Main Character Syndrome: Filming Yourself Crying
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One of the most therapeutic and sacred acts we can do as humans is cry for 3 hours straight and then get the best sleep in your life. Oversharing on social media is starting to become weird - Taylor swift fans are acting like they’ve witnessed a traumatic event, drive-thru workers are getting treated as therapists, and moments that should be kept to yourself are being used for likes and internet clout. This phenomenon is called sadfishing where you fish for attention from others by unloading on them, whether they consented to it or not. Celebrities will drop a vague upsetting teaser about something they’re releasing and it’ll turn out to be a skincare brand deal! We've moved past curated highlight reels and are now posting the worst versions of ourselves for authenticity's sake. Main Character Syndrome is Filming Yourself Crying #edvasian
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I get embarrassed when I catch a glimpse of myself crying in the mirror. The thought of POSTING IT…..
If I cry I won't leave the house for the rest of the day because I'm embarrassed that everyone that looks at me will know I've been crying when they see my puffy face and red eyes
FOR REAL when I cry I have this weird thing where I kinda smile at the same time?? Yeah I don’t think the internet needs to see that
I'm really embarrassed to cry in front of other people so even the thought of posting it to socmed is just horrific.
FOR REAL 😭😭😭😭
Exactly
Working in retail means getting trauma dumped by strangers almost every day
Oh my god, I made the mistake of asking my customers what they were doing for Father’s Day. Never ask.
I wish because then they would appear human. Being respectful or just doing nothing is the most minor form of proof of humanity and they couldnt do that.
I make a little bit of small talk about the products or topical things around it 😅 Is that bad? They seem to laugh at my jokes. I see them quite often for groceries.
@@hel2722that's perfectly fine and probably welcomed. Now what's not fine is when a cashier asks how you're doing and you reply talking about how your husband just died or something that is best handled by a therapist 😩
I'm a housekeeper/cleaner for a hotel and last week I knocked on a man's door with the usual "housekeeping! Can I get anything for you sir?" And no joke his response was "a therapist would be great" and started truma dumping. I stood there staring at him with the dumbest look on my face before cutting him off with "sorry sir but I'm not a therapist. I clean toilets for below minimum wage, I could use a therapist myself" and left
The lady trauma-dumping and projecting in the drive-thru was so horrible to watch
Let's get the likes to 69
I hate people who hold up lines
Ikr that was painful to watch 💀😭
“we need more kindness’ laugh cry laugh cry
The worst thing about that lady is supposedly the man she is talking about wasn’t even her husband and the family doesn’t talk to her other then to ask her to stop. I think I heard she dated the guy but it was a long time before he was killed. Obviously to date someone that is killed would be awful but to lie and trauma dump to people isn’t okay.
3:36 the girl on the right trying so hard not to laugh and the girl on the left shaking her head like “girl don’t do it” 😭 I cant
Or they'll have to do another take😂
imagine performatively bawling your eyes out in the arms of your "friends" while they try not to laugh at you. the lives these people live seems disturbingly hollow
Swifties are some of the most genuinely unhinged ppl online.. the fact her sobs echoed OVER TAYLOR HERSELF IS INSANE
Nah not all of us I'm a very big swiftie and she was being SUPER dramatic
This happens for every large musical sensation, have you seen what the Beatles did to white culture? have you seen how unhinged some of those boomers get about their floppy haired boy band? People connect with music, particularly global phenomena.
@@Little_Runaway_1989 You musically simp for a woman who chips away at the ecosystem whenever she wants a flight to McDonalds. Celebrity worship is unhinged.
Summed up all the swifties in the world 😅😂
@@Myeongwol31 not really...
I thought the Taylor swift one was bad but The drive thru one made my jaw drop😭😭😭😭
yes the Taylor swift one were such horrible actors it was so cringe
and yet the guy wasn't even her husband
@@killerwasp102 TRUE. and was the EX boyfriend
that one at least was kinda funny, the drive thru one... I had to fast forward@@noellefritz5678
It was the first one too... 😂😂 I wasn't expecting this at all...
If i ever film myself crying and post it just know I am being threatened
Bruh or having a stroke
😅
Lmao
No Fr or I got payed lots of money to do so because like be Fr
If you EVER see a video of me crying posted online, call the police because I'm probably being held at gunpoint
The way the Taylor Swift girl's friends knew EXACTLY what was about to happen before the girl herself even knew
true friendship lol
"Ah man get the tissues out before her makeup ruins your shirt"
Imagine the convo. Hey let's go to this concert and record Me crying and screaming. Um ok sis?
I mean sure they knew their script xD
Dude she knew. It was so on purpose and gross.
the taylor swift one reminds me of being 13 at the middle school dance when you walk into the bathroom and see your friend crying over the boyfriend theyve had for 2 weeks and now youre in a 20 minute unskippable cutscene just standing there occasionally patting their shoulder
Lmfao
Unskippable cutscene is wild😭😭💀
This literally happened to me as a 14 yo, except my female friend was crying over another female friend and she had a crush on her but the other friend was toxic and emotionally abusive af.. it wasn't irl tho it was in text and she vented to me so hard but as the therapist friend i listened and helped her out of that but the worst thing is after all that she went back to her and i was so frustrated 💀
I’ve had so many unskippable cutscenes with awkward shoulder patting
Girls endured some absolute shenanigans in the womens bathroom holy shit.
I’m sorry the girl SCREAMING CRYING at Taylor swift singing SENT MEEEEEEE
I was once trapped in a Safeway line by a lady who decided that since I was buying a lot of tampons, I would want to hear all about her uterine cancer and hysterectomy. THEY ARE ON SALE WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME.
🥴🥴
WTH 😀
I was told by some 60+ year old woman about her vaginal possibly fungal infection. We were in a queue and she just felt like confessing and asking me, some rando with a then 15 year old, for advice. Because everybody knows the best medical advice comes from random women in a queue... Strangers trauma dump on me all the time - am I being mistaken for a sin-eater?
@@catedempsey5707Now I really want to imagine it was the same lady.
I think she wanted you to listen about her uterine cancer and hysterectomy.
The only time I'll understand recording yourself sobbing is if you see the most blasphemous, shocking, jaw dropping, and concerning comment on the Internet
I will only do such tomfoolery if Jesús appeared before my eyes bc it either means im dying or have gane crazy
I would if im being chased or whatever..if i die at least i got them on canera
Even then it's cringe to me.
Even then bruh why feel the need
@@alienjesus796 at least it's in a satire way and you're not showing smth that should probably be kept private
the lady trauma dumping at the drive-thru is actually lying. the guy who she claims to be her husband is actually not. and she is not related to him in any way. his family pleaded her to stop with the non-sense but apparently she still posts these videos.
oh yeah! I heard about this, but I don't remember what video it was anymore
I dont know if being nothing is worse than had being a couple more than 10 years ago and then say they were a marriage until death took them apart
WTH that's so disgusting! Can he sue her?
@@Mintimiruku6369the guy she’s talking about did get murdered, but she’s lying about being married to him etc
That's twisted 😧 @@AmbassadorKat
It's okay to cry in public, you can't always make your life so that feelings only hit at home, and sometimes it's all too much. But the performative aspect of filming it AND publishing that just crosses the "not okay" line.
lol i once had a panic attack on street, i went to somewhere looking for a bathroom or something
i was crying myself out, and there was a little girl with her dad passing
she looked so worry and i felt funny how i couldn't stop those big teary eyes and the was she was looking at me shock-
Absolutely, I cried twice on a bus on my way back home because I had received really upsetting news. It never fucking crossed my mind to film myself and share it 🤦♀️ hell, I would even basically hide my face with my hair and sob as quietly as possible
Not even when I was suffering a nervous breakdown and literally crying multiple times a day for hours at a time did it occur to me to film myself crying.
Exactly this!
True, cuz they not only record it but they have to edit things and put a caption on it before uploading. It’s just weird cuz it’s so not in the moment. And most emotional outbursts are in the moment things that you usually don’t want to share with anyone
"we need more kindness" dumping your traumatic experience on a girl who is likely underage and making virtually no money while also going through her own struggles, is not kind
Yeah and what does paying for the people behind her have to do with anything she just said. Was a very performative act of kindness that she most likely would not have done without the camera capturing every moment
And she goes on about kindness when she's paying for Starbucks, which funds the genocidal IDF.
exactly
“This is like torture for nosy people” literally me💀
Teatok is fun because you get all the details
didn't know they had lego paintings lmaoo that looks cool
they also have plants now
gotta recommend the lego cherry blossom tree too
its beautiful
Wq@@imberrysandy
Ooh I have the orchid set, it’s nice!
They're in the Icons series! They have more too like the Golden Gate Bridge, The Eiffel Tower, Big Ben and as others mention... flowers and succulents!
What worries me is people posting this stuff alongside their actual names and faces. Once upon a time this sort of thing would have been restricted to a Tumblr side blog with 3 followers. And sharing actual names, ages, pictures of yourself, etc was out of the question. But now people will not only use their real identity online, they'll share this extremely private stuff.
Lmaooo I had 0 followers and I still felt embarrassed posting anything personal 💀
I feel like I’m the only person who uses different names for everything so no one can triangulate who I am from my social media lol this shit is WILD
Jokes on them, next time they go to apply for a job the people hiring them will know that they are unstable after a quick google search
@vegasa2067 it's cool keep doing this, but one can still see your ip adress from just your email... Shit is scary)
I think it’ll be cool when we someday live in a world where people are less bold about attacking people over what they do online in the event that it isn’t harming others. That being said every one of these posts was insane
My mum works in retail and you're not kidding when you say its a part time therapist gig. The amount of trauma customers dump on her unprovoke is insane
She's heard everything from family deaths to SA and terminal diagnosis. Straight up comforting ppl crying at the till while they're paying for shopping. Loneliness is becoming more prevalent especially among the elderly so a part of her is happy to lend an sympathetic ear to them but it also effects her mental well-being too. There's also the problem with customers violating her boundaries by asking for her phone number and wanting to meet up with her after her shift. Its gotten so bad she wants to transfer out to another branch
I know therapy is expensive but please remember your local cashier is not paid enough or equipped to handle rude customers and your trauma dumping
Girl-
I saw the woman trauma dumping to a brick wall and thought “wow, she’s a really good actor” and then SHE TURNS THE CAMERA AROUND?? AND SOMEONE IS ACTUALLY THERE???? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT TO SOMEONE?????
I don't mind as much if people trauma dump online (as long as they put a short and sweet TW). But don't do it at the drive thru or where you have someone who can't escape. Also, just don't film people without permission, even with the camera pointed away
yeah sometimes a lil trauma dump feels good. TWs are a beautiful thing, i love em.
edit- i have nothing to say about filiming people covertly because i just think it's gross and it's just not something me or my family and friends do. i don't go out in public much anymore anyways.
yeah, I feel so bad for that drive thru worker
Yeah it can be healthy to vent online in moderation and when done in ways where people can leave before the vent begins. Is it cringey? Yes. Does that make it wrong? No.
TW are stupid 😂
Don't trauma dump on anyone unconsentingly
Yeah I have a whole side account for it on Twitter and I pinned a TW for the entire account just to be safe
Modern Society really said "Main Character > Self-Awareness."
Personally I could never. I feel awful as it is crying in front of my friends and family, heck no to doin it in front of strangers 💀
Real 💀 i RUN HIDING when i started cry
For real I feel so embarrassed when I've cried in front of someone I know. Imagine the feeling of strangers seeing it :/
eyy same, I hate crying in front of people even with my family, It's better to cry by yourself honestly
Yeah, I get it, I don't really cry in public as I don't like the attention.
Yes!! Haha. My sister used to laugh at me for serious stuff. Yet, she gets sympathy for her balling sessions. LMAO Fuck the world. No tears here 🤣🤣
7:28 “we need more kindness”
> trauma dumps on stranger
> holds up people behind her
> If the comments here are true, she lied about him being her husband. The comments here say he was her ex-boyfriend and his family asked her to stop posting about him, but she kept posting about him and even promoted a book she wrote about her grieving about his death.
I know this comment is from two months ago, but her “we need more kindness” is the most hypocritical thing I’ve seen lately
P.S - she also pretty much pointed the camera on that poor employee. I’m not sure that employee really had a chance to say “no” before the camera was pointed at her, but I can be wrong about that
My heartless soul: i need to take my lunch after you so please hurry up
“Cosplaying as a sad baby” I wasn't ready 🤣🤣🤣
I was once driving through my little town, when I saw this familiar woman who always greeted me, walking down the road, crying and bawling her eyes out.
So, I stopped and asked what was up and if she wanted to sit with me in the car (she was around 60 years old and absolutely no danger). I helped her in, and we talked. She had the worst day of her life. Her husband had a heart attack and was in the hospital, and her daughter had lost her job, all on the same day. I hugged her and asked if her husband would be alright; he would be. I told her that her daughter would find a new job soon and that her husband would come home soon too. I told her to let it all out and that it's totally okay to let yourself feel all emotions. She started smiling after five minutes of crying and said she felt so much better. We sat for a long time, and I brought her home after.
Her daughter found a job that paid her double the wage she had before, and it turned out that her husband was totally fine but had suffered from a rare, but in the end, "harmless" heart problem that was misdiagnosed. So, everything was totally fine, just not in that moment.
We all need a shoulder to cry on; what we don't need is attention-grabbing, fake crying online.
tysm for being that person for her :')
we all need somebody like you in our short lives, but a lot of us don't get it so easily which is a real shame.
you are a lovely person!! thank you for genuinely being there for her and helping her in the moment
God bless your beautiful soul
Amen!
As someone who used to trauma dump because of a shitty home life and not being able to handle my emotions, YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP DOING IT. You need to stop expecting people to unpack your emotions for you. I know, you might want companionship, but you need to be able to lift yourself up, too. Dumping shit on people all the time is going to ruin your relationships and it won't make you feel better in the long run.
Agreed.
Yeah, my best friend vents to me about their very horrible home life and I can’t ask them to stop because I’d sound like a dick. I’m honestly so tired. Please listen to the first comment, trauma dumping drains people.
@@Charlie_exe777honestly if they’re your friend they should understand as long as you explain how you feel, but you could also suggest journaling or if it’s an option look for a professional to talk about it with.
@@Charlie_exe777 You should still talk to your friend. They probably don’t realize the toll it takes on you. I have a very long time friend who went through trauma and she started to trauma dump on me to the point that I found myself actually dejected at the idea of hanging out. I let her know that I will always be her friend no matter what, but that she needed to let up on how she would share her traumas. I explained to her that I couldn’t carry the weight of her struggles AND my own. She was very receptive of it and we even came to a compromise where I told her if she needed to let it out, to send me the text, but to realize I probably wasn’t going to read it. It was helpful for her to know I wasn’t going anywhere, but gave me the freedom to put up safe guards on my own mental energy to tackle my personal issues too.
@@Charlie_exe777 it really does. as someone who used to be guilty of this. it took me loosing two friends to realise that i was the one who drained them and they had every right to say enough is enough. friends should support you, yes. but they want to be friends to have fun with you and hangout not sit there and listen to you talk about how shit your life is they are not your therapist.
To the person who’s comment i’m replying too. if it gets too much for you set clear boundaries with them and let them know that if they cross those boundaries cut them off. it’s a very hard life lesson to learn but hopefully it would give them the wake up call they need to get out of the cycle and work on their mindset so they grow as a person.
That CEO could have just reduced his own salary in order to avoid firing anyone
@@artsyygameryou mean the average CEO making anywhere from 100x to 10000x of an average employee? 😅
noooooo he can't do that! How could he possibly afford his new 5 bedroom 10 bath cabin in Tahoe then?!
/s
@artsygamer noooo come back! I didn't get to read your comment
if it's a small business, the CEO/owner could easily not be making very much. but yeah the post was in incredibly poor taste
@@velvetinedrapes4359literally my thoughts lmaooooo 😂
That Taylor swift screaming crying video has me laughing sooo hard 😂😂😂😂 the way the friends looked at each other and one of them shook their heads... I can't stop laughing
omgoodness 😂😂😂😂😂 I died from that.
Omg they were READY for that breakdown (poor gals)
I say this all the time. There is absolute no reason to cry on camera, unless it's live and it just happens that you cry. But recording yourself cry is always a no-no.
We need to peer pressure the "trauma dumping to retail workers" trend out of existence
when i worked at build-a-bear i had a woman come in and record her husbands voice for a bear and i was sad you know, obviously, an then she went on a 30 min dump about how her husband died, like full detail...like ma'am i am so sorry for your loss but there are 5 children waiting behind you😭
oml that makes me feel better about once going into a build a bear a day after being broken up with and being like "i just got broken up with :(" and the girl was nice to me
That one at least makes sense - active grief makes you do weird things
Naw, the Starbucks encounter is outrageous. People are absolutely unhinged.
and she wasn’t even married to the victim. she wrote a book lying about it just to make some cash.
Ikr that was sooo embarrassing and painful to watch
I followed a woman who lost her husband suddenly. And she posts her reflections and grief about going through that. Sometimes she does cry in her videos. People also call her attention-seeking. It's so painful to see that society as a whole is so dissociated from their own sense of humanity that seeing another person cry brings more judgement than care/understanding. But it was also heartening to see rows and rows and rows of comments of people who said they made her feel seen and their grief is normal and validated. Deshaming. I think it's interesting to explore why someone's crying in front of the camera makes one uncomfortable and what that shows about our relationship with our own pain and grief.
Thats an interesting perspective! I think if you cry into a camera and post it to spread some sort of awareness, that's fine! And I think most people are fine with it. The issue here is "sadfishing" which is when people post themselves crying solely for attention. Sometimes it's clear, but it can also be hard to discern and that's when I wish people had a bit more humanity
Because most people wouldn't post it. It screams attention seeker. I feel bad she lost her spouse but no matter the circumstances posting yourself crying is cringe af.
@PeakDennisReynolds The fact that you’re more worried about her looking cringey while crying should be an indicator that you’re not a good friend to be around. I get that you have low empathy, but that doesn’t mean you have to be stuck up about someone expressing emotions, cringe by yourself then leave.
@@XDDCCOUUTT Personally just don't understand why people are so desperate to broadcast their private life to thousands of strangers online. I don't think that means I lack empathy at all. Grieve in private with the people closest to you and the person who has died, why on earth do you need to post footage of you crying? Weird as far as I'm concerned.
I would never record myself crying. I cry when I'm alone and that's good enough.
Wow that was the best use of the "stop it, get some help" clip that I've ever seen.
that girl (chin up sunshine) was proven to be a fake ass liar. she was his EX girlfriend when he died. she goes about trauma dumping on people that can't just walk away from her all the time
I mean idk if this is true but like theres something.... not right about this whole scene of recording herself doing a 'nice thing' for others on a special day and breaking down AND recording the drive thru cashier. Then she posted it.....Its something extremely EXTREMELY performative.....
@@ebel-mt2dmher whole page is performative. She’s a strange one.
that’s so nasty and manipulative. i’d just ask her to leave since she’s holding up people if it’s in a line. since that’s the most common place to trauma dump
She says in that clip "I record these things" which tells me she does in fact do this trap and trauma dump on strangers for clicks thing regularly and on purpose. It seems very disingenuous
That's why I have headphones on lol
3:33 i genuinely don't know what's worse: her screaming, crying, throwing up, kicking her feet, etc. or the fact that she's sitting on the FLOOR wearing WHITE PANTS
I'm sorry but I saw your pfp and thought you were me for a moment, LOL.
@@CrispyCreamyCrepe Y'all are twinning in the best way frfr
Or the rando joining in 💀
@@aeoligarlic4024Bold to assume that's a random, and not her friend or sister lol
And no tears, straight up fake 😂
Wow, I never thought I miss the days when people used to type a cryptic message on Facebook, then tell everyone NOT to ask them about it or text them lol
“trauma for noisy people” i felt personally ATTACKED lmaoo
As a survivor of abuse that is no-contact out of safety and fear for my life, if someone randomly started recording me I’d be extremely uncomfortable. America needs to work on public recording laws and right to your own image
Like I understand we have a mental health crisis in the entire world, I struggle with mental health issues so I understand but..please seek help and stop recording strangers
We have it in Europe, the rights your image and personal data, so it's really doable. You can't post someone's face without their consent (does not work for mass parties), when I was working at the summer camp, we needed to have parents to sign up the paper that they allow us to take photos of their kids, so they could have memory photo albums at the end and If parent didn't agree, we had to ask the kid to move out of the frame when taking photos (kinda sad if you ask me). This law of course made A LOT of new paperwork, but now we're just used to it, we have to sign papers that we allow to use our personal data and image literally everywhere.
SAME
I agree. As an abuse survivor that dresses alt, I am so scared to go in public these days bc everyone is a walking film crew that could just decide to wreck your day/life for no reason. You're not allowed to have a bad day or make a bad decision anymore. Cuz you'll get cancelled and any changes in behavior will be ignored and apologies will be "not accepted". You're not allowed to do or look anything out of what people deem "acceptable" or else it's camera time.
i've been saying this for years. The law is so so so so outdated. Also I'd even argue that recording people has nothing to do with mental health. What does mental health have anything to do with shoving cameras up on some strangers' face? It's all about money, they're doing this for money. And that is the disgusting part. Absolute disregard for people's privacy and rights for their own financial gains.
And this is coming from someone without any abuse history. I do have anxiety but nothing like serious abuse. And it still makes my skin crawl. Can't even imagine what abuse survivors must be going through when something like this happens.
Yeah, if someone wants to film themselves crying, my empathy is going out the window. Talk to your friends or family rather than basically marketing it to random people online.
This right here, of course everyone always hates on me the moment I comment “But why are you recording yourself crying?”
I feel like they talk to their friends and film themself crying lol.. I’ve seen people say “
Make trauma dumping ok “ even though the people who do it overdo it by everytime they see a friend that’s the main target of conversation legit nothing else. It’s like going in circles and it’s honestly draining feels like I’m
Getting trauma or cptsd 😅.
i mostly agree but some people do not have those outlets. i’m not emotional in the slightest but if i was, i wouldn’t really know who to talk to
@@realRatRat exactly plus some people don't have those outlets, no actually supporting family members may be in danger at home, just no friends, that's why people resort to this crap, it's just when you get older it's gotta be known that not every conversation has to be about your trauma per say (ive known people that's all they talk about and nothing else, not music or interests so i just have to awkwardly exit) i do feel bad, they are mentally hurting but at the same time not everyone can handle this type of draining information
@@realRatRat a journal is a beautiful healer, also simply being with yourself and thinking it over in your head and crying it out works great.
You actually focus more on what you truly need to do or not do, how to heal, move forward vs talking to someone else.
Talking to someone else is not meant for huge amounts of sobbing and wailing to your friend if your friend is not prepared for it mentally.
i will never understand why people think baristas are therapists like please let me just make your drink and get you out of my store and call it a day 😭
I've been a server and bartender for 10 years
At this point I ask where my psychology license is 😂
That’s mean
@@cataguti0 No.. it's not, you shouldn't trauma dump on people, that's a habit i didn't understand was wrong as a kid and i unintentionally made some of my friends uncomfortable because i just thought i could go to them for comfort, but everyone runs out of energy, not everyone can take care of you, and that's ALL anyone is saying, you just can't, especially when it's a stranger that's even more weird, and i had never done that, but people do, and that's what this video is about, not trying to be rude im just saying as someone who used to do this no it's not actually okay, have a good day:)
@@marce.4277 no I’m saying if they trauma dump like don’t judge let them trauma dump it all depends on their intentions is all
@@marce.4277 it’s not weird?
If a stranger came up to me and said, "My husband was brutally murdered," I would assume it's some kind of bit, and would laugh immediately.
I think I’d have the same reaction!
I think you brought up a really good point about how viewing people crying can desensitize us to people in the real world crying. I never thought about that before! I feel like the world could use a little more empathy at times when I'm online, but it's easier for people to be mean when they're hiding behind a screen.
The only good reason i can think of to film yourself crying is if youre crying tears of joy, like maybe you just got an incredibly exciting package in the mail, or your partner proposed to you, or you got your dream job. Something like that.
or one of those silly satirical videos of people crying over something and then they reveal it’s something like that video of a piece of bread falling over. I love those videos 😭🙏
Even crying from being upset is fine. like if you’re talking about something that’s just naturally upsetting to you, and you’re still able to compose yourself, talk clearly, and arent going to send yourself into a spiral. And there’s specific stories/issues/etc you’re trying to bring attention to.
But recording yourself clearly going through a ton of emotional distress/having an episode/etc is… something else. Maybe if it was to bring awareness to something or actually for educational purposes about mental illnesses/disorders…?
So only happiness is a socially acceptable emotion? Because this idea of hiding every uncomfortable emotion is ultimately more harmful than some random person crying into a camera.
There are people out there who want to bring awareness to things like depression and other mental illnesses, and they do so sometimes by filming themselves on their bad days.
I, a 30 yo guy, also broke into tears when my favorite band played the song that changed my life for the better.
I wasn't filming myself, and was in the midst of a screaming crowd.
I'm saying the crying over a song isn't the cringe part, it's the staged camera and decision to upload the moment to the Internet that makes it cringe.
Oh yes. I've definitely cried at gigs. But it's a special, private moment showing how much you care about this band or song. No one should ruin that by starting to film themselves and sharing it with a bunch of strangers for clout
This also happened to me recently at a concert, during two songs which I was already recording. I feel embarrassed to just hear my wavering voice singing along in the background, even though you can’t really tell I’m crying in them.
Yeah, I think not judging people for whatever they do is a good reason to let people be.
No one knows anyone anyhow.
I feel like some people, do it on purpose (not just on concerts), just to get attention
Yes, exactly.
I remember in my liberal arts college, public crying was pretty common, so I guess no one took it seriously 😂 because I got the call my dad died and I was crying, and a girl asked me to move her heavy ass trunk downstairs with her. I spent a good 5 minutes walking down rickety stairs with her shit, sobbing, and she didn’t ask me once why I was crying. Kinda kept it casual. Honestly one of the funniest memories of my life.
I’m glad you can laugh looking back at that, but that girl was an ass to ask you for help while you’re sobbing 😭😭
That’s selfish
I’m a big crybaby, all my friends saw me holdi back tears…honest crying is something different than what’s being shown in the video. I hate that we have to establish that
Sorry for you loss hun. That must have been heartbreaking. Losing a parent at such a young age can't have been easy. ❤
Rest In Peace.
4:03 bro the girl on the right is trying so hard not to laugh 😭🙏
5:00 Omg the Nick Jonas diabetes reveal…the JoBros were the first concert I ever went to. I remember they had this video segment where he talked about his diagnosis, and then he pulled up his shirt to show his insulin pump onstage. To this day, the screams from the audience were one of the loudest and most intense things I have ever experienced.
Fun fact: the lady in the drive through wasn’t even dating the guy she was talking about according to his family, she barely knew him and was just using his death for ppl to buy her book
Oh god
Newhouse behave like that are usually lying
What an asshole. Her narcissism is through the roof
Wow, so even the act of kindness, purchasing the meal for the ppl in the car behind her, was really just a business decision.
That’s even worse!!! I’m curious what the book was about?
You can tell when people fake cry / setup shots for crying its so cringe...
literally anyone recording themselves crying is doing it for attention
@PeteyThePenguinchildren dont "throw tantrums for attention", but i get what you mean.
I'm so glad more people are becoming aware of how much shit online is set up, like, who do you think filmed that and how did they know to do so before whatever happened happened?
When people fake cry it sounds like they're laughing
As a drive-thru barista, I can guarantee that Starbucks employee told every other employee in the store after that video was taken. We treasure moments like these because on hard days we can make fun of those people all over again and keep the story of every crazy interaction alive into perpetuity.
Not what I expected. 😂
As someone who has worked in restaurants for a long time, can confirm. Any interactions like that will become lore in the kitchen until every staff member who has heard it is gone. And some people never leave 😂😂
Yea that lady was 100% made fun of afterwards
You’re so hilarious and smart! “Trauma dump jump scare” is my new fav phrase. Thank you
“Get in there and make it about yourself”
Imagine being a dead husband and having your wife disrespect your memory like that. The most embarrassed ghost.
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they weren't even dating when he got killed 😭
The worst part is the lady isn’t even the wife and is just trying to get attention. Yuck.
I absolutely hate getting super emotional/crying in public. I can't imagine putting it out there on purpose. People are wild
I'm a social worker. People think I want to spend all my free time listening to the worst thing that ever happened to them. I'm looking at you random man at a bar who told me that he's haunted by his brother's ghost.
Far more interesting then mine as a therapist lol
Lol yay! There's the other mental health workers. Mines always worse when I go to hair salons. Captive in a chair while my stylist shares all her horrific stories and gets upset I won't give out free therapy
I just started my degree in social work and I never even considered this to be a possibility before now
I feel you! As soon as you mention you're in mental health or social services, it's open season 😂😂 I used to hire a room from a small community centre to meet with my private clients. I was in the cafe eating my soup when a lady came up to me and asked "are you the therapist?" I said "yeah..." and she hits me with, "how do you forgive someone who died???" In a busy cafe while I had a mouthful of soup 😂 I have learned to grey-rock for my own sanity!
3:12 imagine being so down bad for a celebrity u r willing to sit outside their stadium like a homeless person 😂😂
Bro retail is full of “main character encounters” I just wanna do my job y’all💀😭the greatest decision of my life was quitting my job at a grocery store to work at a dog daycare
If I get to a video where someone is sobbing I scroll as fast as I can to the next vid.
There are only two possibilities:
Either it’s faked or it shouldn’t be on camera and aired to the world.
When you’re in a difficult and traumatic situation you don’t think about filming yourself.
You are much to busy with your emotional and mental state and the life event which caused it.
Thinking back on times where I've been in severe mental health crisis', the last thing I would ever even think of is getting a camera. I've thought of doing a lot of stupid things in the heat of the moment, but I've never thought of taking a video of what's happening.
If I took a camera out I probably would've calmed down tbh because my thoughts would've been distracted. Like I'd probably stop crying because my monkey brain would be like oooooo wow, phone, distraction
okay, thats YOU. however lots of people may be looking for community, sympathy, just someone to see their pain by posting themselves in crisis. I have BPD and I’ve never posted myself crying, but I honestly don’t understand why y’all have so much hate and disgust for people that do. Happiness shouldn’t be the only acceptable emotion.
@@jasminejohnson5130it’s not that it isn’t acceptable. It’s just vapid and pointless. It’s one thing to film after crying or falling tears during speaking about some sad things. It’s another to be in a full mental panic attack and one of your first thoughts is to grab your phone, record yourself while it’s happening with sad music in the background. It’s the epitome of social media toxicity 😅. The strangers that comment on those videos aren’t your emotional ad mental support and never should be.
I had an internship (and still volunteer) in the toxicology department of a hospital's ER, so for 20 hours a week during an entire year, about half of my cases were s*icide attempts or severe cases of substance abuse.
I still NEVER had someone traumadump on me the way these people are traumadumping random strangers. And I WAS getting paid for it, as little as it was!! I'm not even getting paid anymore but at least I can put this on my resume and use it to find a paying job later!! And I still never had someone snap at me like that, not patients, not worried or angry relatives, none of that came even close! Oh my god!!
i will say, as someone's who's been in for multiple attempts, once we get there we just feel freaking guilty for inconveniencing you. or maybe that's just me. last thing i want to do is talk about whatever made me attempt LOLOL i already feel terrible that i'm there 😭😭
sorry it's not funny, i'm only laughing at myself for the record.
@wrendoesnothing It’s okay to use humor as a coping mechanism. If I didn’t, I think I’d be worse.
@@mightymeatymechhonestly, I feel like what constitutes trauma dumping on social media is acceptable and necessary if you go to hospital for reasons related to mental health, especially for a crisis like that, as to best help you, the staff need as good an idea as possible of what factors in your past contributed to your current situation, the triggers of the act, things in your life that need changing to help prevent you from doing so again or thinking of it - all of that is informed in large part by one's past, which itself is heavily shaped by trauma. please do not feel guilty for being an inconvenience, hospital is a place where people who are not well go get better, and a mental health emergency such as that which you mentioned is absolutely deserving of treatment and care, as much as any other physical or psychological health condition. I hope things have already improved for you and that they continue to get better ❤
@@limarba9062 I just don't want anyone thinking I'm laughing about a situation regarding their loved ones... Humor helps trust me I agree. But sometimes people see us joking and they get hurt because they've lost someone.
That doesn't mean we can't still joke though, idk it's complicated lol. I just don't want anyone feeling badly tbh.
@@projectjupiter5523 that's true but it's a bit more complicated. For example if I go to ER for an attempt, the doctors are equipped to save my life but they might not be trained to handle my psychological issues. That's usually where a social worker comes in and asks questions (why did you attempt, if we let you leave will you try again, do you have easy access to firearms, etc, these are the typical questions in my experience)
The doctors might only be equipped to handle the medical side of things, not the psychological side. But I will say, there have been times after I attempted where I talked to a nurse and they were so sweet and understanding, they listened and cared. So ultimately you are right, they're there to help. I'm just so afraid of putting more onto someone than they signed up for (even though I know ER nurses DID sign up for the job, idk, I just hate making anyone feel like my ideation is their problem to solve.)
I was embarrassed crying in front of my fiancée when my grandmother died, I cannot imagine doing it in front of strangers while recording it and posting it online for others to see. I guess it's cheaper than therapy but still very cringe and toxic.
why on earth would you be embarrassed of crying in front of your partner?
Right? Being embarrassed to cry in front of your partner is kind of sad, especially if you're engaged....and someone died. That's not a virtue.
@Can_I_Live_ Crying is more sensitive for some more than others especially when it's like real and hurtful thing that caused it😂
I don’t like to cry in front of anyone, friend or family. I don’t want people to think that I’m weak or a crybaby. Yeah, it’s kinda dumb but I’ve been that way for most of my life.
Crying doesn't mean you are weak. @@limarba9062
No emotion is real when you plan the moment you're going to share it
This is 100% how I feel about this and it’s to the point where it just makes me angry and don’t get me started on people posting other people crying especially children that makes me rage
I mean I'm glad that song saved her life, but why did she feel the need to set it up, press record, wait for her to break down and then upload it 😭😭
that part of the concert is different every night, so it’s common for people to film their reactions to the surprise songs.
@@certifiedduck9124but why?
So I could talk about it with you.
Just saying hi from the Netherlands 👋🏽
She probably had this delusional belief and hope that maybe Taylor Swift would comment on her video or some shit
@@ZombiePepperoni it’s just a fun thing people do lol
Trama 👏 dumping 👏 is 👏 RUDE 👏
It's not just rude it's downright toxic, and I'm not even using that term like it is online.
It's commonly used by people to either guilt trip or manipulate someone. An example is a mother trauma dumping on her children in hopes that the children will feel bad about being upset about future toxic behaviours by the mother
If it's not a genuine cry for help or an answer to a question, don't trauma dump.
Talk to someone who can say "no, I don't want to hear that."
Edit: I 100% mean in the context of avoiding triggering other people. You don't know what mental illness someone has.
As someone with a whole COLLECTION of mental illnesses, I don't like when people trauma dump to me because it feels like they're competing to see who is sicker. No thank you.
@@Lynnie2005 agreed but even then sometimes they don't take no for an answer. I've literally had that where I'm repeating and getting louder "I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT" but they just take a quick breath and loop back to the start of the sentence.
And I want to highlight that it is part of trauma. Trauma is not a normal state of mind. I am not saying it is okay, I am simply stating that if we had more therapists available, maybe this would not happen.
@@Widdekuu91tired of people commodifying genuine friendships and empathy but let’s keep pushing the therapy is going to work for everyone hopefully idea
meanwhile I can't even cry in front of myself without getting embarassed
Same oof
I think it’s understandable to make a video or post about a traumatic experience in order to bring awareness to something, but this stuff is on a different level.
As a chronically online person I love your the historical memes sprinkled throughout your video ✨
If someone does that in public, take their hand and say “imma pray over you”. It either comforts them or scares them away.
Don't touch people you don't know in public, that's so weird and creepy, you come up to me and do that you're getting bitch slapped
All fun in games until they are a skydaddy freak
@@lanadelrio-op6xzyou seem annoying
@@lanadelrio-op6xz I used to be like you, then I realized that being a self-righteous dick isn't actually a likable character trait
@@oliviacoover8602I said the same thing when I saw thr comment lol
I think it's amazing that the "bad" emotions gets more normalized.. I hate toxic positivity with all my being. But there is a limit you shouldn't cross ☠️
When last month my mom almost died in the hospital and I thought I saw her for the last time I cried in the staircase and a cleaning lady saw me. Never felt this embarassed in my life. This is crazy to me 😬
Yeah and the fact that people POST themselves crying for multiple random people to see. Like, I’d be embarrassed if ONE random person saw me crying but multiple ? Ppl really want attention SO badly 😭💀
Sorry about your mum that must’ve been hard
There’s nothing to be embarrassed about! I hope you don’t beat yourself up over being seen grieving by a stranger. You did nothing wrong.
09:52 I'm sorry this was for ACNE??? I for real thought she was about to confess to surviving self harm or something
4:03 Ed looks like he’s either incredibly disturbed or about to cry for this whole clip 😂
I liked when we used to post obscure emo lyrics as our Facebook status. It would be like a game between friends to figure out what song it was from (because it was harder to figure out back then on the internet lol).
CAN WE PLS RETURN TO OUR ROOTS (this)
I'm a big fan of the Mob Psycho 100 method of emotional processing where I suppress everything until an incident triggers a near-psychotic breakdown that I wouldn't be able to post because I can't actually see the phone screen.
bro the last time I was crying uncontrollably in public someone called the ambulance on me because they thought I was gonna hurt myself and now people do it online and everyone is just like… werk
Right one time I was crying uncontrollably in public and I was so embarrassed. Like I hate crying in front of people crying and recording it is crazy lmao
@@Chillikilli exactly!!!!! I can’t imagine getting on your phone, opening TikTok, hitting the record button and then crying. I’d be so embarrassed if someone from the neighborhood just came up to me like “hey I saw you sobbing”. I feel like a lot of these people post BECAUSE they know strangers will see it so they think there won’t be any repercussions or recognition, but also forget that it can reach people like teachers, neighbors, workers in their neighborhood, other people around it… like they will see it too. 🙃
7:27 The dude that died wasn’t even her husband
Seeing people like these actually have friends sorta makes me less socially-anxious.
i used to trauma dump on yahoo answers, and then people in the comments would call me a bot and tell me to kys lmao
🥴🥴🥴🥴😭😭 i'm so sorry---
naurr why did i do the same thing help ksjfndbdb
Ah the good old days 😂
throwback lmao
Yahoo answers > reddit
the trauma dumping on the drive-thru legitimately made me start tweaking
It was your "trying to be a good friend but feeling awkward about all of this" hand pat for me
7:11 um mam this is a Starbucks drive thru not your therapist
THE AESPA REFERENCES IM DEAD
That video in the Starbucks drive thru was so cringe. I already tip them for just having to be nice.
7:40 omg I used to work at a pharmacy, not as a pharmacist mind you, just a starry eyed 16 year old working the register up front where I sold mostly cigarettes, Mt Dew and candy, people would come in and tell me about lancing their own cysts, their genital warts and their lice infested children ... traumatizing
😫 thank you for your service, similar job. I love it but dang, it’s hard. I also have health issues that are invisible and unfortunately cannot keep hidden for long (severe chronic pain). I try to educate rather than trauma dump.
Respect. We all gotta make a living sonehow 😔
Aw no I’m so sorry they went through that. They should’ve talked to a therapist instead :(
And that is why I don't trust or associate with people who base their identity off TikTok. Thanks for teaching us about the term Sadfishing.
True 😂😂😂
3:42 the girl on the right, almost laughing is soo funny
trauma-dumping has become SO normalized. stop trauma dumping on your coworkers, your friends, your family members, random strangers in drive-thrus….its not healthy and not helping anyone. maybe YOU feel temporary relief but you have no idea what that person is going through that day or what they’ve dealt with that could potentially be triggered by what you’re saying. or hell, maybe they are having a fantastic day but your sudden trauma dump brings them down. the only acceptable place to trauma dump is, you guessed it, therapy.
but to be clear, trauma dumping is a sudden and unwarranted dump of emotion without any warning. it’s different from asking a friend to help you work through difficult feelings and giving them time to prepare for a difficult conversation. one time a coworker did this to me…
me: my brother just got a puppy look!
coworker: oh, he’s cute. looks just like our family dog that my dad used to beat all the time. so that’s why i don’t get any pets, i’m afraid my dad will beat them..
me: ……….okay
basically, trauma dumping is toxic and unhealthy and inappropriate in any scenario other than therapy. thank you for coming to my TED talk.
He's calling everybody out..AND I LOVE IT
Thanks!
This happened to me recently, I was teamed with this girl for a school project and out of no were she started trauma dumping her life story, like I barley know you, this is the first time we've talked outside of class. I didn't even know her last name before I knew she was token away from her parents...
Is her name Jelena?
I had a similar thing at work, I went on break at the same time as this new guy and he spent the whole time telling me about how he was bullied as a kid and stuff like that, and eventually he was like "Sorry, was that awkward?" And I just had to tell him that yeah, it was.
@@deen7530I feel bad for him
Guys usually don’t do that maybe he just wanted someone to listen
@@jellopy24 Yeah so did I. But man it was so awkward
@@deen7530 Yea I get you
A girl in this school thing I go to waited for me outside to go home together and she started the conversation by telling me her mum died
I was nice about it how couldn’t I be but it’s definitely not a conversation starter
especially when you only talked to that person once before 🥲
I liked how you were able to critique the trend while also extending sympathy. Bravo.
Since I do not do social media I am very grateful to you. You provide all the content I think I will ever need. 😊
I literally left Tik Tok because i was tired of seeing everyone crying on there
Ive seen a video of a girl crying and then a man fell down some stairs and she started cry laughing lol
That’s…sick
When I'm crying, I don't even have the time to think of recording myself, it should remain a private moment
I've never understood how people are even able to do that, when I cry I can't think about the effort of holding a camera in front of my face.
The Kendall clip will never fail to make me turn fully inside out. I, a super rich supermodel, am the same as you. We are the same.
"I am definitely not reading this to camera. I am...speaking from the heart"