When Forgiving Is Complicated | Khutbah by Dr. Omar Suleiman

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  • Опубликовано: 3 янв 2025

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  • @454__girlwithimaan
    @454__girlwithimaan Год назад +126

    Literally the most humble and the best teachers, always calm and bringing us closer to Allah الله يحفظك ❤️🥺

  • @faheema7
    @faheema7 Год назад +14

    ‘May Allah free us from being grieved by our own transgressions, May Allah allow us to get past all our grievances and grant us reward. May Allah comfort us in a way only He can comfort us’ Aameen 🤲🏼

  • @susieq5074
    @susieq5074 10 месяцев назад +14

    The takeaways start at 12:08
    1. Think about The redeeming qualities about that person
    2. Understand the circumstances a personal message not to excuse it, but rather to understand
    3. Focus on the greater reward

  • @Sam-rg7qn
    @Sam-rg7qn 8 месяцев назад +6

    I had been thinking about my sitiuation which is very similar to this and Allah swt sent this khutbah my way. SubhanAllah... My mind is much more clear now. Jzk ustadh.

  • @najiausman
    @najiausman Год назад +6

    Omar Suleiman is so articulate with the most well composed khutbas. He is a leader in every sense of the word MashAllah!

  • @ruqayyaharogundade4192
    @ruqayyaharogundade4192 Год назад +12

    You're a wonderful person.
    I just want you to know that i respect and admire the way you articulate Islam beautifully through your lectures. I enjoyed listening to The Sahaba series. May Allah reward u in abundance

  • @adilacajee7916
    @adilacajee7916 Год назад +21

    As salaam ualaikum wwb. Jazakallah ghair as always inspiring alghamdulillah. One of the things I wait for is the duah at the end. Sheikh Omar Suleiman always makes such beautiful duahs Allah Hu Akbar. May Allah accept for him and for all of us who listens to his lectures ameen

  • @harmonyrpt
    @harmonyrpt 4 месяца назад +2

    In my Christian Bible study today a man asserted that forgiveness is unique to Christianity. I knew better but wanted to hear a direct teaching on the matter from Islam. Thank you for your teaching.
    Perhaps Christianity differs in extending forgiveness to those who do not seek it, but I suspect this distinction to would vanish upon closer investigation. Forgiveness in those circumstances does not mean full reconciliation or trust it simply means you do not seek retribution.

  • @mominaimran5623
    @mominaimran5623 7 месяцев назад +2

    This is exactly what i wanted. May Allah bless him🙏

  • @saninakakana6931
    @saninakakana6931 6 месяцев назад +1

    May Allah decree it for us to forgive all those that have wronged us. Amin. Allahul musta'an.

  • @salmamah3707
    @salmamah3707 Год назад +9

    جزاكم الله خير ، الخطب والمواضيع جميلة. Thank you very much . May Allah bless you

  • @YaAllahswt
    @YaAllahswt Год назад +10

    May Allah swt bless that sign language ukhti

  • @whoisleonorasalma
    @whoisleonorasalma Год назад +10

    Forgiving people...definitely hard to forgive. I am trying. ❤

  • @AdamAdam-t7v7r
    @AdamAdam-t7v7r 7 месяцев назад +1

    Outstanding reminder Ma-sha-Allah
    Allah bless you respected imam 🤲🏻

  • @odetalo3226
    @odetalo3226 Год назад +3

    May Allah bless you and your familie sheikh

  • @Madinahlove
    @Madinahlove Год назад +1

    Allahuma Ameen ya Rabb AL Alemin!!! Jazak Allah khair!!! Barak'Allahu feek!!! May Allah SWT Love you and preserve you ya Karim!!! Subhan'Allah amazing !!!
    May Allah SWT make us Among those who listen to the words, then follow the best of it ya Rabb AL Alemin!!!

  • @nusrathidayatullah5293
    @nusrathidayatullah5293 Год назад +1

    Assalam o alykum Jazakallah sheikh for such an excellent khutba May Allah guide us and May Allah SWTA forgives us and we too forgive each other AMEEN

  • @ibraheem5496
    @ibraheem5496 Год назад +3

    alhmadullilah l really needed this, been going through a lot a the moment

  • @mpramd
    @mpramd Год назад +5

    Forgiveness would be easy when we have reach into the point that what we face is a lie.

  • @mubeenamusthafa487
    @mubeenamusthafa487 Год назад

    BarakAllah a heart touching khutbah and one of the best from Imam Dr.Omar Suleiman ❤️💯.
    Jazakum Allahu Khairan for the beneficial khutbah.
    Al hamdulillah 🤲.

  • @acajudi100
    @acajudi100 Год назад +1

    I was born in Chicago in 1942, and I love living in Queretaro, where i moved in 2021 at 79. Safer and 70%
    less expensive, and all utilities included in my apartment and internet, maid and security. plenty of groceries delivered. Local friends see that I get takeout or anything I want. I am blessed. Over 60 years of coming to Acapulco etc.
    Let go and let God.
    Karma never loses an address.
    You will reap what you have sown.
    Send ALL criminals to war zones with shaved heads and faces.

  • @Swed813
    @Swed813 Год назад +42

    Salam admin. It would be beneficial if Imam could address issue of threats of death and harm from parents, what weaker and broken victims do when the cultural or generational cycles of abuse are happening, and due to this they give into mental and emotional manipulation which prolongs the abuse until it becomes a normative thing for the abused. And, horrific situations which are very common when abuse of other kinds are committed by fathers and brothers towards daughters/ sisters, and the mothers and matriarchal systems hide the abuse and persecute the abused from contacting the authorities. Also, in South Asian communities especially where the mothers and fathers are magicians, or they have strong bonds with magicians as a means to doing horrific acts against the kids and wider community nembers etc. It's hard to forgive such abuses as described in my examples when the abuse and harm is ongoing in a cycle of prolonged and sustained harm, and are not isolated random acts that can be segregated for other redeeming factors. The general advise is to forgive and not cut ties, but sometimes cutting ties is the only option to stop the trauma and to break the cycle whilst protecting oneself from death and harm. Forgiveness is not possible when the harm is sustained and there is a deeply embedded cultural belief that such horrific acts are the 'right' of the parent and they have a unique status with God to do whatever they want. Sometimes their Imams in the mosques who can't even speak English support these acts. Jazak Allah.

    • @Swed813
      @Swed813 Год назад +5

      @Sehr Az So sorry about your bad experiences. God Bless you sister/ brother 🙂

    • @mariaclaudettecaluban5286
      @mariaclaudettecaluban5286 Год назад +5

      Salaam alaikum! What a horrible situation indeed. I believe that cutting ties is not literal but rather figurative in the sense that you forget whatever good there was. If one removes oneself from an abusive situation and does not establish contact, for as long as the abused prays for the abuser to change their ways and be forgiven by ALLAH AWJ 🙏✨❤️, that would not be cutting ties. ALLAH AWJ 🙏✨❤️ is not unreasonable and Islam is supposed to be a religion of ease.. Praying for them will give peace to be abused (ironically that is true). And ALLAH AWJ knows best. ❤️🙏✨ Barakallah feekum 🙏✨❤️

    • @Swed813
      @Swed813 Год назад +1

      @@mariaclaudettecaluban5286salam 🙂 Jazak Allah

    • @mjaff100
      @mjaff100 Год назад +2

      I feel for you, my duas are with you and everyone in these situations. It’s all too common and I wish it was addressed by our leaders more often.

    • @Swed813
      @Swed813 Год назад +5

      @@ts7371 I already watched the video and am aware of what it contains. My original lengthy comment was not asking for clarity about forgiveness solely. I was asking Admin to ask the Imam to address the legitimacy of cutting ties in serious situations as those I described. These Imams need to speak clearly and directly to abusers in their sermons, instead of fluffy advice that is not open nor clear about modern present issues aimed at victims.

  • @nilepearl1997
    @nilepearl1997 Год назад +3

    Extremely useful examples that let me put things in perspective & forgive ... Thank you so much !

  • @nadiahisham2634
    @nadiahisham2634 Год назад

    Another excellent lecture as always. May Allah bless you and jazakallah khair for helping us and guiding us to the straight path.

  • @Fatuush-b2j
    @Fatuush-b2j Год назад

    Baaraka'llahu feek, wa axsana'llahu ilayk. ❤❤
    بارك الله فيك واحسن اليك💞🌷

  • @aishatukur9668
    @aishatukur9668 Год назад +1

    جزاك الله يا شيخ

  • @gigigha6880
    @gigigha6880 Год назад

    اللهم صل وسلم وبارك على نبينا محمد وعلى اله وصحبه اجمعين
    اللهم إغفر لي ولوالدي والمؤمنين والمؤمنات والمسلمين والمسلمات ولمن له حق علي من الأحياء والأموات.
    جزاك الله خيراً على هذه الخطبة وجميع أعمالك.

  • @SajidaSalam-y1j
    @SajidaSalam-y1j 3 месяца назад

    اللهم صلي وسلم على نبينا محمد

  • @farzanaaziz5277
    @farzanaaziz5277 Год назад +5

    Alhamdulillah I gotwhat I was looking for😊

  • @imrantaleb7666
    @imrantaleb7666 Год назад +14

    Asalam ma laykum may allah give victory to islam and the muslims bless and ease the sufferings of the ummah and may allah protect the people of palestine and Afghanistan and Lebanon and syria and chinA and Kashmir and yemen and sudan and india and Pakistan and may allah free the masjid al aqsa from the zionist oppressors and may allah unite the ummah upon the quran and sunnah and may allah destroy the enemies of Islam and may allah protect and guide the muslims and non muslims to the right path and may allah have mercy on all those that have passed away before us and may Allah have mercy on us when we pass away and may allah relieve the distress muslims and may allah cure all those that have a sickness and a disability and may allah grant them a cure that leaves no aliment and may allah protect the muslims from hellfire and from the fitnah of dajjal and from the fitnah that is happening these days and may Allah answer all our prayers and duas and may allahs peace and blessings be upon the prophet muhammad saw ameen

    • @MomoMomo-qm2bo
      @MomoMomo-qm2bo Год назад +2

      Ameen

    • @hamdijama7680
      @hamdijama7680 Год назад +2

      Ameen yarab

    • @killersarecowards9266
      @killersarecowards9266 Год назад +2

      Yaa Rab Amiiiin ان شاء الله
      And People of Somalia, Burkina Faso, Muslims in Philippine, Muslims in Cameron (West Africa), Muslims in Madagascar, Niger, Nigeria, Muslims in Ukraine and others ان شاء الله whom I didn't mention who going through trials and tribulations

    • @imrantaleb7666
      @imrantaleb7666 Год назад +2

      @@killersarecowards9266 may allah bless and ease their sufferings

  • @FarhanaFaruq
    @FarhanaFaruq Год назад

    Jazak'Allahu-khair.

  • @knisayusuf
    @knisayusuf 7 месяцев назад +1

    terima kasih

  • @ryze5436
    @ryze5436 Год назад

    Duas for whole team

  • @jalisaaishakhan1411
    @jalisaaishakhan1411 Год назад +1

    Jazakallah khair

  • @sherryrani2624
    @sherryrani2624 6 месяцев назад

    Great teacher

  • @ikbolhonshukhratova889
    @ikbolhonshukhratova889 Год назад +5

    Can we talk about asl interpreter on the side? Alhamdulliah

  • @kurdishnursi-1984
    @kurdishnursi-1984 Год назад

    بارك الله فيكم

  • @SajidaSalam-y1j
    @SajidaSalam-y1j 3 месяца назад

    الحمدلله

  • @sadiaparvin4861
    @sadiaparvin4861 3 месяца назад +1

    Do you have to inform the person you forgave that you forgave them even though they didn’t asked for? Do you have to be friendly with the person who you forgave to show that you forgave them? It’s so difficult & complicated…

  • @SajidaSalam-y1j
    @SajidaSalam-y1j 3 месяца назад

    سبحان الله

  • @VictoriousDrucilla
    @VictoriousDrucilla Год назад

    Ameen 🤲🏾

  • @saralujina6
    @saralujina6 Год назад

    Allahu Akbar

  • @mandypandy1267
    @mandypandy1267 Год назад +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @phirdawsnuzlaa-ty9ee
    @phirdawsnuzlaa-ty9ee Год назад +1

    How do you trust again? You can forgive but how do you trust someone who wronged you as you did before

    • @knisayusuf
      @knisayusuf 7 месяцев назад

      maybe you can learn something from this hadith?
      Narrated Abu Huraira:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "A believer is not stung twice (by something) out of one and the same hole."
      Sahih Al Bukhari 6133,Book 78,Hadith 160.
      Esp. if the person is persistent in that action(same pattern).
      Hope this helps.

  • @littleangel5605
    @littleangel5605 Год назад +2

    Asalaamu alaykom
    I have seen a dream of me my sister and this imam and other people praying behind the grave of the prophet (saw) inside the tomb and the imam was not alright i think he was feeling sick and he was leading the prayer and he was leaning on a pillar or a wall

    • @Youbettersaysubhanallah
      @Youbettersaysubhanallah Год назад

      Wa 'alaykom al selem wa rahmatu Allah wa barakatuh
      I hope that he was holding on that pillar , and I hope that's the pillar of islam

  • @UkuVoyages
    @UkuVoyages Год назад

    14:46

  • @SajidaSalam-y1j
    @SajidaSalam-y1j 3 месяца назад

    لا حول ولاقوة الابالله

  • @khadsykoo2528
    @khadsykoo2528 Год назад +3

    What if it is a controlling family member

  • @zannatautushi1223
    @zannatautushi1223 9 месяцев назад +1

    I can't forgive. I just can't. I could try to forgive what happened to myself. But O can't forgive what they did to my mother. A daughter Won't forgive.
    Forgive me Allah. I can't.

    • @NoBorder-ue4ex
      @NoBorder-ue4ex 8 месяцев назад

      I understand completely. It happened to me too for more than 30 years. I distanced myself but still make doa for them. Send presents to them until today.

  • @rszeta21
    @rszeta21 Год назад +1

    with due respect, is that honourable lady there to convey this message to the deaf ?? just my question !

    • @aminaahmad8328
      @aminaahmad8328 Год назад

      Yes

    • @rszeta21
      @rszeta21 Год назад +3

      @@aminaahmad8328 I tried putting myself into the shoe & imagined if I could understand her, I felt soo blessed for my hearing !

  • @yasienalli8224
    @yasienalli8224 9 месяцев назад

    Are you a scholar of sunnah or just looking for followers and name and fame. Which of the ulema and scholars you take from. Name us your man. Marching in the streets is forbidden in Islam. So where and which scholars did you get your information from. Name us your man if you are truthful. And stop lying to the lay man

  • @izzy.i
    @izzy.i 7 месяцев назад +1

    How to forgive pure evil people? Impossible.
    Some people don’t deserve forgiveness.

    • @givelife4441
      @givelife4441 7 месяцев назад

      Sir, Mohmmad had no guarantee of forgiveness of sins - ( which brings about assurance of heaven).
      Say, “I [Muhammad] am not something new among the messengers, and I do not know what will be done with me or with you. I only follow what is revealed to me. I am only a warner.” (Qur’an 46:9)
      Allah's Apostle said [at a funeral], “As for him, by Allah, death has come to him. By Allah, I wish him all good. By Allah, in spite of the fact that I am Allah's Apostle, I do not know what Allah will do to me.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 7003; vol 9, bk 87, no 131)

    • @knisayusuf
      @knisayusuf 3 месяца назад

      it's one of your rights,
      no one can force you to forgive anyone in fact dua of the oppressed(based on terms and conditions) is answered.