is helping, thank goodness. It's nice to see one of these videos where I have some optimism for the future of the person.
What an amazing girl! This is somewhat similar to my childhood in that my mother was unable to concern herself much with me. I am almost 70 years old and finally in therapy but I'm not handling it all as well as Gisele. Even at my age, her telling her story has helped me. I hope she continues to overcome and has a beautiful life!
Giselle, you remind me so much of myself. Different struggles, different abuse, but really hit home when you said how now you think about not having parents, not having a support system. I’m sure you’ve always been told you’re “so mature for your age”, etc, etc. it’s because you had to make adult decisions as a child. I am so happy to see you nurturing and raising yourself this way, and loving yourself going to therapy and just reflecting on everything and rising above it. I think cutting your mom off was the best decision you could have made, and that takes strength. Though I know it hurts at times, when you have friends or people and you see how great their parents are, it just hurts a little. Like why didn’t my mom love me enough to support me in that way, to show up for me, to PROTECT me. I hope you find mother figures in your life who you can go to for important events, milestones, advice. I think you’re going to do great things and make an impact in peoples lives. Your strength is admirable.
I hope she gets to read all of these comments. ❤ Thousands of people here who support you, Gisele. Stay true to yourself, and keep being amazing.
I have childhood trauma for my dad and my uncle my uncle tried to get me drunk and he hit on me he was a pig I hated going over to my aunt's house I've cut off all ties with them feels like yesterday my dad would beat the f*** out of me all the time everything was my fault I would get punished for everybody else's problems nobody else was abused but me I carry that around as well feel for this young lady
I acted out quite a bit I got in fights in school so it was either the Marine Corps or jail so I picked the Marine Corps that saved my life
I have boundaries of four me entire family I'm going through a medical procedure that is genetic and my mom has passed away I tried to text and talk to my dad about it and all I could do is argue with me and I just said well I'll see you later bye I have big walls up and I am very very abrupt with my family when I talk to them they do not want to talk to me my stepmom cannot stand me at all cuz I don't play the game of I'm not answering your questions about everything cuz I know you're a narcissist. My stepmom when I'm over there she puts her phone on record she can hear everything I talk about to my dad cautiously these stories almost matches mine
Be brave Giselle. Thank you for sharing your story. So many can relate. ❤
This was a great interview. Bless her soul
Gisele, you are such a strong girl. God bless you and i pray that you get justice from the horrible trauma. More strength to you
I relate to her so much . She’s literally helping me understand myself and why I do certain or think and feel certain things. Thank you for your story.
Mark, I’ve been looking for a worthwhile contribution to give to. Thanks to you, I have found it. ‘SWU’ I have also subscribed. My prayers are with you.
It's really OK to hate your parents. No guilt. No shame. It's hard for the uninitiated to comprehend the layers of insanity and cruelty. It can take a long time to untwist it all.
Gisele's story is very similar to mine, except it was my biological father. I have those vivid dreams as well. I wish I could reach through this tablet and give her a hug. I would be proud to have her as a daughter. I wish her the very best in life! 💜🙏🙏💜
Don't know where you found Gisele, but she is an amazing voice! She is making it through the after effects of betrayal and abuse.
Glad she is doing well and through the travels in life when things ebb and flow, that she is able to get up and start again and look to God for her strength.
This is one of the many videos that kind of triggers a memory similar and makes me question my past..but like she says if you dont bring it to light it doesn't get to be felt..though im thankful to know im not alone in some of these weird memories
Having a toxic mother myself, I started praying for her when i was so mad. It really help!
I am so sorry your mother (and father) failed you and your sister in soooo many ways… your strength and your story are such an inspiration of resilience. You are so young with so much life ahead of you still. May your next chapter be more liberating and full of real love. Thank you for sharing your truth ✨🦋♥️
"... so I cold be there for myself." That gutted me. It's remarkable to have that single statement define the core truth of her childhood. It's enraging that she HAD to, because no one else was there for her. I'm sorry, Gisele, that you were emotionally abandoned, particularly after TELLING & asking for help. My God. That was crushing & just unconscionable; shame on them! If I could tell her one thing, it would be to urge her to challenge her expectations regarding trust. The coping skills we gather in order to survive childhood are no longer needed, nor effective. Indeed, they're harmful to her. She can let them go now. In so doing, the powerlessness that defines childhood can be finally over. Love that little girl enough for her to see what an AMAZING adult she so obviously is. She is safe now. ❤
You are not wrong or broken. You are strong , beautiful, and open . Thank you for speaking so intelligently for those that don't have your wisdom
Thank you for this interview Mark.
Very hard hitting.
Gisele, you are an incredible woman and I send you every good wish. It sounds like you have a bright, amazing future, may you find the happiness you so deserve.
What a wonderful interview! What a special person!🙌🙌🙌🙌
She was such a good interview because she had the courage to be extremely specific about what had happened when she was a girl. I can't help but think that someone younger in a similar situation would relate to her stories and perhaps get help, as she did. It sounds as if she is still recovering, but she might have saved someone's life by talking about her own. Bravo!
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Not you or your sister's fault.
You were children.
Your mother failed to protect you.
You got this! ❤
Yeah, her mother dropped the ball big time. 😔
her mother was a monster
What a fantastic young woman. She’s not crying victim, she’s a survivor. She should go into a mental health field to help others that are struggling to overcome childhood abuse. Thank you for giving Giselle the platform to share her story!!!
At her age by the time I was away from my violent upbringing, My soul was crushed. I had third degree psychological burns. It didn't take much for me to sob. I was a puddle for years. I admire her resolve or resilient personality. Knowing I was alone in the world and had not even a sibling to turn to was more than I could bare.