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  • @Hisunworthyservant
    @Hisunworthyservant 2 года назад +465

    It is called narcissism! Everyone should learn about that personality disorder, especially before marrying someone! It is sooo important!

  • @nicj5354
    @nicj5354 2 года назад +50

    It's impossible to have boundaries with a narcissist. I'm so grateful to be free!!!

  • @divadivine74
    @divadivine74 2 года назад +405

    Nov. 2020 , I broke free from a very toxic relationship. He was manipulative and narcissistic. I allowed myself to stay under that because I had made him an idol, I didn’t realize that… but I cried out to God and told Him, I don’t have the strength to leave him, you have to do this!” And He did! Praise God and I am healing.

    • @christineyeshu4927
      @christineyeshu4927 2 года назад +7

      mine looks so tuff to come out children are the ones to hinder me because the last one told mum please wait for me to finish my high school that what am doing

    • @jaymie8082
      @jaymie8082 2 года назад

      ❤️😇❤️

    • @bigrigchristfollower9020
      @bigrigchristfollower9020 2 года назад +2

      I'm so happy for you, I was in an abusive relationship with my kids dad and I finally broke free because he went to prison and I was single mother of four for 7 years but then I was praying to God to send me someone because I was lonely and tired of doing it myself so after that prayer I met someone at my job and when we went out to eat he asked me to pray with him so I thought God had answered my prayers. It has been 5 years of up and down with this man and right now I am not able to work because I have L4 and L5 disc problems and waiting for surgery on July 14th but this man I have been with which is my husband now has kicked me out and has not been helping me to pay my medical insurance so my aunt has paid for it the last two weeks. He has anger issues and I never know what mood he will be in and he has a drug problem that he has fought off and on since we have been together, and , my mother just got out of the hospital, I have been praying for God to give me strength and guidance and help me get my insurance paid until I can get surgery and get back to work.

    • @preredas8223
      @preredas8223 2 года назад +3

      a way out feels amazing. ;)

    • @deva5696
      @deva5696 2 года назад +9

      Pray for me. Was about to leave my narc/abusive husband and found out I was pregnant.

  • @EmaniYasmin
    @EmaniYasmin 2 года назад +673

    I want to applause every woman who has removed themselves out a toxic situation, rather it was a intimate relationship , family , job, life situation , life choices , you go girl !!!!!! Never forget how strong you are and Remember God got us , it’s so easy to get caught up in what we still have left to work on about ourselves but NEVER forget what you have already done for yourself , you all are remarkable and ladies the only way is UP!!!! Love you my sisters, sending positive vibes and love you guys way 🥰❤️

    • @EmaniYasmin
      @EmaniYasmin 2 года назад +41

      And I just want to add , for my strong woman who might still be in a toxic situation , remember you are strong and you are capable ! You got this , do what’s best for your beautiful soul and spirit and never feel guilty about it , WE DESERVE HAPPINESS LADIES 🥰😄🤸🏽‍♀️

    • @Ashley-rp4ui
      @Ashley-rp4ui 2 года назад +6

      Thank you

    • @kayakins1709
      @kayakins1709 2 года назад +3

      Amen Slay with Mani

    • @deniseg57
      @deniseg57 2 года назад +11

      Thank you, so much!!! This is such an important topic. Praise God, for His faithfulness, love and protection.

    • @KM-oy5yh
      @KM-oy5yh 2 года назад +4

      AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN. SISTER 💖 💓 💞 💕 💘 💖

  • @ashamokrosz6126
    @ashamokrosz6126 2 года назад +756

    Narcissistic abuse is far more complex than advising people to 'stand up for themselves'. People raised by abusers have complex ptsd and they have adapted for survival. It may be years or even decades before they even realize they are being abused because it's all they know, its normal. Speaking up in these relationships and resisting control does not go well and usually leads to punishment. My best advise to people who become aware that they are experiencing abuse is to remove yourself. Narcs don't change...you'll waste precious time in their drama. If there are no kids involved cut contact completely and leave quietly. Then your nervous system can properly detox and heal from the past. It's extremely difficult to heal in the same environment that is hurting you. Practice self compassion...this heals the shame. It's a process but be persistent, God does set you free but you must separate yourself from this.

    • @JA-ro3zv
      @JA-ro3zv 2 года назад +2

      Thank you for the truth! Confronting a narc will lead to more gaslighting, invalidating , abuse! If you cant get out learn to take care of self, grey rock the narc, lean on Jesus!

    • @ShelleyFayles
      @ShelleyFayles 2 года назад +71

      I totally agree! Well said. Confronting an abuser can be VERY dangerous! It will typically increase the battering. Be wise in safety planning in how you get out.

    • @dnk4559
      @dnk4559 2 года назад +49

      Very well said. I had to stop listening to Joyce Meyer for a time even though I adore her. As the scapegoat of my family trying to get them to see and change their behavior escalated their abusiveness. With God’s help I’m learning to stand up for myself with them and make it clear that I am no longer willing to be their punching bag aka scapegoat!

    • @bookwoman7803
      @bookwoman7803 2 года назад +11

      Asha, this is very insightful, thank you.

    • @katielung6515
      @katielung6515 2 года назад +28

      Amen 🙏 I’m stuck to help a narcissist father and he is 85, lord please help me

  • @Ashley-rp4ui
    @Ashley-rp4ui 2 года назад +174

    I wanted to share that I was in a abusive relationship and I was scared to leave but then I was threaded for my life. I called the police and the whole day went smoothly. Without going in all the details the man was removed from my life and I had shelter. God gave me an opportunity for a new job too. God came through

    • @holyishe7903
      @holyishe7903 2 года назад +1

      Hope his name didn’t start with an M.. I know this one ... god bless u girl

    • @nenalucero4444
      @nenalucero4444 Год назад

      🎗💜💜🙏😇✨💡

  • @lisarogers4933
    @lisarogers4933 2 года назад +26

    Sometimes confrontation is not an option. A lot of times you just have to leave you have to run. Sometimes literally run and never look back. Leave that person behind.

  • @chinwenduejezie8699
    @chinwenduejezie8699 2 года назад +182

    OMG this spoke to me… I broke away from a toxic relationship and I am sooo grateful to God for helping me break it off… thank you JESUS For freeing me…if you are in this situation please leave… I know it is hard trust GOD and leave….

    • @brigittegilmore5756
      @brigittegilmore5756 2 года назад +1

      Sometimes we have to let our loved ones go through what they need to learn and grow n it's so hard to watch. Keep praying the spell will be broken💙praying with you don't lose hope GOD IS GOOD

    • @brigittegilmore5756
      @brigittegilmore5756 2 года назад

      @lana

    • @holyishe7903
      @holyishe7903 2 года назад

      Yeah her advice to confront it isn’t necessarily the right decision but leaving is the right decision for sure

    • @teresafraser3049
      @teresafraser3049 2 года назад +1

      Walk away and NEVER LOOK BACK!!!

    • @MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom
      @MissNyPeachJerseyAppleBottom 2 года назад

      I hope u moved

  • @tamarakyte3047
    @tamarakyte3047 2 года назад +142

    Yes I needed to hear this I'm being controlled and intimidated by my family and marriage please keep me in prayer it's draining me so bad.😢

    • @qenehelomokhethi518
      @qenehelomokhethi518 2 года назад +5

      Stay strong and keep your faith in God, he will deliver you🛐

    • @jillfoley6834
      @jillfoley6834 2 года назад

      You Tube TraceFace and Narc Con. These abusive Controllers are NARCISSISTS! They are Fallen Angels and they are INSIDIOUSLY DANGEROUS!!! I put up with it for 17 years from my manager, the abuse almost killed me. My health deteriorated in every way imaginable. You must get away from the place you are being abused to heal. 🙏🇺🇸🙏You will get through this. But go to YOU TUBE FOR FREE COACHING. This is an EPIDEMIC GOING ON ALL OVER THE WORLD. Johnny Depp almost didn’t make it out ALIVE.

    • @ladyjayderam
      @ladyjayderam 2 года назад +7

      Pray to God for clarity, advice and protection. Seek counseling immediately and find activities to keep you busy. Join a group (discretly) which consists of peers encountering the same problems. Keep in mind that sometimes different opinions can confuse you as well. I'm glad u recognized you are in a negative environment so knowing is one third of the battle. Being proactive and seeking viable solutions are the next steps. Praying for brighter days and peaceful nights

    • @butterfliesarefree1754
      @butterfliesarefree1754 2 года назад

      God will deliver. Talk to him. Stay strong. He will open the floodgates to peace and freedom to your beautiful new life. Trust and believe. I used to feel stuck but I kept praying and BOOM! The Lord moved me. ❤

    • @lucillelaurenzi4510
      @lucillelaurenzi4510 2 года назад

      I'll continue to 🙏💕

  • @jennasparks3404
    @jennasparks3404 2 года назад +7

    I got on a plane. Never looked back. Jesus has been so faithful.

  • @lunaparis1507
    @lunaparis1507 2 года назад +88

    Such a wonderful video! Narcissistic relationships taught me how to value the matchless love of God. Once He filled my cup, there was not room for toxic connections anymore, they were literally pushed out!! Praise God!

  • @stellantai7239
    @stellantai7239 2 года назад +247

    Confronting narcissists doesn’t make a difference, they’ll never change. I was telling him his wrongs and he was always either denying it or pretending that he wouldn’t understand

    • @deva5696
      @deva5696 2 года назад +8

      Same

    • @RBLACKPEARL7
      @RBLACKPEARL7 2 года назад +5

      EXACTLY 💯

    • @jenniferjennabussey
      @jenniferjennabussey 2 года назад

      What would you say is demonic? What are some signs . ?

    • @stellantai7239
      @stellantai7239 2 года назад

      @@jenniferjennabussey I am not sure what signs you’re asking for? Demon possessed or generally demonic satanic doings? manipulation is demonic, the spirit of Jezebel is demonic = narcissism . When ppl have lost their conscience they don’t fear or embarrassed for anything,the become evil.

    • @barbarakarasinski6169
      @barbarakarasinski6169 2 года назад +3

      Absolutley True

  • @divinelychosen5554
    @divinelychosen5554 2 года назад +84

    I left the abusive marriage of 16yrs to a 'Christian' and moved to the next town. Praise God.

    • @zamathuliluthuli8106
      @zamathuliluthuli8106 2 года назад +3

      well done!

    • @McAllen-dv8dd
      @McAllen-dv8dd Год назад

      I left after 16 moths, I wish I would have known way before… good you got out Also 😵‍💫

    • @laurawickline624
      @laurawickline624 4 месяца назад

      12 years. I was told I was a horrible Christian every day. It was tough to leave because I took a vow... A promise to God, but he didn't love me as Christ loved the church. I know that God wants me to have joy, so I feel good about my decision now.

  • @janiemartinez2122
    @janiemartinez2122 2 года назад +61

    I just walked away from a 7 year abusive relationship now I'm working on healing myself my heart and my soul

  • @cr3062
    @cr3062 2 года назад +98

    Sometimes the confrontation is confronting yourself and make an exit plan and get out!
    It can be dangerous to confront your abuser.

    • @periwinkleblue2
      @periwinkleblue2 2 года назад +2

      @Cindy Robertson It is dangerous when you *Don't* confront. That's why the person being abused is insecure, unsure, afraid and afraid to make a move, any move. Trying to read the abuser's mood is what victims attempt to do before taking action, which they rarely do. This renders them 'helpless.'

    • @thehealingroom9200
      @thehealingroom9200 2 года назад +5

      Agreed!! It took me about six months of planning my exit strategy....when it happened, he didn't even see it coming and my children and I were nowhere to be found.

  • @bellanusum1899
    @bellanusum1899 2 года назад +153

    I once heard that pride and the NEED to control, is insecurity dressed up!

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 2 года назад +9

      Yes. It is. My family is full of people like this. They don't even realize that they are their own worst enemy.

    • @terriepatterson2039
      @terriepatterson2039 2 года назад +3

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @myhunny2006
      @myhunny2006 2 года назад +3

      DEEP!!

    • @rakelpeneyambeko
      @rakelpeneyambeko 2 года назад +1

      @@ladennayoung2939 sorry a stranger here. Funny how one thinks they are alone in whatever they're going through, but they're actually not. Same here, and have longed to really hear from someone else dealing with the same issue. If i may ask, how are you dealing with that, what are you doing/what measures have you taken for your sanity?

    • @torriepenney936
      @torriepenney936 2 года назад +1

      in work situations, was assisting the process without question. Prepared, driving staff, training new workers. When I had ankle pain and physio, the employer could not show any understanding. He was thinking about the business going exactly as he wanted. Notably, the office staff with whom I spoke to after work...they were very busy, it was not a good time to say anything about me having some pain. Thus the employer (who wasnt around at that time) concluded something negative. Blocks to hearing what is happening are not so good. We all experience some changes while working. To be denied this happens is very unaccepting. In real teams if someone has an injury or challenge in their life, the team understands That Happens. They dont get angry and decide the person is purposely trying to have pain. No one can control everything. If you have consistently shown good responses and been part of a process towards some Needed goal, It ought to be brought to mind by employers. It was difficult to hear only anger how I wasnt being picture perfect. Its not all about the employer, Its not all about the employees. I got physio, I moved and worked at a different branch. Employers who want only positive results can get Too controlling. There are challenges in business, they must count the cost and anticipate these kinds of possibilities and Use their problem solving minds to Keep a balance. Plusses and minusses are both part of businesses. Or families, or friends. If they mind the variations that happen, then they dont matter. Funnily after working for another employer, one woman got a back injury. She had not been so understanding when I had broken my toe. In her time of pain I said I hope you get better. Her injury was by accident. She could not do her work /was now Not in control. Hope she remembers this.

  • @NatalieCWilliams
    @NatalieCWilliams 2 года назад +23

    Wow! Joyce looks more beautiful as each year passes! Thanks for sharing this 😊♥️

  • @kingdomcitizen4788
    @kingdomcitizen4788 2 года назад +68

    I have left friendships and some family members and God got me out of a toxic relationship, yes it's difficult, not lonely but you can feel alone sometimes but I have peace and I trust His love and timing to put the right people in my life because you need the right people in your life to fulfill the purpose God has for you! Amen&Amen, be blessed and stay encouraged everyone ❤

    • @KM-oy5yh
      @KM-oy5yh 2 года назад +3

      AMEN AMEN AMEN, ME 2, SISTER 🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @marciarigel2896
      @marciarigel2896 Год назад

      I need right people in my life 🙏

  • @barbarabuford5795
    @barbarabuford5795 2 года назад +14

    'I will have No friends, or friends who respect one another'! Quote by Joyce Meyer. And 'Toxic friends (or relatives) are Not your friends'! People who constantly talk down to you, like u r less than, are your worst enemy! (Because they know u best, they know what hurts you.). 'When you stand up for yourself, people will respect you'! By Joyce Meyer. Thank you, I'M STANDING. ♥️♥️♥️

  • @caoliver99
    @caoliver99 2 года назад +132

    Praying for my brother to be released from a toxic relationship with his girlfriend in the name of Jesus

    • @dennisdelfina
      @dennisdelfina 2 года назад

      Yes, he is still in time. Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏

    • @terriepatterson2039
      @terriepatterson2039 2 года назад

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @felishataylor1323
      @felishataylor1323 2 года назад +1

      send this video to him and pray it opens his eyes

    • @deniseg57
      @deniseg57 2 года назад +1

      I am praying with you, sister. Trust God, that he will deliver your brother, if it is his desire to be delivered. God will honor that, for sure.

    • @kedmasantos1885
      @kedmasantos1885 2 года назад +1

      DEUS JÁ CUROU , SEU IRMÃO JÁ É DELE

  • @valentinamocanu1003
    @valentinamocanu1003 2 года назад +14

    Jesus Christ healed me! This is my story about my healing! I was extremely ill !! I had diabetes and kidney failure, which urgently requires dialysis! I prayed to God to heal me, not for me, because I don't deserve it, but for my little children, who were left without a mother! in exactly that day, in which I prayed, the Lord healed me! I suddenly felt the pain in my kidneys go away, as well as the dryness in my mouth (diabetes). I'm a new women now! I thank the Lord for His mercy and love for us!

  • @AshantiH502
    @AshantiH502 2 года назад +22

    Ladies and gentlemen, it’s not always about how far we have left to go, we should also think about how far we’ve come. ❤ You are ALL stronger than you think. No weapon formed against you shall prosper. Remember that. Love you all. 🙏🏽❤️

  • @hepzirose
    @hepzirose 2 года назад +30

    Going through this toxic emotional abuse. My spirit is broken. May the dear Lord take me out of this situation

  • @NikkiGRocks4Ever
    @NikkiGRocks4Ever 2 года назад +56

    Thank you for this video. I admire these courageous women. In the past, I was controlled by narcissists. I thank God. I learned to say no and set boundaries. They back down and leave. Joyce is right. They are insecure. They think that nice people are weak. I say it is written the meek shall inherit the earth. Praise God.

  • @MZHARDBODYENT
    @MZHARDBODYENT 2 года назад +18

    It was at my job seems like every job I had ppl get so jealous & insecure so they always do the most to get me fired. I will eventually become my own boss & treat people with respect. I have accepted God is preparing me to be in the leadership position & give people a fair chance.

    • @banita1134
      @banita1134 2 года назад +2

      Yes, I've experienced that alot too. God is preparing us by showing us what NOT to do once we're in a leadership position.

    • @damienwelch9067
      @damienwelch9067 2 года назад

      amein

  • @sirtedricwalker2979
    @sirtedricwalker2979 2 года назад +143

    Love Joyce..."Control is a type of witchcraft, it's demonic from the word go. Should not allow yourself to get into relationships that are controlling. Boundaries are so important." Henry Cloud and John Townsend's book on Boundaries

    • @KM-oy5yh
      @KM-oy5yh 2 года назад +7

      AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @Carol-ub3dy
      @Carol-ub3dy 2 года назад

      God showed me same thing... Narcissism is about Control and that is demonic stronghold.

    • @natashateo1059
      @natashateo1059 Год назад

      I heard this before from one of Derek Prince's sermon

  • @creativembl8405
    @creativembl8405 2 года назад +45

    Just 50 seconds into this video and she has told the first 15 years of my life growing up.Exactly the same.

    • @kadijahduarte
      @kadijahduarte 2 года назад +4

      We got this! Let’s go to the new level with God :)

    • @gailgreen1595
      @gailgreen1595 2 года назад +2

      Amen

    • @rafaelespinoza7855
      @rafaelespinoza7855 2 года назад +2

      AMEN ❤️✌️🙏🙏🙏❤️

    • @rubylimey7614
      @rubylimey7614 2 года назад +1

      Praying you are in safe n healthy place now. God bless you 🙏🙏🙏

  • @retrochild98
    @retrochild98 2 года назад +43

    I'm watching this from the position of the insecure person. Turns out I was trying to control too much and force too much thinking I'm keeping someone. Thank God He showed me the signs. I tried to ignore but the lack of peace couldn't let me keep up.

    • @calleylewis
      @calleylewis 2 года назад +8

      Super bold of you to speak up in this type of forum but YES. We are *all* the insecure person at times, we either knowingly or unknowingly try to control others because we too want to be loved and respected and hold people to expectation - but it's simply not God's way. Praise God for the mercy we ALL receive for the poor choices we ALL make at times.

    • @chaimomma9198
      @chaimomma9198 2 года назад +5

      Keep praying for understanding and healing for both.

    • @lilCaribbean77
      @lilCaribbean77 2 года назад +1

      Wow that's very interesting. So, now you must get delivered from that. What's your game plan?

    • @Arunanointed
      @Arunanointed 2 года назад +3

      It's the holyspirit that helps you to realise it.... You too don't need to worry, or feel guilty, God did forgave all those and He loves you the same way He loves others. Or I can say He loves you the way He loves jesus, who knew no sin..... Love you bro, God is working in you, he will take you to freedom

  • @yvettesandoval5163
    @yvettesandoval5163 2 года назад +8

    I am in a narcissist relationship that I'm trying to get out of..everything that is being said about a narcissist is so true. 3 years in a relationship and I'm done for me and my family.. I can't leave because where we are living its my home not his. He does not understand that he needs to leave he thinks tomarrow it will all be the same..I believe in the lord and he opened my eyes to my situation. Now I need to make him leave. I worked to hard for my home iv always wanted so I'm determined for him to leave..please start a chain of prayer to help me get thru this 🙏

  • @duniamaisha7695
    @duniamaisha7695 2 года назад +11

    Jeremiah 15:10,16-21
    .........I will deliver you out of the hand of the wicked and redeem you from the grasp of the wicked."The word of The Lord"🙏

  • @kristynfujimoto
    @kristynfujimoto 2 года назад +51

    I saw this on my feed all day over and over and I knew I needed to watch this. I know this is about where I’m at right now. The blame and the word has been used the manipulate me. Praying God helps me finally break free from something that hurts to leave but hurts more to stay

    • @kioshiaki
      @kioshiaki 2 года назад +8

      You’re not alone 11 years in and on my way out 🙏🏽

    • @JulzJewel
      @JulzJewel 2 года назад +4

      You can and you will make the decision and trust God through the walk away process

    • @allaboutjesus6777
      @allaboutjesus6777 2 года назад +3

      Toxic relationship is destructive. Not only should you separate, but renew your mind. You are valuable, you are God’s treasure and redeemed . Staying will not help
      you nor the other party.

    • @teresafraser3049
      @teresafraser3049 2 года назад +1

      Walk away with your head held high!!! You deserve to be freed from any abusive situation your in. Surrender fear over to the holy spirit and it will free you ✨

  • @shaenicole778
    @shaenicole778 2 года назад +20

    @6:30-7:06 of this video- I have been praying and praying and praying for clarity!! Lord you’re so so so good ...JUST MIRACULOUS!! Thanks for this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾I 😢😢🙏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾got my CLARITY no more second guessing!! God spoke this so clearly!!!

  • @patriciabenavente5124
    @patriciabenavente5124 2 года назад +9

    I think there should be more programs dealing specifically with spiritual abuse. We need to address head-on and openly the issue of narcissistic pastors that wreck havoc in the lives of people and make them even to stray from God and the church. That church should be like a family is true, but not a dysfunctional one. People need help and they are not getting it anywhere.

    • @stellantai7239
      @stellantai7239 2 года назад

      Preachers don’t see that that is the spirit of Jezebel manipulative.Apocalypse 2:20 ( not as serious as is written there but is the same spirit)

    • @patriciabenavente5124
      @patriciabenavente5124 2 года назад

      @@stellantai7239Yes, and I think it should be exposed not excused because it's too prevalent. Victims should be given a voice and be appropriately helped when leaving that kind of highly controlled environment.

  • @st_xult
    @st_xult 2 года назад +5

    Natalie signed my Bible with her last CD Bundle The New Testament Passion translation. Love you Natalie ❤️Joyce and all these ladies are awesome this is some 💯% Truth Speak. More men need speak on things like this as well. In The Christ Jesus name Amen 🙏🏻

  • @theresamurphy6554
    @theresamurphy6554 2 года назад +7

    Having Stockholm syndrome for years & when finally free ptsd , OCD anxiety, auto immune diseases, cancers, eating disorders abuse has no discrimination no gender

  • @ahart2355
    @ahart2355 2 года назад +24

    I love Joyce Meyer!🙏❤️

  • @angelhavenministry
    @angelhavenministry 2 года назад +8

    Thank you! So many suffering today, end days "fallen angels" leading good people into demonic abusive relationships. The strongholds placed on them are hard to break as they are of the adversary. Repentance, deliverance and Holy Spirit is needed to break free!

  • @Carol-ub3dy
    @Carol-ub3dy 2 года назад +25

    Narcissist Don't allow you to confront, they will GASLIGHT you and deny their actions & words.

    • @ranjinirajendram3435
      @ranjinirajendram3435 7 месяцев назад

      Absolutely

    • @jaclynm.wagner2754
      @jaclynm.wagner2754 7 месяцев назад

      It's not about confronting for a discussion. It's about stating something, being steadfast and then taking action. Just the fact that you're saying they won't listen or deny, you're looking for something in return. In order to break the pattern it's about what you say, how you say it and standing in that. What they do or say has nothing to do with it.
      For the record, WE ALL HAVE NARCISSISTIC TRAITS at times. They come out of everyone when they are triggered. Someone with these traits where they can't accept what you're saying or deny it, doesn't mean they don't hear it or absorb it. They are scared, especially men who are conditioned to be strong and not have emotions.
      They are hurting bc in their past they were so controlled in abusive ways. It's about stating the fact of what is taking place or whats not right or healthy in an objective way, standing firm in it by not arguing about it, and ALSO being loving with words, actions, and tones through the whole thing! You can't do this if you are triggered or emotional bc you're using a different part of your brain. You must step away, regroup, and then come back to state.
      If that seems impossible, then it's only because there's more healing you need to do around this area, building of self-esteem and worthiness that needs to happen, and that's the reason people like this are in your life so you can grow and evolve!
      Just know, when you step away, regroup and then confront in a loving objective way, you won't be swayed by emotion when they say anything back. You will only have more love and compassion for their inner child who is in a stare of fear bc that's all fear responses.

  • @ines-simpson
    @ines-simpson 2 года назад +10

    Going through a narcissistic breakup type of relationship, really hoping god pulls me out of this and heals me. Appreciating every Joyce Meyer RUclips video right now, there's something about her that gives me peace whenever i listen to her preach.

    • @ruthmuriithi8986
      @ruthmuriithi8986 2 года назад

      I love Joyce Meyer ifirst read her book in Harvest bible college, my life resembles hers she is so encouraging ,iwould love to speak with her personally.

  • @wonderwoman8231
    @wonderwoman8231 2 года назад +1

    This video is spot off! You cannot try to get someone to understand you when their main focus is not to understand you. Just turn around and walk away because otherwise you are setting yourself up for a fight that you cannot win. These people have a life-long endeavor of putting you down so they can put themselves up. Good luck in trying to explain yourself.

  • @Joshualuv13
    @Joshualuv13 2 года назад +8

    I really like this woman ..she's been through alot and she's survived to come out stronger than ever

  • @realliving7340
    @realliving7340 2 года назад +7

    I also experienced an abusive upbringing. As a result of looking for love and acceptance, I became one of Jehovahs Witnesses and married a very abusive member. Learning about narcissism, abuse, coercive control and Jesus Christ helped me to be free from both! Thank you for this video❤

  • @Pinkflo363
    @Pinkflo363 2 года назад +9

    When she said “I am the daughter of the King”… i felt that through my soul. The Lord himself would remind me boldly. And I now repeat it to myself every time someone tries to bring me down with hurtful words.
    Thank you for the words of inspiration. ❤

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Год назад

      Me too! This was an excellent video. Life changing. Amen.

  • @shanazhu2673
    @shanazhu2673 2 года назад +31

    I'm such a people pleaser thank you for understanding it's ok to say no sometimes praise God 🙏

  • @holtzcouture8452
    @holtzcouture8452 2 года назад +4

    I needed this still healing from almost 19 plus years of hurt and rejection

  • @1234prettyhead
    @1234prettyhead 2 года назад +19

    I pray we all take on this wisdom and really apply it. I think the abuse that is in the church is something that people never really talk about but it's really a thing. Thank you❤

  • @leticiaorban245
    @leticiaorban245 2 года назад +21

    I appreciate this video. knowledge empowers us, because it gives us an awareness on how to deal with situations -especially when dealing with narcissists. Educating ourselves and trusting in God is the key to our success.

  • @profesorajacomet
    @profesorajacomet 2 года назад +5

    Joyce I love you and I thank God for your wisdom. “I don’t think there is too much worse than being in a controlling relationship. You can’t be a God pleaser and a man pleaser” Amen sister!❤️❤️❤️

  • @lisadunn4730
    @lisadunn4730 2 года назад +11

    These types of people are everywhere... work, 'friendship,' family, etc... Nothing worse than dealing with people who need control and lack respect for others. I have had to learn to confront these people. You must ALWAYS stay calm. They will NEVER stay calm because they are used to mistreating people and getting away with it. Typically, they will cry, get extremely belligerent/defensive but very few, apologize (

  • @barouvictoria9787
    @barouvictoria9787 2 года назад +1

    How bad I needed to hear that. You are litteraly saving lives sharing your testimonies. And free people from guilt and shame. Because the enemy, as well as wanting to destroy, wants to make you believe it’s your fault. God is saving. He will give his graceful compassion until we are enough compassionate to ourselves

  • @conniehaywood7287
    @conniehaywood7287 2 года назад +3

    Joyce.
    I just love your messages.
    It goes to show people are people. You will suffer from people in the church, probably more than outside the church because they will use the "God Card"
    Thank God for the Holy Spirit who reveals all truth
    Blessings to you ladies.

  • @cindyhughes7452
    @cindyhughes7452 2 года назад +7

    It took me years of crying, Praying, not understanding why my mom has always been so abusive and controlling all my life and after years of Praying, Bible studies, Christian counseling, I finally realized that I totally believe that my mom is mentally disturbed.
    I had to move to a different city and cut ties with her and just pray for her. I can't be around her nor even talk to her except on special occasions, she's too toxic and messed up in her head. I pray fi her and trust God for my peace and comfort.

  • @cindyreeves5048
    @cindyreeves5048 2 года назад +14

    Mama Joyce. God has used your life to save mine…several times. Thanks for being obedient. Your encouragement has made all the difference in my life…and now I’m encouraging others!! God is such a beautiful & marvelous Father. 😊

  • @jamiekoon6969
    @jamiekoon6969 2 года назад +9

    I was physically and mentally abused all my life, now even a close family member is verbally abusing me daily like my father use to, it's sad when you love someone and they hate you, pray for me

  • @markmartin3152
    @markmartin3152 2 года назад +12

    It’s good to listen to women that genuinely are seeking to find answers to life’s problems with the true desire to please Christ and not just trying to use religion to serve their own earthly wants. I got some great insight watching this video. ❤

  • @MichelleSears
    @MichelleSears 2 года назад +19

    Ladies thank you for this conversation. I definitely live with the fear of rejection and it's held me back for a long time. I love what Pastor Alex shared about how we can overcome that in Jesus Name! We need to see ourselves as God does and not as we think, or know, how the world does.

  • @yonettekelly2406
    @yonettekelly2406 2 года назад +7

    Being in such relationship you have to decide that no matter what happens you will stand up for yourself.
    I did not realize I was in a toxic marriage until recently. I saw all the signs but I was so manipulated by him. He used spirituality to keep me under his control that I thought I was doing God's will. It hit me hard at first when God opened my eyes to it. I was so shock what my Bishop husband was doing to me. I was in a period of shock and depression. He did and say things to trigger my emotions and I would flare up in anger that made me miserable all the time. And he would announce to the whole church that his wife is miserable. Every chance he gets he would tell people that I am miserable. Everytime I did something that is good he would put me down. He never congratulate me for anything he would always say I could have done better. He always competing with me. He never like to see me happy. If he sees me happy and praising God when we are alone he would say things like 'Oh you are so loud'
    I am still in the marriage because of my daughter who us 12 but I am stronger to Stand up for myself and I lay down my boundaries. And I do stuff to make myself happy.
    But I prayed and cried out to God and one day I decide I must stand up for myself.
    I began to ignore him when he does and say things to trigger me. When he would try to embarrass me by telling people I am miserable I would gently say "Oh my husband is the one making me miserable"
    I began to stand up for myself in a gentle and nice way.

  • @paulamauriohooho1590
    @paulamauriohooho1590 2 года назад +2

    Please pray for me. I love you Lord, i pray soooo hard that you get me out of here in the mighty name of jesus
    xoxo

  • @inspirationalt2143
    @inspirationalt2143 2 года назад +10

    Just removed myself from a work environment like this last week. Order my steps Lord. Completely trusting you 😭

    • @trvtam
      @trvtam 2 года назад +1

      I did the same thing yesterday. 9 months of an abusive and narcissistic boss. The unknown is very scarey for me. Would appreciate prayers.

    • @inspirationalt2143
      @inspirationalt2143 2 года назад

      @@trvtam I pray you are well & the Lord has blessed you with a new opportunity 🥰🥰🥰

  • @mphomabaso4421
    @mphomabaso4421 2 года назад +7

    I don't hate anyone I forgive them and God is healing me and I trust God for my life because he is my provider Amen

  • @annakavanagh6047
    @annakavanagh6047 2 года назад +10

    So true.
    I am a child of God. He is the one I should please and love.
    Please Jesus give me the courage to listen and be guided by the Holy Spirit in my life.
    Amen

  • @jesuslover3641
    @jesuslover3641 2 года назад +13

    I'm a survivor my ex-boyfriend was poisoning me I was deathly sick almost died but God had other plans only God can do it . I pray Lord give everyone in a toxic relationship the strength to turn to you and get out God will turn it all around he's a savior and Redeemer

  • @Pithfork1
    @Pithfork1 2 года назад +76

    I was in a abusive relationship with my ex husband for 37 years and left 4 years ago and now I’m experiencing the same things with my adult daughters and I’m mentally exhausted from trying to defend and explain myself and always saying that’s not what I’m doing. Please keep me and my daughters in your prayers because honestly I think that they’re both very unhappy and for some reason are taking it out on me. It’s been this way with my daughters for years because I allowed it but I’m not allowing it anymore I love them but I’m done.

    • @maryb9284
      @maryb9284 2 года назад +7

      Prayers being sent your way

    • @Pithfork1
      @Pithfork1 2 года назад +6

      @@maryb9284 Thank you 💕

    • @flushedforgivenforgotten43_25
      @flushedforgivenforgotten43_25 2 года назад +8

      Oftentimes the enemy will use LOVE to hold you hostage to pain and discomfort. At some point you must get the courage to walk away not bitter, but in love! Until your daughter’s are willing to say, Father God help me forgive my mom for she didn’t know what she was doing, there will be absolutely nothing YOU can do to or for them besides prayer. God can and will restore your relationship in due time❣️

    • @rebeccaestrada4946
      @rebeccaestrada4946 2 года назад +3

      Apostle Kathryn Krick can help deliver you and your family.

    • @rubylimey7614
      @rubylimey7614 2 года назад +6

      God give her the strenght to get away from her daughters. Direct her path n cover her with your peace. Praying for you...give it all to God. Psalm 23🙏🙏🙏

  • @k.g.m.254
    @k.g.m.254 2 года назад +11

    What Joyce says in the beginning.... extremely helpful !!!
    This is OUTSTANDING ‼️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💯🎯❤️❤️❤️

  • @ChristLives114
    @ChristLives114 2 года назад +8

    Thank you Lord for what you are doing in my life ❤️

  • @marcellakramer5871
    @marcellakramer5871 2 года назад +2

    I have recently removed myself from the Toxic Family System I grew up in. FREEDOM! GLORY HALLELUJAH!
    I am a Treasured Daughter of our Heavenly Father, Chosen and Dearly Loved and WANTED!

    • @tammystours5171
      @tammystours5171 2 года назад

      Praise God! We are programmed to believe because they are family we are supposed to tolerate their toxicity and abuse.. not so, God told Abraham to leave his family and everything he knew and go to a place He will show him.. you are strong! It is a tough process to complete but the peace is so worth it! Blessings and love to you! ❤️

    • @holyishe7903
      @holyishe7903 2 года назад

      Amen

  • @carmengriffin8509
    @carmengriffin8509 2 года назад +3

    Ms.Joyce we have so much better n common that I plan on moving to St Louis to join your church. God sent you my way.

  • @carolynedwards1206
    @carolynedwards1206 2 года назад +2

    Love you Joyce...every since I was your mother, you would come on the radio after I drop my son off at Elementary School first grade I will park my car in the park just to listen to your words and hold on to the prayers that you offered because the same list so I was always looking for a job thank you for being there

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 2 года назад +14

    They isolate you, accuse you of what they do, lots of fear, walking on eggshells, pain processing is hitting me like a flood

    • @demikamoreland4729
      @demikamoreland4729 Год назад

      That part .but I wanted the control but he did the trauma.i felt I was smarter cause he told u always forget

  • @sbeverlee
    @sbeverlee 2 года назад +1

    Coming from an abusive home my relationships and thinking was running in the same manner from which I came Until I was saved by the grace of God. It took years to rebuild and I am still rebuilding. Confrontation is not my forte but I have learned how to with Kindness and love. If the person gets upset, I just continue to pray for them. I will step away if they continue and disrespect the boundaries set. Thank you for sharing your testimonies.

  • @ptt7000
    @ptt7000 2 года назад +5

    Joyce this is the first time I have heard your story. Thank you for sharing.

  • @brandyellenmoore
    @brandyellenmoore 8 месяцев назад

    This is why i respect Joyce's wisdom so much because she has been there and lives to tell the tale and she has came sich a long ways from where she was at. It is because of people like this is what gives you hope and believe that it is not too late for you. You can have the life you deserve. She is my televised mama bear ❤😂.

  • @rakshamoodley6410
    @rakshamoodley6410 2 года назад +17

    Thank you so much for this video and the prayer. I'm currently divorcing my husband of 20 years because of all the abuse I went through which he caused. The first 10 years was alcoholism and all the abuse that came with it. to think that all I wanted was to just love him and our kids for 20 years and every 6 months I would leave the house with the kids . He would use the word of God against me to manipulate and control me. I'm so happy I've left the house and have taken my children with me. I feel so much better and thank God for the strength HE gives me everyday. I believe God wants me to open a ministry and speak to woman about this in SA who are also going through this . Many women in SA are silent about the abuse they go through. I pray woman will become more cautious and self secure before they enter into a relationship..it so easy to fall into it because as long as you are a broken person looking for love . It's easy to fall into it. Stay blessed.🙏🙏

  • @makaylahollywood3677
    @makaylahollywood3677 Год назад

    Abuse is usually done in the dark. It's scary and evil. You are the light and don't ever forget it.

  • @lawrencewhittington6416
    @lawrencewhittington6416 2 года назад +14

    Men need to watch this as well. This is great guidance for anyone who is in a relationship

  • @FaithfulandTrue949
    @FaithfulandTrue949 2 года назад +2

    This gives me hope.
    This gives the wilderness dwellers a voice, glory to God 🙌

  • @esther41693
    @esther41693 2 года назад +9

    Amen 🙏🏻✝️thank u Lord. Please pray for br. Sandee to be delivered from worldly friendships, bad habits, please pray for him to get WELL-PAID job and to be delivered from debts 🙏🏻. Please pray for my financial breakthrough and spiritual blessings, workplace blessings and to get good job for me🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @KeziahMuthoni
    @KeziahMuthoni 2 года назад +4

    I'm in a foreign country with no family or friends and unfortunately in a toxic relationship. I'm struggling to let go even though I know he's an absolutely horrible person for me and my kids. I mean he doesn't even pretend to be better. It's not easy but I'm trusting God to give me the strength. He recently moved to a another town, I'm believing that's God's way of helping me start over.
    I commend all the women who have moved on from Toxic relationships. You are heroes!!🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @karenscookingkorner
    @karenscookingkorner 2 года назад +7

    WowJoyce, thanking you for sharing! It’s so inspiring to hear the trauma you’ve been thru and see how successful you are. Proof that we CAN survive! AND find happiness

  • @jenimohan7258
    @jenimohan7258 7 месяцев назад

    Getting open to truth help us to face realities, tackle it rightly.These type of awareness will be a benefit to the upcoming generation.❤love this.

  • @kevinwolfe981
    @kevinwolfe981 2 года назад +16

    The world needs more of this. Good job, ladies.

  • @whateverjoni
    @whateverjoni 2 года назад +2

    "I am living for the audience of one" says it all.

  • @DeeDee-pl8se
    @DeeDee-pl8se 2 года назад +3

    Thank you God and thank you for this spiritual teaching in the name of Jesus. Amen

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 2 года назад +17

    YES YES YES!!!!! My husband knows the word (doesn’t obviously understand it) but uses it against me all the time. He will mock me…”You praying to YOUR God,” etc. but will turn around and try to talk the word with other people and will send me video clips about a wife’s duties and tells me I really need to read those words in red etc. Wow!

    • @bellag2864
      @bellag2864 2 года назад +1

      Ugh. I'm so sorry.

    • @teresafraser3049
      @teresafraser3049 2 года назад +4

      My aunt had a husband like yours and finally decided to finally leave him when she was in her 70's and truly then started living a fabulous life !!

    • @fionagrant2023
      @fionagrant2023 2 года назад

      lf he mocked me once l would kick him to the kerb 👊

    • @sassyfraseats
      @sassyfraseats Год назад

      🕊️

  • @rosalitamarshall1107
    @rosalitamarshall1107 2 года назад +13

    This is exactly what has happened to me. And he was using personal righteousness and not the will or righteousness of God. Especially when he cause domestic violence.. from sister Rosalita

  • @mphomabaso4421
    @mphomabaso4421 2 года назад +13

    this message came in at the right time for me I'm breaking loose from a toxic relationship a 40 years of manipulation at work as well my manager is so controlling and manipulative I think of leaving that job as well I'm done thank God hallelujah

    • @ForestFairy_9
      @ForestFairy_9 2 года назад

      Do what you know is right for you and God will help you!

    • @teresafraser3049
      @teresafraser3049 2 года назад

      Leave now!!! The only thing we have is the PRESENT

  • @travist3764
    @travist3764 2 года назад +3

    This is a powerful teaching 🤩🤩
    Thank you I hope more people get to listen to it, and be blessed!!

  • @deloisestaples4195
    @deloisestaples4195 2 года назад +2

    It's hard to just walk away, but with God's strength you can do it. I was in narcissism relationship, I couldn't get myself out of it, I couldn't believe I was doing the things I was doing for him,but called out to God,he lead me away it didn't happen over night but it happened, keep crying out to God no matter how much it hurts,you will be delivered. God bless you all. Thanks Joyce.

    • @KlayKitchens
      @KlayKitchens Год назад

      IM IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS-THEY HAVE THIS DEMONIC POWER OVER ME-IVE BEEN SCARED OF THEM FOR 18 YEARS-IVE TRIED TO LEAVE AND COULDNT-PLEASE PRAY THAT GOD DOES NOT GIVE UP ON ME-I WANT HIM TO BE ON THE THRONE OF MY HEART-IT FEELS LIKE IDOLATRY!😢

  • @catherinekazinja661
    @catherinekazinja661 2 года назад +7

    Today marks one month since I have moved out from a toxic relationship. I trust in God for a new beginning. Thank you for this video.. I feel empowered to trust in God's way. Praying for my children and promise to take them once things are ok.
    Iam in the healing process. God help me.

    • @christineyeshu4927
      @christineyeshu4927 2 года назад

      am here in Kenya with my married man who cant letme go because his behavior is like narcist he likes to control you but never cooperative to move forward in doing development but he wants you to totally rely on him for everything

    • @McAllen-dv8dd
      @McAllen-dv8dd Год назад

      He’s always there 😊💙

  • @katrinaepps5704
    @katrinaepps5704 Год назад

    When she said..and knows the word of God..My life

  • @annemariewright6002
    @annemariewright6002 2 года назад +23

    Such a powerful message ladies! Thank you!!♥️🙏

  • @melodietallmegate2766
    @melodietallmegate2766 2 года назад +1

    This happens in a nursing home we don't have a voice but I'm greatfull that I did put in healthy boundaries and with a complexity of my disability but by the grace of God I stood alone in the darkness and this video is a blessing I'm stronger and wil. Take my life with God first

  • @TheGhettoDebutante
    @TheGhettoDebutante 2 года назад +7

    What a terrific conversation ladies.

  • @BriceKoua-11-11
    @BriceKoua-11-11 2 года назад +8

    This is reeaaallllllly accurate!!!! Glory to God 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😄😄😄

  • @crystallparker9247
    @crystallparker9247 2 года назад +20

    I relate to each of you especially with Joyce. Unfortunately I married a man like my stepfather,the same controlling demon. Confronting him is like oil on fire. He's favourite way of fighting is to belittle me and even tell me my stepfather did the right thing... Just to see other women healed gives me hope. I still need to leave him although we are divorced 😥

    • @placeformomma
      @placeformomma 2 года назад +5

      May God strengthen you and heal you and give you wisdom, in Jesus’ name, amen.

    • @teresafraser3049
      @teresafraser3049 2 года назад +4

      Let go of the control he has over you ......if you don't even though your no longer together your energy is tethered to his which will still dictate your life without you even realizing that it is which will have a ripple effect upon all people in your life....
      Let go and let GOD

    • @jenniferwyatt8945
      @jenniferwyatt8945 Год назад

      Following Jesus is our number one priority on this earth. You are God's creation and you know right from wrong. The Holy spirit lives in us when we see each day the right way to live. Fear is not what God wants from us. The hard things are usually the right things.

  • @CC-oq2mj
    @CC-oq2mj Год назад

    I'm confronting this spirit now. And I rebuke this controlling spirit in The Name of Jesus

  • @priiliyah
    @priiliyah 2 года назад +8

    Needed this so much, oh what a message, blessing, and deliverance altogether. I encourage every woman to apply this message to your life, and be the woman that God defines you as, and no longer interact with insecure and toxic relationship (personal, family, friends, etc.)

  • @gracewarrior5354
    @gracewarrior5354 Год назад

    Ty..."You can't BE a God pleaser & man pleaser"❣️🕯️💕

  • @marloh2545
    @marloh2545 2 года назад +11

    So needed this morning. Life changing and eye opening. Thank you ladies, and thank you Jesus for them and this message.

  • @rasheemlea2010
    @rasheemlea2010 Год назад +1

    As a man that has been a people-pleaser and wanting to be accepted for most of my life, this helped me a lot.