“Bc if you don’t know who you are, someone out there will try to tell you. And it will be to their advantage” dAAMmnn girl! I wasn’t expecting to go to church today. Preach it sister 👏
As a classically trained flautist (now retired) myself, speaking professionally, Lizzo is an incredibly gifted flautist. She has an incredibly tone and technical ability which requires decades of intense training. When I heard she was a flautist I assumed it was like how a lot of celebrities blow their extra-curriculars out of proportion but she is actually really. REALLY good. I WISH she would lean into that more. She deserves a lot of respect and admiration for her actual talents, what is really important, not just the way her body looks.
PREACH HONEY!!! And wow what an incredible achievement for yourself! I used to play the flute when I was in middle school… Hated every second of it. Musicians absolutely blow my mind with the dedication it takes!
She’s so misguided. I really want to see her win, but it starts with REAL self-love + getting some real people surrounding her. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I hope she figures it out.
As someone who played two instruments and SUCKED at them both (music isn’t my ministry) I absolutely can appreciate a hardworking, gifted musician when I see them. She’s so much more than her body - the level of grit and dedication it takes to be a regular working musician, never mind a world-famous one, is to be respected. It speaks to inner qualities that are grossly undermined by clown behaviour and online tantrums.
When a man pisses me off (from his own wrong actions), I never give him the luxury of calling him crazy. You don’t have to quietly take the mistreatment but don’t blow up. Men expect us to go crazy because they associate our emotionality with how much we care for him. So the opposite logic applies. If you don’t get emotional, he will think you don’t care… and then that will make him spiral.
Obesity increases the risk of cancer, heart disease, and pretty much every other major killer. I constantly see fatfluencers saying “you can’t look at someone and know if they’re healthy”… um if you’re obese, yes you can. If it hasn’t caught up with you yet, it will.
so true. i am fat right now and it sucks!!! i got fat due to menopause, wine, sedentary work schedule, no exercise, terrible eating.....being sad. NO WAY does this feel good or normal or in anyway a goal. I am working on this as I am so afraid of what will happen to me. I am 250 and 5 10 and want to be 175. sucks.
@@CarolynCressette you’ll get there! I think it’s awesome that you want to make a positive change. That’s already half the battle. I lost 20 pounds in 3 months with intermittent fasting and just being a little more consistent with my excercise. Walking is amazing for fat loss.
I take every opportunity to talk about how happy I am that I’ve lost 50 pounds. I am 4’10 I was 153 try to picture it. I couldn’t breathe I couldn’t cross my legs my blood pressure was at stroke level. And you’d NEVER catch me saying that I’d want to go back to that. EVER. I have so much confidence now, I JUST started buying clothes that fit my body now I was still wearing the sweaters I wore when I was big, the sweaters I wore to hide the body you could still see. My blood pressure is excellent I can work out without feeling like my heart is going to give out and I can cross my mf legs. Idk what it is about the leg crossing but that is something small that makes me inexplicably happy.
omg. THE LEG CROSSING IS EXACTLY MY TIPPING POINT. I cannot do that right now and I am so sad I let myself get FAT. I cannot sit on the floor either. Congratulations on your success!! 50 lbs is about what I want to achieve. xo
@@CarolynCressette thank you so much! I hope that you’ll get to where you want to be, it feels very rewarding I believe in you. Trust me, I was very stubborn and set in my ways, but if I can change them so can you!
Girl me too. And sometimes our rebrand is subtle, you don’t see it from the outside. My different shift is being more patient and warm when it comes to dating. And my friends expect me to go scorched earth and even kind of cheer it on because hey, it’s entertaining and I’m usually justified and having a ballistic reaction. But they go home to their loving boyfriends and husbands and… I’m single? So how exactly is that strategy working out for me? It isn’t. So I’m shifting. And Yep, it means some people have to get comfortable with a different way that I’m moving. So sad too bad!
I totally agree with your take on masking. I heard this term for the first time in relation to autism and I was genuinely confused. Don’t we all have to mask to be in social / professional / family settings? No one can go around being 100% authentic in every setting. It’s not a thing.
(Please let me know if I’ve completely missed the point here btw!) I definitely understand where you’re both coming from and agree that we all have to adopt some kind of persona whilst out in public/at work/meeting the parents etc. It is a subconscious strategy that humans develop whilst growing up to connect with others around us, and I think everybody appreciates this, whether or not they’re aware of it. However, the difference with autistic people is that masking is really exhausting for them and can cause high levels of distress, whether that distress be depression, anxiety and/or suicidal thoughts and tendencies. Masking does not tend to have the same effect on we non-autistic or neurotypical people. The world is not adjusted to the way autistic people think and act, so they often feel a great level of pressure to hide their true selves to fit in and conceal behaviours which others may perceive as “weird”, e.g. stimming and special interests. Autistic people may also struggle to develop their true identities as the pressure to fit in causes them to have little time to behave like their true selves or engage in the activities they want to engage in. There is an unconscious bias throughout society regarding neurodivergent people - autistic people are judged more harshly by non-autistic people whether or not they are actually aware the individual in question is autistic. I’m not sure how masking affects sociopaths or psychopaths, so I might do some research on that🧐
Yeah, everyone has to mask to an extent but as someone who works with autistic children, it is a different ballgame for autistic individuals. They constantly strive to behave in ways that come naturally to non-autistic people, often to the point of burnout
Absolutely. Contrary to popular advice, we have to be aware of our environment in order to thrive socially. Life is not a movie, and there's a diffence between idealism and real life.
People can say whatever they want about you, Shallon but they could never say you don’t work hard. I just saw you have over 1000 videos on RUclips. You’ve been consistent over years of time (probably no matter what you were going through.) That is respectable as hell!!! From one hustler to another… respect 🫡
The pep talk I NEEDED! So to make a long story short, I've been struggling with major health issues in my body due to eating habits and for the past 8 months or so, I was constantly self-deprecating myself regarding it; from making jokes about being a hippo to saying I was living my best fat life. Truth is, I felt like I had no direction in life, no brand, and I was letting people walk all over me in order to people-please and now my health is at a dangerous level. In many ways, I can relate to what Lizzo is probably feeling right now because I often feel the same insecurities, and let me tell you the victim narrative gets old fast even for the person embodying it. A brand is 100% the boundaries you set for yourself AND what you value in life, and I value health. I was unhappy because I did not stay within my boundaries, it was ME who overstepped that line, and when you're angry with yourself it stays with you until you resolve it. I've taken it out on others because I struggled to deal with it, as why I talk to a therapist now. I loved this video so much!
Also, as Lizzo's new PR person, I would tell her to focus on her education and her values of the SOUL. Music is both a form of entertainment and an art and it connects back to many people's heritage and I would want/hope for her to connect to her own roots and mix it with her education to really go deep with music and the true messages she wants to share about positivity. That's where values of the soul come in, because everyone has soul values that go beyond everyday things like how we look and what people say about us. How does she feel about religion/spirituality? What sounds make her happy? Make her sad? Empower her? What are some things on her bucket list in life? What mark does she truly want to leave on the world, even if she was in a vacuum? Two things I would ask her not to do anymore would be to respond to every little bit of criticism or to make dramatic declarations as a result (kind of a two-in-one request here), and to stop posing in mounds of food, not only is it distasteful, it gives an image of gluttony in one of the worst ways. It's not so much about gluttony being a sin but it's more about the theme of 'never enough'. She can never have enough food around her, she can never have enough praise, there will never be enough. A third thing I would ask her to START doing is to work on charity, because there's people who'd be happy for a sixteenth of the food she poses with, and it doesn't have to be anything about money, when you give your time to others, it means the world to them that you're giving one of the most precious things in the universe to them!
When I heard lizzo was quitting music what I thought was she's going to take a year off maybe two lose a ton of weight and do the big comeback. Look how good I look here's my new music. She's going to try to reinvent herself because she is miserable and tired of gaslighting herself. Good for her
Shallon, I only open YT to watch your videos. Please don't ever stop shooting us straight, your videos inspire me to cultivate resilience and strength❤
ahhhhh very telling that, according to you, someone who calls out hostility and body shaming supposedly lacked something in their childhood development, and not the one celebrating and spreading hostility and body shaming :) so your "humour" and your intellect are on the same level :) stay blesed, sis :) @@salamander8301
ahhhh yes, because the one calling out hostility and body shaming and bullying is the one who had an insufficient childhood development, and not the one who celebrates it :) your sense of what constitutes a good childhood is even sadder than your sense of what constitutes good humour :) @@salamander8301
Pink is so your color, but oh my god, this brightness of pink in a slightly less blue, little warmer shade. Are you kidding me, I think your eyes would sparkle so bright that we need sunglasses to watch your videos
1. She should get outside in nature! Go hiking. It feels amazing and it’s fun. 2. Focus on talent and making music. 3. Therapy. 4. Find ways to help less fortunate. 5. Surround yourself with people who love and support you, not yes men.
I just love you Shallon. As a young woman who feels so lost and unsure of myself at times you always make me feel like I can do anything and I aspire so much to be like you when I am older. You are the embodiment of everything I want to be in a woman - beautiful, accomplished and so sure of herself!! Thank you for your videos 💞
.... and also super crazy. Or who the hell knows what's really going on in that business.? That's why we need 2 just enjoy their work & try not to know about their personal lives.
Shallon, how is it possible that you know exactly what I’m going through at the exact time you post these videos! Thank you for your content. It has literally changed me in many ways. ❤
Honestly, bold, confident & glamorous. They're perfect. Maybe bold, confident & real. Hard to decide lol. Or bold, confident & elusive. I'm in the hospital recovering from burns & now I'm sober & plan on staying that way. I'm literally starting over & plan on changing a lot of things in my life & leaving here a changed woman in a lot of ways. And the latest videos are helping me get through this. Because I've already watched all the others lol but I definitely will rewatch a few😊❤
It‘s always easy to say „Just eat less“ when the root of the problem might lie somewhere else.. I‘ve been eating to comfort myself and supress my inner sadness my whole life. The appetite only stopped when I started to get to the root of my problems, reading certain books and going to therapy. For many obese people, as long as they don‘t face why they have to cope with food, it is nearly impossible to stop eating too much. Because many times, the comfort food gives them is actually what keeps them alive in the short-run. Don‘t want to overdramatize things, but want to emphasize that Lizzo might first and firemost need some good therapy (as many of us) 😄
I kinda feel bad for Lizzo , hating yourself is poison and it takes an incredible amount of work and self awareness to get back on track and start loving yourself , self forgiveness is the cure to a better life
I'm half Japanese, get into the culture! There's alot about containing ones self for protective and more sinister purposes. The society kinda runs on an old saying "the nail sticking out, gets the hammer" so keeping it together (at least in public) is paramount. I take what I see fit from it, without taking the bits that seem just a tad toooo toxic/self hating.
I saw Shallon's video after very long time and oh man oh man goddamn I cannot stop appreciating her beauty, her voice, her hair. Keep up the good work Shallon
I think Megan Fox needs to be in this same video. She wants to go back in hiding for being the gf that drinks her boyfriend’s blood. Yet all she’s really broadcasted about herself is that she drinks her boyfriend’s blood 🙃
@@Maree313 Megan Fox rebranded as a spiritual, twisted, dark and mysterious character who, as said by OP, drinks her boyfriend's blood (and writes emo poetry). Megan doesn't like this new image people have of her, despite having invented the image herself, hence making her comparable to Lizzo and Selena...
Shallon, first I just want to say THANK YOU for all your videos over the years. This channel has really helped me find love, confidence and success. Love you Shallon your AMAZING and so intelligent please keep making videos! Has anyone tried the style xo? I am about to try it !!
Lizzo should lead with her classical music. She could be like Beyonce in the sense of being a hard worker and EXCELLENT entertainer. Work out, get therapy s life coach something so she can feel better.
The not reacting thing vs animalistic reactions reminded me of that Dune scene with the box (Paul Atreides put his hand in the box of pain while the reverend mother kept a poison needle at his neck saying that an animal would chew off it's paw rather than endure the pain)
Oh my gosh the thing you said “Who cares, I care” that’s me when I feel my disordered eating mind take over! “I’ll eat the whole packet of cookies who cares” I CARE. You’re v right about weight and self esteem and the psychological issues behind overeating… It is so difficult to recognise it, face it and more-so to overcome it, it takes a lot of inner work and growth and finding a v good therapist. Imagine being on the spotlight and being scrutinised on top of that, it’s easier to say f it and just remain the way you are and eat your feelings which maybe is what Lizzo is doing (and lots of the body positivity ppl). Loved this vid, felt like a pep talk, agreed with all of it. 🦋🌈♥️
It is so wonderful see how far Shallon has come and how she really is changing and growing as a person, you can tell by the way she talks about others and how her empathy is helping to bring people together, grow, mature and pack build. I am so proud of you Shallon keep it up and you will keep getting everything you desire xoxo✨
I love and appreciate your videos shallon, I think I have been watching you since I’m 17 and I cannot even remember how I discovered your channel. I’m now 21 and I am grateful that you were part of my development haha. Maybe a video on how to continue with life when going through a really rough patch whilst your friends are having a lot of fun ? Also a maybe a video on whether we should believe in real love and that there is a man who is able to know about our trauma, past and insecurities or if even the love of our life who happens to be a man is still a predator and will never view us as a whole multidynamic being? I’m struggling with wanting to love a man but also hating them.
So we have actually been talking about this in the Shallontourage: whether or not you should tell men about your trauma. I have realized, through so very much trial and error, that you shouldn’t. For one, it keeps you stuck there. You can give people the top highlights, but that’s about it. Men are hardwired to fix things, and if they hear about trauma that they can’t swoop in and save you from, they feel very impotent. It actually doesn’t bring you closer, but further from each other. Work through your trauma yourself, with a therapist, and leave friends and boyfriends out of it - as hard as that is to do and even harder to hear, trust me I know. But we can’t expect other people to meet us where we’re at. We have to learn how to be our own life raft! And ironically then, we attract better friends and better men bc we’re as whole as possible!
Hey Shallon! I’ve been watching you since I was a senior in high school in 2022, when you began your weight loss journey, and I’ve been so inspired by you! I’m a little heavier than you were when you started losing weight, 190ish and 5 ‘7. At first I was pissed off you said you were fat when you started opening up about ozempic, but nah, I just didn’t want to admit I’m not happy with myself. I’ve dieted my whole life and battled with an eating disorder for most of my teen years, and even though I’m mentally healthier I still just want to be a healthier weight. Enough is enough for me. I’m wondering what steps I need to take to try to get on ozempic or a semiglutide? I workout 4-6 days a week and eat healthy, and besides starving myself I just can’t lose any more weight. I’ve been plateaued at around a 20 lb weight loss for a year now. Your story made it sound so easy to get your doctor to listen to you and just shoot you straight. My blood tests show issues that point to a thyroid or autoimmune disorder but they’re not definitive. I’m left feeling like a bother to my doctor, and not fat enough to warrent a diabetes drug despite being BMI borderline-obese. How did you get them to listen to you and stand up for yourself through the process? While I admire your “no-fucks-given” attitude, I’m not quite there yet. Any advice you have would be amazing! Thank you!
good point. Not reacting is uncomfortable. Dieting is uncomfortable. Maybe she has a trauma/ problem with being uncomfortable. Many people take the "I so what I want" as having no manners or discipline
i love what you said about the fat-thin & gaslighting thing cuz i have been near or at “underweight” my whole life & only when i’ve been “normal” bmi a several times due to extreme depressive episodes & addictive eating & hated myself becuz of how i knew i was living (NOT becuz of how i “looked”) & was 30-40 lb over my normal baseline - only then - would ppl leave me alone about my “eating disorder” but what tf about my addictive eating & depression & lack of work etc? they Def will gaslight you about your weight to try to make u gain wt & ppl would say im crazy if i say this but i guess thats what gaslighting is… ty for explaining this in words i’ve been looking for for a long time it’s gone so far as putting me into situations where i end up depressed & start overeating cuz of what ppl think etc then inevitably worse depression it’s just a awful cycle i believe no one should comment on others weight besides the Dr who sees a direct health ISSUE & gives weight as a legitimate potential cause of the issue
She would have not been signed without displaying all of these entitled, narcissistic and unhealthy behaviors...they wanted her to be in the public eye this way...its all by design. This is very telling of the so called "industry". I hope she comes to this realization. 🥺🙏🌹
If lizzo really wanted to focus on just music and be known for that without her body being the main subject then she wouldn't go around twerking in a thong. Look at Adele, she was a heavier set girl for a while but ppl were in awe of her voice and talent, her body wasnt the focus because she was clever with her brand. Ppl took her seriously because she didnt make the mistake Lizzo made of defining herself by her setbacks and she didnt act like a victim instead she had a quiet dignity and strenght because she let the voice be the thing that is at the forefront and was more conseravative with the outfits so that the actual talent had more room to shine. Sure some idiots still critqued her but it was mostly bigger girls who were angry when she actually lost some of the excess weight. Its not a perfect system sadly no matter what women are still going to be judged on their looks instead of their talents but that can be mitigated to a degree.
Did you see Rebel Wilson’s comments about Adele avoiding her? Soooo narcissistic of her to think that Adele was thinking that much of her in the first place. If I saw Haley Bieber IRL and she ignored me I wouldn’t automatically think it’s because I remind her too much of herself LOL!
Hi Shallon, you are one of the women I really look up to and inspire me the most! ❤ I think I discovered you in the pandemic, I’m not sure but I watched all you videos and I was delighted to find someone who is this interesting and on point on youtube. Writing to you from Transylvania/Romania, I am not in the position to enter the shallontourage right now but I really want to in the near future ❤ 😊 Ps: my favorite topic is the warm/cold blooded animal and especially taking notes from Rihanna the queen 🎉
In three words, my brand is graceful, innovative, and artistic. 2 things I will start doing for my brand: 1) Sharing more art 2) Being more consistent with my fitness routine. 2 things I'm going to stop doing 1) Going to kinda trashy places 2) Cluttering my feed Bonus 3) Being critical or condescending
Is Lizzo sitting in a tub of skittles?? 😂😂😂 She quits every 3-5 business days. I also think she’s losing popularity because of the lawsuit and the decline of body positivity.
Agreed Shallon 100%. I am fat and I fucking hate it. I have never had as many health issues and it's never obstructed my life as much. You realize how many things you took for granted before you became fat as I was healthy for over 2/3 of my life. People who say they are happy fat and are way bigger than me are lying to themselves and others.
I did this personal experiment because I was gym rat and marathoner and I was insecure to though & now matter how fit or miles I achieved I never was fulfilled. I could never be happy or celebrate my marathons or reaching my weight loss goals …. IT WAS FOR OTHERS adoration and feelings. Like I was never enough and as it bothered me that … now people will tell me I obsessed with being healthy…literally went crazy and I was like let me get really heavy and see how people liked me and that’s when it came to me like what fuck am I doing to myself???? What about me and how I feel? This was after gaining 20 pounds and getting horrible acne …. it was really the most tired I felt and i looked at myself and I was like I don’t look healthy and not good. Like ptsd ? I have lost the weight! I have never felt so free from not caring about people’s comments of me and so in that way I feel for Lizzo.
I do not recommend asking me for feedback because I will literally give you advice, advice that will work & it usually ends up with a prediction that has a 10/10 success rate. It’s why I get very annoyed when it’s not taken & I’m left with thinking I told you so but are you looking to stay in this problem to play victim or get help & actually make a change. You gotta choose or stop complaining to me about it 😂🤷♀️
It’s the difference between her and Adele! Adele is taken way more seriously because she never made a joke out of her weight, she just was what she was and we all fell in love with her amazing vocal power
Have you apologised to the Princess of Wales as yet? Or sued H & M netflix for naming you? Am I right in thinking, both of these 'stunts' were to provide you with clicks... 🤔
“Bc if you don’t know who you are, someone out there will try to tell you. And it will be to their advantage” dAAMmnn girl! I wasn’t expecting to go to church today. Preach it sister 👏
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Have you not heard that? It is soooooo true. It's fine to help others in work but also have a dream and goal for yourself too! xo
As a classically trained flautist (now retired) myself, speaking professionally, Lizzo is an incredibly gifted flautist. She has an incredibly tone and technical ability which requires decades of intense training. When I heard she was a flautist I assumed it was like how a lot of celebrities blow their extra-curriculars out of proportion but she is actually really. REALLY good. I WISH she would lean into that more. She deserves a lot of respect and admiration for her actual talents, what is really important, not just the way her body looks.
PREACH HONEY!!! And wow what an incredible achievement for yourself! I used to play the flute when I was in middle school… Hated every second of it. Musicians absolutely blow my mind with the dedication it takes!
She’s so misguided. I really want to see her win, but it starts with REAL self-love + getting some real people surrounding her. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I hope she figures it out.
Well said @@TheGoodLifeStarterPack
As someone who played two instruments and SUCKED at them both (music isn’t my ministry) I absolutely can appreciate a hardworking, gifted musician when I see them. She’s so much more than her body - the level of grit and dedication it takes to be a regular working musician, never mind a world-famous one, is to be respected. It speaks to inner qualities that are grossly undermined by clown behaviour and online tantrums.
@@gcopeland442 you truly said it perfectly! I wish she could see that and start operating from there. She’d have an even bigger career!✨✨✨
Confidence is 'I'm fine if you don't love me'. PREACH
That hair and pink color on you here- real life Rapunzel! 😍🩷
Yes we need a hair tutorial
Right! Shallon knows her colors! So beautiful!
@@angelinaperea6253Yeah I believe she’s a spring 😊🌷🌻🌸 warm, muted colors (dusty pinks, golden hair, warm pinks, greens, muted yellow tones etc.)
Yess her hair are so shiny@@dianas.86
Hmmm no that's not the right hue of pink for her
When a man pisses me off (from his own wrong actions), I never give him the luxury of calling him crazy. You don’t have to quietly take the mistreatment but don’t blow up. Men expect us to go crazy because they associate our emotionality with how much we care for him. So the opposite logic applies. If you don’t get emotional, he will think you don’t care… and then that will make him spiral.
This!!!! It’s truly the best way to deal with someone who wants a reaction out of you
Edit: Never give him the luxury of calling ME crazy
Obesity increases the risk of cancer, heart disease, and pretty much every other major killer. I constantly see fatfluencers saying “you can’t look at someone and know if they’re healthy”… um if you’re obese, yes you can. If it hasn’t caught up with you yet, it will.
so true. i am fat right now and it sucks!!! i got fat due to menopause, wine, sedentary work schedule, no exercise, terrible eating.....being sad. NO WAY does this feel good or normal or in anyway a goal. I am working on this as I am so afraid of what will happen to me. I am 250 and 5 10 and want to be 175. sucks.
@@CarolynCressette you’ll get there! I think it’s awesome that you want to make a positive change. That’s already half the battle. I lost 20 pounds in 3 months with intermittent fasting and just being a little more consistent with my excercise. Walking is amazing for fat loss.
I take every opportunity to talk about how happy I am that I’ve lost 50 pounds. I am 4’10 I was 153 try to picture it. I couldn’t breathe I couldn’t cross my legs my blood pressure was at stroke level. And you’d NEVER catch me saying that I’d want to go back to that. EVER. I have so much confidence now, I JUST started buying clothes that fit my body now I was still wearing the sweaters I wore when I was big, the sweaters I wore to hide the body you could still see. My blood pressure is excellent I can work out without feeling like my heart is going to give out and I can cross my mf legs. Idk what it is about the leg crossing but that is something small that makes me inexplicably happy.
Also shallon I love you “mehs” they make me smile lmao
omg. THE LEG CROSSING IS EXACTLY MY TIPPING POINT. I cannot do that right now and I am so sad I let myself get FAT. I cannot sit on the floor either. Congratulations on your success!! 50 lbs is about what I want to achieve. xo
@@CarolynCressette thank you so much! I hope that you’ll get to where you want to be, it feels very rewarding I believe in you. Trust me, I was very stubborn and set in my ways, but if I can change them so can you!
This is so awesome! I love that you had so much progress in your life.
Shallon… this was so well timed! Thank you for the confidence boost. I’m in the midst of a level up/persona change. And the tension is REAL.
Girl me too. And sometimes our rebrand is subtle, you don’t see it from the outside. My different shift is being more patient and warm when it comes to dating. And my friends expect me to go scorched earth and even kind of cheer it on because hey, it’s entertaining and I’m usually justified and having a ballistic reaction. But they go home to their loving boyfriends and husbands and… I’m single? So how exactly is that strategy working out for me? It isn’t. So I’m shifting. And Yep, it means some people have to get comfortable with a different way that I’m moving. So sad too bad!
@@shallonlestertalking less to those friends and following Gottman methods has worked for me, hope you get what you deserve! You look stunning ❤
I totally agree with your take on masking. I heard this term for the first time in relation to autism and I was genuinely confused. Don’t we all have to mask to be in social / professional / family settings? No one can go around being 100% authentic in every setting. It’s not a thing.
Totally! I think sociopaths or autistic people take for granted that hello, normal people have to mask all the time, it’s necessary in society
Toddlers go around being themselves all the time and they tire out everyone around them!
(Please let me know if I’ve completely missed the point here btw!)
I definitely understand where you’re both coming from and agree that we all have to adopt some kind of persona whilst out in public/at work/meeting the parents etc. It is a subconscious strategy that humans develop whilst growing up to connect with others around us, and I think everybody appreciates this, whether or not they’re aware of it. However, the difference with autistic people is that masking is really exhausting for them and can cause high levels of distress, whether that distress be depression, anxiety and/or suicidal thoughts and tendencies. Masking does not tend to have the same effect on we non-autistic or neurotypical people. The world is not adjusted to the way autistic people think and act, so they often feel a great level of pressure to hide their true selves to fit in and conceal behaviours which others may perceive as “weird”, e.g. stimming and special interests. Autistic people may also struggle to develop their true identities as the pressure to fit in causes them to have little time to behave like their true selves or engage in the activities they want to engage in. There is an unconscious bias throughout society regarding neurodivergent people - autistic people are judged more harshly by non-autistic people whether or not they are actually aware the individual in question is autistic. I’m not sure how masking affects sociopaths or psychopaths, so I might do some research on that🧐
Yeah, everyone has to mask to an extent but as someone who works with autistic children, it is a different ballgame for autistic individuals. They constantly strive to behave in ways that come naturally to non-autistic people, often to the point of burnout
Absolutely. Contrary to popular advice, we have to be aware of our environment in order to thrive socially. Life is not a movie, and there's a diffence between idealism and real life.
The face
The hair
The top
The background
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The background is too chaotic...
So am I tbh I want my surrounds to be representative
the intellect 🍒
Agree with everything but the top. It's not the right colour and it makes her look bigger than she is
My 3 words for my brand.
Clean,
Classy,
Charming.
People can say whatever they want about you, Shallon but they could never say you don’t work hard. I just saw you have over 1000 videos on RUclips. You’ve been consistent over years of time (probably no matter what you were going through.) That is respectable as hell!!! From one hustler to another… respect 🫡
Shallon talk about the JLo situation the lies about the block and the hoops earrings lol
The pep talk I NEEDED! So to make a long story short, I've been struggling with major health issues in my body due to eating habits and for the past 8 months or so, I was constantly self-deprecating myself regarding it; from making jokes about being a hippo to saying I was living my best fat life. Truth is, I felt like I had no direction in life, no brand, and I was letting people walk all over me in order to people-please and now my health is at a dangerous level. In many ways, I can relate to what Lizzo is probably feeling right now because I often feel the same insecurities, and let me tell you the victim narrative gets old fast even for the person embodying it. A brand is 100% the boundaries you set for yourself AND what you value in life, and I value health. I was unhappy because I did not stay within my boundaries, it was ME who overstepped that line, and when you're angry with yourself it stays with you until you resolve it. I've taken it out on others because I struggled to deal with it, as why I talk to a therapist now. I loved this video so much!
Also, as Lizzo's new PR person, I would tell her to focus on her education and her values of the SOUL. Music is both a form of entertainment and an art and it connects back to many people's heritage and I would want/hope for her to connect to her own roots and mix it with her education to really go deep with music and the true messages she wants to share about positivity. That's where values of the soul come in, because everyone has soul values that go beyond everyday things like how we look and what people say about us. How does she feel about religion/spirituality? What sounds make her happy? Make her sad? Empower her? What are some things on her bucket list in life? What mark does she truly want to leave on the world, even if she was in a vacuum? Two things I would ask her not to do anymore would be to respond to every little bit of criticism or to make dramatic declarations as a result (kind of a two-in-one request here), and to stop posing in mounds of food, not only is it distasteful, it gives an image of gluttony in one of the worst ways. It's not so much about gluttony being a sin but it's more about the theme of 'never enough'. She can never have enough food around her, she can never have enough praise, there will never be enough. A third thing I would ask her to START doing is to work on charity, because there's people who'd be happy for a sixteenth of the food she poses with, and it doesn't have to be anything about money, when you give your time to others, it means the world to them that you're giving one of the most precious things in the universe to them!
This may be the pest pep talk I’ve ever received. I needed this more than I realized, thank you.
🥹🥹🥹 thank you!!
When I heard lizzo was quitting music what I thought was she's going to take a year off maybe two lose a ton of weight and do the big comeback. Look how good I look here's my new music. She's going to try to reinvent herself because she is miserable and tired of gaslighting herself. Good for her
I feel sorry you
I feel sorry FOR you
Not the tinker bell part “ she’s like tinker bell she needs claps to stay alive” I’m crying laughing
Shallon, I only open YT to watch your videos.
Please don't ever stop shooting us straight,
your videos inspire me to cultivate resilience and strength❤
Azalia banks also called her 'fat lizzo' and told her to 'get off the hipster rapper shit abd go play some Stevie Wonder flute shit'🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love her
very telling that you love open and unneccesary displays of hostility
@@marykay7878 it's very telling you dont have sense of humour. Not lived as a child?
ahhhhh very telling that, according to you, someone who calls out hostility and body shaming supposedly lacked something in their childhood development, and not the one celebrating and spreading hostility and body shaming :) so your "humour" and your intellect are on the same level :) stay blesed, sis :) @@salamander8301
ahhhh yes, because the one calling out hostility and body shaming and bullying is the one who had an insufficient childhood development, and not the one who celebrates it :) your sense of what constitutes a good childhood is even sadder than your sense of what constitutes good humour :) @@salamander8301
I don’t like Azealia Banks
Pink is so your color, but oh my god, this brightness of pink in a slightly less blue, little warmer shade. Are you kidding me, I think your eyes would sparkle so bright that we need sunglasses to watch your videos
I was eating pie while watching this video and was about to get a second piece at 2:07. Thanks shallow, girl’s got my back and doesn’t even know it.
Shallon* 🤦♀️
41:00 *
1. She should get outside in nature! Go hiking. It feels amazing and it’s fun. 2. Focus on talent and making music. 3. Therapy. 4. Find ways to help less fortunate. 5. Surround yourself with people who love and support you, not yes men.
*Lizzo came out and said she is currently on a weight loss journey for her health. She also criticised body positivity*
Watching this at the gym gave me even more motivation to work out.
I just love you Shallon. As a young woman who feels so lost and unsure of myself at times you always make me feel like I can do anything and I aspire so much to be like you when I am older. You are the embodiment of everything I want to be in a woman - beautiful, accomplished and so sure of herself!! Thank you for your videos 💞
i went to an incubus concert and they brought her out to play the flute during one of their songs. it was amazing!
She could have an incredibly lucrative and lower-stress career just focusing on collabs.
Honestly we need more outspoken and proud women like you
Shallon I couldn’t stop thinking how GORGEOUS you look today! Your hair, makeup, and top all look so good!
Shallon can you please to a video on a Azealia banks. She's such a unique individual. ❤
I love her so much Soo talented so crazy so intelligent and super ballsy
.... and also super crazy. Or who the hell knows what's really going on in that business.? That's why we need 2 just enjoy their work & try not to know about their personal lives.
Yeah shallon do a video on how Azalea sacrifices chickens Santeria style in her closet
Wrong Azealia is scum
Shallon, how is it possible that you know exactly what I’m going through at the exact time you post these videos! Thank you for your content. It has literally changed me in many ways. ❤
Did anyone think, she was actually quitting! I was like sure you are, eye roll 🙄!
Honestly, bold, confident & glamorous. They're perfect. Maybe bold, confident & real. Hard to decide lol. Or bold, confident & elusive. I'm in the hospital recovering from burns & now I'm sober & plan on staying that way. I'm literally starting over & plan on changing a lot of things in my life & leaving here a changed woman in a lot of ways. And the latest videos are helping me get through this. Because I've already watched all the others lol but I definitely will rewatch a few😊❤
I force my husband to listen to you, and deal with his problems. Thank you Shallon.
Feeling Bad for your hubby
Your hair is GORGEOUS
I would have said “Reduce calorie intake” and “Wear classier, less revealing clothes” if I was Lizzo’s agent.
It‘s always easy to say „Just eat less“ when the root of the problem might lie somewhere else.. I‘ve been eating to comfort myself and supress my inner sadness my whole life. The appetite only stopped when I started to get to the root of my problems, reading certain books and going to therapy. For many obese people, as long as they don‘t face why they have to cope with food, it is nearly impossible to stop eating too much. Because many times, the comfort food gives them is actually what keeps them alive in the short-run. Don‘t want to overdramatize things, but want to emphasize that Lizzo might first and firemost need some good therapy (as many of us) 😄
I kinda feel bad for Lizzo , hating yourself is poison and it takes an incredible amount of work and self awareness to get back on track and start loving yourself , self forgiveness is the cure to a better life
I'm half Japanese, get into the culture! There's alot about containing ones self for protective and more sinister purposes. The society kinda runs on an old saying "the nail sticking out, gets the hammer" so keeping it together (at least in public) is paramount. I take what I see fit from it, without taking the bits that seem just a tad toooo toxic/self hating.
I saw Shallon's video after very long time and oh man oh man goddamn I cannot stop appreciating her beauty, her voice, her hair. Keep up the good work Shallon
I think Megan Fox needs to be in this same video. She wants to go back in hiding for being the gf that drinks her boyfriend’s blood. Yet all she’s really broadcasted about herself is that she drinks her boyfriend’s blood 🙃
Girl what?
@@Maree313 Megan Fox rebranded as a spiritual, twisted, dark and mysterious character who, as said by OP, drinks her boyfriend's blood (and writes emo poetry). Megan doesn't like this new image people have of her, despite having invented the image herself, hence making her comparable to Lizzo and Selena...
Hey shallon! Can you do a video on your time writing for Gossip Girl? I'd love to hear about your contributions to the show!
Shallon, first I just want to say THANK YOU for all your videos over the years. This channel has really helped me find love, confidence and success. Love you Shallon your AMAZING and so intelligent please keep making videos!
Has anyone tried the style xo? I am about to try it !!
Lizzo should lead with her classical music. She could be like Beyonce in the sense of being a hard worker and EXCELLENT entertainer.
Work out, get therapy s life coach something so she can feel better.
The not reacting thing vs animalistic reactions reminded me of that Dune scene with the box (Paul Atreides put his hand in the box of pain while the reverend mother kept a poison needle at his neck saying that an animal would chew off it's paw rather than endure the pain)
Literally had the xo xo gossip girl line running through my head because of your xo wall art)-- too funny!
Oh my gosh the thing you said “Who cares, I care” that’s me when I feel my disordered eating mind take over! “I’ll eat the whole packet of cookies who cares” I CARE.
You’re v right about weight and self esteem and the psychological issues behind overeating… It is so difficult to recognise it, face it and more-so to overcome it, it takes a lot of inner work and growth and finding a v good therapist. Imagine being on the spotlight and being scrutinised on top of that, it’s easier to say f it and just remain the way you are and eat your feelings which maybe is what Lizzo is doing (and lots of the body positivity ppl).
Loved this vid, felt like a pep talk, agreed with all of it. 🦋🌈♥️
It is so wonderful see how far Shallon has come and how she really is changing and growing as a person, you can tell by the way she talks about others and how her empathy is helping to bring people together, grow, mature and pack build. I am so proud of you Shallon keep it up and you will keep getting everything you desire xoxo✨
I love and appreciate your videos shallon, I think I have been watching you since I’m 17 and I cannot even remember how I discovered your channel. I’m now 21 and I am grateful that you were part of my development haha. Maybe a video on how to continue with life when going through a really rough patch whilst your friends are having a lot of fun ? Also a maybe a video on whether we should believe in real love and that there is a man who is able to know about our trauma, past and insecurities or if even the love of our life who happens to be a man is still a predator and will never view us as a whole multidynamic being? I’m struggling with wanting to love a man but also hating them.
So we have actually been talking about this in the Shallontourage: whether or not you should tell men about your trauma. I have realized, through so very much trial and error, that you shouldn’t.
For one, it keeps you stuck there. You can give people the top highlights, but that’s about it.
Men are hardwired to fix things, and if they hear about trauma that they can’t swoop in and save you from, they feel very impotent. It actually doesn’t bring you closer, but further from each other.
Work through your trauma yourself, with a therapist, and leave friends and boyfriends out of it - as hard as that is to do and even harder to hear, trust me I know.
But we can’t expect other people to meet us where we’re at. We have to learn how to be our own life raft! And ironically then, we attract better friends and better men bc we’re as whole as possible!
@@shallonlesterthank you so much 🥰
Actually in LOVE with the background PLEASE keep the JB photo haha. ☠️☠️ 💙
This was a perfect start to the week, thanks for the pep talk.
honestly how could anybody hate you? I think you're super charismatic and lovable. much love from a moroccan fan
Hey Shallon! I’ve been watching you since I was a senior in high school in 2022, when you began your weight loss journey, and I’ve been so inspired by you! I’m a little heavier than you were when you started losing weight, 190ish and 5 ‘7. At first I was pissed off you said you were fat when you started opening up about ozempic, but nah, I just didn’t want to admit I’m not happy with myself. I’ve dieted my whole life and battled with an eating disorder for most of my teen years, and even though I’m mentally healthier I still just want to be a healthier weight. Enough is enough for me. I’m wondering what steps I need to take to try to get on ozempic or a semiglutide? I workout 4-6 days a week and eat healthy, and besides starving myself I just can’t lose any more weight. I’ve been plateaued at around a 20 lb weight loss for a year now. Your story made it sound so easy to get your doctor to listen to you and just shoot you straight. My blood tests show issues that point to a thyroid or autoimmune disorder but they’re not definitive. I’m left feeling like a bother to my doctor, and not fat enough to warrent a diabetes drug despite being BMI borderline-obese. How did you get them to listen to you and stand up for yourself through the process? While I admire your “no-fucks-given” attitude, I’m not quite there yet. Any advice you have would be amazing! Thank you!
29:05 "Elizabeth and her sensible shoes" 😂😂
good point. Not reacting is uncomfortable. Dieting is uncomfortable. Maybe she has a trauma/ problem with being uncomfortable. Many people take the "I so what I want" as having no manners or discipline
Oooh, Lilly is a QUEEN. That necklace and gown at 35:58 🥰👑
i love what you said about the fat-thin & gaslighting thing
cuz i have been near or at “underweight” my whole life & only when i’ve been “normal” bmi a several times due to extreme depressive episodes & addictive eating & hated myself becuz of how i knew i was living (NOT becuz of how i “looked”) & was 30-40 lb over my normal baseline -
only then - would ppl leave me alone about my “eating disorder” but what tf about my addictive eating & depression & lack of work etc?
they Def will gaslight you about your weight to try to make u gain wt & ppl would say im crazy if i say this
but i guess thats what gaslighting is…
ty for explaining this in words i’ve been looking for for a long time
it’s gone so far as putting me into situations where i end up depressed & start overeating cuz of what ppl think etc then inevitably worse depression it’s just a awful cycle
i believe no one should comment on others weight besides the Dr who sees a direct health ISSUE & gives weight as a legitimate potential cause of the issue
Justin Bieber in the background, may I say I loved his style and hair in this era! 😍🥰
AND LOVE your hair Shallon! Chefs kiss!!! 💋
Just from me losing 10 kg I have become so much happier, and I am planning to lose an additional 15
You look so pretty Shallon ❤ Hope your having a nice day and thanks for making this video :)
Honestly this comment made my day
Ooooooh I’d love you to dissect more of Lily’s personality and traits- I agree we could all learn a lot from her ❤️
She would have not been signed without displaying all of these entitled, narcissistic and unhealthy behaviors...they wanted her to be in the public eye this way...its all by design. This is very telling of the so called "industry". I hope she comes to this realization. 🥺🙏🌹
Now you’re cookin, girl! Smart cookie 😏
If lizzo really wanted to focus on just music and be known for that without her body being the main subject then she wouldn't go around twerking in a thong. Look at Adele, she was a heavier set girl for a while but ppl were in awe of her voice and talent, her body wasnt the focus because she was clever with her brand. Ppl took her seriously because she didnt make the mistake Lizzo made of defining herself by her setbacks and she didnt act like a victim instead she had a quiet dignity and strenght because she let the voice be the thing that is at the forefront and was more conseravative with the outfits so that the actual talent had more room to shine. Sure some idiots still critqued her but it was mostly bigger girls who were angry when she actually lost some of the excess weight. Its not a perfect system sadly no matter what women are still going to be judged on their looks instead of their talents but that can be mitigated to a degree.
Did you see Rebel Wilson’s comments about Adele avoiding her? Soooo narcissistic of her to think that Adele was thinking that much of her in the first place. If I saw Haley Bieber IRL and she ignored me I wouldn’t automatically think it’s because I remind her too much of herself LOL!
Shallon, you look so beautiful and glowy these days ❤
Oh thank you!
Hi Shallon, you are one of the women I really look up to and inspire me the most! ❤ I think I discovered you in the pandemic, I’m not sure but I watched all you videos and I was delighted to find someone who is this interesting and on point on youtube.
Writing to you from Transylvania/Romania, I am not in the position to enter the shallontourage right now but I really want to in the near future ❤ 😊 Ps: my favorite topic is the warm/cold blooded animal and especially taking notes from Rihanna the queen 🎉
Shallon I have loved you since years but this video really speaks to me! Thank you for always pushing us to utter greatness 🩷🩷🩷
Love what you did with the backround ❤
In three words, my brand is graceful, innovative, and artistic. 2 things I will start doing for my brand: 1) Sharing more art 2) Being more consistent with my fitness routine. 2 things I'm going to stop doing 1) Going to kinda trashy places 2) Cluttering my feed Bonus 3) Being critical or condescending
Lmfao the title made me laugh so hard you're so funny shallon, you remind me of my sisters
Tu maquillaje está impecable! ❤
My Brand: Growing - Glowing - Inspring
Mine - Trustworthy,consistent and ruthless
I love all of these 🙌🏻
Shallon what do you do with your hair it looks so good
Love the Venus et Fleur in the background. 😊🌹
Loving the pink shirt with my entire soul 💗
I was waiting for this one 😉
"Let's shred Lizzo"
My immediate thought: This shouldn't be hard 😂
But seriously, great video and that top is *mwah*
I LOVE YOU MOR EKNOWING YOU WATCH SHOGUN!!! I AM OBSESSED WITH THAT SHOW
Is Lizzo sitting in a tub of skittles?? 😂😂😂
She quits every 3-5 business days. I also think she’s losing popularity because of the lawsuit and the decline of body positivity.
Do you have any thoughts on Halsey's new boyfriend Avan Jogia?
Shallon this blouse is so pretty you look beautiful ❤
Oh thank you!
Old-school, positive & loyal
The hair is sooo good Shallon
The justin biber photo ahahaha love it
Agreed Shallon 100%. I am fat and I fucking hate it. I have never had as many health issues and it's never obstructed my life as much. You realize how many things you took for granted before you became fat as I was healthy for over 2/3 of my life. People who say they are happy fat and are way bigger than me are lying to themselves and others.
Post to Apple Podcasts again please Shallon🩷🩷
I did this personal experiment because I was gym rat and marathoner and I was insecure to though & now matter how fit or miles I achieved I never was fulfilled. I could never be happy or celebrate my marathons or reaching my weight loss goals …. IT WAS FOR OTHERS adoration and feelings. Like I was never enough and as it bothered me that … now people will tell me I obsessed with being healthy…literally went crazy and I was like let me get really heavy and see how people liked me and that’s when it came to me like what fuck am I doing to myself???? What about me and how I feel? This was after gaining 20 pounds and getting horrible acne …. it was really the most tired I felt and i looked at myself and I was like I don’t look healthy and not good. Like ptsd ? I have lost the weight! I have never felt so free from not caring about people’s comments of me and so in that way I feel for Lizzo.
She like tinker bell u have 2 keep on clapping 2 keep her alive..LOVE IT..TOO FUNNY LOL 😅😅😅
You look so vibrant
“Ok I’m back” in that accent had me crying 😂😂😂
I do not recommend asking me for feedback because I will literally give you advice, advice that will work & it usually ends up with a prediction that has a 10/10 success rate. It’s why I get very annoyed when it’s not taken & I’m left with thinking I told you so but are you looking to stay in this problem to play victim or get help & actually make a change. You gotta choose or stop complaining to me about it 😂🤷♀️
FACTS! I LOVE THIS VIDEO - I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS TODAY❤❤❤
Thanks for this one and I love your hair 💕
I know some people who need constant attention whether it's positive or negative, toddlers
My three words are honor, intellect, and grit… Lol I probably take myself too seriously 😂
Your hair looks bomb Shallon! Love it 🥰
You should really choose Shōgun for Shalliterature!
It’s the difference between her and Adele! Adele is taken way more seriously because she never made a joke out of her weight, she just was what she was and we all fell in love with her amazing vocal power
Brilliant video as always!
This was SO spot on
Shallon, I’d love if you can make a video on Limerence
Have you apologised to the Princess of Wales as yet? Or sued H & M netflix for naming you? Am I right in thinking, both of these 'stunts' were to provide you with clicks... 🤔
She is just now talking about the Princess of Whales.