What you need to know about "PTSD"
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- Опубликовано: 6 ноя 2024
- A veteran family-systems and trauma-recovery therapist describes "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder," a set of common symptoms, and traditional and new ways of reducing the symptoms. He emphasizes that PTSD symptoms are widespread among kids and adults who experience parental abandonment, neglect, and abuse - so "trauma" can occur over years, not just one injurious event. For more info, see sfhelp.org/gwc/...
You are by far the most skilled and knowledgable person I have ever seen and heard. You deserve a nobel price for your work sir, this could heal the world, you have my deepest respect.
+V. Goldin Right, probably won't happen until he dies (said with all due respect)
+Stacy FarrowSad, but true, then again who needs a nobel price:-) The real value lies in helping people :-)
+Stacy Farrow Sadly - and I don't know if you realized this - but by the time you posted that comment, that had already happened.
Aw no I didn't know that. That makes me sad.
V.Golden: THANK YOU!!!!!
I have Complex-PTSD from a horrendous childhood of abuse & abandonment issues & because I didn't know I was being abused, thinking this stuff was normal, chose a partner which felt familiar giving me PTSD. Therefore I suffer from both C-PTSD & PTSD and have never known anything else all of my life.
Thank you for posting this video. I shall check out the other ones you have suggested.
This man was ahead of his time. C-PTSD is beginning to be studied and explored more. Thanks you for the lovely videos. Rest in Peace.
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Thank you. I'm a 51y/o INTJ male with ASAD and PTSD. It's been a horrific and extreme life, for me and those around me. I'm glad I found you. Starting my study today.
Wow! what an insightful and altruistic mind he had. I hope people listen and learn because prevention is always better than cure, if only humanity would understand that. It would have been a great honour to have met you sir; Rest in the assurance that you helped many people recover...
As always, your compassionate intention in sharing this information shines through , many thanks
Thanks Kate :-)
I am reminded by the fact that most people experience flashbacks in their dreams to school, which was certainly a persistently humiliating experience.
I beloi8eve PTSD is a symptom of underlying inherited psychological wounds - which can be significantly reduced using inner-family therapy.
Whether the trauma was one event or a series, the results are thew same: severe disorganization and disruption of your personality subselves and major distrust in your true Self's ability to protect them (you). Recovering your sense of security and confidence IS possible over time, if you courageously choose to do inner-family therapy with appropriate help. .See sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
Wow!!! I'm sitting here watching all over your videos. I've been to your website numerous times and gotten much good information, and it has contributed to my healing journey. I appreciate you sharing your wisdom. I believe you are leaving a legacy for the world that will live on beyond your lifetime. One day maybe the world will catch up with you...
You are right on, and everything you are saying is exactly what I'm finding out through my own healing journey. THANK YOU!
I was bullied all my childhood, even older bro did it, he robbed me. A kid held a knife to my throat and took my wallet at 13 in 7th grade. I dont trust many people after that.
I considered I had PTSD a few times but wrongly concluded I didn't.
But the symptoms you read off from Mayo clinic, They all match perfectly, with one single exception, I have no startle effect, this could be the death of me one day. One symptom I have which was not mentioned is I do not react to fear/danger, I am an army brat, lived on Fort Clayton Panama which no longer exists. Ambient noise I was used to growing up sounded like warfare. I also find thunderstorms relaxing.
Thanks "Doc" This really helped. I have been diagnosed with PTSD after Federal agents raided my apartment, roughed up my spouse & kept firearms trained on us for hours. That was the most shocking cause. We. eventually defeated the government in court. but there were traumas leading back to my childhood when my parents, whom I cherished, nearly died and I feared being alone.. Finally the favourable, but incessant, press coverage lead to perfect storm for PTSD. Not an event but many, too many.
Thank you Pete, this is very helpful. We miss you!!
being completely used to constant hypervigilance other people thinking they know what this means but not knowing what it means (actually super helpful depending on you really are as an individual)
Apologise for the long post, but this is the first time I am able to express this information with someone who has an understanding of PTSD. Hope you could shed some light.
How can you apply family therapy and your parents are dead?I am an 8 on the aces score,have complex ptsd, dysthymic depression, serious disociation and am the "Identified patient" I never applied myself at school.I sat there looking out the window at planes going by wishing I was on one going somewhere else.I had Barbies and a Barbie house in the early 60s and that was my "Safe family".I have obesity and at 21 was around 500 lbs.I was molested,terrorized and voyered on by my father,who was a food addict and a sex addict.He allowed me no boundrys.He made me his personal slave and the slave of my sister which I really hated.My mother would go away then call a few days later to say she would be home in a couple days,that she was getting a rest.She never told us before hand she was leaving.When in my 20s she started doing this again.One night after church I just happened to see her car parked at a nearby motel so went and knocked.She peeked out the window and told me to go away..I was the throwaway child and my two years younger sister was the favored and golden child.Both parents were narcissists.My mother was a bi polar one who refused meds for it and was addicted to amphetamines.She was a floating head nurse for convalescent hospitals.She did not pass pills yet brought them home in little white pleated paper cups with paper tape over the mound of pills which we had those pills in every color and shape in every drawer in my house.My mother would grind the pills in applesauce or pudding and tell us we needed a snack.Since they were both sex addicts,they were always in bed and whatever she gave us made us sleep where we fell.She was weight obsessed and thin and she didn't eat much but I remember cigarettes coffee and handfulls of vitamins.I was about 70 lbs at three until my aunt came out from Las Vegas and told my mom to get that weight off me.My mother started me on baby food at two weeks old.She said she wanted a baby with big fat fat rolls.I also had a very traumatic delivery and my mother threw up the whole 9 mos and was hospitalized on iv fluids.I was stuck in the birth canal.The doctor thought he would lose us both.He finally used forceps and pulled me out.He held me upside down and hit me four times.He just for the heck of it told my mother "One more" and she said he slammed me a good one and I screamed.There are no baby pics of me because the doctor told my parents to take me to Agnews State Hospital and leave me and never look back.At three I was put on a 500 calorie a day diet until I was 13 years old.The fridge had a chain and lock on it.I remember being so hungry I ate the weeds in the backyard,my sisters hamster food,the edgings off all the blankets in the house which were I believe silk,the chamois cloth (Sheep skin) my father used to dry the car with etc etc.From the age of 5 which would be 1963,my father would take me to the backs of parks all over the city and the neighboring city and we sat in the car for a while, then he'd open the door and push me out by foot and lock the door then drive off,laughing ,never saying where he was going or when he would be back.I was so scared I would stand there and cry and cry.He never ever allowed me to cry and until recently,I never did.It seemed like about 2 hours or so I'd be there.When I was 7 I was so happy because he dropped my 5 year old sister off with me so I wasn't alone anymore.My father was a classical trombonist and a sadist I have now learned and my mother was a very beautiful woman,along the lines of Marilyn Monroe but she was insane.She took something called black beauties.I would cower in the corner of my room shaking because of the screaming screaming screaming that rocked the walls threatening my father constantly.He worked in San Francisco for the Ballet Orchestra and Oakland Symphony.Marin Symphony etc etc even was the trombonist on the Tennessee Ernie Ford show that taped in San Francisco.He is the creator of the Waa waa voice for the Charlie Brown movies.This voice showed exactly how he dealt with kids if you think about it.He got home at 2 am then world war two started.She threw everything at him.My bedroom backed the main living area.I was up with the first thing that hit my wall.With all the screaming in the middle of the night and being about 15 feet from the house on either side of our new tract house,no one ever called the police,until later (Dad finally moved to Mill Valley when I was 13) when she married the stepfather when I was 15 and he did fight her back.That's another story.He tied my mother up on the bedroom floor and set fire to her after one fight etc etc etc.I usually cried myself to sleep in my parents bedroom closet halfway through the fight from sheer exhaustion and crying and in the mornings they would go looking for me.My father took what little food I got right off my plate at dinner time,saying"You don't want that,it'll make you fat,give it to me"At 5 years old they took me to a psychiatrist to see what was wrong with ME.I was lead to believe until my thirties that something was wrong with me and that most things were my fault.I would hit my sister because I was jealous of her being the favorite I guess.This lady psychiatrist saw me for 6 months then she took me out to the waiting room and told my parents"There is nothing wrong with her" They just looked at each other shocked.I am 57 now and some of the things that I had put in my memory long ago,I am remembering after being in a program called Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous and giving up flour and sugar which was my drug of choice.I have numerous health problems and alot of weight, including being a brittle diabetic and panic disorder.I don't know if I will live long enough to fix my problems but am trying to find out how to fix them.I have been having a tough time recently because my husband of 26 years is transgendering,ugh...I am not handling this well.I am very thankful to find your info on here.Thank you for taking the time to help us.Linda
A very informative and expert explanations for persons who are effected and persons who have someone suffering from PTSD in their family or circle of friends. I highly recommend to watch this video. Thank you for sharing, Mr. Gerlach.
I was 'misdiagnosed' with bipolar ll 5 years ago and given drugs for symptoms, i have learned thru' much personal research and soul searching that i more than likely fall into this area of diagnosis. after my mom died late last year i began to 'see' reality beyond the illusions i was taught to believe. I am grappling with these 'new' facts and slowly accepting them for their truths. my problem now is my rage which i seem to have accumulated toward both my dead parent and the still living one
I thought your idea of family therapy was good in theory but that would require the parents (abusers) to admit there actions/ part they played. I was the scapegoat, I am trying to recover from CPTSD I tried confronting my mom with journal entries that talked about abuse I received as a kid. She said she would never allow anything like that to happen, just totally shut me down. My point is it's great but I know my family would never be a part of it. I do very much enjoy & find your videos very informative.
I think the specific method he is referring to: 'Internal Family Systems Therapy' would be more like dealing with the mother -inside you-, inside you're own mind. But I'm still learning about this myself.
I really respect and admire what you're doing and I am uploading right now a video pretty much explaining my past traumas. If at all possible, I would really like to hear what you have to say even if you don't watch the entire 1 hour video which details my childhood up until now at 24. It will be on my channel under the most recent video uploads. I was watching Tony Robbins and then saw your video in the recommended and I am just trying to figure out how I can move forward with my life.
thanks Peter. you're videos are very informative and helpful. i'm definitely a GWC.
How do I 'expel' this immense, intense, uncontrollable rage without hurting the very few, count on one hand, people left in my life that i love? I can't hold it back much longer, i must get rid of it. but i can't cause harm. going for a walk 'aint gonna do it' any advice is greatly appreciated. thank you . much respect to you.
Laurie Pinkney try creativity. Maybe more intense exercise.
I was effected as a child in so many ways, I was not a veteran, but my father was a ww2 vet who Im sure had ptsd and through his violence towards me passed on many bad experiences. It had a long term profound effect on my life, so extreme, that after my mother's passing at 22, I feel I have been running for the past 25 years. (unf, I also did not know how to deal with grief after her passing) I have started
this lesson 1 and hope to come back here and say how it has helped me. Thankyou for
this, and the time you have put into this to help those with psy. wounds.
Pace yourself as you work at online lesson 1 at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. If you keep a journal or log of your thoughts and feelings as you do, you'll be able to see the life-changes you make over time because of your work. "A day at a time"!
I don't know what you mean by "gaslighted."
Other people can only "make you feel bad(ly)" if your true Self is disabled, and you don't kniow how to assert your needs and boundaries effectiely. See leddons 1 and 2 here: sfhelp.org/site/course.htm...
Inshallah, you are well and active. My diagnosis is PTSD, though I did not get it in combat but from a childhood that was from hell. It will be interesting to see what you have to say.
What I have to say is: commit to healing by working patiently on online lesson 1 here: shelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
***** I am sorry. I think he has passed by now.
Wait...what?!
This therapy was recommended to me but the last thing I need is to have personalities talking to each other. This family system therapy sounds so freaking scary and like it’s going to hurt me even more.
They used DBT with me and it helped a lot. They also used Celexa, Welbutrin and Trazidone in huge doses and in retrospect the drug regimen was a disaster and only exacerbated the trauma. And, recently the Psych community and the drug companies have issued pseudo apologies for the disasters.
After 10 years, I consider myself to be mostly recovered.
You can confirm your recovery by using this comparison: sfhelp.org/gwc/compare.htm
Dr. Gerlach, I have just discovered your very informative videos. I have only listened to two and they are general and already my body is telling me that not only have I found something that can help both myself and my partner but that you are a very kind, generous and genuinely caring person. I have not known where to turn. My fiancee and I are having difficulties in our relationship. It is very loving and we are best friends and a confidante to each other. However, we both have had abusive childhoods, his sexual and mine physical and both verbally abused by our fathers as well. We are desperate for help because we don't want to lose the love we feel. It is slowly breaking down due to behaviours that undermine our love completely. We both suffer from depression and anxiety. We both are not able to hold down full time jobs. It is becoming unbearable our pain that has surfaced and we want to find a way to lessen it and become whole again as you speak of. We have been happy together but now it is becoming more difficult to maintain this as other forces take over. I have a feeling that they might be these sub identities you talk about. I can't wait to learn more. Thank you for making it available to the general public as we both are financially strapped and out of resources to turn to.
Vera, you two can help each other heal your inherited wounds by patiently applying online "lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm. Questions = welcome!
Thank you, reading and reading. I am feeling a lot of grief, it hurts in my chest so much. I am trying to feel it and breathe and cry a little but it is so intense and strong.
Also, I used to be part of a spiritual "new age" self help community and I found it didn't help me at all and actually made things worse. What is your opinion on all that is out there and why doesn't it work for me?
Vera Christ Vera, I encourage you o to study online "lesson 3" at sfhelp.org/grief/guide3,hm. tt's all about healthy mourning. Take it a day at a time, and seek supports.
Onlibe "lesson 1" will help each of you strengthen your relationship if you can work on it together: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm Questions = welcome.
Thanks. I cheer you on!
Very interesting... I'll be checking out your Videos. Thank you for the information. :)
thank you for your videos they are extremely informative and are helping me understand myself . thank you so much
Thank you and many BlesSings.
Rage is a healthy part of normal grief. It sounds like you're grieving the loss of some important old illusions. I encourage you to study online "lesson 1" at sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm for healing options
Thanks for your feedback. If you're a childhood-trauma survivor, I encouraghe you to patiently study this free online lesson about recovery: sfhelp.org/gwc/guiode1.htm.
Thank you Doctor. can you please let me know where do you practice?
At age 6.5 i was left alone in dark for a long time. My family left me at disney in the dark to go on a ride. I cried for an hour after. I felt abandoned. They dont remember. Im sure its not a false memory. Hard to say how long the time was i was alone. Children cant judge rime well. Maybe it was 2 min or 20. Who knows. Most likelly several as they went on the ride and the line and left me outside the building and left me alone in the park.
I was abused as kid. Not only thing
How is your healing going?
Great question.... Dr, gma617 is describing a newer term for emotional abuse from a significant other, gaslighting is basically when they maniplate you by intentionally saying things they know will make you feel bad. I was wondering about this as well.
Thanks, very interesting. Been reading some 'nature vs nurture' articles and was wondering what your thoughts were on genetic effects on our personalities? and/or Steven Pinker's "The Blank Slate"?
Thank you Gerlach. You explain this very well. I don't think my co-workers understand this. Another problem is I'm sick of explaining myself and I only talk about it when the stress is low..otherwise it can trigger flash backs by talking about it. I'm at the point I'm so irritabel at my environments that I refusert to talk about it. I have a fuck you all attitude.
I feel exactly the same way. I feel so much stress at work that I shut down and avoid interactions with my coworkers. A lot of them misunderstand and think I'm arrogant. Many won't understand even if I told them so I just keep to myself and have that fuck u attitude
In my opinion, yes.
I see it very differently.
Thank you ❤ rip ❤
Thanks Mr. Gerlach for all this information. What is the truth about depersonalization ? is it a subself that takes over ?
I believe so.
Thanks so much.
Could a person have ptsd from living with a person who physically ""gaslighted"" them for many years?
Yes, I'm not a professional but I think any kind of abuse whether that be physical, verbal impacts the brain and I believe mental disorders that people are diagnosed with are these subs elves he talks about. The brain just adapts differently based on the symptoms someone experiences, but essentially the root is the same, just manifests in different ways. I was gas lighted as well probably not as severely because I still doubt that I went through that, but I can say it has an impact. I hope I answered your question and I'm sorry you went through that or are going through it.
I again propose "PTSD" is not the real problem - underlying psychological wounds are. See sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm and sfhelp.org/gwc/1_traits.htm..
I've only read a synopsis but from what I understand, he rejects the notion that parenting style and environment have a significant effect on human character.
I see people in Portland Oregon, and consult via phone and Skype.
Thank you x
Work to promote your grief over what you have lost (lesson 3), and see this artricle:about USING anger sfhelp.org/relate/anger.htm.
I suspect but dont know how genes may affect endocrine, limbic,and brain development and function (i.e. personalities). Even so, I suspect early-childhood environment has a larger effect. Im not familiar with Pinker's work - what's his thesis?.
had it since I was a little kid
I have got a friend who has recently been diagnosed PTSD and offered EMDR treatment, would it work out to relive the stress he is through?
BINGO!!!!!!!! He hit the nail on the head!!!!
Thank you I have been working on myself for the past 6 years, it's been really hard to heal and seems like every time something else comes out, so PTSD is there any way to fully heal?
thank you
im no therapist but seriously consider getting a concealed carry permit and really learning how to use your weapon, it might help. forget about all the years of indoctrination designed to teach you that guns are evil, (assuming you think this) if you know you are a good person and you know that guns dont shoot people on their own than you will see through the lies. Everyone has the right to be able to defend themselves.
Good for you - you can do this! Lesson 1 can help: sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
Makes me sad to see your doing your videos in a nursing home room
Ah. I wonder how he supports that position in the face of a LOT of evidence to the contrary.
I was diagnosed Asperger's,PTSD, Major depression, and panic disorder w/o agoraphobia. I have lost jobs by just yelling screw this and saying F you all.
But the PTSD explained almost every symptom, So I may only have Ptsd.
they say asperger's have hard time with body language. that is true for me except when it comes to reading body language related to combat or self defense. that body language seems amplified and drowns out all the other body language. My brother used to attack me w.o warning
But what you call parental abuse or neglect isn't what it really is? Because people/parents can't control what other people do to their children? That's a bit unfair and also I believe you have to be a certain type of personality for trauma to really affect & debillitate you, I'm talking from experience, my own.
@debberDDT..
Some of your videos are helpful but in all honesty i feel as though you are making excuses for abusers. To be an abuseris a choice. None of us in this world had a perfect childhood but majority of us still choose to do the right thing
gma617 if i had to guess, I think his approach/focus is solution based instead of blaming therefore I disagree that he is making excused for abusers. The goal is to heal and not blame.
Ok dude - I watched another video of yours and this one made me want to punch a wall. Psychotherapy and psychiatry are "limited"? Are you joking? It's traditional because IT IS EFFECTIVE! Other methods of therapy have been around a LOT longer, and for some reason we seem to be going back to modern therapy and psychiatry. I am not saying take medication and that its. Take medication if you need to to help dull the effects, and work on yourself in therapy, until you die. The fact that you have the audacity to apply your "awesome methods" of bullshit on your website to returning veterans is pretty offensive. You do not have conclusive evidence to support your claims that your methods work. You do not have proper data to back up your "sub-self" theory. And giving returning veterans (and all, but especially them, like I once was) a misguided approach to getting help is sickening. Psychiatry and psychology are "science based" because they have evidence to prove that it is effect. Not a bad website, a web cam, and a "holistic approach" to mental health - But actual evidence, patients, and medical history. You should post the "Truth About Being a Jedi Knight" next. I'd be really interested to hear that one.
Apparently you have survived early-childhood trauma. This is about you: sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm
+John S Wow... yeah, your response says a lot about you... I hope you get some good help, you need it. I feel for you, but I hope to god that you take care of yourself and get some way to manage your trauma. Peace to you.
Is there a chance you've suffered early trauma in your life because I detect attack mode on this gentleman and defensiveness. Hope you get the healing you need
Why is it that the more I try to heal, the more pain I experience in my body, that betrays me daily?
Just a thought because I experience the same thing. Because your focusing on it to much and it’s all your doing instead of doing other things like hobbies. Life is more than just healing it’s also about living. You might also be in a rush led by the ego to get out of pain and live life. So your adding pain to pain instead of it just being pain. Again this is just my opinion.