I’m relocating my life…I deserve a new start, 40 no kids, I want to forget my entire past and start fresh, no old friends no family just start living my life my way for myself. I’m taking my two lil dogs too…we are going to love our best before it’s all over and time is flying so no time to hesitate
I came here cause I am stuck. I don't know how to leave without a job elsewhere and very little money. I didn't come this far in my life to be this unhappy and miserable. I feel like I am suffocating here.
same here, same town all my life and like you said "stuck". I'm just gonna go for it, i'm tired of being afraid because "what if" it doesn't work out. I think your gut will tell you it's time, then it's about overcoming the fear of being uncomfortable and stressed for a little while. i think everything is temporary and whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger, at least you tried and can learn from the process.
@@randomanton completely agree and relate. I'm so sick of the fear. But I feel blocked like I don't know how to get myself out. Can't afford to stay but can't afford to leave financially. I live in Austin Tx and the cost of living and housing is horrible. I'm one paycheck from homelessness like thousands of others around here.
I am so sorry that I didn't see these comments sooner. I didn't realize notifications were off. I want to say how much I appreciate all of your comments. So rarely are people kind on RUclips. I'm still stuck. I spoke with my AA sponsor and she's helping me break it down step by step. So first I'm going to go look at RVs. I'm still looking for a full time job but can't even get an interview which is insane since so many people don't want to work and so many are hiring. In the meantime I'm still at my part time job of 8 years and doing side gigs just trying to keep my head above water. Austin living is absurd and no matter how much I work I am still barely treading water. I have to do something and soon cause I can feel my soul being eroded slowly and as a recovering addict not only is that a dangerous thing for me but I've also worked too hard to be slowly suffocated living here. I need to find a new town/state but how does one choose where to go?
If you watching this 2024 just do it ngl cause you more than likely watching this cause you thinking bout moving states, have no plan and scared. But I just did it and it’s going great! Only thing is I knew someone in the state where I moved to. But it’s nice to have a fresh start DO IT!
Watching this video made me realize that I would make a mistake if I move in with other family members just to get away from my own. I’d be happier if I immediately moved into my own apartment.
If you can move out on your own, that might be better than going from one situation to another for sure. It’s not easy living with people in general . But don’t rush the process if you don’t have to. I offer a 1-1 service where we can come up with a custom relocation plan for you. (See the description if you need it). Otherwise, just remember that you got this.
i will tell you from my current situation yeah moving with another family member won’t make you feel better because you will always have to adapt to their environment
@@sdfriesonI've been. For my entire 20s. I have never found gainful employment and just lost my job. I'm 30 now. 9 years man. But I'm a grown man with no money and no direction. I'm not sure what to do now.
Michigan has been so dull and depressing for me. I’m loving the change that’s coming to Detroit, it’s beautiful to see, but unfortunately I’ve been damaged through the time I was impoverished. I worked so hard to rise above that, and everywhere i travel I’m so happy, but when I come back home I feel submerged, and tormented by what once was. I absolutely have to go. Stepping out on faith, and planning to move to my favorite City (Pheonix, AZ)
Your feelings are justified. Often when we go through things in a place, it’s hard to heal in that place. You can always go back to visit and test if your in a good space(healing wise). Then you can move back maybe. But you know what’s best and it sounds like starting over is the answer. Good luck!
@@AminahOjere Thank you so much! You have no idea how much this helped me to see. I never viewed it in that light personally. I just know I felt burdened, and that I couldn’t get rid of that feeling. I really appreciate the wise words. I’m 100% taking this advice.❤️
@@DontTouchMyRAFxim from Arizona and im wanting to move to Indiana :) I feel the same , az has been growing so much but im simply unhappy here and want something new ^ I hope you enjoy you stay here and have an easy move if you love the weather here , you’ll love the state
You sound so much like me. I'm from the same place. I didn't grow up impoverished but if you aren't in a clique, and not "typical" you get treated like you think you're better and misunderstood. Do you know anyone in AZ? Have you traveled there solo?
I am 23 still in college.I moved to MI for a job and I didn’t have enough $ and nobody I knew there. It was a rushed move because of the circumstances.no apartment no car whatsoever just a job. I got scammed by an apartment and i stayed in an air bnb for 2 weeks and paid at least $1000 for that air bnb only for 2 weeks. I then found an apartment right at the end of the 2 weeks and moved in immediately. Luckily my landlord was nice and had me move in without paying the entire $2000 move in upfront and made a payment plan with me. I moved into an empty apartment with just a stove and a fridge. I found someone who sold me their car and made a payment plan with me. I started buying furniture from scratch (bed, couch, tv you name it) and had to borrow a few dollars from my friends. Its my 3rd month now my apartment is fully furnished and better than the one I had before.I am making my last car payment and finished paying my move in cost. I am still in debt and working on it bit by bit and covered over half of all of them and will be debt free by next month Crazy situation but Its better than how it was gonna be had I not moved so I am bot complaining. Sometimes you just gotta do it and things will fall in place eventually. I wouldn’t have known how strong I am if I hadnt made the move and I wouldn’t have learned half of the things I know now.
Thank you for sharing ! You are so brave . I completely understand you have no idea. This is apart of your story and you will look back at it and laugh one day (that’s what I tell myself). You have to keep pushing, day by day . And believe everything will work out . Just like it has been . You go girl !
@@angelmakima omg!...it worked crazy well for me. 8 months in, i have met some people to hang out with. enrolled in a different college , and things are going well. i am debt free too!. AMAZING! and I am 24 now !!
so many good points!! My girlfriend and I just moved from Oregon to Atlanta, and it was a cost loss. But, the opportunities we've been given in our careers, being close to one of the biggest airports in the world as pilots who love to travel, and the better weather here makes me feel confident we made the right decision. The craziest thing I think about is how I moved without even watching any youtube videos, or using good old youtube university for help. we really just took the leap of faith, almost didn't even make it tbh. But God got us here somehow, because the last 3-4 months have really been a blur for me honestly 😂
Thank you for this video, the thought of moving to a whole new state where I know absolutely no one is so scary but also something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time now. I’m in my late 20’s & single with no kids, so just figured now would be a better time than ever to go ahead & make that move. Going to start planning & making a deadline for myself.
Just moved from NYC to NJ. Only 45 minutes away but this was truly a faith move! God covered me! This is still a prayer, grind, faith movement because work still needs to be done but he blessed me with brand new everything!
I wish I could save up 2-3 months of rent. I only have $50 at the end of the week after paying bills and that has to get me to the next week. Sometimes I have to get rides to work. This shit is so hard
A voice came into my head and said, "Move to a different state." I did just that and never looked back. I am grateful I made this choice because I needed to move to create a better, healthier lifestyle and environment for me. My daughter feels the same while enjoying her college years in a new state. I totally agree with you. Sometimes, you have to take a leap of faith to find the good things missing from our lives.
This is sooooo helpful. I’m a licensed therapist and I’m thinking about moving and maybe changing my career. It’s getting to a point where I really need to move soon and start making a plan. This really clarifies a lot for me. Thank you so much!
Im glad I was able to shed some insight! I’m happy for you . Moving and changing careers can be scary but like you said it’s time to create a detailed plan and shift into action mode. We only have 1 life to live.
Wow! A new career! Good luck on what’s to come! I’m on the same boat! I’ve already moved across country and now that my heads a little clearer and far from the clutter, I’m wanting to change careers! I know I’m only 28, but I still feel old standing next to the 19 years old on campus
@@JSteveni I had to hop in here. I went to my cousin’s graduation(nursing program) and the oldest person to graduate was 75! Your on the right track and even if you switch again etc, just know it’s apart of YOUR story. 9/10 your classmates will be back in a few years to make adjustments too. I’m also in my late 20’s so you can imagine how everyone reacted when I said I’m moving and starting over . But hey it is what it is !
I am sick of renting. I want to own my own home, not have Bill's or be stuck in only one spot tied down with a bunch of Bill's. I decided to buy a camper van and live wherever I want. Alaska has so much opportunity for me. For anyone wanting to start a business or an entrepreneur Alaska is it!! People think it's too cold but I've been keeping tabs on the temp in south east Alaska and it stays around 35 degrees all winter which is much warmer than the -2 degrees here in indiana. I am moving in a few weeks. Cant wait!!
Thank you for sharing and congrats on your camper van! Renting definitely comes with its pros and cons depending on one’s situation. And agreed entrepreneurship is one of the best ways to true freedom. Even if you have to work a 9-5 temporarily to get there. Again congrats on taking a stand and doing what’s best for you. There’s a whole community of people doing van life or variations of it here on RUclips. Good luck on your journey.
That is why I always get scared. I don't wanna to pay for rent for whole life. You have to think for future may you will sta alone and sickness will come in some years you gonna maybe lose job or get too old to pay for rent etc etc....Wrire to us how did you made it
The irony. I’m in Alaska and just got the feeling to up and move. It’s a nice state but I’m tired of it here and ready for something new. Hope you’re doing well!
I'm watching this about to cry. I live in CA and I have felt stuck for many years now. 4 of my 3 children are grown and living their lives. I have a 10yr old still at home. Honestly I want out for so many reasons. I have been traveling to different places due to my daughters competition team & when I come back I'm always in a funk and depressed. I would love to just go but its the what if's that keep me here. My ultimate goal is to have a homestead and live off the land/travel. It's been my goal for years but sadly being low income I feel like I need to stop dreaming and be real. So I continue to wonder while crying many days/nights
I’m beyond terrified of moving out of my childhood home because it’s all I’ve ever known but I’m getting myself together day by day and this video helps me so much. Thank you for posting. Much love ❤
I’m planning on moving out of state in the next 2-3 years gods willing. I’m such an introvert also I’m such a family person but I’m in need of change. Thank you for this !!
This is exactly where I’m trying to move FROM. I was born & raised in DC & it’s not the same anymore. I feel a lot of the culture has left with the gentrification & it’s nothing here for me anymore. It’s so boring & depressing to me now. 😔
thanks for this video. I'm about to take a leap of faith from Chicago to Florida. and I'm 28 I was planning on moving years ago n still here in Chicago, so I made up in my mind to just go soon. what has be worried is jobs out there but I'm sure God will provide
Happy for you. Plan and save as much as possible, then go for it. You can always transition into remote work temporarily. But it will work out. Worst case you can move again. Good luck.
Hello, I’m 28 as well & thinking of moving to Florida myself. I’ve been thinking about it more now due to some recent personal life stressors/changes. Wanted to reach out to you to see if you were able to move to Florida & if so, how was your experience?
I’m so glad I found your channel. I know I want to relocate, I’m just having a hard time getting my thoughts and plans in order. Left accounting job after 7 years and wasn’t sure what to do first. Look for job or housing. I have pets so I have that to consider. Your positive attitude eased some of my anxiety. Thank you.
No problem Tammy. I say dedicate the time to do both. You may get lucky where you find a job in a city and you move for that job OR move then figure out a job. If you plan on staying in the finance space , you can even offer freelance or consulting services aka create a remote job for yourself. The possibilities are endless. Thank you for watching and good luck !
Girl, that's it! Kicking fear in the ass! I struggle so much with that when it comes to moving! The problem with the short term lease is I'm moving out of state quite a long way from where I'm living. The cost of moving all of my stuff across 6 states and then moving again is not something I can deal with. Step out on faith! That's really what it comes down to. Must have faith in God!
@@itsjasmine333how did it go? I'm 27 and my family is abusive I even have to run away secretly to actually "move out" since I'm not allowed to make decisions for myself.
@@smji5269 It went fine for me. The part that took the longest was finding an affordable apartment so I’d start looking as soon as possible. And if you are doing everything all by yourself you should save up as much as possible
I’m a single mom looking to leave where I’m from. I’ve been fighting to get away from this place. I work remote so that makes it better for me to move. It’s overwhelming and the rent prices are ridiculous. I started to feel down about it and just quit. I’m at a complete stand still now.
I was there mentally just a couple of months ago so I completely understand being over it. I can’t imagine being a single mom and trying to navigate these price increases. Your feelings are valid. It is extremely difficult but possible. Are you trying to get a apartment by yourself, a efficiency or would you be open to a roommate? Also what city are you in? If you don’t feel comfortable answering I understand. I’ve just noticed that if you rent outside of a major city it is usually cheaper.
@@AminahOjere Thank you for responding back. I’m looking to live alone since I like my personal space and I want that for my children also. I currently stay in Maryland where the rent is through the roof for a two bedroom in a nice safe area. They have some affordable apartments but they are in not so good areas which I’m not comfortable with. Plus I have always felt God telling me to leave my hometown since I’ve been here for 30 years and never been anywhere else. I’ve looked outside of my state and into Texas which was one of my considerations and I found cheaper rent in nice areas. I’m just scared to take the plunge but that may be what is necessary to do. I’m just so nervous.
Your feelings are valid. Doing anything outside of your norm is going to cause your mind to play tricks on you. It’s trying to keep you “safe” by creating thoughts of doubt. I think you’ve already answered your own question. The fact that you have that feeling that a move out of state is necessary shows that it’s time. I think Texas would be a good move i have seen the prices in eg houston and I agree it’s way cheaper and you can be somewhere safe. Get into a state of planning. Google , RUclips, Saving , researching schools , cost to ship items , maybe your car. Write it all out and then get into a state of action. Pick a date and go for it! Worst case you can always go back to your hometown. Your a whole momma. You have a job. You’ve already picked a place. With action it has no choice but to all work out . You have to believe that .
@@AminahOjere Thanks so much for taking time out of your day to genuinely respond. I literally just broke down crying reading your entire message because I have no one I feel I can talk to about this. There’s been so much going on the past few days and everyday feels like a push. I will cry to let it out but pick myself up to set this plan in motion.
@@lauraedwards6182 I’m from Maryland too!! Yes rent is ridiculous here I can’t afford it one bedroom or even for a studio price is ridiculous I’m trynna move away from here too it’s very depressing here I also been thinking about moving to Texas too I’ve never lived outside of the DMV🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this I’m moving out of state by myself and my brother said I’m crazy not visiting there first but like you said if I hate it I can move out again
One thing I’ve learned is we cannot take advice from people who have never done the things we want to do. Of course our family &/or friends want the best for us and love us but don’t let their opinions create fear. Plan it out , make sure your in a safe place (Google, Google maps , reviews , etc) , make sure your ok financially and go .
One thing I would stress to people is try to visit the cities you’re considering moving to. That’s why I traveled a lot in the past 2 years. I looked at Chicago is my number one destination.
The other alternative is join a GYCDL trucking program, they usually pay for all accommodations (flight, hotel, food etc) if you pass the program, you’ll be OTR and can travel a bit without the burden of bills.
Yea definitely need to do this . I'm in NYC and full-time job in my field of work with experience can't find so going to another state in my field of work will bring better opportunities
I just turned 18 in August. I’m a senior in high school and i graduate May 2023, and i dont have any kids. i was born in NYC and i was raised in West Michigan. I’ve been in Michigan since i was like 6 and haven’t left since. I hate it here so badly. There’s nothing to do here, everyone is leaving the city where im at, everyone around here is toxic, and literally everything else. I wanna move to Houston, TX. I’ve been trying to move there for like a year now. I tried getting my mom to move to TX because her husband has family there, better weather, more stuff to do, etc and probably wayy better than where im currently at. I have a job and im saving my money. I just wanna leave Michigan and have my own place. Im just so over it.
I understand being over it ! Trust me. Start looking at apartments in Houston. Look at Google reviews , walk score , how much rent would be . Then get into planning, really strategically saving. I don’t know if you plan on going to college but you can use college as a way to move. That’s what I would have done. Once I got to college I would have worked and saved . Then moved right after as opposed to going back home. You got this !
Hi! Congrats on your upcoming graduation and your courage and fearlessness! I don’t know if you know that if you pick a school to go to in Texas and get accepted, you would qualify for more student loan monies and that could help you on your journey. Maybe look into student housing. They have apt complexes that are exclusively for college students if you don’t want to live on campus in a dorm. Also look into the industries around where you want to live. For instance, the south part of Texas is a major chemical industry. There’s a lot of plants that pay good salaries with the right certifications and degrees. Ex. Engineers and Process Operators. I wish you well and don’t ever give up on your dreams! Do it for YOU!
This was me, at 17, I was living in West MI and was ready to go. Are you going to college? If you go to college, whether university or community at 18 the move should be easier which is why I’m still mad I declined my acceptance to an out of state school. I could’ve been left. There are a lot of perks of being a student (I miss them) If her husband has family there you should try to get to know them.
I needed to see this. I moved out of state to help a family member. After a year they said they are relocating 😮 You can come also , no I can’t . I cannot afford or do I like the new location. Now I have to pay and move back . As a senior it is tough. I’m taking one day at a time.
I am sorry that you are experiencing this. It may be tough but try to stay positive. Your mental health and comfortability is all that matters at this point. I hope it all works out!
Such a great video! Thank you for sharing how you took a leap of faith and how to plan. I definitely took notes. Can't wait to see more content and your journey!
I've been feeling trapped in my hometown for 35 years pretending to be someone I wasn't because they won't accept someone who's different around here they just bully me the minute I go out the door so I've been ready to leave for a long time I just don't know how to start or where to go I live in Texas and I just want to get far away from Texas. My Ultimate goal would be to travel internationally. But I had an adoptive mother who hated me so she never taught me much so I don't really know how to do this with only a $900 disability check.
Living on $900 a month isn't bad if you're able to relocate. You could consider living in your car temporarily until you find a job. After that, you could get a gym membership to have access to showers while working until you can afford an apartment.
Currently seeking to relocate to Georgia and it’s been something I’ve desired to do for YEARS. Went for a interview back in March and they didn’t even take note I was supposed to have an interview plus a current employee was having issues getting paid. I’m currently a caregiver and I’m even open to staying on the field but I’m also seeking remote positions to relocate. Preferably I’d like to have my job secured before I moved. I don’t even know how to move without a job but great tips. Thankfully though I’ve been stacking my money as I wait to relocate🙏🏾
Thank you for watching ! Being a caretaker is such noble work. You will definitely be able to find work here if you want to stay in that field. Maybe Google search care taking agencies in GA. A client of mine actually applied for a apartment prior to leaving her job , then moved . But that is having 3-6 months saved up. Definitely risky, but I say at least go into something remote that way you don’t have that headache/pressure. If it’s been on your mind, it is meant to happen. Worst case you can go back home. Good luck.
@@AminahOjere ahhh appreciate it, I actually had a spot pre approved! But I needed proof of income located in Georgia so I know it’s possible to get a place but the job is literally the most important part. But yes I’m open to staying in the field and I will be looking at agencies and remote jobs! You’re welcome for watching the video, I appreciate the gems 💎
Hey ! I’m 17 and I turn 18 in August 2024 ^ I’m from Arizona and have lived here all my life and I want to move so badly - I want to move to Indiana. I have a job and have some money saved . I know no one there but I want that fresh start your vid is so inspiring I’m binge watching all sorts of vids like these
This is what i am doing. Today i just put a down payment on an Airbnb for five months, to get myself situated in a new place (and find suitable permanent housing). I am relocating from Houston to Minneapolis. I was born and raised in houston but i am miserable here, career wise, romantically, platonically, and just in general. I researched Minneapolis for a year and willed this move into existence. I am going for it.
I know it’s hard but you can do this. It just takes planning and time . Might take a year or two could even be less but go into it with the mindset that you’ll be able to make it
CA to TX is a good move from a financial stand point.It will be a huge change but you will adapt. Stay positive and keep looking i'm sure you all will find a apartment/home.
I’m currently up 2am watching your video. I’m busting my brain. I’m a single mom who’s ready to move out of state. I’m scared. But I need to leave. Already set a date and wrote all the prices for my stuff that I want to sell so I can have a fresh start. I just need guidance
Very informative video! Also very true. U know what they say, u waiting for the perfect time, you'll be waiting forever. Im 31 and am a trucker and biker and jus got back from riding my harley from pa to Arizona. I met a woman that I've been friends wit, for over 10 years but never met in person. We loved eachother b4 we met. We had an absolute ball an she's my person. I know i That's my wife, i jus ain't got the ring yet. I too will be selling some stuff soon enough an loading my 4 harleys and ny clothes and tools in a big u haul and starting over. And wit me being a trucker, i can pretty much find work anywhere. Sometimes u jus gotta go for it. Have a plan, have some money Come in good faith, an jus do it!
Really good video with very practical tips about work options and getting a place and sometimes the first things aren't ideal like temp work or roommate but gives a start right? I'm older, single guy, recent unfortunate breakup, and she moved away too. I'm feeling like I need a change. The new city/state is only less than 400 miles, but more progressive state. I was layed off my job back in March. I have an online side gig and another 10 weeks of unemployment. I'm start looking for remote work or remote from that city and may take a road trip to see the place. I know the idea of we can't escape ourselves, but after she left, staying here just feels stagnant or empty for me.
I'm watching this because I want to move out of state but have nothing saved up the first thing I told myself is to get a job out there first and figure out the rest after . I did feel panic as a submitted my first application
Panic is normal! Just try to stay positive and know it will work out for you. Try to apply for remote positions as well. Also depending on if/where you work now you could transfer to another city or state but check with management. Good luck !
I know this feeling ! It took me almost 3 years but you have to believe you will leave. Those things that happen are tests to see if you will fold and forget your end goal. Stay positive! You got this! Truly.
I'm at the opposite end of life from you 63, but have wanted to move from this state since high school. Yes, a very long time. Something always came up and I would say to myself, some other time. Well the years came and went and I never made the move. So a few months ago I just decided I can't wait for the perfect time to move because it's not ever going to be perfect. I've decided May of 2025 is the goal to do it. A little late in life but better than never. It's me and my dog. We don't have a lot of extra money, and the move is a 4 day drive so I'm researching how to sleep in your car safely. I'm arranging the apartment online but even that is scary. God I hope this works out because I feel it's now or never.
I'm here because I want to go to college but my parent won't let me choose. So I told myself that I need to make on my own and move to a state that I would like to live in. I love them with all of my heart, but I just want some space.
Hope it went great, going through the same thing. Just keeps getting pushed back year after year and im done. Just being unhappy and depressed just to be comfortable is not worth it, just gonna go and whatever happens happens. I have even been at a point where i had 24 months of rent saved and was just scared because i had no job lined up in the new place. I stayed home and now its all gone, what a stupid mistake.
You can't blame yourself. You did what you thought was right at the time. It is never too late to rebuild and save again or like you said save just enough and take a chance. Depending on the city you choose, your job experience, etc you could get settled in quicker than you think.
I’m a single mom. Broke asf and dying to leave Colorado asap. I don’t want to stay here any more. I always said I’ll move next year but never did each year came around. I want to start fresh, I just graduated from empire school and want to be stable with a home, money, my child and with everything else…idk wut to do. My apartment where I’m staying right now is so expensive now $2000 bro and all my money is just going into bills and my son and I ain’t got help only support from God
I’m glad I was able to give a bit of insight . Of course your situation is a little different . Definitely make sure to check the walk score of your neighborhood as well as the schools in the area (their success rate , sports offerings , if it’s diverse) and of course all the things you as a parent need to thrive. Good luck !
This is my situation right now. I'm about to leave my apt in a few weeks to go out of state and i don't even know where I'm going to live with my two kids and a family friend. (Getting out of a n extremely toxic situation) I'm so nervous and the options that I'm finding are super expensive atm. Airbnb is crazy I thought the long term would be a good idea but whew😩. I looked into subletting but I don't want to get scammed. Vrbo prices are a lil better but I'm on a tight budget. I'm still gonna take the leap but I'm terrified.
I know I'm late. But I couldn't help the fact that I'm a scorpio....my 2 places I'm stuck on is Texas and Atlanta and I'm having q hard time just picking up and going, I've been planning and saying I'm leaving, but I'm still in Philadelphia. I'm trying to plan and keep control of the situation as well. Afraid it might not go right. Listening to you made me feel alittle better. I'm still like how am I going to do this because I have a child to think about also, but it will happen.
Never late. Thank you for watching. Yes Scorpio gang lol. But in all seriousness, i completely understand, you have to think about what’s best for your child also. I would say one thing depending on your child’s age, at the beginning of the school year would be best for a move. As far as affordability, Texas would be best all around especially for rent/buying. Now Texas is kind of diverse(depending on the city) but not as diverse at Atlanta. But Atlanta can be rough in the city, the suburbs are a bit better and more affordable, but cost of living is rising there too. I know this may not help, but it is entirely possible. It may take you a little longer, but if your handling business now you will continue to do so for you and yours no matter what. You just have to put a plan in motion.
I enjoy your video. For me, they are only two or three things in doubt: How much money do I need to have saved, and do I need to learn how to drive, and own a car.
It all depends on where you want to move to. Some cities eg NYC/San Francisco or even Philadelphia do not require a car. It is always nice to have one, but you can get by. As far as how much money to save it depends on the type of accommodation/apt/room share. I always say 3-6 month of expenses is safe. If you want further help with this, I offer a 1on1 service where we can come up with a moving plan (budget, timeline etc) and/or I can help you find accommodations . Here’s the link : calendly.com/aminahojere . Wishing you luck !
I'm 40 but everyone thinks I'm 30. Have 2 degrees. Just left job where it was devastating and a relationship. I think if safety etc and feeling alone in making my move. I've never felt connection in recent years in my state. It's cliquish and the women doing well all had a sorority mentality my age . I didn't want to do it alone out there. But I'm this age, no kids, it's time to go! Haven't been away in years!
It might be time. Rooting for you. Think about it like this, maybe everything is being removed from around you so you can finally take the leap? Wishing you luck with everything.
Honestly it is hard. I was lucky to have 1 person support me but we were both in the same spot. No parents, no family support until this day! But sometimes that is the fuel you need. You have to do things for you with or without help. We only get 1 life. That is why I made it a point to make this video. It is doable it just takes alot of planning sometimes. It could take you saving for a year or 2. But don't doubt yourself. I have videos on my channel talking about how to find apartments. If you are serious and want some 1:1 help like with a solid moving plan, here is my link www.stan.store/aminahojere. Good luck.
I love your worst case mind hack. Not everyone can do that in this housing market, but I'm pretty sure I could swing it. My place is remote so demand is low.
@@AminahOjere Georgia first. I want to rebuild my life after such a rough childhood in Florida, like I grew up and finished college had my own apartment but if you don’t come from wealth in Florida it is gritty. Florida is affiliated with my trauma then for California I want to move there but after I scale my business to where I want it to be. California has the best beauty trade shows and vendors for launching a cosmetics business. So, I’ll definitely be flying out there time to time. I am going to explore america like I never had then explore overseas as well.
I love this for you ! And I can relate unfortunately. It’s definitely time for a change. Start in GA and save/plan for CA. Don’t get comfortable. CA is the next best apart from overseas for your vendors needs. Your so right!. There’s a whole district where you can get raw materials etc. Plus LA is just good for networking overall. If your still scaling alibaba etc might be too much right away. But definitely make sure to get your resale license so you can get the best prices at trade shows etc. Anyways so excited for your new chapter!!
Interesting video because I have been contemplating about possibly moving out of state (between three cities) by late summer, to accommodate voter registration and license tag renewal deadlines. As for work, I will very likely be remote.
Thank you for watching ! I decided to move without doing these things just because I wanted to get a feel of the city first. So don’t let that hold you back. Once you have a job lined up/currently work remote, have 3x rent saved or enough money saved by your standards and of course a place to stay even if it’s temporary… You can figure the rest out later. But of course do what your the most comfortable with and good luck !
From what I’ve experienced in both states, I would say 1-3 weeks is standard for a traditional apartment complex. I have heard of people knowing within a few days. Most apartments have a third party validate your documents so most of the process relies on them.
@@AminahOjere Ok. I have been doing virtual tours mainly because I wouldn’t be able to be physically present in the short term. I also have a birthday in September, so hopefully I will have everything put into plan and the city narrowed down amongst the three by then.
Are you a minimalist - how did you end up with only three duffel bags worth of belongings and no items in storage to pick up your bags and move to another state in two weeks? It takes way over three months alone just for me to downsize my things.
I became a minimalist on accident lol. And as for my duffle bags, they were the huge black burrito shaped ones. So basically I moved out of my family home right when the pandemic hit. I did not have much furniture then just enough to be comfortable in a small space. As far as clothes and random stuff, I donated and threw out so much. If I didn’t wear it or use it in the past year, I let it go. Fast forward to moving out of state, it was easy because I did most of the work prior. My plan was to move into a larger space in miami and settle but the pandemic raised the prices, and the availability for places didn’t match when I needed to move out. So I decided to just leave Florida all together lol. I basically started completely over when I got to GA and kept it simple ever since. Offer up is clutch for getting things sold asap. Maybe one day I’ll do a story time but for now thanks for commenting.
I am thinking the same thing to wear a little bit out-of-state move somewhere I will don’t nobody know me and I don’t know‘s in to start my life over that is my dream and my goal just have a little scared right now there’s no use to me being here you have any suggestions🐼
I am 62 and want to maybe move from the Midwest to maybe Texas? it is so hard to find an apartment just by looking online and making long distance phone calls.
I just moved to Houston from Philly. I dont like it here. From my experience the mental illness and homelessness is overwhelming. The black men have intense energy and seem like they hit women. There are lose dogs roaming the residential areas, that have houses but the apartment complexes are like shabby. But mostly no one here cares to help you if you need it... The city is saturated with scammers.
I'm so sorry that you are having this experience! I've heard mixed reviews on living in Houston. I cannot speak on living there full time as I visited but stayed mostly in the montrose/midtown area. Most people agree that it depends on the area in which you are living etc. But hopefully you are signed into a lease that is a year or less Maybe try another area, or relocating out of state altogether? I know it's easier said than done because you just moved but it will all work out if you plan it out. Your mental health is priority. In the meantime, stay safe and try to stay positive.
I am having a hard time moving away socially and economically. Socially my family and helicopter watchers....economically low funds....and with intense trust issues from people that were suppose to help but are not helping. I called the police on my parents twice and I am still stuck here. Informed military of sadness and trauma....no homeless shelters or family members I trust to get out. Thanks for the video....if you have any additional resources please inform me. Ive been trying to leave this situation since I graduated college in 2018....
i live in la every week i go to san francisco i honestly feel more happy over there especially in bakersfield, my mom doesnt want to move im honestly bored of la all you really see is trash all over the place but still mom doesnt want to, i tell her lets try n move there to see if we can find better jobs still doesnt want to like WHAT DO I DO? i honestly just feel like crying sometimes ive been living in la for atleast 19 years.
I know this feeling too well. It would be easy for you both to be able to share the rent and bills etc. Maybe take her with you next time so she can get a feel for San Francisco. She might change her mind once she sees that she can thrive there also or if there are things that resemble what she likes. If that does not work, you might have to start planning to move without her.
Those things keep or hide dirt. Even when my house is clean, it doesnt feel 100% clean because of huge cabinets, fridge, ovens, beds, dressers and etc.
Please reach out to me because I am in this situation and I just noticed that this video is 2 years old and I need an update because I am in this situation right now. I know where I want to end up but just need help on the move.
I ended up moving to New York. Experienced my first winter (horrible haha). Definitely a culture shock but Atlanta was not the city for me. Living in the South and then the North has given me exposure and experience that I don't think I would have gained staying in my home city. I do wish my living situation was better. Having roommates is a challenge and an adjustment but it is not forever. I can visit family and friends from time to time so it balances out. I still haven't gotten a corporate opportunity in Marketing but I am creating my own opportunities by freelancing etc. There are ups and downs but I'm grateful. I have been there it can get tricky but you will know in your gut when it is time to go. If you want more detailed help/privacy visit stan.store/aminahojere
me and my bf r planning on moving in like 4 months but i’m not sure abt how to get an apartment without working there yet. were planning on getting an air bnb for a month but it’s kinda scary
Congrats on moving! A airbnb for a month will give you time to find a job. If possible save enough for 2 months(airbnb). Be open to working in different industries in the beginning. Like right now restaurants are looking for hostesses etc. It won't hurt to try to get remote work ahead of time. Also apartments do accept offer letters from jobs but might require additional security deposit. You got this. Good luck with everything.
Depending on your apartment complex you can do 1 of 4 things : 1 sublease your apartment basically get someone to take over your lease through the office/management. 2. Sublet your apartment (risky) , have someone live in your apartment and have them pay you the rent so Airbnb or fb marketplace. You would of course have to go back to the state to check and do the walk through at the end of the lease. 3. Break your lease . Some apartments have a policy where you would either loose your deposit or pay 1 month of rent. Check your lease of course or call your management and find out. Option 4 is to just ride the lease out 🥲. I hope that helps !
I don't know who you are but you are very blessed and you have a purpose I'm in the same situation and you want to and I don't know how to go about it could you please
3:42 For tips and advice that helped me move in less than 2 weeks (in bullet form)
I’m relocating my life…I deserve a new start, 40 no kids, I want to forget my entire past and start fresh, no old friends no family just start living my life my way for myself. I’m taking my two lil dogs too…we are going to love our best before it’s all over and time is flying so no time to hesitate
At 40 you are still young,so no worries😀 they make you old quick in this country.My decision is taken too, I am moving in maximum a month.
I’m 39. Lived in an expensive city and just relocated. You just have to pray about it and do it.
@kavelsway The earth is for human beings as long as you are living in a place where you can live decently, peacefully and honestly.....
Well said ❤❤❤❤
I came here cause I am stuck. I don't know how to leave without a job elsewhere and very little money. I didn't come this far in my life to be this unhappy and miserable. I feel like I am suffocating here.
same here, same town all my life and like you said "stuck". I'm just gonna go for it, i'm tired of being afraid because "what if" it doesn't work out. I think your gut will tell you it's time, then it's about overcoming the fear of being uncomfortable and stressed for a little while. i think everything is temporary and whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger, at least you tried and can learn from the process.
Hey hun how are you doing? Please give me an update I hope youre okay
I think one of the jobs that kinda helps in someway is being a truck driver. just getting a cdl so you can go over the road and live in the truck
@@randomanton completely agree and relate. I'm so sick of the fear. But I feel blocked like I don't know how to get myself out. Can't afford to stay but can't afford to leave financially. I live in Austin Tx and the cost of living and housing is horrible. I'm one paycheck from homelessness like thousands of others around here.
I am so sorry that I didn't see these comments sooner. I didn't realize notifications were off. I want to say how much I appreciate all of your comments. So rarely are people kind on RUclips. I'm still stuck. I spoke with my AA sponsor and she's helping me break it down step by step. So first I'm going to go look at RVs. I'm still looking for a full time job but can't even get an interview which is insane since so many people don't want to work and so many are hiring. In the meantime I'm still at my part time job of 8 years and doing side gigs just trying to keep my head above water. Austin living is absurd and no matter how much I work I am still barely treading water. I have to do something and soon cause I can feel my soul being eroded slowly and as a recovering addict not only is that a dangerous thing for me but I've also worked too hard to be slowly suffocated living here. I need to find a new town/state but how does one choose where to go?
If you watching this 2024 just do it ngl cause you more than likely watching this cause you thinking bout moving states, have no plan and scared. But I just did it and it’s going great! Only thing is I knew someone in the state where I moved to. But it’s nice to have a fresh start DO IT!
Watching this video made me realize that I would make a mistake if I move in with other family members just to get away from my own. I’d be happier if I immediately moved into my own apartment.
If you can move out on your own, that might be better than going from one situation to another for sure. It’s not easy living with people in general . But don’t rush the process if you don’t have to. I offer a 1-1 service where we can come up with a custom relocation plan for you. (See the description if you need it). Otherwise, just remember that you got this.
i will tell you from my current situation yeah moving with another family member won’t make you feel better because you will always have to adapt to their environment
I'll move into a shelter with complete strangers than move with family ever again.
@@sdfrieson Me too.
@@sdfriesonI've been. For my entire 20s. I have never found gainful employment and just lost my job. I'm 30 now. 9 years man. But I'm a grown man with no money and no direction. I'm not sure what to do now.
Michigan has been so dull and depressing for me. I’m loving the change that’s coming to Detroit, it’s beautiful to see, but unfortunately I’ve been damaged through the time I was impoverished. I worked so hard to rise above that, and everywhere i travel I’m so happy, but when I come back home I feel submerged, and tormented by what once was. I absolutely have to go. Stepping out on faith, and planning to move to my favorite City (Pheonix, AZ)
Your feelings are justified. Often when we go through things in a place, it’s hard to heal in that place. You can always go back to visit and test if your in a good space(healing wise). Then you can move back maybe. But you know what’s best and it sounds like starting over is the answer. Good luck!
@@AminahOjere Thank you so much! You have no idea how much this helped me to see. I never viewed it in that light personally. I just know I felt burdened, and that I couldn’t get rid of that feeling. I really appreciate the wise words. I’m 100% taking this advice.❤️
@@DontTouchMyRAFxim from Arizona and im wanting to move to Indiana :) I feel the same , az has been growing so much but im simply unhappy here and want something new ^ I hope you enjoy you stay here and have an easy move if you love the weather here , you’ll love the state
You sound so much like me. I'm from the same place. I didn't grow up impoverished but if you aren't in a clique, and not "typical" you get treated like you think you're better and misunderstood. Do you know anyone in AZ? Have you traveled there solo?
I am 23 still in college.I moved to MI for a job and I didn’t have enough $ and nobody I knew there. It was a rushed move because of the circumstances.no apartment no car whatsoever just a job. I got scammed by an apartment and i stayed in an air bnb for 2 weeks and paid at least $1000 for that air bnb only for 2 weeks. I then found an apartment right at the end of the 2 weeks and moved in immediately. Luckily my landlord was nice and had me move in without paying the entire $2000 move in upfront and made a payment plan with me. I moved into an empty apartment with just a stove and a fridge. I found someone who sold me their car and made a payment plan with me. I started buying furniture from scratch (bed, couch, tv you name it) and had to borrow a few dollars from my friends. Its my 3rd month now my apartment is fully furnished and better than the one I had before.I am making my last car payment and finished paying my move in cost. I am still in debt and working on it bit by bit and covered over half of all of them and will be debt free by next month Crazy situation but Its better than how it was gonna be had I not moved so I am bot complaining. Sometimes you just gotta do it and things will fall in place eventually. I wouldn’t have known how strong I am if I hadnt made the move and I wouldn’t have learned half of the things I know now.
Thank you for sharing ! You are so brave . I completely understand you have no idea. This is apart of your story and you will look back at it and laugh one day (that’s what I tell myself). You have to keep pushing, day by day . And believe everything will work out . Just like it has been . You go girl !
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@@angelmakima omg!...it worked crazy well for me. 8 months in, i have met some people to hang out with. enrolled in a different college , and things are going well. i am debt free too!. AMAZING! and I am 24 now !!
@@3426-y2t huge congrats! seems like your winning right now in life, hope it keeps going that way for you!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 thank you for sharing your experience!! Very inspiring! All the best!! 💕💕
so many good points!! My girlfriend and I just moved from Oregon to Atlanta, and it was a cost loss. But, the opportunities we've been given in our careers, being close to one of the biggest airports in the world as pilots who love to travel, and the better weather here makes me feel confident we made the right decision. The craziest thing I think about is how I moved without even watching any youtube videos, or using good old youtube university for help. we really just took the leap of faith, almost didn't even make it tbh. But God got us here somehow, because the last 3-4 months have really been a blur for me honestly 😂
I want out of Alaska. Do do know how is the job market in Georgia for Admin Assistants? Thank you 🙏
Yooo I’m thinking of moving to Atlanta from Arizona! Any tips ?
Thank you for this video, the thought of moving to a whole new state where I know absolutely no one is so scary but also something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time now. I’m in my late 20’s & single with no kids, so just figured now would be a better time than ever to go ahead & make that move. Going to start planning & making a deadline for myself.
Just moved from NYC to NJ. Only 45 minutes away but this was truly a faith move! God covered me! This is still a prayer, grind, faith movement because work still needs to be done but he blessed me with brand new everything!
Congratulations! 🎊🎈 Take it one step at a time. You’ve gotten this far for a reason.
@@AminahOjere Thanks Sis! That means the world to me!
So inspiring! With God all things are possible. 💙
That’s inspiring. I’m about to do the same
I live in nyc and also want to move too. It's encouraging to hear that it worked out for you
I wish I could save up 2-3 months of rent. I only have $50 at the end of the week after paying bills and that has to get me to the next week. Sometimes I have to get rides to work. This shit is so hard
Just do it
@@ninaboyd4931 that's not even helpful
@@ninaboyd4931 How? when they have only $50. Use credit cards?. I need to move out too and I'm thinking of using my cards.
Do you receive tax refunds? If so, perhaps you could slowly start saving them and any other extra income you may get
A voice came into my head and said, "Move to a different state." I did just that and never looked back. I am grateful I made this choice because I needed to move to create a better, healthier lifestyle and environment for me. My daughter feels the same while enjoying her college years in a new state. I totally agree with you. Sometimes, you have to take a leap of faith to find the good things missing from our lives.
Thank you for sharing ! Following that inner voice has been the best thing I ever did. So happy your daughter adapted the same mindset.
Something in me is telling me to move to another state as well but idk where
@angelicagrajales1338 soon it will be clear. Just ask yourself, where do I see myself in the next few years? Sharon
This is sooooo helpful. I’m a licensed therapist and I’m thinking about moving and maybe changing my career. It’s getting to a point where I really need to move soon and start making a plan. This really clarifies a lot for me. Thank you so much!
Im glad I was able to shed some insight! I’m happy for you . Moving and changing careers can be scary but like you said it’s time to create a detailed plan and shift into action mode. We only have 1 life to live.
Wow! A new career! Good luck on what’s to come! I’m on the same boat! I’ve already moved across country and now that my heads a little clearer and far from the clutter, I’m wanting to change careers! I know I’m only 28, but I still feel old standing next to the 19 years old on campus
@@JSteveni I had to hop in here. I went to my cousin’s graduation(nursing program) and the oldest person to graduate was 75! Your on the right track and even if you switch again etc, just know it’s apart of YOUR story. 9/10 your classmates will be back in a few years to make adjustments too. I’m also in my late 20’s so you can imagine how everyone reacted when I said I’m moving and starting over . But hey it is what it is !
I am sick of renting. I want to own my own home, not have Bill's or be stuck in only one spot tied down with a bunch of Bill's. I decided to buy a camper van and live wherever I want. Alaska has so much opportunity for me. For anyone wanting to start a business or an entrepreneur Alaska is it!! People think it's too cold but I've been keeping tabs on the temp in south east Alaska and it stays around 35 degrees all winter which is much warmer than the -2 degrees here in indiana. I am moving in a few weeks. Cant wait!!
Thank you for sharing and congrats on your camper van! Renting definitely comes with its pros and cons depending on one’s situation. And agreed entrepreneurship is one of the best ways to true freedom. Even if you have to work a 9-5 temporarily to get there. Again congrats on taking a stand and doing what’s best for you. There’s a whole community of people doing van life or variations of it here on RUclips. Good luck on your journey.
That is why I always get scared. I don't wanna to pay for rent for whole life. You have to think for future may you will sta alone and sickness will come in some years you gonna maybe lose job or get too old to pay for rent etc etc....Wrire to us how did you made it
I wish you the best sounds like your excited and ready to start your new life. God bless you. I never realized Alaska was not that cold.
I am thinking of relocating to Alaska as well, but just too scared right now. I know for sure that it’s time to get out of Georgia
The irony. I’m in Alaska and just got the feeling to up and move. It’s a nice state but I’m tired of it here and ready for something new. Hope you’re doing well!
i'm moving in less than 2 weeks with no plan, thank you queen!
You got this ! Good luck 💕
how are you now💓
I'm watching this about to cry. I live in CA and I have felt stuck for many years now. 4 of my 3 children are grown and living their lives. I have a 10yr old still at home. Honestly I want out for so many reasons. I have been traveling to different places due to my daughters competition team & when I come back I'm always in a funk and depressed. I would love to just go but its the what if's that keep me here. My ultimate goal is to have a homestead and live off the land/travel. It's been my goal for years but sadly being low income I feel like I need to stop dreaming and be real. So I continue to wonder while crying many days/nights
i’m sending so much love your way, you are so strong.
I’m beyond terrified of moving out of my childhood home because it’s all I’ve ever known but I’m getting myself together day by day and this video helps me so much. Thank you for posting. Much love ❤
I’m planning on moving out of state in the next 2-3 years gods willing. I’m such an introvert also I’m such a family person but I’m in need of change. Thank you for this !!
Your very welcome! Take your time. Just remember you can try it for a year and go back if you don’t like it.
Me too but like I wanna move in the next 2months
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I feel you on the entire first 3 minutes. I just visited maryland and downtown DC and I was like wow the vibe is so different from where i live
Awesome ! Yep! Once you get a feel for a different place , it’s only up from there.
Omg wow. That’s literally why I’m watching this video, I’m considering moving there and I have family in Maryland! I might wanna move there.
This is exactly where I’m trying to move FROM. I was born & raised in DC & it’s not the same anymore. I feel a lot of the culture has left with the gentrification & it’s nothing here for me anymore. It’s so boring & depressing to me now. 😔
@@lulnish3473same, i'm from MD and trying to LEAVE
@@lulnish3473 same
thanks for this video. I'm about to take a leap of faith from Chicago to Florida. and I'm 28 I was planning on moving years ago n still here in Chicago, so I made up in my mind to just go soon. what has be worried is jobs out there but I'm sure God will provide
Happy for you. Plan and save as much as possible, then go for it. You can always transition into remote work temporarily. But it will work out. Worst case you can move again. Good luck.
Hello, I’m 28 as well & thinking of moving to Florida myself. I’ve been thinking about it more now due to some recent personal life stressors/changes. Wanted to reach out to you to see if you were able to move to Florida & if so, how was your experience?
Did you move? I also live right by chicago and want to move to FL. Lol. I have no idea where to begin
@@gsanchez5116 Same I’m just 21 and I wanna leave my parents so bad but I got little money and no job what about you?
@@lissettecoreas2380so did you do it 👀
I’m so glad I found your channel. I know I want to relocate, I’m just having a hard time getting my thoughts and plans in order. Left accounting job after 7 years and wasn’t sure what to do first. Look for job or housing. I have pets so I have that to consider. Your positive attitude eased some of my anxiety. Thank you.
No problem Tammy. I say dedicate the time to do both. You may get lucky where you find a job in a city and you move for that job OR move then figure out a job. If you plan on staying in the finance space , you can even offer freelance or consulting services aka create a remote job for yourself. The possibilities are endless. Thank you for watching and good luck !
Congratulations on your move❤️ i love that you’re happy with your new place and decision!
Thank you so much ! I’m also glad that I took that leap. I see that you made a move also, do you like Texas ?
Girl, that's it! Kicking fear in the ass! I struggle so much with that when it comes to moving! The problem with the short term lease is I'm moving out of state quite a long way from where I'm living. The cost of moving all of my stuff across 6 states and then moving again is not something I can deal with.
Step out on faith! That's really what it comes down to. Must have faith in God!
I'm very tired of the "Lou" -St.Louis MO. I'm 26 and I might just make that move . Your testimony is inspiring brown sugar
Do it! I just did
I live here too and I hate it here, hope you can leave😭🙈
@@Laurielavendar seriously.. thank you, likewise lol
@@itsjasmine333how did it go? I'm 27 and my family is abusive I even have to run away secretly to actually "move out" since I'm not allowed to make decisions for myself.
@@smji5269 It went fine for me. The part that took the longest was finding an affordable apartment so I’d start looking as soon as possible. And if you are doing everything all by yourself you should save up as much as possible
I’m a single mom looking to leave where I’m from. I’ve been fighting to get away from this place. I work remote so that makes it better for me to move. It’s overwhelming and the rent prices are ridiculous. I started to feel down about it and just quit. I’m at a complete stand still now.
I was there mentally just a couple of months ago so I completely understand being over it. I can’t imagine being a single mom and trying to navigate these price increases. Your feelings are valid. It is extremely difficult but possible. Are you trying to get a apartment by yourself, a efficiency or would you be open to a roommate? Also what city are you in? If you don’t feel comfortable answering I understand. I’ve just noticed that if you rent outside of a major city it is usually cheaper.
@@AminahOjere Thank you for responding back. I’m looking to live alone since I like my personal space and I want that for my children also. I currently stay in Maryland where the rent is through the roof for a two bedroom in a nice safe area. They have some affordable apartments but they are in not so good areas which I’m not comfortable with. Plus I have always felt God telling me to leave my hometown since I’ve been here for 30 years and never been anywhere else. I’ve looked outside of my state and into Texas which was one of my considerations and I found cheaper rent in nice areas. I’m just scared to take the plunge but that may be what is necessary to do. I’m just so nervous.
Your feelings are valid. Doing anything outside of your norm is going to cause your mind to play tricks on you. It’s trying to keep you “safe” by creating thoughts of doubt. I think you’ve already answered your own question. The fact that you have that feeling that a move out of state is necessary shows that it’s time. I think Texas would be a good move i have seen the prices in eg houston and I agree it’s way cheaper and you can be somewhere safe. Get into a state of planning. Google , RUclips, Saving , researching schools , cost to ship items , maybe your car. Write it all out and then get into a state of action. Pick a date and go for it! Worst case you can always go back to your hometown. Your a whole momma. You have a job. You’ve already picked a place. With action it has no choice but to all work out . You have to believe that .
@@AminahOjere Thanks so much for taking time out of your day to genuinely respond. I literally just broke down crying reading your entire message because I have no one I feel I can talk to about this. There’s been so much going on the past few days and everyday feels like a push. I will cry to let it out but pick myself up to set this plan in motion.
@@lauraedwards6182 I’m from Maryland too!! Yes rent is ridiculous here I can’t afford it one bedroom or even for a studio price is ridiculous I’m trynna move away from here too it’s very depressing here I also been thinking about moving to Texas too I’ve never lived outside of the DMV🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for this I’m moving out of state by myself and my brother said I’m crazy not visiting there first but like you said if I hate it I can move out again
One thing I’ve learned is we cannot take advice from people who have never done the things we want to do. Of course our family &/or friends want the best for us and love us but don’t let their opinions create fear. Plan it out , make sure your in a safe place (Google, Google maps , reviews , etc) , make sure your ok financially and go .
You not crazy you just know what you want not meant for everybody to understand your Vision
@@AminahOjere Preach!
this has probably been the most helpful video i’ve ever watched
Aw happy to help !
One thing I would stress to people is try to visit the cities you’re considering moving to. That’s why I traveled a lot in the past 2 years. I looked at Chicago is my number one destination.
The other alternative is join a GYCDL trucking program, they usually pay for all accommodations (flight, hotel, food etc) if you pass the program, you’ll be OTR and can travel a bit without the burden of bills.
As a Scorpio I felt you on that part because same . 😭
This video was very helpful. I resonated with everything that you said, especially about working remote. I’ve applied to so many jobs in my field
Glad it was helpful! I wish someone told me it’s ok to try something different. Keep applying but definitely keep your options open. Good luck.
Yea definitely need to do this . I'm in NYC and full-time job in my field of work with experience can't find so going to another state in my field of work will bring better opportunities
I just turned 18 in August. I’m a senior in high school and i graduate May 2023, and i dont have any kids. i was born in NYC and i was raised in West Michigan. I’ve been in Michigan since i was like 6 and haven’t left since. I hate it here so badly. There’s nothing to do here, everyone is leaving the city where im at, everyone around here is toxic, and literally everything else. I wanna move to Houston, TX. I’ve been trying to move there for like a year now.
I tried getting my mom to move to TX because her husband has family there, better weather, more stuff to do, etc and probably wayy better than where im currently at.
I have a job and im saving my money. I just wanna leave Michigan and have my own place. Im just so over it.
I understand being over it ! Trust me. Start looking at apartments in Houston. Look at Google reviews , walk score , how much rent would be . Then get into planning, really strategically saving. I don’t know if you plan on going to college but you can use college as a way to move. That’s what I would have done. Once I got to college I would have worked and saved . Then moved right after as opposed to going back home. You got this !
Hi! Congrats on your upcoming graduation and your courage and fearlessness! I don’t know if you know that if you pick a school to go to in Texas and get accepted, you would qualify for more student loan monies and that could help you on your journey. Maybe look into student housing. They have apt complexes that are exclusively for college students if you don’t want to live on campus in a dorm. Also look into the industries around where you want to live. For instance, the south part of Texas is a major chemical industry. There’s a lot of plants that pay good salaries with the right certifications and degrees. Ex. Engineers and Process Operators. I wish you well and don’t ever give up on your dreams! Do it for YOU!
I’ve been there I lived in Michigan my whole life got tired and moved to Nevada been here two years.. Moving again because it’s time.. You can do it…
This was me, at 17, I was living in West MI and was ready to go. Are you going to college? If you go to college, whether university or community at 18 the move should be easier which is why I’m still mad I declined my acceptance to an out of state school. I could’ve been left. There are a lot of perks of being a student (I miss them) If her husband has family there you should try to get to know them.
I needed to see this. I moved out of state to help a family member. After a year they said they are relocating 😮 You can come also , no I can’t . I cannot afford or do I like the new location. Now I have to pay and move back . As a senior it is tough. I’m taking one day at a time.
I am sorry that you are experiencing this. It may be tough but try to stay positive. Your mental health and comfortability is all that matters at this point. I hope it all works out!
@@AminahOjere Appreciate it. I am a strong person and know it will be okay. Again ty for the great video.
thank you soo much for this! i needed it! moving away gives me soo much anxiety but this made me feel better about it ❤
my left ear loved this video 💘💘
3:28- Places for short term leases , lease take over, sublets and roommates
Your a beautiful educated woman. Thanks for the advice. I’m at this point in my life now. Trying to find my place.
If you want something bad enough you'll figure out a way. This almost applies to everything in life.
I’m living with my sisters and I appreciate both of them and I will relocate when I get a chance
I want to move out of state! I’m unsure of where to begin? How to pick the perfect place?
Such a great video! Thank you for sharing how you took a leap of faith and how to plan. I definitely took notes. Can't wait to see more content and your journey!
Thank you for watching
This video brought me so much clarity. Thank-you so much. You are such an amazing person. So intelligent and wise with your words.
Thank you for your kind words! Wishing you luck.
I've been feeling trapped in my hometown for 35 years pretending to be someone I wasn't because they won't accept someone who's different around here they just bully me the minute I go out the door so I've been ready to leave for a long time I just don't know how to start or where to go I live in Texas and I just want to get far away from Texas. My Ultimate goal would be to travel internationally. But I had an adoptive mother who hated me so she never taught me much so I don't really know how to do this with only a $900 disability check.
Living on $900 a month isn't bad if you're able to relocate. You could consider living in your car temporarily until you find a job. After that, you could get a gym membership to have access to showers while working until you can afford an apartment.
Currently seeking to relocate to Georgia and it’s been something I’ve desired to do for YEARS. Went for a interview back in March and they didn’t even take note I was supposed to have an interview plus a current employee was having issues getting paid. I’m currently a caregiver and I’m even open to staying on the field but I’m also seeking remote positions to relocate. Preferably I’d like to have my job secured before I moved. I don’t even know how to move without a job but great tips. Thankfully though I’ve been stacking my money as I wait to relocate🙏🏾
Thank you for watching ! Being a caretaker is such noble work. You will definitely be able to find work here if you want to stay in that field. Maybe Google search care taking agencies in GA. A client of mine actually applied for a apartment prior to leaving her job , then moved . But that is having 3-6 months saved up. Definitely risky, but I say at least go into something remote that way you don’t have that headache/pressure. If it’s been on your mind, it is meant to happen. Worst case you can go back home. Good luck.
@@AminahOjere ahhh appreciate it, I actually had a spot pre approved! But I needed proof of income located in Georgia so I know it’s possible to get a place but the job is literally the most important part. But yes I’m open to staying in the field and I will be looking at agencies and remote jobs! You’re welcome for watching the video, I appreciate the gems 💎
Hey ! I’m 17 and I turn 18 in August 2024 ^ I’m from Arizona and have lived here all my life and I want to move so badly - I want to move to Indiana. I have a job and have some money saved . I know no one there but I want that fresh start your vid is so inspiring I’m binge watching all sorts of vids like these
This is what i am doing. Today i just put a down payment on an Airbnb for five months, to get myself situated in a new place (and find suitable permanent housing).
I am relocating from Houston to Minneapolis.
I was born and raised in houston but i am miserable here, career wise, romantically, platonically, and just in general. I researched Minneapolis for a year and willed this move into existence.
I am going for it.
Awesome ! Wishing you the best of luck !
Thank you for sharing this video. This message resonates with me. Good luck on your journey!!!!
Thank you so much for watching ! 😄
I feel the same way too it so hard .
I know it’s hard but you can do this. It just takes planning and time . Might take a year or two could even be less but go into it with the mindset that you’ll be able to make it
Congrats on your new beginning!!! I pray I can do the same when I plan to ❤
You totally can! Just know that you deserve everything you want, and it's possible with some hard work and faith.
Oh my god. Yes. I am such a control freak and wanting to move is so hard! Thanks for this video!
Glad to know I’m not the only one lol. Thanks for watching !
I am here in the same situation. I am moving from Ca to Texas..... no apt no money 2 kids minor age, but we are excited for this new move....
CA to TX is a good move from a financial stand point.It will be a huge change but you will adapt. Stay positive and keep looking i'm sure you all will find a apartment/home.
I’m currently up 2am watching your video. I’m busting my brain. I’m a single mom who’s ready to move out of state. I’m scared. But I need to leave. Already set a date and wrote all the prices for my stuff that I want to sell so I can have a fresh start. I just need guidance
Very informative video! Also very true. U know what they say, u waiting for the perfect time, you'll be waiting forever. Im 31 and am a trucker and biker and jus got back from riding my harley from pa to Arizona. I met a woman that I've been friends wit, for over 10 years but never met in person. We loved eachother b4 we met. We had an absolute ball an she's my person. I know i
That's my wife, i jus ain't got the ring yet. I too will be selling some stuff soon enough an loading my 4 harleys and ny clothes and tools in a big u haul and starting over. And wit me being a trucker, i can pretty much find work anywhere. Sometimes u jus gotta go for it. Have a plan, have some money Come in good faith, an jus do it!
Really good video with very practical tips about work options and getting a place and sometimes the first things aren't ideal like temp work or roommate but gives a start right?
I'm older, single guy, recent unfortunate breakup, and she moved away too. I'm feeling like I need a change. The new city/state is only less than 400 miles, but more progressive state. I was layed off my job back in March. I have an online side gig and another 10 weeks of unemployment. I'm start looking for remote work or remote from that city and may take a road trip to see the place.
I know the idea of we can't escape ourselves, but after she left, staying here just feels stagnant or empty for me.
Congratulations on your move 🙌
Thank you !
I'm watching this because I want to move out of state but have nothing saved up the first thing I told myself is to get a job out there first and figure out the rest after . I did feel panic as a submitted my first application
Panic is normal! Just try to stay positive and know it will work out for you. Try to apply for remote positions as well. Also depending on if/where you work now you could transfer to another city or state but check with management. Good luck !
I been ready to move for a min everytime I try to get the money together something stupid happen were I'm trapped right back in NC
I know this feeling ! It took me almost 3 years but you have to believe you will leave. Those things that happen are tests to see if you will fold and forget your end goal. Stay positive! You got this! Truly.
Oh wow, I'm trying to move out of Atlanta haha, great video and tips :)
Thank you for sharing your journey & advice🤗 I'm definitely going to use it as I start my journey of potentially moving to another state
You are so welcome! 💗Where are you thinking about moving to ?
Very USEFUL video....Thank you SO much, Aminah!♥♥♥
Thank you so much for watching ! 💞
I'm at the opposite end of life from you 63, but have wanted to move from this state since high school. Yes, a very long time. Something always came up and I would say to myself, some other time. Well the years came and went and I never made the move. So a few months ago I just decided I can't wait for the perfect time to move because it's not ever going to be perfect. I've decided May of 2025 is the goal to do it. A little late in life but better than never. It's me and my dog. We don't have a lot of extra money, and the move is a 4 day drive so I'm researching how to sleep in your car safely. I'm arranging the apartment online but even that is scary. God I hope this works out because I feel it's now or never.
Finally, a realistic moving video
Glad I could help. Good luck with everything!
I'm here because I want to go to college but my parent won't let me choose. So I told myself that I need to make on my own and move to a state that I would like to live in. I love them with all of my heart, but I just want some space.
I completely understand. Did you try to apply to colleges out of state ? That’s another loop hole.
@AminahOjere They don't want me to pay the tuition. So I have to stay in state. Then afterwards, move out
Hope it went great, going through the same thing. Just keeps getting pushed back year after year and im done. Just being unhappy and depressed just to be comfortable is not worth it, just gonna go and whatever happens happens. I have even been at a point where i had 24 months of rent saved and was just scared because i had no job lined up in the new place. I stayed home and now its all gone, what a stupid mistake.
it's all gone? what happened to it?
You can't blame yourself. You did what you thought was right at the time. It is never too late to rebuild and save again or like you said save just enough and take a chance. Depending on the city you choose, your job experience, etc you could get settled in quicker than you think.
I want to leave but can't so I am stuck it is what it is amen
I’m a single mom. Broke asf and dying to leave Colorado asap. I don’t want to stay here any more. I always said I’ll move next year but never did each year came around. I want to start fresh, I just graduated from empire school and want to be stable with a home, money, my child and with everything else…idk wut to do. My apartment where I’m staying right now is so expensive now $2000 bro and all my money is just going into bills and my son and I ain’t got help only support from God
Omg this is me at 23 & I’m a Scorpio
Thank you for this video I’m moving to Vegas with 3 kids your video gave me hope ❤️
I’m glad I was able to give a bit of insight . Of course your situation is a little different . Definitely make sure to check the walk score of your neighborhood as well as the schools in the area (their success rate , sports offerings , if it’s diverse) and of course all the things you as a parent need to thrive. Good luck !
This is my situation right now. I'm about to leave my apt in a few weeks to go out of state and i don't even know where I'm going to live with my two kids and a family friend. (Getting out of a n extremely toxic situation) I'm so nervous and the options that I'm finding are super expensive atm. Airbnb is crazy I thought the long term would be a good idea but whew😩. I looked into subletting but I don't want to get scammed. Vrbo prices are a lil better but I'm on a tight budget. I'm still gonna take the leap but I'm terrified.
Your moving to Vegas with three kids? Did you just fall off the "Turnip Truck?"
I know I'm late. But I couldn't help the fact that I'm a scorpio....my 2 places I'm stuck on is Texas and Atlanta and I'm having q hard time just picking up and going, I've been planning and saying I'm leaving, but I'm still in Philadelphia. I'm trying to plan and keep control of the situation as well. Afraid it might not go right. Listening to you made me feel alittle better. I'm still like how am I going to do this because I have a child to think about also, but it will happen.
Never late. Thank you for watching. Yes Scorpio gang lol. But in all seriousness, i completely understand, you have to think about what’s best for your child also. I would say one thing depending on your child’s age, at the beginning of the school year would be best for a move. As far as affordability, Texas would be best all around especially for rent/buying. Now Texas is kind of diverse(depending on the city) but not as diverse at Atlanta. But Atlanta can be rough in the city, the suburbs are a bit better and more affordable, but cost of living is rising there too. I know this may not help, but it is entirely possible. It may take you a little longer, but if your handling business now you will continue to do so for you and yours no matter what. You just have to put a plan in motion.
I enjoy your video. For me, they are only two or three things in doubt: How much money do I need to have saved, and do I need to learn how to drive, and own a car.
It all depends on where you want to move to. Some cities eg NYC/San Francisco or even Philadelphia do not require a car. It is always nice to have one, but you can get by.
As far as how much money to save it depends on the type of accommodation/apt/room share. I always say 3-6 month of expenses is safe. If you want further help with this, I offer a 1on1 service where we can come up with a moving plan (budget, timeline etc) and/or I can help you find accommodations . Here’s the link : calendly.com/aminahojere . Wishing you luck !
I'm 40 but everyone thinks I'm 30. Have 2 degrees. Just left job where it was devastating and a relationship. I think if safety etc and feeling alone in making my move. I've never felt connection in recent years in my state. It's cliquish and the women doing well all had a sorority mentality my age . I didn't want to do it alone out there. But I'm this age, no kids, it's time to go! Haven't been away in years!
It might be time. Rooting for you. Think about it like this, maybe everything is being removed from around you so you can finally take the leap? Wishing you luck with everything.
@@AminahOjere Thank you so much❤️
Thank-you. I needed this one.
Glad it was helpful!
It’s hard to move with no support system . I desire to move but I don’t have anybody helping me
Honestly it is hard. I was lucky to have 1 person support me but we were both in the same spot. No parents, no family support until this day! But sometimes that is the fuel you need. You have to do things for you with or without help. We only get 1 life. That is why I made it a point to make this video. It is doable it just takes alot of planning sometimes. It could take you saving for a year or 2. But don't doubt yourself.
I have videos on my channel talking about how to find apartments. If you are serious and want some 1:1 help like with a solid moving plan, here is my link www.stan.store/aminahojere. Good luck.
I can’t handle getting hurt anymore. im 18. It’s time to go.
I love your worst case mind hack. Not everyone can do that in this housing market, but I'm pretty sure I could swing it. My place is remote so demand is low.
My left ear knows more than my right one now.
I’m a south Floridian born and raised but I’m deciding between California or Georgia. I’m done with Florida.
Yes! When it’s time for a change you just know. What are you leaning towards ?
@@AminahOjere Georgia first. I want to rebuild my life after such a rough childhood in Florida, like I grew up and finished college had my own apartment but if you don’t come from wealth in Florida it is gritty. Florida is affiliated with my trauma then for California I want to move there but after I scale my business to where I want it to be. California has the best beauty trade shows and vendors for launching a cosmetics business. So, I’ll definitely be flying out there time to time. I am going to explore america like I never had then explore overseas as well.
I love this for you ! And I can relate unfortunately. It’s definitely time for a change. Start in GA and save/plan for CA. Don’t get comfortable. CA is the next best apart from overseas for your vendors needs. Your so right!. There’s a whole district where you can get raw materials etc. Plus LA is just good for networking overall. If your still scaling alibaba etc might be too much right away. But definitely make sure to get your resale license so you can get the best prices at trade shows etc. Anyways so excited for your new chapter!!
Interesting video because I have been contemplating about possibly moving out of state (between three cities) by late summer, to accommodate voter registration and license tag renewal deadlines. As for work, I will very likely be remote.
Thank you for watching ! I decided to move without doing these things just because I wanted to get a feel of the city first. So don’t let that hold you back. Once you have a job lined up/currently work remote, have 3x rent saved or enough money saved by your standards and of course a place to stay even if it’s temporary… You can figure the rest out later. But of course do what your the most comfortable with and good luck !
@@AminahOjere Thanks! While each situation is different, should it only take a short period of time to be approved for an apartment after applying?
From what I’ve experienced in both states, I would say 1-3 weeks is standard for a traditional apartment complex. I have heard of people knowing within a few days. Most apartments have a third party validate your documents so most of the process relies on them.
@@AminahOjere Ok. I have been doing virtual tours mainly because I wouldn’t be able to be physically present in the short term. I also have a birthday in September, so hopefully I will have everything put into plan and the city narrowed down amongst the three by then.
Are you a minimalist - how did you end up with only three duffel bags worth of belongings and no items in storage to pick up your bags and move to another state in two weeks? It takes way over three months alone just for me to downsize my things.
I became a minimalist on accident lol. And as for my duffle bags, they were the huge black burrito shaped ones. So basically I moved out of my family home right when the pandemic hit. I did not have much furniture then just enough to be comfortable in a small space. As far as clothes and random stuff, I donated and threw out so much. If I didn’t wear it or use it in the past year, I let it go.
Fast forward to moving out of state, it was easy because I did most of the work prior. My plan was to move into a larger space in miami and settle but the pandemic raised the prices, and the availability for places didn’t match when I needed to move out. So I decided to just leave Florida all together lol.
I basically started completely over when I got to GA and kept it simple ever since. Offer up is clutch for getting things sold asap. Maybe one day I’ll do a story time but for now thanks for commenting.
I am thinking the same thing to wear a little bit out-of-state move somewhere I will don’t nobody know me and I don’t know‘s in to start my life over that is my dream and my goal just have a little scared right now there’s no use to me being here you have any suggestions🐼
I am 62 and want to maybe move from the Midwest to maybe Texas? it is so hard to find an apartment just by looking online and making long distance phone calls.
I just moved to Houston from Philly. I dont like it here. From my experience the mental illness and homelessness is overwhelming. The black men have intense energy and seem like they hit women. There are lose dogs roaming the residential areas, that have houses but the apartment complexes are like shabby. But mostly no one here cares to help you if you need it... The city is saturated with scammers.
I'm so sorry that you are having this experience! I've heard mixed reviews on living in Houston. I cannot speak on living there full time as I visited but stayed mostly in the montrose/midtown area. Most people agree that it depends on the area in which you are living etc. But hopefully you are signed into a lease that is a year or less Maybe try another area, or relocating out of state altogether? I know it's easier said than done because you just moved but it will all work out if you plan it out. Your mental health is priority. In the meantime, stay safe and try to stay positive.
just send it. live your dreams.
Just move stop thinking about home
This video really helped!
I’m happy you found it helpful. Thank you for watching . Good luck with your relocation/move !
I am having a hard time moving away socially and economically. Socially my family and helicopter watchers....economically low funds....and with intense trust issues from people that were suppose to help but are not helping. I called the police on my parents twice and I am still stuck here. Informed military of sadness and trauma....no homeless shelters or family members I trust to get out. Thanks for the video....if you have any additional resources please inform me. Ive been trying to leave this situation since I graduated college in 2018....
Ive been "stuck" in my home town all my life. We have family now in VA and we want to move, but with kids and limited income its all overwhelming 😢
I'm in that place. Moving July 27th. No job, no place to live, very little money. Trusting God. I'm stuck and need to move forwsrd.
Congrats! 🎉 If anything at all, celebrate your trust in yourself. It will work out. It’s scary either way. Scary to stay, scary to go.
i live in la every week i go to san francisco i honestly feel more happy over there especially in bakersfield, my mom doesnt want to move im honestly bored of la all you really see is trash all over the place but still mom doesnt want to, i tell her lets try n move there to see if we can find better jobs still doesnt want to like WHAT DO I DO? i honestly just feel like crying sometimes ive been living in la for atleast 19 years.
I know this feeling too well. It would be easy for you both to be able to share the rent and bills etc. Maybe take her with you next time so she can get a feel for San Francisco. She might change her mind once she sees that she can thrive there also or if there are things that resemble what she likes. If that does not work, you might have to start planning to move without her.
Yea but.. ya hear that echo?
No furniture. No carpeting…
I’m teasing. Good for you.
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I don't plan to get those stuff when I move.
Those things keep or hide dirt. Even when my house is clean, it doesnt feel 100% clean because of huge cabinets, fridge, ovens, beds, dressers and etc.
Thank you for this video ❤
You are so welcome!💕
My name is Aminah i am a Scorpio as well!! 11/08. Definitely divinely guided to you!! Thanks for sharing twin!!
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Welcome to the fam ! Hahah I’m 10/30 just a few days before you. Thanks for tuning in and supporting the channel. 💕
Please reach out to me because I am in this situation and I just noticed that this video is 2 years old and I need an update because I am in this situation right now. I know where I want to end up but just need help on the move.
I ended up moving to New York. Experienced my first winter (horrible haha). Definitely a culture shock but Atlanta was not the city for me. Living in the South and then the North has given me exposure and experience that I don't think I would have gained staying in my home city. I do wish my living situation was better. Having roommates is a challenge and an adjustment but it is not forever. I can visit family and friends from time to time so it balances out. I still haven't gotten a corporate opportunity in Marketing but I am creating my own opportunities by freelancing etc. There are ups and downs but I'm grateful. I have been there it can get tricky but you will know in your gut when it is time to go.
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Excellent content! Thank you for the motivation! New subscriber. ❤️
Your so very welcome. Thanks for joining the crew! Wishing you luck on your journey.
@@AminahOjere You're so welcome! Stay fabulous!
Woah 😳 u are freaking gorgeous 😻
Thank you ! 😊
me and my bf r planning on moving in like 4 months but i’m not sure abt how to get an apartment without working there yet. were planning on getting an air bnb for a month but it’s kinda scary
Congrats on moving! A airbnb for a month will give you time to find a job. If possible save enough for 2 months(airbnb). Be open to working in different industries in the beginning. Like right now restaurants are looking for hostesses etc. It won't hurt to try to get remote work ahead of time. Also apartments do accept offer letters from jobs but might require additional security deposit. You got this. Good luck with everything.
I'm moving to america this summer and i don't know which state/city to choose as a girl 😭 please I'll appreciate any tips
What about breaking your current lease
Depending on your apartment complex you can do 1 of 4 things : 1 sublease your apartment basically get someone to take over your lease through the office/management. 2. Sublet your apartment (risky) , have someone live in your apartment and have them pay you the rent so Airbnb or fb marketplace. You would of course have to go back to the state to check and do the walk through at the end of the lease. 3. Break your lease . Some apartments have a policy where you would either loose your deposit or pay 1 month of rent. Check your lease of course or call your management and find out. Option 4 is to just ride the lease out 🥲. I hope that helps !
I don't know who you are but you are very blessed and you have a purpose I'm in the same situation and you want to and I don't know how to go about it could you please