For all the criticism re Stephen, this is a beautiful video,watching Family life, Laura being natural with her kids,and kids interacting with their Dad,,he is sitting there enjoying his kids and being the great Dad he always is,,,so those who are being negative,,I hope Laura's feeling are not hurt,and she will continue to share..Don't like,the GO AWAY
I bought a grown-up bed for my 3 year old, best decision ever 😂 it’s low and close to the floor, but big and super comfortable even if we both sleep in it. She also wants me to come sleep with her and doesn’t want to sleep in my bed. Having both beds equaly comfortable has honestly removed so much stress, on nights when she needs me I fall asleep with her and I’m still ok the next day instead of being sore all over like before. Plus, she now wakes up way less, I think removing my stress throughout the nights just helped her sleep better 👏
Laura-I agree with this comment. I would also consult your pediatrician. Sometimes, kids on the spectrum have sleep issues. Good luck. You are doing a great job. Us parents of grown up kids know it ain't easy. Hugs!
I was going to say, maybe he’s no longer comfortable at 5 years old still sleeping on a crib mattress and needs a big boy bed, as he’s is a big boy now, as opposed to a toddler.
same!!! We moved the double bed from the spare room to her room and now when we get summoned we have somewhere comfortable to sleep - absolute game changer
Laura, you don’t always share these moments of you just being a mom. But i love this vlog so much. You are a beautiful beautiful mother, you are doing such a great job. Being a mom is not easy, not even a little. Its all encompassing and will leave you ragged and yet it’s everything good in the world. I see you ❤
My daughter did that until she was 10. It was exhausting, there were times we would Cosleep and times we would try her bed. The only advice I have is, it doesn't last forever, one day he won't want to sleep with you anymore (neurodivergent or neurotypical) and you will never know what night is the last night. I know that doesn't help right now, I know you're exhausted and you still have to function, but even if you have to put a bigger bed in his room for you both to get better sleep, it's temporary and you will sleep again. ❤❤ love you
Alfie is saying so many words and sentences! I remember when you used to cry and worry if he would ever speak at all. You have to be so proud of him! ❤
You need to do what works for you. I never wanted kids in my bed, and my kids adjusted fine except for when they were sick. Whatever sleep method you choose, I would just be consistent. You’re a great mom.
When they're little, sleep is best, wherever that may be. If mom is in his bed, or hes in moms bed, sleep is best. Bc, as someone else said, he won't always sleep with her. One day it will end. U won't know when for sure, one day you'll realize, hmm he hasn't slept with me in a long time. Then its over i stressed on it alot when my daughter was young bc sh3 always came into my bed. My family railed me bc she didn't stay in her own bed, she was 3, THREE. at 5 she would still occasionally come to my bed, at 7 less and by 8 none at all. She was an only child. Her room was across our large house, by herself. She got scared alot. I would never make a scared child stay alone across a house. She's 27 and lived alone for years.
You r such an incredible mother, watching this almost brought tears to me eyes. The way you're so patient and help him work thru his feelings is just incredible. I've always loved you, but this one just really hit me. I can't say this enough, your children r so so lucky to hav you as their mommy!!!
I got my son a full sized bed. He went right to that from a crib. Sounds crazy, but I figure it will last longer than a toddler bed and if I need to lay with him, it's comfortable for me.
My son was like that. We ended up getting him a bigger bed so one of us could sleep with him. He eventually out grew it. He's 12 and completely independent now. Hang in there. ❤
Laura, the love you have for your children is so evident and beautiful. The way you interact with them, whether you are playing or cooking or reading stories… I love the way you interact and play with them!
Night nanny and gentle sleep coach here: It’s a perfectly normal phase (a lot of significant brain development happens at Alfie’s age) but it could be also that Alfie is reacting to you and Stephen splitting up and all the changes that came with that. I know it happened a while ago but very often we see a “honeymoon phase” where little ones cope with things very well as they’re happening, and then wait until everything has calmed down again to show their big feelings and stresses about the event. Sleep is often the very first thing that is affected once they hit this phase. Please understand, I am NOT blaming you or Stephen in any way. The split was right for you guys and it had to happen. You did all you could to minimise the stress on the children and that is such a wonderful, selfless thing to do. However, children are so much more perceptive than we think, particularly ones like Alfie who is not only ND, but also a tender and sensitive soul. He feels things deeply, and that is beautiful but also painful at times. I hope knowing this will help you understand what’s going on, and hopefully with that understanding will come acceptance. Alfie and you WILL get through this. Do whatever you need to do to get sleep right now, don’t worry about creating bad habits or anything like that. I always say “do what works”, and if there comes a day when it stops working, then you can change it, but don’t spend energy now worrying about problems that might never come. Get a bigger “big boy bed” for his room, build a floor nest with a mattress and pillows, put a little bed in there just for you, set your own boundaries if you start to feel touched out, do whatever you need. Be patient with yourself, it’s such a lovely thing that Alfie can find all the comfort he needs within you, but that’s hard on you right now. Admitting that doesn’t mean you love your family any less. Call in favours with friends, let the littles watch tv while you snooze, pick your battles and don’t ever feel guilty! Wishing you energy and strength to get through this time!
My son has ASD and needed to sleep with me and my now ex wife was pushing for him to sleep in his own bed no matter what. He would keep coming every so often til one of us slept with him. Basically what he wanted was more time with us. It helped him when I gave him a scheduled activity that he could look forward to and spend time with dad. A couple days of that and he no longer NEEDED to sleep with us. Idk if that helps but. Spend some time with him. Like an extra special activity just you and him
I'm from Scotland, absolutely love your blogs. Alfie will grow out of this, it won't take long, don't make a big thing of it, just as you do, and he will gradually sleep for longer periods again❤
Hi from Oklahoma. Wonderful little family. I’ve watched your family grow and seen the struggles and successes you have shared. I’m so glad this has become a beautiful normal for all of you.❤
They go through stuff they don’t know how to vocalise bless them. It will Pass but no idea when. Best advice I ever got and chose to listen to with my 4 was “ do whatever means you get the most sleep, it’s safest at the end of the day…”
Maybe not the best advice but I bought my little boy a double bed because he’s always been a “bad” sleeper and wants someone in his bed or he comes into ours. I stopped fighting it and took the view I’ll miss it one day. ❤️
I admire how the 2 of you coparent instead of weaponizing the children against each other like so many other divorced couples do. ❤You truly put your kids first and that’s amazing parenting👏
I live in Albany, Oregon. I am taking a break from reading my textbook on co-occurring disorders. I am studying to become a certified alcohol and drug counselor. I will be graduating in June 😊
I would graduate him into a regular bed. You can put side rails for safety or I used poodle noodles because I couldn’t afford the rails. My son is also on the spectrum and he picks up a lot more when there is change. I had the same issue with multiple wake ups. I would just put him in the bed with me. He grew out of it. I wouldn’t worry too much about giving in. My youngest has growing pains at night and wakes up several times at night. Yes you do need your sleep and as my kids are 9 and 10. I still get woken up random. Your are doing a great job❤
I too have ADHD and I'm a single mother of a 10yrld boy with autism 4 years sober I know I know ITS HAAAARD but it can be lovely when it's lovely. I'm not sure if they get easier to handle as they get older of if we get better at what we do I haven't figured it out yet but it's different. We gotlots of character im relating thats fo sho! We do the thing sista!
My son is autistic and we experienced the same sleep issues. They just continued to get worse so he started having a dose of melatonin 30 minutes before sleep and this was a huge game-changer. You may find it's just a stage and not related to ASD but just incase it gets worse, remember melatonin! ❤
My toddler comes to our room. Luckily he stays asleep in our bed (this is new territory he’s always been a horrible sleeper) but it may be that it’s time to transition to a bigger bed for Alfie? That way he could have more room to stretch out if he needs to but at the same time if he needs the comfort of you to co-sleep then you would at least have some form of rest? That might not be possible but it could be that he’s started to feel that he needs a bigger bed ❤
I’m making this for dinner right now! It smells amazing! Whenever you have anxiety, please try to congratulate yourself on nurturing and nourishing your children in ALL the ways you do. Every child deserves a mother as loving and dedicated as you. It is impressive. Chant this. ❤
Have Everyday Gret days n blessings on all who love you n your 2 beautiful kids….Just to see the world through their eyes is so precious take ALOT OF PICS family photos… cheers to mommy ❤
My two sons with autism always had open door to sleep in mom's bed. During divorce, it gave them security since kiddos, even wee ones, experience worry about who will stay and who will go in divorce and it can create anxiety at night too. They are now in their 20's and doing great, both big snugglers with their partners too. Do what works for you❤ Let him fall asleep in your bed and solves issue, you both get good sleep.
Rhode Island Your Babies are Just so sweet… Excellent Job Laura Really n make my crappy days brighter Loved Helen Smash literally laugh out load funny.. I’m stuck no car so when I really need some Nature I’m stuck.. I do wish I were trailer camping. I’m Agoraphobic n need peace n quiet left the city n diddnt look back that’s how I became clean in on Dec 11th,2021 I lost everything in a fire n my car n 25 years clean n now still clean no car don’t know what’s next except I have no place to get their however My Faith is what gets me n search everyday for things I don’t get to see no more Life is too much sometimes but you have 2 cutie patutie’s giving you that breath n blessed to see them grow again excellent job 3 thumbs up ❤❤❤❤❤
Yes. Have gone through this. It’s best you keep your engagement with them to a minimum. Don’t turn on lights or speak Just walk them silently back to there bed and tuck them in. If you give in after the 5th attempt, you’re teaching that they need to do it 5 or so times to get what they want - so they will never settle the first or second time and will persist. Good luck x
Girl,same. My daughter is 9 and has always woken up in the night...most night multiple times. We just cosleep if she wakes up-its less frequent now. We bought a king bed to accommodate
I got a tri fold memory foam mattress. Twin size and kept it in my daughter’s room. With sheets and a blanket all ready. So she would go sleep in her room, I sleep on “the ground bed”. Saved me. Now she is almost 7 and sleeps in her room, our room on the ground bed and we just go back and forth. I don’t even care. We all sleep well.
Yes. Around that time my daughter who is also autistic would have night terrors. Take him back to his specialist if you need more help with learning what is going on but sleep disturbances are very common in autism. We did room sharing over bed sharing and that was really helpful because we also then had night eloping and I was able to hear her get up in the night. This is hard Momma and most people will not understand why or what kind of hard. There are support groups with peers who will understand and give really helpful practical tips that stem from a deeper understanding of raising autism.
The part of you and Alfie at the park playing , made me cry because it was beautiful and sweet and so natural and show the true bond and love between a mother and a son!!! I mean it was absolutely beautiful… You are an amazing mother and woman so please never listen to any of this negative shit from these IDOITS 😂😂 I do hope you and Steven can find y’all’s way back to each other ….
My big joy at 5 had big regression, it lasted about 2-3 months and it turned out it correlated to a huge growth spurt he was going threw. He jumped two sizes in the months. My boy also has asd and adhd so his ability to really tell me now he was feeling was hard. And sleep and emotional where not the only side effects there was a big sensory overload as well
Aw Laura you’re such a wonderful mom they are so lucky to have you ! I love my mom and miss her so much . But You are giving them your all and more. Like your aura and everything haha. Much love to you from Santa Cruz, California I facepaint for kids bday parties & events 💜 mwah 😘
Yes, my 4 year old struggles either similar issues. I put his toddler bed next to my bed, sometimes this happens still. At night time I always make sure he has a couple sips of water, restroom then bed time. He wakes up crying that monsters are going to eat him and I assure him that I’m there to protect him and go back to bed, I find his bed next to mine helps me sleep better and makes him feel better. It’s ok to stay firm and tell them to go back to bed, they need to learn to self soothe themselves back to sleep or they get into the routine of sleep depriving you.
My toddler bed is right next to mine 🥰🥰 he’s an autistic 4 years old non verbal and he loves to sleep in his own bed ❤️ but when he feels overwhelmed he comes to our bed and we are TOTALLY ok with it because it gives him peace to have Mom and Dad there ❤️ I also work overnights in the hospital so he also snuggles with only Dad if he has to 🥰❤️ good Luck Girl! You doing all the best you can and that counts a lot
So so cute seeing you and Poppy in the kitchen together ❣️ and also, they have childrens knife sets, two of my cousins have them, i think they have a variety of things for children in the kitchen. Knives, potato peelers, etc. just incase you'd find that appealing, otherwise the butterknife im sure works fine 😜
I am watching you from Cape Town South Africa. I am a fan since the beginning of your lives. All your dramas etc and Stephan. I do wish you could become a happy family again. Anyway not my business life can be so complicated if you let I be. Hope you sleep better for coming days. All my love to you all Carol Magee
It’s great to see you vlogging again. We had a sleeping bag on the floor next to our bed. In the mornings our youngest daughter was usually sleeping there, rarely our son or older daughter. I’m close to your height, but probably weigh twice your weight, so I literally could not fit in a toddler bed. When our grandchildren sleep over, they always end up in bed with me. Grandpa gets booted to the couch. Luckily, it reclines. We live in San Pedro, southern Palos Verdes Peninsula. We have always been a beach family. The Valley is simply too hot and smoggy for us.
My 7 year olds father and I separated when he was a little over a year and a half old, my son started having this issue around 3 and it lasted until he was about 5. He would wake me up constantly throughout the night and I would do the same as you, put him back to bed and then he would come back several times. I've had difficulty coparenting with his father, my son would sleep in his dads bed all the time at 3 years old until he was about 5. Despite me begging his father that he needed his own bed and room to sleep in. I feel like I have to say, I understand everyone's situation is differnt and I know a child having their own room and own bed might not be financially available for all familes, but that simply wasn't the case in our family. Come to find out his father was allowing him to watch youtube, unsupervised, as well as other inappropriate shows/movies a 3-5 year old shouldn't be watching. He also lied for quite awhile about my son having his own room and his own bed. Continued spoon feeding him and taking care of his bathroom needs even though my son was fully potty trained and able to take care of these needs himself. I don't necessarily have a ton of experience with children as my son is only 7 now, but in our situation when one adult is helping a child develop and grow up and the other adult is not allowing that to happen, it becomes very confusing for the little ones and I can only imagine how difficult it is having to live in two separate homes when both parents are not on the same page.
I’m in lent this helps so much as I’m out of ideas for Greek lent. I do feel great eating vegan my skin looks amazing and a lot of vegans have helped me with yummy ideas. I love my veges. Trying this, this weekend, thank you Laura❤
Going through this with my 6 year old as well lately. I think there's something universally happening spiritually right now. I would sayaybe get him a big boy bed twin size maybe? That way you can stretch out 😁 either way good luck momma. Hang in there. You got this 💪
Laura just throwing this out there, could it maybe have something to do with the new boyfriend? Not sure if he's staying over here & there? Has anything changed with Stephen & kids schedule or not sure if he has a girlfriend?
Adjustment - going through separation, from one home to the other and adjusting to being separated from a parent and waking to make sure you are still there. Just keep reassuring him when you put him back to bed and if you can handle it- don’t keep getting back in bed with him to get him to adjust and trust mom will still be there when he wakes. A child will also learn to manipulate at a very young age so if he gets used to getting you to sleep with him he will continue to apply the same behaviors knowing he will eventually succeed. The fact that you don’t do it every time he wakes up , is actually more reinforcing , like a slot machine, we win at random and it reinforces our behavior knowing at some point we will win again. He is waking up more often based on this theory. This is actually an example they use in psychology as a way of understanding gambling addiction and reinforcement .
I have brought up two ASD children by myself and I needed to say First and foremost never doubt your gut feeling. You know and understand your child, what they react to and dont. This was obvious by understanding that going out and walking reduce his anxiety. Also try not to get into the cycle of over thinking it. This goes against everything we know as mother's because we are trying to fix and make our childrens world better. But sometimes things are just what they are, and this is just a blip. One recommendation a sensory swing my cousin did this for her son he lived in it and eventually grew out of it.
I’m in Virginia, trying to take a moment to myself to decompress before the evening routine. I just want to say I really enjoyed watching this video. You’re doing great! Sleep regression was always something that happened with my son before some sort of developmental milestone would occur. Hope it improves for you all soon! Any update on your bat friend?! 🦇
I’m from Australia and my 3year old grandson is going through sleep regression and his parents bought him a double size bed so one of then could sleep with him when need be
Our autistic twin girls had the same sleep regression after they were about 4. They’re turn 6 soon and sleeping with us in the same bedroom and in our bed often. We put their bunk beds in front of ours. And there is me.. sleeping In their bunk bed every other night. HEELP
Im gonna have a breakdown here. Im in college, I used to watch Laura in school, just binge watching their funny videos. And i loved that.. i eventually stopped watching idk when, today, out of nowhere i ran into one of her videos and i checked the channel. My first reaction was wait where is her husband. Im just so overwhelmed right now. I dont know what happened. I thought only I had this for a lifetime boyfriend and then we broke up and never talked again thingy, i thought its weird that the guy I thought was going to be my husband, acts like he doenst know me anymore. Seeing my favourite content creators doing that, i cant process how i feel. Its just so sad
My son did this, he was then ref for Adhd assessments this took 3 years of professionals. He was already diagnosed Aspergers age3, Hyper mobility and CF. It could be stress, it could be a sensory thing (weighted blanket would help when he wakes
What I ended up doing was making a little bed on the floor by my bed and if he needed me he would sleep there and hold my hand. He had a special bear that stayed there.i wrapped the bear in one of my shirts.
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For all the criticism re Stephen, this is a beautiful video,watching Family life, Laura being natural with her kids,and kids interacting with their Dad,,he is sitting there enjoying his kids and being the great Dad he always is,,,so those who are being negative,,I hope Laura's feeling are not hurt,and she will continue to share..Don't like,the GO AWAY
I bought a grown-up bed for my 3 year old, best decision ever 😂 it’s low and close to the floor, but big and super comfortable even if we both sleep in it. She also wants me to come sleep with her and doesn’t want to sleep in my bed. Having both beds equaly comfortable has honestly removed so much stress, on nights when she needs me I fall asleep with her and I’m still ok the next day instead of being sore all over like before. Plus, she now wakes up way less, I think removing my stress throughout the nights just helped her sleep better 👏
Laura-I agree with this comment. I would also consult your pediatrician. Sometimes, kids on the spectrum have sleep issues. Good luck. You are doing a great job. Us parents of grown up kids know it ain't easy. Hugs!
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I was going to say, maybe he’s no longer comfortable at 5 years old still sleeping on a crib mattress and needs a big boy bed, as he’s is a big boy now, as opposed to a toddler.
same!!! We moved the double bed from the spare room to her room and now when we get summoned we have somewhere comfortable to sleep - absolute game changer
Best advice! Sleep is best, wherever that may be.
Laura, you don’t always share these moments of you just being a mom. But i love this vlog so much. You are a beautiful beautiful mother, you are doing such a great job. Being a mom is not easy, not even a little. Its all encompassing and will leave you ragged and yet it’s everything good in the world. I see you ❤
My daughter did that until she was 10. It was exhausting, there were times we would Cosleep and times we would try her bed. The only advice I have is, it doesn't last forever, one day he won't want to sleep with you anymore (neurodivergent or neurotypical) and you will never know what night is the last night. I know that doesn't help right now, I know you're exhausted and you still have to function, but even if you have to put a bigger bed in his room for you both to get better sleep, it's temporary and you will sleep again. ❤❤ love you
Bigger bed is best solution. Just do what helps u both sleep. If tht means sleeping in his bed or your bed, sleep is best, no matter where!
Alfie is saying so many words and sentences! I remember when you used to cry and worry if he would ever speak at all. You have to be so proud of him! ❤
You need to do what works for you. I never wanted kids in my bed, and my kids adjusted fine except for when they were sick. Whatever sleep method you choose, I would just be consistent. You’re a great mom.
When they're little, sleep is best, wherever that may be. If mom is in his bed, or hes in moms bed, sleep is best. Bc, as someone else said, he won't always sleep with her. One day it will end. U won't know when for sure, one day you'll realize, hmm he hasn't slept with me in a long time. Then its over i stressed on it alot when my daughter was young bc sh3 always came into my bed. My family railed me bc she didn't stay in her own bed, she was 3, THREE. at 5 she would still occasionally come to my bed, at 7 less and by 8 none at all. She was an only child. Her room was across our large house, by herself. She got scared alot. I would never make a scared child stay alone across a house. She's 27 and lived alone for years.
You r such an incredible mother, watching this almost brought tears to me eyes. The way you're so patient and help him work thru his feelings is just incredible. I've always loved you, but this one just really hit me. I can't say this enough, your children r so so lucky to hav you as their mommy!!!
I got my son a full sized bed. He went right to that from a crib. Sounds crazy, but I figure it will last longer than a toddler bed and if I need to lay with him, it's comfortable for me.
I’m in Cornwall, Uk, trying to get my autistic 11 yr old up to bed. We play cards together to help unwind ❤❤
Isn't that just magical.
My son was like that. We ended up getting him a bigger bed so one of us could sleep with him. He eventually out grew it. He's 12 and completely independent now. Hang in there. ❤
Love seeing Alfie and Poppy. So proud of you Laura as a mom.
Laura, the love you have for your children is so evident and beautiful. The way you interact with them, whether you are playing or cooking or reading stories… I love the way you interact and play with them!
Love seeing that little boy do so well, I'm so glad he's well above the doctors expectations :-) Doing great momma and dada!
Night nanny and gentle sleep coach here: It’s a perfectly normal phase (a lot of significant brain development happens at Alfie’s age) but it could be also that Alfie is reacting to you and Stephen splitting up and all the changes that came with that.
I know it happened a while ago but very often we see a “honeymoon phase” where little ones cope with things very well as they’re happening, and then wait until everything has calmed down again to show their big feelings and stresses about the event. Sleep is often the very first thing that is affected once they hit this phase. Please understand, I am NOT blaming you or Stephen in any way. The split was right for you guys and it had to happen. You did all you could to minimise the stress on the children and that is such a wonderful, selfless thing to do.
However, children are so much more perceptive than we think, particularly ones like Alfie who is not only ND, but also a tender and sensitive soul. He feels things deeply, and that is beautiful but also painful at times. I hope knowing this will help you understand what’s going on, and hopefully with that understanding will come acceptance. Alfie and you WILL get through this. Do whatever you need to do to get sleep right now, don’t worry about creating bad habits or anything like that. I always say “do what works”, and if there comes a day when it stops working, then you can change it, but don’t spend energy now worrying about problems that might never come. Get a bigger “big boy bed” for his room, build a floor nest with a mattress and pillows, put a little bed in there just for you, set your own boundaries if you start to feel touched out, do whatever you need. Be patient with yourself, it’s such a lovely thing that Alfie can find all the comfort he needs within you, but that’s hard on you right now. Admitting that doesn’t mean you love your family any less. Call in favours with friends, let the littles watch tv while you snooze, pick your battles and don’t ever feel guilty! Wishing you energy and strength to get through this time!
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Oops - I meant to say that is honestly the best, most heartfelt, intelligent, kind and caring answer ❤ you have hit the nail on the head!! Wise ❤
This is beautiful. Beautiful delivery... I'm speechless.
The beeeeeest comment/advice 100%
This. As a parent of 2 very clingy kids, this is hands down the best advice ❤❤
My son has ASD and needed to sleep with me and my now ex wife was pushing for him to sleep in his own bed no matter what. He would keep coming every so often til one of us slept with him. Basically what he wanted was more time with us. It helped him when I gave him a scheduled activity that he could look forward to and spend time with dad. A couple days of that and he no longer NEEDED to sleep with us.
Idk if that helps but. Spend some time with him. Like an extra special activity just you and him
I'm from Scotland, absolutely love your blogs.
Alfie will grow out of this, it won't take long, don't make a big thing of it, just as you do, and he will gradually sleep for longer periods again❤
Alfie's laugh when you were swinging :-D best thing to hear!
Absolutely normal to go through this, & to feel conflicted!!
Hi from Oklahoma. Wonderful little family. I’ve watched your family grow and seen the struggles and successes you have shared. I’m so glad this has become a beautiful normal for all of you.❤
I love how you affirm Poppy and tell her how wonderful she is ❤️ really wish my parents were as wholesome as you
They go through stuff they don’t know how to vocalise bless them. It will
Pass but no idea when. Best advice I ever got and chose to listen to with my 4 was “ do whatever means you get the most sleep, it’s safest at the end of the day…”
Maybe not the best advice but I bought my little boy a double bed because he’s always been a “bad” sleeper and wants someone in his bed or he comes into ours. I stopped fighting it and took the view I’ll miss it one day. ❤️
Freakin loving the co parenting ! ❤
I did enjoy watching you being you,,a wonderful woman and Mom...
I admire how the 2 of you coparent instead of weaponizing the children against each other like so many other divorced couples do. ❤You truly put your kids first and that’s amazing parenting👏
You are an amazing, loving, tender mom. ❤️
I live in Albany, Oregon. I am taking a break from reading my textbook on co-occurring disorders. I am studying to become a certified alcohol and drug counselor. I will be graduating in June 😊
I would graduate him into a regular bed. You can put side rails for safety or I used poodle noodles because I couldn’t afford the rails. My son is also on the spectrum and he picks up a lot more when there is change. I had the same issue with multiple wake ups. I would just put him in the bed with me. He grew out of it. I wouldn’t worry too much about giving in. My youngest has growing pains at night and wakes up several times at night. Yes you do need your sleep and as my kids are 9 and 10. I still get woken up random. Your are doing a great job❤
I too have ADHD and I'm a single mother of a 10yrld boy with autism 4 years sober I know I know ITS HAAAARD but it can be lovely when it's lovely. I'm not sure if they get easier to handle as they get older of if we get better at what we do I haven't figured it out yet but it's different. We gotlots of character im relating thats fo sho! We do the thing sista!
My son is autistic and we experienced the same sleep issues. They just continued to get worse so he started having a dose of melatonin 30 minutes before sleep and this was a huge game-changer. You may find it's just a stage and not related to ASD but just incase it gets worse, remember melatonin! ❤
My toddler comes to our room. Luckily he stays asleep in our bed (this is new territory he’s always been a horrible sleeper) but it may be that it’s time to transition to a bigger bed for Alfie? That way he could have more room to stretch out if he needs to but at the same time if he needs the comfort of you to co-sleep then you would at least have some form of rest? That might not be possible but it could be that he’s started to feel that he needs a bigger bed ❤
I’m making this for dinner right now! It smells amazing! Whenever you have anxiety, please try to congratulate yourself on nurturing and nourishing your children in ALL the ways you do. Every child deserves a mother as loving and dedicated as you. It is impressive. Chant this. ❤
Have Everyday Gret days n blessings on all who love you n your 2 beautiful kids….Just to see the world through their eyes is so precious take ALOT OF PICS family photos… cheers to mommy ❤
My two sons with autism always had open door to sleep in mom's bed. During divorce, it gave them security since kiddos, even wee ones, experience worry about who will stay and who will go in divorce and it can create anxiety at night too. They are now in their 20's and doing great, both big snugglers with their partners too. Do what works for you❤ Let him fall asleep in your bed and solves issue, you both get good sleep.
Rhode Island Your Babies are Just so sweet… Excellent Job Laura Really n make my crappy days brighter Loved Helen Smash literally laugh out load funny.. I’m stuck no car so when I really need some Nature I’m stuck.. I do wish I were trailer camping. I’m Agoraphobic n need peace n quiet left the city n diddnt look back that’s how I became clean in on Dec 11th,2021 I lost everything in a fire n my car n 25 years clean n now still clean no car don’t know what’s next except I have no place to get their however My Faith is what gets me n search everyday for things I don’t get to see no more Life is too much sometimes but you have 2 cutie patutie’s giving you that breath n blessed to see them grow again excellent job 3 thumbs up ❤❤❤❤❤
You're such a great mom, Laura, your kids are lucky to have you❤️
Yes. Have gone through this. It’s best you keep your engagement with them to a minimum. Don’t turn on lights or speak Just walk them silently back to there bed and tuck them in. If you give in after the 5th attempt, you’re teaching that they need to do it 5 or so times to get what they want - so they will never settle the first or second time and will persist. Good luck x
Okay. I’m definitely trying this recipe. Also, your kids are just so precious and you’re a great mom! ❤
Girl,same. My daughter is 9 and has always woken up in the night...most night multiple times. We just cosleep if she wakes up-its less frequent now. We bought a king bed to accommodate
I got a tri fold memory foam mattress. Twin size and kept it in my daughter’s room. With sheets and a blanket all ready. So she would go sleep in her room, I sleep on “the ground bed”. Saved me. Now she is almost 7 and sleeps in her room, our room on the ground bed and we just go back and forth. I don’t even care. We all sleep well.
I love Alfie’s laugh
Yes. Around that time my daughter who is also autistic would have night terrors. Take him back to his specialist if you need more help with learning what is going on but sleep disturbances are very common in autism. We did room sharing over bed sharing and that was really helpful because we also then had night eloping and I was able to hear her get up in the night. This is hard Momma and most people will not understand why or what kind of hard. There are support groups with peers who will understand and give really helpful practical tips that stem from a deeper understanding of raising autism.
Really enjoyed seeing what your day is like! I have a 5 year old and can relate! Love you and your family. ❤
The part of you and Alfie at the park playing , made me cry because it was beautiful and sweet and so natural and show the true bond and love between a mother and a son!!! I mean it was absolutely beautiful… You are an amazing mother and woman so please never listen to any of this negative shit from these IDOITS 😂😂 I do hope you and Steven can find y’all’s way back to each other ….
My big joy at 5 had big regression, it lasted about 2-3 months and it turned out it correlated to a huge growth spurt he was going threw. He jumped two sizes in the months. My boy also has asd and adhd so his ability to really tell me now he was feeling was hard. And sleep and emotional where not the only side effects there was a big sensory overload as well
Watching from Hawaii! It so amazing how far you have come. I have been watching you since was back.
Aw Laura you’re such a wonderful mom they are so lucky to have you ! I love my mom and miss her so much . But You are giving them your all and more. Like your aura and everything haha.
Much love to you
from Santa Cruz, California
I facepaint for kids bday parties & events 💜 mwah 😘
Great job team! Lots of love from Melbourne, Australia ❤
Sleep regression between 4 and 5 is totally normal. You are doing an amazing job! Wish I could eat that curry!
Yes, my 4 year old struggles either similar issues. I put his toddler bed next to my bed, sometimes this happens still. At night time I always make sure he has a couple sips of water, restroom then bed time. He wakes up crying that monsters are going to eat him and I assure him that I’m there to protect him and go back to bed, I find his bed next to mine helps me sleep better and makes him feel better. It’s ok to stay firm and tell them to go back to bed, they need to learn to self soothe themselves back to sleep or they get into the routine of sleep depriving you.
Ok you have sold me on this damn Potato Curry, I'm going to make it for dinner!
Alfie's doing so great! ❤
He's probably about to go through a growth spurt ❤
My toddler bed is right next to mine 🥰🥰 he’s an autistic 4 years old non verbal and he loves to sleep in his own bed ❤️ but when he feels overwhelmed he comes to our bed and we are TOTALLY ok with it because it gives him peace to have Mom and Dad there ❤️ I also work overnights in the hospital so he also snuggles with only Dad if he has to 🥰❤️ good Luck Girl! You doing all the best you can and that counts a lot
Cutest kids ever ❤❤❤
This was a great video! Reminded me of past years with all of you ❤
You truly are an amazing Mother Laura ❤
Keep going ❤❤
Cooking with laura dude this is awesome more cooking time i love that poppy was chatting ❤❤
So so cute seeing you and Poppy in the kitchen together ❣️ and also, they have childrens knife sets, two of my cousins have them, i think they have a variety of things for children in the kitchen. Knives, potato peelers, etc. just incase you'd find that appealing, otherwise the butterknife im sure works fine 😜
Maybe a bigger bed in his room that is comfy for you too? 🖤
Love watching you and your family you are amazing with Alfie I am from Nova Scotia
I am watching you from Cape Town South Africa. I am a fan since the beginning of your lives. All your dramas etc and Stephan. I do wish you could become a happy family again. Anyway not my business life can be so complicated if you let I be. Hope you sleep better for coming days. All my love to you all Carol Magee
Poppy is such a beautiful kind little girl.
I came back to this video to make the curry honestly and it was THE BEST.
Im from Sacramento California 🎉❤
What an absolute nightmare having kids is I see.
It’s great to see you vlogging again. We had a sleeping bag on the floor next to our bed. In the mornings our youngest daughter was usually sleeping there, rarely our son or older daughter. I’m close to your height, but probably weigh twice your weight, so I literally could not fit in a toddler bed. When our grandchildren sleep over, they always end up in bed with me. Grandpa gets booted to the couch. Luckily, it reclines. We live in San Pedro, southern Palos Verdes Peninsula. We have always been a beach family. The Valley is simply too hot and smoggy for us.
My 7 year olds father and I separated when he was a little over a year and a half old, my son started having this issue around 3 and it lasted until he was about 5. He would wake me up constantly throughout the night and I would do the same as you, put him back to bed and then he would come back several times. I've had difficulty coparenting with his father, my son would sleep in his dads bed all the time at 3 years old until he was about 5. Despite me begging his father that he needed his own bed and room to sleep in. I feel like I have to say, I understand everyone's situation is differnt and I know a child having their own room and own bed might not be financially available for all familes, but that simply wasn't the case in our family.
Come to find out his father was allowing him to watch youtube, unsupervised, as well as other inappropriate shows/movies a 3-5 year old shouldn't be watching. He also lied for quite awhile about my son having his own room and his own bed. Continued spoon feeding him and taking care of his bathroom needs even though my son was fully potty trained and able to take care of these needs himself.
I don't necessarily have a ton of experience with children as my son is only 7 now, but in our situation when one adult is helping a child develop and grow up and the other adult is not allowing that to happen, it becomes very confusing for the little ones and I can only imagine how difficult it is having to live in two separate homes when both parents are not on the same page.
That must be incredibly frustrating for you.
I’m in lent this helps so much as I’m out of ideas for Greek lent. I do feel great eating vegan my skin looks amazing and a lot of vegans have helped me with yummy ideas. I love my veges. Trying this, this weekend, thank you Laura❤
I'm from Tirol/ Innsbruck in Austria 🇦🇹 🤠
I wish you a beautiful start into the new weeeck ❤️
She is brilliant
Going through this with my 6 year old as well lately. I think there's something universally happening spiritually right now. I would sayaybe get him a big boy bed twin size maybe? That way you can stretch out 😁 either way good luck momma. Hang in there. You got this 💪
Laura just throwing this out there, could it maybe have something to do with the new boyfriend? Not sure if he's staying over here & there? Has anything changed with Stephen & kids schedule or not sure if he has a girlfriend?
Laura, your such a beautiful soul
That's a tough one! I'm sorry for having this issue...😢
Adjustment - going through separation, from one home to the other and adjusting to being separated from a parent and waking to make sure you are still there. Just keep reassuring him when you put him back to bed and if you can handle it- don’t keep getting back in bed with him to get him to adjust and trust mom will still be there when he wakes. A child will also learn to manipulate at a very young age so if he gets used to getting you to sleep with him he will continue to apply the same behaviors knowing he will eventually succeed. The fact that you don’t do it every time he wakes up , is actually more reinforcing , like a slot machine, we win at random and it reinforces our behavior knowing at some point we will win again. He is waking up more often based on this theory. This is actually an example they use in psychology as a way of understanding gambling addiction and reinforcement .
Ever heard of Winnipeg? You are a great parent Laura.
Aussie here. Going to bed myself now. Soooooo tired.
Currently living on the Georgia coast!
I live in listowel county kerry ireland 🇮🇪 🙌 😀 ❤been a fan since the start when u used to do skits in the sc filterzzzzzzzzzz lolz
It's not just him. My daughter is 9 and has done this off and on ever since she started sleeping in her own room. You could get him a bigger bed.
Kids are exhausting. It is always changing. Hang in there. I'm from Long Island, N.Y.
Watching from Pennsylvania and I’m just laying in my bed after a long day and I’m bored watching your videos cause I love your videos and podcast ❤❤
I have brought up two ASD children by myself and I needed to say First and foremost never doubt your gut feeling. You know and understand your child, what they react to and dont. This was obvious by understanding that going out and walking reduce his anxiety. Also try not to get into the cycle of over thinking it. This goes against everything we know as mother's because we are trying to fix and make our childrens world better. But sometimes things are just what they are, and this is just a blip. One recommendation a sensory swing my cousin did this for her son he lived in it and eventually grew out of it.
I’m in Virginia, trying to take a moment to myself to decompress before the evening routine. I just want to say I really enjoyed watching this video. You’re doing great! Sleep regression was always something that happened with my son before some sort of developmental milestone would occur. Hope it improves for you all soon! Any update on your bat friend?! 🦇
Taylorsville, KY here!
Yea. Slept in toddler beds with my grandbabiea for years. I am Mimi. We have kiddos in our bed all the time
I'm from Austin, TX.
hes so talkative now wth ❤🥺
Absolutely love you all ❤️❤️
Hey, I'm watching from GA
Hi from Slovenia🇸🇮
I’m from Australia and my 3year old grandson is going through sleep regression and his parents bought him a double size bed so one of then could sleep with him when need be
Our autistic twin girls had the same sleep regression after they were about 4. They’re turn 6 soon and sleeping with us in the same bedroom and in our bed often. We put their bunk beds in front of ours. And there is me.. sleeping In their bunk bed every other night. HEELP
I made that meal you cooked...it was delicious 😋
Im gonna have a breakdown here. Im in college, I used to watch Laura in school, just binge watching their funny videos. And i loved that.. i eventually stopped watching idk when, today, out of nowhere i ran into one of her videos and i checked the channel. My first reaction was wait where is her husband. Im just so overwhelmed right now. I dont know what happened. I thought only I had this for a lifetime boyfriend and then we broke up and never talked again thingy, i thought its weird that the guy I thought was going to be my husband, acts like he doenst know me anymore. Seeing my favourite content creators doing that, i cant process how i feel. Its just so sad
My son did this, he was then ref for Adhd assessments this took 3 years of professionals. He was already diagnosed Aspergers age3, Hyper mobility and CF. It could be stress, it could be a sensory thing (weighted blanket would help when he wakes
Ive seen EDS red flags in laura so wouldn't doubt alfie has similar issues
@gothicgirly2002 that's the thing EDS comes with many neurospicey diagnosis as does sensory processing disorder.
@@MrCogan555 yeah but i also watch how laura moves and theres mad hypermobility there
I'm soooo making this for me, hubby and kids tomorrow. Yum! Vegan household here xxx
What I ended up doing was making a little bed on the floor by my bed and if he needed me he would sleep there and hold my hand. He had a special bear that stayed there.i wrapped the bear in one of my shirts.
I watch you from Portugal 👋
Love to you & your family💗💗💗