You know you are deep in the addiction when someone has to point out just how addicted you are for 20 minutes straight and then FINALLY it clicks. ADDICTED AND DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. what a tragedy
Gaming Moderation it's impossible, in these difficult times I need something for relaxing. So I started again gaming, I am 37 yrs old so not that young. I quit gaming because at my age it causes me headaches and tremors. The problem is that I am good at FPS still have good time reaction and a good k/d ratio in games like Rainbow or Apex. Although since I played again after almost 2 years, I forgot about my life problems, whilst I worsened my mental conditions; sleep deprivation, headache every morning like you wake up from a night of heavy drinking, and also huge tremors in bed with legs shaking and palpitations. I've been playing on weekends for 12 hours per day and I couldn't stop and I lost the cognition of time. So I am selling again everything, but this time I am done, my mind at my age is not able to play competitive games anymore, I am not young and I felt too much stress and pain. There is a huge difference between Game Campaign and Multiplayer, when In my 20's at the beginning of the 2000's we used to play games but once you finished one, you went hanging out with friends. Multiplayer games instead are pure dope, is like drugs or alcohol once you try and you win either you're good you can't stop it.
I think this is exactly what I needed because I always thought it was just me who wasn't being disciplined but you changed my mindset. I always got cravings (like now) to get gaming under control and that I do it if I am disciplined but the truth is that they are just too addictive and they are exactly like drugs. And even if I can get them under control I know that the rest of my life would be spent thinking about them and not being happy in anything else but them. I also think that people will not completely understand this video if they haven't done the 90 day detox because that's when you think that you could be more disciplined and that its your fault that you cannot get games under control. Great Video. Keep it up and thank you so much.
I am an addict (5 months clean) & Ive figured out that a HUGE thing is staying spiritually aware & not looking for immediate gratification & stay aware of the long term effects. Doing the same thing all the time loses its purpose & isn’t fun if you have a tolerance to that energy. I can get a little high or play video games every now & then as long as I use healthy coping mechanisms & I’m not using that activity as an escape from reality & rather I’m embracing my reality
Agree, it’s an addiction - either cold turkey and surf trough it, or it won’t work. Intense cravings and urges are challenging. I was 3 months out of gaming beginning 2020 but then covid hit & bannerlord came out and I relapsed badly 😵💫😵💫😵💫
I've been lying to myself for a long time. I really enjoy gaming, but i'm so addicted I fcked up a lot of things iny my life. I'm turning 17 this month, and I havent been sleeping properly for the past 6 years because of gaming and social media. Since Covid i haven't been caring about school, doing the bare minimum. I've fucked up some of my hobbies because of gaming, and i've been lying to myself that I would like to "have gaming in my life". I enjoyed studying. I enjoyed doing homework. I still enjoy these things, but I just dont do them because I'd rather be gaming. I don't have health problems or social problems (social reclusion or smth like that), but I really don't know what to do with my life. I enjoyed a lot of things, basketball, working out, cooking, playing guitar, taking photos, watching but I gave up on some of them or just don't dedicate my time on them of because of gaming (I still enjoy cooking or playing guitar, but i never do it bcz i'd rather game) (not sleeping well for so long made me not grow that much, i'm 5'7'' at 16) and I just quit basketball bcz of that, since gyms closed i didnt go any workout. I've been lying to myself trying to make gaming a part of my life, i've convinced myself that i'd like to be a streamer/youtuber, I even got to learn how to use photoshop (really enjoyed learning it) and learned how to use after effects ( I mean, I would love to be a streamer and youtuber, wouldn't I? Or not? is it the addiction trying to convince me? is this the real me?) And I don't even know who am I at this point. I think that I would really love to have a job that envolves computers (that's what I think at least) but i'd also enjoy doing sooo many other things. Should I quit trying to stream and youtube? Should I try to find balance? Sorry for the long text. I was just tryint to express how I feel. I'm really lost and whenever I see that I have to catch up on a lot of school subjects from over a year, I just lose all my will to try to study. I'm finishing my hs year this year at 17 years old and i don't know if I should really dedicate myself to stream and youtube or if I should pursue something else. I mean, I wouldnt be only doing twitch, I would also try to keep studying and maybe get a job (maybe something with photoshop, graphic design or video editing)
@@Vinigomez Took me til I turned 30 to turn my shit around. Just never give up trying to become the best version of yourself. You are not your failures, just stay positive and persistent. Watch/Listen to some Jordan Peterson. If he doesn't get you going then god help you lmao.
@@brianrogers5215 dude, o think I've outgrown the problem, and now it's another one. I don't have any will or reason to live. I am in good shape, hot the gym 6xtimes a week, have a good diet, am great talking with people, but what is all that for? There's no reason. I'd rather be dead and don't feel nothing.
It was easy because you had all these other areas in life pulling and calling to you. If you didn't have that it'd be way harder. So I think that's the focus. Not to quit gaming, but to find and build other areas of our lives which add value that just takes up our time. I believe only then can we choose to play in moderation, in healthier ways, if we so chiose. But we need to set timers and be mindful about it. That said, for someone having heavily been addicted. It's probably best to stop all together and find new hobbies. Lower stimuli stuff. I know my life is always more enjoyable when I am not gaming. My mind isn't always fixated on what to do next or when I can get back to playing. I can be present and meditation also becomes way easier.
Hi james. So i'm at the stage where i feel i want to quit,.. i'm telling myself i'll just play chess and no other games. I'm not sure if i'm deceiving myself by saying this but i don't feel a compulsive urge to play this like i do other games and i know chess can have beneficial effects on the brain. But maybe i'm just giving myself an out by saying this,. . .
I know this comment is 9 months old, but the reason gaming is more fun than real life is because as he stated in the video, your brain tricks itself. It likes the effects of gaming so it sends signals saying “hey I want more of this and nothing else is important” which is why life feels boring for you. Other things in life don’t give you the happy stimulation that your brain wants. Nothing else can match the stimulation of gaming. And when you quit, your brain slowly levels out over time and you begin to get happy stimulation from the “boring life”. I hope you are doing well.
@@joshnewman4270 I’m upper middle class so it’s not so bad for me. I do gaming an fun vacations. But for those in poverty as I once was I totally understand just wanting to game all day. Biology can be rough
I see where you're going with this, but so many people play games like Civ 5, Humankind, Endless Legends, 4X games, these are not games that go by quickly, they take up a lot of time.
13:30 aahhh the clasic no value arguement. This has been debunked already so i wont go into it. But i mean cmon just cuz its ur pet peves doesent mean u have to guilt others into beleiving its true... discusting.
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You know you are deep in the addiction when someone has to point out just how addicted you are for 20 minutes straight and then FINALLY it clicks.
ADDICTED AND DON'T EVEN KNOW IT.
what a tragedy
Gaming Moderation it's impossible, in these difficult times I need something for relaxing. So I started again gaming, I am 37 yrs old so not that young. I quit gaming because at my age it causes me headaches and tremors. The problem is that I am good at FPS still have good time reaction and a good k/d ratio in games like Rainbow or Apex. Although since I played again after almost 2 years, I forgot about my life problems, whilst I worsened my mental conditions; sleep deprivation, headache every morning like you wake up from a night of heavy drinking, and also huge tremors in bed with legs shaking and palpitations. I've been playing on weekends for 12 hours per day and I couldn't stop and I lost the cognition of time. So I am selling again everything, but this time I am done, my mind at my age is not able to play competitive games anymore, I am not young and I felt too much stress and pain. There is a huge difference between Game Campaign and Multiplayer, when In my 20's at the beginning of the 2000's we used to play games but once you finished one, you went hanging out with friends. Multiplayer games instead are pure dope, is like drugs or alcohol once you try and you win either you're good you can't stop it.
its not possible when addicted but possible when not addicted.
I think this is exactly what I needed because I always thought it was just me who wasn't being disciplined but you changed my mindset. I always got cravings (like now) to get gaming under control and that I do it if I am disciplined but the truth is that they are just too addictive and they are exactly like drugs. And even if I can get them under control I know that the rest of my life would be spent thinking about them and not being happy in anything else but them. I also think that people will not completely understand this video if they haven't done the 90 day detox because that's when you think that you could be more disciplined and that its your fault that you cannot get games under control. Great Video. Keep it up and thank you so much.
I am an addict (5 months clean) & Ive figured out that a HUGE thing is staying spiritually aware & not looking for immediate gratification & stay aware of the long term effects. Doing the same thing all the time loses its purpose & isn’t fun if you have a tolerance to that energy. I can get a little high or play video games every now & then as long as I use healthy coping mechanisms & I’m not using that activity as an escape from reality & rather I’m embracing my reality
Agree, it’s an addiction - either cold turkey and surf trough it, or it won’t work. Intense cravings and urges are challenging. I was 3 months out of gaming beginning 2020 but then covid hit & bannerlord came out and I relapsed badly 😵💫😵💫😵💫
Dang I discovered I cannot game in moderation, eight hours straight today
@@jamesgamefree1450 yeah sure, how do i find you there
I’m always going to love video games but I make sure I don’t overdo it
Thanks for being honest with how you view games. I'm also in the gamefree journey
Epic man! Great vid
Thx for being so open and upfront. Huge issue especially for teen boys.
Excellent content, thank you. Also your voice is very calming so it’s enjoyable listening to the video!
You have gave me a different perspective on how to view this addiction, I thank you for that and I’ll apply those wise advices
I've been lying to myself for a long time. I really enjoy gaming, but i'm so addicted I fcked up a lot of things iny my life. I'm turning 17 this month, and I havent been sleeping properly for the past 6 years because of gaming and social media. Since Covid i haven't been caring about school, doing the bare minimum. I've fucked up some of my hobbies because of gaming, and i've been lying to myself that I would like to "have gaming in my life". I enjoyed studying. I enjoyed doing homework. I still enjoy these things, but I just dont do them because I'd rather be gaming. I don't have health problems or social problems (social reclusion or smth like that), but I really don't know what to do with my life. I enjoyed a lot of things, basketball, working out, cooking, playing guitar, taking photos, watching but I gave up on some of them or just don't dedicate my time on them of because of gaming (I still enjoy cooking or playing guitar, but i never do it bcz i'd rather game) (not sleeping well for so long made me not grow that much, i'm 5'7'' at 16) and I just quit basketball bcz of that, since gyms closed i didnt go any workout. I've been lying to myself trying to make gaming a part of my life, i've convinced myself that i'd like to be a streamer/youtuber, I even got to learn how to use photoshop (really enjoyed learning it) and learned how to use after effects ( I mean, I would love to be a streamer and youtuber, wouldn't I? Or not? is it the addiction trying to convince me? is this the real me?) And I don't even know who am I at this point. I think that I would really love to have a job that envolves computers (that's what I think at least) but i'd also enjoy doing sooo many other things. Should I quit trying to stream and youtube? Should I try to find balance?
Sorry for the long text. I was just tryint to express how I feel. I'm really lost and whenever I see that I have to catch up on a lot of school subjects from over a year, I just lose all my will to try to study. I'm finishing my hs year this year at 17 years old and i don't know if I should really dedicate myself to stream and youtube or if I should pursue something else. I mean, I wouldnt be only doing twitch, I would also try to keep studying and maybe get a job (maybe something with photoshop, graphic design or video editing)
You're lucky you're only 17 when you realized this.
@@anires1195 yea, I've realized it but still haven't done anything to change it
@@Vinigomez Took me til I turned 30 to turn my shit around. Just never give up trying to become the best version of yourself. You are not your failures, just stay positive and persistent. Watch/Listen to some Jordan Peterson. If he doesn't get you going then god help you lmao.
@@brianrogers5215 dude, o think I've outgrown the problem, and now it's another one. I don't have any will or reason to live. I am in good shape, hot the gym 6xtimes a week, have a good diet, am great talking with people, but what is all that for? There's no reason. I'd rather be dead and don't feel nothing.
@@Vinigomez the answer is you need a job. A job gives you purpose.
My problem is online gaming. It is the type of games i spent the most time with and get 0 value from it. I even hate it really.
Thank you. I was debating selling my consol so I could focus on studying and getting a job
Hey Ryan i was planning on doing the same thing so I can focus on studying more. Did you go through with it, and did it help you at all?
@@steezydarkslide561 I actually just set a rule for myself. I only play on the weekends now, so I'm not tempted during the week
It was easy because you had all these other areas in life pulling and calling to you. If you didn't have that it'd be way harder. So I think that's the focus. Not to quit gaming, but to find and build other areas of our lives which add value that just takes up our time.
I believe only then can we choose to play in moderation, in healthier ways, if we so chiose. But we need to set timers and be mindful about it.
That said, for someone having heavily been addicted. It's probably best to stop all together and find new hobbies. Lower stimuli stuff. I know my life is always more enjoyable when I am not gaming. My mind isn't always fixated on what to do next or when I can get back to playing. I can be present and meditation also becomes way easier.
Hi james. So i'm at the stage where i feel i want to quit,.. i'm telling myself i'll just play chess and no other games. I'm not sure if i'm deceiving myself by saying this but i don't feel a compulsive urge to play this like i do other games and i know chess can have beneficial effects on the brain. But maybe i'm just giving myself an out by saying this,. . .
My advice would be: do whichever you see safer. If you doubt leaving one game could harm you, then be in the safe side and clear them all...
why its impossible to game in moderation?
because you have no self control because me and many other are able to do it.
the problem that I have is that gaming is more fun than real life unless you are rich...
I know this comment is 9 months old, but the reason gaming is more fun than real life is because as he stated in the video, your brain tricks itself. It likes the effects of gaming so it sends signals saying “hey I want more of this and nothing else is important” which is why life feels boring for you. Other things in life don’t give you the happy stimulation that your brain wants. Nothing else can match the stimulation of gaming. And when you quit, your brain slowly levels out over time and you begin to get happy stimulation from the “boring life”. I hope you are doing well.
@@joshnewman4270 I’m upper middle class so it’s not so bad for me. I do gaming an fun vacations. But for those in poverty as I once was I totally understand just wanting to game all day. Biology can be rough
gaming in moderation is pretty easy if youre not playing competitive games
I see where you're going with this, but so many people play games like Civ 5, Humankind, Endless Legends, 4X games, these are not games that go by quickly, they take up a lot of time.
That's right
13:30 aahhh the clasic no value arguement. This has been debunked already so i wont go into it. But i mean cmon just cuz its ur pet peves doesent mean u have to guilt others into beleiving its true... discusting.
Alao all u listed is anything YOU do also that u mentioned but hey its all just a waste of time anyway rig😭🤡
boom!
There's no videogames in heaven!