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Ladies don’t ask questions sometimes,because they are afraid of the answer and often prefer to live in fantasy land, day dreaming all day. Was once like that, thank God for maturity.
So true, I always tell myself, Never assume that a man loves u until he says it and shows it. If the relationship is not defined I no day do. I love my mental and spiritual peace.....
That's what ppl say now: "let's just go with the flow", "let's see how it goes", "we're just talking", "let's be friends first" Bruh 😒I won't rush you but ain't wasting time, 3 years abeg
I thank God for your life, the winlos. Just of recent I had a similar situation. I asked the guy to define but he didn't open up, I was so attached to him that I felt so hurt when I couldn't get what expected. He won't talk but his behaviour make people think we are in a relationship. So I decided to stop that permanent communication, more of all, I asked God to help me forget about him, because my emotions were too involved. So I'm trying to put God first and I still believe, He will send the husband I'm made for on the right time.
What I like is that in every scenario after she has given sound advice to her clients and they never listen Mrs. Winlos is never judgmental but always supportive, even after the stubbornness of her clients.
Wow, I got something today Don't assume people has the same feeling you have for them, ask what their intentions are towards you. The lady thought the guy had the same feeling for her which is Wrong. Assumption is really bad and can cause harm. I pray that God will help us to avoid this
Timely message, I would have gone this far , mine was a bit complicated but glory be to God, he used a man of God to direct me ... Truly I have learned a big lesson.
Don't waste ur emotions on assumptions........ Relationship is like contract, you must have agreement b4 u invest your emotions......Great talk there 👍👍
Me ounce I found my self in such friendship we both opened even the business together but Holy spirit gave me wisdom and confidence to ask that question and we ended in separation ..let me tell you this if a man has not yet tell you anything plz be careful
I can give an example, based on personal experience. I used to be really close🤞🏽 friends with a brother in Christ, who was also my classmate on campus. We often had midnight calls together, hung out a lot, were known to all our campus fellowship members as best of friends. Being a sanguine, he often made a lot of open fun about getting married to me and taking me to Botswana (where his parents resided) for our honeymoon. I was already fantasizing about this. The only thing was that I was older by 3 years. One day, I took him aside and asked him with all seriousness that, if I waited for him to be ready for marriage, would he really marry me? He paused and sincerely replied in the negative, with an equal sense of seriousness. That simple conversation defined our relationship for me. We remained as close and open as ever until after graduation, but never did we have to worry about where the relationship was headed, because we both knew it was definitely not marriage. In conclusion, I'd say once emotions are involved in a relationship, and the man has not clearly stated that he intends to marry the lady, the latter may have to take a bold step and ask for the relationship to be CLEARLY DEFINED (vice versa too, if it's the man that's getting emotional about the relationship). And if the other person fails to define the relationship, one should quietly end it, to avoid a broken heart in the future based on assumptions. Hope this helps.
Situationship! 😁This reminds me of another video by the Winlos ; the girl kept collecting gifts from the guy but she didn't reciprocate and the scene that followed was hilarious 😂
Wow thanks family. For real it's heartbreaking to build a foundation on assumptions... A relationship without clear boundaries pierces the heart so much... From Ug
Clean your tears😂😢... thank God for my spiritual father who taught me to do this though I didn't see the need for it, thank God I obeyed.... Thank you the Winlows for this ❤
Both of us know that we are in love 😅 But this is very true, a lot have been brokenhearted because of this brotherhood and sisterhood thing and some have gone far even to he is my dady my what and slowly it drags them into feelings which carry no future and mark them as nonsense to those who wish to make pure move to them
Amanda should have taken her friend's advice. Joel didn't use her. She was all caught up in her emotions and couldn't be objective about her relationship with Joel. On the other hand, Joel probably shouldn't have sent Amanda emojis with hearts and kisses and saying that he loved her because ladies can easily take that the wrong way. They both should have had good communication with each other. That way no one would be hurt in the end. Never assume. Ask. Very good video!
@@1Corinthians2.2 That's why I said Joel shouldn't have sent those emojis and said what he said. He was wrong in that respect, but he didn't use Amanda. Again they both should have communicated their feelings and no assumptions.
Thanks for this video 😮😮😮. I believe I'm in a similar situation. The last two times I physically saw him,he acted indifferently and I was astounded. I was trying to figure out if he was the same person I chatted with almost every time..... but after seeing this video, I'm fully convinced that we are nothing more than good friends. It is high time I accept the reality of it all. I can't live my life doing fantasia😂😂😂 Thanks, the Winlos 👍
We can laugh about it, but a lot of people today are in this kind of relationship where they are making illusions about supposing relationships That's why, as shared in the video, everything needs to be clarified very early on 😊 Thank you for this video 🙏
Define the type of 'ship' you find yourself in: Friendship or Relationship. Relationship is like a contract, you should have an agreement before you invest your emotions. Good lessons
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: A good understanding have all they that do his commandments: His praise endureth for ever. Psalms 111 10
Oh my goodness, I remember being in a full-blown relationship with someone who was very kind, gentle, patient, and an overall amazing person. I really thought there was something there only later to find out that it was only me. So sad! But I’m glad that I moved on. 🤷🏾♀️
Let's all gather here and laugh at ourselves 😂😂😂😂... Building emotions on assumptions is the worst heartbreak you can ever give yourself. For Miokukusheshe is better that the guy brought the lady to introduce her... Mine was a slap on the face, I viewed WhatsApp status and there was the love of his life posted 😂😂😂😂😂😂... And God had warned me kaaaaiii!!!
I put it to you Joel you are very wicked 😂 Hahahaha 😂 thank you the Winlos. Define every relationship you are in to so you don't develop heart attack 😅
yes, somebody should say, "i love you and i want to marry you'', in 2007, while i was on attachment, i got involved with a guy, he was in IT department, we would kiss, and he would take me out to lunch, my first pizza was with him! hmk, learned later that he was married😂😂😂😂, and he was not shy about it, duh! well, you feel betrayed and unloved, communication is mandatory, lets not be casual people, lets address issues, i know the feeling when he is your guy and you imagine your life today, hahaha, an IT specialist kwano!
Oh my, oh my....this is very relatable and it happens all the time but it hits the assuming one like a tornado. The pain is like the pain of a blow from a coward.
This is very common in our churchs today. We are living in the 'bestie era'. Most women,fall prey to this type of undefined relationship, because we are taught, that we need to wait on the man to his mind speak first, even if we develop feelings for them, especially us Africans. We are taught to not ask for definitions,too early,as you might look desperate in the man's eyes. Thank you for, enlightening us on this topic, which has many good women caged,by manipulative men
Be clear and detailed on every friendship or relationship with the other sex. You might be hurting someone and you won’t even know😂 Don’t give wrong signals!!
As a human, it makes sense to create boundaries to protect your well-being yet still love through the Holy Spirit to converse with your siblings in Christ. I thank God for His grace to understand something like this. Having open conversations to understand and act accordingly 🤗 As mentioned “Don’t waste your emotions on assumptions” 💕
I went through something similar about two years ago, luckily it was for about two months and I went through a lot after I came to this realization that he never liked me in the first place
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Ooh my fellow Tanzanians who do not understand English language,I pray that the Winlos accept my request.
Wow I like to follow for ur acting ma and sir
Ladies don’t ask questions sometimes,because they are afraid of the answer and often prefer to live in fantasy land, day dreaming all day. Was once like that, thank God for maturity.
Yes it's never easy to believe the truth even when it is right in front of us
Sometimes we don't ask because we are told ladies should not be the ones initiating anything that seemingly looks like a proposal...
@@christineruthw.thiongo9805 hmm. You are right
You can say that again....
I was also once like that
Assumption is the mother of frustration and the sister of confusion
Relationships are not planned on assumptions but on communication. Ask the right questions!
Real relationships yes.
Relationship is a CONTRACT, make sure you have an AGREEMENT before you start INVESTING your emotions!.....words of wisdom!
Don't waste your emotions on assumptions 🤷🏽♀️
Same thing with guys, if there is no proper communication then there should be no assumption.
Actually quite the opposite building castles in the air 😂 of relationships that don't exist
The way he gave her a handkerchief to dry her tears, khaaai 😂
“Clean your tears.”
😂😂😂
That's the height of the emotional damage.
😂😂
@@benefits75 they are dirty 😂😢
"Assumption is the lowest form of intelligence!" Thanks for always for always reiterating this to us, Dear Winlos🤗
So true, I always tell myself, Never assume that a man loves u until he says it and shows it. If the relationship is not defined I no day do. I love my mental and spiritual peace.....
That's what ppl say now: "let's just go with the flow", "let's see how it goes", "we're just talking", "let's be friends first" Bruh 😒I won't rush you but ain't wasting time, 3 years abeg
Imagine playing games with people's hearts
I thank God for your life, the winlos. Just of recent I had a similar situation. I asked the guy to define but he didn't open up, I was so attached to him that I felt so hurt when I couldn't get what expected. He won't talk but his behaviour make people think we are in a relationship. So I decided to stop that permanent communication, more of all, I asked God to help me forget about him, because my emotions were too involved. So I'm trying to put God first and I still believe, He will send the husband I'm made for on the right time.
And he will. 🤗
Amen 🙌🙌🙌
I believe he will
Believe he will
Wonderful 🙏. This is why we should not assume anything yet. If the person hasn’t spoken it , then it doesn’t exist.
Yessssss
Well say Sir
😂"You are mad" "I put it to you, You are wicked"...."Take handkerchief, clean your tears" ...Nice message....God bless Winlos.
😢😢😢Actually am in such a relationship. Thank you winlos am going to define this relationship indeed before I end up like Amanda. May God bless you 🙏.
🙏❤️❤️❤️
Uhm am helped .....he pretends yet seconds days months years are passing
What I like is that in every scenario after she has given sound advice to her clients and they never listen Mrs. Winlos is never judgmental but always supportive, even after the stubbornness of her clients.
This woman acts so well.... My God
Wow, I got something today
Don't assume people has the same feeling you have for them, ask what their intentions are towards you.
The lady thought the guy had the same feeling for her which is Wrong. Assumption is really bad and can cause harm.
I pray that God will help us to avoid this
Timely message, I would have gone this far , mine was a bit complicated but glory be to God, he used a man of God to direct me ... Truly I have learned a big lesson.
"Oga, I want to see you privately." 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
The guy is so romantic, he gave her handkerchief to clean her tears😂
That's emotional damages
"As my friend, I want you to help me mentor her"...are you playing sir?
Don't waste ur emotions on assumptions........ Relationship is like contract, you must have agreement b4 u invest your emotions......Great talk there 👍👍
I can perfectly relate to this skit
I really cried my eyes out
Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge! May I not be MENTOR where I should be wife 😢
God bless you more Team!
We must learn to define relationships... especially in this era of "male bestie"
and "female bestie"
Hmm this bestie issue
I honestly don't too much believe in those because somebody will catch feelings
Very important lesson to learn! Dont waste your emotions on assumptions!
Right in time for the Vals😍
Absolutely 💯 correct, relationship are not planned on assumptions, but communication
A perfect Valentine's day gift. God bless you Winlos ❤❤
“Whenever you define things you are not misguided. Relationship is like a contract. You must have a agreement before you invest your emotions.” 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Me ounce I found my self in such friendship we both opened even the business together but Holy spirit gave me wisdom and confidence to ask that question and we ended in separation ..let me tell you this if a man has not yet tell you anything plz be careful
Always listen to wise counsel
He knew what he was doing 😆 🤣 😂
HE KNEW!!
Innocent man
Thank you for this beautiful message. Please a video should be made on how to make this OPEN and HONEST conversation to avoid ASSUMPTIONS. Thanks.
I can give an example, based on personal experience.
I used to be really close🤞🏽 friends with a brother in Christ, who was also my classmate on campus. We often had midnight calls together, hung out a lot, were known to all our campus fellowship members as best of friends. Being a sanguine, he often made a lot of open fun about getting married to me and taking me to Botswana (where his parents resided) for our honeymoon. I was already fantasizing about this. The only thing was that I was older by 3 years.
One day, I took him aside and asked him with all seriousness that, if I waited for him to be ready for marriage, would he really marry me? He paused and sincerely replied in the negative, with an equal sense of seriousness. That simple conversation defined our relationship for me.
We remained as close and open as ever until after graduation, but never did we have to worry about where the relationship was headed, because we both knew it was definitely not marriage.
In conclusion, I'd say once emotions are involved in a relationship, and the man has not clearly stated that he intends to marry the lady, the latter may have to take a bold step and ask for the relationship to be CLEARLY DEFINED (vice versa too, if it's the man that's getting emotional about the relationship).
And if the other person fails to define the relationship, one should quietly end it, to avoid a broken heart in the future based on assumptions.
Hope this helps.
And if the person doesn't ask but keep giving you green flags😂😂😂😂
@@lavertymusonda280 Exactly! Nobody would like to be in that kind of situation 😂
Yes please 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Situationship! 😁This reminds me of another video by the Winlos ; the girl kept collecting gifts from the guy but she didn't reciprocate and the scene that followed was hilarious 😂
Title please @thewinlos
@@paulegharevba2874 "She always takes gifts from him until this happened." Can't get the link though.
@@paulegharevba2874 Try "She always takes gifts from him until this happened" can't get the link though
I remember that too😅.Forgotten the title
I don't think this was a situationship. There was nothing complicated about it
Thanks the Winlos for the Valentine special. Its good to define boundaries
Before you invest emotions.........
Wow thanks family. For real it's heartbreaking to build a foundation on assumptions... A relationship without clear boundaries pierces the heart so much... From Ug
Clean your tears😂😢... thank God for my spiritual father who taught me to do this though I didn't see the need for it, thank God I obeyed.... Thank you the Winlows for this ❤
Yes, communication is key!! Do not live off of assumptions!! Thank you @The Winlos ❤
Both of us know that we are in love 😅
But this is very true, a lot have been brokenhearted because of this brotherhood and sisterhood thing and some have gone far even to he is my dady my what and slowly it drags them into feelings which carry no future and mark them as nonsense to those who wish to make pure move to them
That's painful. "Define the kind of ship first"
Amanda is dating herself. It was my real life experience
😂Was it you or me?
My own experience lasted for long, but glory to God, he himself brought me through. 😂😂
Amanda should have taken her friend's advice. Joel didn't use her. She was all caught up in her emotions and couldn't be objective about her relationship with Joel. On the other hand, Joel probably shouldn't have sent Amanda emojis with hearts and kisses and saying that he loved her because ladies can easily take that the wrong way. They both should have had good communication with each other. That way no one would be hurt in the end. Never assume. Ask. Very good video!
It would certainly make you think it was more than just loving you like a sister. It was a bad idea on his part. What else is a girl to assume?
@@1Corinthians2.2 That's why I said Joel shouldn't have sent those emojis and said what he said. He was wrong in that respect, but he didn't use Amanda. Again they both should have communicated their feelings and no assumptions.
Thanks for this video 😮😮😮. I believe I'm in a similar situation.
The last two times I physically saw him,he acted indifferently and I was astounded.
I was trying to figure out if he was the same person I chatted with almost every time..... but after seeing this video, I'm fully convinced that we are nothing more than good friends.
It is high time I accept the reality of it all.
I can't live my life doing fantasia😂😂😂
Thanks, the Winlos 👍
"Clean your tears"😂
God bless you Winlos for another beautiful message. God bless you for answering the call of God. ❤❤❤
Thank you for the life lesson, she is such a good actor!
We can laugh about it, but a lot of people today are in this kind of relationship where they are making illusions about supposing relationships
That's why, as shared in the video, everything needs to be clarified very early on 😊
Thank you for this video 🙏
Define the type of 'ship' you find yourself in: Friendship or Relationship. Relationship is like a contract, you should have an agreement before you invest your emotions. Good lessons
Agreement before investing emotions 😢
Powerful story... Great lesson
Thank you for this Skit. I wish these skits would be done reversing the roles from time to time.
Please consider.
Great grace.
0:26 😂😂😂 the kick in the air love feeling 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
The handkerchief, clean your tears😅😂
There are many many Amanda outside oooh , abeg please GOD, help us 😅
Am happy to be the first to watch this video. I will add to my cv😂
😂😂😂😂😂
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: A good understanding have all they that do his commandments: His praise endureth for ever.
Psalms 111 10
Please remember to like ooo
Don't just watch, like the video also
Communication solves a lot but assumption solves nothing. Thank you Mama and Papa for reminding us about this.
Always be up front and direct, dont build on assumptions..Thank you Winlos
Oh my goodness, I remember being in a full-blown relationship with someone who was very kind, gentle, patient, and an overall amazing person. I really thought there was something there only later to find out that it was only me. So sad! But I’m glad that I moved on. 🤷🏾♀️
........... Ask the right questions....... Thanks for this closing remarks. It goes a long way. May God bless you the Winlos and crew
🔥🔥🔥The winlos ,what a gift
Woww this came at the right time.
God bless the Winlos❤
Very profound advice. 📌💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you Winlos for always being a blessing!!! 👌💪👏👏👏
This has happened to me... Kaaaii!!! I don't want to remember😂😂😂😂Miokukusheshe I feel you
Same happened to me 😂😂
Let's all gather here and laugh at ourselves 😂😂😂😂...
Building emotions on assumptions is the worst heartbreak you can ever give yourself.
For Miokukusheshe is better that the guy brought the lady to introduce her... Mine was a slap on the face, I viewed WhatsApp status and there was the love of his life posted 😂😂😂😂😂😂... And God had warned me kaaaaiii!!!
I am here to join the queue 😂😂😂
Same thing happened 😂😂
We many o😅 But I've vowed, Never Again!
When she said "oga, I want to see you privately" I knew it was overrrr😂😂😂😂😂😂
I put it to you Joel you are very wicked 😂
Hahahaha 😂 thank you the Winlos. Define every relationship you are in to so you don't develop heart attack 😅
Beautiful message.
Oooh ok
Oga! I want to see you privately 😂
A great lesson indeed
LOL she got me when her friend said THREE YEARS. LIKE WHAT.! 😂😂😂
yes, somebody should say, "i love you and i want to marry you'', in 2007, while i was on attachment, i got involved with a guy, he was in IT department, we would kiss, and he would take me out to lunch, my first pizza was with him! hmk, learned later that he was married😂😂😂😂, and he was not shy about it, duh! well, you feel betrayed and unloved, communication is mandatory, lets not be casual people, lets address issues, i know the feeling when he is your guy and you imagine your life today, hahaha, an IT specialist kwano!
The way you guys love us and spoil us with amazing content 😢😭. Please don’t stop 😢
Oh my, oh my....this is very relatable and it happens all the time but it hits the assuming one like a tornado. The pain is like the pain of a blow from a coward.
Thats Why i don't all bother ^Sister sweet talks 😌 i always meant business❤ Blessings Winlos❤ Men should avoid sweet talks to girls or ladies
" Clean your tears" 😂😂😂😂
I hear in my left ear, "Heartbreak"
😂😂😂😂
The "clean your tears" got me laughing 😂😂😂
Lol. What are friends for
Thank you so much the winlos for this impactful video, I have learned from it, may God almighty continue to bless you all 🙏
What if you just assume that there's nothing serious going on between you two until the guy communicates his intents?
This was so timely!!
This is very common in our churchs today.
We are living in the 'bestie era'.
Most women,fall prey to this type of undefined relationship, because we are taught, that we need to wait on the man to his mind speak first, even if we develop feelings for them, especially us Africans.
We are taught to not ask for definitions,too early,as you might look desperate in the man's eyes.
Thank you for, enlightening us on this topic, which has many good women caged,by manipulative men
I won't end up or make the same mistake like amanda after watching this 😂😂💙🙏🙌
Thanks for the reminder the Winlos
Be clear and detailed on every friendship or relationship with the other sex.
You might be hurting someone and you won’t even know😂
Don’t give wrong signals!!
Thanks for this, the winlos
Delusion won’t get you anywhere 😭🤣
Joel no get chills ooh, he had the mind to gave her handkerchief to dry her tears. 😂😂
This is soooooo very true. Very wise advice for any age, any gender. Assumptions are🙏 dangerous.. Help us Lord
Emotional damage
Indeed! Communication is LEY! 🔑
Clean your tear😂
As a human, it makes sense to create boundaries to protect your well-being yet still love through the Holy Spirit to converse with your siblings in Christ.
I thank God for His grace to understand something like this. Having open conversations to understand and act accordingly 🤗
As mentioned “Don’t waste your emotions on assumptions” 💕
These things happen in real life. It had happened to me. Always make it clear from the beginning and ask the guy " what do you want from me?"
3 years, enough to finish PhD...
I went through something similar about two years ago, luckily it was for about two months and I went through a lot after I came to this realization that he never liked me in the first place
Is the "clean your tears" for me😂?
I love you the winlos thank you for this lesson communication is an important key in a relationship God bless the winlos ❤️
This is great as always ❤