Hello, Yana! We're so glad you're enjoying the content. You can watch full episodes of Better Together weekdays at 1:30 pm ET on TBN or anytime on the Better Together website: bit.ly/3oseKKW
Joyce Meyer is such a blessing to listen to and learn from. Through God’s grace, she’s able to take incredibly difficult situations, become stronger, and lead people to live empowering lives in Christ.
Amen! I couldn't agree more! The Lord has used her to help change my life as well and I am forever grateful to Him for loving us so much that it is even possible! Thanks for sharing and have an amazingly blessed day!
Amen👐🕊️, God bless you. I am glad you were able to break free from that situation and stand up for yourself! I am praying for you and your situation 🙏💪 I'm dealing a similar situation. And borderline narcissistic neighbor "former" friend and a church member Who is an extremely controlling manipulative and tried to use the word of God to do it. I pray God will bless you on your journey to healing with peace; and that God will bring Godly,healthy, loving and relationships into your life. Thank you for being brave and strong enough to share your experience. It's great to know that other people have experienced something similar and have made it through to the other side.
I'm grateful for the opportunity from God to break free from the bondage of abuse of all the men that I allowed to abuse me. I'm now excited that hearing God's voice has freed me and I'm happy that I can now help others be free
We learn bad habits which allow others to abuse us, like justifying ourselves, over explaining, excusing them, trying to please, and holding on to false hope. I found the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft very helpful for understanding the abusive mindset, and Dr Les Carter's RUclips channel great for learning better ways. Courage and peace to you
I am a Muslim but what I can say is that all regions are connected because one day I stumbled across a video of Joyce Myer and she spoke words that were very much like the Quraan and on that particular night the way she conveyed that msg ..I listened attentively and I can honestly say that it assisted me in changing me life.May God bless her always and keep her on the straight path.Thank you Joyce Myer.
This is lovely. You have great respect for god. We are all equal in humanity. Hate control fear are what is evil. But fear of God sets you free from control hate and fear.
Joyce probably won't read this anyhow. When I told my mom about the sexual misconduct between me and my dad she almost killed him. Instead of watching my dad die God heard the prayers and cries of our heart and brought him back to life. Now, he travels for a living and serves the Lord. I too had to forgive my mom but for the opposite reason and don't know which one is harder. God helped me do that through worship music recently with Pastor CeCe's song, Hunger.
The worst is when “church friends“ are controlling and manipulative. I have played the doormat most of my life starting with abuse in my childhood and now I am finally moving out of that role and setting some limits and boundaries. So this “church friend” who insists that I do more favors for her that I can reasonably do tried to railroad me and rewrite history about all of the things she has done for me. (I used to just cater to her and up-end my schedule to accommodate her needs and demands of me.) When I wouldn’t stand for that this time, she has no interest in being my “friend“ anymore. The worst part is she may be taking another very dear friend with her who doesn’t understand this whole dynamic. Part of the manipulation and control is putting on a very different face for some people. So many of us expect more from “ Church people”. Attending church doesn’t mean anything about a person‘s character.
Usually if a man is abusing his kids hes also abusing the wife. That's that's why her mom was so scared of him and thought that she had to keep quiet. He prob threatened her and told her she couldn't make it on her own.
It had more to do with how women were brainwashed back then and still brainwashed in a lot of cases. They were taught that they had to have men and children to be worth something. And that they couldn't make it without a man. And they were taught to just tolerate and take any abuse. Plus a lot of women wasn't really allowed to work or go to school like they are now. So they felt like in order that have a place to stay, food to eat, or whatever the case maybe. They had to stay and put up with abuse of any kind, and that simply isn't the case.
WHEN YOU AEE BORN IN A FAMILY WHERE YOU ARE BEING CONTROLED FOR A LONG TIME ITS NOT EASY TO BE SET FREE FROM IT CAUSE YOUR USED TO IT AND YOU NEED HELP TO DEAL WITH IT AND THE FIRST HELP IN MY CASE CAME FROM GOD AND TODAY I CAN SAY I NEVER EXCEPT CONTROL AND I DO NOT CONTROL I AM LOVE AND THAT I WILL BE I LOVE GOD AND I LOVE THE TRUTH AND I LOVE JOYCE MEYER I LISTEN TO HER EVERYDAY AND I HAVE LEARNED A LOT FROM HER THAT I CAN PASS ON TO MY SONS AND USE THEM AS TOOLS TO OVERCOME DAILY IN LIFE MAMA JOYCE GOD LOVES U AND SO DO I AM NEVER BORED TO LISTEN TO YOU EVEN IF I HAVE MY OWN APOSTLE IN CHURCH WHO DOESNT SPEAK YOUR LANGUAGE HE SPEAKS DUTCH BUT I LOVE ENGLISH AM FROM SURINAME AND I LOVE MY COUNTRY JUST AS GOD LOVES ME AND YOU WE ARE HERE TO HELP OTHERS TO COME OUT OF THE DARK INTO THE LIGHT OF GOD AND ITS ALL A PROCESS WE NEED TO BE PATIENT ,LOVING AND TRUE TO GOD OURSELVES AND OTHERS I CALL IT TOUGH LOVE BUT ITS SWEET ONES U TASTE IT CAUSE ONLY TOUGH LOVE WILL MAKE U GROW ,HEAL AND SUCCEED IN JESUS NAME AMEN
Your mother was abusive in her own way by not taking you away from sexual abuse, Joyce. Mothers who Can't Love by Susan Forward is is good book explaining five different kinds of unloving mother's and processing the relationship. God has done wonders through your life ... peace and grace to you and to all whose parents did not love us.
I KNOW WHAT FEAR IS AND I ALSO KNOW WHAT BECOMING FEARLESS IS AND TO ME IS LIKE I CAN FIGHT A LION AND PEOPLE DONT LIKE IT WHEN THEY CANT CONTROL YOU ANYMORE THAN YOU BECOME THE BAD GUY AND THEY THE VICTIM BUT I STAND MY GROUND AND MY NO IS NO AND IT STAYS NO
I loosen myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ from being controlled by sin or sinful behavior, while loosening myself of every unequal yoke and common share with those who in sin and sinful behavior, in accordance with galatians 3:22, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this word, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah: "22 But Scripture has locked up everything under the control of sin, so that what was promised, being given through faith in Jesus Christ, might be given to those who believe."
We can confront in a bad way - getting pulled in to justifying, arguing, defending and (over) explaining (JADE), in which we might start getting frustrated, angry or upset and play the controller's game again so they can say that we are the problem. Or we can confront in a good way, being, as Dr Les Carter says, having "calm confidence". He does a video on that. Adjust expectations (you aren't going to change their mind). Anna Runkel, the Crappy Childhood Fairy teaches a how to manage PTSD resulting from childhood abuse (when the panic sets in and you feel as you did as a mistreated child). She offers a downloadable Ten Emergency Measures for when you're emotionally disregulated to calm yourself and a "daily practice" for overcoming fear and resentment. God bless you all
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts this has help me on many levels ,you truly open my eyes an honestly believe god was working through you for me 🙏
I'm in the darkest hole that I've ever been in my entire life and I am 51. I can honestly say that I really don't want to live anymore. But I stay here because I have a 13 year old daughter. I don't know how I'm doing her any good. I can't even hold a job right now getting out of bed is the struggle I find myself crying everyday. Please if you're reading this please pray for me. I am trying to get closer to God truly am but I went to church and I felt so judged and this woman was basically telling me if I don't do this or that or live my life like this God is never going to help me. I felt so alone again he made me feel like I didn't even want to go back to that church. Please pray for me if you're reading this thank you
Shannon, our hearts go out to you. We pray for the power of the Holy Spirit to give you strength. We pray the joy of the Lord would be your strength (Nehemiah 8:10). Psalm 16:11 says, "in His presence is fullness of joy." God is our refuge and strength. We will be praying He will lift you up, in Jesus' name! 💜
To whoever is reading this- God loves you so so much,He wants to make everything okay with you❤️He knows your pain, He knows how you feel, He loves you so much and for that reason He sent Jesus (the worlds savior😊) to die so that we could all be made right with God if we asked for forgiveness and to start again through Him (because the thing that separates us from God is sin, which everyone of us has done, BUT God loved the world so much that He sent His Son to take the punishment for us & so that through Him we would be forgiven and have eternal life)💕He loves us so much that if we ask for forgiveness and a new start He will give it to us!His love is unconditional, His love is never ending, and His love is for you! He loves you just as much as anybody else! One of His promises is that He will never leave us, He is always going to stay by our side and in fact He always goes before us to work everything out!💕You matter so so much to Him, You are enough for Him, You are never to far away from Him- He loves you always! And the cool thing is that He wants a relationship with you! He wants a relationship with every single person, and He wants to make us all okay again!💕💕💕💕
Is she directly saying it is men are the abuser and to read other books and not bible for guidance....? Because I know for a fact their is something in the scriptures that does not set well with women,
Hi, she did not say that, she talked about 2 of her personal experiences that were abuse. In those two examples it happened to be a man (her father) and a pastor from a church (even the couple leading the church when she shared the example on selling the house) She didn’t say not to read the bible, but she refered to a book written by 2 Christian men based on biblical instances as to when to say yes and when to set boundaries- I hope this answers the question Reference of the book : Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries: When to Say Yes; How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life examines how conservative evangelical Christians should set and maintain proper boundaries - that is saying yes and no at the appropriate times, by examining how boundaries are presented in the Bible.
Is it important not to take it out of context: in this case she refers to abuse, abuse that destroyed a family, even led a child to death, abuse that were controlling and belittling people, abuse does not reflect God, the bible does not ask you to submit to be abused. spreading the truth also includes speaking up when people (in this case abusers) are not aligned with Christ or the bible, which she did, and it led to confrontation. It is also important to notice that she never associated the abusing behaviour to « men » and the confrontation to « woman » abuse isn’t defined by gender and can even apply to young people, relationship doesn’t strictly mean « couple » it can also mean friendships, work partnerships, etc hope that helps, don’t hesitate if you have additional questions
She has stated her own past behaviours she even stated that she had been manipulative. Non of us are perfect. But the willingness to want to honour God to serve him. But during that journey god worked on her and she worked on herself she wanted please god. But we also have to learn to respect ourselves. Boundaries are a way to do this... My own mother has been married 5 times. I love her. I do really care about her. But for me to love her respectfully I need to set boundaries over how much I see her and spend time with her. This is for my own wellbeing as well as her own. When we are together to long we become codependent we feed of each others negative. I myself have been abusive I can confidently say that because I am now self aware I want to work on it.
Where can the full interview/chat be viewed?
Hello, Yana! We're so glad you're enjoying the content. You can watch full episodes of Better Together weekdays at 1:30 pm ET on TBN or anytime on the Better Together website: bit.ly/3oseKKW
Joyce Meyer is such a blessing to listen to and learn from. Through God’s grace, she’s able to take incredibly difficult situations, become stronger, and lead people to live empowering lives in Christ.
Amen! I couldn't agree more! The Lord has used her to help change my life as well and I am forever grateful to Him for loving us so much that it is even possible! Thanks for sharing and have an amazingly blessed day!
Truth. Controlling people are weak!
I have had such relationships too. I give and they take. I used to be silent, not anymore. I am not afraid to stand up for myself.
Amen👐🕊️, God bless you. I am glad you were able to break free from that situation and stand up for yourself! I am praying for you and your situation 🙏💪 I'm dealing a similar situation. And borderline narcissistic neighbor "former" friend and a church member Who is an extremely controlling manipulative and tried to use the word of God to do it.
I pray God will bless you on your journey to healing with peace; and that God will bring Godly,healthy, loving and relationships into your life. Thank you for being brave and strong enough to share your experience. It's great to know that other people have experienced something similar and have made it through to the other side.
If there’s a message I needed to hear now, it’s 1000% this one. Thank you Joyce for your testimonies❤️
Thank you Heavenly Father for this platform for women!! Joyce Meyers is a jewel in the Kingdom of God . The entire panel are a powerhouse!
Absolutely correct 💯
I'm grateful for the opportunity from God to break free from the bondage of abuse of all the men that I allowed to abuse me. I'm now excited that hearing God's voice has freed me and I'm happy that I can now help others be free
We learn bad habits which allow others to abuse us, like justifying ourselves, over explaining, excusing them, trying to please, and holding on to false hope. I found the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft very helpful for understanding the abusive mindset, and Dr Les Carter's RUclips channel great for learning better ways. Courage and peace to you
I read that book and it was my key to freedom and not feeling guilty for saying no.
I am a Muslim but what I can say is that all regions are connected because one day I stumbled across a video of Joyce Myer and she spoke words that were very much like the Quraan and on that particular night the way she conveyed that msg ..I listened attentively and I can honestly say that it assisted me in changing me life.May God bless her always and keep her on the straight path.Thank you Joyce Myer.
This is lovely. You have great respect for god. We are all equal in humanity. Hate control fear are what is evil. But fear of God sets you free from control hate and fear.
This was deep! Penetrating untouched areas so intensely. Wow!!! Praying for courage!
What a gift of the Body Of Christ Joyce Meyer is, thank you for sharing that wonderful message in the most understandable way possible❤️
Joyce is such a powerful woman her teachings and wisdom I'm forever invested into
You ladies are so loved.. Joyce Meyer thank you for being who you are... you've helped me so much in my ongoing journey with God ❤God bless you all🙏🏽
Thank you so much Joyce Meyer. This message is so so liberating especially the confrontation part.
Oh my lord so true, every word you said is sooo true❤
i love her ❤ her teachings have helped me get through a lot
I needed to hear this !
Me too it literally came on time
Great powerful Word thank You Jesus 🙌🙌☀️✝️
Joyce probably won't read this anyhow. When I told my mom about the sexual misconduct between me and my dad she almost killed him. Instead of watching my dad die God heard the prayers and cries of our heart and brought him back to life. Now, he travels for a living and serves the Lord. I too had to forgive my mom but for the opposite reason and don't know which one is harder. God helped me do that through worship music recently with Pastor CeCe's song, Hunger.
The worst is when “church friends“ are controlling and manipulative. I have played the doormat most of my life starting with abuse in my childhood and now I am finally moving out of that role and setting some limits and boundaries. So this “church friend” who insists that I do more favors for her that I can reasonably do tried to railroad me and rewrite history about all of the things she has done for me. (I used to just cater to her and up-end my schedule to accommodate her needs and demands of me.) When I wouldn’t stand for that this time, she has no interest in being my “friend“ anymore. The worst part is she may be taking another very dear friend with her who doesn’t understand this whole dynamic. Part of the manipulation and control is putting on a very different face for some people. So many of us expect more from “ Church people”. Attending church doesn’t mean anything about a person‘s character.
Great information thank you!! ☀️
NO ONE CAN CONTROL ME.
Usually if a man is abusing his kids hes also abusing the wife. That's that's why her mom was so scared of him and thought that she had to keep quiet. He prob threatened her and told her she couldn't make it on her own.
It had more to do with how women were brainwashed back then and still brainwashed in a lot of cases. They were taught that they had to have men and children to be worth something. And that they couldn't make it without a man. And they were taught to just tolerate and take any abuse. Plus a lot of women wasn't really allowed to work or go to school like they are now. So they felt like in order that have a place to stay, food to eat, or whatever the case maybe. They had to stay and put up with abuse of any kind, and that simply isn't the case.
The Lord is setting His people free.
WHEN YOU AEE BORN IN A FAMILY WHERE YOU ARE BEING CONTROLED FOR A LONG TIME ITS NOT EASY TO BE SET FREE FROM IT CAUSE YOUR USED TO IT AND YOU NEED HELP TO DEAL WITH IT AND THE FIRST HELP IN MY CASE CAME FROM GOD AND TODAY I CAN SAY I NEVER EXCEPT CONTROL AND I DO NOT CONTROL I AM LOVE AND THAT I WILL BE I LOVE GOD AND I LOVE THE TRUTH AND I LOVE JOYCE MEYER I LISTEN TO HER EVERYDAY AND I HAVE LEARNED A LOT FROM HER THAT I CAN PASS ON TO MY SONS AND USE THEM AS TOOLS TO OVERCOME DAILY IN LIFE MAMA JOYCE GOD LOVES U AND SO DO I AM NEVER BORED TO LISTEN TO YOU EVEN IF I HAVE MY OWN APOSTLE IN CHURCH WHO DOESNT SPEAK YOUR LANGUAGE HE SPEAKS DUTCH BUT I LOVE ENGLISH AM FROM SURINAME AND I LOVE MY COUNTRY JUST AS GOD LOVES ME AND YOU WE ARE HERE TO HELP OTHERS TO COME OUT OF THE DARK INTO THE LIGHT OF GOD AND ITS ALL A PROCESS WE NEED TO BE PATIENT ,LOVING AND TRUE TO GOD OURSELVES AND OTHERS I CALL IT TOUGH LOVE BUT ITS SWEET ONES U TASTE IT CAUSE ONLY TOUGH LOVE WILL MAKE U GROW ,HEAL AND SUCCEED IN JESUS NAME AMEN
thankyou
Your mother was abusive in her own way by not taking you away from sexual abuse, Joyce. Mothers who Can't Love by Susan Forward is is good book explaining five different kinds of unloving mother's and processing the relationship. God has done wonders through your life ... peace and grace to you and to all whose parents did not love us.
I KNOW WHAT FEAR IS AND I ALSO KNOW WHAT BECOMING FEARLESS IS AND TO ME IS LIKE I CAN FIGHT A LION AND PEOPLE DONT LIKE IT WHEN THEY CANT CONTROL YOU ANYMORE THAN YOU BECOME THE BAD GUY AND THEY THE VICTIM BUT I STAND MY GROUND AND MY NO IS NO AND IT STAYS NO
Amen
I loosen myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ from being controlled by sin or sinful behavior, while loosening myself of every unequal yoke and common share with those who in sin and sinful behavior, in accordance with galatians 3:22, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 and this word, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah:
"22 But Scripture has locked up everything under the control of sin, so that what was promised, being given through faith in Jesus Christ, might be given to those who believe."
We can confront in a bad way - getting pulled in to justifying, arguing, defending and (over) explaining (JADE), in which we might start getting frustrated, angry or upset and play the controller's game again so they can say that we are the problem.
Or we can confront in a good way, being, as Dr Les Carter says, having "calm confidence". He does a video on that.
Adjust expectations (you aren't going to change their mind).
Anna Runkel, the Crappy Childhood Fairy teaches a how to manage PTSD resulting from childhood abuse (when the panic sets in and you feel as you did as a mistreated child).
She offers a downloadable Ten Emergency Measures for when you're emotionally disregulated to calm yourself and a "daily practice" for overcoming fear and resentment.
God bless you all
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts this has help me on many levels ,you truly open my eyes an honestly believe god was working through you for me 🙏
@@blondieann3241 what a blessing, thank you. May we all recover and go on to live a good life, free of bullies!
Thank you for sharing the resource about Les Carter .
Yess
Abuse in any form is Bad & Wrong.... 😫
I'm in the darkest hole that I've ever been in my entire life and I am 51. I can honestly say that I really don't want to live anymore. But I stay here because I have a 13 year old daughter. I don't know how I'm doing her any good. I can't even hold a job right now getting out of bed is the struggle I find myself crying everyday. Please if you're reading this please pray for me. I am trying to get closer to God truly am but I went to church and I felt so judged and this woman was basically telling me if I don't do this or that or live my life like this God is never going to help me. I felt so alone again he made me feel like I didn't even want to go back to that church. Please pray for me if you're reading this thank you
Shannon, our hearts go out to you. We pray for the power of the Holy Spirit to give you strength. We pray the joy of the Lord would be your strength (Nehemiah 8:10). Psalm 16:11 says, "in His presence is fullness of joy." God is our refuge and strength. We will be praying He will lift you up, in Jesus' name! 💜
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Guys this can include toxic and dysfunctional relationships with family and/or friends.
To whoever is reading this- God loves you so so much,He wants to make everything okay with you❤️He knows your pain, He knows how you feel, He loves you so much and for that reason He sent Jesus (the worlds savior😊) to die so that we could all be made right with God if we asked for forgiveness and to start again through Him (because the thing that separates us from God is sin, which everyone of us has done, BUT God loved the world so much that He sent His Son to take the punishment for us & so that through Him we would be forgiven and have eternal life)💕He loves us so much that if we ask for forgiveness and a new start He will give it to us!His love is unconditional, His love is never ending, and His love is for you! He loves you just as much as anybody else! One of His promises is that He will never leave us, He is always going to stay by our side and in fact He always goes before us to work everything out!💕You matter so so much to Him, You are enough for Him, You are never to far away from Him- He loves you always! And the cool thing is that He wants a relationship with you! He wants a relationship with every single person, and He wants to make us all okay again!💕💕💕💕
Is she directly saying it is men are the abuser and to read other books and not bible for guidance....? Because I know for a fact their is something in the scriptures that does not set well with women,
Hi, she did not say that, she talked about 2 of her personal experiences that were abuse. In those two examples it happened to be a man (her father) and a pastor from a church (even the couple leading the church when she shared the example on selling the house)
She didn’t say not to read the bible, but she refered to a book written by 2 Christian men based on biblical instances as to when to say yes and when to set boundaries- I hope this answers the question
Reference of the book : Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries: When to Say Yes; How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life examines how conservative evangelical Christians should set and maintain proper boundaries - that is saying yes and no at the appropriate times, by examining how boundaries are presented in the Bible.
Is it important not to take it out of context: in this case she refers to abuse, abuse that destroyed a family, even led a child to death, abuse that were controlling and belittling people, abuse does not reflect God, the bible does not ask you to submit to be abused. spreading the truth also includes speaking up when people (in this case abusers) are not aligned with Christ or the bible, which she did, and it led to confrontation. It is also important to notice that she never associated the abusing behaviour to « men » and the confrontation to « woman » abuse isn’t defined by gender and can even apply to young people, relationship doesn’t strictly mean « couple » it can also mean friendships, work partnerships, etc hope that helps, don’t hesitate if you have additional questions
She has stated her own past behaviours she even stated that she had been manipulative.
Non of us are perfect. But the willingness to want to honour God to serve him. But during that journey god worked on her and she worked on herself she wanted please god. But we also have to learn to respect ourselves. Boundaries are a way to do this...
My own mother has been married 5 times. I love her. I do really care about her. But for me to love her respectfully I need to set boundaries over how much I see her and spend time with her. This is for my own wellbeing as well as her own.
When we are together to long we become codependent we feed of each others negative.
I myself have been abusive I can confidently say that because I am now self aware I want to work on it.