13 Ways To RECOGNIZE ENVY And FALSEHOOD In Others | STOICISM

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  • @laphelps1
    @laphelps1 5 месяцев назад +145

    Not everyone is honest and kind like yourself. It’s taken me over 60 years to learn this, I love company but can count my friends on one hand, those I can trust!

    • @MsBizzy888
      @MsBizzy888 5 месяцев назад +12

      I can't even count friends on one hand. I can count on connections using discernment now that I am sixty! You learn and grow and lessons!!

    • @shirlcrane5465
      @shirlcrane5465 5 месяцев назад +8

      I can count mine of one hand also! It’s sad but both my sister who has passed away and my brother were both jealous of me. Their jealousy was never understood. I worked hard and they never felt I deserved what I had accomplished. These lack of actions made me realize their feelings towards me which eventually made me have hate for them both. I can’t tell you how hard it was for me not to feel this anger for them. I’m not sure they ever really cared or understood the way I felt towards them. My sister who passed away from breast cancer thought see was being punished by God due to her long time jealousy towards me. That made her angry towards me even more. How could she blame me for her own actions. I do feel God makes sure we all pay for our own personal actions. If not, it has sure seemed that way. I’m over 50 and have seen how wrongful actions can return to the person committing the sin. In other words, it will come back to you.

    • @lynnwemitt885
      @lynnwemitt885 5 месяцев назад

      7:01 7:01

    • @Lisa-vj6pz
      @Lisa-vj6pz 4 месяца назад +2

      I'm 60 and I don't tolerate anything... Show me one sign and you're out the door,... I was in a band with a girl... The bass player and she came into my home and the first thing she says is wow this is really nice and then she diminished herself by saying I live in a trailer... And I thought to myself okay well what do you say to that ??oh you're so lucky.. you can travel anywhere and have a nice view....(Because my house has an incredible view you know).... Play all throughout the year almost 2 years of playing with her she had diminishing remarks.... For example me and the guitar player played one night and we just played guitar... And the guitar player never knew that I could play guitar as well cuz I usually just plan a trap set for them... And we recorded it and we were stoked on it and then the next session she tells the bass player oh Lisa's actually pretty good on the guitar maybe we can get her to play lead on some of those songs where we don't really need a trap set.... And then the bass player says without ever hearing our session that the guitarist in I had.. she diminishes me and she says no... No we need know we need someone know we just need someone..... And I thought to myself wow this girl not only diminishes herself when she walks in my front door and victimizes herself and says well I just live in a trailer but she is so dangerous she's so covert and she'll eventually diminish me and she did.... And then one month before the show she decides to get the band together and she recruits her flying monkeys and she triangulates and decides to... Not have me as a drummer because I haven't been able to make all the rehearsals but at the same time the keyboard player never made it to all the rehearsals but the keyboard player was her friend.... And right about then I saw the poison you know and then... I discovered stoic society..... And sure enough I got so validated by stoic society because my emotional intelligence was right on.... And there were other things that she did that were a little bit like weird you know.... interesting enough... When the band messed up... The friends in the audience said oh the bass player messed up.. the covert.. jealous narcissist was the one that was messing up... But I'm thankful for that lesson because that's when Stocic society showed up..... Also I let her borrow my baby a bass guitar and when she returned it she just said it on the couch she never looked at me and thanked me or anything she acted as if I wasn't there and she kind of had you know her head sunk in between her neck and her shoulders and she walked off and I kind of sat there with my arms open like oh what about a hug or something how about a good wish for the nice weekend or something right that's what I'm thinking... At that point she turns around and she goes oh I brought your base back and I replied to her oh yeah I see that... Thank you.... She never thanked me right?? Put 3 months later I opened that bass and the pickup is hanging outside of the sound hole.... There's no way that you could put that bass in its case without noticing... The pickup is hanging out of the sound hole... But what I've learned is... To trust my emotional intelligence.... I'm 60 and I probably got 25 years on this planet.... I don't want to waste it with people that are covert jelly hating narcissist❤

    • @Doobeedoo-xd1mw
      @Doobeedoo-xd1mw 4 месяца назад +2

      I’m 62 and only have one close friend and one of my two sisters! I often wonder if education and wisdom is a blessing or a curse, as I now spend most of my days isolated only with my dog for company for my own well being.

  • @DonnaDonna2023
    @DonnaDonna2023 4 месяца назад +159

    Trust no one, especially family - worst. I’ve just learned at the age of 40 that no one really has your back, unless your soulmate/ partner. Friends and family are horrendous. Never had a birthday celebrated, never praise even when promoted twice. I’ve just been very very unlucky to have had horrible people in my life and not even seen the truth until my health was a risk and not one came to help. My eyes are clearly open now!

    • @cherylharris5695
      @cherylharris5695 4 месяца назад +20

      So sorry to hear that; as i get older I'm letting certain people out of my life.
      This is my time for my happiness in what I want...I still care and will continue to do so but it's only reciprocal; had enough of people and their bull s£^t. You stay in your lane and I'll stay in mine. Comprendeh!!!

    • @Perfecthavens_
      @Perfecthavens_ 4 месяца назад +9

      This is me! However, it's never too late to have family outside family.

    • @lyndaharden9000
      @lyndaharden9000 4 месяца назад +4

      Sad but true!

    • @jehan_7550
      @jehan_7550 4 месяца назад +3

      Same here.

    • @andiamovenezia
      @andiamovenezia 4 месяца назад +5

      Family members think they deserve to steal from their own siblings suck. Birthdays are important! Finding family outside who you grew up with can be so much better. You get to choose these people. I hope you find that true soulmate. ❤😊🎉

  • @traceycrouch5532
    @traceycrouch5532 4 месяца назад +34

    I didn't lose a friend. I just realized I never had one. It really does have a deep meaning when they say "You Are You're Own Best Friend" I learned that to be true at an early age and it hasn't changed now that I'm at an older age. Sky above, earth below, and peace within ✨️

  • @Marie-y4p
    @Marie-y4p 5 месяцев назад +84

    I had to give up several friends. Everytime we went out to dinner they said remarks that made me feel so inferior to them. I would never make comments to them such as the comments that were directed to me. I feel like one was trying to be very competitive with me. I do not want a competitive friend. A friend is not suppose to be so competitive. I guess she was good at everything and so much better than me. Anyway, i have been staying alone and not responding to texts or telephone messages.

    • @toriwolf5978
      @toriwolf5978 5 месяцев назад +9

      Thank you for that great comment ❤I’m dealing with that now ,time to walk away…

    • @susankrsnich7389
      @susankrsnich7389 5 месяцев назад +6

      You are better off preserving the part of you that you like and want to keep. Envious people are insecure but they shouldn’t get to take it out on others instead of working on themselves.

    • @susankrsnich7389
      @susankrsnich7389 5 месяцев назад +2

      You are better off preserving the part of you that you like and want to keep. Envious people are insecure but they shouldn’t get to take it out on others instead of working on themselves.
      😊

    • @sophiagray623
      @sophiagray623 4 месяца назад +5

      Mel too. Some family. Fake ppl

    • @PennyElliott-d4f
      @PennyElliott-d4f 3 месяца назад

      I understand. People are cruel.

  • @Nigelsmom2136
    @Nigelsmom2136 4 месяца назад +51

    I've gone through this with my older sister. I understand now that sometimes it's best to just let someone go. I only wish I'd figured that out years ago.

    • @joyceanderson8648
      @joyceanderson8648 4 месяца назад +2

      Exactly 👍

    • @joniangelsrreal6262
      @joniangelsrreal6262 4 месяца назад +3

      It’s never too late … do you it’s your best loyal friend …

    • @elizabethmitchell1882
      @elizabethmitchell1882 4 месяца назад +4

      It’s hard, but for our own emotional good, we need to recognize and reject insincere people.

    • @winedoesthetrick4387
      @winedoesthetrick4387 3 месяца назад

      yes. I went through the same thing with my younger sister and let that toxicity go. just because it’s family doesn’t mean you have to put up with their abuse

    • @jehan_7550
      @jehan_7550 3 месяца назад

      @@Nigelsmom2136 same here ❤️👍🏽

  • @JadeMoniqueEvelynElizabe-kn3dd
    @JadeMoniqueEvelynElizabe-kn3dd 4 месяца назад +5

    As I grow older and wiser every hour of the days, I am starting to love and care much more for my cats, wildlife, all of nature and astronomy than most of my own species. Take an interest in other much more rewarding disciplines and likeminded people might show up. Don't sweat the small stuff is so true.

  • @sarachae7751
    @sarachae7751 2 месяца назад +3

    I have my beloved partner & best friend and 5 adorable, precious cats!
    That's ALL I need at this time in my life.

  • @Hiraeth796
    @Hiraeth796 4 месяца назад +15

    Not to expect support from my friends, but to find support and enrichment in my own accomplishments has served me well in all relationships. As a result, I can feel genuine joy in the accomplishments of others.

  • @suemcclellan1004
    @suemcclellan1004 21 день назад +1

    Sometimes you need to cut the ties with family ! You’ll know when it’s time to sever the ties . Pray for strength to move on and don’t be guilted into staying. God bless .

  • @troydodrer4274
    @troydodrer4274 4 месяца назад +90

    I only trust my dog

    • @joniangelsrreal6262
      @joniangelsrreal6262 4 месяца назад +3

      My 🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛ are my soulmates 🥰

    • @andiamovenezia
      @andiamovenezia 4 месяца назад +1

      I know right?! Wish they could talk.❤

    • @naturalbeauty4734
      @naturalbeauty4734 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@joniangelsrreal6262My loving mother and cat! 🤗🙏💗

    • @blues1001-g5b
      @blues1001-g5b 3 месяца назад +5

      "The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog." - Mark Twain

    • @bernitapennick5930
      @bernitapennick5930 3 месяца назад +1

      Thank you

  • @edgawrysjr
    @edgawrysjr 5 месяцев назад +86

    I’m now an expert at spotting backhanded underhanded slaps. I was raised by narcissist parents and my alleged birth dad was also a sociopath. God saved me 🙏🫡❤️🎯

    • @gigi9301
      @gigi9301 5 месяцев назад +3

      Um I think you saved yourself but you can thank your imaginary friend if you would persist to believe.. Awesome!!

    • @karipaschke353
      @karipaschke353 5 месяцев назад +1

      I agree.
      You decided to save yourself. You did the work. You made the changes.
      Like a famous person once said: "Desperate people find faith."

    • @janedoe8983
      @janedoe8983 5 месяцев назад +3

      I felt the same way in that God was helping me. It doesnt matter what others think ; just do and think what is best for you.

    • @cc1111-Glory
      @cc1111-Glory 3 месяца назад

      Love yourself always have friends that like you, and you don't feel upset inside when their around. You will feel a difference, (calm, relaxed). You just know.
      Good 🤞 luck, be careful of those that say they love u you and never show it...

  • @tiffanytruong8366
    @tiffanytruong8366 3 месяца назад +13

    Doesn’t matter what they are saying, you keep going ahead. The important thing is where are you standing on. They can say anything they want to behind you. THEY ARE BEHIND YOU

  • @frankie7508
    @frankie7508 5 месяцев назад +33

    Two observations that should be included of people that seek and will do harm because of their jealousy and anger towards others. And one should always be on guard. These people are not mentioned in the video. But I give the wisdom freely based upon decades of knowledge and experience. Always be on guard with family members including parents as well as neighbors. And and do as Saint Paul suggests which is to test everyone and everything. And if you do I am confident that you will find both members of these groups including parents who will be jealous and angry towards you because of accomplishments that you have achieved in your life. Thank you for an excellent video and I continue to do my best to follow stoicism in daily living.

    • @udyandas
      @udyandas 5 месяцев назад

      Thank you very much. Am personally the only son and issue of my parents. But my parents were jealous of me. My mother supported my late father always, about his miserly ways to supply as much as minimum money can be given for my physical, mental and academic developments. Though, they themselves spet money on silly matters for own comforts. Not only this, they would spend money repeatedly for rich, corrupt and jealous of me relatives, friends, neighbours and acquaintances. While, right from my childhood days, have been helping them in completing their household chores. Inever perhaps said ' No ' to them, for doing any work. My mother will never ask help for accomplishing any work from my father, but only fr. me. My father, while will go outside and often criticize me falsely. If suppose, my clothes became a little untidy due to my defendimg of myself from my class - room bullies at school, my Mom will 1 st ask me , what happened? I would just ans. shortly, ' Had a defensive fight with 1 or 2 boys '. At that time, it was all over but the moment , my Papa came to house from his outdoor duty of a Railway Dr., my Mother will immediately complain against me. And not elaborately that I fought for my own protection. Immediately, after hearing from my mom, my Father would start beating me bkack and blue by his slippers, belt ir an aluminium - scale. This happened 3 or 4 times. This is just but only an example , of how I was cheated, harassed, exploited and insulted only inside my home. That too, by my own parents, and sometimes before others like, servants and neighbours. Today, my Mama is of 85 years ( now widow) n am a man of 54 years. But of long torturous life in home, just like a jail, my future is ruined. Hve. passed only 11 th class but, never could pass 12 th board( taking Maths - Sc. gp. ) and could never increase my height from my present ht. of 5 ft . and 1 inch. My career, physique and future had been ruined by these 2 villains. My case is very rare. For the 1st time, I came to know from your comment in my cell, such things do happen , not only in India, but also outside. Few parents are there in this world, who are actually and secretly jealous of their children or child. Anyway, my hearty Thanks to You. Everything is God's will. But one must try hard again n again for acheiving success. Good day all.

    • @tinaleigh3273
      @tinaleigh3273 5 месяцев назад +5

      My mom admitted she was jealous of me & I cut her a$$ off. It finally told me why she treated me like I was her enemy.

    • @Lisa-vj6pz
      @Lisa-vj6pz 4 месяца назад +2

      So true so true

    • @Lisa-vj6pz
      @Lisa-vj6pz 4 месяца назад +1

      Yeah I played in this band with these two girls and then it turned into four girls and the bass player definitely was a covert narcissist and the thing about it is is I said I'm a beginner you know... I always say that to people.. just to diminish the ego's right off right... But what I noticed was when you give some of these people a compliment and then you say you're a beginner and you praise them because they're really great you tell them all that's great you will see who will turn and jump and and try to diminish you... So when you talk about testing someone I always test... But the one covert narcissist walk through my front door with diminishing remarks about her own life and I figured it out she was a covert narcissist.... Just full of jealousy ... But I'm glad I put her to the test... She failed miserably... And she just was faulty and void... So true true true true true true I'm all about the test❤

  • @bernadetteconnell5668
    @bernadetteconnell5668 4 месяца назад +9

    I went through this yesterday and i no longer want to keep the friendship. Im better off alone.

  • @robynmoore7847
    @robynmoore7847 5 месяцев назад +60

    I have two sisters that are not speaking to me now. One I know is a very envious & jealous person. The other just never liked her family since childhood. I have tried to be a sister to both. I think envy & jealousy is the core problem.

    • @rubenlindo957
      @rubenlindo957 5 месяцев назад +3

      Other sibling may even steal from you

    • @edgawrysjr
      @edgawrysjr 5 месяцев назад +4

      My entire birth family died not shell to me. God Removed those self serving people one by one until I was alone. It was only then could I could rebuild myself into who I was always meant to be. 🙏😎🥳

    • @Scocia
      @Scocia 5 месяцев назад +8

      My sister did nothing with her life so she expected me to help her financially which I did from the bottom of my heart no questions asked. However, I woke up and realized that my sister was using me, there was nothing wrong with her physically or mentally. Her envy and jealousy was so obvious and overwhelming, toxic really. I cut ties with her and I noticed I have lost my desired to help her, I don’t want her in my life anymore…done!

    • @joniangelsrreal6262
      @joniangelsrreal6262 5 месяцев назад +5

      You are not alone …😮

    • @joniangelsrreal6262
      @joniangelsrreal6262 5 месяцев назад +6

      @@rubenlindo957
      So true …I have a daughter who robs my home every-time after rare visits… its over now… after confronting many time resulting in …lying …I’ve chosen never to see or speak to her again…

  • @inezrosario226
    @inezrosario226 5 месяцев назад +36

    I have a close friend who always looks away when I divulge any discomfort about anything. He NEVER makes direct eye contact during those moments. Ive come to realize that he's what I now call a "good time friend", he's a ship big enough for two in fair weather, but in foul weather, he's a ship built for one. He's not really invested in anything that doesn't always feel good. I would never count on him to be there in a time of deep human need. Ive pulled away emotionally, and am now less willing to give him my own supportive time, time that I will never get back and which is better suited for like minded, caring people who have a deeper sense of empathy.

    • @1La2La3La4La
      @1La2La3La4La 4 месяца назад

      there are however no minded, caring , kind people left. Our wesetern society has infected all of'em.

    • @andiamovenezia
      @andiamovenezia 4 месяца назад

      Yes ive come across these emotionally unavailable people. I walk away. But what i heard in this video on stoicism be careful not to isolate.

    • @blues1001-g5b
      @blues1001-g5b 3 месяца назад +1

      That type of person is common. They are limited and selfish, wanting only the good times. They have no depth of character.

    • @winedoesthetrick4387
      @winedoesthetrick4387 3 месяца назад

      perfectly worded and so true.

  • @JasonMomoa999
    @JasonMomoa999 3 месяца назад +3

    I've been been blessed with wonderful people throughout my life.

  • @WisdomWanderers-p9l
    @WisdomWanderers-p9l 3 дня назад +1

    This video is absolutely enlightening! Your insights on recognizing envy and falsehood are so valuable. Thank you for sharing! 🌟🙌

  • @PhilosophyJourney-01
    @PhilosophyJourney-01 3 месяца назад +1

    This video really opened my eyes to how subtle envy and deceit can be in our interactions. Learning these Stoic principles helped me reflect on past encounters where compliments weren't as genuine as they seemed. It's empowering to now have tools to navigate relationships with more clarity and authenticity.

  • @katherinemoss2583
    @katherinemoss2583 5 месяцев назад +8

    Thank you for your excellent video presentation on stoic thought. The gifts of discernment and wisdom are the gifts of the Holy Spirit. Wisdom, understanding, give insight.

  • @Woburngirl68
    @Woburngirl68 3 месяца назад +1

    This video has explained in a deep level what true friendship is.I'm realizing people true colors..putting up boundaries!!

  • @blues1001-g5b
    @blues1001-g5b 3 месяца назад +13

    One thing that really bothers me about jealous people is how egocentric and immature they are. They have no genuine concern/love for other people, because relationships are just a big competition. I truly value humility and I rarely see it.

    • @victoriacoghlan3954
      @victoriacoghlan3954 2 месяца назад +1

      Yes, because relationships are just a big competition! I've seen this but will never understand.

  • @l.5832
    @l.5832 4 месяца назад +21

    I wish my family had the decency to give veiled compliments/insults. I just got straight out torn down. I graduated top of my class and won a medal. My mother's first words were DON'T TELL YOUR SISTER! I was also compared to another girl who took more years of schooling but had to retake one final exam because she failed it. She was praised for having completed more years than me despite just scraping through. Why the comparison anyway? What a toxic bunch. I've gone no contact with all of them.

    • @JenHope118
      @JenHope118 3 месяца назад

      🌹🎉...good riddance to bad rubbish.

    • @pervertkun8152
      @pervertkun8152 3 месяца назад

      Congratulations for clearing this hurdle brother

  • @arleneoruley6896
    @arleneoruley6896 5 месяцев назад +30

    Great roles & beliefs. Sadly I loyally trusted 2 friends who took my kindness for perfect victim when opportunity arose. After learned my personal info, weaknesses i felt comforted confidentiality had often been exploited. Im lonely, suspicious of anyone now.

    • @FGC-ku4ez
      @FGC-ku4ez 5 месяцев назад +3

      I experienced the same from a roommate who love bombed me just to get all my past and personal information to gossip about me behind my back. I'm also now suspicious and paranoid, but I remind myself that there are plenty of people like us who experience the same thing. Make no mistake, when the victim is removed, they turn on other people like themselves.

    • @inezrosario226
      @inezrosario226 5 месяцев назад +3

      Unfortunately, true friendship withstands the passage of time, and some of us are so invested being a good supportive friend before we, very late in life, realize the best friend you will ever have is yourself.
      I keep my friends to a minimum, now in my 70s because time is running out. I prefer more solitude now, I'm surprisingly not lonely at all. But often I find myself grieving-not for better or more friends, but for unfulfilled dreams that never materialized because I was not a better friend to myself. 😢

  • @estevennurkin5183
    @estevennurkin5183 3 месяца назад +3

    I basically only trust my wife and my 3 little buddies, Moe Larry and Curly
    Love my cat's!❤❤❤

  • @alvincash3230
    @alvincash3230 5 месяцев назад +27

    A friend I had since ninth grade, which was 1970, revealed he was still pissed off at me over something I said to him in 1972. I was floored because it was so minor to me that I don't even recall what it was. But obviously it meant a lot to him. I had made fun of how much garbage his family threw out in one week compared to how much my family threw out.
    I apologized to him but never dreamed some of his nastiness toward me was caused by that.

    • @twentyfourkaratstwentyfour6957
      @twentyfourkaratstwentyfour6957 4 месяца назад

      Hello, please remove this miserable person from your life.

    • @hauntedsalmon7931
      @hauntedsalmon7931 4 месяца назад +1

      I guess you can appreciate that your friend finally matured enough to discuss the issue that caused a 50 year grudge.

    • @JadeMoniqueEvelynElizabe-kn3dd
      @JadeMoniqueEvelynElizabe-kn3dd 4 месяца назад +1

      oh my gosh! I thought I heard it all. Some people are even more crazier than I thought.

    • @bernitapennick5930
      @bernitapennick5930 3 месяца назад

      People will hold grudges against you for years based on pettiness and don’t know how to let go and live on with life I really don’t have time for that life goes on

    • @veltonmeade1057
      @veltonmeade1057 3 месяца назад

      1972? lol.

  • @katherinemoss2583
    @katherinemoss2583 5 месяцев назад +33

    Listen to the inner voice of God in the conscience. The conscience defends and corrects. All the work of the Holy Spirit. Wisdom will never make its way into a crafty soul or a body in debt to sin. Bk Wisdom.

  • @SherryHill-k5y
    @SherryHill-k5y 4 месяца назад +13

    It's a hard lesson to learn that just because you feel a certain way, not everyone else does.

  • @baruchmaneke6576
    @baruchmaneke6576 5 месяцев назад +8

    Thank you for your kindness and rich teachings

  • @patriciavallejo4269
    @patriciavallejo4269 3 месяца назад

    I have found all the good qualities mentioned here in 2 people I know!! I am blessed!

  • @OSTARAEB4
    @OSTARAEB4 6 месяцев назад +128

    I had a “friend” now passed that I came to realize his disdain and envy for me. He would rarely look at me and shift his gaze away and never compliment me if I achieved something. I came to believe he was NPD and had self-loathing.

    • @kalibudlakou
      @kalibudlakou 5 месяцев назад +7

      Silent treatment…. I am doing that as we speak

    • @OSTARAEB4
      @OSTARAEB4 5 месяцев назад +30

      @@kalibudlakou that’s what I should’ve done but this was years ago before I had any education on personality disorders. I’d call him and knew he was home but engaged in other “phone lines” which apparently were more important than me. I eventually expressed my years of irritation in an email with ended a twenty-five year “friendship” I realize never was. In retrospect, I believe he was NPD and his friend called me to say he passed in his sleep in 2019. Yes, silent treatment and slowly disengage and at some point they’ll realize what’s going on. If they truly valued your friendship, they wouldn’t have treated you in such a bad, abusive manner.

    • @edgawrysjr
      @edgawrysjr 5 месяцев назад +8

      Glad you realize it now thanks for sharing that🎉

    • @gigi9301
      @gigi9301 5 месяцев назад

      yeah I have an asshole cousin who can't stop leaking her jealousy/envy towards me. I'm going along with it for the short term to fulfill family obligations. Such a pain in my ass Never forgets to put me down or bitch about how everybody else has fucked her over. Umm... hello do you not think these same people are not even inviting me to anything. Over it

    • @jacquelynsharp9354
      @jacquelynsharp9354 5 месяцев назад +7

      Wtf is npd????

  • @VirginiaSado
    @VirginiaSado 4 месяца назад +4

    Thanks for the precious words of wisdom 🙏❤️

  • @carolineramos559
    @carolineramos559 5 месяцев назад +42

    I'm going through this now.
    It's a new job, and these people don't want me there.

    • @Privatenospying
      @Privatenospying 5 месяцев назад +7

      So sorry …this is a true test but they may be doing a childish initiation test but remember you don’t need their validation you were hired for a reason you will be advanced and never have to see them again if you can rise above their jealousy. Hang in there.

    • @hhrrkk6836
      @hhrrkk6836 5 месяцев назад +7

      Shift your thinking. God doesn’t want you there and that’s why it won’t work out. He has something better for you, be happy about that and believe it wholeheartedly beloved ❤

    • @rosemullen-r5w
      @rosemullen-r5w 5 месяцев назад +2

      It can really hurt

    • @carolineramos559
      @carolineramos559 5 месяцев назад

      @@hhrrkk6836 omg reading this stuck to me. Did you know that I started getting very sick there and haven't been back. Maybe Monday. I need to pray about this.

    • @sandramoore8021
      @sandramoore8021 5 месяцев назад +1

      Keep in mind that co-workers aren’t friends. Mutual respect is ideal. I hope that you find mutual respect after they get to know you.

  • @SharonBilderback
    @SharonBilderback 4 месяца назад +5

    Been through this with many people

  • @Woburngirl68
    @Woburngirl68 3 месяца назад +2

    I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS VIDEO!!!..I love the cute drawings.

  • @mo8748
    @mo8748 4 месяца назад +11

    1 Sooner or be or later you get to sleep in your own bed !
    A lot of us now realize, we came in on our own and we will go out on our own!

  • @logicalrealistic3139
    @logicalrealistic3139 3 месяца назад +1

    THANK YOU
    Greetings from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

  • @sandburgmartin7947
    @sandburgmartin7947 4 месяца назад +6

    In the workplace and in your neighborhood jealousy from insecure people can make you few friends but many 'frenemies'. Takes a while to learn who to avoid and not waste energy on. Stay on guard, they really want to break your foundation.

  • @BuddhismBliss-eng
    @BuddhismBliss-eng 3 месяца назад +2

    Don’t forget those whose goal is to make you jealous. When you express your Jealousy they are happy because that was their goal to begin with. To make you jealous and then bask in it

  • @nigoagamah3911
    @nigoagamah3911 4 месяца назад +4

    Thanks so much for sharing this video.

  • @starboardquest1005
    @starboardquest1005 5 месяцев назад +35

    Don’t forget those whose goal is to make you jealous. When you express your Jealousy they are happy because that was their goal to begin with. To make you jealous and then bask in it.

    • @goddessoflove188
      @goddessoflove188 5 месяцев назад +1

      That one ☝🏼

    • @janetduncan87
      @janetduncan87 5 месяцев назад

      My late ex tried to make me jealous all of the time. I'm not sure if I was jealous or just ticked off that he was trying. I went on a lot of trips with him, and wish I had taken full advantage of it. I didn't.

    • @hotmomma1552
      @hotmomma1552 5 месяцев назад +4

      People actually can’t make you jealous. You are in control of that , not the other person.

    • @l.5832
      @l.5832 4 месяца назад +1

      Triangulation. A narcissists favourite game. My narc mom triangulated me with my only sister and now mom is dead and sister doesn't speak to me so I have no family. My ex-husband, when we were married, would always triangulate me with his grown daughter. He'd make it clear he would chose time to spend with her rather than with me. She hated me so I can only guess he would try the same tactics on her. Wickedness.

    • @passiflora1014
      @passiflora1014 2 месяца назад

      Very good 👍

  • @janetduncan87
    @janetduncan87 5 месяцев назад +12

    Lol...
    My ex SIL said I was jealous of their family!! But mainly her. I cringe at the thought that I let those ppl have any piece of me at all. If I could go back, I set fire to my ass and run.

  • @debishaw9355
    @debishaw9355 5 месяцев назад +33

    Had to give up a friendship because of the backhanded compliments and just plain rudeness…

    • @sandywagner9154
      @sandywagner9154 4 месяца назад +3

      I had a "friend" who insulted me, when i would call 🎉 out, she said: cant you take a joke? Finally, t told her: this is the end of the friendship.

    • @pcp.9834
      @pcp.9834 Месяц назад

      It's not a joke, when you're the blunt of the joke.​@@sandywagner9154

  • @fatimamelo3858
    @fatimamelo3858 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for your superb lesson...

  • @lucenaafaga8370
    @lucenaafaga8370 3 месяца назад +1

    As the years go on i had experienced this .What I knew before my siblings were supportive on me What I recently discover whenever I encounter problems they never ask me
    They seem to be innocent .No concern.I really feel bad .

  • @Dawn-Songs
    @Dawn-Songs 3 месяца назад +2

    The onlyone I care about most is God , and I trust him completely . Worldly praise is always to be taken with a pinch of salt .

  • @najmawasti4014
    @najmawasti4014 4 месяца назад +4

    Great education..🎉

  • @elizabethjoiner
    @elizabethjoiner 5 месяцев назад +13

    I think that jealousy causes a lot of problems. Either way someone is always upset. For me, people get mad at me no matter what i do. Which is why i have to practice discernment and emotionally detach.

  • @artistsingerwriterproducer8288
    @artistsingerwriterproducer8288 3 месяца назад +3

    I found that book
    HOW I CAN MAKE TRUE FRIENDS from Dale Carnegie

  • @lisa-marieparetovich1897
    @lisa-marieparetovich1897 4 месяца назад +9

    One of my Sisters 😢

  • @leprofesseur1014
    @leprofesseur1014 5 месяцев назад +10

    Just off the time we surround ourselves with fake friends thinking they are genuine..

  • @kieljacinto3509
    @kieljacinto3509 3 месяца назад +2

    awareness good to pick. but i dont need friend. i can live by myself without friends.

  • @frankie7508
    @frankie7508 5 месяцев назад +21

    And one more important point. Lower your expectations for people around you, especially including relatives and significant others. I know of several people who have never experienced a female in their life, including their own mother, aunt's, sisters, spous(es), and female friends who were NOT jealous and angry; they were not to be found. It will be very difficult to find a female person who follows stoic and true Christian principles. This person says there are none out there. Perhaps he is right.

    • @la4828
      @la4828 5 месяцев назад +2

      Even those who say they are “true Christians “ never really know how to let go of their envies. whenever i share great news that happens in our family, so many of their “smiles” reveal the true jealousy they feel towards your blessings. No matter how much they clap, or they say how happy they are for you, their eyes say it all.

    • @frankie7508
      @frankie7508 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@la4828 stoics say, "It is the smile that never reaches the eyes."

    • @virginiahite9746
      @virginiahite9746 5 месяцев назад

      Women are the worst. For 50 years I have been betrayed by females one after another. Envy and insecurity seemed to be the root of their dirty deeds, always hidden by smiles and fake positivy. I am doing very well now for 4 years, spotting them all easily now. I have always preferred men, they are about business and getting things done, not envious or jealous. The gentlemen though. Narcissists can be both of course, but women are the worst.

  • @sakuracardcaptor4709
    @sakuracardcaptor4709 5 месяцев назад +7

    My ex friend broke a promise to me to be open with each other. She broke my trust and became cynical and an opportunist chaser for the sake of her new church. A Jenova’s witness. I’m Christian myself however I’m not a controlling narcissistic insane crazy person either like those fake people are.

  • @iamjustsaying4787
    @iamjustsaying4787 3 месяца назад +2

    Earning a BS in psychology I learned that you can’t trust anyone. Lest of all, yourself. The lies we will tell ourselves are far more destructive and common than those others tell us.

  • @alicebowen1018
    @alicebowen1018 5 месяцев назад +4

    Here's to all they do 🙏

  • @myyoutube887
    @myyoutube887 4 месяца назад +2

    Good AdVice for Creators of Frenemies

  • @pervertkun8152
    @pervertkun8152 3 месяца назад +1

    Guess I'll never understand why some people are jealous

  • @clintoniasanders1375
    @clintoniasanders1375 5 месяцев назад +9

    THE CHEATER WILL SUPPORT WHO HELP THEM CHEAT, BUT SAY THINGS LIKE SO WHAT WE CHEATED BUT WHAT WAS SAID ABOUT CHEATING WAS WRONG.

  • @MakuyEmatt
    @MakuyEmatt 5 месяцев назад +7

    Mostly people doesn't know how to care,the person, hiw to respect anyone because if the bad influence. I i understand that it depends the parents how to handle the children to be a good childrens,to be a good servant of God not to be liberated. The childrens need to learned how to love pure ,how to be respect to be an educated person.

  • @mariaitziarcuestaaparicio9450
    @mariaitziarcuestaaparicio9450 4 месяца назад

    Muchas gracias!❤

  • @s.k.haridas6726
    @s.k.haridas6726 5 месяцев назад +10

    Desires lead to jealous

  • @AndreaDelfish
    @AndreaDelfish 4 месяца назад +4

    People are so wicked. I learn late. I am keeping everything to myself. When I am going to die they will know

  • @MonicaLillis
    @MonicaLillis 5 месяцев назад +5

    Do you ever know anyone ? After a friendship of 28 yrs, my Friend has unfriended me on FB today. Over a few words at the weekend. A mutual Friend left her phone behind at this Girl's Party. She asked for it to be dropped at my house. The Friend dropping it just walked in my French Doors, left it down, drove off. No phone call, txt, ring on the doorbell. I knew she was dropping it that Morning, but was in another room when she entered the house. I was furious. The rudeness of it. She can't see it at all. She has let myself and the other Girl down when days out were planned, or been disinterested when she has gone out with us. The Sarcasm is unreal to both of us. Of course she thinks she's funny. She even asked the Friend that mislaid the Phone to prove it was her Phone, before she went to return it. She had to describe photos in the Gallery !!! That is basically calling someone a Liar isn't it ? Time to call it a day with her maybe ?? She is a bit eccentric, but something is very off recently.

    • @devorah935
      @devorah935 3 месяца назад

      Hidden Envy. Cut it off

  • @benridge6570
    @benridge6570 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you. 💪

  • @mo8748
    @mo8748 4 месяца назад

    Good on you mate and mean it!

  • @evelyncorinthian7773
    @evelyncorinthian7773 4 месяца назад +1

    All my life I encounter nothing but jealous people it's very frustrating and I can't understand why. Even my very own siblings were jealous of me . On the job in the church it's just too much . I give it all up to God this battle is not mine

    • @pcp.9834
      @pcp.9834 Месяц назад

      Don't try to understand them, remove yourself from them. That is the Stoic way!😉🇺🇸🪖

  • @doremifasolatido-ro7zs
    @doremifasolatido-ro7zs 6 месяцев назад +8

    my husband always says no to me it's late to know that he's kinda insecure of the success i could achieve i thought he's trustworthy but i was wrong now im living in depression and miserable life.

    • @baybramillion9263
      @baybramillion9263 5 месяцев назад +11

      well don't be insecure like he was... believe in yourself ❤

    • @thefarmersdaughter8235
      @thefarmersdaughter8235 5 месяцев назад +14

      Why should you be depressed because of him. Make new plans and do them!

    • @moniquesleyser689
      @moniquesleyser689 5 месяцев назад +10

      And leave and live for yourself!

    • @robynmoore7847
      @robynmoore7847 5 месяцев назад +11

      Very sad 😭.. I was married 30 plus years. My spouse passed away. I don't want to get tangled again. Even though I had a good marriage. Men are not like they used to be.The world is in a bad shape. I will stay to myself.

    • @naturalbeauty4734
      @naturalbeauty4734 3 месяца назад

      ​@@robynmoore7847 Most of these men today are emotionally and spiritually BROKEN!!! to the core 😞

  • @0annonymous
    @0annonymous 4 месяца назад

    There's something else I should add because not everyone will knowingly fit this category
    I need to point out that some people don't have the social skills to pick up on nonverbal cues really all that well if those nonverbal cues are too subtle
    Sometimes if nonverbal cues are too subtle or someone lacks enough social skills, they may not understand what you're trying to say without words
    If this is the case, then you need to speak up and explain yourself, and I'm going to explain why
    Sometimes if someone was raised in quarantine in an abusive relationship and their growth and development was stunted, it may take decades for that person to heal and learn what they need to learn during the healing process

  • @Robin-xr7si
    @Robin-xr7si 5 месяцев назад +6

    "we suffer more from imagination than reality," not in my case. Reality has been brutal since 2011.

    • @l.5832
      @l.5832 4 месяца назад

      Right! I get blindsided every single time. I never see it coming.I'm an intelligent person but as my therapist said "You can't understand them because your brain doesn't go that way" when I try to wonder how someone I thought cared about me could be so deceitful, so hateful, so two faced. I would never conceive of doing such things, thus I DON'T imagine them or worry about them. People do the unthinkable.

    • @jonny5746
      @jonny5746 3 месяца назад

      I wish you better days 🥰

  • @lisanidog8178
    @lisanidog8178 4 месяца назад +4

    Why should people be so thin skinned about someone’s envy. And of course those people have never shown envy or lied once in their lives. The only one you can control is YOU! Stop nit picking others and work on YOU.

    • @pcp.9834
      @pcp.9834 Месяц назад

      Who are you Dr. Phil? I've worked with many mentally ill pts, for over 20 yrs, many of them are in denial or delusional. Need to learn self awareness before you can give advice.

  • @StoicPractices39
    @StoicPractices39 3 месяца назад

    This video introduces 13 Stoic concepts that can help you recognize jealousy and deception in relationships. It breaks down the signs of fake compliments, selective approval, and the behaviors of jealous people. Stoicism encourages honesty, kindness, and unconditional support in relationships, helping you build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

  • @pamelacorbett8774
    @pamelacorbett8774 3 месяца назад +1

    A relative of mine paid me a visit. She said her friend had seen some of my drawings at my house and raved over them. But to me that person said not one word. Simply no comment, just looked and passed on. Interesting. You wonder what they get out of it,

  • @GNV-AwakentheSoul-sf7ph
    @GNV-AwakentheSoul-sf7ph 3 месяца назад +1

    The husband or wife is the most trustworthy person in every relationship. Because only a husband/wife understands enough to share everything in life and not be judged.
    Do you think like me?

  • @baybramillion9263
    @baybramillion9263 5 месяцев назад +4

    where are these people? im in Victoria BC Canada 🎉 i read coments where are today's stoic people? reply in each if the clips you listen to😂 wish there was Facebook page.

    • @cbappa2
      @cbappa2 5 месяцев назад

      👋 in Vic as well

  • @DSTH323
    @DSTH323 5 месяцев назад +2

    Too much reverb. Great content

  • @JackpotJane
    @JackpotJane Месяц назад

    I have always since a child been treated differently and badly by my closet family except my dad. When my dad died young, suddenly the rumors started that I was a result of an affair he had and that horrid woman who pretended to be my mother helped him raise me. She was so mean, vicious and physically and mentally abusive. She's dead now too but of all her children guess who took care of her for 7 yrs after her stroke? I left the state yr eight. I wasn't gone for 3 months when she ended up in the hospital, then a nursing home then dead.

  • @DebbieV-b5p
    @DebbieV-b5p 3 месяца назад +1

    While I was their friend they weren't mine
    It's ok

  • @nothing-b2n
    @nothing-b2n 3 месяца назад

    Yep

  • @soniacochrane1288
    @soniacochrane1288 4 месяца назад

    hmm...sometimes jealousy and envy blindsides.

  • @Jill7-vv4br
    @Jill7-vv4br 4 месяца назад

  • @AkifKaynak
    @AkifKaynak 5 месяцев назад

    it would be better to give the entire list followed by explanations.

  • @JeffShields-i8k
    @JeffShields-i8k 2 месяца назад

    Got a huge family all nar

  • @场散
    @场散 3 месяца назад

    This is how bad people keep accusing n pushing very bad. Is pity nc nv face himself but keep pushing to others why addicted can get rid

  • @samuelclayborne
    @samuelclayborne 3 месяца назад

    15:55

  • @alisonthomson439
    @alisonthomson439 4 месяца назад +4

    I was deemed “ very attractive “ from youth so very uncomfortable with too much praise

  • @kimberlygelinas64
    @kimberlygelinas64 23 дня назад +1

    Sad

  • @EveSostre
    @EveSostre 3 месяца назад

    At the apartment complex that i am at , there is a neighbor who is a santera, she practices cult pagan rituals

  • @kimberlygelinas64
    @kimberlygelinas64 23 дня назад

    Kimberly Elizabeth Dahl Artist and Social Media Expert

  • @NoiRosales
    @NoiRosales 5 месяцев назад +6

    You know maski ano pa gawin ko mag Isa la g ako maski ano pa ang isabi ko totoo di yan paniwalaan,

  • @AngelMelendez-rt8ij
    @AngelMelendez-rt8ij 5 месяцев назад +3

    😅a good story inventuer.😅

  • @MakuyEmatt
    @MakuyEmatt 5 месяцев назад +1

    People make me a bad ,crazy,, or witch. So i avoiding. For my priority my worship enough for me .People doesn't like me anymore even her in my studio. They dont like im wearing a nice dresses they speaks at my back im just ignoring only.Jelousy behaviors so dangerous and no peace of mind can create a darkness not good to the eyes of God .

  • @cscf3052
    @cscf3052 4 месяца назад +1

    Uhh... trust...

  • @kendylawrence581
    @kendylawrence581 5 месяцев назад +7

    Anyone here who can help me sponsor my children? I’m at the verge of giving up in life. Nothing is moving for me, I’m stuck and feel like dying. I’m in Kenya Nairobi

    • @chiwonisomandishona461
      @chiwonisomandishona461 5 месяцев назад +2

      How old are your children?
      Where is the mother?
      Are you working?

    • @cliffmahoney3949
      @cliffmahoney3949 5 месяцев назад +8

      Scammer

    • @jeannettebosma5311
      @jeannettebosma5311 5 месяцев назад +4

      God is hearing you. Ask for help and He will not disappoint you.

    • @ramaat2731
      @ramaat2731 5 месяцев назад +4

      ​@cliffmahoney3949 right . Imagine spelling your own city wrong Nairobi

    • @kendylawrence581
      @kendylawrence581 5 месяцев назад

      @@ramaat2731 typo error…and what exactly is it that I’m scamming?

  • @jeannedouglas9912
    @jeannedouglas9912 5 месяцев назад +5

    Curious how stoicism philosophy disregards the birth families or the birth tree and all such envy and jealousy within such small family systems and subsequent harmful actions. A free ride by blood to use and abuse? V

  • @MarthaEnwerem
    @MarthaEnwerem 4 месяца назад

    Why do ancient scholars have more wisdom than us? Probably, they were more devoted scholars than us.

    • @TinaloveHarris3
      @TinaloveHarris3 3 месяца назад

      They had no TV no phones no internet no social media no Tik Tok RUclips...
      That look within
      Holy Spirit

  • @nishanisha.a3368
    @nishanisha.a3368 5 месяцев назад +1

    Cheap people inly a habit to hacked, jealous too

  • @jessparsons8515
    @jessparsons8515 5 месяцев назад +1

    I think people who are nasty or re next you it’s jellousu😊

  • @shawnaweesner3759
    @shawnaweesner3759 4 месяца назад

    Does this video have a picture of Biden.

    • @TinaloveHarris3
      @TinaloveHarris3 3 месяца назад

      The video is for us to look within ourselves not just look at others

  • @TeresaTan-jg9oj
    @TeresaTan-jg9oj 3 месяца назад

    I so good so kind he think I so bad please la don't act clever always..he then jealous of course not me