@@halolime117 so you don't know people who buys a new iPhone each year? You Don't know people who travel to expensive places when they could have gotten similar experiences elsewhere? You don't know people who buy branded clothes? It's everywhere :)
@@alexanderwindh4830 he lives under rock presumably. But being serious, entire mainstream culture is about that logic that is presented in above quote.
When we look at party pictures, and so called friends enjoying and having a great time- without us, it feels like we are dispensable. That feeling of not being needed is what drives FOMO. So having a strong sense of self worth, not needing approval from outside source and understanding that actually nobody out there really cares much about each other either, can help in reducing the lonely feelings. Loneliness is all in the mind. I have realised that one can be lonely even with hundreds of ‘friends’ in the best party, and not feel alone even when sitting and having coffee in your own house, without anybody present except your self. It’s all about perspective, which unfortunately can only come with age and experiences.
"Comparison is the thief of joy" this why I had to stop going on social media. I know I have that tendency to focus on the things I don't have rather than what I do. I can tell that I am abundant in the things that I possess in experiences and actual possessions.
Still you do not realize what social media is nor it's meaning. You have not stopped yet. Embrace the vastness of your own ignorance only then will you realize you cannot possess anything.
The fear of missing out is probably more like the fear of regret. We're always seeking to get more and more from life thinking that it can improve our current situation and regret makes us sad because we envision what could've been rather than what is.
Find content in the moment you occupy. Time is the only thing you can spend you can never get back. No matter how much time you spend You can never get time back again
I know this to be more accurate then the clip itself , it´s the fear of regretting something , so what to do about it? I still some times wonder "what if´s" or "should I & if I don´t" did I miss something I would´ve regretted had I not...Simple but good point
@Dirty Magic11 I see your point , however, would you have let´s say for example , (since I don´t go by what you mentioned , social "norms" is bs) you get info that someone who you were very close to wants to talk to you and you put it off because you think well next time ...then find out later that someone died...And you would have to live with that for the rest of your life ...
Nothing, you miss out on nothing, everything is in your mind. You become what you think of, I personally thought I was missing out on partying, sex, pop culture lifestyle but it turned out they were the were the ones who missed out on the beauty of the cosmos and the creation.
True but you have to remember that you have to work and that is no joke. You don't get the best things in life without fighting for it, thus FOMO has also its use. If you just sit on your ass, do nothing, look at the wall / sky and wonder, then guess what - nothing is going to happen! The way I see it, you have to constantly fight for a good state of mind by cherry-picking the very best opportunities that life has to over. Otherwise, you will end up with the worst opportunities that life has to offer. There's no middle ground, you are all in no matter what you do or don't do. It's as simple as that.
@@True38 The best things in life may actually be after this life. Yes we all have to work towards goals, and some may not be readily visible to the casual observer. What may be a great achievement to some, may look like a total failure and a total waste of time i from another individual's perspective.
How do you know they weren’t enjoying the beauty of cosmos along with what they were doing to have fun? You seem to be rationalizing their actions to make yourself feel better..
I love how Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism and Nihilism can easily deal with modern day issues. For example, FOMO fades away under the light of these isms. ☸️⏳☯️🚫
The part about 'what if there are no parties, what if there's a virus..' really resonated with how I felt through this past year and now when the world has opened up. It's like this pressure to be out and do things with random acquaintances every weekend when the weather is good. Just last night I went to 4 different bars, joining different groups, just like countless other out doing the same, drunk to the point of making any sense in their small talks. I feel much better when the weather is bad, rainy and I know everyone would be home so I don't feel any need to do anything than just be. During the Covid lockdown too, I had a peaceful good time doing the things I love inside my home but with the summer reopening and everyone out doing things, I feel this FOMO from time to time. A restlessness in many people for doing the same pointless stuff even when they'd feel better with some quality time with themselves or just a close friend or two.
With the virus, we can feel we are missing out on so much more like trips or holidays. But you can work harder, save more money, and truly learn how to appreciate time with your loved ones.
With the lockdown it went down a lot knowing that people aren´t out but are doing the almost the same thing , being at home or going for walks , simple things ....
We must think what we are afraid to miss out on. When you mentioned the fear of missing out on war I thought about the boys that went as far as to lie about their age to get to the front in WWI. They were genuinely afraid of being the only one in their group who hasn't been to war. The nightmare and absurdity that awaited them was never something worth seeing.
I had a FOMO of reading books as nowadays everyone reads so much across different genre but I stayed honest to myself and accepted that this isn't my thing, so I started playing competitive video games again something which truly satisfies me
@@Sebastian-rr3hf I mean I am in college and I am studying course which I like so already academic books are good enough for me and its not that I don't read anything at all, sometimes I read some books on medical sciences
FOMO is something I've being working on moving past for a while now. I remember hearing a quote that went something like "If you're not happy with what you have, then you'll never be happy with what you get". That quote stuck with me and is usually at the forefront of my mind if I'm feeling anxious. However, the realisation that I'm not missing out because everything will eventually decay and not matter has formed a new problem, where I feel like everything is futile. My motivation to move forward has never been lower because I've lost all reason to aim for anything. It's making wonder if FOMO is actually necessary to make you feel alive and purposeful.
I guess the balance might lie in not comparing our lives with others as it is the main cause of FOMO and also working towards certain goals that you truly wish for yourself ... we are here to live our lives and experience different things despite knwing that one day we will go back to the stars :)
I really dislike how everyone says, "live each day like it's you'r last, for you never know when it will end". Thats complete, utter bullshit! For me its just the opposite, that you can actually kick it, do nothing, be unproductive and still be happy! Wow, you DONT have to be this amazing do-it-all and have an extraordinary life. Not to say that those thing aren't good (I've traveled the world, done some very, very, very strange and crazy shit), but to realize that just cruising through life, being grateful for the opportunity to wake up and just go through the motions in a peaceful, curious manner. people get too worried that they're not living their lives...then go live! DO all that crazy shit, and you'll realize that you don't need that stuff. Just find a balance. Yes, you should live a lot of life like its gonna end, but live even more of it knowing that you don't have to worry about "living". Just relaaaaaaaaaaax...breathe.......and look up!
Yup. Nothing is so good or so bad at it seems. Maybe ten years ago I was really eager for travel and meet foreigners, but now that I've done it, I can say it is not big deal. People is people everywhere, we share almost the same issues in every point of the world and traveling is really nice, there are awesome things, but also the daily and ordinary life, have amazing things to experience and appreciate.
Wow, exactly what I needed to hear at this very point of my life... I thought I was the only one with this kind of mindset and there is absolutely not a single soul around me to agree with these thoughts of mine.
Yeah I agree with you. Having to live every day like you won't be able to experience anything the next is an impossible amount of pressure to put on a person. Also, if I was to be hit by a bus later today and killed *knock wood* then I'm not exactly going to be thinking "Oh what could have been if I'd achieved all my dreams this morning!" while they're scraping my barely recognisable corpse off the road.
It’s so exhausting to live like most people. I've been there; after years of suffering, I came to an understanding, I found peace and love. Thank you❤️
@@Soulfulboy1111 Hi. Years ago, I immigrated to the United States from an old soviet country. I was young, inexperienced, and alone. Growing up in my country as a child, I rebelled against everything - how teachers treated students, how the systems and organizations controlled everyone. Traditions didn't make sense to me. I couldn't do anything by rules, always did everything my way, and got in trouble a lot. I was, of course, forced to live by authorities, but my nature rebelled. I was lost and confused. I understood what was going on with me after living in the USA for many years, working for others, doing anything to survive, trying to be in conventional relationships, trying to be a traditional woman; I suffered; I was miserable. I kept walking away from people, couldn't work for others, I suffered until I couldn't take the pain anymore until I sat down to study and understand what was going on with me. Understanding my conditioning helped me to understand others. I realized I was sensitive to how people behaved and treated each other; I realized why. This understanding allowed me to realize what absolute freedom is and to be more compassionate towards myself and others. Understanding the human condition is essential.
@@krischanlive Believe it or not there are homeless people that wouldn't like to live like most of us do. They simply enjoy their lifestyle even though they are broke af
Another gem of wisdom from this great channel. Honestly, I have no FOMO whatsoever. I just simply enjoy the moment at hand doing whatever I'm doing, whether alone or with company. I could care less about what others are doing because I'm always enjoying my own life in the present. So it's impossible for me to "miss out" on anything when I'm focusing on my own life. Also trying to compete against or compare myself to anyone else is a ridiculous waste of time. Just being myself & enjoying the moment is all I need to be truly happy.
Try eliminating what you think others want. Most times people think what they want is centered on thinking what others want and have. Don't do that! What do you want? If you do it correctly and it can be difficult due to interference from the past thinking, you'll find you don't actually want much. But the no desire crap isn't real. There's always gonna be desires. You have to own something that keeps you moving.
I think I should have said this a long time ago: your videos have helped me build more resilience to experience life more vividly. whenever I feel lost and directionless, I know that there's a safe place on youtube that can teach me invaluable lessons. I'm also diagnosed with ADHD so dealing with FOMO is extremely painful. Therapy, medication and wisdom have saved my life. I'd like to thank you for all the effort you put into this channel. You have no idea how much you've helped me over the past 2 years. Thank you.
How many material things did we deem necessary five years ago but have lost their significance in the present? For me, the answer is nothing has retained its significance five years later and it will have no significance ten years from now. (hello people from the future 2031👋🏽)
Hello past person, I’m from the future. All those things lost their value 9 years and 7 months ago from my time. And all things will get better if you move in those directions. This is true as I’m from the future. It is said, now go and multiply.
I deleted all my social media accounts 4 months ago and I'm going through FOMO and this video just pop out of nowhere and I'm so thankful for this🙏🏼❤ your video helps me and many other people in our life thank you for this ❤
Thank you so much for talking about this topic. I think this plays a huge part in my anxiety disorder. Feeling not connected with others or not being a part of a tribe or group makes me feel very anxious. And the more i try to find solutions in my head the more i suffer. There are moments when I am just happy with my own company, like when i read a book or eat alone in a restaurant. It feels so good without anxiety. But usually i cannot hold it for too long. Social media definitely plays a major role for me since it triggers the feeling of not belonging. It has been a painful journey with this anxiety but it becomes more and more fruitful
You are saying this, regarding "you don't miss much not going to parties / drinking" Well, there are more important and transcendental things that we missed out in life, bad decisions... Like not going for that degree at a better time in life, not having children... It is not always addictions or teen silliness..
Woah, that's a very different perspective to look at FOMO, and it isn't discussed as much as it should be ;( most discussions of FOMO are based on superficial and short term desires that are triggered by social media, I guess that's because they have the largest target audience. It would take someone who's more experienced in life to talk about those deep-rooted fears.
Right now, I'm regret not making a better decisions with my education and I'm now stuck with labor jobs. Also, not going out of my comfort zone to make new friends and now I'm alone....
marcus aurelius was an absolute alpha or an "übermensch", what a man! he's my idol, I think anyone who adapts his way of looking at life can develop great inner strength and become truly self-confident, maybe even unshakeable.
@Santiago González Díaz i would not say hated, more like disagreed with them on some stuff. Actually he had tremendous respect for the stoics, and even his philosophy of embracing one's fate called "Amor Fati" is fundamentally stoic. Hope that was informing!
I must thank you so much for everything. You help me so much, you can't even imagine! Thank your for your words and your work 💕❤️🤗 Thank you brother ❤️💕💯 Luv from Hanover (lower Saxony)
Everyone has different reasons for FOMO. I could care less about what others are doing. My fear is that I'm missing out on something that could add happiness to my life. My childhood was like a war zone where there was very little happiness. Because of that, my mind believes I have to grab happiness anywhere I can because it's precious and it could be gone at any time, even though my life is great now.
I used to walk into the library and be discouraged by all the books I could never ever read, so would leave with no books in hand. It has taken me a long time to understand that I can't do all, or be all. It's caused me a lot of pain, it's damaged my self-esteem, and at times my ability to function properly. I know now that I'm simple and that what makes me feel satisfied changes daily. I go much more with my own flow now and am much more peaceful.
@@JunguianPhantom I think, for the most part, we all die alone. Living alone is more difficult, but even then for most of us (I believe) there is a deep need that we think others can fill, but they can't. I have come to believe that the ultimate challenge of life is learning to befriend, respect, and appreciate one's self (not in some narcissistic way) but in the gentle, humble, and quiet way that would have come very naturally had the feelings and motives of others, along with our pressing need to please not have interfered. None of us who have majorly struggled to achieve, fit in, be liked/loved can ever be fully healed...that would take a complete memory wipe, but I do think that we can find some peace and contentment by acknowledging that our own existence has meaning, purpose, and value in ways that may not be currently obvious. The piddling advice I would give to you, my friend, is to be patient with yourself. Provide to yourself the respect and love you deserve. Increase your interests...find stuff to do or learn about that really stimulates your thoughts and feelings about life and passing the moments beautifully. Push yourself, as you are able, to conquer your fears while remembering that it is you in control. Your perception is yours and yours alone...no one will ever see through your eyes and determine what is beautiful and right, or the opposite. Smile, let yourself smile and feel content and peaceful. Do all of this for the potentially loving friend that resides within you and has been waiting for your attention. Remember, even the most famous music and movies are about loneliness and dissatisfaction. It's the way of the material world. Sorry my message was long.
It's crazy how I used to look down on philosophers that lived a long time ago as people that don't have a clue what mordern life is like or how to deal with it. I was so wrong.
It's interesting how comparison works both ways for FOMO. It gives rise to the fear of missing out... comparing what we have to what's more out there, what others have. And it also can break the pattern... showing us how much value something would have in our life a few years from now versus how much we value it right now.
I love your channel, especially how you put an emphasis on the importance of just “being” rather than becoming more. Please continue this amazing work!
I left college after my first year, because of many struggles in life. I worked for 5 years and choose to isolate myself. I didn't post about my jobs and I don't accept my classmates in hs and college requests in my social media accounts. I hate and I self-pity seeing them continues their lives and studies. Also, my boyfriend left me, I think because he's doing great with his career and I am not. I'm totally missed out by them. And one day, I realized I'm still 22, I want to pursue my studies. I started watching videos on youtube to motivate me and be compassionate with my life. I reflect on myself and I realize that I have no control with anything, I should not self-pity and just enjoy the present life. No matter how slow at least I see changes in my life.
I sort of had a big shock as of recent. I had a really big FOMO but I realize that life brings you everything you need to succeed and that the future is better than the past. We all enter this world for a time and we have a departure date that is coming. In between, everything you need to do will be done so you don't have to worry about missing out and however insignificant you might think your life is you don't have to worry because it's going to all play out just the way it's supposed to. I realize that now later in life and I was so worried about things that when it actually happened, I realize that everything that the reason we all suffer is because we don't allow whatever supposed to happen actually happen or we try to be something that we're not.
Very well put for those who contemplate. I have experienced the negative aspect of FOMO, the inner self pushed me to the experience which ruined my mental health.
This really makes it seem like the cure for FOMO is depression. "Worried about missing out on exciting things? Remember that most things actually suck and none of this will matter when we die. The only certainty is that things will just keep getting worse and even those who seem happy are secretly dying inside. Give up on everything and await the merciful touch of death. " Imagine that being said in a Ben Stein type voice.
Another proof that social media is such a cancer, Im glad I only have instagram left and drastically reduced screentime. It really does improve overall mood. Eventually I will completely abandon it too and appreciate what around me than anxiously compare my life with others.
I really needed this today, as I've been longing for a trip that I know deep down I simply don't need to take, money-wise, time-wise and physically demanding. SIMPLIFY!
Another amazing video i love listening to these just before bed and contemplating and comprehending the lesson and meaning of the video it always puts me into a nice deep sleep
It’s important to be aware of FOMO. If you are not you might do a lot of things just to not be the only weird one who missed out. In fact it could be fun to be the weird one, who does something else. If you do it on purpose and with a conscious mind it makes you feel so independent!
Happiness does get greater by seeking it, it becomes greater by being content with less and appreciative of what you have all while still being happy. This is the way.
I definitely felt this post...Instant Gratification vs Delayed Gratification.. Social media, have many depressed and living in a false sense of reality!
I think a lot of people's so-called "FOMO" would disappear or cease to be problematic if they could learn to understand and accept their decisions fully as well as schedule their lives better/more effectively. This way, people wouldn't feel they were "missing out" so much nor feel sorry/regret what they were currently doing.
The problem is I am feeling that I am missing out on life .. I had to leave a secure and well paying job... At the moment I‘ve no family... I’ve to put up with a constant fear of being disrespected at my new work place... along with the challenges of work life politics...I want to quit my job and take a break but I’m not confident enough if I I’ll find another job again.... Everyday I feel that I’m missing out on LIFE...
I can't get enough of this. I read a book with a similar topic, and I couldn't get enough of it. "Reclaiming Connection: The Journey of a Digital Detox" by Joshua Ember
I counted every good thing in my life right now i just realized i never dreamed or planned about them.i dont remember predicting or dreaming about getting them
The fear I have of missing out are things that doesn’t cost money. But I realize it’s as irritating as things that do cost money. I fear missing an interesting author, or musician. Or a scientific article in the newspaper. That kind of things. So, now I go further listening to your remedy.
I love to be in my four walls, on my comfortable couch, in the internet watching channels like this... If I am not there, I feel like I am missing out. The outside is an illusion.
My FOMO is on never getting a stable career or finantial security. I know death will take me and my loved ones, so I have no fear of it, but indeed I await it, I know it will release me from my pain. Money and stability are the things that I want, to take care of my parents in their last years, because I know I will never have children of my own, or a wife, nor true happiness in a significant way, but if at least I can provide for my parents, I can die happy the day after their passing (I know that for sure: I will take my life someday)
i missed out on my high school farewell, trips, parties, college clubbings happily. My friends would always point out how boring and introverted i was. But that's that the truth. I never really cared about things I didn't value even before i turned a stoic. If you know what you value the friction in letting go of everything else becomes zero.
This is also the reason why it seems people whose children died during disasters or wars took it "better" than, say, people who lose their child to cancer or car accident nowadays. It doesn't make the loss any less. But at least they know they are far from alone in their loss - an experience that is probably the worst anyone could endure.
Hi , mr Eienzelganger , just wanna say you are my favourite youtube channel , and I love your content . Thank you so much for sharing these informative ideas and concepts , and diffrent way of living from different communities of Rome , Greece , Nepal , China , Japan and of course India. Keep posting ;)
I had a full life of fun social events when I was younger, but as I've aged, I no longer participate or engage in socializing. I actually feel satisfied watching from the sidelines. Or perhaps from a detached perspective. You aren't missing out if you're comfortable being in your own corner of the universe. Life doesn't always have to be sad when we're not busy doing things with others. Don't worry about it, just make plans for yourself. If you're not there, you're probably somewhere else, so why not just stay where you are?
Tonight i felt that it takes me more courage to stay home on a satudrday night, doing homework and drawing, than going out with friends to a club to get drunk and star awake until very late. A few years ago, when i was a teenager or in my early 20's, it was the opposite. It required a lot of effort for encourage myself going out to a party or something. I think that as i am aging, i really just want to liv a simple, boring, peaceful life, doing what i really love, which is, most of the cases, something that implies being alone or just with the few people i love. But then the FOMO attacks, and it tells me that this is not the lifestyle that the real people should be living, that i should be doing what everone is doing because that is part of the mandatory life experience, that there are thing that are mandatory, for example, that you should use your 20's living a lot of excess. I think that we should really define ourselves and what we really want, like, and love to do in order to avoid this FOMO
Currently on the path of sagehood; it's hard and I still have a lot to work on despite these past years of learning by intuituon. I know I may never be a fulfilled sage, but regardless I know the path is worth taking.
@@Munkaa written Einzelgänger on it. I learned a lot from the videos. In other words, these lessons changed my life. I seek happiness within me and not in the outside world anymore.
All these *"incredibly happy people"* that seem to enjoy Life _"the proper way"_ , are just living life only in one dimension. This unilateral way of Living will eventually come back at them, ussually in the way of dull lives and an unability to see themselves in other people's shoes. And at the same time: focusing on one thing, should not be the way we call sulking in a basement
Excellent video, but please be aware that ‘problem drinkers’ or those who abuse substances have often reached a stage where the prefrontal cortex-the ‘reasoning’ part of the brain, responsible for executive functions-is effectively bypassed. According to modern neurological thinking, substance use eventually becomes driven by the midbrain, which is driven by instinct, and circumvents rational thought.
This is me.I’ve had too much tragedy occur in such a small amounts of time. I feel I’ll never get back to a positive perspective. I’m a functional alcoholic since I was about 16. My brain can’t process the right thing to do anymore.I’m 43 now. I had many amazing years of sobriety but my ability to climb out of my misery seems to be non existent, and sobriety a constant struggle
@@jphb7730 I haven't had a drink in nearly eight years. I've had some hard times, but one thing I know is that alcohol never helps. Ever. Some of us weren't designed to have it in our lives, I don't think. I kniw many more who struggle with alcohol-related issues who don't even admit it to themselves.
@@brandonwalker7624 I agree. I have lost a few friends who refused to admit their problem with alcoholism. It’s the only substance I became a slave to…both physically and mentally
This resonates with me a lot, and at 33yo I understand this on a deeper level now. Choices have consequences over time; teens and 20s take note - focus on what you really want to do with yourself and your life and choose to work on that over nonsense 👌🏻
Instead of eliminating desires, try to notice that amount of things you do have. Though negative affirmations do work, try positive affirmations too. Be thankful and grateful for the current situation that things could definitely could become worse.
I've got to say I had this a couple of times, often generated by stories i watched on instagram, people having fun, being on vacations etc.. strikes even harder during summer break, but oh well i try my best not to feel too bad about it, i might need to cut SM for a while
You have to belong. You have to be a part of some group, to have friends, to become a part of some determined group of people. Being singular, being you, but you have to be attached to some people just to not be a lonely freak monster.
My college has been closed for more than one and a half year due to covid .I have only 1 year left of college but there's a good chance that it wont open for this year. My elder sisters always talk about their "college experience" and the memories they made with their friends that they will cherish forever. This gives me fomo. That i will never get to experience a major part of life. Never have those kinds of memories and friends. They sometimes even tease with this. But I know that I will only torture myself if I keep thinking like this. So I am trying to change my perspective. I'm going to look at the bright side here. And isnt the so called "college experience" so overhyped? When we are in college we complain about everything. And then we pass out of college and suddenly everything becomes a great memory. That's the thing about humans. We never like where we are. But I dont want to be that kind of person. Those kind of people are always complaining and are never happy with their present.
I wouldnt think to much about it, but i can understand why you would. Everyone in this existence will have a different experiences, some similar some way off. I would think more what do you have, what have you experienced. Have they lost out on experiences youve had even if they seem mundane to some? It might have grown you in another direction in life, seeing things from another perspective. I will leave with this, what is important to you? Not anyone else.
How important is college memory's to you? I had some college memory's while it was fun its just a memory you should be doing what you like now in the present instead of living in the past most of the time those friends go there separate ways and hardly hangout.fomo depends on expectations vs what most likely will happen
R E L A T A B L E af and it makes my decesions regretful for selecting college, many illusion, less friend circle and oh the frnds who brag about their college being opene even now . Sometimes life seems unfair to us. We want to change the moment at an instant but we can't. Sometimes i regret winning the sperm race You are not alone who is feeling this
im a trader and we constantly hear about fomo but thinking about fomo out of the market makes me realize ive been a fomoer since i was young. The need to have a party each weekend. I remember I felt down in a weekend when there was no parties at all... is just the same but now in the job
As was said in Fight Club:
We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like
i genuinely don't know anyone who is like that or behaves like that
It's called Instagram.
@@halolime117 you’re surrounded by very good people then
@@halolime117 so you don't know people who buys a new iPhone each year? You Don't know people who travel to expensive places when they could have gotten similar experiences elsewhere? You don't know people who buy branded clothes? It's everywhere :)
@@alexanderwindh4830 he lives under rock presumably. But being serious, entire mainstream culture is about that logic that is presented in above quote.
When we look at party pictures, and so called friends enjoying and having a great time- without us, it feels like we are dispensable. That feeling of not being needed is what drives FOMO. So having a strong sense of self worth, not needing approval from outside source and understanding that actually nobody out there really cares much about each other either, can help in reducing the lonely feelings. Loneliness is all in the mind. I have realised that one can be lonely even with hundreds of ‘friends’ in the best party, and not feel alone even when sitting and having coffee in your own house, without anybody present except your self. It’s all about perspective, which unfortunately can only come with age and experiences.
Very well said. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing!! ❤
Yes😊
"Comparison is the thief of joy" this why I had to stop going on social media. I know I have that tendency to focus on the things I don't have rather than what I do. I can tell that I am abundant in the things that I possess in experiences and actual possessions.
Still you do not realize what social media is nor it's meaning. You have not stopped yet. Embrace the vastness of your own ignorance only then will you realize you cannot possess anything.
Like Seneca said "we suffer more in imagination than in reality"
yes
The fear of missing out is probably more like the fear of regret. We're always seeking to get more and more from life thinking that it can improve our current situation and regret makes us sad because we envision what could've been rather than what is.
Find content in the moment you occupy. Time is the only thing you can spend you can never get back.
No matter how much time you spend
You can never get time back again
Well Said!
I know this to be more accurate then the clip itself , it´s the fear of regretting something , so what to do about it? I still some times wonder "what if´s" or "should I & if I don´t" did I miss something I would´ve regretted had I not...Simple but good point
@Dirty Magic11 I see your point , however, would you have let´s say for example , (since I don´t go by what you mentioned , social "norms" is bs) you get info that someone who you were very close to wants to talk to you and you put it off because you think well next time ...then find out later that someone died...And you would have to live with that for the rest of your life ...
The fear of fear itself is easily overcome with realizing that you are not separate from the everything that you are.
The more we desire to have everything, the more we feel that we have nothing.
Nothing, you miss out on nothing, everything is in your mind. You become what you think of, I personally thought I was missing out on partying, sex, pop culture lifestyle but it turned out they were the were the ones who missed out on the beauty of the cosmos and the creation.
True but you have to remember that you have to work and that is no joke. You don't get the best things in life without fighting for it, thus FOMO has also its use. If you just sit on your ass, do nothing, look at the wall / sky and wonder, then guess what - nothing is going to happen!
The way I see it, you have to constantly fight for a good state of mind by cherry-picking the very best opportunities that life has to over. Otherwise, you will end up with the worst opportunities that life has to offer. There's no middle ground, you are all in no matter what you do or don't do. It's as simple as that.
same
@@True38 The best things in life may actually be after this life. Yes we all have to work towards goals, and some may not be readily visible to the casual observer. What may be a great achievement to some, may look like a total failure and a total waste of time i
from another individual's perspective.
As we grow older, we come to realise that we really did not miss on anything.
How do you know they weren’t enjoying the beauty of cosmos along with what they were doing to have fun? You seem to be rationalizing their actions to make yourself feel better..
Glad I didn't miss this video.
I truly mean that.
I second that
I love how Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism and Nihilism can easily deal with modern day issues.
For example, FOMO fades away under the light of these isms.
☸️⏳☯️🚫
Eliminate desire and attachment and you will eliminate your suffering
I very much agree. Sufferings are generated socially
Are wah. Shabash bitiyaa 😍
Then what would you do?
That's impossible, even Buddha desire the enlightenment... But reduce them as much as possible is a good way to have a lighter and more content life.
harder than it sounds unfortunately
The part about 'what if there are no parties, what if there's a virus..' really resonated with how I felt through this past year and now when the world has opened up. It's like this pressure to be out and do things with random acquaintances every weekend when the weather is good. Just last night I went to 4 different bars, joining different groups, just like countless other out doing the same, drunk to the point of making any sense in their small talks. I feel much better when the weather is bad, rainy and I know everyone would be home so I don't feel any need to do anything than just be. During the Covid lockdown too, I had a peaceful good time doing the things I love inside my home but with the summer reopening and everyone out doing things, I feel this FOMO from time to time. A restlessness in many people for doing the same pointless stuff even when they'd feel better with some quality time with themselves or just a close friend or two.
I totally think along these lines, too!
With the virus, we can feel we are missing out on so much more like trips or holidays. But you can work harder, save more money, and truly learn how to appreciate time with your loved ones.
With the lockdown it went down a lot knowing that people aren´t out but are doing the almost the same thing , being at home or going for walks , simple things ....
Jorge "Street Judas" Masvidal
We must think what we are afraid to miss out on.
When you mentioned the fear of missing out on war I thought about the boys that went as far as to lie about their age to get to the front in WWI. They were genuinely afraid of being the only one in their group who hasn't been to war. The nightmare and absurdity that awaited them was never something worth seeing.
I had a FOMO of reading books as nowadays everyone reads so much across different genre but I stayed honest to myself and accepted that this isn't my thing, so I started playing competitive video games again something which truly satisfies me
Good for you man!
Hmm, why not do both? 😁
@@Sebastian-rr3hf I mean I am in college and I am studying course which I like so already academic books are good enough for me and its not that I don't read anything at all, sometimes I read some books on medical sciences
Reading is a skill too, and needs practice. If you always need that rush of excitement to do something it can be a problem.
What game?
FOMO is something I've being working on moving past for a while now. I remember hearing a quote that went something like "If you're not happy with what you have, then you'll never be happy with what you get". That quote stuck with me and is usually at the forefront of my mind if I'm feeling anxious. However, the realisation that I'm not missing out because everything will eventually decay and not matter has formed a new problem, where I feel like everything is futile. My motivation to move forward has never been lower because I've lost all reason to aim for anything. It's making wonder if FOMO is actually necessary to make you feel alive and purposeful.
@DarkEco Yes I have contemplated the same thoughts as you. Surely there is a satisfying middleground.
I guess the balance might lie in not comparing our lives with others as it is the main cause of FOMO and also working towards certain goals that you truly wish for yourself ... we are here to live our lives and experience different things despite knwing that one day we will go back to the stars :)
I really dislike how everyone says, "live each day like it's you'r last, for you never know when it will end". Thats complete, utter bullshit! For me its just the opposite, that you can actually kick it, do nothing, be unproductive and still be happy! Wow, you DONT have to be this amazing do-it-all and have an extraordinary life. Not to say that those thing aren't good (I've traveled the world, done some very, very, very strange and crazy shit), but to realize that just cruising through life, being grateful for the opportunity to wake up and just go through the motions in a peaceful, curious manner. people get too worried that they're not living their lives...then go live! DO all that crazy shit, and you'll realize that you don't need that stuff. Just find a balance. Yes, you should live a lot of life like its gonna end, but live even more of it knowing that you don't have to worry about "living". Just relaaaaaaaaaaax...breathe.......and look up!
Yup. Nothing is so good or so bad at it seems. Maybe ten years ago I was really eager for travel and meet foreigners, but now that I've done it, I can say it is not big deal.
People is people everywhere, we share almost the same issues in every point of the world and traveling is really nice, there are awesome things, but also the daily and ordinary life, have amazing things to experience and appreciate.
Very cool insights. Thanks to both of you
Wow, exactly what I needed to hear at this very point of my life... I thought I was the only one with this kind of mindset and there is absolutely not a single soul around me to agree with these thoughts of mine.
Love your comment man! Totally agree and totally true. Things are a miracle just as is, it’s just having inner truth to oneself that suffices.
Yeah I agree with you. Having to live every day like you won't be able to experience anything the next is an impossible amount of pressure to put on a person. Also, if I was to be hit by a bus later today and killed *knock wood* then I'm not exactly going to be thinking "Oh what could have been if I'd achieved all my dreams this morning!" while they're scraping my barely recognisable corpse off the road.
As the Buddha might put it: FOMO is craving and suffering in itself. By not entertaining it, we get a lot more than what ever we might "miss out on"
Since when do you speak for Buddha
@@johnsheppard1673 When the Buddha talks about craving, he does not exclude FOMO^^
It’s so exhausting to live like most people. I've been there; after years of suffering, I came to an understanding, I found peace and love.
Thank you❤️
How you overcome it can you share so you can inspire us ?
@@Soulfulboy1111 Hi. Years ago, I immigrated to the United States from an old soviet country. I was young, inexperienced, and alone.
Growing up in my country as a child, I rebelled against everything - how teachers treated students, how the systems and organizations controlled everyone. Traditions didn't make sense to me. I couldn't do anything by rules, always did everything my way, and got in trouble a lot. I was, of course, forced to live by authorities, but my nature rebelled. I was lost and confused.
I understood what was going on with me after living in the USA for many years, working for others, doing anything to survive, trying to
be in conventional relationships, trying to be a traditional woman; I suffered; I was miserable.
I kept walking away from people, couldn't work for others, I suffered until I couldn't take the pain anymore until I sat down to study and understand what was going on with me.
Understanding my conditioning helped me to understand others.
I realized I was sensitive to how people behaved and treated each other; I realized why.
This understanding allowed me to realize what absolute freedom is and to be more compassionate towards myself and others.
Understanding the human condition is essential.
@@Ninof33 ❤🙏 wishing peace joy and love for you.
Poor is not the one who has little, but the one who craves more. "Seneca"
Tell the homeless, they will feel so much better!
@@krischanlive right
@@krischanlive you didn't get the comment
@@krischanlive Believe it or not there are homeless people that wouldn't like to live like most of us do. They simply enjoy their lifestyle even though they are broke af
You guys are cynical af
Another gem of wisdom from this great channel. Honestly, I have no FOMO whatsoever. I just simply enjoy the moment at hand doing whatever I'm doing, whether alone or with company. I could care less about what others are doing because I'm always enjoying my own life in the present. So it's impossible for me to "miss out" on anything when I'm focusing on my own life. Also trying to compete against or compare myself to anyone else is a ridiculous waste of time. Just being myself & enjoying the moment is all I need to be truly happy.
Actually surreal the timing of these videos with my own life.
Honestly it's social media so people have to flaunt to make their lives seem interesting that behind the scenes they're just like everyone else
Is that really what YOU do?
Is that what YOU do?
Try eliminating what you think others want. Most times people think what they want is centered on thinking what others want and have. Don't do that! What do you want? If you do it correctly and it can be difficult due to interference from the past thinking, you'll find you don't actually want much. But the no desire crap isn't real. There's always gonna be desires. You have to own something that keeps you moving.
I think I should have said this a long time ago: your videos have helped me build more resilience to experience life more vividly. whenever I feel lost and directionless, I know that there's a safe place on youtube that can teach me invaluable lessons.
I'm also diagnosed with ADHD so dealing with FOMO is extremely painful. Therapy, medication and wisdom have saved my life. I'd like to thank you for all the effort you put into this channel. You have no idea how much you've helped me over the past 2 years.
Thank you.
How many material things did we deem necessary five years ago but have lost their significance in the present?
For me, the answer is nothing has retained its significance five years later and it will have no significance ten years from now.
(hello people from the future 2031👋🏽)
Hello past person, I’m from the future. All those things lost their value 9 years and 7 months ago from my time. And all things will get better if you move in those directions. This is true as I’m from the future. It is said, now go and multiply.
I deleted all my social media accounts 4 months ago and I'm going through FOMO and this video just pop out of nowhere and I'm so thankful for this🙏🏼❤ your video helps me and many other people in our life thank you for this ❤
Thank you so much for talking about this topic. I think this plays a huge part in my anxiety disorder. Feeling not connected with others or not being a part of a tribe or group makes me feel very anxious. And the more i try to find solutions in my head the more i suffer.
There are moments when I am just happy with my own company, like when i read a book or eat alone in a restaurant. It feels so good without anxiety. But usually i cannot hold it for too long. Social media definitely plays a major role for me since it triggers the feeling of not belonging.
It has been a painful journey with this anxiety but it becomes more and more fruitful
You are saying this, regarding "you don't miss much not going to parties / drinking"
Well, there are more important and transcendental things that we missed out in life, bad decisions... Like not going for that degree at a better time in life, not having children... It is not always addictions or teen silliness..
Woah, that's a very different perspective to look at FOMO, and it isn't discussed as much as it should be ;(
most discussions of FOMO are based on superficial and short term desires that are triggered by social media, I guess that's because they have the largest target audience. It would take someone who's more experienced in life to talk about those deep-rooted fears.
Right now, I'm regret not making a better decisions with my education and I'm now stuck with labor jobs. Also, not going out of my comfort zone to make new friends and now I'm alone....
@@frog6054 It's never too late especially for that last one. Since you've alive, might as well start living it to the fullest.
@@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006
Well, yes, right now I'm sorting out my life, no success so far but at least I take some action.
"My life is so boring that I can't even fake it on social media".
- Unknown
Based
@@JeagerTv what does based mean
This is me. That is why mine are empty.
@@arshpreetkaur9 Same, I can't even find content to demonstrate and I don't have time and/or energy to fake stuff. This is what it is.
@@muzzammilhoosain4747 Good explanation for based is "Chad energy"
marcus aurelius was an absolute alpha or an "übermensch", what a man! he's my idol, I think anyone who adapts his way of looking at life can develop great inner strength and become truly self-confident, maybe even unshakeable.
@Santiago González Díaz i would not say hated, more like disagreed with them on some stuff. Actually he had tremendous respect for the stoics, and even his philosophy of embracing one's fate called "Amor Fati" is fundamentally stoic. Hope that was informing!
@Santiago González Díaz bushy moustache basically criticized all other schools of thought that he could; he did not particularly hate Stoicism
The GOAT, along Nietszche too
FOMO directly feed my alcohol addiction for years. This one hit in the feels …
You would regret both missing out and not missing out. Key is to estimate the risks vs benefits.
I must thank you so much for everything.
You help me so much, you can't even imagine!
Thank your for your words and your work 💕❤️🤗
Thank you brother ❤️💕💯
Luv from Hanover (lower Saxony)
Your wisdom and words are so healing to my heart ❤️ Our desire for wanting more comes at the expense of enjoying what we already have.
That line resonated with me as well. It's a very economic way of perceiving alternative pleasure.
Everyone has different reasons for FOMO. I could care less about what others are doing. My fear is that I'm missing out on something that could add happiness to my life. My childhood was like a war zone where there was very little happiness. Because of that, my mind believes I have to grab happiness anywhere I can because it's precious and it could be gone at any time, even though my life is great now.
I used to walk into the library and be discouraged by all the books I could never ever read, so would leave with no books in hand. It has taken me a long time to understand that I can't do all, or be all. It's caused me a lot of pain, it's damaged my self-esteem, and at times my ability to function properly. I know now that I'm simple and that what makes me feel satisfied changes daily. I go much more with my own flow now and am much more peaceful.
I totally feel you, in the pain and damaged self steem. But for me, I know that it will never will heal, and that I will die alone.
Past life you were a librarian and knew too much.
@@JunguianPhantom
I think, for the most part, we all die alone. Living alone is more difficult, but even then for most of us (I believe) there is a deep need that we think others can fill, but they can't.
I have come to believe that the ultimate challenge of life is learning to befriend, respect, and appreciate one's self (not in some narcissistic way) but in the gentle, humble, and quiet way that would have come very naturally had the feelings and motives of others, along with our pressing need to please not have interfered.
None of us who have majorly struggled to achieve, fit in, be liked/loved can ever be fully healed...that would take a complete memory wipe, but I do think that we can find some peace and contentment by acknowledging that our own existence has meaning, purpose, and value in ways that may not be currently obvious.
The piddling advice I would give to you, my friend, is to be patient with yourself. Provide to yourself the respect and love you deserve.
Increase your interests...find stuff to do or learn about that really stimulates your thoughts and feelings about life and passing the moments beautifully.
Push yourself, as you are able, to conquer your fears while remembering that it is you in control. Your perception is yours and yours alone...no one will ever see through your eyes and determine what is beautiful and right, or the opposite. Smile, let yourself smile and feel content and peaceful. Do all of this for the potentially loving friend that resides within you and has been waiting for your attention.
Remember, even the most famous music and movies are about loneliness and dissatisfaction. It's the way of the material world.
Sorry my message was long.
@@froglobster haha, awesome!
@@danam5272 I appreciate the long message, so dont worry about it.
It's crazy how I used to look down on philosophers that lived a long time ago as people that don't have a clue what mordern life is like or how to deal with it. I was so wrong.
Diogenes rules necka!!!!!
This channel has by far improved my mental well-being, thank you;)
It's interesting how comparison works both ways for FOMO. It gives rise to the fear of missing out... comparing what we have to what's more out there, what others have. And it also can break the pattern... showing us how much value something would have in our life a few years from now versus how much we value it right now.
I love your channel, especially how you put an emphasis on the importance of just “being” rather than becoming more. Please continue this amazing work!
I left college after my first year, because of many struggles in life. I worked for 5 years and choose to isolate myself. I didn't post about my jobs and I don't accept my classmates in hs and college requests in my social media accounts. I hate and I self-pity seeing them continues their lives and studies. Also, my boyfriend left me, I think because he's doing great with his career and I am not. I'm totally missed out by them. And one day, I realized I'm still 22, I want to pursue my studies. I started watching videos on youtube to motivate me and be compassionate with my life. I reflect on myself and I realize that I have no control with anything, I should not self-pity and just enjoy the present life. No matter how slow at least I see changes in my life.
Good on you
Hope you're doing better now. 22 is still very young and people can go at different paces for different journeys.
"It is only when you seek it that you lose it."
Excellent explanation . I had a phase of FOMO , which is gradually easing.
Always appreciate your videos.
I sort of had a big shock as of recent. I had a really big FOMO but I realize that life brings you everything you need to succeed and that the future is better than the past. We all enter this world for a time and we have a departure date that is coming. In between, everything you need to do will be done so you don't have to worry about missing out and however insignificant you might think your life is you don't have to worry because it's going to all play out just the way it's supposed to. I realize that now later in life and I was so worried about things that when it actually happened, I realize that everything that the reason we all suffer is because we don't allow whatever supposed to happen actually happen or we try to be something that we're not.
Very well put for those who contemplate. I have experienced the negative aspect of FOMO, the inner self pushed me to the experience which ruined my mental health.
Thank you so much for what you do Mr Einzelganger. You help/helped me tremendously. You're an uplifter.
Whenever you miss something or someone just go back to yourself and see what is missing within you and heal it. Peace and love from Algeria.
That’s a great suggestion. Sometimes when you lose too many people that you loved in a short time period, it’s difficult and easier said than done
This really makes it seem like the cure for FOMO is depression.
"Worried about missing out on exciting things? Remember that most things actually suck and none of this will matter when we die. The only certainty is that things will just keep getting worse and even those who seem happy are secretly dying inside. Give up on everything and await the merciful touch of death. "
Imagine that being said in a Ben Stein type voice.
This channel deserves millions of subscribers.
When I experience fomo it's more under the guise of "this will make my life perfect", not really to impress people.
Another proof that social media is such a cancer, Im glad I only have instagram left and drastically reduced screentime. It really does improve overall mood. Eventually I will completely abandon it too and appreciate what around me than anxiously compare my life with others.
Incredible video! The very important thing which is we should not missing out your video.
I really needed this today, as I've been longing for a trip that I know deep down I simply don't need to take, money-wise, time-wise and physically demanding. SIMPLIFY!
Another amazing video i love listening to these just before bed and contemplating and comprehending the lesson and meaning of the video it always puts me into a nice deep sleep
Great video! As usual, this channel keeps enriching and strengthening us. Keep it up, my friend.
Opposite of FOMO is JOMO joy of missing out.
It’s important to be aware of FOMO. If you are not you might do a lot of things just to not be the only weird one who missed out. In fact it could be fun to be the weird one, who does something else. If you do it on purpose and with a conscious mind it makes you feel so independent!
I just got my delivery of 4 books.
So good!!
Thank you 😊
Happiness does get greater by seeking it, it becomes greater by being content with less and appreciative of what you have all while still being happy.
This is the way.
Stay connected with yourSELF every moment. Believe the journey (gift of universe) and keep going.
I definitely felt this post...Instant Gratification vs Delayed Gratification.. Social media, have many depressed and living in a false sense of reality!
Truee.
"Don't have to be like everybody to be somebody
Don't have to do what everyone is doing to be happy " - ME 💯
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I think a lot of people's so-called "FOMO" would disappear or cease to be problematic if they could learn to understand and accept their decisions fully as well as schedule their lives better/more effectively. This way, people wouldn't feel they were "missing out" so much nor feel sorry/regret what they were currently doing.
The problem is I am feeling that I am missing out on life .. I had to leave a secure and well paying job... At the moment I‘ve no family... I’ve to put up with a constant fear of being disrespected at my new work place... along with the challenges of work life politics...I want to quit my job and take a break but I’m not confident enough if I I’ll find another job again....
Everyday I feel that I’m missing out on LIFE...
I can't get enough of this. I read a book with a similar topic, and I couldn't get enough of it. "Reclaiming Connection: The Journey of a Digital Detox" by Joshua Ember
Anyone else trying to listen but can't unsee Mr. Meeseeks?
This is easily my favorite channel on RUclips. I can see it blowing up real soon
I counted every good thing in my life right now i just realized i never dreamed or planned about them.i dont remember predicting or dreaming about getting them
Simply being satisfied and contented in the moment. Feeling and being enough. I am enough in this moment and this moment is enough as is.
The fear I have of missing out are things that doesn’t cost money. But I realize it’s as irritating as things that do cost money.
I fear missing an interesting author, or musician. Or a scientific article in the newspaper. That kind of things.
So, now I go further listening to your remedy.
I love to be in my four walls, on my comfortable couch, in the internet watching channels like this... If I am not there, I feel like I am missing out. The outside is an illusion.
My FOMO is on never getting a stable career or finantial security. I know death will take me and my loved ones, so I have no fear of it, but indeed I await it, I know it will release me from my pain. Money and stability are the things that I want, to take care of my parents in their last years, because I know I will never have children of my own, or a wife, nor true happiness in a significant way, but if at least I can provide for my parents, I can die happy the day after their passing (I know that for sure: I will take my life someday)
i missed out on my high school farewell, trips, parties, college clubbings happily. My friends would always point out how boring and introverted i was.
But that's that the truth.
I never really cared about things I didn't value even before i turned a stoic.
If you know what you value the friction in letting go of everything else becomes zero.
I have no words to praise your channel… every video I have watched is an eye opener .. thank you for creating videos.. much love ❤️
This is also the reason why it seems people whose children died during disasters or wars took it "better" than, say, people who lose their child to cancer or car accident nowadays. It doesn't make the loss any less. But at least they know they are far from alone in their loss - an experience that is probably the worst anyone could endure.
Hi , mr Eienzelganger , just wanna say you are my favourite youtube channel , and I love your content . Thank you so much for sharing these informative ideas and concepts , and diffrent way of living from different communities of Rome , Greece , Nepal , China , Japan and of course India. Keep posting ;)
I had a full life of fun social events when I was younger, but as I've aged, I no longer participate or engage in socializing. I actually feel satisfied watching from the sidelines. Or perhaps from a detached perspective. You aren't missing out if you're comfortable being in your own corner of the universe. Life doesn't always have to be sad when we're not busy doing things with others. Don't worry about it, just make plans for yourself. If you're not there, you're probably somewhere else, so why not just stay where you are?
Thank you Enizelganger it was helpfull👍💚
Tonight i felt that it takes me more courage to stay home on a satudrday night, doing homework and drawing, than going out with friends to a club to get drunk and star awake until very late. A few years ago, when i was a teenager or in my early 20's, it was the opposite. It required a lot of effort for encourage myself going out to a party or something.
I think that as i am aging, i really just want to liv a simple, boring, peaceful life, doing what i really love, which is, most of the cases, something that implies being alone or just with the few people i love. But then the FOMO attacks, and it tells me that this is not the lifestyle that the real people should be living, that i should be doing what everone is doing because that is part of the mandatory life experience, that there are thing that are mandatory, for example, that you should use your 20's living a lot of excess.
I think that we should really define ourselves and what we really want, like, and love to do in order to avoid this FOMO
Everything you do can be fun and fullfilling, just appreciate the little things and when life slows down at momentd, enjoy the silence.
This channel produces life changing content
Reflecting back at me
The kudos and the praise
From friends I have never met
I hope they don't forget
Currently on the path of sagehood; it's hard and I still have a lot to work on despite these past years of learning by intuituon. I know I may never be a fulfilled sage, but regardless I know the path is worth taking.
Every video is a masterpiece
When this channel gets 1M subscribers, I'll celebrate with a cake.
What kind of cake?
@@Munkaa written Einzelgänger on it. I learned a lot from the videos. In other words, these lessons changed my life. I seek happiness within me and not in the outside world anymore.
@@junaetovi1132 I thought you gonna say chocolate cake, but that works too. Good for you! :)
All these *"incredibly happy people"* that seem to enjoy Life _"the proper way"_ , are just living life only in one dimension. This unilateral way of Living will eventually come back at them, ussually in the way of dull lives and an unability to see themselves in other people's shoes.
And at the same time: focusing on one thing, should not be the way we call sulking in a basement
How do you know they are only living in one dimension? What makes you different to discern judgement whether if they will end up with a “dull” life?
@@user-dx8zk5op2c i understand your question..i csn only answer right now with:
*I have seen it happen, again and again*
I've seen it happen too, it's like Boomerang effect, what comes up must come down
I Iove your choice of hip music! The ancient wisdom and the contemporary music tracks was a brilliant choice. Thank you !
I really needed this video as I feel I have a drinking problem and a big thing is social gatherings and feeling a need to drink
Excellent video, but please be aware that ‘problem drinkers’ or those who abuse substances have often reached a stage where the prefrontal cortex-the ‘reasoning’ part of the brain, responsible for executive functions-is effectively bypassed. According to modern neurological thinking, substance use eventually becomes driven by the midbrain, which is driven by instinct, and circumvents rational thought.
This is me.I’ve had too much tragedy occur in such a small amounts of time. I feel I’ll never get back to a positive perspective. I’m a functional alcoholic since I was about 16. My brain can’t process the right thing to do anymore.I’m 43 now. I had many amazing years of sobriety but my ability to climb out of my misery seems to be non existent, and sobriety a constant struggle
@@jphb7730 I haven't had a drink in nearly eight years. I've had some hard times, but one thing I know is that alcohol never helps. Ever. Some of us weren't designed to have it in our lives, I don't think. I kniw many more who struggle with alcohol-related issues who don't even admit it to themselves.
@@brandonwalker7624 I agree. I have lost a few friends who refused to admit their problem with alcoholism. It’s the only substance I became a slave to…both physically and mentally
In otherwords: enjoy what you can. Don't get attached, don't crave. What's funny is sometimes we need to do those attributes to survive.
What's useful to realise is that when we say yes to some things, we are saying no to other things. It's impossible to have it all in life.
This resonates with me a lot, and at 33yo I understand this on a deeper level now. Choices have consequences over time; teens and 20s take note - focus on what you really want to do with yourself and your life and choose to work on that over nonsense 👌🏻
Once again einzelganger you have knocked it out of the ballpark!
Instead of eliminating desires, try to notice that amount of things you do have. Though negative affirmations do work, try positive affirmations too. Be thankful and grateful for the current situation that things could definitely could become worse.
How fortuitous that I should run into this video this week. Thank you :)
I've got to say I had this a couple of times, often generated by stories i watched on instagram, people having fun, being on vacations etc.. strikes even harder during summer break, but oh well i try my best not to feel too bad about it, i might need to cut SM for a while
I already missed out... so there's no fear left .
You have to belong. You have to be a part of some group, to have friends, to become a part of some determined group of people. Being singular, being you, but you have to be attached to some people just to not be a lonely freak monster.
My college has been closed for more than one and a half year due to covid .I have only 1 year left of college but there's a good chance that it wont open for this year. My elder sisters always talk about their "college experience" and the memories they made with their friends that they will cherish forever. This gives me fomo. That i will never get to experience a major part of life. Never have those kinds of memories and friends. They sometimes even tease with this.
But I know that I will only torture myself if I keep thinking like this. So I am trying to change my perspective. I'm going to look at the bright side here. And isnt the so called "college experience" so overhyped? When we are in college we complain about everything. And then we pass out of college and suddenly everything becomes a great memory. That's the thing about humans. We never like where we are. But I dont want to be that kind of person. Those kind of people are always complaining and are never happy with their present.
I wouldnt think to much about it, but i can understand why you would. Everyone in this existence will have a different experiences, some similar some way off.
I would think more what do you have, what have you experienced. Have they lost out on experiences youve had even if they seem mundane to some? It might have grown you in another direction in life, seeing things from another perspective.
I will leave with this, what is important to you? Not anyone else.
How important is college memory's to you? I had some college memory's while it was fun its just a memory you should be doing what you like now in the present instead of living in the past most of the time those friends go there separate ways and hardly hangout.fomo depends on expectations vs what most likely will happen
R E L A T A B L E af and it makes my decesions regretful for selecting college, many illusion, less friend circle and oh the frnds who brag about their college being opene even now .
Sometimes life seems unfair to us. We want to change the moment at an instant but we can't.
Sometimes i regret winning the sperm race
You are not alone who is feeling this
Thank you for this timely video. I needed this. Great!
im a trader and we constantly hear about fomo but thinking about fomo out of the market makes me realize ive been a fomoer since i was young. The need to have a party each weekend. I remember I felt down in a weekend when there was no parties at all... is just the same but now in the job