+a Girl for all seasons I got the impression from just the editing itself, there were quite a lot of things you wanted to say but didn't. I'm guessing it was a result of keeping it RUclips friendly. However, I think like a lot of transsexual people considering SRS, there are nitty gritty questions that would be good to address. I don't know if that is quite the purpose you meant for this video, but maybe personal messages? Keep up the good work. Your positivity is infectious and making my transition better for it :D
+In Tune Knitter There was a lot more I could have said but I wanted to keep this first version on the lighter side, plus I try to keep my videos to 5 mins max. It's a huge topic really, and something that I will come back to shortly - I don't like being too graphic but sure there's all kinds of details I could add. And will. Get ready for part II !! :D
+a Girl for all seasons I can't wait to see part 2, I have so many unanswered questions and am so nervous about my transition.. In this video you did help me have a better understanding but I too feel like there's more to it, do you have any way of contacting me?
+a Girl for all seasons so sex is more work you say? you ARE OFFICIALLY a women now! :) but you do look like you were born a women, and id also say u are quite beautiful! and congratz on the new you!
Charlie.....your careful description is so good. I doubt if many other TS would be so honest in their versions. You are looking wonderful. I wish you well on this exciting and long-awaited road.
Charlie, thank you for this video. I'm 6 months post-op and, as you are telling us, learning one's body after the surgery is without question, a learning process. I'm still searching for my first climax, and it's simply not as easy as it was pre-transition. But I'm so much happier now, that there is no reason for regret, and I'm sure it will happen before too much longer.
You don’t understand how helpful this video is! I just got SRS last Monday it’s been a roller coaster to say the least but this was one of my main worries but hearing you talk about how sex will eventually feel good makes me feel more at peace! Obvi rn I can’t have sex yet n everything is still very swollen n different than it’ll look when it’s healed but it’s nice to hear others experiences so thank you 🤍
I am a 67 year old straight male. Happly married for 30 years. I think the talk you gave is wonderful and heart ❤ felt. You are obviously attractive and honest. All the best in your new life.
Charlie, you are so insightful as you discuss each topic that you deal with in your life, whether it be a very personal on such as your transition in what sexuality has meant during your transition to your worklife to your family relationships during transitions to the meaning of your new career in auto racing. I find your discussions very full of important and thoughtful points of learning and meaning and these points are very important in that they generalize into all of our lives, gay, straight, cis, trans. I must always compliment you on your beautiful appearance and your beautiful voice. You need never worry about your success in becoming a woman in your transition. You are truly enchanting and engaging .
I’m a transgender woman who is transitioning and on HRT. I am so happy for your amazing videos. It’s so wonderful to see how you have developed over time. I’m at the beginning and you give me a lot of hope for my future!!!
Thank you for your time and consideration for your information. I didn't but now understand that it was better. I'm 2 months into hormonal treatment. I'm feeling better knowing. Thank you 😊 💓 so much 💖!!!!!!
Well done you for talking about a subject that can be so difficult in many ways depending on who you are. I'm so pleased for you, having come so far and now discovering intimate pleasures that work for you. I wish you as always the very best in everything you do.
Hi Charlie! I just wanted to say I hope you realise how much hope you have given and are giving to me and so many other trans people. I'm only just beginning transition and to see what life could be like through your videos (I mean like quality of life, living as your authentic self etc not being stalkerish or anything hahaha!) Keep being amazing! Lots of love Zara xxxx
I have watched many transition videos and yours are my favorite :-) Thank you so much for doing them. great to see you are so happy. I am just starting late in life but have a therapist I think is fantastic and I am the happiest I have ever been, can't wait, better now than never. Thanks again !!
Thankyou for sharing! No it's not an easy thing to discuss. I have yet to meet this hurdle but agree with you it's certainly a learning curve especially when it's been so much part of you. I am concerned but I know the wait will be worth it and all will be good. Thankyou again. Lots of Love! Jessica Scarlett May.
Awesome again! I'm so glad it's just like driving a left hand car, as I've been driving one for years! It gives me great hope, I just don't understand why it would be easier for us Americans than you Brits? 😜. I'm a long way from GRS, as I've just started transition. It is good to hear the stories of what one might expect. As always love your authenticity and candor. Cheers!
I like your videos a lot. You have a lot of personality. I’m a man and staying that way but your perspective and honest way of saying things is interesting. Your helping people and bless you for that. And you do it with a pretty smile.
Hi GoCharlie - great video! How have things improved now with the passage of time? You are a beautiful young woman & I wish you all the best in 2020 & beyond. 🙂
Great video, not one of the easiest subjects to talk about when the whole world is listening and watching. Very happy for you that everything has worked out after srs.
Thank you for this video. The reason this topic doesn't get much discussion is because I think people are afraid to discuss it. It's letting the world know that they are sexual creatures, as if somehow we're not supposed to be. We are sexual creatures and sex is a need just as much as food, water, and air are. Thank you for your bravery. I love your honesty. Great insights also, especially that as a guy we expect to climax every time, but it doesn't work that way for the woman. I also think this discussion is a bit like Twenty Questions. If a girl admits to "going all the way" then all her friends want to know "what's it like?", "how does it feel?", "what did he do?", "what did you do?" etc. It's all part of understanding your body and preparing yourself for the future. I think you've helped so many trans people prepare for the future. Thanks for being a great teacher and educator.
Relax and enjoy exploration of your new body and mind. What a gift you have been given to live life as cis male and now a trans woman thanks for keeping us always informed
A very candid and insightful exploration of a topic that many, both trans, heterosexual, homosexual people could learn a great deal from.Thanks you for sharing your insights through your whole journey and know you have taught a great many value lessons about how to live well.
Hi GoCharlie , i’m on the waiting list for Surgery at the moment so i hope it happens soon so i can recover from it . Like you say though i will have to rediscover my body, what works & what doesn’t. I hope you have a fabulous Christmas & Fabulous New Year .
I just love your videos and I love listening to you speak. It’s hard to imagine you as anything but a woman. This is another great video. I guess that’s something else I love about your videos - your down to earth honesty. It is so helpful.
Great vid, thank you for sharing your experience! I'm nervous for srs but sadly its still a ways in the future. This video helps quell some of the worries! (also totally envious of your body, just sayin ;P)
Thank you so much for this video and all your other videos. I'm a trans woman, too, and I really value your honesty and insight. Your experiences help me to navigate my way through the changes in my own life.
Thank you for an informative and enjoyable video with great relevance to my situation. As someone who HAS personally transitioned from driving on British roads to now living in the US, your analogy of a left-hand-drive car is sparkling and most helpful. My surgical "down there" transition is still in the future, and I've been curious as to the likely effects. Even if the results were a total end to my sex life, the effects could hardly be more absolute than the effects of HRT have already been, for me. Beforehand my enthusiasm for sex could be described using the analogy of a raging forest fire, whereas my interest therein nowadays is literally less than routinely taking out the trash or cleaning the kitchen floor. Your video gives me hope for ... more. Thank you!
Born women have the same problem. Orgasm is not guaranteed. It makes sex a downer. You get aroused, but the train doesn't leave the station. Sounds like you went thru what born women go thru when they start being sexually active. What is straight forward , obvious and guaranteed for men is complicated, hidden and sporadic for women. Vibrator, gurl. Its a gurls best friend.
What you describe aside from the "again" part would seem to me describes every person on this planet. I have not had grs yet, so cannot comment per se, but I can imagine many cis-gender women having to relearn their body, possibly after kids or some trauma, or just after a long absence from a partner. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and putting yourself out there.
C Cossey said she had trouble relaxing at first... I too had trouble relaxing the muscles down there...But climax was as good or better than preop. But after age 30 guys have trouble keep going for more than 10 minutes, that is the only negative since I need 15 to peak... :))
If you have a loving partner that cares about you getting to climax, then it should happen eventually. I think even just being born as a woman and navigating through that experience is a challenge.
I BELIVE YOUR PARTNER MUST BE WILLING TO HELP YOU LEARN YOUR NEW BODY. YOUR PARTNER HAS TO BE OPEN AND RESPECT YOU AND YOUR BODY, NOT JUST IN IT FOR HIS OR HER CLAMAX. MY GOAL IS IF I CAN'T MAKE A FEMALE CLAMAX, THEN AS A MALE I HAVE NOT DONE MY JOB. MY GOAL IS TO ACHIVE CLAMAX TOGETHER AT THE SAME TIME, THIS IS WHERE COMMUNICATION IS SO IMPORTANT. IF THIS PERSON TRULLY CARES ABOUT YOU THEY WILL MAKE SURE THEY UNDERSTAND YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS. LOVE MAKING IS AN ART AND BOTH PARTIES MUST BE WILLING TO GIVE AND TAKE, TO CARE ABOUT YOU, YOUR BODY, YOUR FEELINGS, AND TO WORK TOGETHER TOWARDS THE SAME GOAL. THAT WOULD BE MAKIN SURE YOU BOTH ENJOY YOUR EXPERIENCES EQUALLY.... SO YOU NEED A PARTNER WHO CARES AS MUCH ABOUT YOU, AND WORKING WITH YOU ON TIMING, PLACES TO TOUCH AND HOW TO TOUCH, TO ME THAT SOUNDS LIKE IT WOULD BE VERY ENJOYABLE FOR BOTH. SO BEAUTIFUL TAKE YOU TIME AND FIND THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU!!
No worries if you want this to remain more private, but I’m anticipating surgery in the near future and wondered if you had anything to add for this video or an update :) Very grateful for this video in general, though. Thanks for helping me know more about stuff!!
Hello Charlie, I completely understand what your talking about.I actually had a girlfriend named Kate and we had a crazy moment, she just had great surgery and I was accepted at the London school of engineering, so between helping Kate and packing for London, I gave all the support and love as I could,and Kate was going with me to London. Charlie I understand what you are describing, it's almost like your a virgin again and it can be scary, and uncertainty about how it's going to feel and if she could orgasm. But you we were in London and it was new,but I think it really helped in away that we were away from everyone and it was just us and I still believe it made us closer. And a guest lecturer at university we became good friends and we would to his club and golf and pheasant hunting, his wife name is Helen and her and Kate became instant friends and she understood what Kate and I were experiencing and she became like a instant mother at the same time. And Helen and Nigel both knew everything and the didn't have any issues with it and I they also helped her with the after surgery adjustments and Helen was a wonderful woman and she would come and get Kate for shopping, getting their hair done, and just to talk with her. And we would have dinner with them at Nigel club three to four times a week. And I could see Kate coming into herself and get confident and I think with everyone she really became a incredible woman, she already was incredible. We were coming to the end of our time in London, and we gave notice and I was working on finalizing school, Kate was packing so we really were going. But I could see Kate changing just little, and I knew it was that we were going back to the U.S, I still had three weeks left at school and one night Helen asked Kate if we could have dinner with them, and like I said that wasn't unusual but the way she asked Kate thought was a little different. So went to dinner and the gentleman said that they had a private room for dinner that night, now that was different big time, so we met them and even when we greeted each other it was different. So when we sat down I asked Nigel was is going on, and he went white in the face, so we knew there was something going on. Nigel as I said was just a guest lecturer, his job was senior vice president of structural engineering for one of England's largest construction companies, and he and Helen explained that Nigel had been in a bid for building three of the world's largest offshore oil rigs for Shell oil and he got it,so the clock was already ticking, we thought we were there for a party, until Nigel said he wanted me to be a of his team and I would be senior engineer well the first thing I said was I wasn't even done with school and he and Helen started laughing and we had no clue what was funny. He finally told me that he had turned in package in and I was done with school and I had honors to. Kate and I needed to talk so there was a place that we could, and we were talking that we had given notice to move, Kate had us mostly packed so we really didn't know what to do. So we went back and talked with about all of that and we didn't know if we could keep the flat we had, Helen took a Kate's hands in hers and said dear girl it's good you are packed because, our boys jod is in Norway, and that she needed our answer at that dinner, because, Helen and Kate were going to Oslo to find a flat for both of us to live in and Helen wanted a big one so they could live on one side and us on the other. And again I could see that light in Kate's eyes again, so we said yes together, so we moved again to Norway. But I apologize that I have wrote so much, but I wanted you to see that you are not alone and you are a very beautiful woman and I would be honored to date you And Kate and I didn't break up, after Norway we did come home and I was working and Kate wanted to go back to being a nurse and one night on her way home, a drunk driver didn't stop and hit her on the driver's door and killed her instantly, so when I say I would love to be a of your life you understand. Be happy .
Thank you for being open on this topic I don't have many trans women around me but you here another woman experience it's very important so thank you for making this video
Thank you for this video. Very straightforward and informative on a maligned subject. It's rare to find adult level talks about sex much less trans sex. Looking forward to vids about how you are doing with full time racing.
This video was just in time for me. I'm in bed at the hospital after my GSR on Monday. I'll be allowed to get up tomorrow and go home on Monday. I hope to have the opportunity to try it out with another lezzie lassie soon.
+Caisa Viksten Oh wow, go you ! :D Hope the recovery is a speedy one and you're enjoying life to the max again soon. I think the first time I ever climaxed post GRS was one of the most insane & incredibly intense moments of my life - NYE 2014/15. I almost saw stars! Will maybe put that bit in the next video...
I am starting my transition and it feels like I'm going around in circles, some people say I don't need a psychological exam to even start hormone treatment, and when I call my local LGBT center they say they don't do hormone treatment but gave me the number to a couple of places that do. those places say I need a counselors letter to start. any tips on how to get the letter and start?
+Kelly Beiler Yes, you should definitely google and look for a therapist that takes care of transgender people and then after making the first appointment they will usually wait and want to see you for a minimum of 3 months and then will give you a letter of recommendation to take to a doctor who helps transgender men and women with HRT. It's usually an endocrinologist, but in my case it's actually a regular family doctor. I really think that self-medicating with hormones is a pretty bad and dicey idea and I would advise against it because there are risks for HRT, in fact, they are the same risk that cisgender people who use HRT also have to deal with. The only place in the US that I know you can start HRT with informed consent is actually planned parenthood but I think it's only planned parenthoods in the North East that are doing this, but it might be worth checking with a planned parenthood in your area. If you google Laci Green planned parenthood north east and HRT or hormone replacement therapy you should be able to find the video where she was talking about it.
i must say thank you for your open and honest approach to the topic. i am a regular guy and i can tell you a few things. if you want to hear what i have to say please say so and i will give you my thoughts on things you may not have thought of just yet. thank you and god bless.
Thanks for the video! i just couldn't find anything good on this topic. I'm trans myself and I enjoy orgasms as is. I literally have my muscles squeeze and release. no emotions or feelings or pleasure. more like disgust actually . I do have bottom dysphoria so i was wondering if that can change it. i hope it'll. i've never been with anyone before. but by myself it sucks right now
Smashing vid - it helped me a lot from a 'yea, that's it!' pov. I haven't had sex since GRS though I've successfully sorted myself out. I've avoided that intimacy because I'm still uncertain about my body, amongst other things. Even if I knew I couldn't O I would still have had surgery - I think we should all regard sex as a bonus, not a must-have.
When peoole ramble and DON'T know what they are trying to say or are looking for things to say or say nothing or are literally trying to manufacture the ANSWER they want, that is the answer....
This gives me hope. As you said, sex is good, but sex without an orgasm is shite! I feel very dysfunctional at this point post-op not being able to climax. Hopefully I will get there as well! Thanks for the video!
So, after watching your vlog...I had to do some research. There's this really great article in Vogue about MtF neo vagina surgery. Why One Trans Woman Wants to Discuss Sex After Surgery, 2016.
Hi, off topic. But maybe you can help me. Everytime i have intercourse with a TS woman, my body feels weird or numb perhaps, and my "down there" feels un natural, has anybody experienced this? Im new to dating ts btw, if that helps.
I'm terrified. I doubt it'll happen anytime soon as im pre-surgery and also i need wigs so i have a privacy hang up about that. Thanks for the info though x
One thing weard about my transitioning is I notice wen I look back at photos of myself some photos I noticed I will look very feminine,and then there are other selfies I take some time I look more masculine,let me know is there any others mtf that experience what I'm talking about,I've Ben transitioning for about 20 months,
I am transgender m to f and still in closet. Wife doesn’t support me. To much in life going on to push issue right now. But when I transition I am going for everything. My question is how does it feel to orgasm after bottom surgery?? How does it compare?
The prostate gland is a male reproductive organ whose main function is to secrete prostate fluid, one of the components of semen. The muscles of the prostate gland also help propel this seminal fluid into the urethra during ejaculation. The prostate secretion is a slightly alkaline fluid, milky or white in appearance, that in humans usually constitutes roughly 30% of the volume of the semen along with spermatozoa and seminal vesicle fluid. When you reach sexual climax, have you noticed any milky white fluid at your urethra? (Normally the prostate gland is not removed during Sexual Reassignment Surgery.)
Gulp - well done :) ...edit; oh dear - I had a flashback to Swiss Toni from the Fast Show... oh man, but it's okay - I've managed to banish it now! ...No, not that I was having sex or anything at the time! No, no, nothing like that!... oh nevermind - forget I said anything! :P
It's always funny to see somebody from the islands trying to talk about sex,...we Dutch and Scandinavian people don't have this problem. Your a brave woman for trying though,..so thumb's up on the video 👍 😆. (t'was slightly awkward, but good).
You are so beautiful. Of course every woman should have autonomy over her aesthetic choices, but I was moved to mention how incredible it is to see a trans woman getting attention who appears so naturally beautiful. Everything about you, your hair, your skin, your face, is just natural and pretty. It’s nice to see an image of a trans woman that doesn’t send the message that you have to have huge bolt on breast implants, 9 syringes of lip filler, a lace front wig, 26 products on your face etc, just to be feminine. Also, your voice is extremely feminine. You are, as they say, ‘Realness’. You have such a kind, generous, and easy way about you and you inspire self acceptance for women of all demographics.
Have you found any information, or experience which informs you as to the hormonal effect (transition, becoming female, changes in the body, regarding differences in physical sensitivity, female conditioning which may lead to greater empathy/sensitivity to "the other", as well as differences in actual brain function...), and ways in which they (hormones) act upon all bodily function in sex and intercourse, and even all (other) human contact... ? ... May be a weird question, but I have wondered this... (?) - Farley A.
I hope this isnt a stupid question, if so forgive me. I read that in from male to female surgery the prostate is not removed. Meaning trans women can still obtain prostate problems.....but the prostate being a possible erogenic zone in men ( not a gay thing, straight men experience it too) ....does it remain so after GRS ? And if yes, perhaps you could explore finding pleasure in that area?
Prostate stimulation for a man is the most incredible thing any man that hasn't experienced it is really missing out. It like an orgasm then never ends
You look completely feminine to me. I would NEVER in a million years think you were born male. You are beautiful inside and out. Thank you for your videos. U are helping so many ppl. :) have an amazing day!
Saw your video for the first time on sex. Thank you for being open to the topic. I'm looking forward to having SRS and I am interested in having sex like a normal female.
So it looks like I might be making a follow up video based on some of your questions - keep em' coming! :D
+a Girl for all seasons I got the impression from just the editing itself, there were quite a lot of things you wanted to say but didn't. I'm guessing it was a result of keeping it RUclips friendly. However, I think like a lot of transsexual people considering SRS, there are nitty gritty questions that would be good to address. I don't know if that is quite the purpose you meant for this video, but maybe personal messages? Keep up the good work. Your positivity is infectious and making my transition better for it :D
+In Tune Knitter There was a lot more I could have said but I wanted to keep this first version on the lighter side, plus I try to keep my videos to 5 mins max. It's a huge topic really, and something that I will come back to shortly - I don't like being too graphic but sure there's all kinds of details I could add. And will. Get ready for part II !! :D
+a Girl for all seasons I can't wait to see part 2, I have so many unanswered questions and am so nervous about my transition.. In this video you did help me have a better understanding but I too feel like there's more to it, do you have any way of contacting me?
+a Girl for all seasons so sex is more work you say? you ARE OFFICIALLY a women now! :) but you do look like you were born a women, and id also say u are quite beautiful! and congratz on the new you!
Do you have snap chat?
Charlie.....your careful description is so good. I doubt if many other TS would be so honest in their versions.
You are looking wonderful. I wish you well on this exciting and long-awaited road.
Charlie, thank you for this video. I'm 6 months post-op and, as you are telling us, learning one's body after the surgery is without question, a learning process. I'm still searching for my first climax, and it's simply not as easy as it was pre-transition. But I'm so much happier now, that there is no reason for regret, and I'm sure it will happen before too much longer.
No, no it won't. Abomination is what the Bible calls you.
You don’t understand how helpful this video is! I just got SRS last Monday it’s been a roller coaster to say the least but this was one of my main worries but hearing you talk about how sex will eventually feel good makes me feel more at peace! Obvi rn I can’t have sex yet n everything is still very swollen n different than it’ll look when it’s healed but it’s nice to hear others experiences so thank you 🤍
How is everything right now? Any updates about it?
Can I get married you? @@xxmidnightprincessxx
I am a 67 year old straight male. Happly married for 30 years. I think the talk you gave is wonderful and heart ❤ felt. You are obviously attractive and honest. All the best in your new life.
Why did you bring up the fact that your 67 😭
@@glossybxtch7365 I was going to ask why you bring up "straight" it's like they trying to convince people ""straight " men care about this crap
@glossybxtch7365 To infer that he, among others in that generation Support what she's doing.
@@glossybxtch7365I'm like why is he bringing up that he's "straight" or married,who gives a fck? 😭💀😒🤦♂️🤦♂️
Probably because most older people are way more conservative and and less accepting of this life choice would be my best guess@@glossybxtch7365
It feels like I have listened into a very private discussion. Thank you for your honesty and I enjoyed listening to you.
Charlie, you are so insightful as you discuss each topic that you deal with in your life, whether it be a very personal on such as your transition in what sexuality has meant during your transition to your worklife to your family relationships during transitions to the meaning of your new career in auto racing. I find your discussions very full of important and thoughtful points of learning and meaning and these points are very important in that they generalize into all of our lives, gay, straight, cis, trans. I must always compliment you on your beautiful appearance and your beautiful voice. You need never worry about your success in becoming a woman in your transition. You are truly enchanting and engaging .
Great insight Charlie. I'm sure this was a difficult video to make. Thank you for doing it.
I’m a transgender woman who is transitioning and on HRT. I am so happy for your amazing videos. It’s so wonderful to see how you have developed over time. I’m at the beginning and you give me a lot of hope for my future!!!
Your a man
Thank you for your time and consideration for your information. I didn't but now understand that it was better. I'm 2 months into hormonal treatment. I'm feeling better knowing. Thank you 😊 💓 so much 💖!!!!!!
Well done you for talking about a subject that can be so difficult in many ways depending on who you are.
I'm so pleased for you, having come so far and now discovering intimate pleasures that work for you.
I wish you as always the very best in everything you do.
Hi Charlie! I just wanted to say I hope you realise how much hope you have given and are giving to me and so many other trans people. I'm only just beginning transition and to see what life could be like through your videos (I mean like quality of life, living as your authentic self etc not being stalkerish or anything hahaha!) Keep being amazing! Lots of love Zara xxxx
+Aureas2 Thank you so much, wishing you all the best luck with your transition this year! :D xx
Lisa Carson I take hormone patches
Loving your vids hun, i'm 6months into actualisation............ the positivity that you exude is fab..... big love for you x
I have watched many transition videos and yours are my favorite :-) Thank you so much for doing them. great to see you are so happy. I am just starting late in life but have a therapist I think is fantastic and I am the happiest I have ever been, can't wait, better now than never. Thanks again !!
You have gone from a go cart on the roundy round to a formula masterpiece.
Thankyou for sharing! No it's not an easy thing to discuss. I have yet to meet this hurdle but agree with you it's certainly a learning curve especially when it's been so much part of you. I am concerned but I know the wait will be worth it and all will be good. Thankyou again.
Lots of Love! Jessica Scarlett May.
Awesome again! I'm so glad it's just like driving a left hand car, as I've been driving one for years! It gives me great hope, I just don't understand why it would be easier for us Americans than you Brits? 😜. I'm a long way from GRS, as I've just started transition. It is good to hear the stories of what one might expect. As always love your authenticity and candor. Cheers!
Well in your case it would be like swapping to right hand drive!
I like the no-nonsense approach that you are using. It’s a sincere honesty and a right to the point approach that is needed for a subject like this.
I like your videos a lot. You have a lot of personality. I’m a man and staying that way but your perspective and honest way of saying things is interesting. Your helping people and bless you for that. And you do it with a pretty smile.
You are so brave you deserve so many good things! Thank you for helping me in my troubles
I hear you loud and clear! I love the way youve explained it. Thank you!
Hi GoCharlie - great video! How have things improved now with the passage of time?
You are a beautiful young woman & I wish you all the best in 2020 & beyond. 🙂
You are freaking amazing! Your very real and inspiring. Thank you.
Hi Charlie you are an amazing woman and have helped me a huge amount and still do. Thank you!
Great video, not one of the easiest subjects to talk about when the whole world is listening and watching. Very happy for you that everything has worked out after srs.
Thank you for this video. The reason this topic doesn't get much discussion is because I think people are afraid to discuss it. It's letting the world know that they are sexual creatures, as if somehow we're not supposed to be. We are sexual creatures and sex is a need just as much as food, water, and air are. Thank you for your bravery. I love your honesty. Great insights also, especially that as a guy we expect to climax every time, but it doesn't work that way for the woman. I also think this discussion is a bit like Twenty Questions. If a girl admits to "going all the way" then all her friends want to know "what's it like?", "how does it feel?", "what did he do?", "what did you do?" etc. It's all part of understanding your body and preparing yourself for the future. I think you've helped so many trans people prepare for the future. Thanks for being a great teacher and educator.
Relax and enjoy exploration of your new body and mind. What a gift you have been given to live life as cis male and now a trans woman thanks for keeping us always informed
ii happened 3 years later for me so don't give up
It’s really hard to explain exactly what it is that makes a girls face look “feminine” ... but whatever it might be, you’ve REALLY got it.
Its called estrogen. And she has to inject it everyday or she won't look like a woman at all
It's called Surgery.
Nah, not really
Yes-definitely natural and lovely.
Exactly what I wanted to say!
A very candid and insightful exploration of a topic that many, both trans, heterosexual, homosexual people could learn a great deal from.Thanks you for sharing your insights through your whole journey and know you have taught a great many value lessons about how to live well.
YAAAAAY! YOU RE SO NORMAL AND GENUINE AND INSPIRING! MWAAAAAAH!
Hi GoCharlie , i’m on the waiting list for Surgery at the moment so i hope it happens soon so i can recover from it .
Like you say though i will have to rediscover my body, what works & what doesn’t.
I hope you have a fabulous Christmas & Fabulous New Year .
Love your videos. You really look hapoy and so genuine. Keep em comming 👍👍👍
I just love your videos and I love listening to you speak. It’s hard to imagine you as anything but a woman. This is another great video. I guess that’s something else I love about your videos - your down to earth honesty. It is so helpful.
I can’t imagine you any other way than you are now. You are very pretty.
Thank you for answering many questions I’ve long wondered about.
My whole life
I’ve been searching for knowledge.
I guess it’s because I’m a Virgo!
I am not that far yet..... But I am happy for you , and followed your journey as long as I started mine. Hugs and kisses my friend
+chloe renee I see you in many videos Lol
Its amazing to see your before and after pics!!! Wow!! Amazing!! You looking stunning!
Great vid, thank you for sharing your experience! I'm nervous for srs but sadly its still a ways in the future. This video helps quell some of the worries! (also totally envious of your body, just sayin ;P)
Thank you so much for that wonderfully open and honest description. (You're absolutely beautiful, by the way 😊💖👍)
Thank you so much for this video and all your other videos. I'm a trans woman, too, and I really value your honesty and insight. Your experiences help me to navigate my way through the changes in my own life.
excellent video! very informative... this is one of the things I sometimes think about before I go through with SRS
Thank you for an informative and enjoyable video with great relevance to my situation. As someone who HAS personally transitioned from driving on British roads to now living in the US, your analogy of a left-hand-drive car is sparkling and most helpful. My surgical "down there" transition is still in the future, and I've been curious as to the likely effects. Even if the results were a total end to my sex life, the effects could hardly be more absolute than the effects of HRT have already been, for me. Beforehand my enthusiasm for sex could be described using the analogy of a raging forest fire, whereas my interest therein nowadays is literally less than routinely taking out the trash or cleaning the kitchen floor. Your video gives me hope for ... more. Thank you!
Thanks for your honesty.
You are a beautiful human being!
thanks so much for sharing i was very curious.
from what i understand all this stuff down there works, but except for lubricant is required?
Born women have the same problem. Orgasm is not guaranteed. It makes sex a downer. You get aroused, but the train doesn't leave the station. Sounds like you went thru what born women go thru when they start being sexually active. What is straight forward , obvious and guaranteed for men is complicated, hidden and sporadic for women. Vibrator, gurl. Its a gurls best friend.
Born woman, and totally agree. Vibrators are a guarantee.
I hope you find all you want in life. Best to you for ever.
What you describe aside from the "again" part would seem to me describes every person on this planet. I have not had grs yet, so cannot comment per se, but I can imagine many cis-gender women having to relearn their body, possibly after kids or some trauma, or just after a long absence from a partner. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and putting yourself out there.
Thanks for the honest conversation! Your beautiful 💗
3:53 the "MYAH!!!" has killed me🤣
well hope you enjoy what u have now and hope u get settled down with a good, good guy
C Cossey said she had trouble relaxing at first... I too had trouble relaxing the muscles down there...But climax was as good or better than preop. But after age 30 guys have trouble keep going for more than 10 minutes, that is the only negative since I need 15 to peak... :))
Petrie Q I can go with a minute maximum without climaxing. I need a guy who doesn’t last long. 😄
If you have a loving partner that cares about you getting to climax, then it should happen eventually. I think even just being born as a woman and navigating through that experience is a challenge.
Very well spoken, very enlightening. You're a beautiful woman. Best to you...
I BELIVE YOUR PARTNER MUST BE WILLING TO HELP YOU LEARN YOUR NEW BODY. YOUR PARTNER HAS TO BE OPEN AND RESPECT YOU AND YOUR BODY, NOT JUST IN IT FOR HIS OR HER CLAMAX. MY GOAL IS IF I CAN'T MAKE A FEMALE CLAMAX, THEN AS A MALE I HAVE NOT DONE MY JOB. MY GOAL IS TO ACHIVE CLAMAX TOGETHER AT THE SAME TIME, THIS IS WHERE COMMUNICATION IS SO IMPORTANT. IF THIS PERSON TRULLY CARES ABOUT YOU THEY WILL MAKE SURE THEY UNDERSTAND YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS. LOVE MAKING IS AN ART AND BOTH PARTIES MUST BE WILLING TO GIVE AND TAKE, TO CARE ABOUT YOU, YOUR BODY, YOUR FEELINGS, AND TO WORK TOGETHER TOWARDS THE SAME GOAL. THAT WOULD BE MAKIN SURE YOU BOTH ENJOY YOUR EXPERIENCES EQUALLY.... SO YOU NEED A PARTNER WHO CARES AS MUCH ABOUT YOU, AND WORKING WITH YOU ON TIMING, PLACES TO TOUCH AND HOW TO TOUCH, TO ME THAT SOUNDS LIKE IT WOULD BE VERY ENJOYABLE FOR BOTH. SO BEAUTIFUL TAKE YOU TIME AND FIND THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU!!
I’m male to female trans and I’m not going to get bottom surgery
You did great and answered a lot of the questions I had and gave me a positive outlook on the whole thing, thanks!
Great Video! Funnest bit was your Cat. On topic with lots of purr...
No worries if you want this to remain more private, but I’m anticipating surgery in the near future and wondered if you had anything to add for this video or an update :)
Very grateful for this video in general, though. Thanks for helping me know more about stuff!!
great analogy to driving in a car
I'm happy for you, i am hoping that i will experience all you have todo..
Hello Charlie, I completely understand what your talking about.I actually had a girlfriend named Kate and we had a crazy moment, she just had great surgery and I was accepted at the London school of engineering, so between helping Kate and packing for London, I gave all the support and love as I could,and Kate was going with me to London. Charlie I understand what you are describing, it's almost like your a virgin again and it can be scary, and uncertainty about how it's going to feel and if she could orgasm. But you we were in London and it was new,but I think it really helped in away that we were away from everyone and it was just us and I still believe it made us closer. And a guest lecturer at university we became good friends and we would to his club and golf and pheasant hunting, his wife name is Helen and her and Kate became instant friends and she understood what Kate and I were experiencing and she became like a instant mother at the same time. And Helen and Nigel both knew everything and the didn't have any issues with it and I they also helped her with the after surgery adjustments and Helen was a wonderful woman and she would come and get Kate for shopping, getting their hair done, and just to talk with her. And we would have dinner with them at Nigel club three to four times a week. And I could see Kate coming into herself and get confident and I think with everyone she really became a incredible woman, she already was incredible. We were coming to the end of our time in London, and we gave notice and I was working on finalizing school, Kate was packing so we really were going. But I could see Kate changing just little, and I knew it was that we were going back to the U.S, I still had three weeks left at school and one night Helen asked Kate if we could have dinner with them, and like I said that wasn't unusual but the way she asked Kate thought was a little different. So went to dinner and the gentleman said that they had a private room for dinner that night, now that was different big time, so we met them and even when we greeted each other it was different. So when we sat down I asked Nigel was is going on, and he went white in the face, so we knew there was something going on. Nigel as I said was just a guest lecturer, his job was senior vice president of structural engineering for one of England's largest construction companies, and he and Helen explained that Nigel had been in a bid for building three of the world's largest offshore oil rigs for Shell oil and he got it,so the clock was already ticking, we thought we were there for a party, until Nigel said he wanted me to be a of his team and I would be senior engineer well the first thing I said was I wasn't even done with school and he and Helen started laughing and we had no clue what was funny. He finally told me that he had turned in package in and I was done with school and I had honors to. Kate and I needed to talk so there was a place that we could, and we were talking that we had given notice to move, Kate had us mostly packed so we really didn't know what to do. So we went back and talked with about all of that and we didn't know if we could keep the flat we had, Helen took a Kate's hands in hers and said dear girl it's good you are packed because, our boys jod is in Norway, and that she needed our answer at that dinner, because, Helen and Kate were going to Oslo to find a flat for both of us to live in and Helen wanted a big one so they could live on one side and us on the other. And again I could see that light in Kate's eyes again, so we said yes together, so we moved again to Norway. But I apologize that I have wrote so much, but I wanted you to see that you are not alone and you are a very beautiful woman and I would be honored to date you
And Kate and I didn't break up, after Norway we did come home and I was working and Kate wanted to go back to being a nurse and one night on her way home, a drunk driver didn't stop and hit her on the driver's door and killed her instantly, so when I say I would love to be a of your life you understand. Be happy
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Thank you for being open on this topic I don't have many trans women around me but you here another woman experience it's very important so thank you for making this video
Thank you for this video. Very straightforward and informative on a maligned subject. It's rare to find adult level talks about sex much less trans sex. Looking forward to vids about how you are doing with full time racing.
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
This video was just in time for me. I'm in bed at the hospital after my GSR on Monday. I'll be allowed to get up tomorrow and go home on Monday. I hope to have the opportunity to try it out with another lezzie lassie soon.
+Caisa Viksten Oh wow, go you ! :D Hope the recovery is a speedy one and you're enjoying life to the max again soon. I think the first time I ever climaxed post GRS was one of the most insane & incredibly intense moments of my life - NYE 2014/15. I almost saw stars! Will maybe put that bit in the next video...
Charlie, do u have a. Video on the medical aspect, ie the cost, pain level, recovery time & procedures?
Thanks
I am starting my transition and it feels like I'm going around in circles, some people say I don't need a psychological exam to even start hormone treatment, and when I call my local LGBT center they say they don't do hormone treatment but gave me the number to a couple of places that do. those places say I need a counselors letter to start. any tips on how to get the letter and start?
+Kelly Beiler Yes, you should definitely google and look for a therapist that takes care of transgender people and then after making the first appointment they will usually wait and want to see you for a minimum of 3 months and then will give you a letter of recommendation to take to a doctor who helps transgender men and women with HRT. It's usually an endocrinologist, but in my case it's actually a regular family doctor. I really think that self-medicating with hormones is a pretty bad and dicey idea and I would advise against it because there are risks for HRT, in fact, they are the same risk that cisgender people who use HRT also have to deal with. The only place in the US that I know you can start HRT with informed consent is actually planned parenthood but I think it's only planned parenthoods in the North East that are doing this, but it might be worth checking with a planned parenthood in your area. If you google Laci Green planned parenthood north east and HRT or hormone replacement therapy you should be able to find the video where she was talking about it.
Wow, so it took you so long to get used to the "new" right hand drive?
First time I've come across your channel. You are absolutely beautiful! 😍
10/10 - I absolutely would.
Hello dear Charlie. I just found this post by chance. I was following you through your racing career.
i must say thank you for your open and honest approach to the topic. i am a regular guy and i can tell you a few things. if you want to hear what i have to say please say so and i will give you my thoughts on things you may not have thought of just yet. thank you and god bless.
I am a 46 year old trans woman just starting my journey , I hope to be half as beautiful as you someday . ❤🎉 have an amazing day everyone 😅
Good luck and congrats!
How long after surgery did you have to wait before having sex wasn't just pure pain and also stuff was fitting properly?
Thanks for the video! i just couldn't find anything good on this topic. I'm trans myself and I enjoy orgasms as is. I literally have my muscles squeeze and release. no emotions or feelings or pleasure. more like disgust actually . I do have bottom dysphoria so i was wondering if that can change it. i hope it'll. i've never been with anyone before. but by myself it sucks right now
I love this girl's voice and accent. She is totally cute, too. Hmmmmm.
it's a man james
Smashing vid - it helped me a lot from a 'yea, that's it!' pov. I haven't had sex since GRS though I've successfully sorted myself out. I've avoided that intimacy because I'm still uncertain about my body, amongst other things. Even if I knew I couldn't O I would still have had surgery - I think we should all regard sex as a bonus, not a must-have.
I can’t wait 💕
When peoole ramble and DON'T know what they are trying to say or are looking for things to say or say nothing or are literally trying to manufacture the ANSWER they want, that is the answer....
Lovely. Your openness and spontaneity are delightful...and helpful...and your timing is perfect...nudge,nudge,wink, wink, say no more ;-)
Oh my God! You look pretty, and it is an interesting topic, but girl I hardly understand you! It’s really hard.
This gives me hope. As you said, sex is good, but sex without an orgasm is shite! I feel very dysfunctional at this point post-op not being able to climax. Hopefully I will get there as well!
Thanks for the video!
Did you manage to climax?
I think this is not just a trans/post op issue. It's a female issue in general.
No it Is not stop it
So, after watching your vlog...I had to do some research. There's this really great article in Vogue about MtF neo vagina surgery. Why One Trans Woman Wants to Discuss Sex After Surgery, 2016.
Hi, off topic. But maybe you can help me. Everytime i have intercourse with a TS woman, my body feels weird or numb perhaps, and my "down there" feels un natural, has anybody experienced this? Im new to dating ts btw, if that helps.
It will happen it's just a matter of time because you have a good attitude and it will happen probably when you least expect it.
I'm terrified. I doubt it'll happen anytime soon as im pre-surgery and also i need wigs so i have a privacy hang up about that. Thanks for the info though x
One thing weard about my transitioning is I notice wen I look back at photos of myself some photos I noticed I will look very feminine,and then there are other selfies I take some time I look more masculine,let me know is there any others mtf that experience what I'm talking about,I've Ben transitioning for about 20 months,
I am transgender m to f and still in closet. Wife doesn’t support me. To much in life going on to push issue right now. But when I transition I am going for everything. My question is how does it feel to orgasm after bottom surgery?? How does it compare?
The prostate gland is a male reproductive organ whose main function is to secrete prostate fluid, one of the components of semen. The muscles of the prostate gland also help propel this seminal fluid into the urethra during ejaculation. The prostate secretion is a slightly alkaline fluid, milky or white in appearance, that in humans usually constitutes roughly 30% of the volume of the semen along with spermatozoa and seminal vesicle fluid. When you reach sexual climax, have you noticed any milky white fluid at your urethra? (Normally the prostate gland is not removed during Sexual Reassignment Surgery.)
Gulp - well done :) ...edit; oh dear - I had a flashback to Swiss Toni from the Fast Show... oh man, but it's okay - I've managed to banish it now! ...No, not that I was having sex or anything at the time! No, no, nothing like that!... oh nevermind - forget I said anything! :P
It's always funny to see somebody from the islands trying to talk about sex,...we Dutch and Scandinavian people don't have this problem. Your a brave woman for trying though,..so thumb's up on the video 👍 😆. (t'was slightly awkward, but good).
You are so beautiful. Of course every woman should have autonomy over her aesthetic choices, but I was moved to mention how incredible it is to see a trans woman getting attention who appears so naturally beautiful. Everything about you, your hair, your skin, your face, is just natural and pretty.
It’s nice to see an image of a trans woman that doesn’t send the message that you have to have huge bolt on breast implants, 9 syringes of lip filler, a lace front wig, 26 products on your face etc, just to be feminine. Also, your voice is extremely feminine. You are, as they say, ‘Realness’.
You have such a kind, generous, and easy way about you and you inspire self acceptance for women of all demographics.
Have you found any information, or experience which informs you as to the hormonal effect (transition, becoming female, changes in the body, regarding differences in physical sensitivity, female conditioning which may lead to greater empathy/sensitivity to "the other", as well as differences in actual brain function...), and ways in which they (hormones) act upon all bodily function in sex and intercourse, and even all (other) human contact... ? ... May be a weird question, but I have wondered this... (?) - Farley A.
this helps me as a cis woman trying to learn how to connect myself to my pleasure, lol its confusing for all of us girl
As a women you mean
I hope this isnt a stupid question, if so forgive me. I read that in from male to female surgery the prostate is not removed. Meaning trans women can still obtain prostate problems.....but the prostate being a possible erogenic zone in men ( not a gay thing, straight men experience it too) ....does it remain so after GRS ? And if yes, perhaps you could explore finding pleasure in that area?
Prostate stimulation for a man is the most incredible thing any man that hasn't experienced it is really missing out. It like an orgasm then never ends
You look completely feminine to me. I would NEVER in a million years think you were born male. You are beautiful inside and out. Thank you for your videos. U are helping so many ppl. :) have an amazing day!
Saw your video for the first time on sex. Thank you for being open to the topic. I'm looking forward to having SRS and I am interested in having sex like a normal female.