Melissa sobbing at the piano... gets me every time. I watched this when it aired and it's still a work of art all these years later. "But I got better..." is exactly what survivor's guilt sounds like.
Melissa sobbing at the piano is what gets me every time. The guilt that she must have been feeling for letting their fight be the last thing between them.😢
This is one of those TV moments that's always stayed with me. I still remember Michael telling Hope, "Gary's dead," and my wife jumping up from the couch shouting , "WHAT???!!!" A completely shocking and out-of-left-field moment in TV history. The acting was nothing short of brilliant...down to the quiet acting of Elliot and the look of total devastation on his face at the tragic loss of their friend.
Mir läuft es immer noch kalt den Rücken runter wenn ich diese Musik höre und Melissas Schmerz am Klavier ist eine Glanzleistung. Ken Olin hat als Regisseur tolle Arbeit geleistet ❗👏
@@sgvlfamily So do I. This was a critically acclaimed show that was taken off the air too soon. I still cry when I re-watch this episode. Gary's death was the saddest episode of any major character dying on any show. Sid from Knots Landing was second, but not a close second.
This episode is STILL front of mind every time I get in my car, and the reason I try to keep an ample distance between me and the cars around me, especially in front.
still as devastatingly sad as the night we all crowded into one dorm room to watch. i was as in love with gary as anyone could be with a tv character and his relationship with melissa broke my heart!!
This clip reminds me how much I loved & hated this show. Loved Ken Olin's acting and how hard his character tried to hold himself together while trying to comfort everyone else. But I hated the character of Hope. So selfish, spoiled & completely out of touch with anyone else's feelings. That monologue to Elliot about not knowing what to do & that she could not be a comfort........her husband just lost his best friend, he had to go alone to the morgue & identify his body not to mention tell his wife what happened & Hope made it all about her. Then in the next episode with Gary's funeral she told one of her friends she could not listen to Melissa cry anymore. Just utterly selfish & cold. It reminded why so many critics said this show was nothing but whining. But I was so devastated by the storyline twist of expecting Nancy to die & out of nowhere it was Gary who did. I do not remember being so shocked & grief stricken by a show & the death of a character until 10 years later with GH's aids storyline with Stone.
@simply live simply I completely agree with you about Hope, too. I also remember her comment about Melissa's crying. If I recall correctly she said it in the kitchen, just like her talk with Elliot in this episode. Maybe it's the kitchen? LOL just kidding. She was truly a terrible character. I was in college when this show aired & me and my roommates were appalled when Hope's parents visited and she was so textbook-hated her mother but loved her father, who she still called "daddy". Any woman over the age of 20 still calling her father "daddy" has serious issues LOL.
Appreciate your thoughts Hope. I loved the show when it originally aired. Watching this in 2022 - I'm struck by how much of a caretaker she is expected to be, by everyone else and also by herself. She starts the day by looking after after Elliot and Nancy's kids, along with her own. She puts her heart and soul into it. Then she's helping to make a little "cancer free" party for Nancy. After Hope finds out about Gary, Elliot brings his kids back to her house. How late is it now? Likely the original plan was for the kids to stay over, so she's back on duty with them. Then she's running around asking people if they want coffee or food. And after all that, she has to tell her best friend about Gary's death. It's a lot. If I were her I would have nothing left at that point. Yes she is whiny. But maybe she has no idea she can say no to any of these duties. I would have let Elliot tell Ellyn. He offered. Regarding Melissa - she's over at their house starting the night of Gary's death, and maybe for several more days more if we count in time to prepare for the funeral. What if Melissa has done nothing but cry at their house that entire time, and Hope is making sure she's eating, has a bed and clean towels, all the rest. Hope and Michael likely participate in planning the service and host people after. Her comment about the endless crying is cold, but I can understand being resentful. And again, could she tell Melissa she needs to go back to her place? Of course, but maybe she didn't feel like she could.
Wow, so intense and achingly deep, even after all this time. And the fact that he was in a car because everyone was worried about his safety on his bike. Epic writing.
@@infinityotto Levin's music is beautiful yet haunting in the context of this episode. Reminds us all of how helpless we are when things such as this happen in our lives; that we are powerless to stop them.
This is only for nostaglic purposes and was converted from 1980's VHS Cassette.. If you want the DVD, perhaps you should shop on Amazon and buy it. By the way, a "Thank You" would have been nice as you still seeme to watch it. I really dislike trolls.
Melissa sobbing at the piano... gets me every time. I watched this when it aired and it's still a work of art all these years later. "But I got better..." is exactly what survivor's guilt sounds like.
@carriannenyc Melissa sobbing was heart wrenching but so was the last scene watching Gary ride away on his bike.....I sobbed. It broke my heart.
Yup. That was the most intense part of the whole thing tome, too. It looked so real.....❤️
…and that haunting, beautiful music
Melissa sobbing at the piano is what gets me every time. The guilt that she must have been feeling for letting their fight be the last thing between them.😢
33 years later. I've watched this over a dozen times. Still get chocked up. Seminal acting on everyone's part.
This is one of those TV moments that's always stayed with me. I still remember Michael telling Hope, "Gary's dead," and my wife jumping up from the couch shouting , "WHAT???!!!" A completely shocking and out-of-left-field moment in TV history.
The acting was nothing short of brilliant...down to the quiet acting of Elliot and the look of total devastation on his face at the tragic loss of their friend.
Mir läuft es immer noch kalt den Rücken runter wenn ich diese Musik höre und Melissas Schmerz am Klavier ist eine Glanzleistung. Ken Olin hat als Regisseur tolle Arbeit geleistet ❗👏
Her reading Alice at the end is one of the best ever dramatic endings on TV.
I agree. Another is the ending to the movie 'A Summer Story'. Conveys extreme emotion and regret without a word spoken. Utterly transfixing.
Some of the finest acting of that decade
Nancy's "but I got better" was so heartbreaking.
I cried buckets when this aired. No such thing as spoilers back then, and writers didn’t kill off major characters either.
This episode still guts me to this day. 🖤😭
Still heartbreaking. The writing was perfect and the performances speak for themselves.
Thanks for watching and your comments. I still watch this show on DVD now.
@@sgvlfamily So do I. This was a critically acclaimed show that was taken off the air too soon. I still cry when I re-watch this episode. Gary's death was the saddest episode of any major character dying on any show. Sid from Knots Landing was second, but not a close second.
@@sgvlfamily I did not realize it was on DVD. I thought it was not available. I will have to look for it. Thanks for the info.
This episode is STILL front of mind every time I get in my car, and the reason I try to keep an ample distance between me and the cars around me, especially in front.
still as devastatingly sad as the night we all crowded into one dorm room to watch. i was as in love with gary as anyone could be with a tv character and his relationship with melissa broke my heart!!
This clip reminds me how much I loved & hated this show. Loved Ken Olin's acting and how hard his character tried to hold himself together while trying to comfort everyone else. But I hated the character of Hope. So selfish, spoiled & completely out of touch with anyone else's feelings. That monologue to Elliot about not knowing what to do & that she could not be a comfort........her husband just lost his best friend, he had to go alone to the morgue & identify his body not to mention tell his wife what happened & Hope made it all about her. Then in the next episode with Gary's funeral she told one of her friends she could not listen to Melissa cry anymore. Just utterly selfish & cold. It reminded why so many critics said this show was nothing but whining. But I was so devastated by the storyline twist of expecting Nancy to die & out of nowhere it was Gary who did. I do not remember being so shocked & grief stricken by a show & the death of a character until 10 years later with GH's aids storyline with Stone.
Couldn't agree more about Hope. She's even more icky all these years later....
@@carolnacarato4448 LOL icky is the word I could not find. Thanks for that!!!
@simply live simply I completely agree with you about Hope, too. I also remember her comment about Melissa's crying. If I recall correctly she said it in the kitchen, just like her talk with Elliot in this episode. Maybe it's the kitchen? LOL just kidding. She was truly a terrible character. I was in college when this show aired & me and my roommates were appalled when Hope's parents visited and she was so textbook-hated her mother but loved her father, who she still called "daddy". Any woman over the age of 20 still calling her father "daddy" has serious issues LOL.
@@francescadesmond8846 all my siblings always called our parents mommy and daddy all our lives..maybe you have daddy issues
Appreciate your thoughts Hope. I loved the show when it originally aired. Watching this in 2022 - I'm struck by how much of a caretaker she is expected to be, by everyone else and also by herself. She starts the day by looking after after Elliot and Nancy's kids, along with her own. She puts her heart and soul into it. Then she's helping to make a little "cancer free" party for Nancy. After Hope finds out about Gary, Elliot brings his kids back to her house. How late is it now? Likely the original plan was for the kids to stay over, so she's back on duty with them. Then she's running around asking people if they want coffee or food. And after all that, she has to tell her best friend about Gary's death. It's a lot. If I were her I would have nothing left at that point. Yes she is whiny. But maybe she has no idea she can say no to any of these duties. I would have let Elliot tell Ellyn. He offered. Regarding Melissa - she's over at their house starting the night of Gary's death, and maybe for several more days more if we count in time to prepare for the funeral. What if Melissa has done nothing but cry at their house that entire time, and Hope is making sure she's eating, has a bed and clean towels, all the rest. Hope and Michael likely participate in planning the service and host people after. Her comment about the endless crying is cold, but I can understand being resentful. And again, could she tell Melissa she needs to go back to her place? Of course, but maybe she didn't feel like she could.
When TV shows were awesome!! I cried like my foot had gotten ran over, when this aired!
Wie ich diese Serie geliebt habe ♥️
Gary was always my favorite. It was so sad Gary and Melissa never made up before his death.
Wow, so intense and achingly deep, even after all this time. And the fact that he was in a car because everyone was worried about his safety on his bike. Epic writing.
Wow, blast from the past. I watched this series.❤
It's interesting that nobody said that Gary had been killed. They all say he died.
This ripped me up
so they are saying that man through medical science - to be generous secondary causaltity, saves nancy and God takes Gary.
Need to find what the name of that song is playing?
SECOND LOOK by Stewart Levin. Available on the 'thirtysomething' Soundtrack cd.
@@infinityotto Levin's music is beautiful yet haunting in the context of this episode. Reminds us all of how helpless we are when things such as this happen in our lives; that we are powerless to stop them.
I hever noticed the microphone drop while Nancy opened the book...
Don't make shows like this anymore....
This was the first This is us 😭😭😭
I didn't like hope
Hope was the most obnoxious character on the show.
The video on this is muddy. Can't someone load a better copy?
This is only for nostaglic purposes and was converted from 1980's VHS Cassette.. If you want the DVD, perhaps you should shop on Amazon and buy it. By the way, a "Thank You" would have been nice as you still seeme to watch it. I really dislike trolls.
@@sgvlfamily LOL. Bravo. And thank you for uploading this.