My mom gave me up when I was 21 months old. Was raised by my Grandparents, and at 4 years old, my dad was killed, he was 24. Now I just loss my oldest daughter to suicide/murder, and then my oldest son to drug overdose Fentynal, just within a couple months apart. It's made me look into the mirror, and take inventory of myself, and my walk with my Lord God and Savior Jesus Christ. Keeping my eyes on Jesus, not looking to the left or right. I Keep running the good race, and fighting the good fight AMEN.
Definitely needed to hear this!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭 My relationship with my dad is not good right now. It seems when I forgive him for one thing, them I’m forgiving him for another thing but then the Lord does a deeper work of forgiveness. Like she was saying “layers”. I went through inner healing but now the Holy Spirit is calling me to put my words into action. I’ve been feeling the tug at my heart strings to reach out to my dad. So I’m asking God for the grace to be able to take the next steps 🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️
God meant for me to listen to this. I am currently in therapy. My father abandoned our family when I was around 4. I am now 54. He passed last year. I RUclipsd a major part of an interview of my fatherless daughter experience this year. What’s crazy is I did it after he passed for his protection of shame and embarrassment. Protection for the man who seemed to not care about us. WoW! Thank you very much John.
Thank you for this. I met my father for the first time this year at 32 years old. I didnt know until this year how bad it affected me. Abandonment is a wound I dont think will ever fully heal. My only confort I have for the hole I have is God. This year I am running toward him. The lifestyle I led trying to fill the hole my father left was damaging. But each day with prayer it gets better. I am finding my purpose and my one true father in heaven. Praise Jesus and his grace of forgiveness. Without it I would be gone.
Waw it has affected me as well, and I didn’t knew it till this year but I can reassure you that God can heal you fully because he has done it for me. It was so difficult to be vulnerable before God and to tell him everything about how I was feeling toward the way my father has treated me . And after all this God has rescued me he has healed my heart and he has also given me a spiritual father. God is able to do everything, even healing you from this wound. For me it was impossible as well but God showed me that their is nothing out of is capacity
I too had abandonment issues and it led to me not seeing God rightly. But after chasing him and laying my heart bare before him, I can say these wounds have been healed by Jesus. When the time is right, he can do it for you also! Romans 8:15 says that we have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out "Abba, Father!" I break an orphan spirit off of you in Jesus Name. Holy Spirit fill him with the spirit of adoption and pour out the love of the Farher into his heart.
Even Jesus received affirmation by God the Father after he was baptized and just before he was 40 days in the wilderness and tempted by satan. Letting your children know they are not mistakes or disappointments but rather worthy of love and born with a purpose can change the trajectory of your childs future
I have the greatest father, He is the great I AM. My Heavenly Father replaces the father I never had or needed. My Heavenly Father will always be a better someone. Better father, better friend, better counselor, a better God. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing this. I don’t know how I got here but I think this might have popped up on my feed from Kirk Franklin’s “Father’s Day” documentary. Kirk shares his own powerful journey of his own father wounds and the discovery in real time of who his father actually is. Our days on earth are so brief, and the lifespan of this world is getting shorter and shorter. Forgive everybody everything. We have no right to withhold any forgiveness at all when we consider who we are and the vastness of what Our Father did in giving Jesus just for us. In these very critical last days, may we do all we can to honor and to love - just as we have been loved so freely. Blessings to you all. Shalom
This is the best I’ve heard regarding relationship with fathers The deepest wound I ever had was from my father. I thank God I was able to forgive him and communicate same to him before he passed
Deuteronomy 20 In the End God wins! Amen I wanted to be a better father and go to all the classes that child support could offer but it never repaired for my kids hearts to Show them how much I love them all. If I could be a dad would be great and I’m thankful for having the label but it’s more than that in this heartbeat
My father was abusive verbally,emotionally and physically to my mum and us as her children. The trauma affected my mum's mental health and eventually she died of it. The pain and child hood trauma still affects me to date despite being a christian. The memories hurt so much even as I go through therapy and the journey of forgiveness. It hurts even more because my dad still does not see the pain he continues to causes with his words and actions. Being expected to earn his approval, being constantly faulted for not fitting into his script of how we should live and carry ourselves; yet we are all adults above 40yrs old.Forgiveness is not easy, especially when the experiences don't seem to improve. I have prayed for healing for so many years but I still experience seasonal depression.
I wonder what the advice would have been if a person in the group pictured had said something like this: “I was sexually abused by my father - and currently I am afraid that God will forgive him because that will mean that he will again have access to me in heaven”. That’s a perfectly understandable fear. Why is it? Because unfortunately the "forgive no matter what" teaching of the typical bible teacher implies - to the person who rightly believes that they are only able to behave like God if his in dwelling character emanates from them - that if they are required to forgive people no matter what (whether or not the person repents) - that the God whose character emanates from them must also forgive people whether or not they repent. But God does not intend to do that. It’s clear (see Acts 3:19) that repentance is a necessary sign of someone having been saved. So where have we gone wrong? Unfortunately we haven’t come to understand that there is no such thing as OUR forgiveness. When people do wrong to us it isn’t our moral code that they break. Our individual moral codes cannot be imposed on others. The only beliefs about right and wrong which are absolute are beliefs which exist outside and over this world - because they emanate from God. So then when people wrong us it isn’t OUR moral code they violate - they violate God’s moral code - that moral code being God’s character. Therefore the only forgiveness which we can offer people is God’s forgiveness. And that means that we should only offer people forgiveness consistent with the conditions under which God offers his forgiveness. And therefore it’s not a surprise that Luke 17:3 mentions the idea of forgiving people WHEN they repent. It wouldn’t mention repentance if we are supposed to forgive people even if they don't repent. Currently our wrong ideas about forgiveness are centred only on our need to move on with our lives. They fail to recognise the need for the person who has done wrong to move on with their life (something they can only do if they repent). However there is one last important piece to the puzzle - when someone who has wronged us is unrepentant it’s important that we behave as those who are EAGER to forgive (should a circumstance in which we are able and required to forgive come to exist) - as God was with us when we were not repentant. God reached out to us. The only way the sexually abused person can do that is with the assurance that God will NEVER require them to live in union with someone who continues to do evil. We see this need to be eager to forgive in Mark 11:25. But we must not interpret Mark 11:25 as if Luke 17:3 does not exist - it is a VERY SERIOUS mistake to respond to evil doing only from the perspective of what allows US to be free of it - to imply to people who are unrepentant that they have God’s acceptance in our forgiving them - when if they are unrepentant they will spend eternity in hell. There is a price in terms of our relationships to be a follower of Jesus. We are required - as Jesus was - to live as if people's being obedient to God is reason BY ITSELF for us to consider a person a friend of ours - and their maintaining a pattern of evil doing (evil doing being a specific kind of sin which is free, wilful, and knowing) even after hearing the good news of God should mean that we do not treat such a person as our friend. (Christians aren't supposed to have friendships where the PRIMARY determiners of friendship are things like personality - or the fact that someone is cool). John 15:14 ESV You are my friends if you do what I command you. PS I see around me people who will never heal because they refuse to obey the bible's teaching in how to respond to evil doing (including evil done to us). Alongside their being taught to be eager to forgive (only under the conditions under which God forgives) they must also be taught to hate the evil that was done to them (Rom 12:9) and to hate the evil doer for as long as they do evil (Psalm 5:5-6) - or otherwise not heal (they don't heal because they make peace with something they should not make peace with). Hating someone for their evil doing - and being eager for a circumstance in which God is willing to forgive a person to exist - are not two ends of a line - we can do them both at once. However notice how God responds to those who are involved in a pattern of evil doing in the bible. He does not talk to them as if they are just a prayer away from being saved (to do that would be naive).
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My mom gave me up when I was 21 months old. Was raised by my Grandparents, and at 4 years old, my dad was killed, he was 24. Now I just loss my oldest daughter to suicide/murder, and then my oldest son to drug overdose Fentynal, just within a couple months apart. It's made me look into the mirror, and take inventory of myself, and my walk with my Lord God and Savior Jesus Christ. Keeping my eyes on Jesus, not looking to the left or right. I Keep running the good race, and fighting the good fight AMEN.
Praying for your precious heart ❤️
Jesus is the LORD I Love You Jesus I Love You Holy Spirit I Love You Father God Is Good I Love HIm
Definitely needed to hear this!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭 My relationship with my dad is not good right now. It seems when I forgive him for one thing, them I’m forgiving him for another thing but then the Lord does a deeper work of forgiveness. Like she was saying “layers”.
I went through inner healing but now the Holy Spirit is calling me to put my words into action. I’ve been feeling the tug at my heart strings to reach out to my dad. So I’m asking God for the grace to be able to take the next steps 🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️
God meant for me to listen to this. I am currently in therapy. My father abandoned our family when I was around 4. I am now 54. He passed last year. I RUclipsd a major part of an interview of my fatherless daughter experience this year. What’s crazy is I did it after he passed for his protection of shame and embarrassment. Protection for the man who seemed to not care about us. WoW! Thank you very much John.
Thank you for this. I met my father for the first time this year at 32 years old. I didnt know until this year how bad it affected me. Abandonment is a wound I dont think will ever fully heal. My only confort I have for the hole I have is God. This year I am running toward him. The lifestyle I led trying to fill the hole my father left was damaging. But each day with prayer it gets better. I am finding my purpose and my one true father in heaven. Praise Jesus and his grace of forgiveness. Without it I would be gone.
Waw it has affected me as well, and I didn’t knew it till this year but I can reassure you that God can heal you fully because he has done it for me. It was so difficult to be vulnerable before God and to tell him everything about how I was feeling toward the way my father has treated me . And after all this God has rescued me he has healed my heart and he has also given me a spiritual father. God is able to do everything, even healing you from this wound. For me it was impossible as well but God showed me that their is nothing out of is capacity
Sorry for any mistakes my English is not perfect 😅
I feel sorry for You Rose , I Hope You find a healthy Community . Keep Your hope
I too had abandonment issues and it led to me not seeing God rightly. But after chasing him and laying my heart bare before him, I can say these wounds have been healed by Jesus. When the time is right, he can do it for you also! Romans 8:15 says that we have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out "Abba, Father!" I break an orphan spirit off of you in Jesus Name. Holy Spirit fill him with the spirit of adoption and pour out the love of the Farher into his heart.
Even Jesus received affirmation by God the Father after he was baptized and just before he was 40 days in the wilderness and tempted by satan. Letting your children know they are not mistakes or disappointments but rather worthy of love and born with a purpose can change the trajectory of your childs future
I have the greatest father, He is the great I AM. My Heavenly Father replaces the father I never had or needed. My Heavenly Father will always be a better someone. Better father, better friend, better counselor, a better God. ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing this. I don’t know how I got here but I think this might have popped up on my feed from Kirk Franklin’s “Father’s Day” documentary. Kirk shares his own powerful journey of his own father wounds and the discovery in real time of who his father actually is.
Our days on earth are so brief, and the lifespan of this world is getting shorter and shorter.
Forgive everybody everything.
We have no right to withhold any forgiveness at all when we consider who we are and the vastness of what Our Father did in giving Jesus just for us.
In these very critical last days, may we do all we can to honor and to love - just as we have been loved so freely. Blessings to you all.
Shalom
This is the best I’ve heard regarding relationship with fathers
The deepest wound I ever had was from my father. I thank God I was able to forgive him and communicate same to him before he passed
Thank you for sharing all these beautiful stories❤😢 I do not know what my parents have gone through, but I believe that God knows and He loves them
Amen 😊 🙏
This was powerful ❤
Thank you for continuing to stand with me for my breakthrough. God is at work and I long to see.
Yes, I have many fathers wounds, thank you Jesus
Deuteronomy 20 In the End God wins! Amen
I wanted to be a better father and go to all the classes that child support could offer but it never repaired for my kids hearts to
Show them how much I love them all. If I could be a dad would be great and I’m thankful for having the label but it’s more than that in this heartbeat
Amen and Amen!
Thank you for this
My father was abusive verbally,emotionally and physically to my mum and us as her children. The trauma affected my mum's mental health and eventually she died of it. The pain and child hood trauma still affects me to date despite being a christian. The memories hurt so much even as I go through therapy and the journey of forgiveness. It hurts even more because my dad still does not see the pain he continues to causes with his words and actions. Being expected to earn his approval, being constantly faulted for not fitting into his script of how we should live and carry ourselves; yet we are all adults above 40yrs old.Forgiveness is not easy, especially when the experiences don't seem to improve.
I have prayed for healing for so many years but I still experience seasonal depression.
This is so good! Thank you for sharing ❤
My parents are Narcissistic and Religious so unfortunately I don't see any relationship ever re stabaloshing
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I wonder what the advice would have been if a person in the group pictured had said something like this:
“I was sexually abused by my father - and currently I am afraid that God will forgive him because that will mean that he will again have access to me in heaven”.
That’s a perfectly understandable fear. Why is it? Because unfortunately the "forgive no matter what" teaching of the typical bible teacher implies - to the person who rightly believes that they are only able to behave like God if his in dwelling character emanates from them - that if they are required to forgive people no matter what (whether or not the person repents) - that the God whose character emanates from them must also forgive people whether or not they repent.
But God does not intend to do that. It’s clear (see Acts 3:19) that repentance is a necessary sign of someone having been saved.
So where have we gone wrong? Unfortunately we haven’t come to understand that there is no such thing as OUR forgiveness. When people do wrong to us it isn’t our moral code that they break. Our individual moral codes cannot be imposed on others. The only beliefs about right and wrong which are absolute are beliefs which exist outside and over this world - because they emanate from God. So then when people wrong us it isn’t OUR moral code they violate - they violate God’s moral code - that moral code being God’s character. Therefore the only forgiveness which we can offer people is God’s forgiveness. And that means that we should only offer people forgiveness consistent with the conditions under which God offers his forgiveness. And therefore it’s not a surprise that Luke 17:3 mentions the idea of forgiving people WHEN they repent. It wouldn’t mention repentance if we are supposed to forgive people even if they don't repent.
Currently our wrong ideas about forgiveness are centred only on our need to move on with our lives. They fail to recognise the need for the person who has done wrong to move on with their life (something they can only do if they repent).
However there is one last important piece to the puzzle - when someone who has wronged us is unrepentant it’s important that we behave as those who are EAGER to forgive (should a circumstance in which we are able and required to forgive come to exist) - as God was with us when we were not repentant. God reached out to us. The only way the sexually abused person can do that is with the assurance that God will NEVER require them to live in union with someone who continues to do evil. We see this need to be eager to forgive in Mark 11:25. But we must not interpret Mark 11:25 as if Luke 17:3 does not exist - it is a VERY SERIOUS mistake to respond to evil doing only from the perspective of what allows US to be free of it - to imply to people who are unrepentant that they have God’s acceptance in our forgiving them - when if they are unrepentant they will spend eternity in hell.
There is a price in terms of our relationships to be a follower of Jesus. We are required - as Jesus was - to live as if people's being obedient to God is reason BY ITSELF for us to consider a person a friend of ours - and their maintaining a pattern of evil doing (evil doing being a specific kind of sin which is free, wilful, and knowing) even after hearing the good news of God should mean that we do not treat such a person as our friend. (Christians aren't supposed to have friendships where the PRIMARY determiners of friendship are things like personality - or the fact that someone is cool).
John 15:14 ESV
You are my friends if you do what I command you.
PS I see around me people who will never heal because they refuse to obey the bible's teaching in how to respond to evil doing (including evil done to us). Alongside their being taught to be eager to forgive (only under the conditions under which God forgives) they must also be taught to hate the evil that was done to them (Rom 12:9) and to hate the evil doer for as long as they do evil (Psalm 5:5-6) - or otherwise not heal (they don't heal because they make peace with something they should not make peace with). Hating someone for their evil doing - and being eager for a circumstance in which God is willing to forgive a person to exist - are not two ends of a line - we can do them both at once. However notice how God responds to those who are involved in a pattern of evil doing in the bible. He does not talk to them as if they are just a prayer away from being saved (to do that would be naive).
I’m praying for my son and my husband salvation I’m they not Christianim praying for you them my son and husband not taking for almost 8 years
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