People need to remember that setting boundaries is not toxic or misogny. If you don't agree with each others boundaries, then it wasn't meant to be and end it.
I'm all for setting boundaries. What I'm not for is going into a relationship knowing someone lives their life a certain way, and then trying to change them claiming it's just "boundaries". She's a surfer, and posted harmless surf pics before they ever got together. He knew this, and still decided to get into a relationship with her. I'm not saying he's abusive, but he's not just some victim here who was just trying to set boundaries. He wanted to mold her into someone else he'd be more comfortable with, rather than just finding someone he can be comfortable with already
The job thing is stupid tho, it's like getting with a stripper then asking them not to sleep with anyone else, if you care that much find someone with a job you approve of? It's really not that hard especially when you're a celebrity
How hard is this? Dating someone that's not up to your standards or boundaries? Leave them. Dating someone that has standards or boundaries you can't be bothered to meet? Leave them.
@@MarauderM00giFr buch of dumbazzes. There's things your partner does before you meet them and if they continue to do those things during the relationship its over its that simple if you arnt willing to make a compromise for a relationship then don't be in one bro definitely has enough money to support her for the rest of her life so that's not a problem
literally just a vid of her surfing he can do whatever he wants but he def has some insecurities if that upsets him. Messed up she posted the stuff on her ig though
Mad respect for Jonah for setting boundaries and being very clear on them, most guys go into relationships telling a girl they are something they aren’t and that’s what results in a toxic relationship
@@selrox879how? He’s not abusive, he set boundaries, he didn’t try to force her to be with him. She’s obsessed and dangerously deranged, with this harassing behavior. If you agree with what she’s doing maybe you should examine yourself?
It was delt with privately... He has already moved on with another girl and had a kid... and NOW this b^tch drops all this trash. Go away lady, he doesn't want you.
If a dude actually gets cancelled for having boundaries in a relationship then i think getting cancelled is not a bad thing. Edit: a boundary is a dividing line or is a limit of an area or person so anyone saying this isn’t a boundary is literally just factually incorrect based on the definition.
Rough time guys are living in these days lol. God forbid you dont want your girlfriends ass flappin around in surfing videos for the whole world to see right? Oh yeah I forgot, we gotta compromise with the idea that a womans body is a piece of art, deserved to be seen by the whole world according to many😂
That’s fair but also she could have never got in the relationship as well. If someone asks to change you then just end it. Shes at fault for staying. Therapy was because she was too weak to end things
She's mad because they broke up and now she wants to ruin his career by claiming he was emotionally abusive and misogynistic when he wasn't and made it clear multiple times she could leave the relationship and he would have no ill will toward her. There was no reason this needed to be public.
@@spreadwuvokay How so? He gave her a clear list of things he didn't want her to do in their relationship and was never violent with her about it and made it clear that if she didn't like the rules then she could leave the relationship.
@@PeterGriffin11 Well it all makes sense in theory but if you take into account that she's a professional surfer and has to be in a bikini around people, and has to market herself on instagram and has to be around cute girls and buff guys all day because its her job. It kind of makes you wonder if he's so serious about his boundaries why is he dating her in the first place? Also why is he reminding her she can leave? It's a manipulation trick, like if this completely unreasonable list of my insecurities isn't validated then it's your fault not mine, and nobody wants to be at fault so she placated him for a bit. If he was as no bullshit about his boundaries as he's trying to come across he would have realized they weren't compatible in literally 30 seconds and broke up with her, instead he's just emotionally manipulating her and stringing her along. Like there's ways to abuse people without being violent or transparent.
It’s alarming that she believes she’s the victim. She is the one in an echo chamber. When a woman plays victim and posts about it the amount of unwarranted support is just scary. It doesn’t matter if she’s lying or exaggerating, the other women just support her. Nothing he said was misogynistic or outlandish.
The funny thing is, us men know it all comes from a fake place. And if called out, they will always double down. But we know women usually secretly hate each other and use this victim mentality as clout.
It really is scary, especially since facts and proof don't matter. Just the accusations alone can cause life-changing harm. If a woman set the same boundaries she'd be praised for being a strong, confident woman. A man privately does the same thing, their private discussions are needlessly taken public, and he's instantly public enemy #1 ... Women are weaponizing mental health, and you're 100% right, it is scary, and it's why I no longer casually date and do my homework before going out with someone.
Gives me PTSD of me and my ex. I asked her to just let me know what she was up to from time to time, and she agreed and never did it. She then tried to call me controlling for it when I just wanted to know what she was doing. Turns out she was cheating on me 🤷🏾♂️ She hid a lot from me once she moved away and didn’t respect any of the boundaries, she wanted to be liberated since I wasn’t around and ignored me for quite sometime.
He’s not insecure for wanting boundaries, she’s just straight up delusional if she thinks any self respecting guy will stay with her if she’s acting like this. This makes me respect Jonah even more now.
That's definitely insecure. If you need a chick to be obedient and sacrifice their livelihood in order to make you happy then you should move to the middle east.
Why would a "self respecting guy" pursue someone who acts in a way he finds inappropriate and lives a lifestyle that makes him uncomfortable?... She is a pro surfer who was posting long before they dated... did he expect her to suddenly wear a burka while surfing the minute they started dating
I’m a huge fan of some of his roles but I’ve never liked Jonah off camera. That being said this is totally reasonable to not want your girl to post her assh*le to the whole world. He broke up with her after she kept doing what he asked not to. Sounds like he handled the situation perfectly.
He knew she was a professional model and surfer though and always had her photos and videos public. He shouldn’t have entered a relationship with her in the first place if he wanted to change her - I.e., not posting certain photos or not wanting her to hang out with her kinda toxic friends from the past. A lesson learned for the future for him I guess - don’t date an Instagram model/public figure surfer
@@cookiesarelikecream He changed his mind he set boundaries she didn't accept it fine relationship over. I dont see where the misogynist or abuser part is coming from her
@@abiolakorodele3412 so, if you changed your mind... perhaps ending the relationship and finding someone else is the answer? why are you trying to change the other person then? you know you contradicted this whole ass argument yourself right?
Bro literally just set boundaries. All he said was if she did that stuff than he wasn’t right for her. He was super respectful when saying it. This chick doesn’t know what emotional abuse is.
Jonah did NOTHING wrong! He was just setting boundaries in a relationship. For her to air all of these private texts for the world to see is beyond scummy.
Couldn't have said it better myself. She clearly just wants attention and the fact that posting private conversations is considered normal is disgusting
This just makes me respect him more. She sounds bitter, vindictive and petty. Girl move on with your life. There is nothing wrong with a man having standards and not having a woman that values social media over their partner.
Great content, this is an example of stuff that should be dealt privately. Everybody have some insecurities, and issues, and Jonah is communicating it very calmly and honorably. She is being the toxic one, exposing this private messages, clearly to sabotage for him and draw him to an emotional response, and waving her mental illness. I hope all of her actions confirmed him that she isn’t the partner for him, i hope she take care of herself, got some treatment.
Imagine being this petty and vengeful. Women like this should be shamed. All Jonah did was set boundaries while cherry picking messages to make herself look favorable.
fact I have no doubt she kept push his boundaries he broke up with her and two years later he get a new gf with a baby and she bring this up call him abuse naw she a bitten ex and that also tell you she been hold on to these message for 2 damn year to hurt him that she really expose him and the only backlash he get it from single female
I def don’t agree coming to the public with relationship affairs but when I see situations like this it causes me to think why are people pressured to get with someone with a lifestyle that they know that’s not conducive to what they are wanting in the long run
No one in these comments thinks he's a little weird for being so demanding? Telling a pro surfer not to surfe with other guys is a little weird Not being able to have female friends in unstable places, yk like someone suffering from depression, anxiety
Damn Jonah I only see you coming out on top for this. Good on you for being honest about your expectation and clear about your feelings from the get go instead of letting this go further into the danger zone.
Blasting your and your significant other's business online has always looked like a desperate for clout/attention move. And it always turns out that these people are either liars or dramatic. There's a difference between this and the actual abuse that people have suffered at the hands of some celebs, where they need a platform to get actual justice.
He may be insecure, but she is psycho. Airing it out in public too also makes her look like a complete tool. if you can't keep it private, don't get in a relationship. he should find someone that suits him. Both have faults but she looks honestly way crazier lol
She sounds like a complete narcissist wanting to 'live her truth' for clout. He's moved on and has a new family, you didn't respect his boundaries. You should move on with your own life instead of trying to pile misery on others.
Simple don't date instagram models or have anything serious relationship with them. That'll save you a lot of stress. These women be using words like "misogynist, narcissist, manipulative, etc" when they're reflecting big time. They're the ones who are narcissist & manipulative most of the time & they want to always play the victim. That's why you don't date these type of women & then try to change them. They're who they show you. Believe people when they show you who they're
This is a major issue, if the media allows Jonah to be labelled as an “abuser” for this, men wont have any autonomy, they will live in fear and submission in any relationship.
Too late. Men are already living in fear of this shit. It’s been going on since the beginning of Women’s Lib. in the 60’s and was amplified by the Me Too movement.
@@Lola_Nicohe was setting boundaries. Controlling would be forcing it, he was cool with ending the relationship that's not controlling. Controlling is wanting to stay in the relationship but forcing the other person to do stuff they don't wanna do
@@brandan7095 naw that’s an ultimatum which is a type of control “don’t do your career and have friends or I won’t be your boyfriend!” Like a fucking toddler would do lol
@@brandan7095 if you think it’s okay to want your gf to end her career for you, you are selfish and controlling. Hope you never get a gf. They’ll see right through you.
*Both of them* seem to be overreacting to some extent. He is getting insecure and controlling about some pictures of her surfing like it's full-on porn. It's silly. Yeah, some dumb whining about these tame photos, especially when he knew the sort of photos she likes to post before getting with her, is a total dick move. But her making out like it's some serious abuse is exaggeration and belittles the victims and survivors of serious abuse.
@@Lola_Nico uhhh by whom? There is literally no evidence of "abuse". He literally said, in SEVERAL of those interactions "you dont agree, walk away. I understand". This whole thing is way overblown and petty AF.
@@jaer.6540 emotional abuse and control. I’m not talking about physical abuse nor verbal abuse. You can keep calm and still emotionally abuse someone. A male friend of mine literally just did that to me. He didn’t swear, but he insulted me and then acted like I was in the wrong for condemning him. So I blocked him. It’s sad that this woman stayed and put up with him.
you can't get into a relationship with someone then tell them its you or their career. Surfing isnt sexual and he didnt have a problem with DMing her when he saw her photos originally so...
@@superbia5150people set boundaries and change in relationships all the time. You not changing is sign you don't know how to grow as a person and your immature
It’s like pursuing a girl that loves clubbing and wearing skimpy clothes then when in the relationship, you wanna turn her into a nun because you have boundaries don’t match her personality, that’s nuts I’m sorry
@Neo.JordonMaybe the majority, but there are definitely some “ladies in the streets, and a freak in the bed” gems out there - rare but definitely out there!
@@colyt4664 i believe the lines between abuse, boundaries & control are very thin and can be subjective at times. For instance, 1. one could consider what Jonah did as a man caring for her & is helping her by directing her into the right path, or just a man taking leadership - like asking for permission to go out & him saying no( some women find that attractive) 2 or Jonah’s actions could be so disastrous to the gfs psyche that they get depressed, or have dating ptsd, 3. Could actually be a boundary. Also controlling behaviour tends to leak into the abusive territory, so one could argue to an extent what he did was abuse given her psychological response to Jonah’s actions. Personally I just think it’s nuts to not allow someone post pictures of what they do as a career & you dated them knowing what they do but that’s just me..
i cant defend anyone with girl drama. I personally opted out after my first child with some one I did not stay with. idk why people force these things anymore.
Some people just need to keep certain matters private. It’s ok to have boundaries. It’s ok to be free spirited. Find someone who respects those boundaries and spirit.
“you’re having a kid? you’re doing decent after you respectfully told me where your mind was at in our past relationship? screw that, and screw you! i’m going to ruin your life! REEEEH!”
@@Peopleofthesun386no it’s not, you are just misguided. Are your parents together? Do their hang out with their opposite sex without both of them there? Is your brain still working?
@@Peopleofthesun386 depends on the nature of their relationship. If they had sexual relations at some point then I wouldn’t want to continue being a part of a relationship like that.
Nothing wrong with putting your boundaries. But narcissistic and manipulative people will find a problem with it and will try to gaslight or guilt trip you. Just ignore or walk away.
If my girlfriend saw me posting shirtless pics on insta she wouldn't like that and its vice versa. If both people in a relationship don't mind that's cool, but you can't be in a relationship if you don't respect someone's boundaries its that simple. Nothing Jonah did was abusive and pretty pathetic she considered that abuse
Feels like she's tryna _ride the wave_ with the recent keke incident. Not the same situation at all. It's stupid Jonah finds fault with those pictures, but he appropriately set his boundaries by keeping it between the two. She went about it in the worst way. The biggest issue will always be airing out dirty laundry for all eyes to see. The argument for "damaging my mental health" is stupid. Y'all got more than enough money to see a therapist. And a therapist seems far more capable of helping that than strangers on social media dropping a like on your story can.
The laughter when the dude asked if he was still the fat guy in Hollywood and his faces reaction to the question broke my heart. People really don’t understand that it isn’t the insult itself, it’s the persistence and constant nature of the harassment. You could have people make fun of you for shit that isn’t even true, and the repetition in itself will be what gets to you. I love Jonah and he’s grown into an awesome and crazy talented guy. I hope he gets through this shit without any extra bs
As a woman that has experienced true abuse, this is absolute bullsh*t. She’s bitter and wants sympathy from other entitled brats. I find that if you need constant attention from men that’s a sign of insecurity. At the end of it, they obviously weren’t a good match and butts got hurt.
Jonah did nothing wrong and handled this break up as well as anyone could. Yes, he was insecure but he was respectful about his boundaries. And her freaking out over a meme shows shes just clout chasing now that he moved on and had a kid with someone else. Sad.
I really do you like Jonah Hill for this. I was dealing with personal issues, and I did not handle it as maturely, and as responsibly as he did. He was sure of what he wanted and act upon it. I hope that he has a beautiful life and I hope that she also has a beautiful life. No one deserves to be put down or insulted, even if feelings are hurt. I believe that he also had feelings that were hurt to so I’ll end it of with this. It is amazing to see that there’s people like Jonan out there who are the same person as me in some regards. And I’m glad to see that there is someone that was for him. It is truly something that is eye-opening. ❤❤❤
Jonah Hill is amazing, funny guy. His boundaries was “setting the record straight”. So many lowlife girls say so many scummy azz crap about their ex boyfriends. Awful.
At first i was thinking he was being a little extreme /insecure but every couple has their expectations. Like just bc a photo attracted u doesn't necessarily mean it's inherently sexual or disrespectful. HOWEVER, once u read there may have been trust broken on her end and it's tied to her surfing, nothing wrong with boundaries. Also very suspicious she releases right after he emerges with a kid, very petty. She is in the wrong. Edit, omg! The end where she doesn't want him to respond and defend himself is textbook guilty and manipulative!
It's not really a boundary when it's her career. Like if you don't like dudes seeing your girl in a bikini why are you dating a professional surfer? Like he breached his own boundary by engaging in the relationship with her.
@@spreadwuvokay Not at all. Its one thing if you are dating/casually with someone. Its a whole other thing when you are exclusive. Things change and evolve...like relationships.
@@jaer.6540 You can't date somebody and then expect them to stop doing their career and hobby, and stop hanging out with their friends because you're insecure. That's called being controlling and it's typically looked down upon in society and for good reason, framing it as a "boundary" doesn't make it any better.
@@Lola_Nico you wish. I'm already married thx, but I worry about dangerous women bc I have 3 boys, 2 of them grown. Maybe ur one of those sketchy ladies who knows. Regardless, it's OK to have a different perspective and not be name called just bc u don't agree.
He literally said a surf instructor she can’t surf with men and date him. If a woman says a guy can’t have any female coworkers or clients, she would rightfully be labeled a psycho. It’s not okay in any relationship to say a person cannot have professional, workplace contact with the opposite sex, so the gaslight comes from painting this really contentious behavior as a healthy boundary and not a toxic manifestation of someone’s insecurities
Superbad is more of an autobiography of Jonah Hill than a movie he was in. It makes sense he is super insecure about meaningless shit. That being said the fact she waited until he had a baby to say all this let's you know she's butt hurt about getting left behind. So he couldn't be that bad, could he?!
Fellas, it doesn't matter if you're an NBA star or a successful actor: you could be at the top performing level of your life, but the pettiness and spite of ex-partners knows no limits. Stay classy kings.
@@Captaiesqueleto how are you dating a girl who is involved in a sport that requires wearing a bikini and that likes taking photos of herself and expect for her not to do so? low iq behaviour.
@@Captaiesqueleto Bro, those pictures might as well have been risque Victorian memes; it's not like she was posting content to OF. Oh, you could tell the outline of her ass and tits? Who cares? HOWEVER, his boundaries are his boundaries, but even boundaries can be borne out of insecurity or erroneous beliefs and ideas; or maybe there were things happening behind the scenes that none of us know.
As a woman I find nothing wrong with what Jonah did or said. He set his boundaries early in the relationship and she just didn't understand his point of view. They just had different perspectives. It's a good thing the relationship ended when it did. Hopefully they both find healing and match with better partners that make them feel comfortable.
Doesn’t seem like she took it well considering how she posted this private chat to everyone. As well as knowing how Jonah is already in a relationship with a newborn. Very telling of this person.
There are always people out there that will play the victim no matter the situation. Jonah seems to have been clear with what his boundaries are and she couldn't fit into that or didn't want to. He seemed ready to move on if she couldn't adhere to these boundaries. Not sure what she believes she's accomplishing with releasing these texts. Other then she wants to appear as some kind of victim.
@@acewalkerbeing in a successful healthy relationship is all about communication and sacrifices. She chose wearing thong bathing suits and hanging out with single people over a serious relationships with a good guy. He’s trying to find a girl who understands all that because it is important. You are just a fool
You can tell she’s never had a healthy relationship. Even if people consider Jonah insecure. His way of communicating was beyond reasonable, she just didn’t hear what she wanted too.
It's ridiculous that he doesn't want a surfer to have pictures in a bathingsuit on their social media. Other than that I think the boundary setting was reasonable and healthy. Having boundaries isn't toxic. 😅
I don’t think he should be cancelled, it’s his choice on what he wants in a relationship. However, I don’t understand people who want to change their partner. They were a certain way when you met them, you can assume that they are likely to engage in the same behaviors. If you don’t like how a person lives, then don’t be with them. It is controlling to try and make someone be different than they were. If it’s not something you can live with; or something that can be resolved easily (clearly there was a ton of back and forth on this) then let the relationship go. It’s not for you.
counter point, lets say a girl was flirting and going on dates and talking to dudes (like every single girl looking for a relationship does ) and you met her through that, one would think that after getting into a relationship that's monogamous that both parties would stop the flirting/dating/talking a lot with other people, but your girl does not and continues with the same behaviour when you met her but occasionally she listens and respects your boundaries but most of the time she does not and likes to flirt and talk a lot with dudes so you try to have a convo with her about your boundaries and tell her that she is free to leave the relationship but you are hesitating to cut it off at first because she already has made some sacrifices and you feel it would be wrong to suddenly leave her when she has done that much for you but at the end you break it up and a couple years later you find yourself getting slandered on the internet. sure i agree that jonah should be critiqued for expecting a 'city girl' kinda girl to be less liberal but i dont think he was expecting her to change her life or smth
@@onemha6094 Flirting with people to find a date isn’t a personality trait, nor is it a daily activity. It’s essentially the mating call of single humans. That action should stop when you’re no longer searching for a partner. There are some people who have a very bubbly and friendly personality that draws people in. If that’s the personality they had when you started flirting with them and dating them. It’s not fair to decide that you suddenly don’t like that they’re a friendly person and make them chose between their personality and you. If you don’t want your partner to be a friendly extrovert then don’t date a friendly extrovert. There are plenty of introverted people on this planet. In Jonah’s case specifically I find it extremely immature and controlling that before they started dating Jonah knew that this girl was a surfer and used social media to promote her surfing. The same photos he liked when he wanted to start dating; are the same photos he chastised her for and emotionally strong armed her into taking them down. He also encouraged her to leave her job because he wasn’t comfortable with the fact that she was modeling. He knew who she was before they started dating and rather than staying away since so many of the traits, hobbies, and career choices bother him. He decided to date her and then try and make her change. That behavior is incredibly harmful. I can’t say it’s right or wrong that she released their conversations, but he did indeed take part in creating a toxic relationship with his controlling tendencies.
Hmm ... why choose to date a woman who works in a bathing suit, and then once you bag her, demand that she not post pictures of herself in a bathing suit on her work account? Make it make sense. Eh. He wasn't wise, and behaved unfairly. But was he misogynistic? Not really.
This reminds me of the keke palmer situation. Everything could have been handled in private instead of being exposed out in public. I'm wondering, do these people want to air out their business for unwanted attention? The fact that this had been normalised is an issue. Always best to sort your issues in private. Not everyone has to know. With keke though, her bf was okay with her leaving in that outfit but wasn't happy with her fangirling over usher. If he had an issue with what she wore generally, he really wouldn't have let her leave the house like that.
She’s not going through an emotional trauma, she’s going through a quest for revenge. There’s an audio clip she posted on IG saying part of her waited a little bit after his fiancé gave birth so that she knew they were physically not impacted by her sharing this. She said she hopes the screenshots make it to his fiancé through her friends that she knows would make an effort to “protect” her so that she can make an informed decision on how she wants to care for herself and her baby which she birthed and she created. She said yes that’s his child but that is THAT WOMAN’S baby. Hearing this confirmed to me that she is not a victim, but is a vile human being who is trying to ruin his life and break his new family apart. She is the true narcissist in all this. I really hope Jonah puts a restraining order on her for harassment because now that he has a family to look after, the last thing they need is a psycho ex trying to disturb their peace.
Narcissistic women, like narcissistic men are incredibly dangerous, just in a different way. Hell, humans are naturally jealous animals, here’s a girl with an upcoming successful surfing career who bagged herself an A-list celeb who openly, considerately and proactively laid out his boundaries and expectations, in which meeting would garner her a house a baby and solid financial security. Her Unwilling to meet his requests, but also unwilling to lose the financial benefits that come with this relationship, Jonah, despite obviously harboring a sincere desire to try and stay with this woman takes the initiative and breaks it off. Uh oh, she lost the permanent gravy train…WHAT? Another woman is pregnant with his baby after months of being single?! It infuriated her with jealousy and envy, she feels entitled to all of it even though she could not and would not compromise. To shamelessly shower herself in copious amounts of faux self made artificial victimization via manipulating the public’s opinion with all their favorite buzz words like “mysoginist, survivor, controlling, manipulator, abusive” to loudly and with a smile ruin a man’s life for no other reason than feeling salty…what an evil narcissistic woman.
She is extremely entitled! And I'm surprised we've not seen her in a Karen video. Why share private messages, unless someone has broken the law. It's a relationship! Jezz. Also we ALL feel insecure at times and there is nothing wrong with that, it's part of being human. Again as no breaks the law. There is no way she needed to speak to a professional. Let's be real. She just felt and feels scorned and feminism has nothing to do with him not wanting his partners bum exposed on the internet. I hope she stays in a cave. Enough of these entitled people
I think she's just mad that she lost her best partner prospect because she couldn't follow some simple boundaries. Now she's acting spiteful. Edit: I also think the fact that she posted all of this when he had a baby with another woman also adds to my point.
He's stating his boundaries. He's being upfront about the type of woman he wants. I also think his preferences show that he wants a deep connection with someone on the same moral compass. Why is this wrong? The whole thing is giving me short, blue hair vibes. Are we positive she isn't wearing a wig?
Dude Jonah is totally in the right. He's established his boundaries. He's being 100% transparent in communicating his feelings and what he wants out of their relationship/a relationship. He knows who he is and is comfortable with himself, and is just being honest with her. She's not willing to compromise. It's as simple as that. Why in the heck she's bringing this up for the rest of the world to see is incredibly immature and telling or her character. Wait. They're not even dating anymore... and be has a kid with someone else? What a weirdo. She's just being hateful and childish and thinks that's what "feminism" means... Uhhhh, have fun being proudly bipolar? Weeeeeeirrrrddddoooo.
Being strait up about what you’re looking for in a life partner is far from abusive. At this point he wants a wife and certain things could mess with his career. She’s just mad she couldn’t have her cake and eat it too
Bruh. HE got into the relationship, knowing what she did and what she posted. THEN he decided that it didn't fit in with his boundaries of a relationship. If he didnt want to be with someone who lives like that, then WHY DID HE GET WITH SOMEONE WHO LIVES LIKE THAT?? Its beyond stupid. Like punching a wall and wondering why your hand hurts. This is not misogyny though. However it is toxic and controlling, trying to change someones life just to suit yourself
It’s real simple and crazy. She chose her online life over her real life. She craves the likes and attention from strangers more than love of the person she was dating. That’s 99% of girls for you
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As a misogynist, what Jonah hill did was completely innocent, he just set boundaries, we don’t claim him
Yooo 😂😂😂
Thank you for being a misogynist.
Why do incels identify as misogynist?
Lol right. If they think that’s misogyny then they would be appalled by the amount of guys who actually dislike all girls
Underated comment😂
People need to remember that setting boundaries is not toxic or misogny. If you don't agree with each others boundaries, then it wasn't meant to be and end it.
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Amen
I'm all for setting boundaries. What I'm not for is going into a relationship knowing someone lives their life a certain way, and then trying to change them claiming it's just "boundaries". She's a surfer, and posted harmless surf pics before they ever got together. He knew this, and still decided to get into a relationship with her. I'm not saying he's abusive, but he's not just some victim here who was just trying to set boundaries. He wanted to mold her into someone else he'd be more comfortable with, rather than just finding someone he can be comfortable with already
The job thing is stupid tho, it's like getting with a stripper then asking them not to sleep with anyone else, if you care that much find someone with a job you approve of? It's really not that hard especially when you're a celebrity
Telling a woman to end her career and friendships is totally not controlling. Totally!
How hard is this?
Dating someone that's not up to your standards or boundaries? Leave them.
Dating someone that has standards or boundaries you can't be bothered to meet? Leave them.
@overlordfemto7523 I'm saying in general. People in the comments are arguing about nonsense.
@@MarauderM00giFr buch of dumbazzes. There's things your partner does before you meet them and if they continue to do those things during the relationship its over its that simple if you arnt willing to make a compromise for a relationship then don't be in one bro definitely has enough money to support her for the rest of her life so that's not a problem
@@115blinkerprob y this whole thing is ironically coming out after he has a baby with another girl...sounds like there's some surfer salt going on
@@Dartlinbruh I'm dead
literally just a vid of her surfing he can do whatever he wants but he def has some insecurities if that upsets him. Messed up she posted the stuff on her ig though
Mad respect for Jonah for setting boundaries and being very clear on them, most guys go into relationships telling a girl they are something they aren’t and that’s what results in a toxic relationship
jesus fucking christ, show this to anyone you know irl.
Exactly
Please do
He got into a relationship with a girl expecting her to be something that she isn’t.
@@Boofin505I'm not going to go down with a r3tard so I'll just leave you be
What an abusive woman. She’s trying so hard to make him question his own reality and smearing him to a bunch of strangers online.
@@topspot4834 I hope his ex gets bitten by a shark. Narcissism in women appears to be at an all time high. This woman is too corny for me
She's not only gaslighting him but also people on Social Media.
@@MichaelScott69 That type of behavior is rewarded and encouraged now too. It’s impossible to tell what’s delusion and what’s malice
He is more abusive
@@selrox879how? He’s not abusive, he set boundaries, he didn’t try to force her to be with him. She’s obsessed and dangerously deranged, with this harassing behavior. If you agree with what she’s doing maybe you should examine yourself?
this is 100% something that should be dealt with privately. it honestly just seems like some relationship stuff that probably happens a lot
Fr
He did handle it in private lol
What do u mean he should have handed it privately he did and she posted it lol
@@nsbm159 he’s talking about her not him
It was delt with privately...
He has already moved on with another girl and had a kid...
and NOW this b^tch drops all this trash. Go away lady, he doesn't want you.
If a dude actually gets cancelled for having boundaries in a relationship then i think getting cancelled is not a bad thing.
Edit: a boundary is a dividing line or is a limit of an area or person so anyone saying this isn’t a boundary is literally just factually incorrect based on the definition.
Rough time guys are living in these days lol. God forbid you dont want your girlfriends ass flappin around in surfing videos for the whole world to see right? Oh yeah I forgot, we gotta compromise with the idea that a womans body is a piece of art, deserved to be seen by the whole world according to many😂
@@imcrux6583✊
Wish these people would cancel themselves from life
@@imcrux6583 Yall are weird as fuck. She is a surfer.
Hasn’t been for a LONG time
Don't ask a girl to change her entire life for you. Just pick a girl who is already living the lifestyle you want.
I think that's totally fair.
dont save her, she dont want to be saved.
That’s fair but also she could have never got in the relationship as well. If someone asks to change you then just end it. Shes at fault for staying. Therapy was because she was too weak to end things
Totally this!
Bruh this is the smartest advice to men I've seen in a while.
"Life will present real problems, these are unnecessary ones." Jonah the 🐐 fr
She's mad because they broke up and now she wants to ruin his career by claiming he was emotionally abusive and misogynistic when he wasn't and made it clear multiple times she could leave the relationship and he would have no ill will toward her. There was no reason this needed to be public.
It definitely didn't need to be public but I feel like there's layer's of manipulation underneath everything he's saying.
@@spreadwuvokay How so? He gave her a clear list of things he didn't want her to do in their relationship and was never violent with her about it and made it clear that if she didn't like the rules then she could leave the relationship.
@@PeterGriffin11 I think Ole dude you're responding to already has his mind made up.
@@PeterGriffin11 Well it all makes sense in theory but if you take into account that she's a professional surfer and has to be in a bikini around people, and has to market herself on instagram and has to be around cute girls and buff guys all day because its her job. It kind of makes you wonder if he's so serious about his boundaries why is he dating her in the first place? Also why is he reminding her she can leave? It's a manipulation trick, like if this completely unreasonable list of my insecurities isn't validated then it's your fault not mine, and nobody wants to be at fault so she placated him for a bit. If he was as no bullshit about his boundaries as he's trying to come across he would have realized they weren't compatible in literally 30 seconds and broke up with her, instead he's just emotionally manipulating her and stringing her along. Like there's ways to abuse people without being violent or transparent.
No she’s Just sick of her name being associated with him. That’s her own words on why she did this. But whatever, incel.
If that reporter asked that question to a heavier female actress there would be a firestorm
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@@clyde._ cope
@@albertfingernoodle3619 I have a strong feeling they were joking....
I hope.
I liked the way he dealt with that question. That long wordy leading question.
@@PeterGriffin11 No way to tell from an online perspective as its so bluntly written out
It’s alarming that she believes she’s the victim. She is the one in an echo chamber. When a woman plays victim and posts about it the amount of unwarranted support is just scary. It doesn’t matter if she’s lying or exaggerating, the other women just support her. Nothing he said was misogynistic or outlandish.
Hive mentality.
The funny thing is, us men know it all comes from a fake place. And if called out, they will always double down. But we know women usually secretly hate each other and use this victim mentality as clout.
Amber Heard comes to mind
It really is scary, especially since facts and proof don't matter. Just the accusations alone can cause life-changing harm. If a woman set the same boundaries she'd be praised for being a strong, confident woman. A man privately does the same thing, their private discussions are needlessly taken public, and he's instantly public enemy #1 ... Women are weaponizing mental health, and you're 100% right, it is scary, and it's why I no longer casually date and do my homework before going out with someone.
Asking a surfer to remove pics and videos of her in a bathing suit is rather stupid.
Her sharing the texts is equally stupid.
Jonah is a weirdo.
Gives me PTSD of me and my ex. I asked her to just let me know what she was up to from time to time, and she agreed and never did it. She then tried to call me controlling for it when I just wanted to know what she was doing. Turns out she was cheating on me 🤷🏾♂️ She hid a lot from me once she moved away and didn’t respect any of the boundaries, she wanted to be liberated since I wasn’t around and ignored me for quite sometime.
He’s not insecure for wanting boundaries, she’s just straight up delusional if she thinks any self respecting guy will stay with her if she’s acting like this. This makes me respect Jonah even more now.
I strongly agree, guys need to be careful for choosing these 304’s
That's definitely insecure. If you need a chick to be obedient and sacrifice their livelihood in order to make you happy then you should move to the middle east.
Why would a "self respecting guy" pursue someone who acts in a way he finds inappropriate and lives a lifestyle that makes him uncomfortable?... She is a pro surfer who was posting long before they dated... did he expect her to suddenly wear a burka while surfing the minute they started dating
@@Shift12349he didn't pursue her, he dumped her
@@Shift12349 How long were they dating for do u know?
Man this is the most tame "abuse" I've ever seen.
I know I’m so glad Jonah Hill got out of that abusive relationship. She sounds like a psycho😬
@@SirReginald. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife..... it's been attempted 999,999,999 times and has been successful 0.0 times
Right???
I’m a huge fan of some of his roles but I’ve never liked Jonah off camera. That being said this is totally reasonable to not want your girl to post her assh*le to the whole world. He broke up with her after she kept doing what he asked not to. Sounds like he handled the situation perfectly.
He knew she was a professional model and surfer though and always had her photos and videos public. He shouldn’t have entered a relationship with her in the first place if he wanted to change her - I.e., not posting certain photos or not wanting her to hang out with her kinda toxic friends from the past. A lesson learned for the future for him I guess - don’t date an Instagram model/public figure surfer
@@cookiesarelikecream He changed his mind he set boundaries she didn't accept it fine relationship over. I dont see where the misogynist or abuser part is coming from her
@@cookiesarelikecreamyou are allowed to change your mind about someone. He did nothing wrong.
@@cookiesarelikecreamthat type of logic doesn't resonate with men, because most of them have heightened narc tendencies or are full blown narcissists
@@abiolakorodele3412 so, if you changed your mind... perhaps ending the relationship and finding someone else is the answer? why are you trying to change the other person then? you know you contradicted this whole ass argument yourself right?
She's 40 with No kids and Husband, that says it all! 💯
So, lesson of this story: Boundries≠Abuse. Keep these matters in private. Not on social media for the whole world to see
Bro literally just set boundaries. All he said was if she did that stuff than he wasn’t right for her. He was super respectful when saying it. This chick doesn’t know what emotional abuse is.
7:20 Jonah's message is reasonable, its wild how she thought she could ruin his career by uploading private messages online
I don't think he could be any more polite about it. He didn't want a thot.. and he dropped her. and she's STILL mad about it. lol
oh she's definitely got that sense of entitlement going on.
@@calholliso surfing for a living is being a thot to you? Incel.
That is literally the sweetest thing coming from an ex who wishes you nothing but good in life.
Jonah did NOTHING wrong! He was just setting boundaries in a relationship. For her to air all of these private texts for the world to see is beyond scummy.
Couldn't have said it better myself. She clearly just wants attention and the fact that posting private conversations is considered normal is disgusting
Well, if my gf sent me a list with those kinda boundaries I’d end the relationship right away. That shit is toxic.
@@michaweetoxic bc she says ur "controlling" but feel uncomfortable w her exposing herself on the internet? Mate what r u on😭
@@yizaq she shouldn’t have put that on the internet. That stuff is private.
Those pictures were up before their relationship? He wants her to change. That's not setting boundaries, that's trying to control someone.
This just makes me respect him more. She sounds bitter, vindictive and petty. Girl move on with your life. There is nothing wrong with a man having standards and not having a woman that values social media over their partner.
PICK ME PICK ME!
@@Lola_Nico🤓🤓
@@Lola_NicoYou clearly don’t know how to use that word… so now any woman who DEFENDS a man is a pick me ? Make it make sense.
@@Lola_NicoBetter for someone to be a “Pick Me” than a “Pass Me”.
@@Lola_Nicoyou definitely have been not picked many times in the past and likely will not get picked many times in the future with that attitude.
She has to get THERAPY for THIS? Someone was never told no growing up, FFS. How do therapists not just roll their eyes at shit like this?
Dudes just clearly stating boundaries.
To call boundaries toxic is wild!
I mean it depends on the boundaries. But these werent that wild to me.
@@jaer.6540 not to wild or demanding
Great content, this is an example of stuff that should be dealt privately.
Everybody have some insecurities, and issues, and Jonah is communicating it very calmly and honorably.
She is being the toxic one, exposing this private messages, clearly to sabotage for him and draw him to an emotional response, and waving her mental illness.
I hope all of her actions confirmed him that she isn’t the partner for him, i hope she take care of herself, got some treatment.
Imagine being this petty and vengeful. Women like this should be shamed. All Jonah did was set boundaries while cherry picking messages to make herself look favorable.
Yeah it’s so shameful when women come out with their stories of being controlled! Incel.
It doesn't make her look favorable at ALL!
@@maineman5757 to a feminist, she's a victim and those messages are proof of her suffering. 😂
She is in the right dude
fact I have no doubt she kept push his boundaries he broke up with her and two years later he get a new gf with a baby and she bring this up call him abuse naw she a bitten ex and that also tell you she been hold on to these message for 2 damn year to hurt him that she really expose him and the only backlash he get it from single female
I def don’t agree coming to the public with relationship affairs but when I see situations like this it causes me to think why are people pressured to get with someone with a lifestyle that they know that’s not conducive to what they are wanting in the long run
No one in these comments thinks he's a little weird for being so demanding?
Telling a pro surfer not to surfe with other guys is a little weird
Not being able to have female friends in unstable places, yk like someone suffering from depression, anxiety
Damn Jonah I only see you coming out on top for this. Good on you for being honest about your expectation and clear about your feelings from the get go instead of letting this go further into the danger zone.
Blasting your and your significant other's business online has always looked like a desperate for clout/attention move. And it always turns out that these people are either liars or dramatic. There's a difference between this and the actual abuse that people have suffered at the hands of some celebs, where they need a platform to get actual justice.
She got what she wanted out of the relationship. A bunch of clout and an army of simps.
@@TexanAstarte”Not trying to get clout is bad for my mental health” 😂
Its his ex gf. She posted this AFTER he just welcomed a new baby with his fiance.
@@sechabatheletsane9784 Makes it even more obviously sus.
He may be insecure, but she is psycho. Airing it out in public too also makes her look like a complete tool. if you can't keep it private, don't get in a relationship.
he should find someone that suits him. Both have faults but she looks honestly way crazier lol
Fr like I hope he respond because those were private messages
Also she brought his child up. She is a digusting pos. Thats not cool.
@@morpheus1586 fr
Not wanting your girl to be half naked and mingling with guys is not insecurity.
Nah more like pride thing. Security in a relationship is for woman
She sounds like a complete narcissist wanting to 'live her truth' for clout. He's moved on and has a new family, you didn't respect his boundaries. You should move on with your own life instead of trying to pile misery on others.
That girl was definitely deleting messages lmao
Simple don't date instagram models or have anything serious relationship with them. That'll save you a lot of stress. These women be using words like "misogynist, narcissist, manipulative, etc" when they're reflecting big time. They're the ones who are narcissist & manipulative most of the time & they want to always play the victim. That's why you don't date these type of women & then try to change them. They're who they show you. Believe people when they show you who they're
facts
Respectfully setting boundaries = abu$e. These females man.
Guess you could say Jonah Hill's relationship is going *downhill*
Booooo
🥁 *bum dum bump*🥁
*laugh track*
Delete this account
🥁 budump tiss 🥁
I honestly watch every video you have uploading this year and I will never stop.
He does come off like a controlling weirdo but that's hardly something that should be put on blast. Just break up with him and move on like normal.
This is a major issue, if the media allows Jonah to be labelled as an “abuser” for this, men wont have any autonomy, they will live in fear and submission in any relationship.
Too late. Men are already living in fear of this shit. It’s been going on since the beginning of Women’s Lib. in the 60’s and was amplified by the Me Too movement.
Men being held accountable for controlling behaviour will scare them away from trying that with more women? I see this as an absolute win!
@@Lola_Nicohe was setting boundaries. Controlling would be forcing it, he was cool with ending the relationship that's not controlling. Controlling is wanting to stay in the relationship but forcing the other person to do stuff they don't wanna do
@@brandan7095 naw that’s an ultimatum which is a type of control “don’t do your career and have friends or I won’t be your boyfriend!” Like a fucking toddler would do lol
@@brandan7095 if you think it’s okay to want your gf to end her career for you, you are selfish and controlling. Hope you never get a gf. They’ll see right through you.
*Both of them* seem to be overreacting to some extent.
He is getting insecure and controlling about some pictures of her surfing like it's full-on porn. It's silly.
Yeah, some dumb whining about these tame photos, especially when he knew the sort of photos she likes to post before getting with her, is a total dick move.
But her making out like it's some serious abuse is exaggeration and belittles the victims and survivors of serious abuse.
There’s levels to abuse. Telling you this as an abuse survivor. She was being controlled and manipulated at the very least.
@@Lola_Nico uhhh by whom? There is literally no evidence of "abuse". He literally said, in SEVERAL of those interactions "you dont agree, walk away. I understand". This whole thing is way overblown and petty AF.
@@jaer.6540 emotional abuse and control. I’m not talking about physical abuse nor verbal abuse. You can keep calm and still emotionally abuse someone. A male friend of mine literally just did that to me. He didn’t swear, but he insulted me and then acted like I was in the wrong for condemning him. So I blocked him. It’s sad that this woman stayed and put up with him.
@@Lola_Nico What Jonah did was NOT emotional abuse. At. ALL. Stop with the madness.
@@Lola_Nico those levels you mentioned are why I included the word serious.
Things you cannot do in a relationship number 225: set boundaries
you can't get into a relationship with someone then tell them its you or their career. Surfing isnt sexual and he didnt have a problem with DMing her when he saw her photos originally so...
@@superbia5150surfing isn't a career though? Its a fun activity sure, but not a career
@@superbia5150people set boundaries and change in relationships all the time. You not changing is sign you don't know how to grow as a person and your immature
@@prestongarvey4259 you can make a living off prize money and endorsements. It's as much of a career as professional skating.
@@KolaTheBearand that would be reasonable! Like yeah, if she’s not comfortable with some of his roles, it’s within her right to ask.
See this is why you dont date a girl who will do this type of shit. And all you need to do is tell her this in person.
Jamari “oh you’re so in the right girl, speak the truth” was so funny 💀💀💀
It’s like pursuing a girl that loves clubbing and wearing skimpy clothes then when in the relationship, you wanna turn her into a nun because you have boundaries don’t match her personality, that’s nuts I’m sorry
@Neo.JordonMaybe the majority, but there are definitely some “ladies in the streets, and a freak in the bed” gems out there - rare but definitely out there!
I agree but it’s definitely not abuse. Controlling some? Yes. But definitely not abuse
@@colyt4664 i believe the lines between abuse, boundaries & control are very thin and can be subjective at times. For instance,
1. one could consider what Jonah did as a man caring for her & is helping her by directing her into the right path, or just a man taking leadership - like asking for permission to go out & him saying no( some women find that attractive)
2 or Jonah’s actions could be so disastrous to the gfs psyche that they get depressed, or have dating ptsd,
3. Could actually be a boundary.
Also controlling behaviour tends to leak into the abusive territory, so one could argue to an extent what he did was abuse given her psychological response to Jonah’s actions. Personally I just think it’s nuts to not allow someone post pictures of what they do as a career & you dated them knowing what they do but that’s just me..
@Neo.Jordon i bet if you go outside, touch some grass, get some sun you’ll see that the average woman isn’t an Instagram baddie archetype
There is no perfect match, that's why there are compromises in every relationship. She didn't want to give it a shot so he left.
“Make an exit plan”
The man literally opened the door and said “if you can’t do any of this you can leave no hard feelings”
she says to make an exit plan not because she can't leave, but because she wants to exit with cash and prizes too.
Her saying she’s scared of him is utterly pathetic
i cant defend anyone with girl drama. I personally opted out after my first child with some one I did not stay with. idk why people force these things anymore.
Some people just need to keep certain matters private. It’s ok to have boundaries. It’s ok to be free spirited. Find someone who respects those boundaries and spirit.
“you’re having a kid? you’re doing decent after you respectfully told me where your mind was at in our past relationship? screw that, and screw you! i’m going to ruin your life! REEEEH!”
That's not controlling. That's just setting boundaries in a relationship. Relationship is learning to respect each other and compromising.
Telling a girl to not have guy friends is controlling dude
@@Peopleofthesun386no it’s not, you are just misguided. Are your parents together? Do their hang out with their opposite sex without both of them there?
Is your brain still working?
@@Peopleofthesun386No it isn't, if those guy friend are trying to get in her pants, and she also has every right to end the relationship.
@@ibot2157 And how do you know they are trying to get in her pants
@@Peopleofthesun386 depends on the nature of their relationship. If they had sexual relations at some point then I wouldn’t want to continue being a part of a relationship like that.
Nothing wrong with putting your boundaries. But narcissistic and manipulative people will find a problem with it and will try to gaslight or guilt trip you. Just ignore or walk away.
He is super chill there always people that to ruin everything you do
Nowadays a man can`t even break up a relationship anymore, because its considered abusive.
Men can’t even approach women they find attractive anymore because it’s considered abusive lol smh
She will never be trusted in her future relationships.
Moral of the story is: pretty please be careful with who you're meeting in real life 💯🙏🏻
If my girlfriend saw me posting shirtless pics on insta she wouldn't like that and its vice versa. If both people in a relationship don't mind that's cool, but you can't be in a relationship if you don't respect someone's boundaries its that simple. Nothing Jonah did was abusive and pretty pathetic she considered that abuse
Yes because instagram is a dating at even more so than Tinder. People need to realize that.
She is a surfer dude.
@@Peopleofthesun386and you are a bozo
Feels like she's tryna _ride the wave_ with the recent keke incident. Not the same situation at all. It's stupid Jonah finds fault with those pictures, but he appropriately set his boundaries by keeping it between the two. She went about it in the worst way. The biggest issue will always be airing out dirty laundry for all eyes to see. The argument for "damaging my mental health" is stupid. Y'all got more than enough money to see a therapist. And a therapist seems far more capable of helping that than strangers on social media dropping a like on your story can.
The laughter when the dude asked if he was still the fat guy in Hollywood and his faces reaction to the question broke my heart. People really don’t understand that it isn’t the insult itself, it’s the persistence and constant nature of the harassment. You could have people make fun of you for shit that isn’t even true, and the repetition in itself will be what gets to you. I love Jonah and he’s grown into an awesome and crazy talented guy. I hope he gets through this shit without any extra bs
She turned down employnent opportunities? I didnt know onlyfans had a finite signup window
As a woman that has experienced true abuse, this is absolute bullsh*t. She’s bitter and wants sympathy from other entitled brats. I find that if you need constant attention from men that’s a sign of insecurity. At the end of it, they obviously weren’t a good match and butts got hurt.
She actually thinks seeing (unsexually) other men is ok
Having boundaries is not being abusive. These women these days will Say you not agreeing with them is “abuse” like get tf outta here
Jonah did nothing wrong and handled this break up as well as anyone could. Yes, he was insecure but he was respectful about his boundaries. And her freaking out over a meme shows shes just clout chasing now that he moved on and had a kid with someone else. Sad.
Gotta say, the meme-ing of the text was hilarious 😂
I really do you like Jonah Hill for this. I was dealing with personal issues, and I did not handle it as maturely, and as responsibly as he did. He was sure of what he wanted and act upon it. I hope that he has a beautiful life and I hope that she also has a beautiful life. No one deserves to be put down or insulted, even if feelings are hurt. I believe that he also had feelings that were hurt to so I’ll end it of with this. It is amazing to see that there’s people like Jonan out there who are the same person as me in some regards. And I’m glad to see that there is someone that was for him. It is truly something that is eye-opening. ❤❤❤
Jonah Hill is amazing, funny guy. His boundaries was “setting the record straight”. So many lowlife girls say so many scummy azz crap about their ex boyfriends. Awful.
At first i was thinking he was being a little extreme /insecure but every couple has their expectations. Like just bc a photo attracted u doesn't necessarily mean it's inherently sexual or disrespectful. HOWEVER, once u read there may have been trust broken on her end and it's tied to her surfing, nothing wrong with boundaries. Also very suspicious she releases right after he emerges with a kid, very petty. She is in the wrong.
Edit, omg! The end where she doesn't want him to respond and defend himself is textbook guilty and manipulative!
It's not really a boundary when it's her career. Like if you don't like dudes seeing your girl in a bikini why are you dating a professional surfer? Like he breached his own boundary by engaging in the relationship with her.
Found the PICK ME!
@@spreadwuvokay Not at all. Its one thing if you are dating/casually with someone. Its a whole other thing when you are exclusive. Things change and evolve...like relationships.
@@jaer.6540 You can't date somebody and then expect them to stop doing their career and hobby, and stop hanging out with their friends because you're insecure. That's called being controlling and it's typically looked down upon in society and for good reason, framing it as a "boundary" doesn't make it any better.
@@Lola_Nico you wish. I'm already married thx, but I worry about dangerous women bc I have 3 boys, 2 of them grown. Maybe ur one of those sketchy ladies who knows.
Regardless, it's OK to have a different perspective and not be name called just bc u don't agree.
He literally said a surf instructor she can’t surf with men and date him. If a woman says a guy can’t have any female coworkers or clients, she would rightfully be labeled a psycho. It’s not okay in any relationship to say a person cannot have professional, workplace contact with the opposite sex, so the gaslight comes from painting this really contentious behavior as a healthy boundary and not a toxic manifestation of someone’s insecurities
She was free to leave the relationship. No body forced her. If both could not compromise because of compatibility then she could just walk away
All of that tapdancing to lie and completely miss the point eh? Must be a nice skill for you to have.
@@wandibanda1590maybe she doesn't want to leave and just wants him to chill out cuhz he has money and is fucking everything thing up lol
@@the.littlest.toaster then she needs to get some self respect and know her worth instead of complaining publicly
Superbad is more of an autobiography of Jonah Hill than a movie he was in.
It makes sense he is super insecure about meaningless shit.
That being said the fact she waited until he had a baby to say all this let's you know she's butt hurt about getting left behind.
So he couldn't be that bad, could he?!
“Do have any other questions that are smart?”❤😂😂😂
Fellas, it doesn't matter if you're an NBA star or a successful actor: you could be at the top performing level of your life, but the pettiness and spite of ex-partners knows no limits. Stay classy kings.
I see Jonah as being in the wrong for being insecure, but I also think she's in the wrong for claiming this is some sick form of abuse.
How is Jonah being insecure?
@@Captaiesqueleto how are you dating a girl who is involved in a sport that requires wearing a bikini and that likes taking photos of herself and expect for her not to do so? low iq behaviour.
@@Captaiesqueleto Bro, those pictures might as well have been risque Victorian memes; it's not like she was posting content to OF. Oh, you could tell the outline of her ass and tits? Who cares? HOWEVER, his boundaries are his boundaries, but even boundaries can be borne out of insecurity or erroneous beliefs and ideas; or maybe there were things happening behind the scenes that none of us know.
@@Captaiesqueleto😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 good luck out there bruh
@Captaiesqueleto i mean not wanting a surfer to post surfing videos while in surfing attire is really dumb, but definitely not abuse.
What’s wrong with a person having standards or boundaries? If your partner doesn’t meet them, you leave them and move on.
If Jesus can't save these 304s why should you shout out to the king of the hill
We are just seeing these messages I’m sure it’s been more behind the scenes that stacked up over time
As a woman I find nothing wrong with what Jonah did or said. He set his boundaries early in the relationship and she just didn't understand his point of view. They just had different perspectives. It's a good thing the relationship ended when it did. Hopefully they both find healing and match with better partners that make them feel comfortable.
Doesn’t seem like she took it well considering how she posted this private chat to everyone. As well as knowing how Jonah is already in a relationship with a newborn. Very telling of this person.
@@manny7662 she sounds a bit bitter tbh. Knowing he moved on and is getting what he asked of her from someone else. She's mad.
@@TheSweetestCocoaExactly!
There are always people out there that will play the victim no matter the situation. Jonah seems to have been clear with what his boundaries are and she couldn't fit into that or didn't want to. He seemed ready to move on if she couldn't adhere to these boundaries. Not sure what she believes she's accomplishing with releasing these texts. Other then she wants to appear as some kind of victim.
He didn't have to set boundaries if he already knew who she was like before dating her. That's some goofy shit.
@@acewalkerbeing in a successful healthy relationship is all about communication and sacrifices. She chose wearing thong bathing suits and hanging out with single people over a serious relationships with a good guy. He’s trying to find a girl who understands all that because it is important. You are just a fool
@@acewalkerYea but if that’s what you got out of this, you’re part of the problem
You can tell she’s never had a healthy relationship. Even if people consider Jonah insecure. His way of communicating was beyond reasonable, she just didn’t hear what she wanted too.
"Keeping it to myself was causing more damage to my mental health" Damn, how did we ever cope with relationship problems before social media..?
Damn they got Jonah hill now 😂😭.
It's ridiculous that he doesn't want a surfer to have pictures in a bathingsuit on their social media. Other than that I think the boundary setting was reasonable and healthy. Having boundaries isn't toxic. 😅
I don’t think he should be cancelled, it’s his choice on what he wants in a relationship. However, I don’t understand people who want to change their partner. They were a certain way when you met them, you can assume that they are likely to engage in the same behaviors. If you don’t like how a person lives, then don’t be with them. It is controlling to try and make someone be different than they were. If it’s not something you can live with; or something that can be resolved easily (clearly there was a ton of back and forth on this) then let the relationship go. It’s not for you.
counter point, lets say a girl was flirting and going on dates and talking to dudes (like every single girl looking for a relationship does ) and you met her through that, one would think that after getting into a relationship that's monogamous that both parties would stop the flirting/dating/talking a lot with other people, but your girl does not and continues with the same behaviour when you met her but occasionally she listens and respects your boundaries but most of the time she does not and likes to flirt and talk a lot with dudes so you try to have a convo with her about your boundaries and tell her that she is free to leave the relationship but you are hesitating to cut it off at first because she already has made some sacrifices and you feel it would be wrong to suddenly leave her when she has done that much for you but at the end you break it up and a couple years later you find yourself getting slandered on the internet. sure i agree that jonah should be critiqued for expecting a 'city girl' kinda girl to be less liberal but i dont think he was expecting her to change her life or smth
@@onemha6094 Flirting with people to find a date isn’t a personality trait, nor is it a daily activity. It’s essentially the mating call of single humans. That action should stop when you’re no longer searching for a partner.
There are some people who have a very bubbly and friendly personality that draws people in. If that’s the personality they had when you started flirting with them and dating them. It’s not fair to decide that you suddenly don’t like that they’re a friendly person and make them chose between their personality and you. If you don’t want your partner to be a friendly extrovert then don’t date a friendly extrovert. There are plenty of introverted people on this planet.
In Jonah’s case specifically I find it extremely immature and controlling that before they started dating Jonah knew that this girl was a surfer and used social media to promote her surfing. The same photos he liked when he wanted to start dating; are the same photos he chastised her for and emotionally strong armed her into taking them down. He also encouraged her to leave her job because he wasn’t comfortable with the fact that she was modeling.
He knew who she was before they started dating and rather than staying away since so many of the traits, hobbies, and career choices bother him. He decided to date her and then try and make her change.
That behavior is incredibly harmful. I can’t say it’s right or wrong that she released their conversations, but he did indeed take part in creating a toxic relationship with his controlling tendencies.
My man has Pillows in his store for the Ladies I'm thinking. What dude is gonna buy a Jamari Pillow. : )
Hmm ... why choose to date a woman who works in a bathing suit, and then once you bag her, demand that she not post pictures of herself in a bathing suit on her work account?
Make it make sense.
Eh. He wasn't wise, and behaved unfairly. But was he misogynistic? Not really.
This reminds me of the keke palmer situation. Everything could have been handled in private instead of being exposed out in public.
I'm wondering, do these people want to air out their business for unwanted attention? The fact that this had been normalised is an issue. Always best to sort your issues in private. Not everyone has to know.
With keke though, her bf was okay with her leaving in that outfit but wasn't happy with her fangirling over usher. If he had an issue with what she wore generally, he really wouldn't have let her leave the house like that.
She’s not going through an emotional trauma, she’s going through a quest for revenge. There’s an audio clip she posted on IG saying part of her waited a little bit after his fiancé gave birth so that she knew they were physically not impacted by her sharing this. She said she hopes the screenshots make it to his fiancé through her friends that she knows would make an effort to “protect” her so that she can make an informed decision on how she wants to care for herself and her baby which she birthed and she created. She said yes that’s his child but that is THAT WOMAN’S baby. Hearing this confirmed to me that she is not a victim, but is a vile human being who is trying to ruin his life and break his new family apart. She is the true narcissist in all this. I really hope Jonah puts a restraining order on her for harassment because now that he has a family to look after, the last thing they need is a psycho ex trying to disturb their peace.
Well said!
Narcissistic women, like narcissistic men are incredibly dangerous, just in a different way. Hell, humans are naturally jealous animals, here’s a girl with an upcoming successful surfing career who bagged herself an A-list celeb who openly, considerately and proactively laid out his boundaries and expectations, in which meeting would garner her a house a baby and solid financial security.
Her Unwilling to meet his requests, but also unwilling to lose the financial benefits that come with this relationship, Jonah, despite obviously harboring a sincere desire to try and stay with this woman takes the initiative and breaks it off.
Uh oh, she lost the permanent gravy train…WHAT? Another woman is pregnant with his baby after months of being single?! It infuriated her with jealousy and envy, she feels entitled to all of it even though she could not and would not compromise.
To shamelessly shower herself in copious amounts of faux self made artificial victimization via manipulating the public’s opinion with all their favorite buzz words like “mysoginist, survivor, controlling, manipulator, abusive” to loudly and with a smile ruin a man’s life for no other reason than feeling salty…what an evil narcissistic woman.
She got problems not him 🤦🏾♂️
She is extremely entitled! And I'm surprised we've not seen her in a Karen video. Why share private messages, unless someone has broken the law. It's a relationship! Jezz.
Also we ALL feel insecure at times and there is nothing wrong with that, it's part of being human. Again as no breaks the law.
There is no way she needed to speak to a professional. Let's be real. She just felt and feels scorned and feminism has nothing to do with him not wanting his partners bum exposed on the internet. I hope she stays in a cave. Enough of these entitled people
Dude was texting like he knew the cameras was on. Tf. U aint wanna see my texts to my gf when im pissed off
Given that Jonah has just had a baby with a new partner, this is very distasteful of the ex.
Jonah handled that situation with the most class possible. Made me respect Jonah even more than I already do 🙏🏼
I think she's just mad that she lost her best partner prospect because she couldn't follow some simple boundaries. Now she's acting spiteful.
Edit: I also think the fact that she posted all of this when he had a baby with another woman also adds to my point.
I agree, I think this is going to backfire. It's not exactly the Mel Gibson phone leak.
Respect.... set ur boundaries like a real man
He's stating his boundaries. He's being upfront about the type of woman he wants. I also think his preferences show that he wants a deep connection with someone on the same moral compass. Why is this wrong? The whole thing is giving me short, blue hair vibes. Are we positive she isn't wearing a wig?
She needs help
Dude Jonah is totally in the right. He's established his boundaries. He's being 100% transparent in communicating his feelings and what he wants out of their relationship/a relationship. He knows who he is and is comfortable with himself, and is just being honest with her. She's not willing to compromise. It's as simple as that. Why in the heck she's bringing this up for the rest of the world to see is incredibly immature and telling or her character.
Wait. They're not even dating anymore... and be has a kid with someone else? What a weirdo. She's just being hateful and childish and thinks that's what "feminism" means...
Uhhhh, have fun being proudly bipolar? Weeeeeeirrrrddddoooo.
Being strait up about what you’re looking for in a life partner is far from abusive. At this point he wants a wife and certain things could mess with his career. She’s just mad she couldn’t have her cake and eat it too
Bruh. HE got into the relationship, knowing what she did and what she posted. THEN he decided that it didn't fit in with his boundaries of a relationship. If he didnt want to be with someone who lives like that, then WHY DID HE GET WITH SOMEONE WHO LIVES LIKE THAT??
Its beyond stupid. Like punching a wall and wondering why your hand hurts.
This is not misogyny though. However it is toxic and controlling, trying to change someones life just to suit yourself
It’s real simple and crazy. She chose her online life over her real life. She craves the likes and attention from strangers more than love of the person she was dating. That’s 99% of girls for you
Jonah hill is such a sweetheart he don't deserve this