The choice of words comes from a choice of which slice of reality you are focused on. If it is raining, is it, "What bad weather," or, "what a fresh, clean smell the rain brings?" I call it creating my own reality. You cannot lie (BSing yourself is like administering yourself a placebo), but you can see more than one thing that is true, and focus only on that. This is such an amazing thing!
Summary 1)Your power starts with confidence (Power- confidence loop) 2)Use Powerful language (Use Positive words) 3)Speak with power (deep breath take more volume & space) 4)Being around people like minded,supportive & gives respect 5)What's my biggest success of this month What was your biggest challenge of these month How can I support you this month 6)Your 5 people (make list of spending most time with your friends) 7)self assist (don't doubt yourself due to some wrong thing coz it creates negativity,know your weaknesses, strength & improve it) 8)Know when to Say Yes & know when to say No 9)Stand like superman (Take more space to stand chest open,shoulder back,deep breath)
I have something congruent to what you call a board of directors. I have a list of people I call my University Professors. University means seeking the unity in all the diversity of life. University Study Theory is my idea of learning all I can from many disciplines. Every morning, the first thing I do when I get to my desk, is pray. I thank God for my University Professors, and ask Him to bless them all with life, and that more abundantly, and I mention them all by name. You just got added to the list this morning. You are with Robert Kiyosaki, Dan Lok, Simon Sinek, Brian Tracy, and many others. I love my professors. Welcome to the club!
Jim Rohn was on my list of university professors until I found out he is in heaven already. The 5 people you are around are the people you consider Worth spending a lot of time with. That amounts, linguistically, to giving them a status of Worth-ship. I call this Worship Theory. People misunderstand worship all the time. It is not about stroking God's non-existent ego. Worship is a tool you use to become more like someone. The more time you spend together, the more you start taking on their speech styles and behaviors. This is most clearly seen in teenagers and their odd language quirks. LOL Vanessa, you are most definitely Worth a significant portion of my time. You are a great teacher, and have made my continuing education time far more valuable! Thank You!
I love that she's such a positive person that on her negative power loop when she says even more sadness she writes a happy face when she should have done a sad one....she's so happy it feels wrong to do a sadface ❤💛
Your energy is so, so refreshing. I just had a meeting with my NPD mother and came home to watch your video to cleanse my energy palate. You are a nice human.
This video is very important. I believe it should be shown in high schools across the globe. Your lesson is well rounded, concise, your points are on point. I believe you are talking to 85% of the population who really and I underscore, REALLY (ok that was more of a caps lock, you get the point, back to the point) REALLY need this lesson to help to even exist in this crazy, post covid, whacked out time we are living in. Bless you and your help for the people of the planet.
The power/confidence loop is ruined by the rise of pride, but is fostered by the rise of gratitude. :o) (I love your power/confidence loop. It's a great structure!)
I am here because I want to create more space in myself. The ability to really know when to say YES and avoid the dreadful situations. As a teacher, it's very hard, yet I keep on trying.
Hi Vanessa, First of all, thanks so much for this both powerful and useful video. I have started to change my mindset thanks to people like you. I realized if you want to get more positive things in your life you have to stop complaining and wait for that good things to happen suddenly without doing anything. We have to take action by keeping powerful and positive feelings. However, I have a question for you. I know you're not an English teacher but I'm a big fan of your work and I'm an English learner. So here's my question. How to apply what you said in my target language? How to choose the right power words? How to feel powerful when you have a lack of vocabulary? You may not answer me but never mind. What I want to retain are your energy and benevolent attitude. Thanks again for that. Have a great day. Take care!
Thank you so much for all the extra effort that it takes to put the transcript in and making it easy for your audience to go back and listen to the specific parts they want to commit to memory. You rock.
Amazing video, thank you! A really good reminder of how the people in our lives directly effect our emotional and mental health - and thus our success!
It's the same lessons that Maxwell Maltz and Napoleon Hill were teaching, but it's nice to hear it again and again, which is another thing Mr Hill said.
I've definitely got it, tall, handsome, well dressed, stoic, 😏 being confident there! Really good advice madam. When I become President, I'm going to hire you then remind you it was your video that got me there 😎
Stand like Superman: Yes! When I go on a bid appointment (yardwork service company), I get out of my truck, slowly, stand tall, look up at the sky, take a very deep breath, or two, or three. Not to calm down, either. But, to be powerful! And it works! Of course, now I know why God tells men to lift up holy hands! That just hit me like a ton of bricks!
One of the most important things in this are is... Having knowledge...in your given subject...(above what everyone else knows) Those things you mentioned are the exterior principles of power....the interior is having knowledge and knowing when and how to apply it.... When interior and exterior power principles..are a part of you....you have integrity of character....
You're an average of the five people you spend the most time with - time over email, text, social media or a phone call. Now this is something to take home.
I'm trying to loose weight. It's been up and down. But recently I change the way I respond to people. Instead of "I can't have that pizza im trying to loose weight" I say, "I dont want that pizza cuz I want to loose weight" Guess what? People respect my decision now instead of trying to tell me I can. Hahaha
Pamela, keep up the good work. I love that you have put a positive spin on healthy eating. There are so many delicious and healthy foods out there to choose from and I love that you have changed your mindset. YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!
What a great video (as usual)! Creating a positive feedback loop makes a LOT of sense. I'd like to add to that amazing thought process, for any viewers who are interested: Human brains have what's called neuroplasticity. When you think certain thoughts, or even do certain things (ex: learning to ride a bike), the "wiring system" in your brain creates specific neural pathways for those thoughts (or actions). The more you think those same thoughts, or do those same things, the stronger those pathways become, therefore it gets easier and easier for you to do them next time. So, if you are constantly being negative, you're creating strong "negative thinking" pathways which makes it easier for your brain to be negative than positive. On the other hand, if you work on rewiring that negative feedback loop, and start reframing things to be more positive, your brain will break down those negative pathways and will replace them with "positive thinking" pathways instead. In the end, it will be easier for you to be positive than negative.
Fascinating! Power words. Ever notice that cursing makes people look weak? And they are doing it to feel powerful! (That's how I like my irony served up!)
What if.. 1) You don't have enough agency or control over your environment to decide to do things your good at & keep positive company? ( Maybe a boss at work won't let you persue a direction that would play to your strengths or maybe you are a disabled person living with and reliant on toxic family members). 2) You you are incapble of speaking with power (Maye something is wrong with your voice, you're deaf or stutter). 3) You have few if any friends and aren't good at making them? 4) You do your self assesment and you realize you have many, unchangeable weaknesses to the point that they are barriers to your success even despite having a few strengths? 5) What if you don't have the power to say no? (Maybe someone is abusing their powerful over you in a threatening way). 6) What if you can't stand like superman? (Maybe you can't stand up at all, or lack the mobility to occupy more space)
People often wonder why I comment so much. Well, I like to make comments people can respond to without lots of other topics cluttering the thread. Also, the more comments I make, the better your channel gets, based on the algorithm. So, it is for intellectual clarity, and to boost your visibility.
I love your videos. I just accepted a position in the medical field and I find myself lacking confidence. I have to interact with doctors and nurses. It can be quite intimidating. The lack of confidence stems from an incident I had in my mid 20's when I first started my career in healthcare. The incident was embarrassing & humiliating. How do I get past that incident?
Think about the fact that every one of those doctors and nurses have had embarrassing and humiliating moments themselves to make them seem just as human as you.
I don't want more power than I can take responsibility for. Too many people take up more power than they can take responsibility for and causing damage to society.
Great stuff Vanessa! I actually read a book by Jordan Belfort and some of the power laws you talk about are the same ones I encountered in his book. Such as using the right tonality and using powerful words. It goes a long way to be perceived as a powerful individual because people will defer to you much easier. So yeah I really like your video on power. Thanks
I can, I got it - I can do it have been my driving force for so long that I've got to be where I need to be, but previous to that even when I thought positive about my job - when you have a boss who doesn't think you can handle it, won't give you a chance, so even though I'm being positive about it all when you have someone who in a way undermines you, that chips away at your self worth within the company so I think for you to succeed your boss has to support your can do attitude. I had to find other bosses who would support me and be willing to take the chance because I knew I could do it
Your last sentence gave the solution to the challenge you highlighted. Sometimes your boss is one of those people who bring you dread and eventually it's healthier to either cut those ties or find other people who will support you. Cheers
The answer to your question is founded on the fact that we are created in the image and likeness of God. One way this is so is in the triunity of man - body, spirit, soul. What you choose to do in your soul affects your spirit and body. What you do in your body affects your spirit and soul. You cannot do anything in any area of life without affecting the others. I call this Flat Tire Theory. The idea comes from the boy asking his grandfather to go somewhere fun, but they can't, because the car has a flat tire. And the boy says, it's only flat on the bottom. The tire only looks flat on the bottom, and it was made flat by one hole in the tire. The interesting feature is that what is in your soul comes through in your face. And, changes in a person's decisions has been observed to result in noticeable, dramatic changes in physical features. I heard of a man whose eyes had a strange fold that caused the eyelids to be somewhat closed. As soon as he decided to stop fearing the opinions of others, his eyes literally changed in front of the eyes of the person who was giving the Ted Talk (can't remember which one). I so appreciate the things you teach. I love sharing what I get from your videos with others!
Learn more about being powerful in the full article: www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-get-power/
Hi Vanessa, can anyone tell me what the link if for the alpha female episode. I can't find it anywhere and I want to hear it again. Many thanks
The choice of words comes from a choice of which slice of reality you are focused on. If it is raining, is it, "What bad weather," or, "what a fresh, clean smell the rain brings?" I call it creating my own reality. You cannot lie (BSing yourself is like administering yourself a placebo), but you can see more than one thing that is true, and focus only on that. This is such an amazing thing!
1. Appearance
2. Attitude and manner
3. Knowledge
4. Body language
5. Backbone
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Summary
1)Your power starts with confidence (Power- confidence loop)
2)Use Powerful language (Use Positive words)
3)Speak with power (deep breath take more volume & space)
4)Being around people like minded,supportive & gives respect
5)What's my biggest success of this month
What was your biggest challenge of these month
How can I support you this month
6)Your 5 people (make list of spending most time with your friends)
7)self assist (don't doubt yourself due to some wrong thing coz it creates negativity,know your weaknesses, strength & improve it)
8)Know when to Say Yes
& know when to say No
9)Stand like superman (Take more space to stand chest open,shoulder back,deep breath)
Thank you for putting in the work mate
When she put a happy face instead of a sad face :(
thank you, i appreciate the effort
Q: What if figure 8s in the snow is a better power stance...then this AMV might not be helpful in terms of COMMUNICATION.
TY
I have something congruent to what you call a board of directors. I have a list of people I call my University Professors. University means seeking the unity in all the diversity of life. University Study Theory is my idea of learning all I can from many disciplines. Every morning, the first thing I do when I get to my desk, is pray. I thank God for my University Professors, and ask Him to bless them all with life, and that more abundantly, and I mention them all by name. You just got added to the list this morning. You are with Robert Kiyosaki, Dan Lok, Simon Sinek, Brian Tracy, and many others.
I love my professors. Welcome to the club!
I spent my time in social media watching Abraham Hicks, Louise Hay, Vanessa, Sadhguru...i love you
Me too
Jim Rohn was on my list of university professors until I found out he is in heaven already. The 5 people you are around are the people you consider Worth spending a lot of time with. That amounts, linguistically, to giving them a status of Worth-ship. I call this Worship Theory. People misunderstand worship all the time. It is not about stroking God's non-existent ego. Worship is a tool you use to become more like someone. The more time you spend together, the more you start taking on their speech styles and behaviors. This is most clearly seen in teenagers and their odd language quirks. LOL
Vanessa, you are most definitely Worth a significant portion of my time. You are a great teacher, and have made my continuing education time far more valuable! Thank You!
I love that she's such a positive person that on her negative power loop when she says even more sadness she writes a happy face when she should have done a sad one....she's so happy it feels wrong to do a sadface ❤💛
Your energy is so, so refreshing. I just had a meeting with my NPD mother and came home to watch your video to cleanse my energy palate. You are a nice human.
This video is very important. I believe it should be shown in high schools across the globe. Your lesson is well rounded, concise, your points are on point. I believe you are talking to 85% of the population who really and I underscore, REALLY (ok that was more of a caps lock, you get the point, back to the point) REALLY need this lesson to help to even exist in this crazy, post covid, whacked out time we are living in. Bless you and your help for the people of the planet.
Wow, I never realized how much my daily habits take away my inner power. I have so much to work on. Thank you!
Immediate subscribe. What a clear and simple break down. Tone, delivery, illustrations, exercises. Just an amazing job you’ve done here.
Wow, thank you so much! I appreciate you following along.
I can't believe how awesome and useful and empowering this video is. I'd want Vanessa and The Science of People team in my top 5
I love your contents the best, Vanessa. Thank you! I’m better because of you. God bless you and the work of your hands. 😊
Really? It works? Seriously asking because I need to change my mindset as I am going through a divorce and feel rather depressed.
The power/confidence loop is ruined by the rise of pride, but is fostered by the rise of gratitude. :o) (I love your power/confidence loop. It's a great structure!)
"creates more sadness" and draws a happy smiley 😁 this formula should exist in real life
I am here because I want to create more space in myself. The ability to really know when to say YES and avoid the dreadful situations. As a teacher, it's very hard, yet I keep on trying.
Omg I didn’t realize that the key to understanding my rut was a SWOT analysis (seriously thank you)
This is a master class! Thanks a lot Vanessa!
Thank you for the powerful advice, it is great that you showed how a person become successful and confident himself. Thank you, Bull Australia.
So glad it was helpful. Thank you for watching!
Thank you for sharing this video, would love to know if you will have any seminars going on in the future will definitely go!! Thanks 🙏
Of course! You can always subscribe to our newsletter where we'll keep you updated on any future webinars :) www.scienceofpeople.com/
@@ScienceOfPeople will do thank you 😊
I wish I found you years ago! You are changing lives ppls direction & purpose. ❤️
Vanessa, this scenario just happened to me this past week. I’ve been in this loop for a while and I’m so excited to regroup and try it again.
Hi Vanessa,
First of all, thanks so much for this both powerful and useful video.
I have started to change my mindset thanks to people like you. I realized if you want to get more positive things in your life you have to stop complaining and wait for that good things to happen suddenly without doing anything.
We have to take action by keeping powerful and positive feelings.
However, I have a question for you.
I know you're not an English teacher but I'm a big fan of your work and I'm an English learner. So here's my question.
How to apply what you said in my target language? How to choose the right power words? How to feel powerful when you have a lack of vocabulary?
You may not answer me but never mind.
What I want to retain are your energy and benevolent attitude.
Thanks again for that.
Have a great day.
Take care!
Great video. I am at the beginning now. But I believe in that...Thank you!!!
Wow, thank you so much Vanessa! I hope you know how amazing you are, you are a real-life superhero, being an inspiration to many. Keep shining xo
Thank you so much! You are so kind!
Very grateful for my board of directors ! !
Precious advices for everyone.
Thank you Vanessa for your generosity.💃
Thank you so much for all the extra effort that it takes to put the transcript in and making it easy for your audience to go back and listen to the specific parts they want to commit to memory. You rock.
Amazing video, thank you! A really good reminder of how the people in our lives directly effect our emotional and mental health - and thus our success!
Hello vanessa, sending love from the philippines..
You're simply amazing! Thank you for sharing. Great help for my upcoming training.
It's the same lessons that Maxwell Maltz and Napoleon Hill were teaching, but it's nice to hear it again and again, which is another thing Mr Hill said.
Wonderful Video...thank you so much. I learned so much....i love your confident...and i learn english with you because you speak so clear
Remind yourself of your strengths 👍
Loved this video Vanessa. Thanks for the power laws. Though each of your videos are awesome, this, to me, stands out as the best!
I've definitely got it, tall, handsome, well dressed, stoic, 😏 being confident there! Really good advice madam. When I become President, I'm going to hire you then remind you it was your video that got me there 😎
Stand like Superman:
Yes!
When I go on a bid appointment (yardwork service company), I get out of my truck, slowly, stand tall, look up at the sky, take a very deep breath, or two, or three. Not to calm down, either. But, to be powerful! And it works!
Of course, now I know why God tells men to lift up holy hands! That just hit me like a ton of bricks!
Thank you so much for your advice. You always inspire me to me a better version of myself and think of life in a positive way ✨️
So glad you find it helpful! Thank you for watching and for your support!
i love your thoughts Great Mind food
Thank you, glad you are enjoying!
Thanks for the advice keep up the great work ❤
My pleasure ❤
We are COVID. My 5 people are 2 parrots and 2 cats and my husband ;)
Everyone else is online.
This is so good and encouarging. Thank you for your insight!
Awesome video! Thanks for sharing 😊
One of the most important things in this are is...
Having knowledge...in your given subject...(above what everyone else knows)
Those things you mentioned are the exterior principles of power....the interior is having knowledge and knowing when and how to apply it....
When interior and exterior power principles..are a part of you....you have integrity of character....
I'm so grateful for you releasing this awesome contents! From South Korea!
I loved this video, it was extremely interesting
So glad you enjoyed it!
You're an average of the five people you spend the most time with - time over email, text, social media or a phone call. Now this is something to take home.
What if you spend a lot of time alone?
@@geewhiz747 Alone time is a period of multiplication - positively or otherwise :)
Love the background decorations
Awesome insight and guidance; thank you so much!
I'm trying to loose weight. It's been up and down. But recently I change the way I respond to people. Instead of "I can't have that pizza im trying to loose weight" I say, "I dont want that pizza cuz I want to loose weight"
Guess what? People respect my decision now instead of trying to tell me I can. Hahaha
Pamela, keep up the good work. I love that you have put a positive spin on healthy eating. There are so many delicious and healthy foods out there to choose from and I love that you have changed your mindset. YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!
Empowering language will boist you self-confidence
Truly insightful... Thank you for sharing, Vanessa 🙏🏻
What a great video (as usual)! Creating a positive feedback loop makes a LOT of sense. I'd like to add to that amazing thought process, for any viewers who are interested:
Human brains have what's called neuroplasticity. When you think certain thoughts, or even do certain things (ex: learning to ride a bike), the "wiring system" in your brain creates specific neural pathways for those thoughts (or actions). The more you think those same thoughts, or do those same things, the stronger those pathways become, therefore it gets easier and easier for you to do them next time.
So, if you are constantly being negative, you're creating strong "negative thinking" pathways which makes it easier for your brain to be negative than positive. On the other hand, if you work on rewiring that negative feedback loop, and start reframing things to be more positive, your brain will break down those negative pathways and will replace them with "positive thinking" pathways instead. In the end, it will be easier for you to be positive than negative.
I Loved this ! thank you so much for such valuable information.
Thank you for watching! I'm glad you got value from it =)
This was great video. Excellent 👌
Vanessa my new favorite human 💕
Fascinating! Power words. Ever notice that cursing makes people look weak? And they are doing it to feel powerful! (That's how I like my irony served up!)
Love this content, and adore and appreciate you! Thank you!
Glad you are enjoying it! I appreciate you!! =)
Your on fire, this video is so well done
I.love the way u look at things ,so positie
This is great information, thank you very much.
Thank you for watching!
MADE SO SO SO MUCH SENSE WOWWW
Thank you Ma'am
Of course!
Interesting and informative tips! I love the long video contents! I’ve learned so much from you! Thank you.
Saw first video of yours ..and you deserve my subscription 👌❤✌
So genuine!
Awesome. Learn so much from your free content, attending People School is on my bucket list of things to do.
Worthwhile, always 🤛🏼❤️🇺🇸
Very enlightening and helpful.
What if..
1) You don't have enough agency or control over your environment to decide to do things your good at & keep positive company? ( Maybe a boss at work won't let you persue a direction that would play to your strengths or maybe you are a disabled person living with and reliant on toxic family members). 2) You you are incapble of speaking with power (Maye something is wrong with your voice, you're deaf or stutter). 3) You have few if any friends and aren't good at making them? 4) You do your self assesment and you realize you have many, unchangeable weaknesses to the point that they are barriers to your success even despite having a few strengths? 5) What if you don't have the power to say no? (Maybe someone is abusing their powerful over you in a threatening way). 6) What if you can't stand like superman? (Maybe you can't stand up at all, or lack the mobility to occupy more space)
Thank you!
People often wonder why I comment so much. Well, I like to make comments people can respond to without lots of other topics cluttering the thread. Also, the more comments I make, the better your channel gets, based on the algorithm. So, it is for intellectual clarity, and to boost your visibility.
Thanks mam bless from india
i love every content you post.... God bless Vanessa and Captivate is really helping my people skills
Thanks for sharing it..
How do you get friends that care about you, support you and wants nothing but the best for you?
luck lol idkk manee
I love your videos. I just accepted a position in the medical field and I find myself lacking confidence. I have to interact with doctors and nurses. It can be quite intimidating. The lack of confidence stems from an incident I had in my mid 20's when I first started my career in healthcare. The incident was embarrassing & humiliating. How do I get past that incident?
Think about the fact that every one of those doctors and nurses have had embarrassing and humiliating moments themselves to make them seem just as human as you.
excellent tips
I love this woman. I learn so much from her.
I don't want more power than I can take responsibility for. Too many people take up more power than they can take responsibility for and causing damage to society.
Thank u vanessa i love all ur videos its all abt positivity
Great stuff Vanessa! I actually read a book by Jordan Belfort and some of the power laws you talk about are the same ones I encountered in his book. Such as using the right tonality and using powerful words. It goes a long way to be perceived as a powerful individual because people will defer to you much easier. So yeah I really like your video on power. Thanks
CB
aight.."
Perfect...*
i wish you in the top of my 5 people list :-)
I can, I got it - I can do it have been my driving force for so long that I've got to be where I need to be, but previous to that even when I thought positive about my job - when you have a boss who doesn't think you can handle it, won't give you a chance, so even though I'm being positive about it all when you have someone who in a way undermines you, that chips away at your self worth within the company so I think for you to succeed your boss has to support your can do attitude. I had to find other bosses who would support me and be willing to take the chance because I knew I could do it
Your last sentence gave the solution to the challenge you highlighted. Sometimes your boss is one of those people who bring you dread and eventually it's healthier to either cut those ties or find other people who will support you. Cheers
Great content! Ty
God bless you
The answer to your question is founded on the fact that we are created in the image and likeness of God. One way this is so is in the triunity of man - body, spirit, soul. What you choose to do in your soul affects your spirit and body. What you do in your body affects your spirit and soul. You cannot do anything in any area of life without affecting the others.
I call this Flat Tire Theory. The idea comes from the boy asking his grandfather to go somewhere fun, but they can't, because the car has a flat tire. And the boy says, it's only flat on the bottom. The tire only looks flat on the bottom, and it was made flat by one hole in the tire.
The interesting feature is that what is in your soul comes through in your face. And, changes in a person's decisions has been observed to result in noticeable, dramatic changes in physical features. I heard of a man whose eyes had a strange fold that caused the eyelids to be somewhat closed. As soon as he decided to stop fearing the opinions of others, his eyes literally changed in front of the eyes of the person who was giving the Ted Talk (can't remember which one).
I so appreciate the things you teach. I love sharing what I get from your videos with others!
great video!😃
Thank you for watching!
Love the frames on your wall.
Me too!
You are amazing 🙏🙏
Amazing
Thank you!
2:51 Confidence Loop - "The Sims" Game 😉
I lv evry thing Abt u Vanessa
Sending love!
1. What is my biggest success [in this period]?
2. What was my biggest challenge [in this period]?
3. How can I support you [in this period]?
Muybueno
Thank you so much Vanessa. I love the content of your video.
Bravo. Love love love. Excellent advice. Expertly presented.
You started the graph with a * instead of +. Could that be changeable?