I was divorced in my early 40s and raised my youngest daughter, who was 5 at the time. I never remarried. At first I wanted to, but as time went by and all the relationships didn’t work out, I became more and more comfortable with being by myself. I’m 67 now and retired 4 years ago. My whole life was taking care of others. I worked over 40 years full time, so it was an easy decision to retire when I did. My youngest daughter moved out 4 months before I retired, so I became an empty nester and a retiree around the same time. It was quite an adjustment. But I have to say, that so many things you mentioned resonated with me. I love being by myself. I make all my own decisions and do whatever I want, whenever I want. I haven’t dated in 13 years. I have no plans to begin to date. I do not want to remarry. I love that my home is my personal space, and I don’t wish to share it with anyone else. My time is my own. I don’t like being told what to do, I don’t care to be judged by others, and I don’t want to share what I have. I know that may sound a little harsh, but for the first time in my life, I don’t have to answer to anyone. And I like that. And while I am by myself, I do not feel lonely. There is a difference.
in total agreement with everything you say here. There is no one else that knows what you want, better than you know what you want. And to think that they know what's better, or what is better for you, is crossing a boundary and absolutely none of their business. My theory is: as long as I am paying my own way, no one else gets to have an input on how I do things.
I think women are fed the line that we're supposed to give, give, give, to others while ignoring our own needs. I recently retired from teaching after 35 years. Although I loved teaching, the giving portion of it increased so much my last few years it became a drain. It is so nice to focus on myself-and give to myself- for a change.
Life is way more peaceful with less noise. I never have people over. If I want to be around people I will go out. My home is for ME. Great advice, especially the financial part.
I love living alone for the same reasons as this lady talks about. My friends know not to ever “drop in”. I usually meet them out. The Batcave 🦇 is for Batman. THE END. 🇦🇺
Good morning from Victoria, Australia. I have been single for many years and love it. This has made me very independent. When I retired, I bought a van, gave up my rental in Queensland and hit the road. I love my lifestyle and am blessed with reasonable health, so I am able to do what I do. Love your videos btw.
OMGoodness! I think we’re related. Your description of yourself is ME-ME-ME-ME-ME!!! If they’re laughing at you, they’re laughing at me too…and I don’t care. 😅😅 great video.
My husband passed away 9 years ago. I miss him every minute of the day but….. I love living on my own. I’ve been on holiday on my own. It can be tricky at meal times but I love to do my own thing. My bedroom is a nude pink lol. Best wishes from Glasgow, Scotland
Good for you on your pink bedroom. I don’t have a pink bedroom, but I do have a really cute pink pillow in my bedroom Anna granny square blanket with lots of pink in it 😀🙃
Yes, I agee, meal times arent easy, but the holidays alone are somehow freeing. I decide what to do and where to go. When I returned, I felt really proud of myself!
I got divorced after 26 years of unhappy marriage. Now it's been a few years that I'm single and honestly I'm more calm. Sometimes I miss a hug from a man, but I don't miss anything else. I like my independence, I'm free in my thoughts and actions, I don't need anyone's approval. I've become much more solid and self-confident, and being an artistic soul I live my life far from noise and useless thoughts. I love peace and colors. Thank you for your beautiful videos 🌻❤️🥰
Thank you for sharing! It would be my same words! After being a widow for nearly 15 years, great to be one's own boss. Before I married I had been living independently until almost 30. At 80, I am myself again. My sons told me if I wanted to remarry, it's ok, but I said, no thank you.
I’ve been single since my husband died in our 30s. By the time I was even marginally ready to date again, I found I simply loved living alone and stuck with it. I am planning to retire soon and look forward to being free of the beck and call of the workplace. My niece, who I raised after her parents died, already has plans for me to move in with her and her husband when I get older, but I’m like “not so fast, kid, I’m healthy and independent and hope to stay that way for a few more decades!”
Someone just asked me that last week!! "Aren't you lonely?" NO!!! I love being single, I love my children and (now older) grandchildren... this is so much better than when I was "attached"!! I'm listening to this thinking, "yes, yes, yes! Completely agree!" I have yet to find a downside. I am truly happy and content being single, and your words really resonated with me. This is such a relatable, encouraging channel!
I resonate so much with your views! I feel like I'm looking into a mirror! 🙂 After spending most of my adult life taking care of people, I am now taking care of me!
I’m an early riser, now retired, but still on that early schedule. I like my quiet time in the morning and I exercise, then go about my routine. That alone puts me at odds with having a partner. My early schedule supports my healthy living and I function better. Bedtime can be stretched but getting up early(even weekends) with a partner meant tip toeing around the house while he slept. I can be me without a partner. Our health and sleep are everything as we get older. Thanks for this. 😊
These reasons are exactly why I choose to remain single. I was in a 17 year relationship and ending it was the best thing that happened to me. No shame in wanting to be selfish.
Hi from Ontario. I found your channel recently and have watched every video. Even the first one. I do tend to go to the first video on a channel to get some perspective on the content to expect. I am 70 and had to retire at 63 due to serious illness. I raised my 2 children as a single parent and every dollar I earned went into this, providing a stable home, food and catered to their needs . I worked two and sometimes more jobs at times to make ends meet. It cost me my health. There was no extra money to put aside for retirement but I do have a decent pension from work plus what the government provides so it's still tight but manageable. I sold my house and moved to a small cottage by the lake when the kids moved out. I love being near water. My health has improved significantly. I have been single since 1997 and never looked back. I am independent and love my life for the same reasons you mentioned. It may not be for everyone as some can't be without a partner for whatever reason. My friends and family keep me busy so I am blessed for sure.
@@smallretiredlife Yes it really is a dream of mine to retire in a place like this. Trumpeter swans and other ducks swim by all the time. Lots of wildlife and forest around me but still a small community of people around so it's not too isolated.
@@Cindy-bee So lovely, I too feel this would be a nice life for me, I am also in Ontario but truly am lost where to go as real estate prices has increased so much for near the lake properties / cottages (not even lake front) and really everywhere. I live in the big city now and pandemic has changed everything for me and smaller, less expensive quieter place would be helpful. But I am not an introvert and don't really have close family so this was a difficult time indeed. What lake are you on? Wish you best.
I'm 63, never married with no children and have always lived by myself. After a long career working for a global company, now I have my own home-based business, travel solo and enjoy my privacy. I don't consider myself an introvert but I love having my own space and control over my time. I rarely interact with others and prefer it that way. I just don't need the drama and emotion that relationships bring.
I'm very similar though a few years behind, I did live in share houses for 10 years, but other than that at 46 have always lived alone, am childfree and never married and if I do ever partner (which is unlikely as I haven't had a date or been on the apps in over 2 years) I'll never live with them. I'm also rarely lonely and have an active social life and community. I also adore solo travel.
So lovely to read these responses. I love living alone-apart from my dog-dont invite people round. I love a bit of going out and new experiences but coming home is great.
in my 50s and retired ....never found the right guy, tho went on many dates...and never really wanted kids.... guess I was too picky and vowed never to settle. I love my privacy and am a control freak about my space too, and my life. And I have borne witness to more bad marriages than good.
I just retired end of May 2024 and I’m turning 58 December. It was an easy choice since my health is not well; I have multiple sclerosis. I divorced 3 years ago so apart from being alone and now retired the combination works well for me.
I haven’t even been on a date since 2009, the last two dates I went on, they started asking how much money I make, how good my health insurance was, how big my home was, etc. sounded like they were just looking for someone to take care of them. No thanks, I already raised my kids. I enjoy living alone, no TV, reading books, dress how I want. Now 60, hoping to retire in a couple of years.
Thank you for another great video. I am single after a 36+ year marriage, children, career ect... Yes I miss my late husband amnesty, but I can't imagine following that path again. I started out thinking I would go, see and do the things we were going to do together, but after over a year solo again, I realize that was a couple's journey, and really is not going to be as fulfilling and enjoyable solo. I took our goals and list and have modified it for me. After over six months on my new path, I am enjoying life again and am so excited for the future. I really enjoy having the freedom to do what I want when I want..., well outside of my obligations to watch after an aging parent, who is mostly independent and in her own senior's community. It really has been eye opening to realize just how much a person compromises to have the relationships we are blessed to have. In my solo journey I can pause and take in that museum for as long or short of time as suites me. I don't have to get a hotel at all if I want to live outside for a while. On a roadtrip or backpacking I stop when and were it suits me, and I don't feel homesick doing the activities my late husband did not do. I really miss his companionship, and I get really saddened before gatherings and milestones in our children's lives that, he is not physically here to enjoy, but it passes quickly, and I know he is there in spirit. With each change in my surroundings to suit myself rather than others, feel a freedom, that is very uplifting. Being single is not for everybody, but at this point in my life it's definitely for me. Thank you for taking the time to put your thoughts and philosophy into this video. Blessings.
So well said Raina. While I absolutely loved being married to my late husband, I have learned to be content on my own. Thank you for being open about your views on this topic. I find it refreshing to hear like minded women and often I feel like the most interesting people are the ones who are perfectly happy to do their own thing. As you put it, neither is better, just different. Love, love, love your content.
I agree. I loved my husband and do miss him but I’m very content on my own. When I really think about my husband is when I’ve been out and about and something comes up that I would normally tell my husband about once i got home, I really notice how much I miss him in those moments. I do love my own company and being holed up in my home. I just disconnect from the outside world very happily.
Your channel is a breath of fresh air. I realize that I will be better off single. I love a quiet, peaceful, clean, and simple life. I don't play well with others when my space isn't quiet and tidy.😊
Yes to all of these! I've been divorced for 7 years & have grown so much more & experienced so much more than I could have while married. And the peace! I hated compromising & love not having to do it anymore. I'm loving my minimalistic quiet life with traveling when & where I want.
Being single in retirement makes this the most freeing time of my life. I am myself. I wouldn't give up this freedom for anything . . . but death, of course. Being single is an immense reward for me. Loved thinking through your nine reasons, each one rang true to me and allowed me to think more openly, broadly about how I want to live. An excellent video, as are all yours. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. It struck a chord within me. I'm 56 ~ single, never married, no children ~ and I agree with all your points. I'm not retired (just started a consulting business) but my goal is to never work for someone again. I live in my own small apartment and I love having my own space for all the reasons you state. I also love not having to compromise. I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years serving people and I've had a lot of varied experiences which I'm grateful for, but I also find that I attract people who either ask me outright for things or they assume that I'm going to be the one giving in a relationship (whether it be a friendship or romantic relationship). I'm not saying everyone is like this. They're not. But the people who are not like this generally don't approach me because they are people like yourself - with their own assets and their own lives. I feel like past a certain point, you have to be careful who you allow into your life if you don't know them. I just had it happen again this week where someone I knew peripherally (I had taken an online class with him) asked me for something pretty big (It wasn't money). I declined and the communication ceased, which is fine. I bring this up because it happens a lot. Like I'm going along thinking I'm having a really nice communication (or a potential friendship) with this person and then they hit me with what they really want. When I say, "No", they disappear. Sorry for my long comment. I'm just wondering if this is a me thing or if others have experienced this as well.
I love this video. I totally agree with you and enjoy being alone and independent. I am also an introvert and love being in silience. Peace is everything. I enjoy my grandsons when they come to visit and that's it. 🥰
I am so glad that I found your channel, and you are speaking my language. I also do not want to be judged, asked why I prefer to be single, why I enjoy being alone, my home " looks like a hotel room " because I have removed all the chatter/clutter. I feel the most peace now, at 64 years old, independent, financial stable and content, than I ever have. You are right, we must guard this peace and be aware of those that would try to either devalue it and/or us, take advantage in any way, or think that they have a better way and you should listen to them. All of these reasons you give are the very reasons that I now have peace. Thank you for putting this into words. You are my people. :)
I love the video Raina. I’m single and happy to be so. It suits me best for my temperament. Tried dating after my husbands death and it didn’t work well. I’m better alone. Have my own room and my own piggy bank and my sweet little car and a life of freedom and peace. I think I chose wisely for myself! Much love..I appreciate your words and we seem to mirror each other in sooo many ways! ❤❤
I have a dog 12 years old recently become 65 y o ive worked in healthfield so.. done with a partner and people , lived alone sinced may 2020. Thank you regards from a Scandiland.
My dog will be 12 in December. I love her so much! I think when it’s her time, I won’t get another dog so I can more free to travel. We are lucky to be loved so unconditionally by our dogs and to love them back.
I’m introverted and single. I agree with your points. I laughed out loud at the article comment about taking better care of yourself so that you can date again 😂. Maybe in my 20s and 30s, but I definitely have no interest in that now! I have spent my whole life taking care of everyone else. Now it’s time to take really good care of myself, and I’m doing it out of love, not fear or someone’s approval ❤
Lol yes I totally agree with you about the article. I like to look good for myself. I don’t really care what anyone else thinks. But I do enjoy dressing up every now and then just so I feel good about myself.
Another great honest video! Living solo has great advantages, just like u said, doing what u want, when u want and how u want. I agree! But… there is only one thing that makes me sort of apprehensive, since I started living alone, and u didn’t mentioned in your video, probably u don’t feel the same: when u live by yourself, if u feel bad during the night, some kind of pain, or sick, or u fall and can’t stand up… no one will know. I think that one good way to be sure that someone “looks after you” is having a buddy or a family member u can text every morning (or evening) just to check that you are ok.
Great video. The peace and tranquility of a single retired life is something most married people have difficulty understanding. No spouse, happy house 😁
Great video. I am very independent and also an introvert who enjoys my alone time. I’m married to someone who loves me as I am and lets me be me, but if something were to happen to him or us and I were alone in retirement m, I would be just fine on my own. It seems like everyone I know is trying to fix up all our single friends so they don’t have to be alone and I honestly don’t get it. To each their own but I completely understand where you are coming from and it sounds like a beautiful, peaceful way to live. ❤
How wonderful it is to hear that someone feels the same as me! My friends quite often think that I am a little weird by being single at 62 and enjoy it so much, as if we women could only be happy with a companion, and be bitter or unhappy without one... Actually my freedom is the most important thing for me, and I really love my own company, although I have a lot and very cherished friends and never feel lonely. I often think that a new life begun when I completed 60 years old two years ago :) Thank you so much for sharing in this very direct and honest way, I really think that it is so important for all the people in the same situation !
Hello . I'm a new subscriber and have been watching a lot of your content as of late. I'm currently 50yo and consider myself semi retired. This video definitely hit home in many way. I am married and have been for almost 30yo. When u spoke about decorating and having control of your own space that definitely hit a cord with me. I'm more minimalist and she is a bit of a hoarder. Needless to say this has caused a lot of conflict over the years. Sometimes I think men and women were not meant to live together. Lol anyway I just wanted to share that though with you. Congrats on your RUclips success. 👏
Raina, I could have written this (except that I have no talent and no desire to do videos!). 100% agree with everything you said, so thanks a lot for posting it. I became a widow 2.5 years ago and after the shock wore off, I found myself crafting my best life on my own terms. I am not against romance in my seventies but it is unlikely that I will ever live with someone again, God willing.
Hello Raina. Your channel came on my fyp, I suppose because I liked your IG videos. Anyway, today I subscribed and I look forward to your content. I’m still working FT and I am 56 and not ready to retire. I have been divorced almost 15 years. Like many have stated in your comments, I have dated but it’s completely okay if I don’t date ever again😂. I am sooo happy being single and being by myself for all 10 points you mentioned. The LORD did not bless me with children but I have a loving niece and two precious great nieces who love me sincerely. I have some close girlfriends and even a few male friends. This is totally enough for me. Thank you for sharing your points and again I look forward to your videos.
I am in agreement with you. I am over 75 yrs old, happily divorced for many years, retired, plus an empty nester. I love my freedom, independence, and peace, plus loving having my own space. I do not have lots of friends as I get older because too many bad attitudes annoy me. If I feel like I want to mingle with folks for a while I can always go to one of the senior centers in my area. I am no longer interested in dating or a relationship. I do what I want too, when I want too, and how I want too. I also have various hobbies that I enjoy, plus love my cameras, and love my computers. My health is not perfect. but who at my age has perfect health. I also must say I never feel lonely. I enjoy being single.
Lovely video and thoughts! After 3 marriages and a few other relationships, I finally woke up to the fact that I am happiest on my own. I am 69, semi-retired from 39 years of self-employment as a software developer. I am continuing my hobby/work in photography, videography and art (art is new!). I plan to always be learning and exploring but I am an introvert/almost hermit person who is happy living with my dog and cat in semi-rural Northwest Montana and also doing some travel-camping in the Pacific Northwest after 19 years of off and on RV travel across the U.S. "Full control of my own space" - YES! Time is my own: bedtime, awake time ... I do it my way - YES! No Noise ... BIG Yes. I have not had any television/cable for 20 years. I do RUclips, stream some things and sometimes have classical music, but mostly I love the sound of silence, wind in the pines on my property, birds, squirrels ... And in full agreement that we are each responsible for our own happiness. I read somewhere that the people who survived (whole mentally) being interned during WWII ... they chose being happy in horrendous circumstances. When I start feeling sorry for myself for something in my life, I think on that and change my perspective to being grateful for the abundance that is in my life ... yes, some have more but more have much less.
What a wonderful and thoughtful comment! Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you found a very peaceful and meaningful life for yourself! Big hugs!
Im 36, but love all your videos. 😊 I'm an introverted entrepreneur and feel mostly retired, not because I make a ton of money, but because I keep my life really simple and full of freedom. Plus, when Im working, I get to be creative and really enjoy it. I've loved hearing your perspective on retirement and look forward to future videos! ❤
Thank you for this very informative message. I have been married for 50 years and am now a widow and trying to get used to living alone. It is a struggle with loneliness at times especially seeing other older couples doing things together. But I do make my own choices and like my own space. I really enjoy your channel
I love being single, have been for 30 years, I never get lonely, like you I am lucky, I have 2 children and a granddaughter, so my life is complete:) I agree with all the things you have said , but like you I am very much an introvert and when I am around people I get excited about the prospect of getting home to my quiet home :) I was laughing when you were talking about not liking things being moved, I am not too bad about that, but change my routine😱 sends me into panic and the older I am getting the worse I am ha ha , I just like living in my own little world :) ha ha , love your videos by the way
@@smallretiredlife I think you are right , I do think woman fair better than men (no judgement), I think we become much more productive and happier , obviously when it is our choice :)
Ms. Raina, AMEN TO EVERYTHING IN THIS VIDEO!!! It's My Turn! No more PTA Meeting, Carpool lines, Teacher meetings, Exams, practices.... For my youngest daughter, who is now a Junior in college, I started the graduation clock as soon as she hit middle school! I was happy that I was free and sending my last little bird into adulthood! The grandbabies can always be sent back to their parents! AMEN to everything mentioned in this video!!! Free to travel, free to try new things and spend time with 3 girlfriends that I have and enrich their lives. AMEN to it all!!!! Have A Great Week!!!🌻🌻🌻🌻🥀🥀🥀🥀
Haaaa Raina your attitude, ideas perspective and strength of a single life is perfect for an healthy productive one , thankyou for yet more great content of interest
Great video! Agree 100%. I can’t imagine living with anyone, although I could use a few more friends. Wouldn’t mind a travel buddy who is independent like me, someone who enjoys good food.
Thanks for this video. I really enjoy you covering topics that relate to both men and women. I have been single and content for several years now. Even though I am preparing for retirement in December, I wasn’t sure how I would be handling being on my own. It’s great to hear that you and others are adjusting nicely.
I can really relate to what you’re saying. I’ve been retired for 5 years and after having a very busy life, raising 2 kids and working with the general public in a high stress career, I love my downtime. I love living alone for the same reasons that you mentioned.
I'm 100% with you about having full control in the house. You know things will be as you left them - I can associate with things having to be set just right. You don't have to gi behind people putting things back correctly etc Also point two about having complete freedom to do what you want, when you want. I think I've been single for too long to be able to compromise 🤷🏾♀️
Im a recent widow. Have no trouble being alone. I can sit in peace doing my own thing. Dont have to worry about food shopping, i can get out vacuum cleaner out when i want, hubby hated it. Go out when i want. Dont mind sitting in pubs and restaurants on my own, love people watching. Only thing i cant get used too is cooking for one!😂
Love, love, being alone. Experienced everything else and this is what I prefer. Have a wonderful daughter and son-in-law, friends and my hobbies. I agree with everything you say in your video.
Love your cool and collected way of talking. It's very assuring and brings comfort. I am 51 with two university level sons, still married and everything but looking forward to that on your own independent kind of feeling.
Another thoughtful presentation. Many presenters say they are going to present the top 5 ways to do something or the top 10 reasons for something, but it soon becomes obvious that their "research" is little more that a compilation of Google searches. The thought you put into your presentations and the examples you use show the work you have done to make your content more engaging. Also, I appreciate that you change the settings in your videos to make them more interesting. I have lived with partners and now live single and certainly can see the value in what you say.
Thank you for the nice comment and for watching my video. I’m glad it resonated with you. And yes, I do try to change the settings of where I filmed the videos lol, my house is quite small so it is challenging!
I have listened to a few of your videos and it's super smoothing and relaxing to listen to. Not retired yet but single and always thinking about retirement life. I think you and I are twins bc I like being home alone, like music but only jazz if I have music on. I like my home to be immaculate at all times and am minimalist here too.
I applaud you. I don't get lonely or sad. I live alone after a 36 year marriage. I'd like a partner to travel with, or maybe buy property internationally, but living alone while retired is exceptional.
Raina - I love your video and message. I can relate. I’m on my own, not by my choice but now I’m solo and loving it… the freedom is priceless 🌻🌻🌻 it’s God, my garden and peacefulness 🙏🏼
Great video! I also love that you mentioned different aspects of safety. Ive watched quite a few videos about retire,ent and being single and safety is hardly ever mentioned, esp. financial safety.
OMG! Why do we have so much in common 😊 . I've been widowed for the past 18 years and have been living alone every since. I sometimes wonder if I am being selfish by my preference to be single. I'm totally introverted and don't feel guilty about it. Glad that I have company and happy I subscribed to your channel 🤗
Thank you for this encouraging video ! Your right , there is much joy in singleness just as there is in all of life ! 😊❤️🌿 it’s good to be reminded we must all be aware of dangerous people and situations but not be stopped from embracing life ! 🌿😃
I love how you mention safety and privacy. This is a concept I’m struggling with as I want to start a YT channel but not sure how to balance the safety and privacy with being fully authentic. I don’t really see anyone else talk about this so thank you.
I resonate so much with what you shared - I have a partner (very happily together for 15 yrs) but 'when something is slightly out of place' it still irks me. lol Also things like noise, or too much movement around me, are stressful; I like (and strive to create) a peaceful environment and existence.
Great video… I feel SEEN! I’ve always been so different from my friends on this topic because I’ve never been married, nor had the desire to be married. LOVE being single and living life on my own terms! I’m 52 and truly enjoy my own company… I’m also a Gemini so that might have something to do with it too :)
Love your video, I completely agree with you,I have been a widowed man for 32 years. Retired and very single with many friends and family and one wonderful daughter. Yes being able to travel any where any time is great. Glad to hear someone else thinks like I do! Cheers To You!
I am almost 65 and single. I am not looking for a partner but I am generally open for a new partner. Like you I am never bored and most of the time I don't feel lonely although unfortunately I don't have grandchildren and also not very many girlfriends. I love my independence, my apartement is very unique and I am looking forward to be able to develop my creativity again now that I have the time and peace to do so. Love from Germany
I enjoyed watching your video. You speak very well, easy to understand. You are also obviously very intelligent. I am not single but I can totally agree with you about reasons you listed of being single. Luckily my husband lets me be independent but of course, compromising at times is a must for a good relationship. Looking forward seeing more of your videos. Regards, another introvert.
Your home looks so lovely and I totally get it about being single. Tho my last trip to Budapest I did wish I had someone to eat and share it with - now that Im not so young and out going anymore :)
OMG 😱 you're literally describing me in this video. I didn't go with a pink bedroom, but I did go with an all pink office/study area in my home. Great video, I agree 100% with everything that you stated in the video❤
I relate completely to your need to be alone in your own space doing what you choose when you want to. I do miss my two adult daughters and two young grandchildren who live in another province. Seeing them occasionally would add much-needed contact with the only family I have.
Yes. I've been single for many years after losing my husband in my late 20s. Never remarried and now in my 50s seems hard to be in a relationship. I definitely believe in building a community to surround yourself with when you need companionship. Solitude is good for us more than we know. Not loneliness.
Raina you are so sensible and very honest about yourself. I am happily married and I smiled at several things you said. In a good marriage you should be free to do what you want, dress as you want, eat what you want, slob around if you want, meet friends and family when you want and watch whatever tv you like. Having two tvs in the house works fine! 😁 I am glad that you are happy, free and know yourself so well. No man is going to annoy you! 😁
I am obsessed with your channel that popped up on my feed today. Am doing a marathon on your channel tonight - My Friday night hangout. Smiles from Ontario 🇨🇦
I adored my husband and because we were very considerate of each other it was amazing. He died and now I am rediscovering just how awesome I actually am as a best friend to >>myself
Being single is just an option. I’m retired and married , my husband is retired too, he’s 72 and I’m 65. The point here is I do feel great and happy in my current situation .
I’ve had a couple unsuccessful relationships. Now 60 I’m single and the longer I’m single, the more I think I wouldn’t do well living with anyone again. “Never say never” but I do like the flexibility of doing what I want with my space and time. Go us!
I have a certain sense of balance and placement of items …if they’re moved I notice it immediately🙄 I agree we are in charge of our own happiness!! I’m 85 and live alone, still drive and I’ve noticed that women who are married get used to their husbands after retirement always driving and they stop driving and then became afraid to drive if they become widowed.
Thank you very much Rina for your vlog, I am single (recently widowed) and retired and introvert. I truly find your strategies reasonable. Exactly what am doing and so happy to get additional ideas and guidance. Again thank you and more power to your channel. God bless.
It sounded like I curated this video about my life, minus having kids. I love love LOVE being single. Most people think I’m bored and that is the furthest from the truth. Thank you…I am not alone in feeling happy about being single. 😊😊😊
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I was divorced in my early 40s and raised my youngest daughter, who was 5 at the time. I never remarried. At first I wanted to, but as time went by and all the relationships didn’t work out, I became more and more comfortable with being by myself.
I’m 67 now and retired 4 years ago.
My whole life was taking care of others. I worked over 40 years full time, so it was an easy decision to retire when I did.
My youngest daughter moved out 4 months before I retired, so I became an empty nester and a retiree around the same time. It was quite an adjustment.
But I have to say, that so many things you mentioned resonated with me.
I love being by myself. I make all my own decisions and do whatever I want, whenever I want. I haven’t dated in 13 years. I have no plans to begin to date. I do not want to remarry.
I love that my home is my personal space, and I don’t wish to share it with anyone else. My time is my own. I don’t like being told what to do, I don’t care to be judged by others, and I don’t want to share what I have. I know that may sound a little harsh, but for the first time in my life, I don’t have to answer to anyone. And I like that. And while I am by myself, I do not feel lonely. There is a difference.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I think personal experiences like this help others.
I feel the same way and had a very circumstance in my life.❤
Ops. Similar circumstances
in total agreement with everything you say here. There is no one else that knows what you want, better than you know what you want. And to think that they know what's better, or what is better for you, is crossing a boundary and absolutely none of their business. My theory is: as long as I am paying my own way, no one else gets to have an input on how I do things.
I think women are fed the line that we're supposed to give, give, give, to others while ignoring our own needs. I recently retired from teaching after 35 years. Although I loved teaching, the giving portion of it increased so much my last few years it became a drain. It is so nice to focus on myself-and give to myself- for a change.
Life is way more peaceful with less noise. I never have people over. If I want to be around people I will go out. My home is for ME. Great advice, especially the financial part.
I love living alone for the same reasons as this lady talks about.
My friends know not to ever “drop in”. I usually meet them out.
The Batcave 🦇 is for Batman.
THE END. 🇦🇺
@@bodhi9464 Hahaha...love that🦇
I’m with you both! Mine, mine, mine! Don’t drop by!
I am happy to find people here who feel as I do about this. I have gone through life thinking I am strange for being the way I am.
People have called me strange for being like this. There’s nothing strange about us…we are happy.
Better to be alone than wish that you were…
It's called, "Freedom"..period!!
Good morning from Victoria, Australia. I have been single for many years and love it. This has made me very independent. When I retired, I bought a van, gave up my rental in Queensland and hit the road. I love my lifestyle and am blessed with reasonable health, so I am able to do what I do. Love your videos btw.
OMGoodness! I think we’re related. Your description of yourself is ME-ME-ME-ME-ME!!! If they’re laughing at you, they’re laughing at me too…and I don’t care. 😅😅 great video.
I’m alone and I love it. I agree with you.
My husband passed away 9 years ago. I miss him every minute of the day but….. I love living on my own. I’ve been on holiday on my own. It can be tricky at meal times but I love to do my own thing. My bedroom is a nude pink lol. Best wishes from Glasgow, Scotland
Good for you on your pink bedroom. I don’t have a pink bedroom, but I do have a really cute pink pillow in my bedroom Anna granny square blanket with lots of pink in it 😀🙃
Yes, I agee, meal times arent easy, but the holidays alone are somehow freeing. I decide what to do and where to go.
When I returned, I felt really proud of myself!
I got divorced after 26 years of unhappy marriage. Now it's been a few years that I'm single and honestly I'm more calm. Sometimes I miss a hug from a man, but I don't miss anything else. I like my independence, I'm free in my thoughts and actions, I don't need anyone's approval. I've become much more solid and self-confident, and being an artistic soul I live my life far from noise and useless thoughts. I love peace and colors. Thank you for your beautiful videos 🌻❤️🥰
Thank you for sharing! It would be my same words! After being a widow for nearly 15 years, great to be one's own boss. Before I married I had been living independently until almost 30. At 80, I am myself again. My sons told me if I wanted to remarry, it's ok, but I said, no thank you.
I’ve been single since my husband died in our 30s. By the time I was even marginally ready to date again, I found I simply loved living alone and stuck with it. I am planning to retire soon and look forward to being free of the beck and call of the workplace. My niece, who I raised after her parents died, already has plans for me to move in with her and her husband when I get older, but I’m like “not so fast, kid, I’m healthy and independent and hope to stay that way for a few more decades!”
Someone just asked me that last week!! "Aren't you lonely?" NO!!! I love being single, I love my children and (now older) grandchildren... this is so much better than when I was "attached"!! I'm listening to this thinking, "yes, yes, yes! Completely agree!" I have yet to find a downside. I am truly happy and content being single, and your words really resonated with me. This is such a relatable, encouraging channel!
Thank you for watching and leaving such a lovely comment!
I Travel with my wife but mostly without my wife
I, as well, enjoy being on my own very much! Thanks for your video. Greetings from Germany 😊
I resonate so much with your views! I feel like I'm looking into a mirror! 🙂 After spending most of my adult life taking care of people, I am now taking care of me!
I agree. I also enjoy being alone. It’s great! 😊
Can’t agree more, being single is awesome.
I’m an early riser, now retired, but still on that early schedule. I like my quiet time in the morning and I exercise, then go about my routine. That alone puts me at odds with having a partner. My early schedule supports my healthy living and I function better. Bedtime can be stretched but getting up early(even weekends) with a partner meant tip toeing around the house while he slept. I can be me without a partner. Our health and sleep are everything as we get older. Thanks for this. 😊
Absolutely I can come in and do what I want to do without annoying anyone else whose not on my vibe at that moment. Can totally relax
These reasons are exactly why I choose to remain single. I was in a 17 year relationship and ending it was the best thing that happened to me. No shame in wanting to be selfish.
Hi from Ontario. I found your channel recently and have watched every video. Even the first one. I do tend to go to the first video on a channel to get some perspective on the content to expect.
I am 70 and had to retire at 63 due to serious illness. I raised my 2 children as a single parent and every dollar I earned went into this, providing a stable home, food and catered to their needs . I worked two and sometimes more jobs at times to make ends meet. It cost me my health. There was no extra money to put aside for retirement but I do have a decent pension from work plus what the government provides so it's still tight but manageable.
I sold my house and moved to a small cottage by the lake when the kids moved out. I love being near water. My health has improved significantly.
I have been single since 1997 and never looked back. I am independent and love my life for the same reasons you mentioned. It may not be for everyone as some can't be without a partner for whatever reason. My friends and family keep me busy so I am blessed for sure.
Cottage by the lake sounds like an absolute dream to me!
@@smallretiredlife Yes it really is a dream of mine to retire in a place like this. Trumpeter swans and other ducks swim by all the time. Lots of wildlife and forest around me but still a small community of people around so it's not too isolated.
@@Cindy-bee So lovely, I too feel this would be a nice life for me, I am also in Ontario but truly am lost where to go as real estate prices has increased so much for near the lake properties / cottages (not even lake front) and really everywhere. I live in the big city now and pandemic has changed everything for me and smaller, less expensive quieter place would be helpful. But I am not an introvert and don't really have close family so this was a difficult time indeed. What lake are you on? Wish you best.
I'm 63, never married with no children and have always lived by myself. After a long career working for a global company, now I have my own home-based business, travel solo and enjoy my privacy. I don't consider myself an introvert but I love having my own space and control over my time. I rarely interact with others and prefer it that way. I just don't need the drama and emotion that relationships bring.
I'm very similar though a few years behind, I did live in share houses for 10 years, but other than that at 46 have always lived alone, am childfree and never married and if I do ever partner (which is unlikely as I haven't had a date or been on the apps in over 2 years) I'll never live with them. I'm also rarely lonely and have an active social life and community. I also adore solo travel.
So lovely to read these responses. I love living alone-apart from my dog-dont invite people round. I love a bit of going out and new experiences but coming home is great.
in my 50s and retired ....never found the right guy, tho went on many dates...and never really wanted kids.... guess I was too picky and vowed never to settle. I love my privacy and am a control freak about my space too, and my life. And I have borne witness to more bad marriages than good.
I just retired end of May 2024 and I’m turning 58 December. It was an easy choice since my health is not well; I have multiple sclerosis. I divorced 3 years ago so apart from being alone and now retired the combination works well for me.
I haven’t even been on a date since 2009, the last two dates I went on, they started asking how much money I make, how good my health insurance was, how big my home was, etc. sounded like they were just looking for someone to take care of them. No thanks, I already raised my kids. I enjoy living alone, no TV, reading books, dress how I want. Now 60, hoping to retire in a couple of years.
🤣😂 oh my goodness, sounds like quite the dates! I think I would definitely pass on those opportunities and prefer to stay single as well 😂😂
We’re on a very similar trajectory. Reading comments has felt like I’m with “my people”.
Great video 🎉
I Stopped setting myself on fire to keep others warm.
Freedom!
great analogy.
Thank you for another great video. I am single after a 36+ year marriage, children, career ect... Yes I miss my late husband amnesty, but I can't imagine following that path again. I started out thinking I would go, see and do the things we were going to do together, but after over a year solo again, I realize that was a couple's journey, and really is not going to be as fulfilling and enjoyable solo. I took our goals and list and have modified it for me. After over six months on my new path, I am enjoying life again and am so excited for the future. I really enjoy having the freedom to do what I want when I want..., well outside of my obligations to watch after an aging parent, who is mostly independent and in her own senior's community. It really has been eye opening to realize just how much a person compromises to have the relationships we are blessed to have. In my solo journey I can pause and take in that museum for as long or short of time as suites me. I don't have to get a hotel at all if I want to live outside for a while. On a roadtrip or backpacking I stop when and were it suits me, and I don't feel homesick doing the activities my late husband did not do. I really miss his companionship, and I get really saddened before gatherings and milestones in our children's lives that, he is not physically here to enjoy, but it passes quickly, and I know he is there in spirit. With each change in my surroundings to suit myself rather than others, feel a freedom, that is very uplifting. Being single is not for everybody, but at this point in my life it's definitely for me. Thank you for taking the time to put your thoughts and philosophy into this video. Blessings.
Thank you for the great comment and for sharing your experience.
I’m 41 and my mom controlled me when I was young.
My husband also does same.
I’m building my career up now!
You GO, girl! 🎉
Fellow Canadian (semi) retired woman here....I agree with everything you have said!
So well said Raina. While I absolutely loved being married to my late husband, I have learned to be content on my own. Thank you for being open about your views on this topic. I find it refreshing to hear like minded women and often I feel like the most interesting people are the ones who are perfectly happy to do their own thing. As you put it, neither is better, just different. Love, love, love your content.
I agree. I loved my husband and do miss him but I’m very content on my own. When I really think about my husband is when I’ve been out and about and something comes up that I would normally tell my husband about once i got home, I really notice how much I miss him in those moments. I do love my own company and being holed up in my home. I just disconnect from the outside world very happily.
Your channel is a breath of fresh air. I realize that I will be better off single. I love a quiet, peaceful, clean, and simple life.
I don't play well with others when my space isn't quiet and tidy.😊
I’m recently divorced my ex. He was a hoarder and it’s such a relief to see all his junk gone. What a breath of fresh air!!
Yes to all of these! I've been divorced for 7 years & have grown so much more & experienced so much more than I could have while married. And the peace! I hated compromising & love not having to do it anymore. I'm loving my minimalistic quiet life with traveling when & where I want.
🙌 high five!
Being single in retirement makes this the most freeing time of my life. I am myself. I wouldn't give up this freedom for anything . . . but death, of course. Being single is an immense reward for me. Loved thinking through your nine reasons, each one rang true to me and allowed me to think more openly, broadly about how I want to live. An excellent video, as are all yours. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. It struck a chord within me. I'm 56 ~ single, never married, no children ~ and I agree with all your points. I'm not retired (just started a consulting business) but my goal is to never work for someone again. I live in my own small apartment and I love having my own space for all the reasons you state. I also love not having to compromise. I worked in U.S. healthcare for 20 years serving people and I've had a lot of varied experiences which I'm grateful for, but I also find that I attract people who either ask me outright for things or they assume that I'm going to be the one giving in a relationship (whether it be a friendship or romantic relationship). I'm not saying everyone is like this. They're not. But the people who are not like this generally don't approach me because they are people like yourself - with their own assets and their own lives. I feel like past a certain point, you have to be careful who you allow into your life if you don't know them. I just had it happen again this week where someone I knew peripherally (I had taken an online class with him) asked me for something pretty big (It wasn't money). I declined and the communication ceased, which is fine. I bring this up because it happens a lot. Like I'm going along thinking I'm having a really nice communication (or a potential friendship) with this person and then they hit me with what they really want. When I say, "No", they disappear. Sorry for my long comment. I'm just wondering if this is a me thing or if others have experienced this as well.
Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your own experiences. I started my RUclips channel specifically so I could work for myself.
@ Good for you. I truly wish you all the best with RUclips. I enjoy hearing your insights.
I love this video. I totally agree with you and enjoy being alone and independent. I am also an introvert and love being in silience. Peace is everything. I enjoy my grandsons when they come to visit and that's it. 🥰
I am so glad that I found your channel, and you are speaking my language. I also do not want to be judged, asked why I prefer to be single, why I enjoy being alone, my home " looks like a hotel room " because I have removed all the chatter/clutter. I feel the most peace now, at 64 years old, independent, financial stable and content, than I ever have. You are right, we must guard this peace and be aware of those that would try to either devalue it and/or us, take advantage in any way, or think that they have a better way and you should listen to them. All of these reasons you give are the very reasons that I now have peace. Thank you for putting this into words. You are my people. :)
Thank you for the nice comment and thank you for watching🙏
I love the video Raina. I’m single and happy to be so. It suits me best for my temperament. Tried dating after my husbands death and it didn’t work well. I’m better alone. Have my own room and my own piggy bank and my sweet little car and a life of freedom and peace. I think I chose wisely for myself!
Much love..I appreciate your words and we seem to mirror each other in sooo many ways! ❤❤
I have a dog 12 years old recently become 65 y o ive worked in healthfield so.. done with a partner and people , lived alone sinced may 2020. Thank you regards from a Scandiland.
My dog will be 12 in December. I love her so much! I think when it’s her time, I won’t get another dog so I can more free to travel. We are lucky to be loved so unconditionally by our dogs and to love them back.
I’m introverted and single. I agree with your points. I laughed out loud at the article comment about taking better care of yourself so that you can date again 😂. Maybe in my 20s and 30s, but I definitely have no interest in that now! I have spent my whole life taking care of everyone else. Now it’s time to take really good care of myself, and I’m doing it out of love, not fear or someone’s approval ❤
Lol yes I totally agree with you about the article. I like to look good for myself. I don’t really care what anyone else thinks. But I do enjoy dressing up every now and then just so I feel good about myself.
Another great honest video! Living solo has great advantages, just like u said, doing what u want, when u want and how u want. I agree!
But… there is only one thing that makes me sort of apprehensive, since I started living alone, and u didn’t mentioned in your video, probably u don’t feel the same: when u live by yourself, if u feel bad during the night, some kind of pain, or sick, or u fall and can’t stand up… no one will know. I think that one good way to be sure that someone “looks after you” is having a buddy or a family member u can text every morning (or evening) just to check that you are ok.
Yes, you’re definitely right about that. I have my sister and I check in with her daily. Well pretty much daily. Just as a safety precaution.
Great video. The peace and tranquility of a single retired life is something most married people have difficulty understanding. No spouse, happy house 😁
No spouse, happy house is a phrase I'll be using!
“No spouse, happy house” this is the first time I’m hearing this and I LOVE IT! 🙌
Me too ,ill make a sign for front door😂@@coraclouden2506
I love being single.
I couldn't agree more - life is what you make it! Thank you for the video.
Great video. I am very independent and also an introvert who enjoys my alone time. I’m married to someone who loves me as I am and lets me be me, but if something were to happen to him or us and I were alone in retirement m, I would be just fine on my own. It seems like everyone I know is trying to fix up all our single friends so they don’t have to be alone and I honestly don’t get it. To each their own but I completely understand where you are coming from and it sounds like a beautiful, peaceful way to live. ❤
How wonderful it is to hear that someone feels the same as me! My friends quite often think that I am a little weird by being single at 62 and enjoy it so much, as if we women could only be happy with a companion, and be bitter or unhappy without one... Actually my freedom is the most important thing for me, and I really love my own company, although I have a lot and very cherished friends and never feel lonely. I often think that a new life begun when I completed 60 years old two years ago :) Thank you so much for sharing in this very direct and honest way, I really think that it is so important for all the people in the same situation !
Hello . I'm a new subscriber and have been watching a lot of your content as of late. I'm currently 50yo and consider myself semi retired. This video definitely hit home in many way. I am married and have been for almost 30yo. When u spoke about decorating and having control of your own space that definitely hit a cord with me. I'm more minimalist and she is a bit of a hoarder. Needless to say this has caused a lot of conflict over the years. Sometimes I think men and women were not meant to live together. Lol anyway I just wanted to share that though with you. Congrats on your RUclips success. 👏
Raina, I could have written this (except that I have no talent and no desire to do videos!). 100% agree with everything you said, so thanks a lot for posting it. I became a widow 2.5 years ago and after the shock wore off, I found myself crafting my best life on my own terms. I am not against romance in my seventies but it is unlikely that I will ever live with someone again, God willing.
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I have been enjoying being a single for a long time and happy with it 😊
Hello Raina. Your channel came on my fyp, I suppose because I liked your IG videos. Anyway, today I subscribed and I look forward to your content. I’m still working FT and I am 56 and not ready to retire. I have been divorced almost 15 years. Like many have stated in your comments, I have dated but it’s completely okay if I don’t date ever again😂. I am sooo happy being single and being by myself for all 10 points you mentioned. The LORD did not bless me with children but I have a loving niece and two precious great nieces who love me sincerely. I have some close girlfriends and even a few male friends. This is totally enough for me. Thank you for sharing your points and again I look forward to your videos.
I love the fact you enjoy being an auntie. My sister never had children and my boys are like her own.
I am in agreement with you. I am over 75 yrs old, happily divorced for many years, retired, plus an empty nester. I love my freedom, independence, and peace, plus loving having my own space. I do not have lots of friends as I get older because too many bad attitudes annoy me. If I feel like I want to mingle with folks for a while I can always go to one of the senior centers in my area. I am no longer interested in dating or a relationship. I do what I want too, when I want too, and how I want too. I also have various hobbies that I enjoy, plus love my cameras, and love my computers. My health is not perfect. but who at my age has perfect health. I also must say I never feel lonely. I enjoy being single.
Lovely video and thoughts!
After 3 marriages and a few other relationships, I finally woke up to the fact that I am happiest on my own.
I am 69, semi-retired from 39 years of self-employment as a software developer. I am continuing my hobby/work in photography, videography and art (art is new!). I plan to always be learning and exploring but I am an introvert/almost hermit person who is happy living with my dog and cat in semi-rural Northwest Montana and also doing some travel-camping in the Pacific Northwest after 19 years of off and on RV travel across the U.S.
"Full control of my own space" - YES! Time is my own: bedtime, awake time ... I do it my way - YES! No Noise ... BIG Yes. I have not had any television/cable for 20 years. I do RUclips, stream some things and sometimes have classical music, but mostly I love the sound of silence, wind in the pines on my property, birds, squirrels ...
And in full agreement that we are each responsible for our own happiness. I read somewhere that the people who survived (whole mentally) being interned during WWII ... they chose being happy in horrendous circumstances. When I start feeling sorry for myself for something in my life, I think on that and change my perspective to being grateful for the abundance that is in my life ... yes, some have more but more have much less.
What a wonderful and thoughtful comment! Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you found a very peaceful and meaningful life for yourself! Big hugs!
Im 36, but love all your videos. 😊 I'm an introverted entrepreneur and feel mostly retired, not because I make a ton of money, but because I keep my life really simple and full of freedom. Plus, when Im working, I get to be creative and really enjoy it. I've loved hearing your perspective on retirement and look forward to future videos! ❤
Thank you for this very informative message. I have been married for 50 years and am now a widow and trying to get used to living alone. It is a struggle with loneliness at times especially seeing other older couples doing things together. But I do make my own choices and like my own space. I really enjoy your channel
I love being single, have been for 30 years, I never get lonely, like you I am lucky, I have 2 children and a granddaughter, so my life is complete:) I agree with all the things you have said , but like you I am very much an introvert and when I am around people I get excited about the prospect of getting home to my quiet home :) I was laughing when you were talking about not liking things being moved, I am not too bad about that, but change my routine😱 sends me into panic and the older I am getting the worse I am ha ha , I just like living in my own little world :) ha ha , love your videos by the way
Thank you for watching! Glad to see this resonated with you. Based on a comments, I think there are many women like us out there.
@@smallretiredlife I think you are right , I do think woman fair better than men (no judgement), I think we become much more productive and happier , obviously when it is our choice :)
Ms. Raina, AMEN TO EVERYTHING IN THIS VIDEO!!! It's My Turn! No more PTA Meeting, Carpool lines, Teacher meetings, Exams, practices.... For my youngest daughter, who is now a Junior in college, I started the graduation clock as soon as she hit middle school! I was happy that I was free and sending my last little bird into adulthood! The grandbabies can always be sent back to their parents! AMEN to everything mentioned in this video!!! Free to travel, free to try new things and spend time with 3 girlfriends that I have and enrich their lives. AMEN to it all!!!! Have A Great Week!!!🌻🌻🌻🌻🥀🥀🥀🥀
Haaaa Raina your attitude, ideas perspective and strength of a single life is perfect for an healthy productive one , thankyou for yet more great content of interest
Great video! Agree 100%. I can’t imagine living with anyone, although I could use a few more friends. Wouldn’t mind a travel buddy who is independent like me, someone who enjoys good food.
Thanks for this video. I really enjoy you covering topics that relate to both men and women. I have been single and content for several years now. Even though I am preparing for retirement in December, I wasn’t sure how I would be handling being on my own. It’s great to hear that you and others are adjusting nicely.
I can really relate to what you’re saying. I’ve been retired for 5 years and after having a very busy life, raising 2 kids and working with the general public in a high stress career, I love my downtime. I love living alone for the same reasons that you mentioned.
I agree Never lend money to anyone! It's better to get rid of that relationship!
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I'm 100% with you about having full control in the house. You know things will be as you left them - I can associate with things having to be set just right. You don't have to gi behind people putting things back correctly etc
Also point two about having complete freedom to do what you want, when you want. I think I've been single for too long to be able to compromise 🤷🏾♀️
Im a recent widow. Have no trouble being alone. I can sit in peace doing my own thing. Dont have to worry about food shopping, i can get out vacuum cleaner out when i want, hubby hated it. Go out when i want. Dont mind sitting in pubs and restaurants on my own, love people watching. Only thing i cant get used too is cooking for one!😂
Oh this is a great point- I truly don’t mind going out to eat, to the museum, hiking etc alone!
Love, love, being alone. Experienced everything else and this is what I prefer. Have a wonderful daughter and son-in-law, friends and my hobbies. I agree with everything you say in your video.
Love your cool and collected way of talking. It's very assuring and brings comfort. I am 51 with two university level sons, still married and everything but looking forward to that on your own independent kind of feeling.
Another thoughtful presentation. Many presenters say they are going to present the top 5 ways to do something or the top 10 reasons for something, but it soon becomes obvious that their "research" is little more that a compilation of Google searches. The thought you put into your presentations and the examples you use show the work you have done to make your content more engaging. Also, I appreciate that you change the settings in your videos to make them more interesting. I have lived with partners and now live single and certainly can see the value in what you say.
Thank you for the nice comment and for watching my video. I’m glad it resonated with you. And yes, I do try to change the settings of where I filmed the videos lol, my house is quite small so it is challenging!
I have listened to a few of your videos and it's super smoothing and relaxing to listen to. Not retired yet but single and always thinking about retirement life. I think you and I are twins bc I like being home alone, like music but only jazz if I have music on. I like my home to be immaculate at all times and am minimalist here too.
I applaud you. I don't get lonely or sad. I live alone after a 36 year marriage. I'd like a partner to travel with, or maybe buy property internationally, but living alone while retired is exceptional.
Raina - I love your video and message. I can relate. I’m on my own, not by my choice but now I’m solo and loving it… the freedom is priceless 🌻🌻🌻 it’s God, my garden and peacefulness 🙏🏼
I resonate with you of how your things around the house have to be the exact place... a touch of OCD here too
Great video! I also love that you mentioned different aspects of safety. Ive watched quite a few videos about retire,ent and being single and safety is hardly ever mentioned, esp. financial safety.
OMG! Why do we have so much in common 😊 . I've been widowed for the past 18 years and have been living alone every since. I sometimes wonder if I am being selfish by my preference to be single. I'm totally introverted and don't feel guilty about it. Glad that I have company and happy I subscribed to your channel 🤗
Thank you for this encouraging video ! Your right , there is much joy in singleness just as there is in all of life ! 😊❤️🌿 it’s good to be reminded we must all be aware of dangerous people and situations but not be stopped from embracing life ! 🌿😃
I love how you mention safety and privacy. This is a concept I’m struggling with as I want to start a YT channel but not sure how to balance the safety and privacy with being fully authentic. I don’t really see anyone else talk about this so thank you.
I resonate so much with what you shared - I have a partner (very happily together for 15 yrs) but 'when something is slightly out of place' it still irks me. lol Also things like noise, or too much movement around me, are stressful; I like (and strive to create) a peaceful environment and existence.
Great video… I feel SEEN! I’ve always been so different from my friends on this topic because I’ve never been married, nor had the desire to be married. LOVE being single and living life on my own terms! I’m 52 and truly enjoy my own company… I’m also a Gemini so that might have something to do with it too :)
Love your video, I completely agree with you,I have been a widowed man for 32 years. Retired and very single with many friends and family and one wonderful daughter. Yes being able to travel any where any time is great. Glad to hear someone else thinks like I do! Cheers To You!
I am almost 65 and single. I am not looking for a partner but I am generally open for a new partner. Like you I am never bored and most of the time I don't feel lonely although unfortunately I don't have grandchildren and also not very many girlfriends. I love my independence, my apartement is very unique and I am looking forward to be able to develop my creativity again now that I have the time and peace to do so. Love from Germany
Really enjoy your videos! As an independent, single, retiree myself, I relate to the joy you find in living alone!
I'm with you - zero interest in dating men!! Your hair is great :)
Thank you 🙏
I love my retired single life. I’m happy to see that other people feel like me. Cheers!
I am single and retired and yes I love the freedom to decorate my space my way. I enjoy the freedom to purchase the bed linen I want.
I enjoyed watching your video. You speak very well, easy to understand. You are also obviously very intelligent. I am not single but I can totally agree with you about reasons you listed of being single. Luckily my husband lets me be independent but of course, compromising at times is a must for a good relationship. Looking forward seeing more of your videos. Regards, another introvert.
Your home looks so lovely and I totally get it about being single. Tho my last trip to Budapest I did wish I had someone to eat and share it with - now that Im not so young and out going anymore :)
OMG 😱 you're literally describing me in this video. I didn't go with a pink bedroom, but I did go with an all pink office/study area in my home. Great video, I agree 100% with everything that you stated in the video❤
I relate completely to your need to be alone in your own space doing what you choose when you want to. I do miss my two adult daughters and two young grandchildren who live in another province. Seeing them occasionally would add much-needed contact with the only family I have.
I agree with everything you shared. Thank you so much for being frank and caring in your messages/ cautions.
Yes. I've been single for many years after losing my husband in my late 20s. Never remarried and now in my 50s seems hard to be in a relationship. I definitely believe in building a community to surround yourself with when you need companionship. Solitude is good for us more than we know. Not loneliness.
Raina, I have a pink bedroom and i love it. I am learning so much from your videos. Thank you.
Great video Loved the positivity
Another outstanding video! I love being alone and for all of these reasons!
I completely agree with you and I envy your life style. Wish you all the best!
Raina you are so sensible and very honest about yourself. I am happily married and I smiled at several things you said. In a good marriage you should be free to do what you want, dress as you want, eat what you want, slob around if you want, meet friends and family when you want and watch whatever tv you like. Having two tvs in the house works fine! 😁 I am glad that you are happy, free and know yourself so well. No man is going to annoy you! 😁
I also love being alone. You explained the advantages to this lifestyle very well.
Love, love, love your videos. You are such a practical person, much like myself.
I am obsessed with your channel that popped up on my feed today. Am doing a marathon on your channel tonight - My Friday night hangout. Smiles from Ontario 🇨🇦
☺️🥰 thank you so much! Welcome here …hope you like varied content because that is what I do here. I love keeping it different every week.
I adored my husband and because we were very considerate of each other it was amazing. He died and now I am rediscovering just how awesome I actually am as a best friend to >>myself
Being single is just an option. I’m retired and married , my husband is retired too, he’s 72 and I’m 65. The point here is I do feel great and happy in my current situation .
Love this!
I loved watching this video. I am the total opposite of you on this, but that's OK. Thank you for sharing.
I’ve had a couple unsuccessful relationships. Now 60 I’m single and the longer I’m single, the more I think I wouldn’t do well living with anyone again. “Never say never” but I do like the flexibility of doing what I want with my space and time. Go us!
I have a certain sense of balance and placement of items …if they’re moved I notice it immediately🙄 I agree we are in charge of our own happiness!!
I’m 85 and live alone, still drive and I’ve noticed that women who are married get used to their husbands after retirement always driving and they stop driving and then became afraid to drive if they become widowed.
Hi 😮😊very Informative and I’m listening 👂 ❤
Love your videos! You’re a natural and have a very calming and realistic approach. Thank you!
Thank you very much Rina for your vlog, I am single (recently widowed) and retired and introvert. I truly find your strategies reasonable. Exactly what am doing and so happy to get additional ideas and guidance. Again thank you and more power to your channel. God bless.
Great video ❤. It is ture been single it is a lot easy when you have a partner one wants one things and the other wants something diffirent.
It sounded like I curated this video about my life, minus having kids. I love love LOVE being single. Most people think I’m bored and that is the furthest from the truth.
Thank you…I am not alone in feeling happy about being single. 😊😊😊