The Birth of our Daughter (FINALE!) ** UNMEDICATED / INTENSE**
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
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• The Birth Of Our Son !
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I’m not disrespecting any other mothers in the world but honestly this was the only video where I felt the realness of giving birth to a child. Laura is too precious for this world ❤️❤️❤️
Agreed
Me too! I was crying and I don't even have kids...I felt this on a real emotional level.
I do feel like they sugar coat in many videos out there. This video felt more raw and unfiltered. Totally agree.
Honestly same I thought wow I’m gonna be an awful pusher if I can’t be quite like these you tubers ... I don’t like pain and miscarriage pains were bad ... but I’m glad Laura posted this makes me feel like when the time comes for a rainbow baby I won’t be as scared to deliver. And I didn’t know labor on all fours was an option when I’m in pain that’s usually how I end up so knowing that is kinda cool I just see a lot of on the back and pushing videos
@@RefinedAurora sending hugs. When then time comes for your rainbow baby all fours is an amazing position! In the UK we encourage it because the coccyx needs to move out the way (you won’t notice it) laying on your back actually goes against gravity too.
I cried when Steven said he didn't want to be alive is Laura wasn't alive. 😭 they are the cutest couple ever.
Me toooooo! True love exists!😭
Me too❤️❤️❤️
Instant tears when he said that
I was crying like a child already and then he said that 😭😭😭😭
I love the healing vibrations music on the video very relaxing
I am crying from what Stephen said to Laura, it was so heartfelt and sweet and there are just no words. ❤️❤️😭😭🥲🥲
Wasn't that beautiful ohh I cried right there I mean I basically teared up the whole time her natural birth was incredibly amazing.
Me too! I hope one day to find a love like that 💙
@@CarsonPaws me too
I was already tearing up from the emotion of the labor and when he said that it just brought on the tears even more!😭 such an amazing life partner! The whole family is amazing! I love them!😭
It really was
“I was going to end it all because I didn’t want to live if you weren’t alive.” My gosh, I could feel his raw emotions. What a wonderful partner. God bless you guys.
Right that hit me right in the ❤ 🥺 wish I had a spouse like that.
yes! i cried when he said that i'm like wow that's true love they are def soul mates
@@shayf1189 yes I said the same thing but it hurts bc they are separated now and it so sad. I really hope they can work it out.
Except when he wanted to end it all she left him. 😢
They loved each other too much to not work together and work out their relationship differences
Laura, dear, get rid of that doula! She is bad news. I have been a nurse for 24 years. Get rid of her. Run don’t walk!
U know NOtHiNG
I said the same thing
Thank you!! I wondered if I was the only one thinking this!!!
@@alanisadventures5304 stop being rude! She has a right to her opinion!! What do you know about it???
Agreed. It’s truly terrifying. That’s what nurses, doctors and hubby’s are for ❤️
"I don't want to be alive if you're not alive"
I lost it. My husband has been very sick for 4 months and I felt that so dearly.
I’m sorry. I hope he gets better. I’m sending my good vibes your way. I will keep him in my prayers 🙏🏻 stay strong, both of you!
Praying for you guys
Prayers sent
Lots of positive, healing vibes 💖
❤️❤️😢
The only woman who is in labor who can still ding dong ditch other patients. Love you Laura. Congrats
Lol
And that little run was just through cutest! She's amazing!
LOL!!!
Me and my sister were saying the same thing
If she had narcotics that far dilated/so close to birthing then yes Penelope could have been drugged! Educate yourself before posting an ignorant response!👎
I love how Steven’s talking Laura throughout the entire birth and being so comforting through the whole process. I almost bawled my eyes out when he wanted to jump out of the window if Laura wasn’t alive.
Oh my gosh, he's awesome isn't he? Honestly, I ugly cried at that part.
He’s a great Man
I wish i had a Stephen
Omg Steven had me crying when he said he thought you were dead and his first thought was to jump out the window because he couldn't lose you. Omg that was so raw and real.
It made me cry
Instant tears.
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I teared up when Penelope was born but when Steven said he didn’t want to be there if Laura wasn’t I broke down crying. That was so beautiful and so raw.
Yes yes!!
I thought Steven was the grandad
@@amanda.jaynee5716 then you clearly don't follow their videos. And really should keep your rude opinions to yourself. Like why even come and say that?
Yes! I was like tearing up watching Laura do her thing! And damn did she do her thang!! Woo. That was super intense. But listening to Steven say that..man I lost it.
I also sooo felt Laura when the stupid doula was doing her dumb shit and said something about drugging the baby. And Steven went up and said to Laura "what do you want to do..do you want an epidural?" Cuz he was so worried. And Laura said "I want to die" 😆😆 it's not funny. But it was at the same time cuz man I remember saying that during those hardcore contractions. Ugh. Idk how she did what she did. But like Steven said..she's a freaking warrior!
This doula makes me viciously angry. If ANY mother wants pain relief during her birth she is entitled to do so. GTFOH with your “if you get an iv your baby will be drugged and in the NICU” I’m so proud of you Laura
Couldn't agree more with you. There wasn't a single piece of advice she gave that I thought was safe, for Laura's benefit, or comforting.
Her guilt ridden advice was uneducated crap. She’s bloody dangerous. She just wanted to be able to say she was Laura doula to further her career when she did the opposite. Hopefully she ruined her doula career. I hope nobody lets her be their doula after seeing this.
She told the truth but all you sheep have no idea
@Lindsey Bailes She was talking about IV narcotics, not an epidural.
Laura did NOT want pain meds! To stay unmedicated during the birthing process was Laura’s top priority. And of course a healthy baby. In fact she told the doula to help her to stay unmedicated even if she would ask for pain meds unless she say that safeword. They talked about it in detail in the weeks before the birth and there is a long youtube video about it. These are facts and so its a shame to spread hate towards the doula when she helped and supported that much.
That look at "2 more brave pushes" gave her so much power and I started bawling!
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Absolutely precious
I love that you showed us the screaming and all because most women hide those parts when its normal and natural.
true!! Before hand I thought I was def not gonna be loud. But oh boy was I wrong XD
But also, all women handle pain differently. I was silent through all of mine cause that's what helped me. My sister was very vocal and screaming.
@@rikkihurt my induction i was pretty loud but 2nd one was not induced and I was more moaning and breathing loud
@@Ann I don't want my statement to come across that you shouldn't or can't yell.
Just that, if you don't you're not "hiding" anything.
It's just the way I deal with pain I become very quiet. I had a ruptured appendicitis and the only indication I was in pain was my high blood pressure. Because I have tattoos the doctor treated me like I was pill seeking. He was actually mad and upset when the CT came back that I needed emergency surgery.
Yelling, loud moaning or any vocalizations would've made it worse. (for me)
I think the loudest I was, was with baby #2. I didn't moan or yell I just aggressively kept telling the nurse I wasn't gonna lay on my back or uncross my legs cause her head was out. Lol She didn't believe me so I just kept saying, the head is out people. I'm literally holding her in." The resident caught her on her way out and the bed wasn't even broken down.
She came in less than 2 hours. She's still super impatient 19 years later. Haha
@@rikkihurt very true!
That doula has not only given dangerous advice that could've killed her baby, but also lied to Laura by falsely claiming a small amount of pain meds would put her baby in the NICU. If there is ever a Hilton Baby #3, please get a new doula or find a good midwife.
Yes find a good midwife better
I was in a hospital and requested iv meds at 7-8 and was told no because it will drug the baby. Not by a midwife, by an obstetrician and 2 RNs.
@@summerlynstone7629 yeah, the baby gets some of the pain meds in their system if it's above a certain amount, but it won't put a baby in the NICU. This woman was claiming that the baby would get put in the NICU immediately, not that the baby would be a little tired and unfocused.
Also, that doesn't change the fact that she's been given Laura dangerous, medicallly inaccurate advice that could have put her and Poppy in jeopardy and possibly killed if not one or both of them.
@@summerlynstone7629 I had 3 babies, pain meds, epidurals and emergency c sections. I have 3 very healthy, straight A kids Never sick, and have always been ahead of where they should be! So meds were fine with me
im so glad im not the only one that noticed how full of crap that doula is. i always try and stay out of others personal lives and business but when you put a baby in danger i will turn into a karen in a hurry
Oh I’m too pregnant for his statement about not being alive if she’s not alive. Sobbing like a baby
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Awwww I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well and you can have a safe and healthy delivery 💖🙏💖
@@ritaruggerone4434 thank you so much!
Aww I wish you a healthy, safe and happy delivery. 😍😍
@@michelefizer2774 thank you so much! Only 4 more weeks!
The part i cried the most at was your sweet husband saying "I was going to jump out the window cause I didn't want to live without you" my heart melted, you two are so perfect together
That LOOK she gave when he said just two more pushes...I FELT THAT IN MY SOUL
Me too!!! I had my Anna all natural (never again).
I fucking cried when she looked at the camera like I could feel her pain and I had a c section
@@mariajohnson5030 us moms just know... no matter how we have birth sympathy pains are felt all around. ❤
This!!!! I agree! She was like a primal, hurt, mama tiger or something! 😅🤷🏻♀️🖤💪
My last pregnancy 1993 ( my only daughter) was all natural and I took castor oil to pop her out 2 weeks early because my 2 sons were 9 pounds each, one c-section, one VBAC, and I was hoping not to have a super ultra large baby again....and my daughter was just 7 pounds and it was brutal pain. Omg. Like if I had had the opportunity to have more kids I would have been like, yeah, give me drugs. Lol. Congrats Laura. 💗💗💗💗💗
Awww the way she looked at him when he encouraged her to do two more pushes was so trusting. You could see she was desperate and exhausted but he brought her calmness and peace in that moment. Congrats to your beautiful family.
That doula was awful. Telling Laura it was drugging the baby if she took pain meds. What a horrible woman 😠
I work with doulas, she did grearlt, its their job to try to help her to stay on the Mother's birthing plan, WHEN they can, as mother's have serious regret when choosing drugs many times and she's 100% right that the baby will be drugged and at 37 weeks, you need to not depress their pulmonary function, which pain meds do, so think before you speak
@@theperfectfit00 then you’re working with the wrong doulas. I’m a certified birth doula and we are taught to NOT give medical advice, which her doula did, and she also just said everything so harsh and just overall not great.
@@theperfectfit00 Doula's had no medical certifications they are just a bunch of hippies throwing their elderberries and sage at you. This woman proves it. Get a mid wife. At least they have to be certified.
Low doses of certain medications do no effect the baby. And sticking to the birth plan is one thing, but the minute pitocin is introduced things change. I was induced my last three. My second child I panicked,pushed him out and my water hadn't even broke. Out of the last three one epidural took. One half my leg went numb and the other didn't work at all. That pain, after having the first two with nothing, was intense. It's ok to say hey I know how hard it is with the pitocin. Are you wanting to change your birth plan? This chick just confused Laura more, causing more anxiety.
@@wandagetz966 I agree. She should've been supportive in whatever laura decided she wanted to do. She didn't need to suffer like she did. There are many different types of medications. I had IV pain meds 5-7 minutes before my son was born & he was completely fine. I was induced with all 3 of my children. Pitocin contractions are no joke.
Laura… on days when you are questioning whether or not you’re strong enough for whatever you’re facing… watch this video… you are a WARRIOR and such an inspiration!
“I don’t want to be alive if your not alive” 🥺🥺😭😭
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That part got me ... that’s when I started bawling
I became a sobbing mess at that part. Their love is so beautiful
That part made me cry too!
I was sobbing so much when I heard that. Look there I go again sobbing just thinking about that statement. 😭😭😭
The doula was out of her freaking mind. I'm so happy everyone was healthy but she was terrible.
🙄 i didn't like her tone. She was something...
IKR
I agree the doula told her to drink castor oil in on video I was like wtf castor oil is the worst advice od eva hurd it doesn't bring labour on and can make both baby n mum sick x
I couldn't believe she told her to take castor oil!
When she said it would drug her and the baby I was like excuse me what? They give pain meds all the time neither of my boys went to the nicu and I was on pain medication during both births
I’m driving right now, and as soon as the Doula said you’re going to drug your baby, I literally had to pull over I was fucking fuming
I’ve been against the doula from like 5 minutes into the first video, it does not feel at all like she was there for Stephen and Laura’s wishes/best interests
SAME
I’m glad I’m not alone in feeling that way! I would never want that woman to be there for me or anyone! She always sounded like a bully :/
@@jessclapham6391 i completely agree. Yes when your water breaks you can get infections and your baby can too. And she was like nah we not worried abt that.
That doula was there for the camera. 1million percent. I FUCKING LOVE Laura, Stephan and the family they’ve created. I just could not handle that doula. I don’t think she was doing Laura any favors whatsoever. I of course respect Laura’s wishes but I wanted to reach through the screen and slap that doula lady. I truly think they will look back and wish she wasn’t there. She felt like an intruder with a sassy attitude, bad ideas and someone who wanted to be in a video.
So good to hear Laura yell about the pain and vocalise it .this is always to be encouraged during labour .dont let snyone tell u to keep it down
First thing every mother says “I’m never doing that again” a week later all pain completely forgotten about “oh I’m having ten more”
i said that after i pushed my first one out lol
Same!!!
fun fact, that's actually an evolutionary thing! we've evolved to forget the pain of childbirth so we're willing to have more babies and keep the species going lol
Nope not true. I gave birth almost a year ago. And I tell you, I NEVER WANNA DO THAT AGAIN.
Ya no... 😂 gave birth 4.5 years ago, never going to go through this again.
I'm a guy, and I'm in tears.
It's truly Incredible how Strong a Woman is.
You're Amazing Laura.
Couldn't watch this without crying. Holy shit.
"I don't want to live if you're not alive." 😔 My heart! Steven is so sweet.
When we labor to give birth, we literally walk the line between 2 worlds, the worlds of Life and Death. The transition stage is literally when we have a foot in each world. Love love this video and how supportive Stephen is.
I'm pregnant so watching this to prepare I've never heard of the transition stage before 😬 is it like being high or something?
@@wheresthecomedyspiritualit7113 fuck no transition is nothing like being high. U should be dead and the pain is so goddamn unbearable, humans can never survive that amount of pain and survive unless it’s during childbirth because ur body just manages to keep u alive. When I was giving birth, I wanted someone to kill me. Cut my limbs off, stab my heart. It’s paralyzing pain. A Charlie horse all throughout ur body but times a trillion while also having contractions all throughout ur torso that feels like a chainsaw. Nobody knows how horrible it is until u go through it. I was so set on doing natural. So set on nobody seeing my vagina due to ptsd. But God, deathly pain really makes u lose ur dignity. I honestly recommend the epidural to everyone. No one except the cruelest people out there deserve that pain. But…it’s worth it. It doesn’t last forever but it will be the worst time of ur life during that moment. U will love ur baby so much you’d do it all over again. Mothers love is incomprehensible
Also sorry for seeming so grim but nobody talks about the truth of birth so I am. Again, the epidural is a miracle
I was never had children so I will never experience what is like having a baby. To those mothers who choose a non-medicated birth, I truly applaud you!!! Any mother to be who wishes to have an epidural, no shame in your game. Natural childbirth is not for everyone. I would choose an epidural myself. Some women have actually had strokes, heart attacks and have even died giving birth. It’s appears to be a very thin line between life and death of the mother. I thank God for mothers. NO ONE, AND I MEAN NO ONE, SHOULD EVER DISRESPECT MOTHERS, ESPECIALLY HUSBANDS, BOYFRIENDS, AND CHILDREN!! ❤😊
This is the perfect description of how I felt. It was like entering another dimension...Truly an incredible experience and I was blessed to repeat it 3 times.
When Steven was talking about how he thought she was dead and they cried and cuddled I absolutely lost it. When I had my son I actually was dying, I was haemorrhaging horribly but I had no one I felt so alone and I'm still so traumatised and bitter 18 months down the line. I hope one day I can have what this couple has 🥺
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I’m so sorry that happened to you. Please try to let that bitterness go; talk to a therapist maybe because that isn’t good for you or your child. I can’t imagine what you went through honey. That really sucks 😢
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I hope you and your little one have a beautiful life like you deserve 💗 remember that you are a complete person even without someone else but I understand completely wanting that person beside you that has your back for everything. I hope you heal from your trauma as well sweet one 💗
Same 😭
No words for Steven and the amazing support he gave Laura throughout. Both of you are so strong and brave. Congratulations! You need merch with that phrase "I don't want to be alive if you are not alive..." So beautiful.
Yes such Sad and Beautiful Words from Stephen.
Boy! That Doula is insane. I hated seeing her insert herself between Steven and Laura. And just hearing her negative, shrill commands, like she’s running the show and calling all the shots for the parents! Wow. She needed back off. I’m glad Parents opted for the hospital birth and I’m so glad baby and mommy are well.
I was thinking the same thing - WOW, the doula was way out of line and not supportive at all. She was overbearing and trying to intimidate them into making the choices she wanted. SO ick.
Okay, but that's exactly what a doula is supposed to do. When you're giving birth (or your partner is giving birth), you can't always think straight and remember your birth plan, and doctors can take you off course pretty quickly. The doula is there to make sure you have the birth experience you want, and that means they have to be assertive. I also didn't see when she inserted herself between Laura and Stephen, only between Laura and the nurse/doctor, which is sometimes her job.
@@rosey4exclaim Some of that is true, sure. However, this doula’s approach was harsh and not at all what a birthing mother needs. There was not a whiff of kindness or care. Your excuses for this doula’s inappropriate tone and treatment is kind of suspect.
Laura wanted an unmedicated birth, she often talked about it. As she said at the end she "always wanted to see what natural childbirth is like". Another reason is that the recovery time for a drug free birth is so much faster. Laura was showing us how beautiful and magical and empowering a natural birth can be. She did it and had her baby her way and the Doula supported her to achieve that goal, she did absolutly nothing wrong. Something so beautiful happened and you're just sending negative vibes.
@@deworelmo8324 They aren't sending negative vibes. They are merely pointing out what the doula did wrong. She was negative & pushy. She should've never told laura to take castor oil for 1. Everyone knows that's unsafe. Plans change during birth and that's ok. She should've been supportive in whatever laura decided. That's her only job. She shouldn't have scared Laura about the IV pain meds. It was hours later that Penelope was born & even if she had been born quicker that doesn't mean she would've had to be seen by the nicu. I had IV pain meds 5-7 before my son was born & he was completely fine.
As a labor an delivery nurse, you did such a fantastical job. It’s obviously not much coming from a stranger but I am so proud of you. That was a beautiful natural labor. I’m so happy you were able to be autonomous throughout your care and do what you felt was right in collaboration with your medical team. Happy belated birthday sweet girl. This is why I adore my job so much beautiful strong mommas like you! This finale brought tears to my eyes, you were so fantastic momma.
Actually, that means a lot to me, even though the comment wasn't directed at me. My labors were both very noisy and intense like this (posterior babies!), and I felt like I wasn't doing it right. Even though I had prepared to the best of my ability.
After my first, my labor nurse said "This is why you need to prepare!". She meant well, I guess. I liked her anyways.
During my second, a home birth, I was arching my neck a lot. The midwife and birth attendant kept saying to keep my head tucked, which was physically impossible for me. My husband tried telling me to keep my head tucked and that's the only time I've told him to shut up.
Ugh, all that rambling aside, thank you for your encouragement. This is the only vlog on YT I've found that resembled what my labors were like, so it means a lot.
can we just talk about how absolutely beautiful Laura is after giving birth? she's literally glowing!
i find it thst too
I’m not really sure what a doula actually does, but the fact that she was getting in the way of Steven while she was on all fours was making me so mad!! Like you’ve done your part (I think) now let him be there for his wife!!
This!!! I was screaming at the screen "move lady and let him get to his wife!"
That REALLY bothered me.
Thisssss! She really annoyed me. Even in the video where Laura is informed she'll have to go to the hospital and will be having the baby SOON, the doula gave me a bad feeling! So negative and controlling in the conversation they have in the car.. I just couldn't with her energy! And seeing her in this video just verified it for me. 🤷🏻♀️ Wonder what Stephen thought of her after the birth?!? Laura is a fucking WARRIOR.
This doula doesn't represent the amazing doulas out there!! Mine was SO AMAZING.
MOST doulas are supposed to do everything they can to ensure 1, mother's comfort (as much as she can be), and 2, advocating for mother's wishes (in the case that medical professionals or others in the room are doing things that mom has expressly said no to, or not doing what mom has asked for). They also are supposed to acquiesce to a change in plans. This douls has done a TERRIBLE job of educating, advocating, or making mom comfortable. All I've seen from these 3 parts is her doula is scaring her with false or doctored information so that she does what the doula thinks is best. That's NOT the doula's job. EVER.
It made me unbelievably angry when the doula said “if you get medication in the I.V the baby can be drugged”. Why did she think that was appropriate?
100% agree! A doula is supposed to be a caring supportive presence, not an ego maniac who pushes in front of the father and barks at the birthing mother. Ergh, she was awful and argued with medical staff at every chance she got. She makes doulas look bad.
EXACTLY doulas have no medical training and should not give medical advice which she did and she was so rude constantly shoving herself in between the she was ridiculous
If anything medication helps birth. It calms the mom and muscles. It doesn’t hurt the baby
I agree I was so shocked that doula was horrible
I was thinking the same thing. She’s gotta be the worst doula i’ve seen.
When the mother is incoherent and sobbing...you give the drugs FFS. I dealt with this. And I will never be sure that my son's disabilities were not caused my my midswife's refusal to have a doctor intervene. (My son got stuck under my pubic bone and had to be emergency taken by forceps.)
I pray your son is alright.
“I don’t want to be alive if you’re not alive!” Most sweetest, heartfelt thing ever said. Congrats Laura I’m so happy for you. Such a beautiful birth and you did it natural!! Warrior!
Best thing I heard: "do you want an epidural?" "I want to die" 😂😭 loved it
I would have snapped on that doula. She was acting so out of line towards you. I’m so proud of you, Laura. You did amazing. ☺️
I don't understand how that doula was out of line at all but alright
@@briannacooley6762 “we are drugging the baby”
@@loisclaire7589 Technically that would be correct. Medicated drugs work just like meth or cocaine type drugs. If a mother does meth then the baby will be born a meth baby, any drug that is given to the mother also affects the baby to a degree. So technically the baby would be drugged to some degree, nothing dangerous but not natural at all like the parents wanted
I was confused by the doula. She was very relaxed and nonchalant about the whole thing. There was no sense of urgency. Is that normal?
@@kaybay7778 I believe she didn’t want to stress out the mum,
“I don’t want to be alive if you’re not alive.” 🥺 and now they’re separated. It is obvious that they love each other. I hope they can work things out and find a middle ground. 😞
Yep. Praying that she can heal her post partum and they get back together
Wait what
I sobbed through 90% of this video oh my goodness I'm absolutely so touched . I'm still crying as I write this. I'm so honored to have gotten to witness such an incredibly intimate and natural moment. You two are the fucking best and those kids are gonna have the most wonderful lives!!! When he talked about jumping through the window I went from sobbing to ugly heart wrenched snotty balling. My heart goes out to you amazing people!😭😭💕💕💕💕💕
I cried when the baby came out. I may be a teen and people find it weird I like watching births. I like watching them because I realise Oh my gosh another human in this world. It’s honestly a blessing to watch. I’m glad she is safe and healthy.
They really are such a blessing to watch, and it makes me sooo excited to have children in the future. I started watching birth videos when I was around 14 and as a 20 year old now, I feel like I know quite a lot about birth at my age haha. I just think it is such a beautiful thing and it is seriously such an interest of mine. I would totally go to med school to be an OB-GYN or Certified Nurse Midwife. As of now though, I’m studying psych hoping to get a PhD in Clinical Neuropsychology because I find TBIs very interesting too
@@CatnipMed Ive wanted to hace kids since i was like 12 lol now i'm 24 so i completely understand you the watching birth videos thing, it gets me excited too when I think about what will that whole pregnancy and birth be like when I have my first baby
That's not weird! You are witnessing new life being welcomed into the world, it's an incredible thing. Maybe you have a calling to be a midwife or obgyn! My children were actually delivered by certified nurse midwives in the hospital...doctors were on standby if necessary, but I actually was completely treated by the midwives. In another life, I would totally be a midwife but I have no desire to start a new career.
I swear, you are the most beautiful birthing mom I've ever seen.
The doula really is delusional thinking she’s a medical professional
The doula was awful, I just wanted to yell at her to shut up!
Laura was asking for pain meds and she told her no. Look, obviously give her the meds in moderation but she made it look like she was finna drug the baby so much she'd end up in the ICU......
The doula made me mad. Can't believe no one told her to shove it you know where.
She was so shaming. I can't stand the righteousness of the 'natural birth' doula community.
Thank you! Nobody's baby ends up in the NICU from a mild pain med.
I think most of us can agree here,we have all shed massive amounts of tears here!!! Congrats Steven,Laura and Allie! Welcome to the world Penelope!!❤️
Yes.
Okay I'm glad I'm not the only person who bawled through this. My husband thought I had lost my mind lol.
@@shelbytreadway587 It was beautiful and intense,I don’t understand how anyone could’ve remained dry eyed!!🤷🏻♀️
After watching this on FB I couldn't help but feel inspiration for my own birth story with my second. What a champion you are and how much of a ride it turns into. Powerful and raw.
Beautiful how Steven went from, " I can't live without her" to a very healthy prayer that it all be ok! That's faith. That's wonderful. That's overcoming the bad stuff in the best possible way. All the love on your new, bigger family!
No one understands... i died in my husband's arms during birth and I'm convinced his love brought me home. I'm so greatful he called to me. I was dying and I heard him yelling at me to fight.... its all i remember. I really remember us hugging alone standing and him saying to come back and him carrying me. I was in surgery and he was praying. He came for me... ill never believe anything else. He saved me with his pure love for me.
Love us everything. Love is the only real thing we will ever touch.
Never in my life have I felt so much emotion watching someone struggle through birth. That was amazing. Thank you for sharing such an intimate experience. And then his comment about not wanting to be alive without you.... omg My heart.
Stephen is so loving, caring and kind to Laura. I feel I don’t get to see husbands being as they’re supposed to be to their wives very often. It’s a breath of fresh air to witness. Congratulations!! God please continue to bless and protect this family!!❤️🙏🏼
I think this made me cry harder than any other birth
Me too!!! 😭
Me too because of her screams but I'm so relieved and happy
Me too! So raw and amazing 🤩
Me too 😭😭😭 I’m due October and I’m sobbing like a baby it’s just the most intense birth I’ve ever watched. Most birth videos do not go into this much detail about what happens in an unmedicated birth but they really did and I’m grateful. I’m probably gonna get an epidural now!
That made me cry more than my own birthing experience 😭
I lost it when she came out...cried like a baby. This was by far the most emotional video. For someone who isn't able to have a child, this was so incredibly beautiful. Thank you for sharing this miracle with all of us. ❤
I'm in the same position (unable to have children) and felt the same way ❤
God I was so stressed by that doula how did you cope with her while giving birth! Telling a woman in labour she looses control if she starts screaming. I’d be like I’m pushing a human out of me I can scream if I damn well want to!!
I had back labor with my first. When I tell you I had ZERO control over my screaming, I mean it. The pain was horrendous, and I was in labor for 3 days. If someone told me that, I would have slapped them soooo hard.
I remember saying I’m sorry a rainbow isn’t coming out of me
Hell yeah!
I think that's WHY Laura started screaming! That doula would have been kicked out instantly if she were mine. What a horrible woman!!
@@CGrams90 We get paid to do this, she did exactly what she was taught to do. A doula is there to tell the woman to stay in control, screaming can cause your pelvic floor to close up and tense your body. Low growls can help get the body relaxed, and the pelvic floor relaxing.
Congratulations to an Beautiful Boss Lady, Wife, and Mother! Congratulations to an amazing Husband, Father, and Partner! Congratulations to an awesome big brother, 1st child, and adored son. Congratulations to a brand new loved, and cherished babygirl! I'm so happy for you all! Thank you again for sharing your journey!
omg i need a steven in my life, he is the sweetest and most pure-hearted man, such a sweet man
I thought he was the grandad
This video honestly helped me so much. When I gave birth I went from 3cm to fully dilated in less than 8 hours, almost didn’t have time for the epidural and my son was pushing on my spine. So naturally I was screaming in pain and my nurse told me “you need to be quiet, you’re going to scare the other moms” and I never felt more weak and stupid in my life. This helped me see how hard and wonderful what I did was. You’re amazing and I hope you’re doing well!
I went from 4 cm to 10 cm in an hour on Pitocin. No epidural - the anesthesiologist on call apparently was called into back-to-back C-sections and by the time he could get to me it was all over. I was screaming, and a nurse did the same thing to me - came in and told me to be quiet because I would scare the other moms. But I *couldn't* be quiet - and I felt horribly guilty and self-conscious, which sure didn't help the situation. I remember crying in between contractions because I felt so bad I wasn't "doing it right" and I was afraid she would come back and criticize me again. Looking back, I feel so angry with that nurse for making me feel that way. I want to go back in time and say, "Lady, YOU try dilating 6 full cm in one hour on Pitocin contractions with no epidural and see how quiet YOU can be!" I'm sorry you had a similar experience. Birthing women need support, not criticism.
This was the most intense and beautiful video series that I’ve ever seen. Thank you for sharing these moments. I am 18 weeks pregnant with my first and was so scared to watch because I didn’t want to freak out but I’m so glad I did. I’m crying. Congratulations. So so much congratulations.
Congratulations to you. How did your childbirth went?
The look on Steven's face at 8:36 makes so much sense now given what had just happened with the shower collapse. OH my god he looks terrified and helpless. You both are amazing for going through everything you did. Beyond brave
what do you mean about the shower collapse? what happened?
@@mialoubou they explain at the end of the video around 12:44
Well. This sold me on an epidural. I’ll tell ya that right now.
Lol saaame I’m 37 weeks and after watching videos of women giving birth with and without a epidural I said I need and want one 😂😂
I got an epidural and I kinda want to try a natural birth
i have had an epidural and i really want to try natural birth. with the epidural i felt absolutely nothing
I had an epidural and then two years later had a home birth! It was 10,000 times better then my hospital birth. I was silent and didn’t make any noise at all. Everyone is different! They definitely needed to have Laura in a different position she was obviously really having a hard time in the position she was in!
@@umaieirian same. I’m 21 weeks. I was like yes Queen Laura give me the dirt on birth.
i’m glad everything worked out well but that doula really wasn’t helping
Yeah-
True. I had a doula and she was beyond amazing, educated, and so amazing, and was for necessary intervention or pain meds ❤️❤️❤️
Yeah, would not have appreciated that attitude while I was in labour.
That doula is an idiot...also the same person that told her to use castor oil 🤦♀️ she needs to find a new profession.
@@elizabethyockman7530 totally! Advising against preventing infection with induction. Such a dangerous person.
This video shows how extremely not only mothers but women are in general to go through that extreme pain and come out on the other side and still keep fighting it’s amazing
Laura, you're so strong! As a doula, that was hard to watch. Anyone interested in natural birth/doulas, please don't be turned off by this. Her behavior & rhetoric is NOT the standard of care we give.
What wrong with the doula, I just saw her being supportive of decision not use medication, she had a safe word if she really wanted it and didn’t use it.
Something about that doula’s demeanor and attitude seemed off. She was acting like she new better than the doctors. I would not have wanted her in the room with me if I was giving birth.
That doula was one of those so damn determined to control the situation according to what she wanted. In this day and age absolutely unnecessary to suffer like this!!!!
@@daphnatziporah sorry but scaring the mother into making decisions doesn’t help them. They are supposed to be there to be supportive and create a calm experience, and this doula kept giving medical advice that had no evidence behind it. I’m all for doulas and midwives as well but they do not have a degree in medicine and shouldn’t be saying things like “your baby will be drugged and end up in the NICU”
@@daphnatziporah the doula was talking her out of medication when she said she wanted it by blatantly lying about the ramifications. “Your baby will be drugged and in the NICU”
When Steven said he didn't wanna be alive if Laura isn't alive I almost cried - they really are true soulmates
Steven was so supportive and Laura did a great job
Bit shit for the kids though, what about their two babies?
Ikr..I was in tears and sobbing like a baby lol
No, that's called co-dependency.
Ok, fire that Doula, she was USELESS. U DID amazing with ZERO help from her. Penelope is absolutely beautiful and I'm so proud if you. I know u don't know me but that was such a powerful birth and u were amazing 💕💕💕💕💕💕
I am a Doula and I wanted to jump through the screen SO MANY times!!! You do NOT talk to a mother like that! You also do not use fear to try to manipulate the mothers decisions. You are there to comfort, educate, and empower..not make medical decisions! What a horrible excuse for a Doula!! Plus nitrous oxide during labor doesn't "drug your baby" it is very safe and metabolized very quickly. Another no no was, "weRe TRying tO HelP YoU" while she's in the middle of a contraction?!? She is lucky she didn't get slapped.......
YES!!!!! She Was very much trying to make it about her and her opinions , she was cutting out the father too !!!! I was sooo annoyed at her
"I don't want to be alive, if you're not alive"
My heart overflowed!
Ya I lost it when he said that. That was a beautiful moment between them two
Dude watching this whole video just made me wanna cry honestly. It was incredible to see such raw footage and what natural child birth can be like.
I have cold chills watching this. Steven!!!! You sir are one hell of a husband and father. The way you helped her through it all, much respect sir. Laura you're just amazing!!!
And man even after 24 yrs and almost 18 yrs this literally brings back every single memory 😭
YOU DID THAT I HAVE NEVER CRIED WATCHING SOMEONE GIVE BIRTH BUT THIS WAS SOOOO FUCKING BEAUTIFUL YOUR AMAING AND STEVEN YOUR AN AMAZING MAN THIS WAS SO BEAUTIFUL GOSH DANGIT YALL 😭😭😭
That's true love right there "I was going to jump out of the window because I didn't want to be here without you". Awwwwww she's sooooo cute
Idk, that is not brave at all. Who'd take care of Alfie? Rather, that's selfish af, he has a son to think of. Not consider making him an orphan.
@@martinajurickova5750 he obviously didn't did he and Alfie would have probably went to her mother like how she is watching him while she was in the hospital giving birth to his little sister
I do think that if it turns out she was dead, I hope at least that he wouldn't have... Alfie and Penelope need him.
@@martinajurickova5750 agreed plus the newborn bad enough if they did lost one parent
That primal scream - I think every mother ever knows what that feels like.
@EileenS 1959 not mine. My nurse with my second was horrible. She came in and told me to be quiet because I was going to scare the other moms. The pain was so horrendous and every time I had contraction, she would get an attitude, occasionally roll her eyes and say it wasn’t that bad. I remember trying to be quiet to please the nurse because she just made me feel like an inferior person because I couldn’t handle the pain. My husband got upset with her and told me we needed to do something about it. We finally ended up requesting a different nurse. I have pelvic and lower back issues and because of the way my baby was positioned it was causing a great deal of pain. My doctor was amazing though and she was really upset with the original nurse and apologized for her behavior.
Oh yes!
What both of them have can't be denied
A father who can help the mother of his
Child looking for any way to take the sheer Terror and pain away only thing he can do is
Cry saying to him self how could I do this to her
Am I the only one that was hoping she transitioned into Helen and started yelling STTTEEEEPPHHENNNN!!!
I mean, we did hear a bit of a Horbath grunt
This was probably the most intense, raw, realistic, birth blog I’ve ever seen. Absolutely beautiful.
Not gonna lie Laura, but this was traumatizing, seeing all the fear, excitement, pain, struggle, love, stress - really had us worried. Steeevvvvaaannnnn hearing you declare your love by saying you couldn't be alive, if she want alive, was heartbreaking and beautiful xx
This video needs to win an award. No one knows what we go through giving birth. This is absolutely amazing all of you. ❤️
I love the moments when it’s just Stephen and Laura alone together. I believe he could deliver the next baby by himself 🥰 she was so great at listening to her body and he was so supportive.Also I think yoga helped her prepare for the birth.
Sharing this was so vulnerable and brave. I want to give her praise for having the courage to put herself out there like this. And to the staff for everything they did. If anyone has anything negative to say I hope she just ignores them. Men especially they have no idea the horror or pain women endure. bravo Steven for being so active in the process and trying so hard to be there for her where many men can't seem to show the most simple forms of empathy or at least sympathy. This was hard to watch as childbirth is my worst fear! But seeing this brings me joy for her and her family to see how supportive he is to her. Its really beautiful. And Laura is a beautiful human in general.
I love how happy Stephen looks when the camera pans to him, as he’s holding his daughter for the first time.
When he was comforting her "coming back to her body" that was so sweet😭😍
It blows my mind how strong women are. It’s incredible.
Being a mother, and seeing the raw emotion durring birth brought me to tears. You are a strong woman ❤
Man when she started crying I confirmed I could never go through a birth. Jesus what a strong woman.
No my dear ... God made only one thing equally powerful life himself ..
That's a mother.... mother nature made us just like her .. don't underestimate mother nature ... this natural ... I thought I can't. .. but I did it ... n you can too... everyone can ....
It’s the love they have for each other, and the support that he gives her throughout the labor and you can feel it through the video it’s amazing
Dolores Cannon : "Women have been chosen to be the portal between the spiritual realm and the physical realm. Women are the only force on earth powerful enough to navigate unborn spirits into this planet."
I love that! ❤️
And male seahorses😅
Have you any citation for that quote? I do not think it was a Delores Cannon quote after searching for it.
Wow that's so inspiring 👏🙌
This is the most vulnerable, educational, beautiful, inspiring video I've ever seen. I truly thought I was going to fear childbirth after watching this but, instead, it became something I'm not nervous about, its a beautiful process. You truly did turn into something of a warrior goddess and it blew my entire mind. I can easily say I will be thinking about life way more different. I truly can not wait to keep watching & supporting your journey. You and Stephen inspire me.
I am so happy I am not the only one who seen an issue with the doula. She made me so uncomfortable the way she spoke and acted towards you.
You did effin amazing mama.
I'm a doula myself. It is not my job to fear monger. It is my job to say, "your birth plan says you want to continue to do natural. Let's try some natural relief first, but if it's overwhelming, let's try the less invasive pain options first. This is your birth, you decide how this goes." I have clients who choose epidural from the get go. I have clients who birth at home with no meds. I have clients who use laughing gas. What matters is that they have every option and know what they are. Ugh. That doula infuriated me.
@@germanncreekfarm62 you seem absolutely wonderful!!!
Yep! When the birthing person says what they want, you give it to them, stat. Respect birthing people’s choices, our plans change and WE say what we need in birth. It’s others’ role to support those choices and mind changes, not to talk us out of them!
I made a whole comment about that doula's actions.She pissed me off.
i am currently 27 weeks pregnant with my first, and when i saw your beautiful baby girl pop out it literally brought tears to my eyes. i am so beyond excited to meet my little boy, and i am so proud of you for pulling through❤️ you’re very strong momma
Sooo good! Laura, you’re a warrior woman! I love when Steven tells you to come back into yourself, that everything is under control...chill chill ❤️
I am crying. I’m 10 weeks and I am so amazed by you. You just gave me such a good reality check and thank you for that. You’re so strong
This entire birth just radiated QUEEN energy! Omg that was powerful! She is beautiful!
Honestly it made me so mad when her doula said that she would drug her own baby if she got pain meds. Wtf. So unprofessional. She just needed relief dude a little pain meds arent going to hurt the baby..
Agreed how dare she try to scare her away from relief especially using the baby doing to NICU to scare her. Pissed me off
She added that part about the NICU getting involved if she got pain meds in her IV.
**I wrote this reply before I saw the one before me! We are thinking the same things.
Same, I don’t like the doula, she sounds very untrained. I would have told her to get out after she made that comment
Why were the ACTUAL NURSES letting her say these things???
Yup. I need to know the name of this doula and where the hell Laura found her because I am about to give her a piece of my mind. She was possibly the LEAST qualified doula I’ve ever actually witnessed. Didn’t even seem like a doula. In ALL of these birth vlogs, she’s extremely panicky, pushy, COMPLETELY fabricating medical advice, etc. This woman should NOT be a doula.
I still can't stand that Doula, tell someone screaming is loosing control, that was my control. She needs to let Steven and Laura do this. She's a bossy third wheel. Giving medical advice, she's not qualified to give, acting like she's running the show. My step mom would have kicked her out.
Yeah that comment about screaming was very bizarre and plain wrong.
When he mentioned not going on if you weren’t alive..... that right there, is the deepest deepest love I’ve ever seen. Absolutely beautiful journey, thank you so much for sharing with us this amazing birth story. Congratulations love, she’s absolutely perfect!
Sitting here sobbing. You deserve a fucking medal, woman. HERO! And Steven! Man, what a guy! Y’all are awesome! ❤️
Not sure if I cried harder during the birth or when Stephen said he would jump out the window because he didnt want to do it without you! Yall are the greatest!! Super inspiring!!
Also crying when he said he wouldn’t want to alive without Laura ❤️ Laura that was absolutely amazing, you are so strong
Poor Stephen. He loves Laura so much. I cried when he admitted he’d not be able to go on...
Already watched it on fb last night... It was amazing.. You are such a strong woman.. God bless you and your family
Also when she says i just want to see her, Stephen says "In 2 brave pushes u will" the look she gives him had me in tears
This doula infuriates me. Note to self: NEVER have a doula😅
This is probably my favorite birth vlog Iv ever seen. It’s so beautiful seeing such a raw video of how birth is. So many birth vlogs show such a “perfect” birth.