This has happened the same to me except that I spent so much time catching up in y4s1 but still failed the modules. I remembered how hopeless I felt at that time. I finally graduated in Aug 2020 and I am considering to look for a new industry to work now.
@@samanthalee7109 thanks for sharing Samantha! Good job on pulling through yourself. Anw if you're look to explore new industries, we can connect! I may have lobangs from my friends & clients
if a student presents good grades to me in an interview it doesn't mean much to me to be honest. Same for if he or she presents bad grades. Because good grades is just hardwork, meaning everyone can do it if they put in enough hardwork.
Your parents are awesome. They stuck by you and didnt penalize you. You played your own part and realized what was important in life. Goodjob graduating.
I cried upon hearing your mother's words to you. Your dad's efforts in writing such a sincere letter was very touching too. The Dean was also a great person for being so understanding. But most of all, you did really well picking yourself back up and that might be the most difficult part of it all. Congratulations to you for your very hard-earned yet truly well-deserved graduation! Jiayou and may you continue to meet many kind people in your life!
Thanks for listening to my piece and your well wishes :) Fun fact: my dean saw this video and congratulated me haha. All the best to your pursuits too!
Hi Yuchuan, I am Samuel from RSS and I believe we were even in the same class during primary 5. Thank you for sharing such an inspiring story that resonates with me so well. Yes, you were always the smart kid in class. Unlike you, I started screwing up my grades back in secondary school. I had to pick myself up and grind my butt off for many years to be able to graduate from a local uni. I am heartened to hear that this set back has made you a much stronger person. Congrats on your graduation and all the best for your future endeavours!!
Hi Samuel! Thanks for the comment, really appreciate this. Happy to hear that you overcame your challenges too, it's really been a long while haha. Let's get to reconnect if possible, till then, all the best for your pursuits too!
Thank you for telling us this story, marks and grades in NUS has always been such a "taboo" thing to talk about considering how competitive it ALWAYS is. In a crude way, knowing how others suffer worst makes our own suffering less (Like hey my life isn't that bad and I should buck the fk up), I'm not sure how to put this out in a non-selfish way but it really is.
Yup no offence taken, I get what you mean. My situation would seem fortunate relative to others out there too, just work w the cards we're dealt with, and make the best out of it :)
@@xuyuchuan It mkes me feel awful as a typical NUS student (SPEAKING FOR MYSELF), it just shows that the competitiveness is instilled in everyone because of how the student culture is in NUS. However, there are still truly nice people in NUS, you just time need to find them. But honestly, thank you though! Jia you!
@@xuyuchuan Back after a year, and rewatching this video for the feels. I would also want to add that .. your parents are literal GODS. Really, really cherish them and treat them well in the future, I'm sure you will. They raised a good child! I hope everything is going well in your life, have you started working?
Maths and econs major here - I feel you when I look at those modules you taken since I took those too. Definitely not easy, glad that you persevere through and grad :)
Really great that you were willing to share this, I suffered the exact situation during my year 1 of Poly and went through the exact same routine of being sorry for myself and not sharing to anyone about it. I am glad we both overcame it. This video would definitely have helped me when I was still going through that phase. I am sure this will help those that are in a tough spot as well. Great work!
Thanks for the comment zheng han! Agreed, I hope that this video can give those who are struggling some motivation. Kudos to you for overcoming your challenges :)
I went through a very similar experience. It wasn’t a breakup though, it was a bunch of other stuff; hated my major, was alone in a strange(ironically, my native country) place, was too naive and sensitive. I eventually pulled through, but my parents weren’t helpful, and I was left to my own devices. I’m happy that your parents seem so supportive, and I hope that you and them cherish your years together and have much happiness for many years to come.
I’m in academic probation in my year3sem1, I watched this video again and again for motivation and I managed to get through this and I’m graduating this may, thanks for making this video. 很感谢你能做这期视频 真的给了我很大的精神支持 我甚至当时已经做好了最坏的打算 也算是幸运我熬过来了 谢谢你！
Congrats on your graduation Yu Chuan and thank you for the insight into such a personal & sensitive topic of grades in uni. Glad your parents backed you up when you hit rock bottom.
This is what I felt when I failed a unit in my first year. Honestly, miserable, and I started thinking my life s a failure and I have failed everyone who entrusted me. It was a wake-up call to me too, I was able to pull my GPA from 1.5 to 3, out of 4, by graduation. I am also feeling proud that I have made it and my life is on a right track, better than ever. I really feel this video.
I had almost the same experience as you. Econs major at FASS. Got rejected and fell into a deep depression. My cap was 2.29 on the second sem. I also failed EC2102 like you. Stupidly tried to overload and failed another mod, hit 2.27. Applied for NOC 3 times and failed all. Over 100 rejections in my internship hunting. I tried so hard to improve my grades and graduated with 2.88, no honours. It wasn't easy to push past the fog of depression. Now I'm working for an MNC. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Life is never easy and kudos to you for pushing on.
this is what resilence looks like to me. You were able to come back from a setback in life. it takes a lot of courage to publicly share your struggles and to use your experiences to help someone else. thank you for sharing !!! there is power to your story. I really resonated with the message. too often a student is made to believe that their grade is who they are and how much they are worth. Your story shows you are more than your grades. It is your actions, reflections, and the supportive people around us that shapes who we are. i think this is a really important message for me to remember. thanks for the inspiring video!!!! 👍👍👍👍
Thanks for sharing your story YuChuan. I'm currently in Year 1 and I was from Poly. I just failed two of my mid-terms for two Level 2 core modules this semester. It was quite hard for me to accept the results, I even pondered about my choice of the course this few days. Your video is a great encouragement for myself to push on.
I'm glad to be of encouragement Darren. Take it from me (I've failed my fair share), it is very possible to turn things around still, don't let a small hiccup define your entire Poly experience!
@@xuyuchuan Haha thanks! I'm a graduated Poly student currently in NUS xD sorry i did not make it clear. As a Poly student, I find the transition really steep to University. But yup, I'm inspired by your determination to stand back up from your fall so I'll try my best!
so proud of you! im currently in a “probation” course in poly as i didn’t take O levels. i fucked up in my first sem, i would have been kicked out if i failed JUST one module. i worried the whole sem break until the results came out and somehow i managed to scrape past with C- grades. now a new semester is starting and im gonna grind. thanks for the inspiration mate!
It's good to see the YT algorithm still recommends this video from a channel with very little subscribers. I am from NUS School of Computing and I also had poor grades. I am from 2012 cohort and graduated in 2016, and I am still in my first job of 4 years+ (which is rare to me for recent cohorts now). It was mainly due to burnout of having graduated from polytechnic with Director's list every semester, after also have completed UEC (Malaysian Chinese High School) with 3As and 7Bs, which at the time was still too competitive in 2009/2010 to get me a place in NUS (would have been easier if I were just 2-3 years older). Had plans that were derailed for getting used to university life, become demoralized. And then I became a regular visitor of Counseling and Psychological Services. Didn't dare to apply LOA thinking my reason for it is silly and would be rejected (until a senior when I survived with a pass since year 3 applied LOA after a devastating breakup). I literally started out with CAP 0.00 the first semester, and we were the 2nd last or last cohort that didn't have grade-less first year. Needed 2 years to pull back to CAP 2, so, I had needed 3 appeals total. I could not stand my plan for coming to this university turn into a naught since planning for it in my high school years. Thankfully I graduated with CAP 2.8 in 2016. There are other survivors in SoC with poor grades, including the founder and creator of NUSMods, Beng Eu, who went from Second Upper down to a bit less than CAP 2.0 due to a bicycle accident which impacted his brain that it affected the secretion of brain chemical that influences his joy, and the came back to higher end of Second Lower. (These were what I have recalled) With the recent completion of the online course I took from Carnegie Mellon University's Executive Education on Fundamentals of Machine Learning last month, I found confidence to wish to continue with an actual Masters education. I scored flawlessly in it. Hopefully you will achieve big in your career, and if you want to come back to academic life, that you'll end it finally on a good note, like I plan to do. Congrats for your survival too!
Thank you for the heartfelt comment and sharing w us your story. I'm glad that you're doing well too! Hope to connect w you more on other platforms 👍 (insta/FB)
Great to hear from you with your reply! I am an ordinary person who doesn't do YT full-time yet, but yeah, perhaps we could connect elsewhere. There was once a r/NUS topic from a Redditor asking those who had poor grades on how they're doing in adulthood now. Our stories are just dime a dozen ... There are more survivors than you think.
I can relate 🥺🤧 I also used a lot of my 小聪明 from primary school all the way till JC and like my parents have always been backing me up whenever I made mistakes. This really show parents’ love and like yeah now in uni you really cannot use 小聪明 anymore gotta grow up and be responsible! Thank you for your story. I’ll be motivated to work harder 💪 all the best in ur future endeavours YuChuan
This is why I scared to try uni... My cousins/friends who took longer route still went to private U... I don't have thousands to waste...so long i can find a job that motivates me enough to get out of bed, I'm satisfied alr. No need super high pay also nvm.
Not agreed, you do need to mug for A levels and o levels a few months before those final exams, primary school is the only place where you do not need to study much.
I didn’t went through a breakup but I was in the same state when I was in high school because of depression. I was shut down and doing nothing at all to the point where I failed to pass history and another subject. And I kept it a secret from my mom till this day. It was a bad cycle and I thought I broke the cycle when I started fresh in university. However, I think it left a scar on me as I still lack self-discipline and self-confidence, which is needed to build a good cycle and routine.
Crazy that you manage to pull ur Gpa so much. Mad respect. I fail my core modules twice in Ntu EEE and I am on the brink to fall below gpa 2.. , you gave me hope man
Wow, I actually cried watching this because I was so moved by what your mom said. Your parents really love you! Good job for pushing through and overcoming such a dark period in your life! Congrats on graduating, and thanks for sharing your story with us :)
very brave of you to share and I also scored badly in my first year in NUS, almost couldnt made it to the Hons degree which I need to go further in my course. looking back, the failure made me more humble and chill with dips in life. I still completed my PhD in the end.
Hi Yuchuan! I hope you see this, thank you for sharing your story with us :) This video spoke to me on a personal level, as I was once a JC student who has failed her promos in year 1 and was told to stay back one year in JC, even after my parents pleaded with the principal to let me move to J2. That was actually the lowest and most depressing point of my life, seeing my friends and classmates moving on with their lives and having fun in school without me, while I had to adjust to a whole new set of friends/classmates and start all over again, on top of the pressure of academics. But on hindsight, I would say that I never regretted staying back for another year, as the friends with whom I have stayed in touch the most were also my current clique whom I met in my 2nd year as a J1 student! I wouldn't trade that friendship for the world. Also neither did I do exceptionally well for my 'A' Levels. At that point in time, I selected CS as my major in a local u as it was one of the better-paying degrees out there that had a lower barrier of entry ( I wanted to study Business), and I would say that decision definitely paid off in the end, as now it is one of the more sought after industries for graduates. Fast forward 6 years graduating from JC and now as a working adult, I'm thankful for the series of events that have made me who I am today, and I'm actually thankful and proud of myself for not giving up. Sometimes, we just gotta trust the process and know that the series of setbacks happening in our lives are actually meant to teach us an important lesson and to help make us become a stronger person overall :) Cheers!
Hi evening skies! First of all, thank you so much for sharing your personal piece, reading through your comment brings me motivation too. Indeed, adversities are inevitable in life, and they perhaps are placed in our lives for a reason. What matters is how we handle it, and rise up from it. It's heartening to hear about your comeback story, and how you're doing well in life! Kudos to you, hope to connect more in the future. Cheers!
I have a very similar experience during my secondary school education. I was in Sec 3 and I failed every subject. I remembered after parent teachers meeting session with the school principle (I was suppose to retain), my mum didn’t scold me. Instead she brought me to shopping. From then on, I picked myself up and manage to score good enough to enter polytechnic and I’m currently studying in NUS. Sometimes the words or actions of our loved ones really gave us the strength and courage to pick ourselves up. Anyways this is a great sharing!
This happened to me in my third year of architecture school when my dad suddenly passed away in his sleep. I took him with his driver to the nearest hospital. They said he had been gone for at least 30 minutes. Sitting in a cold room with only his cold body when the doctor told me to take sometime to gather myself. I was a wreck then. I didn’t cry. I was in shock. A week later I had finals, and my grade tanked from 3.3 -> 2.9-> 2.8 within 6 months. Was busy taking care of his unfinished businesses. Then spend the last 6 months feeling lost, despair, and I just quit school. It was hard losing the only support system I had. Right now taking community college for CS. Much better and mentally healthier
Ngl I actually ended up shedding tears when I heard what your mom said, your parents truly do love you a lot, my cgpa went down a bit in 1st semester cause I am also preparing for some other competitive exams side by side and my dad stopped talking to me cause of my low grades lol, Idk what will happen in the future but ik everything will work out. I am really proud of you for picking yourself back up despite the situation that happened to you, I hope you are doing good in life :)
Hi Yu Chuan, Congrats on your graduations! And thanks for releasing this very inspirational video. It was really fortunate that this video ended up in my recommended list of videos and I’m very touched by how you made that comeback. Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours!! 💪💪
Hey man, I’m in nursing school right now in America and the program over here is difficult and I face hopelessness. You gave me some inspiration with your story since I was once in your shoes and currently am in right now as well lol. We have night shifts when we go to the hospital and I ask myself when will this end. I don’t know but hearing that there are people who struggle in life lets me know me that I’m not alone. Thanks for being an inspiration.
Thanks for sharing this Kevin. I'm glad to be of inspiration to you. Yes, you're not alone, and take it from me, we can pull through. Don't give up and keep going at it!
Wow, that was extremely relatable. I went through a similar process, my girlfriend (at - the -time) also broke up with me. I spent days on my bed, not having any will power to get anything done. Adding on to the stress, I was undertaking my final year projects, and it was very hard because I didn't really like the topic I chose. Furthermore, my so-called "friends" only contacted me just to ask me for help with their own assignments. In the end, I just uninstalled facebook, instagram, and mute all my whatsapp calls. That helped tremendously. Getting rid of distraction such as social media help me move on from the pain of my breakup and get rid of distraction from the so-called "friends". Just an advice, if any of you guys ever find yourself down to such a state, it's normal, it'll pass through eventually, even if it seems incredibly impossible.
Thank you for sharing such an inspirational and touching story. Even if the low isn't as low as what you experienced, having the resilience and determination to pull yourself back up is always a daunting ordeal. To anyone out there who's in a ditch right now, I hope that your story will spur them to begin climbing back up
I kinda needed this, I'm doing really badly in uni rn mainly bc of some distractions in my life, and more than anything it kinda demotivates me to try to do better, its easy to say to buck up and do better, but I really needed to get a grip of this and actually make things work before it goes out of control, I'm already really behind and totally out of sync with content atm. :/
Bro this is so relatable, i failed my A levels due to the same exact reason. While some may think a breakup is nothing, it is actually detrimental. I was sad so naturally just like you i turn to avenues like gaming and watching RUclips etc instead of actually studying. The stress due to A levels is alr immense, you can imagine how much worse the breakup made. But failure make us stronger, now im in second class honours, because prev failures motivate me to rise.
I was the opposite, after my first breakup I just studied full day and didn’t go out to meet friends - basically isolated myself from the world It was just school home study eat school and nothing else My grades went up but I felt emptier inside I guess different people have different coping methods but at the end we were still broken and sad inside and needed healing
I went through almost exact the same few years back, also in NUS, also got expelled also got second chance to pull grade up, the only difference is that this experience left me with a semi-permanent depression that i still have to deal with sometimes thesedays. I didnt have a breakup, but my grandma passed away, my mom sick, my relationship also was challenging and I overloaded a lot at that time, so all of sudden i was overwhelmed and not able to put myself together... Recovery took 2 years and i had to say, talk to more people and share your struggles with them openly really helps and also take medicine if its necessary and dont be shy about it. Thanks for making the video, it kinda touched my heart and hope everyone dont have to go through the same and made the same mistake like me.
The modules mentioned in the video are truly difficult to grasp / even do well (having experienced it myself)... but really kudos for pulling yourself up despite all the struggles you faced!! it is super true that we all have what it takes within us to survive/overcome whatever it is we are facing!! thank you for sharing :)
Thanks for the kind words Kenny! :) Some of the modules were indeed tough, but no excuses for our mistakes. Gotta learn from it and keep moving forward :)
Congratulations! I feel that character should come before grades as long as you did your best and willing to learn. The skills will eventually pick up.
I just wanted to say this story is really inspiring, and about a month ago I was really lost because I felt like my grades were starting to spiral, and even though it only had been a couple of weeks I was really stressed about it, but this video made me see that anything is possible and that it’s important to make mistakes but then learn from them, so thank you so much for sharing your experience :))
Just because you fail your exams doesn't mean you're a bad person. There are always many ways to excel in life, academics is just one of them, and in reality may not even play the biggest role in one's successes in life. Glad that you actually graduated. What surprises me the most is how academic excellence continues to be such a stressful thing at the uni level. I feel that Singapore kids get stressed in primary, secondary, jc and even in uni. To those who graduated : you are a warrior !!
Agreed. Academic excellence is still indicative of good values like hardwork, discipline & work ethics, still has its merits ba! The competitiveness is what's skewing it imo
I was also a poly grad and subsequently went to NUS. Not an easy transition. But I find the people in NUS was the biggest difference. Just hang in there and leverage on the fundamentals that poly drilled into you where applicable.
Thank you for sharing...I know that kind of feeling...Just feeling very exhausted and unmotivated. I remembered my first year enrolling into university, going into new environment...didn't have any friends...a lot of assignment...just beated me up. 加油！！！
Heya Yu Chuan, good sharing! Been through similar ordeals. I am part time NTU graduate, I recall during the 1st day in school, the prof that address us shared that population of part time EEE student halve every semester. but the decline tapered off after year 2 and even less in year 3 which suggest us to endure for the first 2 year. I remember I took that as a pinch of salt thinking that would never happen to me. Well I didn't have any bad break up but still... unfortunately I fell victim to starcraft 2 followed by diablo 3 lol. My Y1S2 CGPA was 1.84 then Y2S1 was 1.75. It was the Y2 sem 1's result and the letter of probation (i think?) that sends a chill down to my spine. I wasn't able to balance my full time job, my time spent on games and studies. For my case I didn't tell my parents as I felt there is no need and it's a bit embarrassing. My approach was to first think(scare myself) of all the consequences of failing to graduate i.e. how to answer when colleagues, family and friends ask about when I graduate, 2 years of paid school fees down the drain, 2 years of time wasted. Then when reality set in, I told myself not to let that happen and pick up your own shit. I began to jio friend (non-gamer) to school to study together to curb my urge to game. The good thing about studying in school is: - it force you to studies since you can't really game in-front of your classmate that are revising - you already journeyed an hour to school and you would be obligated to at least achieve something like completing 1 or 2 tutorials. - it slowly became a habit. - Good to have a study kaki (similar grades or learning capacity as you) to struggle and throw funny sarcasm at each other. Makes the painful grind a little more tolerable. That's how I overcame the ordeal, and got 2.44 CGPA for next semester and graduated with 2.56. Gamer student with grades hanging by a thread can take reference above, it could probably works for you too!
Thanks Sx for your honest comment! I really can relate w alot of the things that you mentioned above hahaha (gamer things). I'm glad we both managed to overcome it, all the best for your future pursuits!
Good honest video. People who make it through uni without traumatic life experiences are lucky but unfortunately never realize how such things could have impacted them too. Glad you were able to recover. Sometimes it's not possible to rebound and one problem leads to another in a downward spiral. Good thing you had strong family support. Imagine if during this dark period another tragic event, like the loss of a family member, also occurred. And then maybe even a third major thing then happened while healing from that. This is how life sometimes throws combo punches at people. For some they are knock-out blows. The real unfair thing is that few people, if any, will ever care or know the backstory about you. They only judge you by the present. And at your lowest they may think "what a loser!".... with the real irony being that if under the same circumstances maybe they'd have fallen even lower. Life really isn't fair that way.
Thank you for your inspiring story, and I am glad that you hung on. Congratulations on being an NUS graduate! I really relate to this story, having been in an extremely competitive academic environment myself. It's so rare to find people who attended or graduated from these prestigious institutions sharing about their academic struggles, something not normally associated with them. I went to a "prestigious" university, the number one national university and basically the "NUS" of my country. I based a huge part of my identity on my academic achievements, and I constantly struggled with depression, from high-functioning depression to major depression. I could not handle bad grades and pressure well - they easily triggered my depressive episodes. I had been struggling with high-functioning depression since 2017, but from the half of 2019 to the half 2021, when I had to write a bachelor's thesis/dissertation, I was diagnosed with major depression. It was extremely difficult to fulfill academic requirements, or finish my thesis, and I had to constantly ask my lecturers for dispensations, and extension. For the sake of my mental health, I extended my study period and graduated in 4.5 years. God knows how many times I have cried for the past two years, to the point that a day without crying seems like a miracle. I've only been recovering for the past three months - it's amazing how I have been able to absorb information and complete small and huge tasks alike better in just 3 months, compared to the past 2 years! To everyone reading this, if you are going through sadness, or depression, anxiety, and other debilitating situation or mental illness, please know that things will get better. I know this sounds really cliche, but they do get better. It takes time. Please seek help, and know that people care. I care about you, even though we are strangers. Sincerely, French Toast. 💜
Lovely comment French Toast, appreciate your sharing alot. Glad to hear that you have pulled through and are doing well now! Cheers :) PS* hope to see you remove the 'Sad' in your username soon~
Well done! Great that u did not wallow / sink in failure. 失败是成功之母 Failure is the mother of success! The key is the courage to face failure, reflect on the mistakes / weaknesses that led to the downfall and then pick up oneself again. 从那里跌倒从那站起来从新往前跑。👏👏加油💪🏼
I remember watching this early on near to when this video was released, but now after having been on the other side, seeing one of my students start to tank their results due to some break-up (followed by some erratic decisions and words on his part), I really can't help but feel hurt that there's only so much we can do to help people like them. I sure hope he's doing alright, and I'm very glad that you managed to pull through the whole ordeal of yours. For those out there in the same boat, if you need a listening ear from your mentors, parents or whoever you trust, don't wait. There's a reason why those who care encourage alerting them as soon as possible when their assistance is needed. ❤️
Your story is really inspiring. It's not like an abnormal genius who went through the top school and did great, but your story feels real and relatable to a normal student. You fell down and picked yourself up, it feels so relatable.
I'm graduating highschool next year, in March, and honestly, the advice you give is so true. I was never good in subjects that requires deep analytical thinking and from the beginning of highschool until junior year, I flopped especially Chemistry so many times. Even the school recommended me to drop Chemistry but I told them I don't want to. I didn't know what I was going to face but I knew that I had to keep trying. And yes, I did have times when I thought of giving up but eventually found the proper studying techniques and environment that allowed me to discipline myself to perform so much better. For a person who failed on streaks, getting a B for finals was enough to send me crying. So yeah, you just have to get a hold of yourself and then keep pushing. It's okay if no one has faith in you so as long as you never doubt yourself. Kudos to you for making it through!! 👏
wah u are brave to share ur story bro, i never see someone got this kind of letter back in the days i still in NUS, but also i wanted to share you a tips during my year in NUS. i allways pays attention in class and i will memorize it even if i have to repeat each sentence of the mentor spoken. some people even called me freak or autism for repeating the mentor's word softly during class. it's not that im saying im genius or gifted but the fact that i am super lazy, i couldn't be bothered to study twice or in the worst case is to retake the subjects next year. i know you can do it too bro, good luck for you.
just came across your video thru the recommendations and I must say that I salute your hardwork and the strength to be able to pick yourself up whether it's mentally or academically. Like you or any heartbroken dude, I did have my first breakup when I was in poly year 2 sem 2. But luckily for me, my academics didn't plunge that badly and I had classmates who pulled me to tell me to get my shit together again. In the end, I managed to mentally and emotionally move on from this plight and managed to grad properly. :)
Really motivated by your video and congratulations for your graduation, well done! I hope that if I meet the same thing I could have the courage and perseverance just as you shown! 我相信每一位能进入国大的同学都是有优势和突出特点的，它可能是在学术上或者社交领导力等方方面面，而你战胜挫折的勇气和决心使我备受震撼。学习成绩固然重要，但它不是大学生活中的全部，做有意义的事，问心无愧方得始终。父母的支持永远是无私与伟大的，加油并祝你前程似锦！来自NUS大二本科学弟的祝福
Hey YC! Not sure if you rmb but we did SCAMP together as seniors and im sorry to actually hear that you went thru this but super happy to hear u pulled through such adversity:) All the best dude and go on to achieve better things in life
Hey, so the age old wisdom still stays evergreen, that is, not to be emotionally involved in Relationship so seriously while embarking your educational journey. Stay cool and be detachable. Great courage to pull yourself thru! To add, Boyfriend and Girlfriend relationship can change anytime for whatever reason. This relationship stays only when both parties acknowledge it and it is only a tag given to each other no legal binding unlike marriage.
Thank you for your candid sharing and even to the point of showing your grades before your turning point. I applaud your resilience and I congratulate you on your graduation, and most importantly, you have learnt one of the important life lessons. All the best in your new chapter of your journey. 加油！
Breakups are hard. When I broke up in 2013, my world shattered overnight. Fast forward to 2022, I just broke up with the same person again and I'm currently pursuing my PhD. My world shattered yet again, but I think I handled it better this time. For anyone reading this, it will all come to pass and you will get better at dealing with relationships as you grow older. Don't be too harsh on yourself.
@@renderz8435 I love how people like to reduce complex human relationships into simple reductive stances. I'm a highly educated and highly successful grown ass adult who makes his own decisions. To be utterly blunt, who is society or you to tell me what I should or should not do? My heart wants what it wants. If it wants to wait forever for that one person regardless of the consequences, then it is pretty damn well free to do as it pleases. I had plenty of options that I could have picked, and frankly I still have plenty of options, but I've never considered them. I'm prepared to walk the rest of this life alone.
@@pinklabbit dude do you have such low self esteem/ego that you had to infer i was telling you what to do? Read properly, i said 'I'D NEVER ...' not 'NEVER ...' and youtube is an open platform for everyone to post comments/advice - regardless of whether you take it well or not. You can continue wallowing in self pity and hope pinned on that person - for all i care. But i was just saying for me, i;d move forward and never consider the same person again. thats ME, not asking you to do the same
Hey Bro, I was also from AHS. But way before you. I graduated from AHS in 2006. I relied on xiao cong ming too to get into AHS. Everything went downhill from there. I scrapped to MJ and eventually got kicked out from jc after retaining a year. Scraped through my poly too and ended up in RMIT. It was like buying a degree, do some past year questions the morning before the exams and you could pass. I only started working hard and realised this thrash degree is useless. But I still managed to get an employment relevant to what I studied but it was a very small employer and the starting salary was peanuts. Guess they couldn’t afford to employ the local grads. Worked my ass off to prove myself as I moved through bigger firms in the industry to set myself on equal footing with the local grads in the big firms. I am married now with a child now and have a stable job. Keep your head up, the going will get tough but that’s the price to pay when you laxed at the start and fall behind. Keep your head up and you will eventually get there.
Hey bro, thanks for sharing your personal piece. It's v motivating and heartening to read through your comment, and i'm sure alot of others who read this comment will feel the same. Kudos to you and your hard work, happy to hear that you having a loving family now. Cheers! :)
Probablh unrelated but im in my first year of uni in an honors program and barely passed my first calculus exam. As someone with a good academic record it has wrecked me and this is an incredibly inspiring video to encourage me to push through it
Thanks for sharing! I’m pretty sure your story will inspire many people. Glad that you managed to push through that tough times. Anyways to everyone that’s reading this, no matter what happens in the future, don’t ever give up because things happens for a reason. Overcome the challenges and milestones and you’ll become stronger. 😁
idk you but thanks for sharing, its really inspirational. i experience the same thing as you during my studies and i know how it feels. its very bad. i too didnt want anyone to experience the same thing as me but found someone like you through this vid.
Really inspiring story, I feel like a lot of people downplay the psychological effects of a breakup. It really hurts because it's not just heartbreaking, it also involves loss and grief which is always overlooked when it comes to romantic relationships. I'm juggling a full time job and being an SUSS part-time undergrad and it's tough. I have also been dealing with a worsening mental health and trying to prevent it from severely affecting my grades and physical health. Congrats on graduation! It motivates me to keep persevering through tough times!
I'm glad to be of motivation :) All the best for your pursuits, life will have its downs but you decide whether to stay there or climb back up, cheers!
Never had a break up. I'm just stupid at that point of life. I never knew that GCPA this kind of thing could effect my life, I just thought that if i pass then i can get a cert. But after graduating and trying to go for degree then I realize that point is very important. So here I am stuck at 2.2 GCPA and trying to get a job. I'm really sad and I hope this video can help people realize how inportant that point is. Its not about just passing and go on with your life. You need to have good scores. Thats why WORK HARD PEEPS
you have a typo, after graduating and trying to go for a job, not degree. you are not stupid, anyone who can get into NUS to begin with with maximum hard work is a 3.5.
Hi Yu Chuan, I was one of your project mates in one of the econs module. so coinidence sia, was watching some random videos then suddenly video appeared and saw you in this video. hope u are doing well now
Congratulations on your achievement and thanks for sharing your experiences... I was so touch by your mom's response :( Btw, I'm currently taking Btech course in NUS too. Will stay tune for more videos, esp those experiences in NUS. Good Luck for your career :)
OH MY GOD, same brother. My case is different, but had the same conversation with my mother. We even talk about it for three days straight, because I can't go on talking about it for a long time. This is the last semester to 'work it out' ... or else .. dropping out is the only way out. Stucked here with nothing for more than 2 years.
Its insane how romantic breakups can really reduce a person so dramatically. Good job on your comeback and graduation!
Thank you! :)
This has happened the same to me except that I spent so much time catching up in y4s1 but still failed the modules. I remembered how hopeless I felt at that time. I finally graduated in Aug 2020 and I am considering to look for a new industry to work now.
@@samanthalee7109 thanks for sharing Samantha! Good job on pulling through yourself. Anw if you're look to explore new industries, we can connect! I may have lobangs from my friends & clients
if a student presents good grades to me in an interview it doesn't mean much to me to be honest. Same for if he or she presents bad grades. Because good grades is just hardwork, meaning everyone can do it if they put in enough hardwork.
@@andyng5321dont u value hardwork in a company ?
Your parents are awesome. They stuck by you and didnt penalize you. You played your own part and realized what was important in life. Goodjob graduating.
Thank you :)
Yup, his mum was very supportive. My parents would have hang me out to dry in such a situation and would probably blame me as stupid.
I cried upon hearing your mother's words to you. Your dad's efforts in writing such a sincere letter was very touching too. The Dean was also a great person for being so understanding. But most of all, you did really well picking yourself back up and that might be the most difficult part of it all. Congratulations to you for your very hard-earned yet truly well-deserved graduation! Jiayou and may you continue to meet many kind people in your life!
Thanks for listening to my piece and your well wishes :) Fun fact: my dean saw this video and congratulated me haha. All the best to your pursuits too!
Hi Yuchuan, I am Samuel from RSS and I believe we were even in the same class during primary 5. Thank you for sharing such an inspiring story that resonates with me so well. Yes, you were always the smart kid in class. Unlike you, I started screwing up my grades back in secondary school. I had to pick myself up and grind my butt off for many years to be able to graduate from a local uni. I am heartened to hear that this set back has made you a much stronger person.
Congrats on your graduation and all the best for your future endeavours!!
Hi Samuel! Thanks for the comment, really appreciate this. Happy to hear that you overcame your challenges too, it's really been a long while haha. Let's get to reconnect if possible, till then, all the best for your pursuits too!
Thank you for telling us this story, marks and grades in NUS has always been such a "taboo" thing to talk about considering how competitive it ALWAYS is. In a crude way, knowing how others suffer worst makes our own suffering less (Like hey my life isn't that bad and I should buck the fk up), I'm not sure how to put this out in a non-selfish way but it really is.
Yup no offence taken, I get what you mean. My situation would seem fortunate relative to others out there too, just work w the cards we're dealt with, and make the best out of it :)
@@xuyuchuan It mkes me feel awful as a typical NUS student (SPEAKING FOR MYSELF), it just shows that the competitiveness is instilled in everyone because of how the student culture is in NUS. However, there are still truly nice people in NUS, you just time need to find them. But honestly, thank you though! Jia you!
@@Rem-ht4ct indeed, I've met alot of lovely people in NUS. Thank you and jiayou too!
@@xuyuchuan Back after a year, and rewatching this video for the feels. I would also want to add that .. your parents are literal GODS. Really, really cherish them and treat them well in the future, I'm sure you will. They raised a good child! I hope everything is going well in your life, have you started working?
Maths and econs major here - I feel you when I look at those modules you taken since I took those too. Definitely not easy, glad that you persevere through and grad :)
Thanks Broccoli! Some math mods are tough for sure haha.
Will order more of you when i eat cai png!
@@xuyuchuan LMAOOO so cute
Really great that you were willing to share this, I suffered the exact situation during my year 1 of Poly and went through the exact same routine of being sorry for myself and not sharing to anyone about it. I am glad we both overcame it. This video would definitely have helped me when I was still going through that phase. I am sure this will help those that are in a tough spot as well.
Great work!
Thanks for the comment zheng han! Agreed, I hope that this video can give those who are struggling some motivation. Kudos to you for overcoming your challenges :)
The battle for grades in NUS is damn fierce - I never forget the scare of queueing outside MPSH! Well done for pulling through!😀
HAHA tell me about it! Thanks Brent :)
yup even after 10 years
I went through a very similar experience. It wasn’t a breakup though, it was a bunch of other stuff; hated my major, was alone in a strange(ironically, my native country) place, was too naive and sensitive. I eventually pulled through, but my parents weren’t helpful, and I was left to my own devices. I’m happy that your parents seem so supportive, and I hope that you and them cherish your years together and have much happiness for many years to come.
I’m in academic probation in my year3sem1, I watched this video again and again for motivation and I managed to get through this and I’m graduating this may, thanks for making this video. 很感谢你能做这期视频 真的给了我很大的精神支持 我甚至当时已经做好了最坏的打算 也算是幸运我熬过来了 谢谢你！
Congrats on your graduation Yu Chuan and thank you for the insight into such a personal & sensitive topic of grades in uni.
Glad your parents backed you up when you hit rock bottom.
Hope this can motivate everyone, thank you! :)
This is what I felt when I failed a unit in my first year. Honestly, miserable, and I started thinking my life s a failure and I have failed everyone who entrusted me. It was a wake-up call to me too, I was able to pull my GPA from 1.5 to 3, out of 4, by graduation. I am also feeling proud that I have made it and my life is on a right track, better than ever. I really feel this video.
Glad it resonated w you man! Take care and all the best :)
I had almost the same experience as you. Econs major at FASS. Got rejected and fell into a deep depression. My cap was 2.29 on the second sem. I also failed EC2102 like you.
Stupidly tried to overload and failed another mod, hit 2.27. Applied for NOC 3 times and failed all. Over 100 rejections in my internship hunting.
I tried so hard to improve my grades and graduated with 2.88, no honours. It wasn't easy to push past the fog of depression. Now I'm working for an MNC. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Life is never easy and kudos to you for pushing on.
Proud of you, yuchuan! :) Thanks for being so sincere and candid about your experience. Glad you made it through!
Thanks Qin Lin! :)
this is what resilence looks like to me. You were able to come back from a setback in life. it takes a lot of courage to publicly share your struggles and to use your experiences to help someone else. thank you for sharing !!! there is power to your story.
I really resonated with the message. too often a student is made to believe that their grade is who they are and how much they are worth. Your story shows you are more than your grades. It is your actions, reflections, and the supportive people around us that shapes who we are. i think this is a really important message for me to remember. thanks for the inspiring video!!!! 👍👍👍👍
Thank you Simonia, I'm glad you found this helpful and relatable. Jiayou!
Thanks for sharing your story YuChuan. I'm currently in Year 1 and I was from Poly. I just failed two of my mid-terms for two Level 2 core modules this semester. It was quite hard for me to accept the results, I even pondered about my choice of the course this few days. Your video is a great encouragement for myself to push on.
I'm glad to be of encouragement Darren. Take it from me (I've failed my fair share), it is very possible to turn things around still, don't let a small hiccup define your entire Poly experience!
@@xuyuchuan Haha thanks! I'm a graduated Poly student currently in NUS xD sorry i did not make it clear. As a Poly student, I find the transition really steep to University. But yup, I'm inspired by your determination to stand back up from your fall so I'll try my best!
so proud of you! im currently in a “probation” course in poly as i didn’t take O levels. i fucked up in my first sem, i would have been kicked out if i failed JUST one module. i worried the whole sem break until the results came out and somehow i managed to scrape past with C- grades. now a new semester is starting and im gonna grind. thanks for the inspiration mate!
Aye m8, happy to be of motivation. Jiayou and don't give up!
It's good to see the YT algorithm still recommends this video from a channel with very little subscribers.
I am from NUS School of Computing and I also had poor grades. I am from 2012 cohort and graduated in 2016, and I am still in my first job of 4 years+ (which is rare to me for recent cohorts now).
It was mainly due to burnout of having graduated from polytechnic with Director's list every semester, after also have completed UEC (Malaysian Chinese High School) with 3As and 7Bs, which at the time was still too competitive in 2009/2010 to get me a place in NUS (would have been easier if I were just 2-3 years older).
Had plans that were derailed for getting used to university life, become demoralized. And then I became a regular visitor of Counseling and Psychological Services. Didn't dare to apply LOA thinking my reason for it is silly and would be rejected (until a senior when I survived with a pass since year 3 applied LOA after a devastating breakup).
I literally started out with CAP 0.00 the first semester, and we were the 2nd last or last cohort that didn't have grade-less first year. Needed 2 years to pull back to CAP 2, so, I had needed 3 appeals total.
I could not stand my plan for coming to this university turn into a naught since planning for it in my high school years. Thankfully I graduated with CAP 2.8 in 2016.
There are other survivors in SoC with poor grades, including the founder and creator of NUSMods, Beng Eu, who went from Second Upper down to a bit less than CAP 2.0 due to a bicycle accident which impacted his brain that it affected the secretion of brain chemical that influences his joy, and the came back to higher end of Second Lower. (These were what I have recalled)
With the recent completion of the online course I took from Carnegie Mellon University's Executive Education on Fundamentals of Machine Learning last month, I found confidence to wish to continue with an actual Masters education. I scored flawlessly in it.
Hopefully you will achieve big in your career, and if you want to come back to academic life, that you'll end it finally on a good note, like I plan to do. Congrats for your survival too!
Thank you for the heartfelt comment and sharing w us your story. I'm glad that you're doing well too! Hope to connect w you more on other platforms 👍 (insta/FB)
Great to hear from you with your reply! I am an ordinary person who doesn't do YT full-time yet, but yeah, perhaps we could connect elsewhere. There was once a r/NUS topic from a Redditor asking those who had poor grades on how they're doing in adulthood now. Our stories are just dime a dozen ... There are more survivors than you think.
I can relate 🥺🤧 I also used a lot of my 小聪明 from primary school all the way till JC and like my parents have always been backing me up whenever I made mistakes. This really show parents’ love and like yeah now in uni you really cannot use 小聪明 anymore gotta grow up and be responsible! Thank you for your story. I’ll be motivated to work harder 💪 all the best in ur future endeavours YuChuan
This is why I scared to try uni... My cousins/friends who took longer route still went to private U...
I don't have thousands to waste...so long i can find a job that motivates me enough to get out of bed, I'm satisfied alr. No need super high pay also nvm.
Hahaha yes! All we need to do, is to do what we're supposed to do. Thank you for your well wishes, all the best to you too! :)
@@RonLarhz hi Ron, there's nothing wrong w that. To each their own, do what you feel is right for you, and accept whatever result that comes 👍
Not agreed, you do need to mug for A levels and o levels a few months before those final exams, primary school is the only place where you do not need to study much.
I didn’t went through a breakup but I was in the same state when I was in high school because of depression. I was shut down and doing nothing at all to the point where I failed to pass history and another subject. And I kept it a secret from my mom till this day. It was a bad cycle and I thought I broke the cycle when I started fresh in university. However, I think it left a scar on me as I still lack self-discipline and self-confidence, which is needed to build a good cycle and routine.
Yes discipline is key here, but kudos for breaking the downward spiral. Keep working at it!
Crazy that you manage to pull ur Gpa so much. Mad respect.
I fail my core modules twice in Ntu EEE and I am on the brink to fall below gpa 2.. , you gave me hope man
Wow, I actually cried watching this because I was so moved by what your mom said. Your parents really love you! Good job for pushing through and overcoming such a dark period in your life! Congrats on graduating, and thanks for sharing your story with us :)
very brave of you to share and I also scored badly in my first year in NUS, almost couldnt made it to the Hons degree which I need to go further in my course. looking back, the failure made me more humble and chill with dips in life. I still completed my PhD in the end.
great work yourself!
Hi Yuchuan! I hope you see this, thank you for sharing your story with us :) This video spoke to me on a personal level, as I was once a JC student who has failed her promos in year 1 and was told to stay back one year in JC, even after my parents pleaded with the principal to let me move to J2. That was actually the lowest and most depressing point of my life, seeing my friends and classmates moving on with their lives and having fun in school without me, while I had to adjust to a whole new set of friends/classmates and start all over again, on top of the pressure of academics. But on hindsight, I would say that I never regretted staying back for another year, as the friends with whom I have stayed in touch the most were also my current clique whom I met in my 2nd year as a J1 student! I wouldn't trade that friendship for the world. Also neither did I do exceptionally well for my 'A' Levels. At that point in time, I selected CS as my major in a local u as it was one of the better-paying degrees out there that had a lower barrier of entry ( I wanted to study Business), and I would say that decision definitely paid off in the end, as now it is one of the more sought after industries for graduates.
Fast forward 6 years graduating from JC and now as a working adult, I'm thankful for the series of events that have made me who I am today, and I'm actually thankful and proud of myself for not giving up. Sometimes, we just gotta trust the process and know that the series of setbacks happening in our lives are actually meant to teach us an important lesson and to help make us become a stronger person overall :) Cheers!
Hi evening skies! First of all, thank you so much for sharing your personal piece, reading through your comment brings me motivation too.
Indeed, adversities are inevitable in life, and they perhaps are placed in our lives for a reason. What matters is how we handle it, and rise up from it.
It's heartening to hear about your comeback story, and how you're doing well in life! Kudos to you, hope to connect more in the future. Cheers!
I have a very similar experience during my secondary school education. I was in Sec 3 and I failed every subject. I remembered after parent teachers meeting session with the school principle (I was suppose to retain), my mum didn’t scold me. Instead she brought me to shopping. From then on, I picked myself up and manage to score good enough to enter polytechnic and I’m currently studying in NUS.
Sometimes the words or actions of our loved ones really gave us the strength and courage to pick ourselves up. Anyways this is a great sharing!
This happened to me in my third year of architecture school when my dad suddenly passed
away in his sleep. I took him with his driver to the nearest hospital. They said he had been gone for at least 30 minutes. Sitting in a cold room with only his cold body when the doctor told me to take sometime to gather myself. I was a wreck then. I didn’t cry. I was in shock. A week later I had finals, and my grade tanked from 3.3 -> 2.9-> 2.8 within 6 months. Was busy taking care of his unfinished businesses. Then spend the last 6 months feeling lost, despair, and I just quit school. It was hard losing the only support system I had. Right now taking community college for CS. Much better and mentally healthier
I'm so sorry to hear that... He's in a better place and I hope you're doing better now. Hope that life will be kind to you and don't give up!
@@xuyuchuan thank you! Hope yours to be better as well
Ngl I actually ended up shedding tears when I heard what your mom said, your parents truly do love you a lot, my cgpa went down a bit in 1st semester cause I am also preparing for some other competitive exams side by side and my dad stopped talking to me cause of my low grades lol, Idk what will happen in the future but ik everything will work out.
I am really proud of you for picking yourself back up despite the situation that happened to you, I hope you are doing good in life :)
Such a sincere interview!
Thank you! :)
Hi Yu Chuan,
Congrats on your graduations! And thanks for releasing this very inspirational video.
It was really fortunate that this video ended up in my recommended list of videos and I’m very touched by how you made that comeback.
Wishing you all the best in your future endeavours!! 💪💪
Thank you Nicholas for your sweet comment! :)
This is so inspiring! Thank you being so vulnerable in sharing your valley-lows :")
Congrats on your graduation!
Thank you Keith! :)
Hey man, I’m in nursing school right now in America and the program over here is difficult and I face hopelessness. You gave me some inspiration with your story since I was once in your shoes and currently am in right now as well lol. We have night shifts when we go to the hospital and I ask myself when will this end. I don’t know but hearing that there are people who struggle in life lets me know me that I’m not alone. Thanks for being an inspiration.
Thanks for sharing this Kevin. I'm glad to be of inspiration to you. Yes, you're not alone, and take it from me, we can pull through. Don't give up and keep going at it!
Wow, that was extremely relatable. I went through a similar process, my girlfriend (at - the -time) also broke up with me. I spent days on my bed, not having any will power to get anything done. Adding on to the stress, I was undertaking my final year projects, and it was very hard because I didn't really like the topic I chose. Furthermore, my so-called "friends" only contacted me just to ask me for help with their own assignments. In the end, I just uninstalled facebook, instagram, and mute all my whatsapp calls. That helped tremendously. Getting rid of distraction such as social media help me move on from the pain of my breakup and get rid of distraction from the so-called "friends". Just an advice, if any of you guys ever find yourself down to such a state, it's normal, it'll pass through eventually, even if it seems incredibly impossible.
Jiayou man! Hope that things are working out better for you now!
Proud of you bro! Really glad you’re where you are now :)
Thanks brother :)
Thank you for sharing such an inspirational and touching story. Even if the low isn't as low as what you experienced, having the resilience and determination to pull yourself back up is always a daunting ordeal. To anyone out there who's in a ditch right now, I hope that your story will spur them to begin climbing back up
I kinda needed this, I'm doing really badly in uni rn mainly bc of some distractions in my life, and more than anything it kinda demotivates me to try to do better, its easy to say to buck up and do better, but I really needed to get a grip of this and actually make things work before it goes out of control, I'm already really behind and totally out of sync with content atm. :/
There's no trick to this, we just gotta sit our ass down and put in the work. Jiayou Wei Lun!
Bro this is so relatable, i failed my A levels due to the same exact reason. While some may think a breakup is nothing, it is actually detrimental. I was sad so naturally just like you i turn to avenues like gaming and watching RUclips etc instead of actually studying. The stress due to A levels is alr immense, you can imagine how much worse the breakup made. But failure make us stronger, now im in second class honours, because prev failures motivate me to rise.
Yo John, really heartening to hear your story. Indeed, we rise up stronger, and that is invaluable. All the best for your future endeavours man!
I was the opposite, after my first breakup I just studied full day and didn’t go out to meet friends - basically isolated myself from the world
It was just school home study eat school and nothing else
My grades went up but I felt emptier inside
I guess different people have different coping methods but at the end we were still broken and sad inside and needed healing
Thank you for sharing this, I needed this so much. Jiayous! Let's hope that everything gets better from here on! :)
Most welcome, hope you keep up w your pursuits! :)
I went through almost exact the same few years back, also in NUS, also got expelled also got second chance to pull grade up, the only difference is that this experience left me with a semi-permanent depression that i still have to deal with sometimes thesedays. I didnt have a breakup, but my grandma passed away, my mom sick, my relationship also was challenging and I overloaded a lot at that time, so all of sudden i was overwhelmed and not able to put myself together... Recovery took 2 years and i had to say, talk to more people and share your struggles with them openly really helps and also take medicine if its necessary and dont be shy about it. Thanks for making the video, it kinda touched my heart and hope everyone dont have to go through the same and made the same mistake like me.
Thanks for sharing your own piece w us Simon. Indeed, having people who can support and relate to us is extremely helpful. Hope you're doing well now!
The modules mentioned in the video are truly difficult to grasp / even do well (having experienced it myself)... but really kudos for pulling yourself up despite all the struggles you faced!! it is super true that we all have what it takes within us to survive/overcome whatever it is we are facing!! thank you for sharing :)
Thanks for the kind words Kenny! :) Some of the modules were indeed tough, but no excuses for our mistakes. Gotta learn from it and keep moving forward :)
your story is super touching and i’m so so happy for you! congratulations on your graduation :) hope everything goes well in your future
Thank you :)
Congratulations! I feel that character should come before grades as long as you did your best and willing to learn. The skills will eventually pick up.
Thank you Alvin! Indeed I have learnt alot through this experience. Cheers! :)
I just wanted to say this story is really inspiring, and about a month ago I was really lost because I felt like my grades were starting to spiral, and even though it only had been a couple of weeks I was really stressed about it, but this video made me see that anything is possible and that it’s important to make mistakes but then learn from them, so thank you so much for sharing your experience :))
Yes indeed! Don't let one fall define your entire candidature. You have so many opportunities to rise up. All the best!
@@xuyuchuan thank you very much, and you too :))
Just because you fail your exams doesn't mean you're a bad person. There are always many ways to excel in life, academics is just one of them, and in reality may not even play the biggest role in one's successes in life. Glad that you actually graduated. What surprises me the most is how academic excellence continues to be such a stressful thing at the uni level. I feel that Singapore kids get stressed in primary, secondary, jc and even in uni. To those who graduated : you are a warrior !!
Agreed. Academic excellence is still indicative of good values like hardwork, discipline & work ethics, still has its merits ba! The competitiveness is what's skewing it imo
@@xuyuchuan great point!!
I don’t know why this was recommended but I’m glad it was. Congrats on graduating!!
Thank you :)
agree i come from poly and studying in nus has made me realise that poly gpa is nothing if u cannot make the graduation requirements...
Keep the hard work on and don't give up!
I was also a poly grad and subsequently went to NUS. Not an easy transition. But I find the people in NUS was the biggest difference. Just hang in there and leverage on the fundamentals that poly drilled into you where applicable.
@@NinJa-qr1sp why is poly not easy to transit to NUS?
isn't it obvious? How does poly gpa help in NUS lol?
poly gpa did help you to get into NUS. After that it is another level
Thanks for sharing your story, just had my first mid term test in NUS where I couldn't answer 80% of the questions, deeply worried.
Take it from me, mid terms are hardly definitive of your overall grade. You still have lots of time to turn things around, don't waste it!
Thank you for making this video and telling people there’s still always hope.
Yes there is, jiayou!
Thank you for sharing...I know that kind of feeling...Just feeling very exhausted and unmotivated. I remembered my first year enrolling into university, going into new environment...didn't have any friends...a lot of assignment...just beated me up. 加油！！！
Heya Yu Chuan, good sharing! Been through similar ordeals. I am part time NTU graduate, I recall during the 1st day in school, the prof that address us shared that population of part time EEE student halve every semester. but the decline tapered off after year 2 and even less in year 3 which suggest us to endure for the first 2 year. I remember I took that as a pinch of salt thinking that would never happen to me.
Well I didn't have any bad break up but still... unfortunately I fell victim to starcraft 2 followed by diablo 3 lol. My Y1S2 CGPA was 1.84 then Y2S1 was 1.75. It was the Y2 sem 1's result and the letter of probation (i think?) that sends a chill down to my spine. I wasn't able to balance my full time job, my time spent on games and studies. For my case I didn't tell my parents as I felt there is no need and it's a bit embarrassing.
My approach was to first think(scare myself) of all the consequences of failing to graduate i.e. how to answer when colleagues, family and friends ask about when I graduate, 2 years of paid school fees down the drain, 2 years of time wasted. Then when reality set in, I told myself not to let that happen and pick up your own shit. I began to jio friend (non-gamer) to school to study together to curb my urge to game.
The good thing about studying in school is:
- it force you to studies since you can't really game in-front of your classmate that are revising
- you already journeyed an hour to school and you would be obligated to at least achieve something like completing 1 or 2 tutorials.
- it slowly became a habit.
- Good to have a study kaki (similar grades or learning capacity as you) to struggle and throw funny sarcasm at each other. Makes the painful grind a little more tolerable.
That's how I overcame the ordeal, and got 2.44 CGPA for next semester and graduated with 2.56.
Gamer student with grades hanging by a thread can take reference above, it could probably works for you too!
Thanks Sx for your honest comment! I really can relate w alot of the things that you mentioned above hahaha (gamer things). I'm glad we both managed to overcome it, all the best for your future pursuits!
Good honest video. People who make it through uni without traumatic life experiences are lucky but unfortunately never realize how such things could have impacted them too. Glad you were able to recover. Sometimes it's not possible to rebound and one problem leads to another in a downward spiral. Good thing you had strong family support. Imagine if during this dark period another tragic event, like the loss of a family member, also occurred. And then maybe even a third major thing then happened while healing from that. This is how life sometimes throws combo punches at people. For some they are knock-out blows. The real unfair thing is that few people, if any, will ever care or know the backstory about you. They only judge you by the present. And at your lowest they may think "what a loser!".... with the real irony being that if under the same circumstances maybe they'd have fallen even lower. Life really isn't fair that way.
Congratulations ☺️ very glad you stayed strong till the end!
thank you! :)
Thank you for your inspiring story, and I am glad that you hung on. Congratulations on being an NUS graduate! I really relate to this story, having been in an extremely competitive academic environment myself. It's so rare to find people who attended or graduated from these prestigious institutions sharing about their academic struggles, something not normally associated with them.
I went to a "prestigious" university, the number one national university and basically the "NUS" of my country. I based a huge part of my identity on my academic achievements, and I constantly struggled with depression, from high-functioning depression to major depression. I could not handle bad grades and pressure well - they easily triggered my depressive episodes. I had been struggling with high-functioning depression since 2017, but from the half of 2019 to the half 2021, when I had to write a bachelor's thesis/dissertation, I was diagnosed with major depression. It was extremely difficult to fulfill academic requirements, or finish my thesis, and I had to constantly ask my lecturers for dispensations, and extension. For the sake of my mental health, I extended my study period and graduated in 4.5 years. God knows how many times I have cried for the past two years, to the point that a day without crying seems like a miracle. I've only been recovering for the past three months - it's amazing how I have been able to absorb information and complete small and huge tasks alike better in just 3 months, compared to the past 2 years!
To everyone reading this, if you are going through sadness, or depression, anxiety, and other debilitating situation or mental illness, please know that things will get better. I know this sounds really cliche, but they do get better. It takes time. Please seek help, and know that people care. I care about you, even though we are strangers.
Sincerely,
French Toast.
💜
Lovely comment French Toast, appreciate your sharing alot. Glad to hear that you have pulled through and are doing well now! Cheers :)
PS* hope to see you remove the 'Sad' in your username soon~
@@xuyuchuan i am a happy french toast now, thank you very much bro, i owe yoy a lot
Parents don't want to be mad with you they always on your side giving you a better live today don't forget to thanks them.
Agreed. I'm forever grateful to them
What a relief when you said you got your degree after all. Thanks for sharing your experience :D
加油，虽说路途坎坷，人生也难免蹉跎，但希望你将来会越来越好。
谢谢你。的确，人生总会有起起落落，我们也是在这些起落中成长。一起加油！
Well done! Great that u did not wallow / sink in failure. 失败是成功之母 Failure is the mother of success! The key is the courage to face failure, reflect on the mistakes / weaknesses that led to the downfall and then pick up oneself again. 从那里跌倒从那站起来从新往前跑。👏👏加油💪🏼
Thank you! 怎么跌倒不重要，重要的是怎么爬起来. 谢谢！
I remember watching this early on near to when this video was released, but now after having been on the other side, seeing one of my students start to tank their results due to some break-up (followed by some erratic decisions and words on his part), I really can't help but feel hurt that there's only so much we can do to help people like them. I sure hope he's doing alright, and I'm very glad that you managed to pull through the whole ordeal of yours.
For those out there in the same boat, if you need a listening ear from your mentors, parents or whoever you trust, don't wait. There's a reason why those who care encourage alerting them as soon as possible when their assistance is needed. ❤️
Your story is really inspiring. It's not like an abnormal genius who went through the top school and did great, but your story feels real and relatable to a normal student. You fell down and picked yourself up, it feels so relatable.
I'm graduating highschool next year, in March, and honestly, the advice you give is so true.
I was never good in subjects that requires deep analytical thinking and from the beginning of highschool until junior year, I flopped especially Chemistry so many times. Even the school recommended me to drop Chemistry but I told them I don't want to. I didn't know what I was going to face but I knew that I had to keep trying. And yes, I did have times when I thought of giving up but eventually found the proper studying techniques and environment that allowed me to discipline myself to perform so much better. For a person who failed on streaks, getting a B for finals was enough to send me crying.
So yeah, you just have to get a hold of yourself and then keep pushing. It's okay if no one has faith in you so as long as you never doubt yourself.
Kudos to you for making it through!! 👏
Good job in persevering and overcoming your challenges! It's heartening to hear :)
@@xuyuchuan Thank you!! And likewise! 💓
Didn’t know that we were in the same high school (AHS); glad to know you’re doing better mate!
Aye fellow Anglican! Hope you're doing well too :)
wah u are brave to share ur story bro, i never see someone got this kind of letter back in the days i still in NUS, but also i wanted to share you a tips during my year in NUS. i allways pays attention in class and i will memorize it even if i have to repeat each sentence of the mentor spoken. some people even called me freak or autism for repeating the mentor's word softly during class. it's not that im saying im genius or gifted but the fact that i am super lazy, i couldn't be bothered to study twice or in the worst case is to retake the subjects next year.
i know you can do it too bro, good luck for you.
Thanks bro for your advice and we'll wishes. All the best to you too :)
just came across your video thru the recommendations and I must say that I salute your hardwork and the strength to be able to pick yourself up whether it's mentally or academically. Like you or any heartbroken dude, I did have my first breakup when I was in poly year 2 sem 2. But luckily for me, my academics didn't plunge that badly and I had classmates who pulled me to tell me to get my shit together again. In the end, I managed to mentally and emotionally move on from this plight and managed to grad properly. :)
Congrats!!!! Wishing you only the best from here!
Thank you Nick! :)
Thank you for this inspiring video clip!
Congrats upon your graduation too!
Thank you :)
Really motivated by your video and congratulations for your graduation, well done! I hope that if I meet the same thing I could have the courage and perseverance just as you shown!
我相信每一位能进入国大的同学都是有优势和突出特点的，它可能是在学术上或者社交领导力等方方面面，而你战胜挫折的勇气和决心使我备受震撼。学习成绩固然重要，但它不是大学生活中的全部，做有意义的事，问心无愧方得始终。父母的支持永远是无私与伟大的，加油并祝你前程似锦！来自NUS大二本科学弟的祝福
Hey YC! Not sure if you rmb but we did SCAMP together as seniors and im sorry to actually hear that you went thru this but super happy to hear u pulled through such adversity:) All the best dude and go on to achieve better things in life
Yoooooo of course i remember bro! Text you on tele haha
Fellow SCAMPER here, you did so well mentally, all the best endeavors in life YC!!!
Well done Yuchuan, takes resilience to bounce back from such a low point. Wishing you all the best for the road ahead🙂
Thanks Daryl! Hope you're doing well too bro :)
What a awesome genuine interview 👍🏻 Kudos to your mother for being so supportive 👏🏻
Thank you! :)
Comeback king man. Others would not have went thru the same choice you made after you dropped out.
Good job man
thank you! :)
Hey, so the age old wisdom still stays evergreen, that is, not to be emotionally involved in Relationship so seriously while embarking your educational journey. Stay cool and be detachable. Great courage to pull yourself thru! To add, Boyfriend and Girlfriend relationship can change anytime for whatever reason. This relationship stays only when both parties acknowledge it and it is only a tag given to each other no legal binding unlike marriage.
Thanks Moses! :) Good advice
This randomly came into my feed but thanks for the share. Its really moving! JYJY!
Thank you Hui Wen! Jiayou too :)
Thank you for your candid sharing and even to the point of showing your grades before your turning point. I applaud your resilience and I congratulate you on your graduation, and most importantly, you have learnt one of the important life lessons. All the best in your new chapter of your journey. 加油！
Breakups are hard. When I broke up in 2013, my world shattered overnight. Fast forward to 2022, I just broke up with the same person again and I'm currently pursuing my PhD. My world shattered yet again, but I think I handled it better this time. For anyone reading this, it will all come to pass and you will get better at dealing with relationships as you grow older. Don't be too harsh on yourself.
Move forward - I’d never date the same person twice. Something must have broken since the first round that was not meant to be
@@renderz8435 I love how people like to reduce complex human relationships into simple reductive stances. I'm a highly educated and highly successful grown ass adult who makes his own decisions. To be utterly blunt, who is society or you to tell me what I should or should not do? My heart wants what it wants. If it wants to wait forever for that one person regardless of the consequences, then it is pretty damn well free to do as it pleases. I had plenty of options that I could have picked, and frankly I still have plenty of options, but I've never considered them. I'm prepared to walk the rest of this life alone.
@@pinklabbit dude do you have such low self esteem/ego that you had to infer i was telling you what to do? Read properly, i said 'I'D NEVER ...' not 'NEVER ...' and youtube is an open platform for everyone to post comments/advice - regardless of whether you take it well or not. You can continue wallowing in self pity and hope pinned on that person - for all i care. But i was just saying for me, i;d move forward and never consider the same person again. thats ME, not asking you to do the same
@@renderz8435 Sorry, but go get a life or go back to school or develop a career. 加油！
@@pinklabbit lmao you too
Amazing work buddy, thanks for sharing this story with us and I'm sure your story will motivate the younger ones who need it.
I hope so too, thank you for your comment :)
Hey Bro, I was also from AHS. But way before you. I graduated from AHS in 2006. I relied on xiao cong ming too to get into AHS. Everything went downhill from there. I scrapped to MJ and eventually got kicked out from jc after retaining a year. Scraped through my poly too and ended up in RMIT. It was like buying a degree, do some past year questions the morning before the exams and you could pass.
I only started working hard and realised this thrash degree is useless. But I still managed to get an employment relevant to what I studied but it was a very small employer and the starting salary was peanuts. Guess they couldn’t afford to employ the local grads. Worked my ass off to prove myself as I moved through bigger firms in the industry to set myself on equal footing with the local grads in the big firms. I am married now with a child now and have a stable job. Keep your head up, the going will get tough but that’s the price to pay when you laxed at the start and fall behind. Keep your head up and you will eventually get there.
Hey bro, thanks for sharing your personal piece. It's v motivating and heartening to read through your comment, and i'm sure alot of others who read this comment will feel the same. Kudos to you and your hard work, happy to hear that you having a loving family now. Cheers! :)
Thank you for sharing your story YuChuan! Inspirational
Thank you Kayson!
Probablh unrelated but im in my first year of uni in an honors program and barely passed my first calculus exam. As someone with a good academic record it has wrecked me and this is an incredibly inspiring video to encourage me to push through it
Aye, don't fret over 1 exam. You have so many more exams in uni, don't let a single one define the rest of your candidature. All the best!
Thank you for sharing! Glad it all worked out for you in the end :D Happy graduation!
Thank you Samuel :)
Every one of us can definitely do it, bro. Good luck in future
Aye bro, all the best to you too!
Thank you for sharing your story! It's very inspiring, especially for those struggling with their grades currently!
one day i will tell my own story when am strong enough
Degree isn't the last step... there's more to come... and overcome... goodluck... on the post-grad degree...
Yup much more to life haha
Thanks for sharing! I’m pretty sure your story will inspire many people. Glad that you managed to push through that tough times. Anyways to everyone that’s reading this, no matter what happens in the future, don’t ever give up because things happens for a reason. Overcome the challenges and milestones and you’ll become stronger. 😁
Thank you! :) all the best to you too
idk you but thanks for sharing, its really inspirational. i experience the same thing as you during my studies and i know how it feels. its very bad. i too didnt want anyone to experience the same thing as me but found someone like you through this vid.
Thanks for sharing man! Take care and don't give up!
That is life, how you are willing to stand up again, you grow from it.
Indeed
Hi, greeting from Malaysia! Your story inspired and I hope that you can keep it on!
Thank you, all the best for your pursuits!
Rly inspiring! Thanks for sharing bro:") Keep it up yea?
Aye bro. Let's get this together :)
Even if they expelled u, u will still be successful today. NUS doesn’t mean everything. Well done on the video
Thank you :)
watching this now as a year 1 nus student, thanks for the inspiration!!
Really inspiring story, I feel like a lot of people downplay the psychological effects of a breakup. It really hurts because it's not just heartbreaking, it also involves loss and grief which is always overlooked when it comes to romantic relationships. I'm juggling a full time job and being an SUSS part-time undergrad and it's tough. I have also been dealing with a worsening mental health and trying to prevent it from severely affecting my grades and physical health. Congrats on graduation! It motivates me to keep persevering through tough times!
I'm glad to be of motivation :) All the best for your pursuits, life will have its downs but you decide whether to stay there or climb back up, cheers!
Never had a break up. I'm just stupid at that point of life. I never knew that GCPA this kind of thing could effect my life, I just thought that if i pass then i can get a cert. But after graduating and trying to go for degree then I realize that point is very important. So here I am stuck at 2.2 GCPA and trying to get a job. I'm really sad and I hope this video can help people realize how inportant that point is. Its not about just passing and go on with your life. You need to have good scores. Thats why WORK HARD PEEPS
Aye, do work hard! Hope all gets better for you Joe
you have a typo, after graduating and trying to go for a job, not degree. you are not stupid, anyone who can get into NUS to begin with with maximum hard work is a 3.5.
Thank you for sharing. Do well in life!
Thank you James!
Hi Yu Chuan, I was one of your project mates in one of the econs module. so coinidence sia, was watching some random videos then suddenly video appeared and saw you in this video. hope u are doing well now
No way LOL. I'm sorry if I was not the best group mate before, but thanks so much for your well wishes! Hope you're doing well too :)
Congratulations on your achievement and thanks for sharing your experiences... I was so touch by your mom's response :( Btw, I'm currently taking Btech course in NUS too. Will stay tune for more videos, esp those experiences in NUS. Good Luck for your career :)
Thank you for your comment! I'll be pushing out more content in the months to come, stay tuned!
It’s all an experience now. I experienced the same thing too after a bad breakup. I totally feel you.
Yup! Jiayou!
Thanks for sharing Xu YuChuan.
Welcome Haziq :)
OH MY GOD, same brother. My case is different, but had the same conversation with my mother. We even talk about it for three days straight, because I can't go on talking about it for a long time. This is the last semester to 'work it out' ... or else .. dropping out is the only way out. Stucked here with nothing for more than 2 years.
Aye bro. You still have 1 sem, back is against the wall, no pain no gain. Grind for this last sem and don't give up! Take care bro
@@xuyuchuan Thank you for words and this vid. Wishing the best for you and your fam. 👍
Wah this video appeared on my recomm at the right timing. Very important especially during e-learning.
Glad it helped!
Thanks, for sharing this, it shows just maybe I could do it too.
Yes you can! :)
Anyone who can get into NUS to begin with is a 3.5 with maximum hardwork.
Really proud of you!!!
And congratulations on your graduation!!
Thanks Rachel :)
Inspiring. Congrats. All the best.
Thank you! You too!