This was so helpful because sometimes I think we all feel alone in this trying to see what’s normal and not and different ways to deal with your growing children
And that's exactly why I started summarising these amazing books. You are most definitely not alone but we forget that these phases are temporary when we are in the middle of it. So glad this video was helpful to you :)
@@dianavarona7144I’m worried mine may have adhd. She also is extremely sensitive. I have adhd. I notice she zones out like I do and always done when I was a kid. She doesn’t want to focus on something unless she is very interested. Anything not super interesting to her, she has a very hard time doing it. Did they medicate yours?
"The 5 year old wants to be good. The 5 year old is quieter, more pulled in" - wtf happened with MY 5 year old then? She tests me every second of every day. I've never been an angrier person than I am around her. My 7 year old is terrific.
Thank you so very much for creating this well thought out concise video describing the typical five-year-old. Caring for my great niece for a month has me stopping by to see what you had to say and am relieved that my five year-old great niece is quite typical then.😅
This is the opposite of my 5 year old she contradicts me in almost everything. Almost any activity we do she will fight me on it and when possible I do it her way but sometimes we can’t do it her way and then she’s mad starts to yell at me I don’t know what to do
Sorry for not coming back to you sooner on this. The timing of regulation/dysregulation isn't an exact science and every child is different. I hope you turned a corner with her now
Thanks 👍 this was very helpful for me I have a 4 year old about to be 5 very smart and intelligent thanks 👍 allot for help first time mom here I learn alot everyday thank you Jesus for my little blessing ❤❤
Struggling with my 5 year old. She never disrespects me really. But she does with dad. She'd really an amazing child. Just takes SO long to do things despite being given smaller choices. She pretends she doesn't know things.. but I know she knows. I don't get it.
Thank you for the information. I have a 5 year old daughter that just cant seem to want to focus or listen. We just had another baby so i understand the jealously along with starting kindergarten is overwhelming her. Ill try to apply some of your advice
I have the same issue and feel I despair. I am already sleep deprived going on 1 year with my 13 months old. My 5 year old is draining me beyond my strength with his crying, tantrums, not listening, defiance, everyday is a battle. I just wish things can get better.
Thank you Anna! Uffff, I feel relieved! My 5.5 yo is so nice and says "yes" rather then "no" . And she is so much in "I love you mummy" : -). I really like what you do Anna, this is such an amazing, inspiring and interesting work.
I really need this video at this point. My kid turn 5 soon and i can tell his behaviour is really different from previous months 🥺. I came to found out that he is not listening at school and saying bad words.
Hang in there, you've got this 💪 In my experience half the problem is that teachers don't seem to be aware that this is typical behaviour for 5yo. Stay calm and don't fall into shame. It's not your parenting or your child but a phase to get through. Keep talking to your child about what isn't acceptable behaviour and try to have a dialogue to understand why they are acting this way. There is usually always a trigger.
Yeah and the way how the asst. Teacher told me "Your son is naugty and doesnt want to listen" broke my heart coz at home he does listen. 😔 Thank you Ana for your kind advice i will try my best to follow your advice ❤️🥰 God bless you.
@@anarivera203 don't hesitate to advocate for your son and tell the teacher that you don't have this issue at home. It sounds like it's a school/teacher issue. I highly recommend you watch the summary I did of the Explosive Child as it provides a great framework to have an open and honest conversation with your child so he feels safe to open up. I bet he had a reason for this behaviour and once you understand it, you will be able to talk to him about healthier way to deal with each situation. Good luck!
@@GrowwithAnnaB i Will lool for the video now, thank you Anna ❤️ after i watched this video yesterday i feel lil bit relieve, i will try my best to understand him more and more.
So glad you found this video in this moment of need. I also highly recommend this video as it has helped me so much and I explain how and why it's helped me. Hang in there, you've got this! ruclips.net/video/ksQZXGztvfg/видео.html
Alors il faut profiter de l'âge de 5 ans à fond !!! L'idée de mettre l'enfant à l'école seulement quand il est prêt et pas forcément parce qu'il a l'âge est une idée super intéressante mais quel parent ira dans ce sens au risque de faire "perdre" une année par rapport à ses pairs ? Je demande à voir, il y a toujours cette forte pression sociale. Merci pour ce travail
En Australie beaucoup de parents le font, d’attendre une année supplémentaire (si ils peuvent) pour leur enfant. Mais en France effectivement il y a encore beaucoup à faire pour changer les mentalités
Thank you so much for this great video! It gave me so much reassurance and comfort. My 5 year old recently turned 6 and I would be very keen to know your input on that age.
So glad you found this video when you needed it! I also have a video about 6 year olds - all these videos can be found on my 'Child Development' playlist
Hey Sabrina, without having a lot of details I would suggest you have a lot of 1:1 discussions with your 13yo where you remain open and curious to understand what's pushing him to do this. There is a feeling underneath his behaviour - does he feel left out? Is he jealous of his sibling? Does he feel disconnected from you? My biggest parenting tip for anyone is to have A LOT OF DISCUSSIONS. Talking is how we resolve anything, especially with a pre-teen. Hope this helps!
On top of that I would also try to foster the fact that you are all a TEAM. That your boys are a team but also all of you as a family. This sense that you all have each other's back and that family is the safe haven you need in this world. Again it's another discussion with your 13yo. Good luck!
I think you should trust your instinct on this. If it happens from time to time but at other times they are pleasant and regulated I wouldn't be concerned. If it's been all the time for many years to the point you don't enjoy your child anymore, it's probably worth getting an assessment. But I would also talk to educators or school teachers to get their opinion on it as they can see these things clearly since they can compare with many children. Also just to add one last thing, I would see if I could identify triggers like food or screen times as there are often triggers that can be removed. It's not all a development phase. Hope this helps!
@@GrowwithAnnaB this child is 16 and still doesn’t respect other people’s things. The behavior wasn’t addressed as a younger child because parents didn’t want to “make a big deal out of it” but it has caused issues later.
i apolgize for the long story comment. but, school boards and amdinistrators and well the government here in US need to go back to child centered play based. over 10 years ago most states have to follow common core standards which are not developmentally appropriate. kindergarteners including my nephew currently a student are expected to read at an 6 and half year old level of reading by end of school year. then there a math requirement. children are getting worksheets in class and oh teachers have to assign homework sometimes up to 40 mins a night. my major in study was child development/ECE. now kinders have to read to the test yep they are tested for reading end of year. Kindergarten is not mandatory in my state. i am sure my nephew is normal five year old you described. it;s so bad like lot of pre schools and pre-k's are now academic based. oh i heard some schools had to cancel recess active play outside and most classrooms don't have block area or dramatic play cetener. it's more circle times and for longer periods of time. i know a kindergarten classroom should be full of noise from children with lot's of movement. the teachers know too but the law says they have follow these type common core standards. so if a 5 year old is held back in kindergarten because of reading issue idk that sad because the child is acting his/her age but have to be labeled. i have seen around on internet some children in kindergarten needing tutors for them.unbelievable. and some also needing therapists. no wonder mental health is a big issue. i even remember having bit more play even in first grade. these days 1st grade is new second grade people have termed it. I worry about my nephew to pass kinder because unlike most of his class(assuming) have had pre school and or pre-k education,he hasn't. not sure why the school admins at most schools are not forced to take a child development course but they should have too. the common core was supposed to be because of competition with education like in Asian countries. lot of children there are pushed and pushed go go go like how do they catch a breath. it's so sad because i know my nephew has missed a crucial time in development for social emotional learning development because well during pandemic and the whole no gatherings "law" he had only been around immediate fam like 9 of us. children are losing their sense of wonder because it's lessons,homework,sit be quiet and even some schools have gotten rid of arts. testing scores and competition seem to only matter but i know lot of teachers are trying to keep some fun as much as possible. imagine going to college and studying ECE, then after graduating land a post as teacher and then bam this is what you need to teach these children too. wanting to read at age 5 is a normal wonder even if they are not developmentally ready. my nephew on car rides has child tablet to "read to self picture books. i think exploring reading would be nice to learn in kindergarten but keep expectation of every child to read by age 6 and half about average age sometimes even 7 is better so i have heard. Classrooms should be full of toys and paint easles sand tables and playdough tables. my younger sis the child's mother had a kindergarten more like mine from 1987 mostly play based and half day. my nephew attends full day(about 7 hrs/5 days a week). i know that 5 year olds are still developing certain motor skills that 6 year old would have. no wonder i hear about meltdowns in small children in ECE being stifled in school and the whole homework thing. no one likes homework but in 5 year olds should be illegal. at 5 and til 2nd grade i used to eat school paste it was legit flour water and mint extract(non toxic) i am sure i wasn't the only one. my nephew is a very active lil boy he loves his recess and i m not sure if he started physical education class yet. i think he will thrive there esp. I asked my nephew yesterday what book did you're teacher read to while in class. He told me no book no stories. i was in shock even with common core story time is also very important for the children. i know even with hardships that my nephew really needs school. i feel bad that teachers have to do more to plan in curriculum on ways to put some fun in the lessons, no child should have to hate going to primary school(except bullying cases) the only issue that had me in tears til end of high school but starting in third grade was math. i had IEP. i mostly liked school though and there wasn't lot of homework but i want to say i def got more homework in 6th to 8th(middle schools)than high school and even college. last 2 years of high school were actually enjoyable for me and so was attending college classes.
Anna, I like very much your videos, but reading a book isn't wasting time. Did you read them? Did you waste time? Still thank you for your videisw, it's nice to see someone else's view of them.
I hear what you are saying because I love reading books but to give you context when this video was recorded, many parents in Australia (where I live) had been in a 7 month lockdown where they had to work full time from home, not go further than 5km from their house and 'homeschool' their children too. They had to do it all with no support. So this channel is mainly for parents who are so overwhelmed they cannot find the energy to pick up a book, I want to give them hope. But I do know some of my subscribers are those who also read and want to hear my perspective and I love that too ❤️
@@GrowwithAnnaB That's super nice of you! I'd only use the word "spend time" instead of "waste time", then. I like all your books commented that I heard. Thank you for making this channel and for answering my comment.
The periods of regulation/dysregulation aren't exact and fluctuate in timing but if you watch my 3 year old video, it's also a difficult age. As mentioned in these videos, every child is different and this info is to be taken with a huge grain of salt, it's simply to normalise that children continue to go through regular periods of dysregulation beyond the 'wonder weeks' that we are so familiar with for babies
This was so helpful because sometimes I think we all feel alone in this trying to see what’s normal and not and different ways to deal with your growing children
And that's exactly why I started summarising these amazing books. You are most definitely not alone but we forget that these phases are temporary when we are in the middle of it. So glad this video was helpful to you :)
I don't feel so alone now, I have a 5 year old and it feels good to be reassured his behavior is normal
I'm so glad this video gave you the reassurance you needed
This is so helpful, makes me so happy to see my autistic 5 year old almost fitting into all these typical behavior expectations
So glad you found this video helpful and reassuring
My daughter is 5.5 years old. She is very sensitive and the slightest thing can set her off crying. She can get very upset over the simplest things.
My second child is also quite sensitive and went through the same around that age. Sending you strength and patience.
Same here!
My 5 year old is similar however mine was diagnosed with ADHD.
@@dianavarona7144I’m worried mine may have adhd. She also is extremely sensitive. I have adhd. I notice she zones out like I do and always done when I was a kid. She doesn’t want to focus on something unless she is very interested. Anything not super interesting to her, she has a very hard time doing it. Did they medicate yours?
"The 5 year old wants to be good. The 5 year old is quieter, more pulled in" - wtf happened with MY 5 year old then? She tests me every second of every day. I've never been an angrier person than I am around her. My 7 year old is terrific.
The period of regulation is followed by a period of dysregulation. It's not an exact science that they do it right on 5.5yo. For some it's earlier.
Thank you so very much for creating this well thought out concise video describing the typical five-year-old.
Caring for my great niece for a month has me stopping by to see what you had to say and am relieved that my five year-old great niece is quite typical then.😅
@@dianastoevelaar9548 it's so reassuring isn't it?! 😂
This is the opposite of my 5 year old she contradicts me in almost everything. Almost any activity we do she will fight me on it and when possible I do it her way but sometimes we can’t do it her way and then she’s mad starts to yell at me I don’t know what to do
Sorry for not coming back to you sooner on this. The timing of regulation/dysregulation isn't an exact science and every child is different. I hope you turned a corner with her now
Thanks 👍 this was very helpful for me I have a 4 year old about to be 5 very smart and intelligent thanks 👍 allot for help first time mom here I learn alot everyday thank you Jesus for my little blessing ❤❤
Thank u for this video it really helped for parent like me who always think why my child doing this please continue with others video too
This made me fell so much better.
I'm so glad to hear that!
Struggling with my 5 year old. She never disrespects me really. But she does with dad. She'd really an amazing child. Just takes SO long to do things despite being given smaller choices. She pretends she doesn't know things.. but I know she knows. I don't get it.
Hope you've turned a corner with her ❤️
This was really helpful. I’m watching a friends 5 year old today and I’m trying to prepare!
You are such a wonderful friend for wanting to understand child development!
That was great and extremely helpful, thank you 🙏🏽
You are so welcome. So glad to hear this video was helpful
Anna- I have just found you and I love you! Your condensed and helpful information is so appreciated! New sub here!
@@hannahkiwi172 so glad you are finding this content helpful!
Thank you for the information. I have a 5 year old daughter that just cant seem to want to focus or listen. We just had another baby so i understand the jealously along with starting kindergarten is overwhelming her. Ill try to apply some of your advice
That's definitely a lot of change for her. I would also suggest talking to her teacher to see how she is doing in class?
I have the same issue and feel I despair. I am already sleep deprived going on 1 year with my 13 months old. My 5 year old is draining me beyond my strength with his crying, tantrums, not listening, defiance, everyday is a battle.
I just wish things can get better.
Thank you Anna! Uffff, I feel relieved! My 5.5 yo is so nice and says "yes" rather then "no" . And she is so much in "I love you mummy" : -). I really like what you do Anna, this is such an amazing, inspiring and interesting work.
It’s such a lovely age, enjoy! And I’m glad you’ve found this video interesting ❤️
Thank you .gosh it's such I valuable I formation...I saw one of behaviours in my child..
It can be so reassuring isn't it?! So glad you found this video when you needed it
I really need this video at this point. My kid turn 5 soon and i can tell his behaviour is really different from previous months 🥺. I came to found out that he is not listening at school and saying bad words.
Hang in there, you've got this 💪 In my experience half the problem is that teachers don't seem to be aware that this is typical behaviour for 5yo. Stay calm and don't fall into shame. It's not your parenting or your child but a phase to get through. Keep talking to your child about what isn't acceptable behaviour and try to have a dialogue to understand why they are acting this way. There is usually always a trigger.
Yeah and the way how the asst. Teacher told me "Your son is naugty and doesnt want to listen" broke my heart coz at home he does listen. 😔
Thank you Ana for your kind advice i will try my best to follow your advice ❤️🥰 God bless you.
@@anarivera203 don't hesitate to advocate for your son and tell the teacher that you don't have this issue at home. It sounds like it's a school/teacher issue. I highly recommend you watch the summary I did of the Explosive Child as it provides a great framework to have an open and honest conversation with your child so he feels safe to open up. I bet he had a reason for this behaviour and once you understand it, you will be able to talk to him about healthier way to deal with each situation. Good luck!
@@GrowwithAnnaB i Will lool for the video now, thank you Anna ❤️ after i watched this video yesterday i feel lil bit relieve, i will try my best to understand him more and more.
Very informative
I was feeling horrible earlier because i got so angry with my 5yo 😢going to do my best to keep my kool. I appreciate this video. 🙏
So glad you found this video in this moment of need. I also highly recommend this video as it has helped me so much and I explain how and why it's helped me. Hang in there, you've got this!
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Thank u for this amazing videos! Hopefully you can upload age 7yrs old pls. 🙏🙏🙏
Alors il faut profiter de l'âge de 5 ans à fond !!! L'idée de mettre l'enfant à l'école seulement quand il est prêt et pas forcément parce qu'il a l'âge est une idée super intéressante mais quel parent ira dans ce sens au risque de faire "perdre" une année par rapport à ses pairs ? Je demande à voir, il y a toujours cette forte pression sociale.
Merci pour ce travail
En Australie beaucoup de parents le font, d’attendre une année supplémentaire (si ils peuvent) pour leur enfant. Mais en France effectivement il y a encore beaucoup à faire pour changer les mentalités
My 5 year old's the opposite of this
My five year old is nothing like this .....
Great job, thanks for the amazing effort Anna
You are so welcome. So glad this video was helpful
I’m so happy that I’ve found your channel Anna ! Thank you so much! I’m telling all of my mom friends about you :)
I’m so glad you found me! And thank you so much for sharing with your friends ❤️
Thanks for the sharing
Very very helpful thank u so much ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are so welcome ❤️
Thank you so much for this great video! It gave me so much reassurance and comfort. My 5 year old recently turned 6 and I would be very keen to know your input on that age.
So glad you found this video when you needed it! I also have a video about 6 year olds - all these videos can be found on my 'Child Development' playlist
@@GrowwithAnnaB Found it! Thank you so very much. Hugely helpful!
My son has mild autism and mild adhd - this info description of a 5 year old must be for typical children.
Yes it is definitely for neuro-typical children. Ross Greene is a great resource for you if you don't know about him already
thanks, I appreciate your help 🙏🏻❤️
You’re welcome! Glad this video was helpful
Hello! I have 2 boys. One is 5 and the other is 13. The 13 year old influences the 5 year old, in a negative way towards me. Any tips?
Hey Sabrina, without having a lot of details I would suggest you have a lot of 1:1 discussions with your 13yo where you remain open and curious to understand what's pushing him to do this. There is a feeling underneath his behaviour - does he feel left out? Is he jealous of his sibling? Does he feel disconnected from you? My biggest parenting tip for anyone is to have A LOT OF DISCUSSIONS. Talking is how we resolve anything, especially with a pre-teen. Hope this helps!
On top of that I would also try to foster the fact that you are all a TEAM. That your boys are a team but also all of you as a family. This sense that you all have each other's back and that family is the safe haven you need in this world. Again it's another discussion with your 13yo. Good luck!
@@GrowwithAnnaB You are amazing. This all makes so much sense. Thank you for responding! I look forward to discussing this with my boys. 😊
Tank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Thank you!
You are so welcome!
When should a child outgrow the "typical behavior" of taking others things? At what point does it become a concern?
I think you should trust your instinct on this. If it happens from time to time but at other times they are pleasant and regulated I wouldn't be concerned. If it's been all the time for many years to the point you don't enjoy your child anymore, it's probably worth getting an assessment. But I would also talk to educators or school teachers to get their opinion on it as they can see these things clearly since they can compare with many children. Also just to add one last thing, I would see if I could identify triggers like food or screen times as there are often triggers that can be removed. It's not all a development phase. Hope this helps!
@@GrowwithAnnaB this child is 16 and still doesn’t respect other people’s things. The behavior wasn’t addressed as a younger child because parents didn’t want to “make a big deal out of it” but it has caused issues later.
Thnku very precise keep it up😊
You are so welcome. So glad this video helped you
How do we deal with 5.5 year old ?
Love your informative content.
So glad you are finding my videos helpful!
Same with my daughter 🥺😭 she’s now 7yrs old
Hang in there Cristina!
Thank you it really helped me
So glad to hear
My daughter turned 5 last week and is now chewing on her hair. On property rights, my wife's ring has gone missing... hide that stuff!!
Sometimes it happens like clockwork!
Thank you so much 😊
You are so welcome ❤️
Thank u
i apolgize for the long story comment. but, school boards and amdinistrators and well the government here in US need to go back to child centered play based. over 10 years ago most states have to follow common core standards which are not developmentally appropriate. kindergarteners including my nephew currently a student are expected to read at an 6 and half year old level of reading by end of school year. then there a math requirement. children are getting worksheets in class and oh teachers have to assign homework sometimes up to 40 mins a night. my major in study was child development/ECE. now kinders have to read to the test yep they are tested for reading end of year. Kindergarten is not mandatory in my state. i am sure my nephew is normal five year old you described. it;s so bad like lot of pre schools and pre-k's are now academic based. oh i heard some schools had to cancel recess active play outside and most classrooms don't have block area or dramatic play cetener. it's more circle times and for longer periods of time. i know a kindergarten classroom should be full of noise from children with lot's of movement. the teachers know too but the law says they have follow these type common core standards. so if a 5 year old is held back in kindergarten because of reading issue idk that sad because the child is acting his/her age but have to be labeled. i have seen around on internet some children in kindergarten needing tutors for them.unbelievable. and some also needing therapists. no wonder mental health is a big issue. i even remember having bit more play even in first grade. these days 1st grade is new second grade people have termed it. I worry about my nephew to pass kinder because unlike most of his class(assuming) have had pre school and or pre-k education,he hasn't. not sure why the school admins at most schools are not forced to take a child development course but they should have too. the common core was supposed to be because of competition with education like in Asian countries. lot of children there are pushed and pushed go go go like how do they catch a breath. it's so sad because i know my nephew has missed a crucial time in development for social emotional learning development because well during pandemic and the whole no gatherings "law" he had only been around immediate fam like 9 of us. children are losing their sense of wonder because it's lessons,homework,sit be quiet and even some schools have gotten rid of arts. testing scores and competition seem to only matter but i know lot of teachers are trying to keep some fun as much as possible. imagine going to college and studying ECE, then after graduating land a post as teacher and then bam this is what you need to teach these children too. wanting to read at age 5 is a normal wonder even if they are not developmentally ready. my nephew on car rides has child tablet to "read to self picture books. i think exploring reading would be nice to learn in kindergarten but keep expectation of every child to read by age 6 and half about average age sometimes even 7 is better so i have heard. Classrooms should be full of toys and paint easles sand tables and playdough tables. my younger sis the child's mother had a kindergarten more like mine from 1987 mostly play based and half day. my nephew attends full day(about 7 hrs/5 days a week). i know that 5 year olds are still developing certain motor skills that 6 year old would have. no wonder i hear about meltdowns in small children in ECE being stifled in school and the whole homework thing. no one likes homework but in 5 year olds should be illegal. at 5 and til 2nd grade i used to eat school paste it was legit flour water and mint extract(non toxic) i am sure i wasn't the only one. my nephew is a very active lil boy he loves his recess and i m not sure if he started physical education class yet. i think he will thrive there esp. I asked my nephew yesterday what book did you're teacher read to while in class. He told me no book no stories. i was in shock even with common core story time is also very important for the children. i know even with hardships that my nephew really needs school. i feel bad that teachers have to do more to plan in curriculum on ways to put some fun in the lessons, no child should have to hate going to primary school(except bullying cases) the only issue that had me in tears til end of high school but starting in third grade was math. i had IEP. i mostly liked school though and there wasn't lot of homework but i want to say i def got more homework in 6th to 8th(middle schools)than high school and even college. last 2 years of high school were actually enjoyable for me and so was attending college classes.
Well done
So glad you found this video helpful!
Thank you ✌️
You are most welcome!
Such a great idea
So glad you found this video helpful!
It is more than helpful it’s fantastic/ great presentation and explanations
Anna, I like very much your videos, but reading a book isn't wasting time. Did you read them? Did you waste time? Still thank you for your videisw, it's nice to see someone else's view of them.
I hear what you are saying because I love reading books but to give you context when this video was recorded, many parents in Australia (where I live) had been in a 7 month lockdown where they had to work full time from home, not go further than 5km from their house and 'homeschool' their children too. They had to do it all with no support. So this channel is mainly for parents who are so overwhelmed they cannot find the energy to pick up a book, I want to give them hope. But I do know some of my subscribers are those who also read and want to hear my perspective and I love that too ❤️
@@GrowwithAnnaB That's super nice of you! I'd only use the word "spend time" instead of "waste time", then. I like all your books commented that I heard. Thank you for making this channel and for answering my comment.
I’m feeling guilty .I just think my child is just a cry baby and who doesn’t want to here what I say❤❤❤
Parenting is so hard at times
This sounds like my 3 year old not 5 year old
The periods of regulation/dysregulation aren't exact and fluctuate in timing but if you watch my 3 year old video, it's also a difficult age. As mentioned in these videos, every child is different and this info is to be taken with a huge grain of salt, it's simply to normalise that children continue to go through regular periods of dysregulation beyond the 'wonder weeks' that we are so familiar with for babies
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Reading a book is not a waste of time!!!!!!
I agree with you but many many parents simply do not have the time to read in the early years - time is a precious commodity for them!
Please stop using "he", we need to move on from this