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Another great video!! I fear I may be self righteous and that scares me. I grew up in a small town around a bunch of people that will pick you apart if you are not cookie cutter. I was gay, mixed race and very intuitive. I definitely stood out like a sore thumb. Experienced racism, homophobia and other judgements over who I was even in my family. Would have people ask why do I wear my hair that way? Why am I wearing that shirt? How much were those jeans? Just lots of judgements going on. Through my experiences and pain I developed very strong empathy. I start to empathize when others were being hurt. It always made me upset and I would stay quite though when I was younger not speaking up. As I have aged I have spoken up a lot about racism, homophobia and other discriminatory judgements towards others. Not because I want to feel superior to other people or to receive a pat on the back, but because I know the pain it caused me and it hurts me to see people having to experience that same pain or any pain . Like in my area I have noticed the homeless are treated horrible more so than ever. I hear people talking constantly about how they can get a job and they look down upon them and it’s so heartbreaking. It tears me up to see that people are being treated this way and they don’t even know their story. Not all are on drugs and are lazy. It could take health issue to wipe out your whole savings and you could go broke having to live on the streets or there could be other issues. I think to myself not only do I care and hurt deeply for these people that could also someday be me. So I try when I have money to give or at least treat them with love and respect like I would anybody else’s. I’ve even been chewed out by friends because I gave money. Onetime I was out clubbing and was walking down the street with friends to go to another club and a homeless man came out of nowhere begging for money. It was very cold and all I could think was this poor man. So I gave him money. Next thing I know a friend comes over and chews me out and said I shouldnt have given him money that he could take to get drugs. I got mad and told her that it was none of her business what I do with my money and that I was going to use it for alcohol anyway so he was in more need for money than I was. Plus she didn’t know what he was going to use it for. Also I been speaking up more against racism because we got a lot of people around here that are racist and are ignorant toward POC. I’ve had to call them out being friends and it has upset them. Again I do this because not only the pain that I’ve went through over that but I don’t want anybody else to have to experience that and I don’t want to be around people who are like that because judging people for the color of their skin is evil. It’s part of why we keep being at each others throats because of the hatefulness. It also gets me down when they know I’m mixed race and still continue to talk about a race of people that are apart of me. So what is your thoughts on this? Ami being self righteous or am a valid in what I feel. I don’t care how anyone dress nor wears their hair or any of that. I feel strongly that we should always people to be who they are as long as they are not harming others. I don’t speak up or do nice things to get noticed or loved. This comes from knowing the struggles I went through, how lots of people were not there for me and how I don’t want others to have to experience all that pain. Nobody should have to go through that. What’s your honest thoughts? 🙏🏽
The fear to be wrong… that explains so much on all kinds of levels especially when there are no teachers, caring guides, or a way to correct, be corrected or not shame or blame the whistle blower. 😮😮😮
Regarding the neglectful parent you approached, there’s a high likelihood you stopped a transaction that was to take place in that store that day. Watch “Eyes Wide Shut” through to the end, and be sure to watch the deleted scenes. There are people out there that love money so much, they’ll do anything for it. That right there is the root of all evil and it leads to truly horrific side effects.
Thank you for this reference. I want to say I saw this movie in the past but I am curious to see what you are telling mel. Thank you. I will check this movie out again -- possibly over the next week while I'm not working! 😉
Good question! Righteousness is a, if you ask me, powerful and supernatural set of behaviors, attitudes, etc. that makes us flawless. The only things I believe that fits this description is God Himself. Self-righteousness is an arrogant form of disposition that often negatively triggers others to feel inferior or minimized. It's an arrogant form of self-esteem that grows bigger as the person becomes more foolish in life.
Dad, mom, middle Sister and youngest brother - all self righteous. 2nd sister and myself never jumped on rhe bandwagon. Tit for tat and set you up to argue too. Hard to love.
As a HSP (highly sensitive person) its affected my self worrh and self esteem. SR people make others feel stupid. I consider myself aboce average in intelligence but after listening to an SR rhey leave you feeling like a flunky. My dad would akways criticize my words if i misprnounced a word. I think they have a inferiority comolex & project rhat onto rhere favorite scaoegoats. They are bullies. 😢
Hi there, I wish I did but I do not. Some books that I love that are closely related to this is Dr. Peck People of the lie. In Sheep's Clothing is also a good one. And you may like Bonded to the abuser by Baker and Schneiderman.
Would having a dream of owning an animal rescue be considered self righteous enhancing? Now I'm worried about myself. That's always been a dream of mine though.
I wouldn't say so, no. That's a natural "dream" or aspiration that is for the greater good. That's wonderful! If I wasn't a therapist, I would do the same thing! This dream would be self-righteous if you bragged about this, talked down to other people who didn't have your same aspirations, and you spread around to everyone you know that you know you are called to do this and because of that, you don't have the time to talk to other people, care about their needs, or humbly pursue your goals.
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I need help my health is going do from micrave devices have a heart condition with a pacer I am swollen but is there a way I can contact you I really need help with these attacks
Another great video!!
I fear I may be self righteous and that scares me. I grew up in a small town around a bunch of people that will pick you apart if you are not cookie cutter. I was gay, mixed race and very intuitive. I definitely stood out like a sore thumb. Experienced racism, homophobia and other judgements over who I was even in my family. Would have people ask why do I wear my hair that way? Why am I wearing that shirt? How much were those jeans? Just lots of judgements going on. Through my experiences and pain I developed very strong empathy. I start to empathize when others were being hurt. It always made me upset and I would stay quite though when I was younger not speaking up. As I have aged I have spoken up a lot about racism, homophobia and other discriminatory judgements towards others. Not because I want to feel superior to other people or to receive a pat on the back, but because I know the pain it caused me and it hurts me to see people having to experience that same pain or any pain . Like in my area I have noticed the homeless are treated horrible more so than ever. I hear people talking constantly about how they can get a job and they look down upon them and it’s so heartbreaking. It tears me up to see that people are being treated this way and they don’t even know their story. Not all are on drugs and are lazy. It could take health issue to wipe out your whole savings and you could go broke having to live on the streets or there could be other issues. I think to myself not only do I care and hurt deeply for these people that could also someday be me. So I try when I have money to give or at least treat them with love and respect like I would anybody else’s. I’ve even been chewed out by friends because I gave money. Onetime I was out clubbing and was walking down the street with friends to go to another club and a homeless man came out of nowhere begging for money. It was very cold and all I could think was this poor man. So I gave him money. Next thing I know a friend comes over and chews me out and said I shouldnt have given him money that he could take to get drugs. I got mad and told her that it was none of her business what I do with my money and that I was going to use it for alcohol anyway so he was in more need for money than I was. Plus she didn’t know what he was going to use it for. Also I been speaking up more against racism because we got a lot of people around here that are racist and are ignorant toward POC. I’ve had to call them out being friends and it has upset them. Again I do this because not only the pain that I’ve went through over that but I don’t want anybody else to have to experience that and I don’t want to be around people who are like that because judging people for the color of their skin is evil. It’s part of why we keep being at each others throats because of the hatefulness. It also gets me down when they know I’m mixed race and still continue to talk about a race of people that are apart of me. So what is your thoughts on this? Ami being self righteous or am a valid in what I feel. I don’t care how anyone dress nor wears their hair or any of that. I feel strongly that we should always people to be who they are as long as they are not harming others. I don’t speak up or do nice things to get noticed or loved. This comes from knowing the struggles I went through, how lots of people were not there for me and how I don’t want others to have to experience all that pain. Nobody should have to go through that. What’s your honest thoughts? 🙏🏽
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The fear to be wrong… that explains so much on all kinds of levels especially when there are no teachers, caring guides, or a way to correct, be corrected or not shame or blame the whistle blower. 😮😮😮
Aha, so self righteousness is a reaction against the fear of being wrong! Mind blown!
Exactly. Who the hell is never wrong?
Thank you. I cannot get along with self righteous people
You're welcome! And neither do I.
Hope your feeling better. Take care if your lovely self.
Thank you so much!! Feeling better. Hope you are well.
My mom was always right . She was better in old age but died at 65. Narcissistic men were my choice for relationships. I have complex PTSD
I'm sorry for your loss. 65 is so young.
I wouldn't doubt, however, that you were dating your mother and didn't originally know it.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I thought about that. My dad was calm and caring
@@VickiTrusselliArt they are many peoples choice because they are often Charming
Regarding the neglectful parent you approached, there’s a high likelihood you stopped a transaction that was to take place in that store that day.
Watch “Eyes Wide Shut” through to the end, and be sure to watch the deleted scenes.
There are people out there that love money so much, they’ll do anything for it. That right there is the root of all evil and it leads to truly horrific side effects.
Thank you for this reference. I want to say I saw this movie in the past but I am curious to see what you are telling mel. Thank you. I will check this movie out again -- possibly over the next week while I'm not working! 😉
What is the difference between a righteous person and a
self-righteous person!
Good question! Righteousness is a, if you ask me, powerful and supernatural set of behaviors, attitudes, etc. that makes us flawless. The only things I believe that fits this description is God Himself.
Self-righteousness is an arrogant form of disposition that often negatively triggers others to feel inferior or minimized. It's an arrogant form of self-esteem that grows bigger as the person becomes more foolish in life.
I so glad u soldiered on in this reel. You had a lot of good information in this.
Thank you! I'm glad you found it helpful 🙏
Hope you feel better. ❤
Thank you so much!!
Dad, mom, middle Sister and youngest brother - all self righteous. 2nd sister and myself never jumped on rhe bandwagon. Tit for tat and set you up to argue too. Hard to love.
I think these are common behaviors in this dog eat dog society where dominance seems to be valued.
As a HSP (highly sensitive person) its affected my self worrh and self esteem. SR people make others feel stupid. I consider myself aboce average in intelligence but after listening to an SR rhey leave you feeling like a flunky. My dad would akways criticize my words if i misprnounced a word. I think they have a inferiority comolex & project rhat onto rhere favorite scaoegoats. They are bullies. 😢
Hi Tamara, do you recommend any reading around this topic and family dynamics in general? Thank you
Hi there, I wish I did but I do not. Some books that I love that are closely related to this is Dr. Peck People of the lie. In Sheep's Clothing is also a good one. And you may like Bonded to the abuser by Baker and Schneiderman.
Would having a dream of owning an animal rescue be considered self righteous enhancing? Now I'm worried about myself. That's always been a dream of mine though.
I wouldn't say so, no. That's a natural "dream" or aspiration that is for the greater good. That's wonderful!
If I wasn't a therapist, I would do the same thing!
This dream would be self-righteous if you bragged about this, talked down to other people who didn't have your same aspirations, and you spread around to everyone you know that you know you are called to do this and because of that, you don't have the time to talk to other people, care about their needs, or humbly pursue your goals.
@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you so much!!!
You're welcome!!