Op should give 100% to his daughter,the siblings are being choosing beggers,so let them be beggers,it was op generosity that included everyone's on the will.
It's a rug pull moment, if you have been in a child's life for 20 years saying to the parents you will leave everything to them, only to change your mind later, that is an opportunity cost for those kids and a big readjustment. It's not begging if it was freely offered (and gratitude given) and then taken away.
Story 1. Your daughter should be your priority. You can leave a little bit to your nieces and nephews, but that is your choice. Leave nothing to the siblings
2nd story, OP's wife's family is abusive, and she should quit her current job and find something new. Then her family would get no flight discounts and OP's wife would actually get a paycheck.
before sure, in place of no, if he had promised these kids 100s of thousands of dollars for 2 decades only to pull the rug, that is an asshole move and will alienate you from others. Don't brag about how much you will leave someone, just put it in your will, take backs don't feel good.
The more you splurge financially on someone, the more they feel entitled to your money, family or not. Always keep things reasonables, even if you can do more.
Story 2 - her family ins't taking advantage of the perk, they're robbing her. They haven't been repaying at all. And dad has been robbing from his company.
Story 2: The discounted flight is the perk the family should get not the wife paying for everything. The payment should have been established from the start.
OP in story # needs to put a "do not contest" and some other clauses in his will to protect his daughter's safety, because I wouldn't put it past greedy, entitled family members to do some heinous crap to ensure a payday. Folks have proven they are not about harming children to get money, and they are already very dismissive of OP's daughter.
Story 2: NTA setting up boundaries do not make you an AH, the only AH are OPs wife family. Story 3:YTA, get a lawyer, but it's not your house and GTFO; OPs mom was right and OP knows it.
4)Brett drinks their booze.They do not have to buy alcohol. Many set ups like this operate with 3 bank accounts. One joint for their expenses.The poster can start paying for things, like half the rent, from her own account. Money put into a joint helps support Brett.Stop being a free babysitter. Disappear before the kids arrive. Come back after they leave. Haul her freight if there is a surprise or emergency visit.
For the flight story: dear God, that family sucks. They're STEALING from OPs wife. They should have been reimbursing them IMMEDIATELY, not racking up debt and letting OPs wife pay for their life style. The Dad is the worst. Not only was he stealing from his company, but also his daughter. He got himself fired and deserved what he got.
never tell anyone what's in your will. just say, "I'm leaving you a little something" and leave it at that. If they say ty, good. If they ask how much, reduce the bequest for them.
OP does not need to justify to anyone as to why he is changing his will. His wofe/Partner and daughter come first. What OP should do is give 90 to 99% of everithing to his partner and daughter through trusts and live an amount for the others just so they can contest the will, and with a clause that states that if they challenge the will they will recive nothing. Beaids OPs partner and Daighter, the family are just greedy choosing beggars, they don't care about OP just his money.
😂if true is his family for real of course in a common normal setting a parent going to give majority if not all of their assets to their child when they are gone 😂😂😂
The story about Brett... Honey pack your bags and go stay at a friends for a couple of weeks. See if your husband does it get Bret off his ass after that.
The wife has lost 100% of her income because of her family? And you say it’s a tricky situation? And the wife’s dad uses it for business travel, yet hasn’t billed it back to the customer? Here’s how not-tricky this is. “Hey family! Remember the reduced fare flights you get? Yeah, well you’re using it so much that it is no longer worth me even going to work. I haven’t gotten paid in years. Because every flight you take, I have to subsidize. So, as the kids say, ‘This is why we can’t have nice things.’ So either nobody gets travel perks now, or I just quit the job, and nobody gets travel perks anyway.” “And if you have complaints, there’s a large box by the door labeled, ‘Instead of thanking OP’s wife for all the great trips, instead I want to complain.” Because even if the wife gets a $0 paycheck… she really DID earn some money, which had taxes removed, etc. maybe pushed you into a higher tax bracket, so OP’s paycheck has to make up the difference.
Wow why only 60 or 90 % give her 100% ur family is selfish greedy narcissus, you give so much all those years cars money time gift etc those things isn't normal i don't have anyone who did that for me not even my parents but imagine what happens even if your kid is alone with ur family? They will treat her with love .
Op should give 100% to his daughter,the siblings are being choosing beggers,so let them be beggers,it was op generosity that included everyone's on the will.
Include everyone, everyone except the daughter gets one dollar
It's a rug pull moment, if you have been in a child's life for 20 years saying to the parents you will leave everything to them, only to change your mind later, that is an opportunity cost for those kids and a big readjustment. It's not begging if it was freely offered (and gratitude given) and then taken away.
Story 1. Your daughter should be your priority. You can leave a little bit to your nieces and nephews, but that is your choice. Leave nothing to the siblings
2nd story, OP's wife's family is abusive, and she should quit her current job and find something new. Then her family would get no flight discounts and OP's wife would actually get a paycheck.
Op your daughter has ro come before ANYONE now. Your a parent now, give all you can to ensure HER future. Nta
before sure, in place of no, if he had promised these kids 100s of thousands of dollars for 2 decades only to pull the rug, that is an asshole move and will alienate you from others. Don't brag about how much you will leave someone, just put it in your will, take backs don't feel good.
The more you splurge financially on someone, the more they feel entitled to your money, family or not. Always keep things reasonables, even if you can do more.
S2: op your inlaws are taking advantage of BOTH of you n your silence is enabling
Story 2 - her family ins't taking advantage of the perk, they're robbing her. They haven't been repaying at all. And dad has been robbing from his company.
Story 2: The discounted flight is the perk the family should get not the wife paying for everything. The payment should have been established from the start.
Story 3: Antony: "Do you own anything"
OP: "No I don't, now get out of this house that isn't mine."
OP in story # needs to put a "do not contest" and some other clauses in his will to protect his daughter's safety, because I wouldn't put it past greedy, entitled family members to do some heinous crap to ensure a payday. Folks have proven they are not about harming children to get money, and they are already very dismissive of OP's daughter.
Story 2: NTA setting up boundaries do not make you an AH, the only AH are OPs wife family.
Story 3:YTA, get a lawyer, but it's not your house and GTFO; OPs mom was right and OP knows it.
Who wouldn't leave all their money and assets to their children over their siblings?
4)Brett drinks their booze.They do not have to buy alcohol. Many set ups like this operate with 3 bank accounts. One joint for their expenses.The poster can start paying for things, like half the rent, from her own account. Money put into a joint helps support Brett.Stop being a free babysitter. Disappear before the kids arrive. Come back after they leave. Haul her freight if there is a surprise or emergency visit.
He wouldn't have had to tell me about the will change, I would've automatically assumed that was going to be the case.
For the flight story: dear God, that family sucks. They're STEALING from OPs wife. They should have been reimbursing them IMMEDIATELY, not racking up debt and letting OPs wife pay for their life style. The Dad is the worst. Not only was he stealing from his company, but also his daughter. He got himself fired and deserved what he got.
I can see the IRS coming after him.
For there behaviour i would only give to who didn't opposed the changed of will. The rest would get zero
S3 just move out? Don't you have respect for yourself? 🤧
never tell anyone what's in your will. just say, "I'm leaving you a little something" and leave it at that. If they say ty, good. If they ask how much, reduce the bequest for them.
OP2 should lead with the pay deductions, i had freinds with parents at JFK, and id never heard that they deduct those discounts from employee pay.
Just give everything to ur daughter instead of the nieces and nephews. They’ve got college funds let them use those
OP does not need to justify to anyone as to why he is changing his will.
His wofe/Partner and daughter come first.
What OP should do is give 90 to 99% of everithing to his partner and daughter through trusts and live an amount for the others just so they can contest the will, and with a clause that states that if they challenge the will they will recive nothing.
Beaids OPs partner and Daighter, the family are just greedy choosing beggars, they don't care about OP just his money.
Story 2, how is it they get a discount, but then OP's wife has to pay the difference?
😂if true is his family for real of course in a common normal setting a parent going to give majority if not all of their assets to their child when they are gone 😂😂😂
Let's play it out. OP doesn't change the will. The daughter then challenges the will, then gets everything, leaving the rest with nothing.
If you're a successful CEO, why would you have a life insurance policy? At that point you should be self insured.
The story about Brett...
Honey pack your bags and go stay at a friends for a couple of weeks.
See if your husband does it get Bret off his ass after that.
also consider the face of the oopsie (deliberate imo) but his attention is going to be elsewhere.. what in hell do they expect?
IN LAWS ! NEVER ! EVER ! PLANNING 2. EVER ! PAY FLIGHT ✈️. BILL ! WHILE LAUGHING &. TRAVELING !
The second story, you just say policy changed and no more perks
Why would a person trash their own house and cars over a comment today may or may not have been said? He has to pay for that
My nigga like the chocolate
Why not film the damage and post it to everyone? Also, even a small apartment and taking the bus should be better than being under the FIL's thumb.
The wife has lost 100% of her income because of her family? And you say it’s a tricky situation? And the wife’s dad uses it for business travel, yet hasn’t billed it back to the customer?
Here’s how not-tricky this is. “Hey family! Remember the reduced fare flights you get? Yeah, well you’re using it so much that it is no longer worth me even going to work. I haven’t gotten paid in years. Because every flight you take, I have to subsidize. So, as the kids say, ‘This is why we can’t have nice things.’ So either nobody gets travel perks now, or I just quit the job, and nobody gets travel perks anyway.”
“And if you have complaints, there’s a large box by the door labeled, ‘Instead of thanking OP’s wife for all the great trips, instead I want to complain.”
Because even if the wife gets a $0 paycheck… she really DID earn some money, which had taxes removed, etc. maybe pushed you into a higher tax bracket, so OP’s paycheck has to make up the difference.
honestly if FIL is so controling then just move out
Wow why only 60 or 90 % give her 100% ur family is selfish greedy narcissus, you give so much all those years cars money time gift etc those things isn't normal i don't have anyone who did that for me not even my parents but imagine what happens even if your kid is alone with ur family? They will treat her with love .
I gave birth to you is very narcissistic 😂😂
Just keep you're opinion to yourself bro just dont include you're opinion in the video
Save up and move out or are you just moochers?