How Owning the Truth, Solves the "No Resolve Pattern" in Relationships
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- How Owning the Truth, Solves the "No Resolve Pattern" in Relationships Do you want to know how you can solve the no resolve pattern in relationships? In this video I'll explain you how you can own the truth to solve this pattern.
Have you ever found yourself in a romantic relationship, friendship relationship or work-related relationship where no matter how many times you seem to find resolve in a conflict, it feels like shortly after, it goes right back to being un-resolved? Maybe it is one single issue, where no matter how many times you re-visit the topic and reach agreement, it comes right back up again as unresolved. When this happens, it can feel like you’re living a nightmare version of groundhog’s day. But you don’t know why and you don’t know what to do to create actual resolve.
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So often I've told people my deep, real truths and they've rejected me for them, not realizing they are repressing the same truth within themselves.
Same here 😢
HEY SUPERWOMAN , ME TO OMG 😀 I JUST KEEP DOING IT FOR THE GREATER GOOD ! 💜💜💜 TY
Whats that classic film line?
'They cant handle the truth'
Rejection wounds. Still the preferable alternative to living a lie and the consequences this brings, however 🙏
Rachel has a problem with herself.
Exactly!!!!! Which makes me hesitant to open up like that again the next time I find myself in a similar situation with people that seem bad faith - Cause they don't just reject you for that truth you both feel, they'll try to use it against you too!!!
I love how I thought this wasn't going to relate to me at all
lmao samee, I thought well okay I'll just listen
Hahahaha
Same.
I can listen to this woman talk for hours.
@@tanL22 I regularly listen to teals videos while I clean
The lessons hit different when your name is used in the example. . Hi my name is Rachael lmao I wasn't ready for this so early 😅😅🙈
The core of this problem is Fear. Fear of what the world might think or do if self is expressed or fear of losing control. Fear is the word there. Solution?. Know you're creating your own reality and everything is simply reflecting who u are
Yay sending love from my heart to everyone who reads this!!!! 💖
Back at you 💕
This is literally pulling me out of a deep seeded relationship pattern... damn
Teal's last two videos this one and the one from last week about "Stuck in the cycle of complying or rebelling," should be taught in high schools everywhere, because you keep running into these problems as you leave home for work or college, with professors, supervisors, staff members, colleagues, spouses and your family of origin, again and again and again, different conflicts, but similar underlying causes. You could teach these videos at the Harvard Business School in the Organizational Development space -- I wish I had had these tools and awareness for the last several decades. I have lost clients, failed to get clients, been taken off accounts, had severe relationship problems because I didn't understand these dynamics fully. I like the concept that there's an elephant in the room that nobody's talking about that runs through these dynamics. Thanks, Teal. Very profound.
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Tealy Tealy Tealy.I love you very much. I can't help it. Cosmos greetings.
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@@whiteegg4972 I'm a 34-year-old, why is it not possible, yes it is. 💛
@@trinaryls0141 im sure that you are not as beautiful as her. she looks like 27 years old
@@whiteegg4972 Hey! Imagine how you like.
You are very wise and in touch with your spirituality. Have a blessed day and may peace stay within you.
I love that the examples in the video match your text. Great video with very much needed content! 💛
It’s great to see that someone who made a video about Teal years ago still loves and watches her 😊💖
Hello Arthur Mordchiev. I really enjoyed your film, "Meeting My Shadow". Great quote, "The life that you've been waiting for is now." 😊🙏
This is a very vital subject. Its difficult to have a connection with someone who is constantly avoiding their actual truth and attempting to present themselves in a way that they perceive or want to exist in. Constantlyvpresenting a false self to compensate for traumas etc not healed. Their goal posts have a tendency to shift all the time. Unfortunately, the vibration never matches their actions, words etc and it makes it very difficult to have a truthful relationship between you. Someones made a comment below about presenting truths to the table then what? Being able to do that means there's self awareness, which means you're on a path to find your truth! What a wonderful place to be. Then the possibilities are endless and you become open! So much comes from that. I would've enjoyed a very indepth conversation about this, thank you Teal🙌
Teal its a treat to watch you and it's a bliss to listen to you. Love💕
It would wonderful if everyone could be strong enough to listen to others personal truth. It's not always easy to answer to insult.
I came across your video years ago on the news. Being a Survivor of SRA and I just wanted to reach out and say I think your a wonderful brave, and beautiful human. And wish you so much happiness and success in life. I was so pleased to see you have a RUclips channel
You are very loved. And sending love and light. 💕❤️🌈💫🦋
Love you Teal! ❤❤❤
Oh my gosh you liked my comment again I'm gonna have good luck for the rest of the month ilysm
This is why I use the name Mr. Blunt because I realized this a long time ago and have made it one of my primary concerns to be as blunt and direct with the truth as possible so that there’s ZERO delay on resolving things in ANY and EVERY category. Living in denial is a waste of time because one way or another you’re gonna have to face your truth anyways. So own it NOW!!!
The folks I live with are old I see them as humans So am I not trying to teach them new tricks but at the same time I only have one truth to offer.and although the truth I have learned to express thanks to this channel holds the true component of have their best interests and my best interest in the same experience if they choose to have it, they still wish I had no truth at all and rather get along with their truth as it comes and keeps on changing. Mine is steadfast and resilient. To remove myself from living under such roof is a matter of Time, until I meet with my Truth in someone else’s Truth, I will continue making the best case scenario out of their worst retaliations for refusing to get on board with their fabrication of truth.
@@nojumper8553 stop pretending to be teal swan.
I wish I had this information 20 years ago! Thanks again Teal Swan!!
Elephant in the room 🐘 barriers to personal truth:
"i don't want hurt his/her feelings"
"i don't want to lose connection" (get rejected, set a boundary, get into conflict)
From behind a wall we built , we wear a mask of expectations and the words we choose to hear and not hear are the ground upon which we stand.
Thank you for this video. I was in extreme conflict within myself for the past week because I couldn't accept my personal truth. Thank you for opening my eyes.
In a "strange" way I'm very glad I was shamed for my truth's because its made me okay with being bad and help to create a more honest relationship with myself
Needed this! Describes 2 work situations that have left me traumatized for yrs. I was on the edge of getting clarity on the lessons that were not learned, but i think this video brought it home. Im just now beginning to recognize thoughts and emotions i dont want to have and owning them. But ive still been pushing away my own judgements and tempted to take on others judgements thinking they know better but realizing everyone has their own reality and their truth or judgment is not necessarily mine. Thank you🙏🏽
Wrote down one truth and feel lighter. I'd been circling this one issue for a while - thank you!
How do you reveal a core personal truth you don’t quite understand yourself and also not trigger the other persons ego to go into defensive measures?
I don't think you can. You can do your best to communicate and it might still fail. You just have to trust that they are ready for it and won't make it more than it is.
This isn't the real teal lol the audacity
Don't try not to Rock the boat that'll prevent and inhibit true expressions just let them know the topic at hand may be really triggering but it's imparative that they listen to the best of thier ability
From my PoV:
Your personal truth is foremost for you to acknowledge.
And the other person is indeed who/where they are (which you may or may not have a proper idea of). They might have a human response to it, yes.
You can tell them just that, where something needs to be layed on the table: that you have a core personal truth which seems to come between you, that you don't really understand.
You don't have to share what that one precisely is with just any person. Unless you think it adds to something to express it and are/may (turn out to be, possibly) quite able to deal with it, the response, I would only share it if the person is actually (emotionally) safe to you, if you think that it may have quite the impact.
You may want to talk it through with a therapist and/or a person that is trained as 'trauma sensitive' (that's a thing) - your personal truth and/or the (how to the) talk with the other person.
I can anyway advise to read about the drama triangle (don't join) - winners triangle (yess) & nonviolent communication.
Know that people at times can feel and/or project old situations on/in a current situation because of an old trauma, that they may or may nót remember. Not to be taken personal, do to check out if safety is ok (a reaction can go from flight to fight and anything in between)
Don't talk to people who are/when you are stressed out - influences of cortisol/adrenaline, can't properly use the prefrontal cortex (thinking brain) enz. So take/create the proper moment, check out how to take (20+ minutes unless good at it) timeouts.
People ('s ego's) can at times have bad reactions.
Like to boundaries.
Does that mean you shouldn't have/uphold these? No.
People are human, some people have low emotional development (which can cause things as splitting etc) due to their upbringing, some people aren't well endowed in the empathy department.
Especially when people, either of two parties, don't do some work, personal development, ppl can respond a certain intense way, both/whether real as perceived.
We all have an amygdala, a limbic system, a fight/flight mechanism (which responds to potential threat and not always real).
Amygdala hijacks are more contagious then COVID-19.
It's human to have the possibility to not always respond chill. & This saves us when a lion is on the loose.
We can learn about a bunch. For ourselves & others. About trauma and it's different effects and how to deal with it, emotional regulation, communication, etc. (..Like I said, do never take a response of the other as a cue that you should not set a boundary.)
P.S. if their ego goes into defensive measures, it's being protective - not considered safe -. It does a job.
Being emotional safe for them can help in there. (That might be possible or not feasible for you - some people learn trusting relationships not even by a relationship with a therapist first but by means of a pet or imaginairy animal, because, of where they are at with people)
Do not expect to go in there and solve a whole thing that is not something you can solve.
Just be aware and do whats the most fitting.
Your subject may indeed not be a defense lowering one ..or... sharing such vulnerability may. 🤷🏻♀️
@@VenuSalsa I have looked quite extensively into NVC, but I haven’t heard of a drama/winners triangle. Thanks for the info!
God damn Teal, you are simply stunning. Every time your content posts it's as if my entire world is resonating with you. It's quite remarkable, just like you are. I kid you not, that black on you is fantastic. Keep up the hard work and cant wait to see more. Big fan, love from New York
How does one individual share so much truth video after video. Thanks Teal.
I see it now and I'm afraid to speak to talk & deal wiith it.dang. But because I know now I will pull myself thru this healing this adventure.
Great vid Teal,I have that same top(: You do such a good job explaining everything, very inspiring.I've been on both ends of this situation many times,I didn't used to realize why but since I've gotten older,it's become clear that owning my own truth is more important than the threat of losing someone if I share it. If that person can't understand where I'm coming from,the problem isn't with me,and maybe I'm better off without them.Everytime a door closes in you're life,another opens,take care.
Very good video🙌🏻 Been in these situations with people for years on end and let me tell you, there's nothing more frustrating. Like you simply can't solve a thing with someone unwilling to face their personal truth and then you're just forced to go separate ways at some point. It's sad really.
"people's truth is secretly on another page" - for me, that's because from a throwback to childhood, its inevitably going to be invalidated or gaslit anyway, so if i don't tell them, they can't do that again
You may be giving out a confusing message, @_Trakman.
Yup! Thanks for the clarity once again. I always learn from you lady! What a gift you are to our time and place🙏
I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much! It's an amazing thing to have the right knowledge but to actually back that up and reinforce it by offering your acquired wealth back to those who simply ask for it, I think is the true measure of an actualized healer. Thank you Teal!
I both love, and find it creepy, how you always release a video about a subject I desperately need your views and wisdom about. Desperation isn't a good state of being to be in, but you really help to soothe it by providing me in my need for reliability from myself and the world around me. (The spectrum of reliability seems to be the theme of my higher purpose here in this incarnation. I discovered this while watching a video of yours about life purposes this week)
Yes!
This example is extremely similar to why I left my last job.
And this video helped me get to bottom of my own unresolved feelings surrounding it.
Thank you.
I have a question - firstly THANK YOU, my gf and I were talking about this today and you uploaded it!!
My Q is: how can you talk your personal truth ‘in the best way’, even when you know that the person won’t like it?
This has to be the deepest most relevant video I've ever watch at the precise moment I am actually to watching it. Just AMAZING.
This is so Real.
Thank you so so much
@@mannh6425 might be a hoax, be cautious, its a weird message 🤔
This No Resolve solved my Years Problematic Solution. Taking a Deep deeper Sigh . 🔥🙏🏻👍🏼Thanks to you Shri Teal jee🙏🏻🙏🏻🕉️🙏🏻 Namaste 🙏🏻🕉️ from and Dhanyavaad from Bharat India 🔥🙏🏻✌🏼😌🙏🏻🧘🏻🙏🏻🕉️
Perfect Timing. Thank you, this helped me a lot to finally set boundaries that I should have set years ago.
Thank you from Australia 💗
Wow. You just cleared my relationship questions..... 😮
Thank you for bringing this healing to us.
Hello Tealers.
I love this! The challenge of us being in a world full of people who don't know their own truth is massive though. And I've been one of them, and am still learning in my 40s - I was scapegoated by my own family of origin, ended up with abuser and my in-laws all scapegoated me too recently. My ability to know what I'm feeling and trust it is so very retarded. It's about the level of a 12yo kid. I spend my life (and career) obsessed with getting to the truth of things.
Here here!!! You are absolutely correct!! Thank you Teal Swan!!
I think resolving not the real problem genuinely might be about avoidance and gaslighting and Teal brought up that topic few days ago
whenever I open any video for you and seeing you talking, it gives me comfort and peace!!
It's g good to realize that these different Patterns play out through out our lives. Once we break these Patterns then we can move on....
Thank you Teal, perfect timing for my situation right now. Your absolutely amazing 💖
My phone straight up skipped a song to play this XD guides i love ya
This is a hard one cuz ppl really don’t like admitting their truth...
@Teal swan BOT
Teal, you are such a beautiful woman and very smart! Thank you for your support and guidance!
So true that we have judgements... I always associate moustaches that come down past the corner of the lips to the chin/ jaw with angry, shouty, violent men. I have to consciously acknowledge this is my judgement and not necessarily the truth about some innocent chap waiting in the line at the supermarket check out. It just reminds me of my dad in the 1970's, when he was angry and shouty (I think I've just added the violent part because I felt like a victim back then) There! I said it 🤣. Love Teal Swan, she helps make telling my truth easy ❤️
Hey! Thank you Teal
Sometimes when thinking about expressing a personal truth, I get so scared of what the other’s person reaction might be to it, that I end up not expressing it
A few brief insights about judgment in this video. Would love to see an extensive video dedicated to the concept of judgment. Like about the relationship between personal truth and shadows with judgment, how to dissolve resistance to judgment, and how to utilize judgment to step into authenticity without doing ourselves a disservice.
So helpful and very well explained with the examples! Thank you Teal!
I think the topic of racism is just on point. I live in Brazil and although most of the population here is black (or mixed race like me), racism is definitely a thing here. We experience it every now and then on the streets or at work, we see on the news etc. But yet NOBODY admits that they are racists, even when caught BEING racist "oh no, I'm not racist, you must have misunderstood my words/actions" or worse "I'm no racist, I have a friend that is black"... and then they go on with their racist words and actions because they don’t admit the issue in the first place.
Well everyone is racist though.. so it's kind of a moot point. What do you think those stereotypes of white people are. But yeah I think most people don't have bad intentions which is why they reject that idea. Imagine someone saying they are racist and wearing it like a badge of honor. Those are dangerous imo.
When I ask someone where they are from it's out of genuine curiosity as someone who has lived in other countries
Love you Teal 🤍 Thank you
Ugh Teal thank you for verbalizing this. I thought I was going crazy.
Sounds like shame to me. And based on the video Teal made anbout shame, if we don't shed ourselves of shame, it will fester inside and become a physical ailment, symptom or terminal illness. Embrace you personal truth. It almost relates to Carl Jungs's shadow or subconscious self. Don't deny your shadow or it will rear its shadowy self through your interactions with others. Accept your personal truth. It's like a psychological and emotional release. It changes your entire physiology once you do it. It may not be what popular consensus were hoping it to be, it may not be what the general narrative of you might be, but it's YOUR truth. I love what you do Teal. Thanks for another great episode. 🙋🏾♂️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤❤
Breaking it down! Keeping it real. Love it.
With Gratitude! ! !❤⚜️❤
Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤
Thank you Teal! Very good to hear . I love you! 💙💜💙💜
Thank you Teal.
I really stuck in the situation like this.
Very powerful!
I'm liking the nice little synchronicity of the video length 14:41 😊 I keep seeing Number 144 for the last few months!
I love your Truth and boldness advice.
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I think this is the reason why we play passive aggressive, we haven't practice assertive communication to express our personal truth safely or we just surrounded by people or live in environment that don't let us to do it without any consequence..
Thanks Teal for sharing another helpful message.
What if it feels like the other person in the situation is the one denying their personal truth???
Well, we can’t force anyone to realize anything. So all we can do is set boundaries with them to protect ourselves. We can also turn our gaze back towards ourselves and realize that there are always places in our own lives where we can be more truthful and focus on that.
I try to take at least one new idea, word or way from each Teal Episode.
This time is ostracization. First time I hear anyone utters this word.
Have a good week
Greg
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Thank you Teal is difficult to solve when one loves mystery and uncertainty, having ocpd (obsession with order) it feels it os never enough Ive been expressing as an artist or lawyer, even journalist reporting and things have better like the 3 new rights for animals in the UK and so on. But in love sharing a multidimensional realm of realms in role play feels my power of truth can only enjoy the little things and wait for my money from my lawsuit. As much Ive given it has not return to me with loyalty to help advance, so is sad the no resolve understanding I must let go.
Please make a full video on birth Control. ❤️ You are womens saveior on information. ❤️. Love from Sweden!
My personal truth is personal. For that reason I don't share it with anyone. I'm at peace with my shadow, because in reality my shadow is the lion's share of my identity. Practically all of the traumas I have experienced are relational traumas, but that's to be expected. The only thing in my Seventh House is the Dragon's Tail.
Wow! 🙌
I got so much out of this! 🙏
Thank you Teal ❤
So needed to hear this, thank you again teal x
Thank You!
Haha I like how you gently trigger people. Without judgement. That's like poking a dragon with a stick and asking it to play with you. Even though a dragon can only breathe fire and eat you. Which I think is cute. ❤️
I love you Teal.
Teal will you share what you use to dye your hair please? Looks glorious 😍
It's very easy to spot those who do not own their personal truth because they are engrossed in confabulation and are very judgemental. They spend too much time trying to preserve their soon to be dismantled constructed self they believe in and hold very dear to themselves.
Still helps to see them with compassion. I think usually it's a defense mechanism where their ego is too fragile to risk exposing themselves. I can see myself in that for sure.
@@hgzmattTrue. I think we all can relate to these painful experiences. 🖐
I was destined to see this one today. Thank you 🙏
Been in this struggle before! Lol
Thank You Teal❤️
Just on time!!!!!! And so well said.
I love you so much Teal💗🥰💝 Thank you for being you😌💖😘
Thank You ✨💜✨
Teal, thank you. This is where I'm at in my life. So how does one own their personal truth?
Dear Teal, are there technics or practices you suggest to find ones hidden truths more efficiently ? 🙏🏾🥰
I love you, Teal!
Very informative. Thank you lovey 💕💕💕
This was very helpful... Thankyou
Very insightful, as usual!
Spot on....... Thanks teal 🙏🏻
I think because too many people have viewed an uncomfortable thing we might have to do to turn in the relationship as the certain future of the universe and that I really don't think they have done this polarity thing with the government for very long that being someone who loves to be Blue or Green and doesn't mind taking chances to get that better life has become a very exclusive thing personally.
please make a video on : Can we create a change in someone else using law of attraction??? For eg if some one is sick can we manifest healing for the other person???? Or can we manifest awakening in another person??? I know we are connected and all one but if that is so, why cant we just solve our relationship issues by just creating that change within us ???? Why cant we save a relationship from divorce ??? Or can we do that?
Hi teal ❤️
definitely not affraid to say what i have to say....i could probably work on the delivery :)
I love you Teal ❤️ Can you make a video on How to feel safe? I would greatly appreciate it.