Fiancé's Family Called Me a Gold D*gger, So I Told Them the Truth About My Fiancé's Unemployment...
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- Fiancé's Family Called Me a Gold D*gger, So I Told Them the Truth About My Fiancé's Unemployment... Now They Want ME To Apologize For “Ruining Dinner”.
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Dude was a walking red flag since the very first date... smh
Saw a shirt on Instagram the other day that said “my taste in men is a form of self-harm”. Seems to apply 😭😭
Legit
No shit, like a Chinese parade.
@@wickedashley LMAO THESE SHIRTS THESE DAYS ARE SO WILD BUT SO TRUE YESSS!!! i LOVE the ones on amazon, I am petty and love it ^^ ONe of my favorites is: " I'm a multitasker, I can listen, ignore, and forget all at the same time!" lmao!!!
In fact! A man who treats you bad from the beginning without trying to know you, that's a "run flag".
I really think he just tried to use her....
This story:
"Man rants like a psychopath on our first date then i married him. Now it turns out he sucks."
Blowing money on weed when you've got no job would've had me shipping him back to mommy really damned fast. Nope--she let it drag on too long.
Her perception changed? She saw reality. When she said he was an artist, but was dependent on mom and dad's money even though he was working, I thought "oh hell--he's gonna suck as ANYONE's relationship partner. Get out now!"
You would get further than I would xD
@@morganablackwater2017 Odds are I wouldn't even let it get that far, but substance use is where I'd have to lay out the tanks & barbed wire boundary: no way in hell & I'm pushing 'em into the sea. I'm a square, I admit it, but I get furious when I see someone complaining about not being able to afford basics or needing to beg for food, but they manage to have enough to buy cigarettes, booze, weed, etc. somehow. Addiction sucks, but priorities, man. Survive and strive over numb comfort.
It's not his fault it's his fiance's fault and his parents fault for speaking like that to the one who didn't do anything to you.
During the first 2 minutes: "why is this man-child being referred to as fiance? If I had a first date like this it would be the only one."
Im sayin like how tf do you marry someone like that. But I can see where he’s coming from, however he’s being somewhat brutal abt it
I can see it, too but he is being rude under the disguise of separating the grain from the straws. Then telling her she should not take his parents words to heart but not defending her if they cross the line?
At least she left his lazy ass, better late than never.
I would get up and change the table the moment he started his delusions abot women being after his money.
You know start away the dude is worthless and toxic
Forreal. I get light chatting about finances, but he literally went into a full-blown tangent from some small talk; it is normal to ask what your date's career is to get to know them. I feel like OP shouldn't have gone through this monster in law torture but she brought it upon herself with her red green colorblindness when seeing his flags.
Fiance is a bum and spoiled brat. 1st date would have been my only date. Op brought this dumpster fire on herself.
he needed to MAN UP and do right by his lady
heart eyes are very blinding /:
She was young and naive. It's gross that OP dated someone that much older than her 🤮
@@anitaramirez4427 exactly,,, whats wrong with women his own age???? ick.
@@666venus women his age aren't stupid and naive anymore so none wants him... Thats the ultimate truth about old men hitting on young women.
Chris isn't sad he lost his love. He is sad he lost his suger momma.
The Shymalan Twist: he was the golddigger all along 😂😂😂😂
Wait, she continued to see him AFTER that train wreck of a first date?! Was she desperate? 😂
This or determined to proof herself worthy.. But very likely desperate.
She was 20. Of course she would ignore red flags. Couldn't even drink legally.
@@kumikor3392thank you for reminding us her age. She it does make things different. I kept thinking how immature she was... yeah the behavior makes sense.
Also the guy was 9 years older. Feels a bit inappropriate considering she was only 20, not even 25
@@personwithaquestion1800 men in his age hit a wall with women they age - older women are smarter and more experienced with people... Women his age know hes crap xd
Generational wealth that they didn't earn, yet they questioned everything about the finances and schooling of others? Rotten snobs.
Snob- sine nobis.
Sadly that is normal for those types of rich people.
Red flags from the get-go. How the OP found anything in him is beside me.
It's probably his looks and her feelings she found. Feelings and hope make the decisions. She wised he would become what she wants him to become eventually to justify her feelings
fr fr, if this bum can get a second date after the disastrous first we all can
Sometimes you'll meet someone that's a mesmerizing with their douchiness. You are engrossed in same way the macabre or occult attracts people. She wanted to figure him out, find out if there really was more under the surface. She found out there really wasn't.
She's pathetic willing to be generalized as a possible gold digger on the first date and became a fiance that screams pathetic.
Why did you even date him? He's 9 years older, and I don't think it's because he likes younger women, I think it's because women his age see through his BS.
If this is true, then it's mostly ops fault. You knew he was a dick on the first date, but you thought this would work out.
Especially since he perked up and opened more once he realized she had money. That was all he cared about
Love is blind
Yeaaaa. I try not to victim blame… but damn
@@bluewolf1795no it’s not. Let’s stop using that phrase
These are the types with the “I can change him” type of mentality. SMH!
After the first date and the first encounter with Chris' parents, it's all you need to leave him.
She said, that her boyfriend was a freelancer, so how did he lose his job? In general that sounds to me like an episode of things that never happened
Sounds like videogames or movie industry. Many artists there work as freelancers, and are hired on a per-project contract basis, often paid after the fact. Could be that, or some entertainment-adjacent industry like movies/TV shows. If that's the case - no surprises there. I know a bunch of guys who work as freelance artists, and the majority of work they do is for a singe client company, who always have new work ready - until they don't anymore.
So it could be the case with this guy, he'd do some contract stuff as a freelancer until the company hit some struggles and decided they wouldn't resign him for more projects. I used to work like that for a while, and that was exactly the reason why I switched to a full-time job as soon as I got the chance - relying on a big client is only good while they stick around, the moment they don't you're stuck without any income.
Yo, she explained it
I mean shes dumb enough to keep seeing this dude after first date... I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't knew how freelancing works and just put it wrong.
Freelancer if bad at the job will eventually lost contracts and its equal with losing a job... Even worst.
Also freelancers may be lucky and work for longer periods with one contractor so who knows...
@@leazimridaniels8552 she explained it in a very shitty way if you're a freelancer you can't get fired from a company because you don't work for a company you're a freelancer. She clearly said he was fired so the story doesn't add up
Wow, OP should really put someone else in charge of her dating life! This man had more red flags than a communist parade and she let it go this far? Damn!
“More red flags than a communist parade” got me 😂💀
biggest red flag to me is that a 29 y/o would be getting with a 20 y/o in college....ew
That's not a red flag.
@@RockyAliTyson1 it is
@@RockyAliTyson1if it was a 30 and 39 yo couple, that's ok. A 20 yr old who is still developing and an almost 30 man.... yes, it's a red flag
@@RockyAliTyson1 sounds like a pedo
@@RockyAliTyson1 A 20 yo broke college student is not in the same headspace as a 29 person with an established career
Ya i gotta be honest, why Op even continued THE FIRST DATE is beyond me.
Like Op legitimately didn’t mention a single positive thing about this guy (besides his cousin lol) in her entire post.
It's pretty obvious. Age.
She was 20 years old and he was almost a decade older. She clearly was naive and he is just gross.
She heard all that on the first date and thought "YUP that's boyfriend material! What could possibly go wrong?"
I can't get over this... Like WHAT
So, it is ok that they were embarrassing her but she's got to come back because he and his idiot family felt shame? Girl, thank goodness you ran.
That was predictable asf. Treat anyone and everyone outside the family like shit but as soon someone claps back? Oh boy side the sirens cuz someone commited a cardinal sin
The way he talked to her on the first date sounded very much like manipulation. It was weird to hear that he didn't seem all that interested in relationships even though he was on a literal date. And he practically insulted her for being a college student and buying a $2 cake. Both people in a relationship are supposed to work as a team. If you don't want a job, then there's the home that needs to be taken care of. If you don't want to do that, then get a job. You're both adults!
From the first question about the cake, i was already cringing. Why why why would she keep seeing him??? Goddam she must've a low self esteem.
'In love with him'? o_O Did I miss something? That first date at the most blind and generous is a 'maybe he has some good qualities... Deep... down?'. Because all the hostility, insults and put downs after she payed for herself unprompted were completely unnecessary. And it doesn't seem there was anything good about him after. Not even personality or trying to make her feel loved
She was 20 and dumb. I give her grace
She got shown every red flag in the book during THE FIRST DATE yet decided to be with him fot 5+ years??? That's definitely a choice 😀
Ngl that's on you for giving this walking red flag a 2nd date
6:43 girl read your own text. Break up ❤️And she needs therapy. Bc the boyfriend is a walking red flag and she needs to learn to have self respect
Girl if a man saying that on the very first date, i’ll excuse myself and run as fast as i can
Same I will take my coffee and cake and leave 😅 sounds like a broke bum that cant afford to date and inmediatly screams gold digger when he cant afford to go out .
The red flags run through the whole family
Bro, I'm barely past the first date bit and this guy sounds like the worst.
I can't even get trough first date description cause I already want to flip the table so many times there is no table left AND SHE STAYED THERE
i don't get how she didn't just get up and walk away with her starbies in hand after he said all that shit on the first date
So, so many of these stories get to the point of being stories on Reddit because they have gotten that out of control, all could have been avoided or mitigated if the OP didn’t fear being alone. Ladies, gents, and nons; for the love of whatever you hold sacred do NOT fear being alone. It is not the hell you think it is or have been tricked into thinking it is. You are far better off alone than with someone who makes you feel alone, neglected, taking for granted, and optional. Be alone. Fear is their problem, not yours.
OP was young, so of course she had the patience and money to deal with dumb shit. 🙄 That first date was MORE thab enough to make someone run
2 years? I would never. Rather work at a fast food joint than be unemployed for 2 years
Unless I missed something, I think the writer forgot the fiancé moved in. Why would the person who owns the house leave?
No they didn't own the house. It was rented. Remember how she said he paid half the rent but not much more for living expenses?
@@personwithaquestion1800 I think I missed that.
He was a bright red, glowing red flag and OP ignored that so hard
What💀
The first date was a red flag and I would have hoped right out of there when he got upset over ordering a piece of cake
25f and 34m?? 🚩🚩🚩
They started dating when she was 20 and got engaged when she was 22?? 😂
I am so disgusted by this trope of older men dating younger women only to say at the end such bullshit as "I had no idea you felt this way" or "you've not the girl I fell in love with" no shit Sherlock! You fell in love with a child! The brain isn't fully formed until 25 years old 😅
Instead of keeping a rotation of 20 somethings grow up and work on yourself so that women your own age will find you attractive enough to marry.
(If people your own age are "too old" then you may want to reflect on that wording)
*edit* women are guilty of this too, I only used the example in the video.
You should've kicked him out. Also who is the user/profile of OP?
The guy was useless from the first meeting and she still chose to marry him.
I don't feel sorry for the OP
"Working class family" - "Dad is a business man and when his business took off we had a nice comfortable lifestyle" Those are mutually exclusive, you're either working class, ie. your parents work hard for small monetary returns or you're middle class where your business is comfortably supporting you. You can't be both. I've been both and there is a stark difference.
This story was ridiculous from the very beginning.
Op is not the sharpest tool in the drawer... Bet she thinks that since her parents work it mean they working class
I would guess this didn’t take place in America tbh or that she meant that her family was initially working class
the guy is a red flag from the first date
> I come from a working class family
> my dad was a businessman
lmfaooooo
Sometimes i wonder why we get into relationships with these miranara flags
Because love is color-blind, sadly.
OP ended up having luck.
The guy stopped pestering her after a while, her ex-in-laws paid back the money she spent on the actual gold digger, and she got rid of a toxic family(sans the duaghter that seems to be the most level-headed person there, which is surprising considering how the rest of that family is).
Sounds like time for a restraining order
In the first Two minutes I am already going "how did this relationship even get to the point of marriage"
Should’ve left a looong time ago
She wasted five years of her life when she should’ve seen it on day one
and never EVER accept the whiny little boy 'I wannaaaa taaaaallllk' .. they can be dangerous.. very dangerous. do NOT trust them. if you have to try that route, go to a public place. busy restaurant
If I did the math right,she was 19 and he was 28 when they met? Red flag already,first date awful.... why would she keep dating him?....
Who TF gives a guy a second date after a first date like that? Then to keep going and meeting his family and they acted like that but he was too much a p to do anything.
Is she TRYING to find misery?
Fiance's parents calls her a gold digger and yet, the ex is actually the gold digger.......oh the sweet irony. 🤦
Ok the most important things to me about a person is how they treat:
1 women
2 poor people
That judgmental ass tangent would have me running the other way, and I believe that whoever asked the other person out should be paying
If some fool tried to blackmail me like that, I would ALWAYS call their bluff.
It's why I made myself a personal set if rules before even dating.
1. I need to meet my own standards. If I expect someone else to be fit, I need to be fit.
2. I need a long-term job. No work, makes me like Chris and how I am now. Lazy.
3. My own place. If I have something like that to encourage me to keep a job, then I should be fine. Also personal space away from people
4. 50k saved. This will be the hardest part. Saving 50k. Working overnight at walmart. And not spending any of it would take me 2 years and some. So this is more so a side objective.
1-3 are requirements, while 4 is to ensure that I'm ready to take a step like that. The whole point of setting these for myself is to not become more of a burden than I already am to those around me.
That 50k savings its a lot hope you make it... But general rule is good...
Plus being single is good too - I met my partner after 35 and we happy together now...
No need to rush - well unless you want kids that probably be a lots of hassle
@@morganablackwater2017 ty, and i hope you've ended up with a good life as well
Dude was a CCP parade. Then again, this guy was OP's best (and potentially only) "friend", so there's probably something wrong with her too.
Red flag I would leave cuz if he can't keep a job I would not screw up a life I have just to go down in the drain.
'it is easier to dump a mama's boy/daddy's girl than to divorce one'
He was so concerned about not having a gold digger wife yet shares he has generational wealth on the first date. What a great strategy 😮
Why did she leave HER home? Her place!?
So his family can insult and shame her but if she retorts she is suddenly a villain? Yeah NTA but it was a stupid decision to date him.
JFC YOU STILL DATED HIM EVEN WHEN HE ACTED LIKE THAT IN THE FIRST DAY OMG
i accidentally made it all cap but too lazy to retype lol
After the first date, jobless boyfriend, toxic family, and it took you five years?
I think OP might actually have been a gold digger. Why else would someone subject themselves to all of that? Maybe she just finally realized the juice wasn’t worth the squeeze.
And to be clear, the family and fiancé are still terrible people. But they might have been a blind squirrel finding an acorn 😂
Can you seriously not say digger anymore?
Ps: how the hell did you get passed the first day with that simp
I’m not saying this to victim blame. I’m saying this because YOU are the adult in this situation. YOU have the power of self-analysis and the ability to change course. This Man-child does not. If there is even One major red flag during your first few encounters, leave the situation immediately and break off communication. YOU’RE the only one responsible enough to do the adult thing. Don’t be nice, don’t placate. Leave.
1 Corinthians 15:1-4
Authorized (King James) Version
15 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand; 2 by which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain. 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 4 and that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
Oof. In the end, it sounded like the father did care about his son if he was willing to pay and ask the woman who ‘insulted’ their honor.
Dude is spoilt. This family should realize that there really is more to life than just money. You’re rich, hooray! Now be better! Raise your kids as good humans!
You have the time all of us lack because we live paycheck to paycheck. Geez.
He showed all the red flags on the first date, and she still went for it? That's on her at that point. Maybe have better standards next time? Lmao
Edit: "My parents would've definitely asked me to reevaluate my relationship and our future, which I knew they would be right to do"
In other words, you wanted to stay dumb and delusional and actively chose to stay with this bum. Good job, lady.
He gave you that kind of first date and made the nasty remarks he did and you actually went on another date with that piece of crap and got engaged to him and are acting like this was a surprise?!? How delusional can someone be?! Lmfao!
And stop getting with people while secretly hoping that they will change, stop trying to change people or thinking they will change over time. NO! When you are with somebody, you are with them as they are, it's common sense at this point... which this person obviously has none of.
What a joke.
women: **dates a duke commit, tall, mature, respects you and your family, very funny, very nice looking** not for me.
also women: * sees a walking 🚩🚩🚩* okay!
Oh, I have a funny story...
I had an ex threaten suicide while I was breaking up with him.... He picked up a pistol off the table next to us and held it to his sternum.
He didn't know that when he was in the bathroom and I was waiting for him to come out so I could break things off, I saw that pistol on the table and picked it up.
It looked real but too light, wrong barrel, ammo, it was a very low powered BB/pellet gun. Not a real firearm.
So when he picked it up and held it to his sternum saying if I didn't stay he would pull the trigger.
....I quickly reached over, snatched at it, pushed my finger into the trigger guard and pulled the trigger.
He jumped, squeaked in shock and probably a bit of superficial pain and stared at me with wide eyes and mouth opening and closing like a fish out of water, as I left.
To this day I'm not sure if he realized I knew it was a BB gun or if he thought that I pulled that trigger believing it was a real firearm.
It he really was concerned about gold diggers then telling his dates his family is wealthy is stupid, just say what you make especially if it’s low and you will chase off the gold diggers. I know a guy who works for McDonald’s high up in the company and told women he work in the kitchen at McDonald’s and found a real one ❤ married for 20 years now
Says he does not wanna be with a golddigger
Becomes the golddigger
God entering Earth Chat and slapping down that BIG uno reverse card 😂😂😂😂😂
Damn that’s depressing. She was basically all he wanted:
not a gold digger
Strong and Independent
Self reliant
I would assume other stuff as well and he completely fcked that up. I refuse to believe someone could fumble this badly
Biggest AHs are the ILs. Despise mfs like that. Care more bout their image than actually being just good people in general.
Don’t wanna see excuses for Chris cuz Jackie was brought up in the same environment as him but she knew how to be a better human being
Op brought this worthless garbage into her life. The very second he got all worked up over 2 dollar cake should have been a major red flag and should have ended the date right then and there. But no lets get engaged to him instead yeah!... -.- Also why did Op say he seemed to be more like himself? First date? How the hell do you know the "more like himself"? lol
How pathetic is the OP in 1 really that dude didn't send up red flags he sent up all of the fucking battalion of red flags and OP was like he's so dreamy I'll look past all the generalizations about woman that aren't me obviously hehe pathetic.
My ex’s family was like that. Especially his mother. Didn’t help that they were white and I am Hispanic which caused his mother to say racist stuff regularly to me.
Dude realized that generational wealth isn't necessarily up for grabs in a divorce right?
Like an ex-spouse can't lay claim to a share of the family trust fund the way they can to a retirement account or a salary. You'd pay a settlement *maybe* and spousal support *maybe* and then continue right on being a trust fund baby
Why did she even go on a second date if he thought she was a gold digger based on a $2.00 piece of cake? WTF?
12:49
"AITA for le-"
"Nope."
For some reason, alone, I blurted the word out immediately hahahahahah
I’m 1 minute in and I’m trying to figure out how this man even got a 2nd date. I don’t feel bad for OP, she got herself into this mess. She must be color blind, because those red flags were huge.
He claims women are gold diggers then proceeded to grill her on her wealth?!? 😂 Mommy issues!!
Ooohhhh thats a man child. And OP, im sorry i wanna root for you, but girl you decided that he was worth a second date. None of the money in the world makes him worth it.
Like, you know that saying about dress for the job you want and not what you have? That, but with money. Act better than what your money says your supposedly worth.
🎶cuz he’s feeling suicidal suicidal ohhhh🎶 fr though Chris has watched to much Andrew Tate
Me in the comments section not being disappointed. Like that first date was the red flag guy running back and forth in a field. 🚩I'm trying to work out what she heard in that first date to say yup imma keep this one. Girl you wrote it down and it still sounded bad.
Obviously fake because of inconsistencies. Whose appartement are they living in ? In the beginning it's hers, then it's his.
Ok she was 20, she’s dumb when it comes to love. Probably her first relationship. I’m so sorry for her after hearing them whole story of how she wasted her youth on a bum.
I'm a guy and I find this clown as a big red flag from the beggining. I know love is blind but boy this one went with an ice picker right for the eyes...
I do like that they communicated in the end including op and the ex-fiance ended things on a good note. Though if someone I dated treated and did THAT to me even after trying to encourage him to get a high paying job I would have left the relationship earlier.
I do agree that the partner should've gotten a job but also thinknis bs how this standard is only upheld for man 🤷♂️
Oh to be young and stupid. The moment she said he smoked weed and didn’t work, I knew how this would go. I wish I could go back and tell my younger self not to waste time on losers.
So it's ok for you to git all 18 wheels and he can't be put in the fire. Then they can all get out of your life. It saids like you can do way way better. You don't need a man baby. There a good man out there for you.
dinner is only not ruined by them first because OP is politer than they are. If they reacted half as politely then dinner would've been just fine
Op is to blame but Chris seems to be very manipulative like threatening self harm those people are like chameleons hiding their colours they would probably fool most of us
To be honest I would not have gone on a second date .. the man was a walking giant red flag. Must be blind to miss that one (I've had blind dates like him, I even walked out on some of those)
Hell I'm physically and mentally disabled in college and I know better than her ex
This is kinda on you. What person would Willingly have another date after that absolute train wreck of a first date
Why would you come to Reddit of all places to know if you need to end a relationship this bad to the point where both your fiance and his family are literally trying to bully you into literally apologizing like I don't get white people who post these stories act so stupid in that situation it's not like a gun's right in front of their face while they're being told this and the guns being put back into the person's pocket or something maybe I can understand that idea of intimidation on asking the internet on what to do in a more logical sense and then on top of that why the fuck with this person decided such a great idea to stay with somebody this long especially on the first date showing why you shouldn't even have thought of being this person's fiance in the first place
hmm seemily otherwise inteligent woman.. misses red flags so obvious they must have given her a concussion from hiting her on the first date. sure.. thats believable
Man I started watching this and thought the age gap was the biggest red flag here! Boy was I wrong… lmao