What Is War to a Grieving Child? | NYT Opinion
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- Опубликовано: 17 июл 2023
- Kids didn't start the war in Ukraine. They aren't fighting it. They won't be responsible for ending it. Yet they have suffered deeply and quietly: They have had little say in that awful matter.
In the Opinion video above, though, we hear from Ukrainian children who have lost a parent during the conflict. A team from Opinion Video met them in western Ukraine, at a two-week retreat designed to give grieving kids the space and support to confront their pain and begin to heal.
The program, called Wonder Camp, is part of a support mission in Ukraine by Children of Heroes Charity Fund, an international organization.
“These kids are not part of this war, but they are casualties,” said Brice Espino, the chief executive officer of Children of Heroes, which provided the funding for the camp and gathered the participants. (Ahead Foundation, a Ukrainian group, supplied the camp’s personnel and ran the program.)
Children of Heroes is supporting more than 5,000 Ukrainian children who have lost a parent in the war. The group provides them with educational, housing, legal and psychological support until they turn 18.
“All they want is a normal life,” Espino continued. “We want to remind them there is a bigger world outside of this.”
The children's accounts in the video, and the emotional wounds they reveal, are moving and powerful testimonies to the horrors of war and the damage the conflict has inflicted on Ukraine's most vulnerable - and most innocent - population.
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This just made me cry so much. I am so sorry for them
Made me cry too, such huge losses
ditto
Go cry to zielinski and see just how much of a f*** he cares
Ukrainian soldiers in Mariupol covered themselves with children and did not let civilians go. Only Russia saved them.
@@Abel_Araviyou are user without name and soul
Please, consider donating to help these children. Even small amounts count. I'm not rich but I donated 45€ after watching this video in the NYT and I'll keep doing it. We stand with you. 🇮🇹❤🇺🇦
Thank you for your generosity.
Imagine that it's better to be robbed than to have your house burned down, and it's even better to have your house burned down as long as your family is safe. But now, envision all of these events happening to you all at once. Consider how difficult it would be for you to endure it all simultaneously.
There are no words for this anguish and grief.
Thank you NYT
Also thank you for Ukrainian subtitles
It's a complete heartbreaking feeling after watching this video. I feel so sorry for those who has lost their loved one, I can't never imagine how painful it is, hope they will get better somehow, pray for the victory to come soon. And no one will lose their loved ones.
These are losses that affect a person for the rest of their lives. I hope they continue to get the needed help for years to come.
The way these young kids wisely answered about "What is war?" should keep us awake during the night and re-think our actions against each other every day.
We are making this suffering by sending weapons, but why are we so evil 😈 😢 😔
@@idarpolden5913 What a disgusting Russian propaganda talking point + overusing emojis. Obvious bot. Last time I checked Russia invaded Ukraine. These kids are suffering because of Russia.
Russian propaganda is trying to Victim blame here.
Gtfo.
@@idarpolden5913 we are helping them DEFEND themselves. They’d all might be summarily killed otherwise
Thank you for telling stories of the children under our care to the world and for becoming their voice at a point in time when Russia is trying to take it away, as it took away their parents.
Дякуємо за те що розповідаєте історії наших підопічних світові, стаєте їх голосом у час, коли росія намагається його відібрати, як відібрала у них батьків.
Ukraine was killing Russians in 2014. Ukrainian aircraft bombed my city of Donetsk.
In my city of Donetsk, there is a whole cemetery of children - who have been purposefully killed by Ukriana since 2014!
This is heartbreaking beyond words. These kids were living normal happy lives until Russia decided to invade.
Ukraine needs all the help they can get. More advanced weapons mean fewer killed Ukrainians and fewer kids losing their fathers.
Some still have the gall to deny the responsibility of Russians. I've watched countless street interviews from ordinary Russians and the ignorance, complacency, apathy and passiveness from them is mind boggling.
Russians are willfully ignorant about the pointlessness of the war they started and the atrocities they are committing in Ukraine.
Russians seem to be totally fine with the war as long as they are able to hold on to some stolen territory and the Russian TV tells them they are winning.
Once Ukraine takes back all their territories Russians will be forced to deal with the truth and we need to make sure they don't forget what they have done.
Negotiate peace!
Thats how you stop the killing, everywhere.
I trust you have good intentions and you mean your kind words, but do you trust that western governments just want to "defend the good against the bad and defend childhood"? They dont mind yemenis children dying with their weapons, nor syrian and iraqi children. The only person profiting that can come to my mind is the weapons industry everywhere.
Always follow the money.
you don't understand how an autocracy works, do you?
Receipt for the US/EU to stop this war: Leave alone separatists. Leave alone Crimea and Crimean bridge. Stop ethnic minority discrimination. Stop sending weapons to Ukraine. Keep Ukraine out of NATO. Done. War stopped.
@@user-yj7um6hv1d Would you agree on giving away to Russia let's say Hawaii and Alaska just because they want it? Then any country would start taking some territories all over the world.
Putin would not stop there. This bandit understands only strength, not wekness.
If it would only be so simple.
@@user-yj7um6hv1dkremlin troll are you going to post your kremlin’s disinformation campaign on every comment?
Heartbreaking. We Stand with Ukraine.
What does that even mean "we stand with Ukraine"? 🤔 Probably the most annoying meaningless phrase I've ever heard.
@@user-yj7um6hv1dRussian ship Moskva ПНХ. How is that for what does that mean?
This suffering is your fault and it will all be for nothing...
You'd better check your heart if it's breaking. Pay a visit to your therapist.
@@Alex-Praha oh how sweet, such a gentleman. Russian naZi with fascist Z swastika ПНХ. Wagner terrorists are fighting for money. Russian ship Moskva ПНХ
I just watched the NYT piece about Ukrainian kids in a grief-therapy camp, after losing a parent in this war. Twice - Ukrainian is as different from Imperial Russian as rural Friesian is from High German. I let my eyes leak a bit, remembering our Papi’s PTSD from his time as a medic on the Ost-Front, and then returning to learn his parents had been murdered, in Sorau. I think I can reassemble the shards…
I witnessed such stories in the middle east after the invasion of iraq and leaving a vaccum that caused a civil unrest for more than 20 years and hundreds of thousands of deaths, and they lied to make people support this war. No grief therapy camps, no kids with background music in a sentimental video. They look where they want you to look, and play on you being kind and emotional to justify an allocation of wealth.
Like Julian assange said (so much for freedom of press there) the war was not meant to be won, the war was meant to never end.
The Pain is unspeakable and forever lasting. They got to understand why it happens as to motivate them in future to make them stronger, to make a better world tomorrow.
Life is a limited time journey. Those who walked with you at the beginning may not be able to accompany you all the way,
Sizing up the situation, so we know where we stand,
Be the best version of yourself,
Live in the present, seize the day,
Look ahead to the future!
"Kids who have never seen peace and kids who have never seen war hold different values"
I feel so sad for them.
At the same time though, did the US press do a similar piece on the children of the millions of civilians murdered in Iraq and Afghanistan as a result of US invading them?
May god protect children everywhere, and everywhere includes, yemen, iraq, syria, afriqa and palestine. And not just where they want us to look to give money to weapons industry, shame on you using children with music in the background to have people agree to their money being given to weapons industry, negotiate peace!
It's a complete heartbreaking feeling after watching this video. I feel so sorry for those who has lost their loved one, I can't never imagine how painful it is, hope they will get better somehow, pray for the victory to come soon. And no one will lose their loved ones.
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Deeply cruel what has happened to these children and their families. Deeply cruel for the whole country of Ukraine. May there be a firmer resolve to help Ukraine not just fight, but to win. To decisively win.
Can you hear yourself? 🙄
At least these kids have their neighbourght from Donbass to know a little what's awaiting them... Days and nights of shelling for years, they might get used to it.
And there are people like you asking for more combat and wins, but there are no wins for those kids except getting out, or combat stopping and the possibility (very rare) to forgot or have it less painful if they have decent parents around them
I'm so sorry for your loses, slava Ukraine 🇾🇪🇺🇦
Thank you, NYT!
Truly heartbreaking
Apparently, someone at the NYT wrote an article stating not to play with your children. 😡🤬 Where do they get these whack-a-doodles.....
I’m so sorry for all of you. But you have no power to change things. I understand that. Thinking of you always ❤️🇨🇦
No they do have power. Tell the government to leave alone separatists. Leave alone Crimea and its bridge. Stop discrimination of ethnic minority. Keep Ukraine out of NATO and stop sending weapons. Then their fathers will be well and alive.
@@user-yj7um6hv1dRussian people can’t even protest against Putin or his war without getting arrested. ПНХ huylo
Death is illusion btw.
We think that we can understand but actually we have no idea how they feel.. 😞💔
Another powerful story by NYT. Thanks.
My heart. I want to hold these babies and let them cry.
Oh God please end the wars.
Excellent journalism, for such suffering, pain, anguish and sadness, amidst these young persons beauty, fragility, vulnerability and their strenght, their resilience…. the inhumanity of cruel aggression and insanity, we call “”war””…..retired youth therapist and grief counselor, from Florida, USA
I hope they all find a safe space to live and I hope the war will be finished one day, I hope they all will be ok and will be safe. poor souls ❤
My dear Ukrainian friends, although, there is nothing that I can give that would replace the lost memories and loved ones that you cherish the most, but I will keep all of you alive in my heart and daily prayers in God the Father and Our Lord Jesus Christ. Indeed, the world is with you, yet there are very few who would truly empathise with and listen to your sorrows and grievances except for a few good ones, nevertheless, you are never alone, as you still have Our Blessed Mother Mary, your guardian angels and all Holy Angels, Saints and Souls in Purgatory watching over and praying for you even at this very moment. If you ever need inner spiritual comfort, then turn to your guardian angel for he will comfort and assist you in your hour of need. Besides that, those who perished are never gone but they live on as spirits and will continue to pray for and guide us on earth. Hopefully, the war will come to an end and then we will meet each other again somewhere and sometime. Take care and God bless. Greetings from MALAYSIA.
unforced pain that our children are subjected to such suffering😢
these people will shape the need of the marketplace, it's not a set back, rather a catch up
We never forget you !!
This is the most emotional video I have watched on this channel so far. Would love to create an anti-war music video with some of the clips here
Those poor souls ❤
Those kids! i hope they are able to process their trauma fully someday, i hope they end up as well-rounded adults in a rebuilt NATO and EU sovereign democratic Ukraine. I hope the sacrifice of their childhoods rewards them at least that much.
Thank goodness for the progress in trauma-therapy. I hope they have and/or get the support networks they need.
This was a very difficult heart-breaking vid to watch, but all the more important that we safe folk watch, so we can keep up the relentless pressure so our leaders step up with the support ukraine so desperately needs. i.e. it needs those F16s this year, not 2024! Ukraine soldiers cannot afford to free territory faster without adequate air support. The west needs to keep it's patience with the pace of things, too many have died already trying to go fast to meet 'allies' goals'. Ukraine has achieved miracles!
Forget about brainwashing children into cocaine Biden's 😳. It's a bad idea. The war has gotten into a stalemate. Nobody in Ukraine nor Romania knows how to fly and maintain long range F16. Why doesn't Biden just send a carrier with F18 's instead 🤔 more firepower and stronger landing gears that can handle rough short airstrips F16 cannot. Zelenskyy don't know what disaster he is begging for.
Lol wont happen ukarine is over demographically dead
Ukraine started this war in 2014. Donetsk, my hometown, was bombed by Ukraine aircraft. Ukriana killed its citizens just because they are Russian.
@@Abel_Aravi
Think of the similarity with UK's brexit. 51% voted for brexit, it was clearly the wrong decision especially economically. But EU didnt send plains-clothed soldiers with orders to infiltrate and create an excuse to steal land, didnt decide to steal ANY uk lands^ Thus uk didnt have to fight EU soldiers in an attempt to win back those lands^
Your logic would say that EU NEEDED to steal UK land because brexit was the wrong decision and that if uk used weaponry in attempt to win back that stolen land, uk would be at fault
Do you not see how messed up that is?
I strongly suggest you look up what logical fallacies and cognitive distortions are^
Because the whole premise of your world view and belief system is seriously illogical.
@@Myanmartiger921 38million people still within ukraine says otherwise^
Russia on the otherhand has seriously messed up population demographics^ what causes so many men to die even during peacetimes? Whats caused the brain drain? Whats caused the birthrate decline n thus the need to incentivise motherhood with policies?
What about the millions who fled conscription?
What about using WW2 tanks?
What about the famous russian military parade which normally showcases the most powerful and up to date, that only showed 1 single museum exhibit?
What about the russian economy that is doing disastrously? 15,000 MILLION (poss billion, but im being generous) rubles out of pocket for first 6 months of 2023 thus far^
Selling the number one produce of oil dirt-cheap at a loss to its china and india 'allies' (whove stated last week they respect ukraines' 1991 borders^), cos no one else buying, unable to sell its gas at all because of lack of liquid gas infrastructure
Who's everyday reclaiming territory? who's barely able to match 1 km for every 10km ukraine regains?
How come the children of Iraq were not interviewed like this?
Very sad
grazie
If I was Russian soldier I'd quit the army
Just having that thought makes you better than a Russian soldier.
I always support my country regardless of whether Russia is right or wrong...
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Wearing their hearts on their cheeks......
#savechristianityinindia #savechristianofindia #justiceformanipur #narendermodiagainstchristianity
There are too few words to describe the the level of anguish, sorrow and trauma for these poor Ukrainian children. It is not just Russia's appalling barbarity and genocidal ambitions that has cost them their families and livelihoods but it is also partially the negligence of the world to pay attention to the earlier warning signs of Russia's imperialistic plans since the prelude invasion in 2014 but in the previous decades leading up to the current catastrophic war. The world has tried to prevent 1939 from occurring again but apparently many of Ukraine's allies or former allies lacked prudence, wisdom and courage to deter Russia and now the consequences of the invasion weighed heavily upon their conscience as a result of their apathy and lukewarmness towards true democracy. They should have known that freedom and democracy are not to be taken for granted like a bargaining chip but it is long tedious process that can only be sustained by those who are determined and strong in intellect and will. Otherwise, there is no point in saying "never again" for as long as good men are unwilling to stand against evil in a long-term in defense of humanity, freedom, liberty and democracy.
I have been thinking about that. But now, somehow, I can't watch it
I love children
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So heartbreaking. I only wish NYT would have the guts to create something similar to highlight the plight of Palestinian kids as well.
You are so right !
And also Iraqi kids !
War is ignorance, manifest in hate and destruction.
Don't choose murder as a career option. Sign off!
The Psychopaths who produced this video just said, "Ukraine needs help with weapons". The war needs to end ASAP so the Ukrainian people can stop dying. Over 400,000 have been killed already. Sending more weapons means the US military companies will make more money.
So sad :( reminds me of movie "Grave of the fireflies"
Subtitles are wrong
it’s very eye opening if you think about it… just life in ukraine during the war
very very very eye opening
I'm sorry for what all of you are going through right now. I can only help so much by doing blogs for Ukrainians, understanding the country's psychological impact
Naming wars after the leaders that waged them is a genius political and editorial decision.
Not really if it removes the guilt of those supporting this war
@@marinebymistake I disagree. Whatever internal resistance that may form will always be less effective at co-opting the population’s preexisting sense of national pride than the establishment, itself.
Call it a Russian Invasion, and Russia will tell its citizens that the USA has targeted all Russians. Call it Putin’s Invasion, and Russia can’t weaponize national identity as effectively in its defense. Russians are far more likely to defend Russia than any given leader.
If you support the war in and of itself, then you’re not gonna feel guilty no matter what your enemies call it.
Gallantry and sad story
Now make one for all the heartbreak the USA has caused to parents and children around the world, my country included!
It's heartbreaking. I am so glad to see that there are programs like this to help kids with their grief.
Is there is no word for "border" or "empathy" in the Russian language?
I have no empathy for Ukraine. They kind of asked for it. Listen to this phrase --> 10:52 "glory to the nation, death to the enemies". When you wish bad things on others, you'll get bad things. Because of karma. As our proverb says: "don't dig a hole for someone else, as you will fall into it yourself".
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An emotional and heart-wrenching reality for these kids. Great video sharing their perspective.
2:50 Это клиника Кащенко
No kid deserves to be a war orphan or to lose their family. No kid ever!
When all its said and done, Russia will pay the price for the destruction, death and lunacy they have caused.
For every family without a son, daughter, husband, wife, mother, father, grandfather, grandmother, uncle, aunt, nephew, niece or cousin. For every single one of them, they will pay dearly.
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Summer and crossbows
It is not "Putin's war," it is "Russia's war."
It is Not Russia's War it is the Military Industrial Complex breaking ground for BlackRock to reBuild Ukraine Back Better with 15 minute cities, lab grown meat, and as much bugs as you need to bring up your social credit score
@@LindaEckertBallard go drink some water, jesus christ
@@LindaEckertBallard chatgpt, stop generating.
Putin isn't doing the fighting. Putin isn't dropping the bombs on houses. He isn't the one raping kids or executing families. Those are Russians doing those things; Russian soldiers from the Russian people.
The war is theirs and they have to own it.
Can we see the other side?
What other side?
@@nicholassmith7984 the "separatist" side. So-called "Donetsk People's Republic" and "Luhansk People's Republic" who fight on the Russian side and who live under constant bombardment from Ukrainian side.
兴，百姓苦；亡，百姓苦。
Russia must be stopped and ended. We support Ukraine and will continue supporting Ukraine until every Russian soldier is no longer. ❤🇺🇦🇺🇸
Ukrainian Nazi Azov Batellion needed to stop killing everyone in Donbas (War in Donbas (2014-2022)) least we forget about all those BioLabs in Ukraine? This war was promulgated by the MIC with help from CIA so BlackRock can rebuild Ukraine Back Better with everyone living in 15 minute cities eating bugs and lab grown meat. It IS NOT PUTIN's WAR it is the Military Industrial Complex on going, never ending proxy wars! All WARS are Bankster Wars - Follow the $$$ 😪
Ukraine must be stopped and ended. We support Russia and will continue supporting Russia until every Ukrainian soldier is no longer ❤🇷🇺
7:10 Toldya. 0:34 🤔😐
Its Putin's war and not Russia's as simple as that
Putin is not the one doing the fighting; Russian soldiers are doing it for him. Those soldiers come from the Russian people.
That's not to mention the thousands of children who have been stolen from Ukraine, forced to live with Russian familes, while those familes strip them of their culture and identity.
The Russian people are as much to blame for this as Putin himself; they must bear the responsibility and the consequences.
It was Russians slaughtering civilians in Bucha, not Putin.
Blood on your hands Telegraph. You are part of this!
Great documentary. Thank you.
Now you know what war does to children. But when your soldiers were killing the children of Iraq and Afghanistan, you did not say anything
Then I realized that GOD left this place a long time ago- AFRICA, IRAQ
Thank Biden for this
Russia's actions have united the world against them and ensured that they will be hated for generations. These kids will never forget, and neither should we.
Putin take your childlife, but you can save your future. Good luck for everyone😢
6:24 где у него флаг Донбасса?
If they ask about war they retraumatize them
My sympathies to their families. Having no head of the household can be pretty difficult to deal with.
Almost five thousand views and four hundred likes for the exploitation of ukrainian families, good job.
Absolutely stunning visuals!💚🐱
staging
What about Palestine?
FREE PALESTINE 🇵🇸
Very heartbreaking! This is the fruits of fighting to the last Ukrainian. I hope you’re proud america because this was y’all have cynically used to your advantage has taken the the fathers of hundreds of thousands of Slavic fathers at this point
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America is not to blame. Ukraine is not to blame. No one but Russia. All the blood is on the hands of the invaders.
Ukraine is fighting for their home and their identity. Russia has no right to any of it.
Why doesn't Russia just pull out to stop this?
Kinda what u did to Iraq only you did much worse
Horrible - Now do one on Bush's war in Iraq. Or Afghanistan.
They did, years ago, when those were happening. Ukraine is happening now.
Where’s the footage of Iraqi/afghan children when the US invaded them.
If Ukrainian politicians did not listen to the West and were not Western puppets, there would not have been a war between two fraternal Slavic peoples. Condolences to the families!
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If Russians didn't follow a genocidal maniac, there would be no need for the West to get involved. The blame for all of this rests squarely on Russia.
Where is the documentary from the iraqi children when the gringos bombed them ?
nowhere, they all died.
*NATO’s* war
Russia started the war. Prigozhin said that the motive for war was the plundering of Ukrainian assets.
Yeah no. Putins war.
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in china😂 not much different, they feed each other sewage oil
Yeah, really funny…
All the fault of yank agression as usual.
$25 rub, Mr Troll?
I have deep sympathy for these kids. America is fully responsible for this war because it expanded NATO despite promising Russia that it will never do that. America instigated Joker Zilansky to go to war. If America desires, it can stop the war even now, therefore, leave your hegemonic thought and ego aside for the sake of humility and stop this war.
Please go and find some decency
America did not want to "expand NATO": it was very strong will of Central and Eastern European countries that were extremly determined to join NATO and have protection against Russia - Poland even tried to blackmail the USA president that they would activate Polish people in America to vote against Clinton in elections if he won't agree to letting them into NATO. Also there was no official promise that NATO wouldn't expand - on the contrary, Russian president Yeltsin agreed to this "expansion" after negotiations with Polish president.
Not to mention the most important part: it was a sovereign decision of European nations to join NATO - the same goes to Sweden and Finland today. Europe just needs to unite in order to defend herself from Russian imperialism and NATO provides an excellent structure for that.
And if Russia would like to stop the war she could just pull her soldiers back home and get rid of her imperialism, colonialism and expansionism and focus on her own issues.
Prigozhin said that the reason for invading Ukraine was the personal enrichment of Putin and his cronies. Your propaganda does not work, Ivan.
@@wawrzynieckorzen78 There was no written promise but a verbal promise, therefore, it is very easy for America to refuse the reality. America always instigated other countries and used them for personal benefit, therefore, I still hold them responsible for the Ukraine war. Please also remember what it said to then-President Mikhail Gorbachev and then how USSR was broken.
@@YogeshJhala-du8xg Still there is no record of such promise, and after the dissolution the USSR (one of the biggest decolonisation events in XX century when nations mostly peacefully anddemocratically voted for their independence - Ukraine as well as the others) Russian leaders did not oppose so harshly to European nations will to join NATO, however they were eager to start new wars as in Transinistria, Georgia, Chechnya and so on.
And NATO works: Russia did not attack any of NATO members. That is why there is war in "neutral" Ukraine (which borders were guaranteed by Russia in WRITTEN Budapest Memorandum!), not in allied Estonia or Latvia. NATO expands because of Russian aggresive politics, not the other way round.
Thank you for the death on both sides US State Department.
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🎉 PURRR sis
Even if you have blue eyes and blonde hair, war is war.
No!! America and thr west did this!!
That's like saying, 27 million Soviets died in WW2 because the allies wouldn't leave Hitler alone.
Stick your propaganda, Ivan.
Are you high? Russia did not need to invade Ukraine
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дада это америка вторглась в Украину - АХАХАХАХАХА. вторглась своими идеями свобод. ... ПУТИН ПРОИГРАЛ САМОИ СВОБОДЕ, ИДЕЯМ СВОБОД, И АМЕРИКА / ЕВРОПА / США - есть насители этих идей и эти идеи опасны диктатору путину. всё правильно. америка вторглась. но я выбираю свободу. ИДИ НА МАРС ПУТИН!