Great videos, keep them coming with your trademark honesty and bravery to say all and tell us the real truth about The Land of Smiles and especially the amazing Thai Ladies! I live in Bangkok also.
I find most of your videos interesting. I'm Australian and married to an Australian. We lived in Thailand for about a year and a half until ealier this year. As we had each other to talk to every day we always had a friend to discuss good and bad with. To me it's nearly impossible to imagine having a real life partner from such a totally different country who doesn't speak my language. I like having deep conversations as much as stupid ones. I think I'd find it very boring being married to a pretty face after the novelty wore off. Also the humour, I love having a joke, taking the mickey out of people and that's got to be really hard if you can't have a good gut busting laugh with each other. Good onya though I'm glad you're happy 😊
That's one of the big issues with Thai's who don't speak fluent English (not that the should have to) is that it's hard to fully communicate and that's what relationships are based on. I feel like for the relationship to survive you need to be able to understand each other 100%.
Truthfully, I couldn't have a relationship with someone I couldn't communicate with in all ways. I prefer my partner to be my best friend, lover & sole mate (as much as possible) Let's face it, great communication between a couple is everything...the rest follows.
Dave, please do a video on how a relationship starts when two people have completely different cultures & there's a huge language barrier. I'm very intrigued to know & i'm sure many others are also, because for many relationships & people, communication between partners is everything.
Love your frankness and skill in expressing yourself (with heads down in phones, will this become a lost art?). To have your focus be this foreign land with such a possibly refreshing cultural difference that you discourse upon - it all makes for constantly interesting content!
I really appreciate the story of your life, this channel is like a confessional, like talking between old friends, each with his own point of view but all united by the surprise of observing the Thais who often appear to us Westerners as Martians. Tony
Great topic. This is culture clash that many people experience and learn to adapt to. Thais seem to take longer to adapt or accept other cultures. I think those that have travelled more adapt more easily and become more comfortable with other cultures.
@@alphaomegadailyIt is worth saving a little as a “travel fund” and go outside of Thailand once in a while. You have Korea, Japan, Singapore, Hong Kong etc all within a shortish flight time. It is expensive to do this but it will do wonders for you and your wife and more importantly for Harry as he grows up. In the same way as you have invested in his education now (Private school). We did this for our son and are glad we did it. Worth considering.
The parking bit is funny, my Mrs is very fussy about parking straight ( she is a good driver ). However, I find folks are terrible at parking between white lines down South (Irl) in car parks.
Hi Dave, As I told you before I was married to Thai lady for over 30 years with a age difference of 14 years a I think with any relationship between a man and women there are going to be difficulties but in our situation been married to Thai ladies and culture & language differences maybe I was very lucky that she live with me in Brisbane since we met and got married. She studied in University in Australia and she had to learn English very quickly because I could not speak Thai and it worked out very well thank God / Budda I do understand your circumstances are different with living full time in Thailand and been surrounded by her family with no English. Your also very lucky to have your little fellow Harry you much be very proud. I’ll be back in Thailand in November can’t wait I love it as well. Keep up the great work Cheers Irish Paul
I worked with a lot of guys married to Thais and I felt that they were happier NOT communicating with their spouses on any level of depth. That they reserved for their Western friends.
The easiest way to explain the visas: they're both non-immigrant visas (non-O) but they grant you a 12 month extension based on different criteria, i.e. marriage, retirement etc... and the requirements for each extension are different for obvious reasons.
Hi Dave. Well,you poured your heart out . With regard to the age gap of marrying a Thai wife,IMO, it's more about her personality than age . I don't know how you two found each other if the communication wasn't there . I suspect you had other reasons ,like she has an income producing job or whatever. The beginning of your relationship with her would have been interesting to reveal. In any case because of the culture Thai women are generally reluctant to go into deep topics,be it general or intimate. And her lack of high standard English wouldn't allow that anyway. It sounds like you're unfulfilled,maybe she is too. Your partner is more RUclips than your wife,she maybe resenting that.
It can be very lonely in Thailand for foreigners. Easy to go pick up a bargirl but that alone won't satisfy your needs. Relationships are based on communication. Hard to be in one of you can't fully articulate your feelings etc. Humour is a big part of relationships for me and that's non existent with most Thai's (it just gets lost in translation).
My Thai wife understands very little about western politics and I know very little about Thai politics. So we never need to argue over that issue. It’s very nice 😊
Dave, I work in banking in Bangkok Thailand 8 months out of the year. I have many employees married to Thai women and they all complain about the same issue - Thai women do not share any real emotions with their husbands. It doesn’t matter if their husband is Thai or farang. They keep it inside until they cannot any longer then they blow up in anger over the smallest things. This is not because you actually did anything wrong at that moment. Just be glad you are in Bankok and have can go to unwind.
Me and my Thai wife got on fairly well for 8 and a half years till the money ran out .Then the last 18 months were very difficult .You know the saying "no money ,no honey " Your sweating old bean .In a time like that i am glad to be back in Ireland . Thailand is a great place to be during the European Winter though .
@@FBICPStell them you don't have much money from the start and that will sort the gold from the gold diggers. If she's still with you after several years of living on a budget then you can start treating her cos you know she likes you for you, but let's be honest most girls are only with you cos you make their lives more comfortable and you have to bare that in mind.
I've often thought a next level to these interviews would be a safe collection area where people could watch and applaud the action. adding a translator would be a binus.
Truthfully, I couldn't have a relationship with someone I couldn't communicate with in all ways. I prefer my partner to be my best friend, lover & sole mate (as much as possible) Let's face it, great communication between a couple is everything...the rest follows.
Could you enable viewers to be able to clip the video please?. It's a relatively new RUclips feature for viewers but probably needs to be activated by the channel owner.
The woman is mid 50's..... of course she will be old school Thai. I started dating my girlfriend when she was 25 and spoke not a word of English. I have taught her a lot of English and she has good conversation in English 5 years on. My feeling is the lady was mid 40's when you started so her motivation to learn fluent English would not be the same as a 25 year old. It does seem to affect you though mate.
I've been in a relationship for 2 half years with a my thai girlfriend, she speaks very good English and I still find it hard to have deep conversations with her, it must be very difficult to have a good connection with out her speaking much English.
I have the same problem, it seems all is funny for her/them, and only talk about what she eats or what i am going to eat. I am getting so bored after 6 months...
Yeah, I guess when you are not fluent in each other language, the dirty talk is just not the same. I know when I went there many years ago with a Thai, my jokes didn't translate good.
@@alphaomegadaily I do it often as it is not a custom from back home and i don't see that it matters too much. The only rationale I can come up with is that if it is way off then a motorcycle might clipp the tire but they would be much too close to my car.
I lived in Thailand suburbs for a while, their ain't no smiles, thats all in the tourist areas but more likely be stared at, as a farang I'd say you need to be wealthy or have heavy pensions to live in Thailand.
Great videos, keep them coming with your trademark honesty and bravery to say all and tell us the real truth about The Land of Smiles and especially the amazing Thai Ladies! I live in Bangkok also.
Thank you for your honest feedback!
I find most of your videos interesting. I'm Australian and married to an Australian. We lived in Thailand for about a year and a half until ealier this year. As we had each other to talk to every day we always had a friend to discuss good and bad with. To me it's nearly impossible to imagine having a real life partner from such a totally different country who doesn't speak my language. I like having deep conversations as much as stupid ones. I think I'd find it very boring being married to a pretty face after the novelty wore off. Also the humour, I love having a joke, taking the mickey out of people and that's got to be really hard if you can't have a good gut busting laugh with each other. Good onya though I'm glad you're happy 😊
I prefer talk my problems to my friends as i dont feel really understood by my thai girl/thai girls in general. The only topic is food (or money)...
What you say is so true!
That's one of the big issues with Thai's who don't speak fluent English (not that the should have to) is that it's hard to fully communicate and that's what relationships are based on. I feel like for the relationship to survive you need to be able to understand each other 100%.
Truthfully, I couldn't have a relationship with someone I couldn't communicate with in all ways.
I prefer my partner to be my best friend, lover & sole mate (as much as possible)
Let's face it, great communication between a couple is everything...the rest follows.
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I pitty any woman that's puts up with that from a guy. I prefer to be respectful & be respected.
Thanks for your honesty. Thailand is all sunshine but it's not all rainbows 😆
Very well put!
Dave, please do a video on how a relationship starts when two people have completely different cultures & there's a huge language barrier.
I'm very intrigued to know & i'm sure many others are also, because for many relationships & people, communication between partners is everything.
I sure will.
@@alphaomegadaily
Maybe it could be a follow up from this video Dave.
Love your frankness and skill in expressing yourself (with heads down in phones, will this become a lost art?). To have your focus be this foreign land with such a possibly refreshing cultural difference that you discourse upon - it all makes for constantly interesting content!
Thank you for telling me facts about relationships in Thailand!. An eye opener, thank you
You're very welcome 🙏
I really appreciate the story of your life, this channel is like a confessional, like talking between old friends, each with his own point of view but all united by the surprise of observing the Thais who often appear to us Westerners as Martians.
Tony
Cheers mate 👍
Great topic. This is culture clash that many people experience and learn to adapt to. Thais seem to take longer to adapt or accept other cultures. I think those that have travelled more adapt more easily and become more comfortable with other cultures.
I agree with you completely. My Thai wife hasn't travelled much, and she has little or no idea about Western culture.
@@alphaomegadailyIt is worth saving a little as a “travel fund” and go outside of Thailand once in a while. You have Korea, Japan, Singapore, Hong Kong etc all within a shortish flight time. It is expensive to do this but it will do wonders for you and your wife and more importantly for Harry as he grows up. In the same way as you have invested in his education now (Private school). We did this for our son and are glad we did it. Worth considering.
Alright Dave , all the very best to you ☘just stay happy ☘
The parking bit is funny, my Mrs is very fussy about parking straight ( she is a good driver ). However, I find folks are terrible at parking between white lines down South (Irl) in car parks.
Hi Dave, As I told you before I was married to Thai lady for over 30 years with a age difference of 14 years a I think with any relationship between a man and women there are going to be difficulties but in our situation been married to Thai ladies and culture & language differences maybe I was very lucky that she live with me in Brisbane since we met and got married. She studied in University in Australia and she had to learn English very quickly because I could not speak Thai and it worked out very well thank God / Budda
I do understand your circumstances are different with living full time in Thailand and been surrounded by her family with no English. Your also very lucky to have your little fellow Harry you much be very proud. I’ll be back in Thailand in November can’t wait I love it as well. Keep up the great work Cheers Irish Paul
When you start feeling down about Thailand, just watch some youtube to see how bad things are getting for a lot of people back in the West.
Your videos are very honest and educational keep up the good work
I appreciate that!
I worked with a lot of guys married to Thais and I felt that they were happier NOT communicating with their spouses on any level of depth. That they reserved for their Western friends.
I know exactly what you mean.
The easiest way to explain the visas: they're both non-immigrant visas (non-O) but they grant you a 12 month extension based on different criteria, i.e. marriage, retirement etc... and the requirements for each extension are different for obvious reasons.
Well said!
Anything outside the country is a Visa - anything inside is an extension of stay
Thank you. Great incite into the tie culture and woman. Thank you for being so open and honest.
Thank you for your feedback!
Hi Dave.
Well,you poured your heart out .
With regard to the age gap of marrying a Thai
wife,IMO, it's more about her personality than age .
I don't know how you two found each other if the communication wasn't there .
I suspect you had other reasons ,like she has an income producing job or whatever.
The beginning of your relationship with her would have been interesting to reveal. In any case because of the culture Thai women are generally reluctant to go into deep topics,be it general or intimate.
And her lack of high standard English wouldn't allow that anyway.
It sounds like you're unfulfilled,maybe she is too.
Your partner is more RUclips than your wife,she maybe resenting that.
It can be very lonely in Thailand for foreigners. Easy to go pick up a bargirl but that alone won't satisfy your needs. Relationships are based on communication. Hard to be in one of you can't fully articulate your feelings etc. Humour is a big part of relationships for me and that's non existent with most Thai's (it just gets lost in translation).
My Thai wife understands very little about western politics and I know very little about Thai politics. So we never need to argue over that issue. It’s very nice 😊
Dave, I work in banking in Bangkok Thailand 8 months out of the year. I have many employees married to Thai women and they all complain about the same issue - Thai women do not share any real emotions with their husbands. It doesn’t matter if their husband is Thai or farang. They keep it inside until they cannot any longer then they blow up in anger over the smallest things. This is not because you actually did anything wrong at that moment. Just be glad you are in Bankok and have can go to unwind.
"Extremely happy" you say through gritted teeth - mate, I do wish you happiness indeed.
Very honest Dave, I applaud you.
That wheel straight bs - sometimes I make it crooked on purpose
love your videos , thank you
Thank you too.
Thanks for the Video. Very interesting
My pleasure!
Me and my Thai wife got on fairly well for 8 and a half years till the money ran out .Then the last 18 months were very difficult .You know the saying "no money ,no honey " Your sweating old bean .In a time like that i am glad to be back in Ireland . Thailand is a great place to be during the European Winter though .
You find out how much your wife loves you when you are broke.
@@FBICPStell them you don't have much money from the start and that will sort the gold from the gold diggers. If she's still with you after several years of living on a budget then you can start treating her cos you know she likes you for you, but let's be honest most girls are only with you cos you make their lives more comfortable and you have to bare that in mind.
hi. How much do you charge for rent in your house?
They are not wired up the same as us in the emotion department. Best off talking things through with a friend or someone from back home.
You hit the nail on the head!
So sincere
how many years have you been in Thailand?
12 years
Thumbs up 👍 Dave
If you see him at the Huai Khwang night Market, it a lot of fun to watch.
Cheers mate 👍
What does a thai woman need to endure. To live with a Irish man
I've often thought a next level to these interviews would be a safe collection area where people could watch and applaud the action. adding a translator would be a binus.
You should get a translator device that instantly translates spoken conversations.
"I am a Krishnamurti guy" - Jack Nicholson
Truthfully, I couldn't have a relationship with someone I couldn't communicate with in all ways.
I prefer my partner to be my best friend, lover & sole mate (as much as possible)
Let's face it, great communication between a couple is everything...the rest follows.
What a lonely life Dave in away being married but can’t relate feelings sad 😢
“I’m beleedin Sweating. . . . Look”
😂😂😂
Take those bloody jeans off and put some shorts on yer
Great Insight and best of luck
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Could you enable viewers to be able to clip the video please?. It's a relatively new RUclips feature for viewers but probably needs to be activated by the channel owner.
The woman is mid 50's..... of course she will be old school Thai. I started dating my girlfriend when she was 25 and spoke not a word of English. I have taught her a lot of English and she has good conversation in English 5 years on. My feeling is the lady was mid 40's when you started so her motivation to learn fluent English would not be the same as a 25 year old. It does seem to affect you though mate.
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Hi Bas, thank you once again for your support
@@alphaomegadaily always support you
@@alphaomegadaily and always support your other channel and i stay doing support you always
@@basvanlaarhoven3636 Thanks Bas! I hope we can meet up for a few beers when you get to Bangkok!
@@alphaomegadaily yes we can end of this year or beginning from 2025
She can get money from ATM thats the most important thing in the relationship
They are the same in any country. $$ nature of the beast!
leave your expectations at home
there is IQ and EQ and in a relationship the EQ is what matters in my opinion
I've been in a relationship for 2 half years with a my thai girlfriend, she speaks very good English and I still find it hard to have deep conversations with her, it must be very difficult to have a good connection with out her speaking much English.
I have the same problem, it seems all is funny for her/them, and only talk about what she eats or what i am going to eat. I am getting so bored after 6 months...
It is very similar to my situation. All we ever talk about is our son, Harry and money!
@@alphaomegadaily Can you keep a relationship like that, based on talks out of nothing? Me no
Yeah, I guess when you are not fluent in each other language, the dirty talk is just not the same. I know when I went there many years ago with a Thai, my jokes didn't translate good.
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Are you Irish Bro? Your accent kicks ass ( v^-゜)♪ Feel you about the age range question. Thanks for sharing!
Boom Boom is all most people need
You can't just accept that you need to park w/the wheels straight? It isn't that big a deal. Certainly she accepts things about you - right?
I understand what you mean! But it drives me crazy that they have to be perfectly straight every time I park.
Same in England.If you park over a line you can be fined by those evil parking companies!
@@alphaomegadaily I do it often as it is not a custom from back home and i don't see that it matters too much. The only rationale I can come up with is that if it is way off then a motorcycle might clipp the tire but they would be much too close to my car.
You need to get a third person into your relationship.Google translation.
Marriage = asking for trouble
Maybe if you studied the language to a higher level you would be happier?
Fazzio
Great vdo mate but what the fook is that hair band all about 555
I lived in Thailand suburbs for a while, their ain't no smiles, thats all in the tourist areas but more likely be stared at, as a farang I'd say you need to be wealthy or have heavy pensions to live in Thailand.